7In the morning Tsultim changed his mind. He offered to take them as far as Drubten where the steep ascent toDrintang begins. It was not far. <strong>The</strong>y climbed up the left flank of the valley, leaving the Rongshar behind. All threeof them were in a sad mood. In Drubten they said their farewell. Tsultim even gave Asya a hug and a kiss, whichhe had never done before. <strong>The</strong>y shouldered their packs and started walking up the narrow path. <strong>The</strong>re were fallflowers everywhere. <strong>The</strong>y walked very slowly, one foot before the other, breathing heavily despite the low altitude.<strong>The</strong>y took a rest at an exceptionally lovely spot with a great view of Drubten, Chuwar, the river, and the valleybelow. Very small but quite distinct Asya spotted Tsultim Lama with his horse, but he was not walking down the trailto Chuwar on which they had come. He was going along a different path in a southerly direction. Puzzled, Richardtook out his map."You know where this track goes?" he said, "To Nepal! Where is he heading? To see some friends before hereturns?"<strong>The</strong>y couldn't figure it out. Strange, Tsultim had never mentioned that he was on his way to Nepal, and he had toldthem that he did not have the proper papers to enter the border region. After an hour they started up again with asigh. Ah, for a horse! <strong>The</strong>y really had become spoiled.Half-way up a young lama came running up the trail. As soon as he was close enough he shouted, "Wait,where are you going in such a hurry. You make it really hard for this old mountain goat to catch up with you!" --inperfect English.<strong>The</strong>y waited, huffing and puffing. Under the lama's red-brown toga one could guess a strong body. He had anintelligent face with clear features under the usual short-cropped hair of the monks. He stopped and laughed."Tsultim Lama told me you were from California! I met him over an hour ago. I have not seen or talked to anybodyfrom California for years!"Richard remained cool to this enthusiastic welcome. Asya talked to the monk. Richard with a poker face watchedthem. "How come you speak such good English?" He asked.Quite matter of fact, the lama said, "My Guru, is the head of the Nyingma Center in Berkeley, and I was born andgrew up in Ojai and lived for years in Sonoma, where I was involved in the building of the new ling up in the valley."Now even Richard became interested. <strong>The</strong>y took-off their backpacks and talked to the lama.With an ironic smile he said, "I am John Norbu, but everybody calls me Phurbu Lama. You know, a phurbu is themagic dagger with which the Ningmapa exorcise demons and cut the Fog of Ignorance that keeps man fromawareness."Richard smiled. "An appropriate name for a strapping, young man like you!"<strong>The</strong> lama gave him a curious, not unkind look. Asya blushed.Richard continued the interrogation. "So, you must be a Ningmapa? What brings you into the Valley of Milarepa?""Oh, Tsultim Lama did not tell you?" Phurbu said surprised. "<strong>The</strong>re is going to be a big Cham Dance in Drintangtomorrow. It takes place at Zangdhok Pelri one of the paradises that Guru Rinpoche established. You do know whoGuru Rinpoche is? His Sanskrit name is Padmasambhava, the great Sage and Magician who brought the BuddhistVajrayana to Tibet in the eighth century. He is the spiritual ancestor of all Ningmapa and the founder of ourschool."Richard nodded a little embarrassed. But Phurbu just smiled and said, "Tsultim Lama said that you might need aguide to hike over the passes into the Lapchi, and since I will go that way in a couple of days, it would be mypleasure to accompany you there." He must have guessed what went through Richard's mind, because he added,"No, no I do not want any money from you, I really don't need any, but I have been away from California, where Igrew up, for so long that being with you would be a genuine pleasure."He is clever and a histrionic, thought Asya. And why not? To imagine of coming across a Tibetan lama who wasborn and lived in the same backwaters of California as I did!Richard, still a little grumpy, admitted that having a guide in crossing the two high passes and the long and lonelystretch between them would in fact be a real godsend. Richard asked Phurbu whether he would help them find apack animal in Drintang?"Of course," Phurbu said, "and they should be quite reasonably there. This part of the country has not been40
spoiled by tourists yet. I also know some kind people in Drintang who could put you up during the festival. Drintangwill be crowded with people from all over these valleys, and it would be good, if you kept a low profile. <strong>The</strong>Chinese will not show, but there are always Tibetans who work for them. It would not be helpful, if you were'discovered'."With a chivalrous gesture, Phurbu shouldered Asya's backpack, and they went back to climbing to Drintang. Asyawalked last, so the two men with their loads could determine their progress. Amazing how this 'mountain-goat'negotiated the path. Sure-footed, he never made an unnecessary step, he set no loose stones rolling. PoorRichard had a much harder time.After another three-quarter of an hour they reached the village. It was indeed exceptionally pretty, two andthree story, Nepali-style houses, some of rough stone, some white-washed, all with steep roofs against the snows.A clean street cobbled with large river stones. Fast flowing water runnels everywhere between the houses thatserved as drainage and for washing laundry, and breathtaking views in every direction.Phurbu took them to a house at the upper end of the village. A large open area extended from there, rising slightlyto the gompa at Zangdhok Pelri, the Guru Rinpoche cave.<strong>The</strong> people were exceptionally friendly despite their unannounced appearance. <strong>The</strong>re were many hugs and muchmerriment between the family and Phurbu. Especially the two older daughters vied for his attention and huggedand kissed Phurbu as if he was their teddy-bear.After this display of affection, they looked Asya over, an American lady from California! One spoke a littleEnglish and Phurbu teased her to talk to Asya. <strong>The</strong>y took Asya to their room and told her that she would sleep withthem, whilst Richard was taken to a room upstairs where the men slept.Tseringma, the older one was 19 and her sister Jima 16. <strong>The</strong>y were exasperatingly silly, giggling out of controlabout absolutely everyhing. Both sisters were quite pretty, and they knew it. Asya took her sleeping bag out andTseringma immediately took possession of it. Tonight she was going to sleep in it, and Asya would sleep under herthree layers of rough, hand-woven, wool blankets. Richard left with Phurbu and the master of the house to take alook at the preparations for the festival. <strong>The</strong>y gave Richard a local overcoat and a huge, black hat to camouflagehim. He looked great.Asya needed a change of clothes, and went back to their room, closely followed by both girls. As she took herthings off, Tseringma inspected Asya's underpants feeling their softness and smelling them. <strong>The</strong>n she picked upAsya's jeans. She was quite tall for her age, and before Asya knew, she had put on her panties and jeans in ahilarious attack of laughter."Why don't we change clothes? I wear yours and you wear mine. We will completely surprise Phurbu," shegiggled, already taking her long dress off. She wore no bra. Before Asya could stop her, Tseringma had put Asya'sbra on. What could she do? She let it happen.Tseringma ran her fingertips ever so lightly over Asya's shoulders, her breasts and body. "You have such abeautiful skin and you smell so good." She said without the slightest trace of embarrassment. Asya slipped intoTseringma's dress. Looking critically at Asya from an arm's length Tseringma tugged at the dress here and there.In their newly established intimacy, Tseringma told Asya that they were both going to marry Phurbu, butPhurbu wanted to marry only one. He had told them to decide between themselves which one. <strong>The</strong>y were quiteindignant about this demand. A rich American like he should be able to support two wives. Asya concluded thatTseringma had already slept with Phurbu. Tseringma did not say so, but they began discussing sexual mattersvery freely. Apparently, the woman makes the choice and gives the man a hint when and where to meet her. Andhe better be there, or she will not speak to him for weeks.Tseringma, completely matter of fact, told Asya that there were two kinds of making love, with and withoutejaculation by the man. <strong>The</strong> latter was the choice of unmarried girls. Phurbu was an uncertain candidate for lovemaking,because he was a Dzogchenpa to whom everything was permitted. Kargyüpa were not supposed to 'spilltheir essence'.41
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