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Lisa W. Cumming PhotographyGeneral (Ret.) Anthony ZinniA Steady Moral CompassBy Linda Landreth PhelpsIt is not uncommon to find Generals in theWilliamsburg area. Retired General AnthonyZinni, United States Marine Corps, stands outeven in that stellar group. There are ten steps inthe officer rank structure and earning the honorof four star general is uncommon. In fact, GeneralZinni is one of fewer than one hundredMarines to have achieved the four star ranksince the first Marine Corps General AlexanderVandegrift’s promotion in April, 1945.Walk into his inner sanctum, his home office,and the first thing noticeable is stars - instartling groups of four, embellishing memorabiliathat traces his 39 years as an active dutyMarine. His military career took him to over 70countries and the dizzying pinnacle of power,culminating in leadership of the United StatesCentral Command (CENTCOM) when he assumedcharge of all troops in the Middle Eastfrom General Norman Schwarzkopf.General Zinni is happy to be exactly who heis. He’s a tough, no-nonsense man who is accustomedto speaking his saber-sharp mind.His influence and effective leadership hascovered the globe. He commanded at all operationallevels – from Vietnam through theGulf War - before he retired from the militaryin 2000. As a Marine, General Zinni led with awell defined vision and he was not afraid to takea different approach to achieve better results.Moral courage is often more difficult to comeby than battlefield bravery. Long ago in Vietnam,General Zinni made a vow to a woundedLance Corporal that he would never hesitate tospeak the truth. He once told a classroom ofmidshipmen when he was invited to lecture atthe U.S. Naval Academy’s Center for the Studyof Military Ethics: “Speaking the truth can bepainful and costly, but it’s a duty. Often thosewho need to hear it won’t like it and may evenpunish you for it, but you owe the truth to yourcountry, your leaders and your troops.”NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 3

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years, Williamsburg was high on the list ofpossible places for General Zinni and his wife,Debbie to settle down permanently. They cameto Ford’s Colony on the recommendation ofa good friend who lived there, a man who isknown to be a very thorough researcher. It wassupposed to be the first of many stops on a longsearch, but they liked the town and neighborhoodimmediately. A swift decision ensued:they bought property, built their dream home,and moved in 11 years ago.Their Williamsburg location is central totheir extended family’s distribution. The Zinni’syoungest child, Tony, 37, has been a Marinefor 11 years. He is on his 6th tour of dutyin Afghanistan, while his wife, Michelle, andfamily await his return in Stafford County.Their daughter Lisa, 42, also lives in NorthernVirginia, and their daughter, Maria, 41, iscurrently residing in Australia. Between them,their children have made the Zinnis grandparentsseven times. Family reunions can be a bitof controlled chaos with the three oldest grandchildrenall being 8 years old.“We have a beach house on the Outer Banksand everyone likes to gather there,” GeneralZinni says. “Now that the kids are in school, it’sharder to get together, but so far we still manageit at Christmas.”When he has time at home to himself, GeneralZinni prefers fishing to golfing even thoughthe nearby golf course is tempting for so many.“I’m a fisherman, so anywhere I can do that,I’m happy,” he says. “I always told my kids toplay sports because you enjoy them, and I wasnever much good at organized sports.”General Zinni has precious little time forfishing and hanging out with the grandkids.He has co-authored two books since his TomClancy collaboration. His latest is Leading theCharge: Leadership Lessons from the Battlefieldto the Boardroom, which followed 2006’s TheBattle for Peace: A Frontline Vision of America’sPower and Purpose.In addition, he serves as Chairman of theBoard of multinational defense giant, BAESystems. He is also heavily involved with hischurch, St. Bede’s, and his favorite charitiessuch as the Jamestown and Colonial WilliamsburgFoundations and the Marine Corps HeritageFoundation’s museum at Quantico.General Zinni also maintains an active scheduleof speaking. Teaching at the college level isone of his favorite roles, and the opportunity tohelp mold the minds of America’s future leadersis a privilege he treasures. Ethics has become aspecialty topic in his well-respected and popularcourses, both in business and military circles.“The difference between ethics and moralityshould be clear. Things that are legally permittedmay be ethical, yet contrary to one’s personalmoral code,” he explains. “My daughteronce asked me a very deep question. She askedme what I would die for. I thought about itfor quite a while before answering, but it camedown to five principles for which I would laydown my life - Faith, Family, Friends, Freedom,and Flag.”From the battlefield to the boardroom, GeneralZinni’s brand of leadership is all his own.He is guided by a steady moral compass, anenduring legacy from both hardworking immigrantancestors and the good Sisters who taughthim well. NDN.For many years I’ve hadthe pleasure of helpingpeople create beautifulrooms as an interiordesigner with Ethan Allen.As a Williamsburg resident,I’m able provide you withimmediate and convenientassistance. Samples ofcustom furniture, customupholstery, customwindow treatments,custom plantation shutters,exclusive rugs and accentsare readily available.Whether it’s one pieceor a complete room, I’m atyour service.Design Serviceand Delivery Are FreeEnjoy State of the Art DentistryAnd almost 20 years of experience in a full range of dental services.• CEREC One Visit Crowns• Bridges and Veneers• Cosmetic Dentistry• Preventive Care• Implants• Extractions• Root Canals• Teeth Whitening and more6 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011Helen ContiEthan Allen Interior DesignerWilliamsburg Residentmobile: (757) 784-3500helen@eocrawford.comE.O. Crawford & Sons, Inc . Ethan Allen . Virginia Beach - Town Center . 4677 Columbus Street . 800.592.2242Edward A. Owens D.M.D.211 Bulifants Blvd. - Suite A, Williamsburg, VA 23188757-229-6414www.dredwardaowens.comChildren and Adults • Most Insurances Accepted • Inquire About Our Referral Program

Sergeant First Class (Ret.)Martin BillupsChangingPeople’s Livesby Erin KellyLisa W. Cumming PhotographySergeant First Class Martin Billups knewfrom an early age what he wanted to be whenhe grew up. Unlike other youngsters who aspiredto be doctors, lawyers or veterinarians,he knew that he wanted to be a soldier in theUnited States Army.His reason for enlisting was simple. Someof the boys from his home town served in theArmy and came back with all kinds of stories– stories about places they went, people theymet, and sights that they had seen. Of course,job experience and earning a living were important,but most of all the young Virginianwanted to travel. And travel he did; the Kingand Queen County native spent 22 years in theArmy before retiring in 2006 with the rank ofSergeant First Class.Over the span of his Army career, Sgt. Billupsand his family lived all over the UnitedStates, from the south and westward to Texas,to points north of the Mason Dixon Line.He enjoyed many interesting experiences butadmits that it was tough – at times – movingaround so much.“Even though I love to travel, the Army hasa very big turnover rate,” Sgt. Billups explains.“No two assignments are ever the same. Everytime we moved we had to readjust all overagain and start over from square one, so thatwas hard. So you settle down and have a fewgood laughs, then it’s time to pack up againand move on.”While he was never called overseas to fightA Place You Can Call Home.Spacious Studio, 1 & 2 Bedroom Apartments24 Hour Staff • Single Level AccommodationsMonth to Month ContractsShort Term Recuperative StaysWellness & Fitness ProgramsNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 7

in any wars, Sgt. Billups dutifully served hiscountry within its borders. Many of the yearshe served were spent training and preparingsoldiers to go to war. His favorite part of thejob was recruiting and his favorite place to livewas Fort Lauderdale, Florida.“The weather and the clear blue ocean wereunbeatable,” he said. “Having access to NFLand NBA teams like the Miami Dolphins andthe Miami Heat didn’t hurt either.”“When I was recruiting I was literally able tochange people’s lives,” he says. “I saw peoplego from one extreme to the next. When I metsome of them, they had no direction, and didnot expect to acquire much out of life. ThenI saw them come back with a pocket full ofmoney and a big smile on their face; that iswhat really makes the job worth it.”Of course, there were challenging career aspectsas well. For instance, Sgt. Billups servedfor many years as an Army trainer. He explainedhow difficult it was to train soldiers and getthem to the point where they were ready forwar, knowing all the while that he would seesome off who would not be coming home.“Members of our armed forces all want thesame thing as everyone else, to make a decentliving and be able to provide for themselvesCommunityAPPRECIATION FARESand their families,” Sgt. Billups says. “Soldiersenlist and go to war. Going into this business,you know what you are getting into. It is strictlyvoluntary, and it is your job, period. Somemake the ultimate sacrifice.”After a long and distinguished career, Sgt.Billups retired from one career to embark on anew one. Exploring his softer side, he is divinginto the fragrance business.“I hope to get my business - called Martin’sFamous Oils - up and running soon. I’ll beselling incense, natural oils and scented lotionsas well,” Billups says.It’s an endeavor made possible by trainingat a different kind of boot camp: The EntrepreneurshipBoot Camp for Veterans (EBV),developed in 2007 at Syracuse University, anddesigned to help disabled veterans with a drive,determination, and passion for business ownershiptake the first steps toward that goal.Geared toward post-9/11 veterans who suffereddisabilities as a result of their service, theprogram (which bears no cost to these veterans)can be found on seven college campuses: SyracuseUniversity, Florida State University, TexasA&M University, UCLA, Purdue University,University of Connecticut and Louisiana StateUniversity.Savings for Teachers,EMTs, Firefighters,Police Officers &Active MilitaryThe program is split into three differentphases. During Phase One, veterans take anonline course in which they work on developingtheir own business concepts. Phase Two includesa nine-day residency at one of the sevenEBV universities. During those nine days, theveterans complete workshops and take lessonsfrom entrepreneurial faculty from nationallyranked programs all over the world. In PhaseThree, the veterans are able to gain ongoingtechnical assistance from the faculty experts atEBV universities as well as EBV partners.“Once a soldier is a veteran and cannot serve,they need a way to provide for their families,”said Martin. “This program is an excellent wayto give them opportunities to provide, especiallyin this economy.”Martin says that his new passion lies in beingan entrepreneur – and the best part aboutbeing retired is having the freedom to networkwith congressmen and other business ownersas he launches his new endeavor. Over time,he plans to mentor others – soldiers and veteransalike – about the Entrepreneurship Bootcampfor Veterans and the many doors it canopen as they enter new and exciting phases oftheir lives. 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presidential,” he says. “You could feel the aura and sense that they wereleaders – special people.”General Faykes dealt with the stress of his work by running, a hobbyhe picked up in 1979. To date, he has run more than 61,000 miles – hekeeps a log – and has completed 20 marathons. He covered 50 milesto celebrate his 50th birthday and now runs 30 to 40 miles a week; healso is an assistant cross country coach at Walsingham Academy in Williamsburg.“I love running because of the feeling that I control my destiny,” hesays. “I control how much I train and how hard I push myself in a race.It has kept me fit and gave me a lot of energy for my job.”“We are very blessed to havesuch wonderful men and womenin the military, wanting to serve inthe best way they can. We oweit to them to do whatever wecan to support them and theirfamilies.” ~ Major General FaykesGeneral Faykes retired in January 2008, not long after he and hiswife, Kathy, moved to James City County in part to live near her relatives.“Because of military life, we’d missed lots of family events in thepast,” he explains. He enjoys taking history classes at the College ofWilliam and Mary, playing golf and spending time with Kathy, a longtime schoolteacher, and their Miniature Schnauzers, Mollie and Roxie.He also is a regular volunteer for Habitat for Humanity, which buildshomes for families who commit some of their own money and labor.“I don’t like giving anything away for free,” he says. “I like meetinginspiring, hard-working people who just need a break. It’s kind of likethe American dream my folks had.”General Faykes still gets daily updates on key Air Force issues andserves on the executive advisory council for the nonprofit, “Mission:Readiness, Military Leaders for Kids,” which advocates for early educationprograms and better childhood nutrition. A recent study foundnearly 75 percent of youth ages 18 to 24 weren’t eligible to join the militarybecause they lacked education or had a criminal record or healthissues such as obesity.“That’s terrible,” General Faykes says. “We’ve got to turn thataround.”Another issue for the Air Force will be upgrading or replacing an agingfleet of planes, some of which are more than 50 years old. That likelywill require both training people to fix older planes and incorporatingpromising new technologies such as lasers.Like his father before him, General Faykes is confident America canrise to any challenge. “We are very blessed to have such wonderful menand women in the military, wanting to serve in the best way they can,”he says. “We owe it to them to do whatever we can to support them andtheir families.” NDNServing ThoseWho ServeLASIK vision correction -Results you can see for yourselfWith over a decade of LASIKexperience, Dr. Cullom is atrusted expert who hasperformed refractive surgeriesfor the elite Navy Seals.A Navy veteran himself, heboasts unbeatable successrates – over 98% of hispatients achieve 20/20 vision,or better. Experience the best,right here in Williamsburg.20 % offLASIKplusadditionalfamily benefitsAs a special thank you to allactive and retired military personnel,Cullom Eye & Laser Center isnow offering 20% off our LASIKvision correction service – withadditional benefits for familyand friends referrals.Call (757) 345.3001 now or visit CullomEyeCenter.comto set up your FREE consultation. Offer expires September 30, 2011.Cullom Eye & Laser Center is aleading ophthalmology practiceoffering vision care services customizedto meet your specific needs.120 Kings Way, Suite 1300, Williamsburg, VA 23185(757) 345.3001 | www.CullomEyeCenter.comNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 11

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Throughout her many years of navigatingdomestic and international waters, SeniorChief Paige has developed a profound relationshipwith the sea as well.“It is no longer just a body of endless water,”she reflects. “Now, I look outinto the distance of the water andsay a silent prayer, because I knowthat our sailors are out there on theocean, beyond our eye sight, awayfrom their families - putting theirlives on the line to protect our countryas well as others.”Senior Chief Paige’s affection forher colleagues is evident in the effortshe has put towards recruitingfor the Navy. Her accomplishmentswere recognized in 2010, when shewas named a Recruiter of the Year bythe Navy for recruiting 48 officers, 60 percentof the district’s active-duty total. Twenty-twoof those attainments were marked as “diversityattainments,” and received recognition fromthe Navy as being “a tremendous accomplishmentand in direct alignment with the ChiefNaval Operation’s vision of the future Navywardroom.” 1“As I approach retirementI know that I will model mycivilian life by the same corevalues that the Navy instilled inme - to have honor, courageand commitment.”~ Senior Chief Carmen PaigeSenior Chief Paige takes her role as a recruitervery seriously. What is the most challengingpart of her job? “Making sure that I’ve recruitedthe most qualified Navy Officers to take onthe demanding responsibilities of maintainingour Navy’s mission, ‘A Global Force forGood.’,” she says. Senior Chief Paige looks atevery recruit she meets as a potential leader fortomorrow.As a recruiter, she has enjoyed helping othersfulfill their goals with the Navy. “Just knowingthat I had a small part in changing someone’slife and fulfilling their dreams is an indescribablefeeling,” she says.Senior Chief Paige is preparing to retire fromthe Navy this August. When she reflects on hertime serving, her reverence for the experience isas expansive as the ocean itself.“Every memory, good or bad, hastruly been a blessing and a part of themolding that has made me who I amtoday: from the first day I stepped offthe airplane in Orlando, Florida tothe day they pipe me ashore for thelast time.”As she prepares to enter civilianlife, Senior Chief Paige has no plansto slow down.“I plan to live in Maryland, finishmy degree in Human Resources,and work in the Equal Opportunityfield,” she explains. “It’s been an honorand a privilege to serve in the world’s finestNavy. As I approach retirement I know that Iwill model my civilian life by the same corevalues that the Navy instilled in me - to havehonor, courage and commitment.”NDNhttp://www.fox43tv.com/dpps/military/Williamsburg-Navy-recruiter-wins-nationalaward_3716581financial starter kitsfree student checkingwith mobile and nationwidebranch accessfirst time car loansstart building your creditvisa credit card*and pre-paid debit cardcomputer & dormlow rate discounted loans**credit restrictions apply. see credit union for details.federal credit unionContact us at www.baylandsfcu.org or 1-888-843-2520!NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 13

Lance Corporal Daniel EvansFINDING HIS FUTUREBy Joe CollinsWhen a young person approacheshigh school graduationit is often an anxious timefor both the graduating seniorand parents. Most parentswant their child to have a solidplan in place that will helpthem get a start in the world.There is excitement for thefuture of their son or daughterand a bit of nervousnessover their child entering thenext stage of life. Regardlessof what these young peoplechoose to do, they are movingforward into the unknown.The plans high school juniorsand seniors begin formulatingin their minds can only be createdfrom what they have seen, heard or read– not from what they have experienced. Thismakes the decision process a difficult one.Like many young people, Lance CorporalDo You Have a Home to Rent?Need to Rent a Home?We’re your full service Property Management Department:residential listings, owner services, tenant services and more!www.century21nachman.comServing Williamsburg, James City & York CountiesEach office is independently owned and operated14 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011Beth GossageProperty Manager, Realtor ®(757) 229-5681beth.gossage@century21nachman.com“Call me! I can assist you in managing your rentalproperty or find the right rental home.”Monday & TuesdayRegular Pedicure & Manicure $ 25Regular Pedicure $ 19UptownNailsOpen Daily: Mon - Sat 10-8, Sun 12 - 6(LCpl) Daniel Evans had a difficult time decidingon his future.LCpl Evans spent his youth in Williamsburgand was a typical teenager. His parents, Dr. PeterEvans, a local dentist, and hiswife, Donna, wanted the best fortheir son. They knew that he hadto find his own way when it cameto deciding what he would do afterhigh school.When LCpl Evans was a juniorat Walsingham Academy,he thought about his future butknew his grades weren’t wherethey should be to make it in college.This realization was a majorfactor in his decision to transferto Hargrave Military Academyin Chatham, Virginia, for his lastyear of high school.“It didn’t look like I was goingto make it in anywhere,” LCplEvans says. “I went there for mysenior year to help get my grades up because Iwanted to go to college.”Upon high school graduation, LCpl Evansattended a small four year college in SouthLisa W. Cumming PhotographyNEW! Children’s Pedicures!Eyelash ExtensionsMake your individual eyelashes longerLasts an EntirE Month!nailsuptown.com757-564-18095251 John Tyler Hwy., Suite 34

Carolina. There he found more questions thananswers about what he should be doing withhis life.“I spent two years at Coastal Carolina Universityin Myrtle Beach and I didn’t do well,”LCpl Evans says. “I didn’t have anymotivation and I didn’t know what Iwanted to do. I needed an outlet becauseI didn’t want to sit around allday and not do anything. My friendslooked like they were finding somethingbut I couldn’t figure it out.”While thinking about the lack ofdirection in his life, LCpl Evans returnedto the one period in his pastthat was successful and rewarding forhim: his time at Hargrave MilitaryAcademy. Attending a high schoolwith a military structure suited him.In fact, it was during that time that LCpl Evansfelt really good about his life and he realizedthat he wanted to volunteer for military service.Once he fully reflected on the positive experienceshe had Hargrave Military Academy, hisfuture fell into place.“Picking a branch was very easy,” LCpl Evanssays with a grin. “If you’re going to pick one,you pick the best one - the Marines.”Once he had made up his mind, LCpl Evansleft college behind and made an appointmentwith Staff Sergeant Campbell, a Marine CorpsRecruiter in the Armed Forces recruiting officein New Town.“When I come home I feellike I’m taller. I have a littlemore pride.”~ LCpl Daniel Evans“I didn’t know what I wanted to do and hehelped me out a lot. He helped me throughthat whole process,” LCpl Evans says.In January of 2010, LCpl Evans enlisted inthe United States Marine Corps. This was thestart of an exciting journey for LCpl Evans. Hespent the next four months going through abattery of medical screenings, physical exams,and academic tests at Fort Lee near Hopewell,Virginia, all of which were required of new recruits.“You didn’t know when you were going tohave to go. I had to drive up there [Fort Lee],and I was sitting there with a big group of kidsmy age from all over who were allwith different branches of the service,”LCpl Evans explains. “We werethere to get screened and to makesure we were eligible to even go toboot camp. There was a lot of waiting- waiting for your turn.”The indoctrination process wasjust the beginning of LCpl Evans’slessons in patience. Military life istypically ordered and systematic inmany ways. There are rules, regulationsand processes for almost everything.Occasionally, however, thingscan be unpredictable as well.“I was supposed to go to boot camp October26th - a full six months later,” LCpl Evanssays, clearly impatient with so much lead time.“I said, ‘No, I can’t wait that long.’ I didn’t wantto sit around and wait. I was really driven to goand knock it out.”Luck was on his side. LCpl Evans’s recruitercalled to tell him he had an immediate open-FAST, FRESH, HOTDELICIOUS PIZZAPICKUP OR DELIVERED TO YOUR DOOR!A Whole New Approach to Flavor!JACK’S has a whole NEW approach to FLAVOR! It’s in the construction ofour delicious pizzas with dough made fresh each day from scratch toppedwith our homemade sauce and freshest ingredients. Once you’ve eaten aJACK’S PIZZA you will experience what PIZZA should taste like. ENJOY!!!757-645-3800TRY OUR NEW DEEP DISH PIZZA!4385 Ironbound Rd.Visit our website to see our specialty pizzas like our famous BBQ Chicken Pizza!www.jackspizzaofva.comCALL JJ FOR SPECIAL CATERING REQUESTSVisit us on Facebook and see what Williamsburg is saying about Jacks!WEDELIVER!VALUE COUPON!Dinner For Two2 Large 2 Topping Pizzas with aFREE 2 Liter of Pepsi.$19 99Offer Expires 10/01/11. Not valid with any other offer or discount.NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 15

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how to operate the Humvees and seven ton trucks. After nearly a year ofintense training, it was time for his first deployment.“I was sent to the fleet in Okinawa, Japan where I got my license forthe Humvee, MCV, the seven ton, the MRAP, and the ITV. I can operateand perform first and second echelon maintenance on those vehicles,”LCpl Evans says.With our country involved in multiple conflicts around the globe, it’scertainly possible that LCpl Evans may be operating those weapons andvehicles in combat. “I am part of a QRF or Quick Reaction Force as amortar man,” LCpl Evans states. “There are two teams and I am a gunnerfor one of the mortar teams. When other units are out in the field takingcontact, we will be there for support. If a company goes out and they aretaking heavy fire and need back up, a helicopter will drop us off in thatzone and we will support them and help them out. We will see actionwhere we are going for sure.”LCpl Evans was preparing to leave for a seven month deployment toAfghanistan shortly after this interview.“It doesn’t scare me,” LCpl Evans calmly shares. “More than anythingit pumps me up and motivates me. It’s a weird feeling.”Part of that calmness comes from a sense of being well prepared since,as LCpl Evans explains it, the learning never stops. “Right now they’reteaching us how to deal with the culture - how to interact with the cultureand with the Afghani people - how to treat them with respect. Forexample, you go into a village and you find their senior man and youshow them respect and they will give it back to you. For the past twomonths we have been living in the Mojave Desert conducting trainingfor Afghanistan. It was hot all day and cold at night and then cold in themorning. At the end of the day you say: ‘Wow, that’s was some cool stuffwe did’.”It is clear that LCpl Evans’s experience in the Marine Corps haschanged him.“When I come home I feel like I’m taller. I have a little more pride,”he says. “It’s a good job. It’s helped me out, and it has already benefitedme, even though I have only been in for a year. It’s good to know theytake care of you. Even though I am 22 years old, it’s matured me. It’s puta good head on my shoulders and it is starting to make me realize who Iam. Because before I didn’t know. Nobody knew.” NDNPublisher’s Note: On the day this issue was scheduled to go to press,Next Door Neighbors learned that LCpl Daniel Evans had been injuredin Afghanistan when an Improvised Explosive Device (IED) exploded,impacting the vehicle he was in. Here are excerpts from his subsequentemail to his parents:The vehicle did well, it was the terrain that was very bad (a crater to theright and a huge slope to the left) and because we had on all our gear, plusseatbelts...because of all that we survived. I slammed my head on this metalplate that stands behind me and the other guy. We were in the backseat. Thedriver and I recieved concussions, and the guy to my right broke his hand,and the gunner broke his finger..once the vehicle rolled completley 180 degreesi slammed my head again, this time on the roof..our vehicle commanderpulled me out and then i turned around and pulled our gunner out. We thenscanned the area and set up security until the other marines came to us..theni got under the vehicle and pulled out the 50 cal. and lifted over the cans offuel that spilled everywhere...it was then that i realized that i didnt feel toowell...I went to medical and got treated... everythings fine now...Love •MoneyControlSuzanne ThomanAnswers from your Estate Planning Attorneysat Ferris & Associates, P.C.460 McLaws Circle, Suite 200 Williamsburg, VA 23185 (757) 220-8114An essential part of pre-deploymentpreparation is carefulestate planning. Estate planningmay consist of a will, trust, advancemedical directive, durablepower of attorney and life insurancebeneficiary designations.Careful attention should be paidto the individual’s goals, objectivesand family situation toassure there are no unintendedconsequences upon death. Sometimes,seemingly minor oversightscan have tremendous consequences.Take life insurance,for instance. 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Lt.Col.Timothy M. ChavezOfficer,Contractor,Nomad...DadBy Rosemary VanHoutenIf your first introduction to LieutenantColonel (Lt.Col.) Timothy M. Chavez was his9-page resume, you’d probably be impressedwith his long list of achievements and wealthof experience and education. But if you askhim to single out what he considers his greatestachievement he will not hesitate to tell you it ishis role as a father.Chavez, a Lt. Col. (Reservist), spent 17 yearson active duty in the US Air Force in the communicationand information field and is also asingle dad - “With four fantastic children,” heboasts, smiling broadly. Balancing his militarycareer and family life has always been importantto Lt.Col. Chavez.When he first decided to enlist in the ArmedForces the Air Force was an easy choice for him.“It was more technical in nature,” the self-confessedcomputer geek says. “I didn’t like gettingmuddy and sleeping in tents unless it was forfun.” The Air Force offered a wide variety ofoptions for learning and growth in the technicaland computer fields and the young Chavezquickly found a home.“I have a great deal of respect for the familiarityand trust that exists between members ofLisa W. Cumming Photographythe armed forces,” Lt.Col. Chavez explains. “Iwas impressed by the amount of responsibilityplaced on even the most junior airman.”Lt. Col. Chavez also thought a military careerwould provide a way for him to serve hiscountry. Referring to himself as a “Global Nomad”or “Third Culture Kid”, Lt.Col. ChavezREAL NEW YORK PIZZA18” Cheese PizzaHomemade sauce,quality ingredients. Realmozzarella cheese!757-253-2266$9 99Christmasin July!SpecialsAll MonthLong!Big Sale July 30! (in store & online)Visit our Store for Refreshments!Door Prizes! Summer Santa!10% Military Discount during July!Williamsburg Crossing5251 John Tyler Hwy. Additional $1.25 per topping. Pickup or dine in only.18 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011Mark Florimonte,Owner230 Monticello Ave.757-293-3524www.Garden-Flags.comVisit our storeto see our greatselection ofGarden Flagsand More!

spent several of his formative years - from age10 to 18 - growing up in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.He considers himself a cross-culturalblend (Malaysian and American) and admitsthat his experiences and travel in his youthhelped to guide him towards the Air Force asa career.“You know the saying,” he says. “Join themilitary and see the world.” And see the worldhe did! He has visited over 35 countries andhas lived in 7 states and 3 foreign countries.His family settled here in 2006 making Williamsburgthe second longest place he has everlived.Like many servicemen and women, Lt.Col.Chavez was deployed countless times. Duringhis years of active service he collected manymemories, some better than others. He remembershow his family suffered worryingabout one deployment in particular in the Fallof 2000. Lt.Col. Chavez was with the unit thatwas the first-on-scene after the USS Cole wasattacked.“There was a temporary lack of communicationwith families because the ops [operations]tempo had suddenly and dramaticallyincreased,” he recalls. “It’s that kind of silencethat can be unnerving.”Chavez and his family were in Mississippiwhen the repaired USS Cole was deployedagain. “That launch inspired a great sensationof patriotism in many people, and I am exceptionallyproud and pleased, to be able to say,‘I was there when…’ That was definitely a daythat I will not forget,” Lt.Col. Chavez says.After 17 years he had to make a decision:continue towards completing 20 years of activeduty with the Air Force by being deployed for365 days and leaving his family behind againor leaving active duty. Despite his love of theAir Force the choice was easy for him.“It was a ‘No duh!’ decision not to go backto the sandbox again!,” Chavez explains of histransition to a civilian job and the USAF Reserveand to remain with his family. Now a Departmentof Defense contractor for AdvancedTechnology International, Lt.Col. Chavez isnot far removed from his military career andhis lifelong passion for technology; he nowhelps assess new Command and Control systemsbeing fielded for the Warfighter.While Lt.Col. Chavez is very proud to be anAmerican and to have served his country, healways feels a little humbled when people seehim in uniform and say: “Thank you for yourservice”. The compliment is rewarding and itreaffirms his choice, but he knows that thereare unsung heroes behind almost every servicemember who seldom receive any recognition.“I volunteered to be a part of this professionof arms,” Lt.Col. Chavez says. “I volunteeredknowing there would be chaos and manymoves. Truly, the thanks should go to thoseindividuals who are often overlooked or takenfor granted: the children and spouses. They didnot volunteer.”While the services have taken great strides toimprove conditions for military families thereis still more to be done. “It’s not easy, and wemust remember that thanks should be given tothe people behind the scenes who sacrifice asmuch, if not more, than the person wearingthe uniform,” he emphasizes.One of the clearest indicators of the straina military career places on the family is in thenumber of failed marriages. Chavez can attestfirsthand to the hardship and strain the militarycan have on the family unit having gonethrough a divorce himself.But the military has a mission it must putfirst and those who serve understand this andTalk to your neighbors,then talk to us.Odds are, they’re already part of the State Farm ® family.With so many ways to save and discounts of up to 40 percent,* you’ll want to be part of thefamily too. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. ® CALL FOR A QUOTE 24/7.Dwight Beamon Ins Agcy IncDwight Beamon, AgentNorge, VA 23127Bus: 757-564-9167www.dwightbeamon.comJavier Fuentes, Agent4516 John Tyler HwyWilliamsburg, VA 23185Bus: 757-220-9910www.sfvirginia.comCarol Simmons, AgentWilliamsburg Business Ctr4732 Longhill Rd Ste 3102Williamsburg, VA 23188Bus: 757-565-0984David Sisk, Agent1318 Jamestown RoadWilliamsburg, VA 23185Bus: 757-229-2961www.williamsburg-insurance.comWilliam D Ward, Agent1003 Richmond RoadWilliamsburg, VA 23185Bus: 757-229-9615www.sfwilliamsburg.comWoody Woolwine Jr, Agent820-B Merrimac TrailWilliamsburg, VA 23185Bus: 757-229-3229woody.woolwine.b2m9@statefarm.comstatefarm.com ®1001175*Discounts vary by states.State Farm Mutual Automobile Insurance Company, State Farm Indemnity Company, Bloomington, ILNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 19

also understand the challenges that come withserving both the military and their family.Even after settling into his civilian job and hisnew family routine, Lt.Col. Chavez was calledback to duty; he was reactivated to fill a criticalvacancy with the Joint Deployment TrainingCenter (JDTC) at Ft. Eustis as the InformationTechnology Department Head.Despite the many challenges of militarylife, Lt.Col. Chavez says there is not much hewould change. “I know I’ve done things I regret,but they have made me who I am today,and except for the extra 20 pounds I’ve put onthe last couple of years, I generally like who Iam.”Positive and cheerful, Lt.Col. Chavez triesto live by his motto: “Live, love, laugh, listenand learn” and tries to personify the “5Ls” ona daily basis.He provides a candid self-assessment. “I dowell with the first three, the last two, listen andlearn, are often a challenge, ” he admits. “ButI am hopeful.”Meanwhile he plans to continue to focus onhis job and his passions: his children and whenhe has the time (which he says often eludeshim) some amateur woodworking. NDN“I look forward to eachfresh issue of Next DoorNeighbors. I appreciatebeing introduced to theinspiring people in mycommunity, and beingreminded or informed ofthe incredible selectionof businesses fromamong which I maychoose.”~ Michelle Brown2011 Survey Drawing WinnerMichelle Brown’s name was drawn by Richard Schreiber, President of the Greater WilliamsburgChamber and Tourism Alliance, from all of the 2011 Readership Surveysthat were submitted - both electronically and by mail. She will spend $500 in giftcertificates with the Next Door Neighbor’s advertisers she selects. You receive NextDoor Neighbors free each month courtesy of the many businesses that advertise in thismonthly publication.30% No LimitTax Creditfor WaterFurnace GeothermalComfort SystemsThere’s still a 30% “renewable energy” tax credit for homeowners whoinstall a qualifying WaterFurnace geothermal comfort system.WaterFurnace geothermal units use the clean, renewable energy found inyour own backyard to save up to 70% on heating, cooling, and hot water.Call us for more details on WaterFurnace!Physical TherapyDesigned to Help YouAchieve Your Personal BestShiela M. Robison, MSPT16 years experience as aLicensed Physical TherapistWhen it comes totherapy it really is all aboutyou. Choose the physicaltherapist that can meet yourpersonal needs.www.pha4u.comStephen B. Smith, P.E., Owneroffering757-877-4241the professional• 804-642-6163difference20 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011PeninsulaHeating & airPhysical TherapyMassage • FitnessFor An Appointment,Please Call (757) 258-1221312-J Lightfoot Rd. Visit Our Website www.reachforperformance.com

AMY STUTTONCHILD & FAMILYCONNECTIONAmy Stutt, Program Director forWilliamsburg’s Child and FamilyConnection, graduated fromChristopher Newport Universitywith a Bachelor of Science degreein Early Childhood Psychology.She received her Mastersof Education degree from RegentUniversity. Amy taught elementaryschool for eight yearsin Hampton before taking ayear off to spend with her chil-uWedding Invitations(Birthday, Anniversary and Business, too!)uStationeryuGreeting Cards & GiftsSTOP BY AND BROWSE OUR SELECTION!4309 New Town Ave., Williamsburg • 757-561-0231Lisa W. Cumming Photographydren at home. Then she beganworking at Child and FamilyConnection, a program ofthe Center for Child and FamilyServices. This past January,Amy accepted the position ofProgram Director.When did you first become involvedin the Child and FamilyConnection?I started working part time inBring a Friend to Lunch!The perfect place to dine - business or casualCome Try Our Varietyof Menu Items!Open 11am to 3 pm for LunchLarge meeting room available for larger groups2021-D Richmond Rd.(Across from Yankee Candle)www.annasbrickoven.comMon - Th: 11am - 10pm,Fri & Sat 11am - 11pm757-229-5252NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 21

September of 2007 as the Child CareResource and Referral Coordinatorwhere I assisted families in findingquality child care and worked withchild care providers to increase thequality of care that was provided.What is the mission of Child and FamilyConnection?Child and Family Connection linksfamilies, children and caregivers tocommunity resources that nurturechildrens’ positive development.How did Child and Family Connectionbecome a reality?In 1982, concerned members of theGreater Williamsburg communityrecognized the need for services forworking families that would link themto child care providers and established“The Council for Children’s Services”.In 1990, the agency changedits name to “The Caring Connection”.The agency worked on two fronts:families seeking child care and thechild care organizations providingthe services. The agency maintaineda directory of family day care providers,child care centers and otheroptions for parents. It also providedindividual consultations and financialaid to parents. In addition, the agencyworked with child care providersby offering training, helping themto become licensed, and followingup with training and workshops. In2002, the agency merged with theCenter for Child and Family Servicesand changed the name to Child andFamily Connection. In 2004, Childand Family Connection increasedthe scope of services offered by addingmental health counseling.What services are provided?Child and Family Connection provideschild care information, referralsand financial assistance to families.Staff members deliver training andsupport to child care professionalsto include enhancing the healthygrowth and development of infantsand toddlers along with recognizingand addressing their social, emotionaland behavioral development.The program also offers multiculturalcounseling services for children, familiesand child care professionals inboth English and Spanish.Who are the clients?Our clients are parents who may belooking for child care, child care providersin both centers and family childcare homes who are looking for trainingand support. It also includes individuals,children, families and childcare professionals who may need1 CLient 1 trAiner 1 GoAL!FitnessFor LiFe Private Suites Accountability AcceleratedResults PersonalizedPrograms“I have decreasedmy weightmeasurementswhile improvingmy overall fitnessin the areas offlexibility andcardio. We workhard, but alsohave a lot of fun!”~ Kathy Harper757-345-22464854 Longhill Rd., Olde Towne Sq. Plazawww.fitnesstogether.com/williamsburgThe only one-to-one Personal Training Studio inWilliamsburg. We are Not a Gym!Red, White &BlueRockfish RedCardinal Point VineyardReg. $17.99SALE$15.99for You!Governor’s WhiteThe Williamsburg WineryReg. $6.99CheesesRed Dragon Cheese $13.99 lb., White Stilton withMango & Ginger $16.50 lb., Amish Blue $8.99 lb.(757) 564-4400www.grapesbythecrate.com4680-15 Monticello MarketplaceSALE$5.99Our Dog BlueChateau MorrisetteReg. $11.99SALE$9.9922 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011

consultations, assessments or counselingservices for issues such as schoolrelated problems, grief, divorce, angercontrol, Attention Deficit Disorder/ Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder(ADD/ADHD), and attachment/bonding to name a few. We chargebased on a sliding fee scale althoughno one is turned away due to an inabilityto pay.How do you measure success?Success for Child and Family Connectionis not just about numbers butabout the people we interact withand can be measured in a variety ofways. It is helping parents find childcare providers who meet their needs,being able to assist low-income,working parents with the cost of childcare, helping child care providers offerthe highest quality care possible,and empowering an individual, family,child or caregiver to improve theirlives through mental health services.It is feeling like we have made a differencein the life of one of our clients.What are some of your fundraisingevents?The Center for Child and Family Servicesparticipates in numerous fundraisingendeavors. Our biggest fundraiseris the “Country for Kids” concert,which we have been hosting for 12years. “Country for Kids” has raisedover $400,000 for our agency. In addition,we sponsor the “CelebratingFriends of Children” gala which is anannual celebration that recognizesthe child care providers and communitypartners in our area. The galaalso includes a silent auction to helpraise funds for our children and familyprograms. Additionally, we participatein the “Human Race – Celebrationin Lights” fundraiser organizedeach year by the Volunteer Centerof Hampton Roads. Non-profits areable to raise funds and have participantswalk the mile journey of NewportNews’ “Celebration in Lights” theTuesday before Thanksgiving.How can the community help?We love our volunteers. Volunteersare always needed at our agency.Our volunteers do everything fromhelping with general office duties, toassisting with special events, to lendinga hand with day to day activities.I personally invite people to visitus. Tour our agency at 348 McLawsCircle and see what we are about.Word of mouth is the best advertisementwe can get and when you seehow many children and families arehelped at our agency, we are confi-Morningside SalutesOne of Our Superstars!“Every day at Morningside Williamsburg is a rewarding experience.You couldn’t pay for a better education. We learn something newevery day. We love serving our residents and getting to know them.Morningside is their home; we are the visitors and we work forthem! Our department takes pride in providing a friendly, activeatmosphere for each of our residents. Designing programs with theindividual in mind and working as a team enables us to provide thebest service possible. They are an extension of our families and wetreat them as such.” ~ John Boelte, Van DriverThank You John Boelte!One of Our Superstars Who MakesOur Residents Feel at HomeNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 23

Horse Farmdent you will spread the word. Childand Family appreciates any donationsbig or small. Donations are putright into our children and family programsthat allow us to see clients eitherfor free or on a sliding fee basis.Sixty-nine percent of our clients areuninsured, leaving them paying out ofpocket. Donations can be sent to ourparent agency, Center for Child andFamily Services, 2021 CunninghamDrive, Suite 400 Hampton, VA 23666.We thank you for your support.What are the plans for the near futurefor the organization?Part of our comprehensive serviceorganization plan is to continue toenhance and expand some of theservices we offer in Hampton to theWilliamsburg area. Child and FamilyConnection would like to provide additionalservices for the whole familywhich would include services such ascredit and financial counseling andjob placement for youth and adults.What are some personal experiencesyou have had that renew your commitmentto Child and Family Connec-Navigate Our Neighborhoods!PoRt Anne$509,900City of Williamsburg, quiet cul desac, 3 Bedroom, 2.5 Bath, pricedbelow assessment, new roof andmuch more!ChanCos Grant$230,000Sunny 3 bedroom, 2 bath onwooded quiet lot, pillars definethe living spaces, formal diningroom, gas fireplace.Kingsmill• $599,000Classic 5 bedrooms 2.5 bathson Halfway Creek. Renovatedkitchen, custom trim, sunroom &bonus room.Monticello Woods • $550,0003 BR brick rancher, bonus room, veryopen, private lot, screen porch, deckw/hot tub, large master. Owner/agent.Bill Pritchard757-570-3606Richmond hill • $770,000Unique in-town location 5 blocksfrom Historic Area. 3 bedroomsand den or 4 bedrooms. 3.5 baths.All yard maintenance is takencare of in HOA dues.Tessa Louer757-345-3804seasons traCe$222,000It shines! Immaculate 3 bedroomRancher with gleaming hardwoodfloors and sited on a private lot.Sheila Meyers757-345-3816Village green$169,9002 BR, 2.5 BA, renovated condo.New lighting, plumbing, paint,hardwood floors. low city taxes.Linda Berryman757-532-7749Skimino Landing EStatES$659,000Reduced! Custom brick Transitional.Walk-out basement withfull kitchen on 2.29 private acres.Just ReduCed!City of Williamsburg • $119,975Condo with 2 BRs, 2 full BAs, greatkitchen w/new paint, all new carpet &vinyl, new heat pump. Near bus line.Take a look, this one is a must see.PoPlar SPringS • $395,000Horse property. 4 acres, 3 stall, room.Custom home, 9 foot ceilings, HWfloors, master suite, Dressage ring.Kingspoint • $499,900Brick, 5 BR, 3 full & 2 half BAhome with style, privacy, largescreened & tiled porch and deck.grEEnSpringS WESt$479,500Brick Ranch custom built by DistinguishedHomes with $30,000upgrades. Golf and water views.Mary Ann Gagliano757-561-8561LisaRemington-Smith800-617-1743Ron Campana757-897-6824Julia & Jack McNulty757-291-6464757-254-12004135 Ironbound Rd, Williamsburg,VA 23188 • (757) 220-9500 • www.PrudentialTowneRealty.com24 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011

tion?After working in the world of childcare while going through school andthen teaching children for eight years,I have been able to use my previousexperiences when working with childcare providers and children. Seeingthe improvements in the children andthe growth in the providers, I believewhole heartedly in the work we do atChild and Family Connection, andthat is why we strive every day to offerquality programs and support services.How has your work affected your personallife and outlook?I have seen the positive outcomesthat resulted from people volunteeringin community agencies. This hasencouraged my family and me tovolunteer and give our time to helpothers and try to make a differencein the lives of people in our community.NDNFor more information about Childand Family Connection, visit:www.ctrchildfamilyservices.org/childandfamilyconnectionWhen you see a sign in front of a Prudential Towne Realty home,TEXT PRU to 59559 and get all the MLS info on that home!James square$163,0002 masters, hardwood floors, freshpaint, new dishwasher, privaterear yard, wood burning FP.Ludmila RichSheila Rivera757-269-1160757-753-7461Kingsmill on the James$534,900Fabulous 3 BR, 3 BA patio homeon the River Golf course! Two storygreat room open to 2nd floor bonusroom. Sun room. 3,000 sqft.Queens laKe$299,900Spacious home on .61 acre culde-saclot! 3 BRs, 2.5 BAs, +loft,2,436 sqft. Fabulous sun room,vaulted ceilings and skylights!Fords Colony • $400,000Sun filled home on private lot. Featuring1st floor master, newer air conditioning/heatunit. Move in condition.Barbara Levine757-345-3808GreensprinGs West • $670,0004,080 sqft., 4 BRs, 3.5 BAs, dreamkitchen w/granite, family room w/FP.3 car garage. Owners suite and more!John Roberts757-345-3889sKipwith Farms$289,900Walk to the college! 3 bedroom,3 bath, brick & stone rancher w/2 car garage! Updated kitchen,pretty hardwood floors!Kingsmill on the James$465,000Building lot in Randolph’s Green.Great views of the River GolfCourse and Lake! .28 ac. on culde-sac.Owner/Agent.Ruby Conn757-291-4744Cobble Creek • $254,0003 Bedrooms, 2.5 baths. Loft couldbe 4th bedroom. Stainless steelappliances. Fenced yard w/ shed.Near Colonial Parkway.Powhatan woods • $339,5004 bedroom, 2.5 bath, bonus room,den, granite counter tops in kitchen.Sited on private cul de sac.Andrew Nelson757-561-3725Kingsmill • $500,000Contemporary; open floor plan, BRsupstairs & down, new kitchen withgranite countertops, hardwood floors.Great golf and pondviews.Donna Magoon757-345-3885Fords Colony • $339,9004 bedrooms, 2.5 baths, familyroom, 2 fireplaces, hardwoodfloors, remodeled kitchen,fencedyard and quaint garden house.Judie CroftSandra Clay757-345-3840757-207-9543Westmoreland • $479,000Immaculate 3287 sqft. ranchhome on cul-d,e-sac. 4 BRs, 3 fullBAs, plus bonus room and screenporch. Level .62 acre lot.Frank Hughes & Bill Clarke757-345-3809 757-876-83464135 Ironbound Rd, Williamsburg,VA 23188 • (757) 220-9500 • www.PrudentialTowneRealty.comNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 25

Let’s make every day a “Day of Caring”!“I want to personally invite you to participate in this year’s Day of Caring. The United Way ofGreater Williamsburg’s annual Day of Caring is September 15th. Over 800 volunteers will beworking in our community to help non-profit organizations, schools and many others withinour community. We have something you can do too!This is an important day for our community with over 3,200 hours of servicegiven in one single day. I would love to count you among our volunteers. Ifyou would like to join us, please call me: 757-253-2264.Even though a Day of Caring is only one day a year, it can have a more far reaching impactof kindling or rekindling your relationship with United Way and our community. As youmay remember from May’s issue of this magazine, I am new to the Williamsburg area. Nowin the beginning of my fourth month as Executive Director, I get more excited each day asI meet new people and forge new relationships. I am looking forwardto having a year-round relationship with volunteers, donors and thecommunity we serve - maybe even you!Sharon Gibson-EllisMy pledge to you is to put the same excitement, energy and commitment we put into theannual Day of Caring into our everyday work and activities. Please join me in reinvigoratingour excitement about United Way in Greater Williamsburg.If you are unable to participate in this year’s Day of Caring but are interested in finding out more aboutUnited Way, email me at sharon.gibson-ellis@UWGW.org or call 757-253-2264. Let’s make every day aDay of Caring with our thoughts and actions!- Sharon Gibson-Ellis, Executive DirectorCOming SOOn!Medical WeightLoss CenterWe are expanding our servicesfor individuals strugglingwith weight loss.Please Visit Us at OurNew Location5424 Discovery Park BoulevardSuite 201Put a Team Behind You to HelpYou with Your Weight Loss ProgramRenee Moss, MDCall for an appointment 757-345-3064120 King’s Way • Suite 2550 • Williamsburg • 2nd Floor of Riverside Health Care CenterWWW.Reneaumed.Com26 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011LOOK BETTER. FEEL BETTER. BE BETTER.Information sessions on our newprograms that combine the expertiseof a dietician, exercise specialist,behaviorist and a physician will begin inSeptember.For an appointment, please call (757) 345-6330.Cindi Sanders, Au.D.Doctor of AudiologyScott Y. Pharr, M.D.Board Certified inOtolaryngologyNew Town • 5424 Discovery Park Blvd., Suite 201 • www.tpmgpc.com

Generationsby Erin KellyWilson HaleAge 20Many people would call Wilson Hale an allaroundWilliamsburg guy. He is a third generationlocal with a slew of local friends and a jobat Bike Beat. He is also pursuing a degree at theCollege of William and Mary, where he is a risingjunior. Every aspect of his life takes place righthere, and he wouldn’t have it any other way.At 20, Wilson has lived in the area since he wassix years old, long enough to remember whenWilliamsburg had only one high school – andRoute 199 West ended at John Tyler Highway.He has seen everything from the birth of NewLisa W. Cumming PhotographyAUGUST SPECIALS$10 OFFAny Hour Facial ServiceGood thruAugust 30!$10 OFFAny Hot Stone MassageNot to be combined with any other offer. Coupon good thru 8/30/11• Services Include: Whirlpool Deluxe Pedicures • Let Beauty Rush Pamper You with Our Personal,& Manicures, Waxing, Spa Facials & Massage Unique Touch & Relaxing, Family-Friendly, AtmosphereJune WuNail TechnicianMichele MerrilMassage TherapistAestitician5121 Center St., Suite 101, New Town757-220-2099 • www.beautyrushwilliamsburg.comNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 27

Town on what used to be farm land acrossthe street from Berkeley Middle School – tothe giant Griffon rollercoaster being builtacross town at Busch Gardens.After his 2009 graduation from JamestownHigh School, Wilson made the decisionto remain here and attend college justa few short minutes from his parents’ home.Several members of his family are Williamand Mary alumni, including his father whograduated with the class of 1982. Williamand Mary was a logical pick for Wilson.“It is nice that I don’t have to drive far tosee my family. And when the holidays come,I’m already in town,” Wilson says. “Plus, I amable to go home for dinner or to do somelaundry – a luxury many college studentsdon’t have.”Majoring in economics with hopes toadd another major in philosophy, publicpolicy, or possibly design his own major,Wilson says that the person who inspiredhim the most to study economics was RichardAmbler, his AP microeconomics teacherat Jamestown High School.“Mr. Ambler is such a cool guy and hereally knows his stuff,” said Wilson. “He introducedme to the field of economics andit was an experience I’ll always remember.I thoroughly enjoyed the subject, so thatprompted me to study it in college.”In addition to spending time with hisfamily, studying at William and Mary, andholding down a part-time job, Wilson hasimmersed himself in the biking culture inWilliamsburg. His love for biking startedwhen he began his job at the bike shopbut has grown immensely in the past fouryears.“I ride bikes all the time, it is kind of mything,” Wilson says. “Williamsburg has anincredible bike culture and there is just somuch going on that people don’t knowabout!”Wilson also serves as the Vice Presidentof Tribe Cycling – William and Mary’s biketeam which competes in mountain bikeevents each fall and road racing in thespring.“In my role on the cycling team, I havegotten to be an event promoter. This hasallowed me to interact with the communityin an entirely different capacity,” Wilsonsays.Wilson is eager for those in the communitywho think of Williamsburg as justa sleepy retirement town – or a haven fortourists – to change their minds and realizejust how much is really going on here.“There is really every aspect of life here inWilliamsburg, especially when it comes tocycling” he said.With bike trails perfect for any level of rider,Williamsburg boasts easy trails throughthe Historic district for a leisurely sightseeingexcursion – to more difficult bikingpaths for those looking for an extreme adventure.Additionally, the Historic Triangleoffers a 20 mile route past Williamsburg,Yorktown and Jamestown along the bikepath of the scenic Colonial Parkway, a beautifulride perhaps unparalleled on the eastcoast.Wilson’s love for his hometown stemsfrom his family. His grandmother lives here,There’s Still Lots of Summer Left & We Have Plenty of BeautifulOutdoor DiningSets in Stock!Many styles & brandsto choose from!Ready to takehome andenjoy today!“A Happily Ever AfterFor Your Kingdom”Open Mon. - Sat 10:30 - 6, Sun 11 - 3Accepting All Credit Cards28 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST201120 - 50 %OFFselect in stock setsAccessories Available!Action chairs, umbrellas,grills, firepits and more!1480-2C Quarterpath Rd.(Next to Harris Teeter)757-221-8070We wrote the book.Then we printed it.

Although he is not particularly worried However, once he is ready to settle down him as a ‘townie’.about the job market he faces, Wilson admitsand start a family, Wilson hopes to raise his “It is funny because people are really sur-that after graduation it is likely that he children right here in his hometown. prised when I tell them I am from Williams-will branch out and move away from Williamsburg“I really loved growing up in Williamsburg,”he says with a laugh. “It is somethingto get a taste of another area. burg,” he reflects. “I enjoyed many good they don’t expect, especially since so many“Everyone needs an economist,” he says. times and can honestly say I never had a of my peers are from other areas. All in all I“There are usually a lot of government jobs bad experience. I love that the town is quiet like it a lot, and I am proud to be a ‘townie’.”open. I know people who [have] already and that so many people come here to raise Wilson will always consider himself as just agraduated and are working for the govern-their children. There are people of virtually Williamsburg guy. NDNas do both of his parents.“My grandmother has always been activein the community,” he says. “She has livedhere since the late 1970s and has madeso many friends andment in the Washington D.C. area, so thatcould be a path I may follow. I also think adegree from William and Mary will give mea leg up.”every age here.”Meanwhile, Wilson enjoys college life andis having fun as a student – and he finds ithumorous when some of his friends refer toconnections. Sheloves the area.”Wilson’s fatherworks in informationtechnology forNorthrop Grumman,while his mother is aconsultant for nonprofitorganizations inthe area and throughoutthe Peninsula.“It is funny because people are really surprised when I tell themI am from Williamsburg. It is something they don’t expect,especially since so many of my peers are from other areas. Allin all I like it a lot, and I am proud to be a ‘townie’. “ ~ Wilson HaleWe Treat You!(Not just your teeth)As your dentist, wecare about your oral andoverall health. Keepingyour teeth’s supportingstructures (gums and bone)healthy and inflammationfreecan reduce your riskof tooth loss, heart disease,diabetes, and osteoporosis.Come see us for your comprehensiveevaluation. Call us today!757.345.5500• STATE OF THE ART TREATMENT FACILITY• NEW PATIENTS WELCOME• MOST INSURANCE ACCEPTEDDr. Brett C. Dunnill, D.D.S.Dr. Rick J. Rubin, D.M.D.and family• EMERGENCIES SEEN PROMPTLY •and family213 Bulifants Blvd., Suite E • Across from Williamsburg Sentara Hospital • www.williamsburgfamilydentistry.comNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 29

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ing with it on a daily basis,” he explains. “Theopportunity came open, and I got it. I’ve beenhere for over four years. I’m very happy. In themeantime, they moved the corporate office toOrlando, so I would have been moving anyway.I’m glad I ended up here.”Dan had been to Williamsburgmany times before on business trips,and he’d brought his wife and childrenhere on vacation before he tookthe job. He and his wife had alwayslived in the St, Louis area, and whenthey thought about transferring somewhereelse, Williamsburg seemed tobe a place they felt they would fit in.“It’s a great place for a family andto raise our kids,” he says. “This parkhas always been known in the companyto be one of the more innovative ones,a real pioneer on a lot of projects. Professionally,I knew it was going to be a good team.Personally, it was going to be a great fit, whichis important when you’re moving two teenagegirls.”Marketing a business based in Williamsburg,big or small, has a dual consumer audience:locals and visitors. Appealing to both groupsisn’t easy. “It’s a struggle,” Dan admits. “Westruggle with it every year. Nobody has enoughresources, no matter how big you are. You haveto figure out what your priorities are and howto split the resources between them.”“In the simplest form,marketing is making sure whatyou have to sell is relevant tosomebody.”~ Dan DipiazzoBusch Gardens develops their marketingplans with those two tracks in mind. “We developa resident plan and we develop a touristplan,” Dan adds. “You really have to get yourframe of mind around that channel and notthink how to make a certain promotion workfor everybody. Think what will work for thesefolks and what will work for these others. Ifyou can figure out how they complement eachother or use a piece for both groups, that’s great,but you really have to go down each road.”He uses an example of a long holiday weekendlike Labor Day. “For residents, what doesthat mean? For a tourist who might be cominghere for three or four days, what doesthat mean?” He and his team discusswhat kind of ticket prices a park guestwould look for; how long would thatperson be in town; would they cometo the park multiple times? What if itrains? The resident could come back,but tourists may not. “You reallyhave to go through that whole process,”Dan says. “From there, it takeson extensions. Even on our website,we send people down different pathsbecause we know they are interestedin different admission products and deals.” Hestarts the marketing plans by getting into thatframe of mind and developing two parallelplans. “Easier said than done,” he admits.Dan explains that there are some thingsconstant across all audiences, like value. “Howyou define value may be different because forsomeone who lives here, the value is probablythat they can come multiple times throughoutThis Summer, Save Some Green –Insulate your homeand protect your walletSpray foam insulation pays for itself, whileincreasing the property value and comfortof your home. Prevents air leakage Decreases noise Resists insects and rodentsServing eastern and central Virginia. Call 757-566-4892or contact art@atlanticspray.com for a free estimate.Insulate Your Home NowATTIC UPGRADES | CONDITIONED CRAWL SPACES | EXISTING WALLS | WEATHERIZATIONNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 31

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she was six years old. “My next door neighborswam here at the Williamsburg CommunityPool and was on the Manta Rays team,” Jackieexplains. “I decided I wanted to try swimmingon a team too.”She had taken her initial swimlessons at the Williamsburg AquaticClub (WAC). “I came to the WilliamsburgCommunity Pool andstarted swimming,” she says. Shecontinued to swim at WAC thenswitched to the Coast Guard BlueDolphins (CGBD) team. “I was onthe CGBD from the time I was eightuntil last year,” she adds, “that’s fourteenyears with the Blue Dolphins.”Jackie also swam on teams at QueensLake.“I was usually on three teams atonce,” she says. “For example, I would be on asummer team, on my high school team at Bruton,and on the Coast Guard Blue Dolphinsswimming year-round.” She kept swimming,never stopping, moving up to the next level.After graduating from Bruton High School,she went to James Madison University (JMU)and swam on the swim team all four years whileWilliamsburg’sCertified Oriental RugCleaning Expert10%there. This past spring, Jackie graduated fromJMU with a degree in Health Sciences.During her college summer breaks, Jackiehas coached the swim teams of Williamsburg.In 2008 and 2009, she was the head coach of“I learned hard work anddedication - to be tough,how to compromise, how toget along with other people– so many things.”Goes to HeritageHumane Societywhen we clean your Oriental RugNow through August 30th only!~ Jackie Hartmanthe Kingspoint team. This is her first year ashead coach at the Williamsburg CommunityPool and the Manta Rays.“Coaching,” Jackie says, “was the next stepfor me. I was offered a head coach positionwith Kingspoint’s swim team after my freshmanyear at college. Coaching turned out to bea great summer job and the next step in swimming.By experiencing the coaching side, I understoodthe dynamics of leading a team andall that goes on behind the scenes. It helped alot with my college swimming, by experiencingthat other side of the sport.”The Manta Rays team ranges inage from 4 to 18. Besides the techniquesof swimming and competition,Jackie hopes the kids learn someof the same skills she did, abilities asuseful on dry land as in the water.“I learned hard work and dedication,”she says, “to be tough, how tocompromise, how to get along withother people – so many things.” Shesees the early involvement in sportscontributing to a lifelong path ofhealthy living. “Kids learn how to beathletic, how to be healthy, how tobe fit,” she adds.The best age to start a child in team swimming,according to Jackie, is six or seven yearsold. “Older than that, a child is more aware ofany fear of the water they might have and thatmakes it a little more difficult,” she explains.“If they’re too young, their attention span is allover the place. It’s hard for them to pay atten-TELEPHONE & INFORMATION SYSTEMSTrust the Cleaning of YourOriental Rug with SomeoneWho Will Handle it with Careand ExperiencePete Childs, Owner• Oriental Rug CleaningSince 1978• Color and Fringe Repair• Free Pickup and DeliveryCall Me Direct forNew Customer Quotes757-566-1469WILLIAMSBURG RUG CARE“We’ve had our phone system for a while. Duke Communicationsis great about seeing us when we have a service need. They dothe work promptly to solve our problem and they always call andfollow up to make sure we are satisfied. We have used them foryears. We are very happy with Duke Communications.”~ Tony Lea, 4-H Center Director(757) 253-90001781 Jamestown Rd. • www.duketel.com34 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011

tion to learning strokes.”Summer morning practices are by age divisions,where each group has time and individualizedattention from the coaches – Jackieand assistant coach, Jay McCormick. The kidsconcentrate on proper swim strokesplus the additional techniques theywill need in a swim meet.“We spend about 70 percent ofthe time on swimming,” Jackie says,“and a good 30 percent on the mechanics,such as turns and starts.”She states that the mechanics of ameet can be the hardest part formany swimmers.A swim meet starts with warmups.“Each team gets thirty minutes,”Jackie says. “It’s kind of crazy, reallyhectic, everyone is in the pool. Thenwe run in heats with five lanes in the pool. Westart with the youngest group and move upfrom there for each event.”Near the end of the meet, the relays occur.“That’s my favorite part because that’s where theteam aspect comes in,” Jackie says. “Everyoneis loud and cheering. If we win, the coachesget thrown in the pool.” Jackie continues othertraditions with the team. “We go over to Sal’safter every meet. I remember doing that whenI was seven, so it’s cool to still do that. Also, westill do the same cheers at the meets that we didwhen I started at six years old.”“Being an athlete, I really like thebody and trying to fix things, notso much with medicine, but withmovement. I love the science ofthe body and how everythingworks together.”~ Jackie HartmanOne of her favorite things about the swimmeets is how everyone gets involved.“At the meet, it’s a lot of the older kids helpingthe younger ones,” Jackie says. “All the parentsare involved too, whether timing, gettingthe kids behind the blocks, or cheering – it’svery loud during a meet.”Jackie says the Manta Rays have a lot ofyoung talent, ready to grow and get faster. “I’dlike to see the team move up a division. We’reDivision II now, and Division I is the biggestand fastest.” Divisions are based on the size ofthe teams and their records. “If we win ourmeets this summer, we’ll probablymove up.”Jackie will continue her educationthis fall at Sacred Heart University inConnecticut. “I’m going to physicaltherapy school,” she says. “Being anathlete, I really like the body and tryingto fix things, not so much withmedicine, but with movement. Ilove the science of the body and howeverything works together. It seemslike a really great field for me. I likepeople: dealing with them and helpingthem.”The people aspect of sports is more than thestatistics of wins and losses: it’s the spirit of thesportsmanship. Jackie sees the team as a family,not defined by a neighborhood or a singlesection of Williamsburg. The team is open toevery child who wants to have fun in the waterand learn basic lessons about teamwork tocarry him or her through life. NDNENJOY OUR MILITARY DISCOUNT NOW THRU AUGUST 31 ST !off in store merchandise for active duty, dependents and retired military.Does not apply to bullion, coins or special orders.20%NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 35

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turned here. I definitely consider myself a local,” she says. “The farthestI’ve been away was attending a music school in Florida. I always comeback. I went to Full Sail University in Florida, a private arts schoolthat specializes in computer animation, film, digital media and recordingarts.”Her interest in music started when she began piano lessons in thirdgrade. The music seemed to come naturally to her because, even thoughshe could read music, she picked up a song faster by ear. One day herfather gave her a guitar to see if she might like playing it.“That was in seventh grade, and I loved it. The guitar is my maininstrument today.”From playing music to performing was a natural progression, butnot an effortless one. “It wasn’t easy,” Kari says. “I had the worst stagefright. The first thing I ever did, live, by myself, was an open mic atCollege Delly, and I was terrified.” Today she is more comfortable, butthe nervousness still makes an appearance as she readies herself for thestage. “Always after the first song, I’m doing better,” she admits. “I’lllook down during that first song, just looking up a little, searching forthe energy from different parts of the room. I feed off where I see peoplereally enjoying the music.”Her strategy involves searching the crowd as she sings to see whoconnects with her music. “You can tell who gets into it,” she adds. Theperformance becomes singing to one person at a time, going from onefriendly face to the next, a one-on-one experience that makes stage frightdisappear since there is no anonymous crowd, just a collection of smilingindividuals.Her performances are both solo and a duo with her friend, Wes Forehand.She and Wes have a band they call Humble Beets. “Wes and Ihave been playing music together for about five years now,” Kari says.“Folk mixed with reggae, really a lot of genres like my personal style.It’s so hard to put a label on it. We’ve played all around the HamptonRoads area plus around the region from Virginia Beach up to Charlottesvilleand down to the Outer Banks of North Carolina.” Some artistsfind working together a clash of ideas and styles, but Kari and Wes seemto meld their vision and approach to the music. “It just clicks betweenus,” Kari says. “He’s the lead guitar and I’m the rhythm.”The aspect Kari likes about the collaboration of a duo is the exuberancecreated when working with another artist. “You can feed off eachother,” she says. “That’s awesome. Having the companionship is greatbecause we pump each other up; we give each other motivation. Thathelps a lot, because when you play by yourself, sometimes I don’t feel asconfident. Wes makes me feel me comfortable.”Being on a stage alone can be intense. “A duo has more of a dynamic,”Kari says. Stage banter between the two helps relax both of them andthe audience. “We argue like family. We’re together so much, practicingand performing; sometimes we have four or five gigs a week.”The other side is Kari’s solo performances. “I can choose what I wantto do and how I want to do it,” she explains. “There aren’t any issues,right or wrong, it’s all my decision.”She knows that anytime there is collaboration among band members,there is compromise. “I can do what I want,” she says with a laugh.This artistic freedom also affects her sound. Both Kari as a solo artistand the duo Humble Beets do a mix of reggae, folk and blues, but whenKari performs alone, she says her vocals are stronger. “My voice shinesLet Us Make You Lookand Feel Your Best!Visit one of us & receive special treatment at special prices...10% Discount to All Active Duty Militaryand Their Dependents.Tuesday is Senior Day - 10% Off any ServicesPhone for your appointment today!757-253-7790www.illusionsbymarcus.comOffers good through 8/30/11(L to R) Lauren Klein, Mandi Ghoreishi, Amparo Crawford, Louise Gold. (Middle) Patty Johnson374 McLaws Circle • Suite OneOpen: Mon. - Fri. 9am to 6pmSat. 8am to 4pmEvening Appointments AvailableNow book yourappointments onlineand SAVE 10%cannot be combined with other offersLook at Your PropertyThrough Our EyesFrom concept to finished product, webring your dream of an outdoor oasis to life!Mid Atlantic Enterprise, Inc. provides expert design andinstallation for all of your outdoor living needs.www.midatlanticenterprise.com757-903-6275License No. 2705 121083AOur missionis to make yourproperty a retreat...a place where youlook forward tospending time.● Water Features ● Fire Features ● Patios ● Outdoor Kitchens● Outdoor Lighting ● Pools ● Retaining Walls ● Walks ● Pergolas ● More!NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 37

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Dr. Gerald DeWittN e x t D o o r N e i g h b o r sHealthNavigatingYour Child’s Early YearsBy Greg Lilly, EditorWhen discussing children’s developmentfrom infancy to school-age, Dr. Gerald DeWittbrings up a point about a baby’s early development.“First, I tell parents that you cannottrain a baby to sleep through the night untilhe’s around four to six months old, but thething I try to emphasize to them is that sleepingthrough the night is not the child sleepinga solid eight hours.”Dr. DeWitt says the expression “sleepthrough the night” is an incorrect term.“For a parent, ‘sleeping through the night’ isthat the child does not wake up the parent duringthe night.” Dr. DeWitt explains that mostpeople do not sleep continuously through thenight, but actually wake up, look at the clock,Weight Loss With AMedical Degree of Difference.“My CMWL Doctor has the training and tools Idon’t find with other weight loss programs. Now Iunderstand the root causes of my weight issuesand feel confident I can overcome them with myown personalized plan.”roll over and go back to sleep, sometimes noteven remembering.“Children do the same thing,” he adds. “Ifthe baby is in the parent’s bedroom, and theyhear the child stirring around, they think he’snot sleeping through the night. He’s going todo that. You want him to learn how to gethimself back to sleep. You want to teach a childMarlene Capps, MDCommunicationChallenges?• Articulation Delays• Apraxia of Speech• AutismCall today to schedule acomplimentary consultation.(757) 645-3339to comfort themselves, teach them to go backto sleep when they wake up because they aregoing to wake up.”Dr. DeWitt grew up in Lynchburg, Virginiaand headed to school in Charlottesville. “I wasin Charlottesville for 15 years,” he says. “Allat the University of Virginia: undergraduate,medical school, residency and faculty. I spent• Parkinson’s Disease• Language Delays• Accent ModificationJacque Jordan, CCC-SLPChildren, Adolescents & AdultsWORDS MATTER, LLCSPEECH & LANGUAGE THERAPY SERVICES358 McLaws Circle, Suite 1 • www.wordsmatterslp.comLisa W. Cumming PhotographyNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 39

five years on the faculty at the University inthe Department of Pediatrics.” He received anoffer to work in Pediatric Education and Neonatalcare at Riverside in Newport News. Aftera few years living in Newport News, he decidedWilliamsburg would suit his family better.“We moved to Lightfoot and then to Toano,”he says. “After 17 years at Riverside, I decidedI wanted to be in a practice for more long termcontact with patients and families. I joined Dr.Georgia Prescott here in Williamsburg, whichwas 17 years ago.”With so many years in pediatrics, Dr. De-Witt had seen earlier generations of babiesbringing in their own babies for his advice onraising a healthy child. That process starts atthe beginning.“A healthy pregnancy is the foundation ofraising a healthy child,” he says. “Choose a pediatricianwho shares your philosophy aboutfeeding, behavior and overall health. We arepartners with parents on getting this baby frominfant to a child then to an adult in the healthiestway possible.”Parents are advised to talk with several pediatricians.Dr. DeWitt says, “Discuss withpotential pediatricians how patients are managed,philosophies, immunizations, what visitsare like.” Unlike some medical specialties, pediatricsdoesn’t focus primarily on the physicalexamination. “That is the smallest partof the visit,” Dr. DeWitt explains. “Talkingabout what’s happening with the child adjustswith each visit. In pediatrics, there are continuouschanges happening. Every time thepatient comes in, there are different aspects ofthe child’s life to examine. When do we startsolids in his diet? When do we try to get himto sleep through the night? When do we tryto toilet train him? When do we teach him toride a bike? That’s the bulk of ‘well child’ visits:talking about what he’s doing, if he’s doing allthe things he is supposed to, how to help himdo the things he needs to do, and how to keephim safe.”Knowing what to expect is part of the journeyto a healthy lifestyle, but setting an exampleis a major component too. “The biggest thinga parent can do is modeling,” Dr. DeWitt advises.“Parents with unhealthy habits, whethereating habits or inactive lifestyles, transmitthose to the kids. Parents, who ride bicycles,while that’s good, should wear a helmet. I seechildren with helmets and the parents withouthelmets. That teaches the child that by a certainage he can ride without a helmet. Samewith parents letting children ride in the carwithout a seatbelt or car seat. That’s part ofwhat the pediatrician talks with parents about,the modeling behavior.”Children learn more by example than bywhat they are told. Parents, who drink soda allday and are big fast food fans, will see theirchildren mimic those habits. “I see that whenparents ask why their child is overweight,” Dr.DeWitt states.Mimicry, Dr. DeWitt explains, is somethingwe do all our lives, usually unconsciously. “It’sthe experience of feeling – ‘oh, my mom usedto do that.’ The way you react or handle a particularsituation, it’s natural. We learn as wegrow up how to relate to people, handle situations,deal with problems by what we see andexperience. Those internalized reactions comeout later. The more parents can model behaviorsthat they want, the more the children willdo it later on.”As a baby grows and changes, pediatriciansoffer more information for parents in the formof classes and workshops. “We have a lactationconsultant who can help parents with breastfeeding,” Dr. DeWitt says of his practice at PediatricAssociates of Williamsburg. “We havebaby care classes offered here called ‘Baby CareGiving yourfamily morereasons to smileWe treat patients of all ages!Your Locally Owned Drug Storefor 116 YearsWe Deliver!Dr. Steve StenslandRead what people are saying about us on our websiteLocated in New Town757-645-4055www.mywilliamsburgdentist.comFind out why it makes sense to enjoy old fashionedconvenience and service. Call us today or come see us!(757) 229-1041● FREE Delivery ofYour Prescriptions● Full Service Pharmacy● US Post Office● Home Health ItemsAll major prescription insurance plans accepted.We honor all $4 and $10 generic lists.We look forward to serving you!240 McLaws Circle - Next to StarbucksRoute 60 near Busch Gardens in Market Place Shopping Center40 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011

101.’ And we have ‘Baby Massage’ classes forbabies who are a little bit irritable or fussy.“One of the things most frustrating for parentsand gets them into bad situations withtheir children,” he explains, “is when kids arefussy.” Many times, parents are unsure how tocalm or soothe a crying baby.“Babies cry a lot in the first few months,”Dr. DeWitt explains, “and some parents thinkthere must be something wrong. That’s whatbabies do. That’s part of what we talk aboutat the visits: here’s what to expect the baby tobe doing, here’s how often he should sleep andeat. We try to get them to understand. Mostyoung parents have not had child care experienceor nearby extended family as was the casein the past.”During Dr. DeWitt’s time with parentsand their child, he evaluates the child’s development.“Is his speech coming along? Is hestarting to scribble and draw pictures?” Dr.DeWitt lists. “Is he learning letters, numbersand colors? Those are some of the basics that heneeds to achieve to be on the road to attendingschool.”Heading to school also involves socializationfor the child. Dr. DeWitt encourages parentsto start having children do things without theparent, like a mother’s morning out, where thechild gets used to not being with the parent.“Children going to school need to be able toseparate, tolerate not having their mother withthem,” he explains. “So if you start earlier, sayat three or four years old, even a babysitter orswitching with a neighbor for a few hours eachweek gives the child some experience with othersituations and other caretakers, more experiencesthan just being with the parent. Thoseare the kinds of things that get a child ready forschool. Start early and do small pieces.”The field of pediatrics stays exciting for Dr.DeWitt with the changes he’s seen over theyears. “Some of the biggest advancements I’veseen,” he describes, “are immunizations. WhenI started in practice, we would see a child withmeningitis frequently. Now, we haven’t seenone in several years.” He says he used to seechildren with polio or children dying frommeasles. “Those things, in this country, are almostgone. It allows us and the parents to focuson other things like development and healthylifestyles because we’re not treating those illnessesthat are being prevented by immunizations.”A new vaccine that has him excited aboutthe future is the human papillomavirus (HPV)vaccine for cervical cancer. “This new developmentwill change people’s lives,” Dr. DeWittstates. “If you have a vaccine that will prevent90 percent of a certain type of cancer, that’s abig deal. I think there will be more of thosetypes of things coming.”From first accomplishments to startingschool, a child develops rapidly during his earliestyears. Parents may find keeping up withthe changes a challenge, but Dr. DeWitt advisesto use a child’s pediatrician as a resource.“Parents need to ask questions,” he says,“not to be embarrassed to say they don’t understandor know how to do something. Theyshould come in with written questions so thatthey don’t get home and think ‘I meant to askthis.’ I give parents handouts on what to expect.It’s hard to remember everything from adoctor’s visit.”Also, he advises to use reliable sources for answers,especially when using the Internet. Hesuggests well-known institutions like the Academyof Pediatrics (www.aap.org) or the Centerfor Disease Control (www.cdc.gov). From understandingexactly what constitutes “sleepingthrough the night” to preparing a child for thefirst day of school, a child’s pediatrician helpsthe parents navigate the journey. NDNThe Greatest Thing About HavingA Choice Is The Freedom to make it.Life can be a wonderful adventure atany age, especially when you have thefreedom to make your own decisionsabout where and how to live it.Chambrel is designed for those whoappreciate extraordinary independence,with a secure and carefree lifestyle.To learn more about our exceptionalcommunity, call or visit today.Your time. Your life.Your place to live well.F r e d o mC h a m b r e l W i l l i a m s b u r gIndependent LivingPersonalized Assisted LivingExceptional Experiences Every Day SM3800 Treyburn DriveWilliamsburg, VA 23185(757) 220-1839www.brookdaleliving.comNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 41

N e x t D o o r N e i g h b o r sHomeLaura KinsmanThe TransitioningMindsetBy Greg Lilly, EditorTransitioning to a smaller home or retirementcommunity is a difficult decision formany seniors. Add to that the possibility thatyour adult children are living in distant townsor cities, and then the easiest option is to donothing. But that is putting off the inevitable.Williamsburg’s Laura Kinsman specializes inhelping seniors transition to new lives. Whetherdownsizing, moving to an assisted living communityor to another family member’s home,or liquidating estates, seniors and familiessometimes need local, third-party assistance.“My in-laws went to clean out a house ofa relative,” Laura says, explaining the genesisof her business, Williamsburg Estate Services.“They were exhausted when they came home.”Not only were they physically tired, but theyhad spent a considerable amount of money onairfare, hotel and rental car expenses, plus aweek of their vacation time.“I asked if there was not someone who couldhave done that for them, someone who livedin that town.That’s wheremy idea started;helping peoplewith the homeclean-out andworking withestates.”As partof Laura’sprocess, shefound thatan interestingstep incleaning out a home for an estatesale was the intermediary piece of a seniormoving to a retirement community.“Where my in-laws had helped ready a housefor an estate liquation after the death of a relative,another situation requires more time andconsideration – transitioning to a new home,”she says.Lisa W. Cumming PhotographySeniors who are downsizing, moving to aretirement community, or moving to anotherarea are not liquidating everything. They usuallyneed help deciding what to take and what tosell or donate. In the years since she started herservice, Laura has acquired techniques, contactsand methods to help both the senior and thePipe Replacement, Bath Remodeling,Installations, and RepairsPolybutylene (PB) pipes tend to crack and split with age. Homes that havepipes made from PB could experience leaking pipes and water damage.Call me to replace or repair your problem pipes!• Specializing in interior PB Pipe Replacement since 1995• New pipes installed using CPVC or Copper• First Class workmanship at a fair price• Expert drywall repairs included in your quoted priceJohn A. Tompkins & Son32 Years Plumbing ExperienceCall for More Information and a FREE QUOTE.Virginia Class A 757-221-0019Licensed www.metroplumbing.comInsured Plumbing &Building ContractorCustom Made MattressesAffordable • 90 Day Comfort Guarantee • Personal ServiceAsk About Our Active Duty &Retired Military Discounts!4500 John Tyler Hwy. • (757) 564-7378 • www.bedcraftersbymichelle.com“GIVE US ONE NIGHT...WE’LL GIVE YOU A BETTER DAY! I PROMISE.”42 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011

adult children make the process asstraightforward as possible.“It’s never easy,” she says.Laura grew up in Middleburg,Virginia and graduated from theUniversity of Virginia (UVa.) inCharlottesville. “[That’s] where Imet my husband,” Laura says. “Weboth attended UVa. He’s originallyfrom Williamsburg, and that’s howwe ended up here. We have livedhere for all but two years since wemarried in 1998.”She began her career working inrecruiting and human resources atNewport News Shipbuilding, andthen moved to the InformationTechnology area of the company.Laura earned her Masters of BusinessAdministration at the Collegeof William and Mary.“Then I left the shipyard andstarted working for a consultingfirm for a few years,” she explains.“I became a mom in 2005. Myoldest went to kindergarten thispast year, and a little bit of timewas freed up. My thought wasthat when my second one goes tokindergarten, I’d have my businessup and running full-time. Well,the idea jumped and [it] took mytime faster than I expected. I havea growing business, but still try tobe a stay-at-home mom. It’s a littlecrazy.”Laura realizes that she does morethan coordinate moves and estatesales for seniors. The psychologicalimpact of leaving the family homefor a new adventure is complicatedfor both parents and children.“Although, by the time I getcalled, the decision has been madeto move,” she says, “I know it’s reallytough.”She has worked with senior coupleswhere one has had more troublewith the transition than theother. “Give it time,” she advises.“Especially when one spouse hastransitioned well and the other stillhas trouble. You have to let themgo through their own process.”The new home must still feellike home even though not all thepossessions will move to the newplace.What are some ways Realtors®build relationships withbuyers and sellers?PILAND:It’s still all about relationships...those bonds based on trust, confidenceand knowledge will alwaysbe how homes are boughtand sold. There are many wayswe build relationships with thepublic, clients, fellow agents, supportteams and service providers.How do we find and build relationshipsthat ultimately will sellyour home?To start, let’s understand someterms. The word “media” is oftenoverused or perhaps misused.One definition of media is merelythe means of disseminating information.We often associatethe word “media” with the newspapers,magazines or news channelson the television, Internet orradio. We associate the words “socialmedia” with web based siteslike Facebook, Twitter, LinkedInor Plaxo. These permission basedsites allow for interaction on adirect basis. 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“We try not to take too much,” Laura says. “Ihelp the client look at the space they will haveand decide how much they can take. Maybethat favorite leather chair will not fit in the newhome, but let’s find something that will. At thesame time, don’t get rid of it all. I say take afew things, we can always remove excess itemslater.”Another aspect that helps a transition is havingfriends who have already downsized andmoved. “That’s why a lot of people move to aretirement community,” Laura explains. “Theymove because they just don’t want to keep upthe house anymore and their long-time neighborsand friends have already moved. They wantto have those options of the extra social activities,leave the over-sized, lonely house behind.When you make the move, jump in, explorethe new community, get involved.” The socialinteraction of a retirement community helps toease the change.For out-of-town children of a senior, Laurasays they should be part of the planning, butnot the actual work of sorting, packing andmoving.“The parents and the children need to cometo grips that the children are busy with theirown lives,” she stresses. “They can come and assistwith the process, but really can’t take thelead. They can’t take two weeks out of their lifeto help Mom go through Dad’s closet. That’shard for the adult children to admit. The childrenneed to realize this for themselves. That’stough. Just from personal experience, I knowthat’s a tough truth to acknowledge.”She suggests adult children talk with theirparents about the reasons for a move. “Helpthem understand that this is to make life easier,”she says, “to keep them from over-exerting.That discussion can move the process alongto where they are happier - not lonely in thehome or struggling to do too much around thehouse.”Once the decision is made, the next step isto sort through the home to see what should begiven to family or charity, what could be sold tohelp off-set the costs of the move or what justneeds to be disposed of.“I always suggest that the adult children makesure the family has everything out of the housethat they want,” Laura explains, “anything fromchildhood that is a memento or something specialto your parent that you want to keep.”Some people want to do the sorting themselves;some don’t have the time or energy. Lauraand her team, being a third party, can helpmake decisions easier.“People are a little hesitant to have a strangergo through their mom’s clothes,” she admits.But since she has been through the process severaltimes, she has more experience knowingwhat items might sell rather than what shouldbe donated. She can see the value that family,being too close or too emotionally connected,might not see.Laura’s advice to seniors is to start goingthrough closets, the drawers in the china hutch,the attic to see what you want to keep.“Ask your children what they want,” Laurasays. “I hate to say it, but a lot of the time, theydon’t want many things. Most adult children,at the age where their parents are going intoa senior living situation, those kids are settled,they have their own family, furniture and china.Some might want a particular item, but usuallynot a lot of things are on their list.”She says to begin discussing it with your childrento find out what they really want. Oncethat is done, you can start cleaning out. Youdon’t even have to act on it yet; just start thinkingabout it, getting into that mindset.In the process of change, Laura Kinsmanknows the right mindset is the first and biggeststep. NDNAbSOLute imprOvementGArAGe DOOrServiceSSpring Replacement • Panel ReplacementRefurbish Old Garage DoorsNew Garage Doors & More!Same Day Service!10% Discount forMilitary and SeniorsWe service all makes and models!HALF OFFElectric Garage Door Openerwith the purchase of a new garage doorWith coupon. Not to be combined with other discounts or offers.Fully InsuredLocally owned & operatedFor Professional Garage Door Service,Call Casey Bishop at757-345-9239www.absoluteimprovementgaragedoors.comWilliamsburg 757-220-9735Peninsula 757-220-9735 • Southside 757-499-97351544-E Penniman Rd., Williamsburg5253-A Challedon Dr., Va. Beach44 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011

Hey Neighbor!Backyard Getaway.Please visit www.WilliamsburgNeighbors.com and click on HeyNeighbor! for a complete list of current community announcements.To submit your non-profit event to Hey Neighbor! send a paragraphwith your information to: heyneighbor@cox.netHey Neighbor!WILLIAMSBURG PLAYERS2011-2012 SEASONTickets Available NowThis year in our new 316 seat venue,see the following: The Producers- Nov 3 - Nov 19, 2011; TheTaming of the Shrew- Jan 5 - Jan21, 2012; Pride and Prejudice -Mar 1 - Mar 17, 2012; Noises Off- Apr 19 - May 5, 2012; Curtains- Jun 14 - Jun 30, 2012. Seasontickets are $65.00. That’s only$13.00 per show, a savings of 28%over single ticket prices. Downloada season subscription form byvisiting the website www.williamsburgplayers.organd clicking onthe box office tab. Located at 200Hubbard Lane, Williamsburg, VA(757) 229-0431.Hey Neighbor!WILLIAMSBURG FARMER’SMARKETJuly 23, 2011Two Girls and a Hammer Productionswill provide the canningdemonstrations using seasonalproducts from the Market at 9:30a.m. and 10:30 a.m. Canningeducation program and handoutsmade possible by Ball & Kerrcanning products. 402 W Dukeof Gloucester St. in MerchantsSquare. www.williamsburgfarmersmarket.com757-259-3768Hey Neighbor!LEGAL OUTREACHPROGRAMJuly 23, 2011Free Legal Consultation is providedto those who meet financialcriteria and who live in Williamsburg,James City County andUpper York County. This effortis partnered by Williamsburg BarAssociation and Williamsburg-James City County CommunityAction Agency. Services will beprovided at William & Mary LawSchool, 613 S. Henry St., in Williamsburg,10 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.Law services include: uncontesteddivorce, landlord/tenant and realproperty, employment law, immigrationlaw, child custody andsupport, consumer law, will/estatelaw, bankruptcy, Medicaid, protectiveorders, social security, willsand estate planning, restorationof driving privileges, restorationof civil rights, domestic relationsand voting rights. Call Yvonneor Linda for an appointment at757-229-9332. You will be askedfor information concerning yourwages and other property that youhave. Your information is confidential.Walk-ins will be accepted,but there is no guarantee thatwalk-ins will be seen on that day.Hey Neighbor!EARLY CHILDHOOD MUSICSCHOOLJuly 25-29, 2011Morning or evening classes areavailable for ages 4-35 months(with parent) and ages 3-5 years(without parent). Age appropriateactivities are offered in a balancedprogram of singing, movement,listening, and playing instruments.Introduction to Keyboardis available for ages 6-7. The EarlyChildhood Music School is locatedat Williamsburg United MethodistChurch, 500 JamestownRoad, Williamsburg, VA 23185.Tuition is $36-$58 depending onage of child. There is an additionalfee for materials. For informationcontact Cindy Freeman, Director,at 757-229-1771 X 108 or cfreeman@williamsburgumc.org.Hey Neighbor!SECOND ANNUALCARDBOARD BOAT REGATTAJuly 30, 201110:00 am - 3:00 pm. Come jointhe Williamsburg Jaycees for theirSecond Annual Cardboard BoatDr. Maurice and Evelyn Grahamregatta at The Watermen’s MuseumAaron WilliamsOwner andCertified LandscapeProfessionalLet us transform your backyard intothe beautiful landscaped getawayyou have imagined!• DESIGN & INSTALLATION• MAINTENANCE SERVICES• BRICK PATIOS & WALKWAYS• IRRIGATION1554 Penniman Road • (757) 564-7011www.williamslandscapedesign.comCARPET CLEANING YOU CAN COUNT ON.Our Place or Yours!commercial • residentialBEFORENow located at 135 Powhatan SpringsRoad in Five Forks. GRAND OPENINGSPECIAL! Bring us your smaller area rugsto clean and enjoy a discount!Vickie Skutans, Co-Owner1/2 PRICE SPECIAL!ON ORIENTAL RUGSAllow us to Clean One Area or Oriental Rug, andWe’ll Clean a Second One.....HALF PRICE!Second rug must be same size or smaller. Cleaning of both rugsmust be done during same visit. Offer Expires 8/30/11(757) 564-8000• PONDS & WATERFALLS• LIGHTING• OUTDOOR KITCHENSAND MORE!Fringe Repair Service • Full Service Carpet CleaningUpholstery Cleaning • Tile & Grout • Pet Odors & StainsNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 45

Hey Neighbor!Please visit www.WilliamsburgNeighbors.com and click on Hey Neighbor! for a complete list of current community announcements.To submit your non-profit event to Hey Neighbor! send a paragraph with your information to: heyneighbor@cox.netin Yorktown. All proceeds benefitBig Brothers Big Sisters of GreaterWilliamsburg. They will be handingout prizes for everything frombest time to the Titanic award(most dramatic sinking!). Visitthem at www.williamsburgjaycees.org for event details. Questions orneed more information? Contactthem at president@williamsburgjaycees.orgor at (757) 243-6695.Hope to see you there!Hey Neighbor!12TH ANNUAL VT DAY– SCHOLARSHIP RECOGNI-TION & HOKIE SENDOFFAugust 13, 2011The Williamsburg Area Chapterof the VA Tech Alumni Associationwill be hosting its 12thAnnual VT Day – ScholarshipRecognition & Hokie Sendofffor New and Returning HokieStudents. Join fellow Hokies fora Back-to-School Hokie Send-offfor area Virginia Tech students.Alumni and friends will recognizethis year’s scholarship recipients.Please bring canned food goodsto support the Hokie Bird FightsHunger Campaign. All cannedgoods will go to our local FISHorganization. We hope to see youthere! For registration and details,visit: http://williamsburghokies.com. If you need more information,please contact Jim McKown,President, WilliamsburgArea Chapter (WBAC) – VTAA,WBAC-VTAA@cox.net Web:WilliamsburgHokies.comHey Neighbor!THE VINEYARDS OFWILLIAMSBURG 5KAugust 13, 2011Sentara presents a family event tobenefit Child Development Resources.Children’s games and activities,a picnic supper and Ben &Jerry’s ice cream are included in theregistration fee. This is one eventthat attracts walkers and runnersof all ages. This scenic 5K throughThe Vineyards of Williamsburgboasts 800+ attendees, including5K finishers, fun runners, volunteers,and enthusiastic familiesand has become one of the mostpopular races around. Registeronline at cart.cdr.org. Race detailsat vineyards5k.cdr.org.Hey Neighbor!BRUTON PARISH CHURCHANNUAL BOOK SALESeptember 1-4, 2011Thursday Noon – 7 pm, Friday9 am – 5 pm, Saturday 8 am – 5pm, Sunday 9 am – 3 pm. Dates& Times above are for book saleonly. “The Biggest & Best BookSale in Town” - baked goods andbeverages for sale by the BrutonParish Cookbook Committee.Hey Neighbor!BRUTON PARISH PRE-OWNED JEWELRY &ACCESSORIES SALESeptember 2-5, 2011Featuring gently used jewelry,scarves, ties, etc. all at amazingprices! This Sale will be in The BrutonParish Gift Shop at the sameaddress during gift shop hours.Bruton Parish Church, Lewis Hall(229-2891).erback Books $1.00CD, DVD & Puzzles $2.00Hey Neighbor!EARLY CHILDHOOD MUSICSCHOOL FALL CLASSESSeptember 12, 2011Early Childhood Music SchoolBark in the ParkSat., Sept. 109am to 5pmChickahominyRiverfront Parkwww.heritagehumanesociety.org(under the auxiliary tab)fall classes for children ages 2months through 8 years will beginthe week of September 12.Morning and evening class timesare offered. The school nurtureschildren’s natural musical instinctswhile encouraging creativity, motordevelopment, and literacythrough singing, movement, listening,and playing instruments.Keyboard classes for children 6-8years old and adults will also beoffered. Childcare at a nominalfee will be offered for siblings ofThursday morning infants. TheEarly Childhood Music School islocated at Williamsburg UnitedMethodist Church, 500 JamestownRoad, Williamsburg, VA23185. For information contactCindy Freeman, Director, at 757-229-1771 X 108 or cfreeman@williamsburgumc.org.Hey Neighbor!2ND ANNUALWILLIAMSBURG LANDING5K FOR ARC AWARENESSSeptember 24, 2011Williamsburg Landing is hosting a5K run/walk competition and 1-mile fun run/walk to benefit theArc of Greater Williamsburg, theirprograms and services. The courseis nestled in the gentle tree coveredhills surrounding Williamsburg;this out-and-back course traversesthe 137 acre campus of WilliamsburgLanding which neighborsCollege Creek. All proceeds tobenefit The Arc of Greater Williamsburg.Registration: http://www.thearcgw.org . Contact:Andy Switzer , aswitzer@williamsburglanding.com,Phone:757-565-6547, 3000 TheMall, Williamsburg VA 23185.Hey Neighbor!COLONIAL ROAD RUNNERSGRAND PRIX EVENTOctober 15, 2011James City Stadium in WarhillSports Complex, 8:30/9:00 starttime. 4725 Stadium Drive, Williamsburg.Fees: $20.00 to$35.00. Registration closing date:Wednesday, October 12, 2011 @11:59 PM. A challenging combinationof roads and beautifulnature trails through the WarhillSports Complex and adjacentroads. Walkers welcomed. Onlineregistration closes at midnight onOctober 12. There will be raceday registration until 8:00 a.m.Checks and cash only accepted.Supporting Beyond Boobs! Inc., aWilliamsburg based 501(c)3, nonprofitorganization dedicated tosaving lives by providing supportfor young women diagnosed withbreast cancer and breast healtheducation for all.Hey Neighbor! is a free service ofNext Door Neighbors magazine.It provides non-profit organizations,civic groups and churches with away to communicate events andhappenings to the public. To haveyour event considered for publication,please email the name of theevent, date of event and five or sixdescriptive sentences describing theevent. Only submissions received inparagraph form (similar to what ison this page) will be accepted. PDFfiles of flyers or other graphic files willnot be accepted. Send your emails to:HeyNeighbor@cox.net. If you haveany questions, please call MeredithCollins at 757-560-3235.A WALK FOR THE DOGSPLEDGE SHEETS AVAILABLE NOW!* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *SLAPWATERPERFORMS LIVE AT 4:00PM46 NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011

Williamsburg’sIN THENEIGHBORHOODphoto challengePATRIOTISM AT THEFARMERS’ MARKETFind the 12 differencesbetween the originalphotograph (top) andthe altered photograph(bottom).Enjoy!Look for the answersin the next issue ofNext Door Neighbors.July 2011In the NeighborhoodPhoto ChallengeNEXT DOOR NEIGHBORSAUGUST2011 47

Next Door NeighborsCollins Group, LLCPO Box 5152Williamsburg, VA 23188(757) 560-3235PLEASE DELIVER 7/21 to 7/23WE’RE ABOUT THEAMERICAN DREAMQueens LakeGracious traditional 3,275 sqft home.Bright open floor plan includes twoback to back LRs, one with FP, DR,family room with second FP and largeeat-in gourmet kitchen plus bonus.Located on quiet cul-de-sac near communityfacilities, with lake, creek, pond,two pools, marina, clubhouse and tennis.$485,000. MLS# 30027570757-876-3838susansmith@lizmoore.comwww.lizmoore.com/susansmith110 HermiTage roadWilliamsburgMasterfully built using reclaimed brick, this Colonial3 BR, 2.5 BA home has the character ofold and the convenience of new. Recently renovatedkitchen with lots of cabinets, wood floors& granite counters. Wood floors, new windows.Large LR w/FP. Large corner lot in a well establishedneighborhood, minutes away from NewTown and CW. $325,000.Tim Parker(757) 879-1781Cyril Petrop(757) 879-8811www.timparkerrealestate.comFords ColonyExceptional Golf Course Home. This3,600 sqft custom home has views ofthe scenic 11th and 12th holes on theBlue Heron course. Spacious, openfloor plan with first floor master suite.Huge deck, walkout basement and privatecul-de-sac location. Owner says,“Bring all offers.”Susan KrancerREALTOR ®Liz Moore & Assoc.5350 Discovery Park Blvd.Williamsburg, VA 23188ph: 757-784-0363 fax: 757-240-5666golfproperties@cox.netwww.WilliamsburgGolfProperties.comFORD’S COLONYPriced below recent appraisal. 2006 customhome offers quality amenities. Fromgorgeous HW floors to gourmet kitchenw/wine cooler, quartz counters, stainlessappliances & more! Main level w/largemaster suite. Upstairs are 2 large BRs,“hobby room,” & huge loft w/wet-bar &Murphy Bed. Private, mature, low maintenancelandscaping.Screened porch,Trex Deck, brick patio.3,700+ sqft, 3 BR, 2.5BAand over 600 sqft of unfinishedspace. $579,000Lorraine Funk757-903-7627lorrainefunk@lizmoore.comStonehouSe at Mill Pond3539 Splitwood RoadMeticulous custom home on the 13th fairwayof the Traditions Golf Course. 4 BRswith first floor master suite with trayedceiling and 3 full BAs and 1 half BA. Beautifulcolumned formal DR w/detailed ceiling.Open plan to the great room, built inbookshelves. Formal LR/study. HW floorsthroughout main level.Plantation Shutters onall windows. 3,315 sqft.$519,000.Charlotte Turner757-784-4317charlotteturner@lizmoore.comwww.homesbycharlotte.comGovernor’s Land1904 Nathaniel’s CloseStately lakefront home on one acre lot w/golf views. Marble floored entry w/curvedstaircase, two story office/club room w/floor to ceiling windows. Formal DR andLR each with FP. 5 BR with ensuite BAs.Family room opens to gourmet kitchen,bonus/exercise, and game room. Southerncomfort and entertaining opportunitieslike no other. $1,650,000.(757) 869-5533amerika@lizmoore.comBerkeley’s Green3401 Wexford RunAbundance of natural light, great livingspace, updated granite kitchen,large yard with irrigation, close enoughto walk to the pool. Popular schools!An opportunity to live in one of Williamsburg’sfavorite neighborhoods!$299,900.andrea@williamsburghomefinder.comLive in Port Anne where the charmof walking to Colonial Williamsburgmeets elegant & relaxed living! Locatedwithin the city limits, this delightfulRon Curtis home will not disappoint.Kitchen offers new s/s appliances, newgranite and opens to family room. Spacious1st floor MBR retreat. 2 guest BRsboth w/ en suite BAs. Screened porchand backs to greenspace! $535,000.757-503-1999deelynneilson@lizmoore.comwww.PremierWilliamsburgRealEstate.comLIZ MOORE & ASSOCIATES • 5350 DISCOVERY PARK BLVD. • WILLIAMSBURG, VA 23188 • 757-645-4106 • WWW.LIZMOORE.COM