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Profiling world changers, eco-warriors, peace makers
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In Maggie’s words ...<br />
What inspires me<br />
I get inspired by kindness – wherever I see it, hear about it<br />
or sense it, it just makes my heart expand and I cry tears of<br />
pure joy. I feel blessed to have been gifted my four sons … so<br />
I am also always deeply grateful.<br />
Best advice<br />
Well, I have two pieces of advice that I have come to live<br />
by. Don’t just believe in miracles — expect them! Secondly,<br />
never put anything off – do it now ‘just in case’. In my death<br />
and dying work I have met so many people who thought<br />
they had so much time – to play more, to have great<br />
holidays, to work on a dream …<br />
After recovering from what turned out to<br />
be a hormonal dysfunction that mimicked<br />
a miscarriage, Maggie began to regard the<br />
experience as a blessing. “I was so grateful to<br />
be alive,” she says. “I started to drop the little<br />
meaningless stuff. There were days I’d leave the<br />
washing and go to the beach or the park. I got<br />
used to the noise, I got used to the chaos. I let the<br />
kids put their own clothes on – I didn’t care if they<br />
were dressed badly or I hadn’t wiped all the mess<br />
off their faces. Who cares if they’ve got Vegemite<br />
on them? I encouraged their own thinking. I<br />
started letting them do more for themselves. And<br />
I discovered that they were wiser than I thought.<br />
They were more capable than I realised.”<br />
POWER OF BEING REAL<br />
No longer teaching full-time while she brought<br />
up her boys, Maggie sought other ways to fill her<br />
time and fulfil her search for a sense of purpose.<br />
She came across a brochure calling for volunteers<br />
at a palliative care hospice. “I just thought ‘who the<br />
hell would do this’ and threw the letter in the bin,”<br />
she says. “But about four nights later I woke up in<br />
the night absolutely crystal clear and thought ‘you<br />
need to do this’.”<br />
She signed up, did the training and started the<br />
volunteer role as a bereavement coordinator.<br />
While she was uncomfortable with the physical<br />
and medical care, she came to realise the role she<br />
could play by simply being there, being honest,<br />
accepting suffering, and avoiding the temptation<br />
for false cheeriness. “I had a knack for making<br />
people comfortable, but without the bullshit, not<br />
sympathy but empathy,” she says. “I could sit with<br />
people quite comfortably in complete silence.”<br />
The role also taught her the value of honesty<br />
and of people’s remarkable capacity to withstand<br />
suffering. She remembers a 10-year-old boy with<br />
a brain tumour who was nearing his final days – a<br />
boy the same age as her oldest<br />
son – who helped her learn the<br />
power of being real. “He was the<br />
most beautiful, bright, shining,<br />
caring boy … and every day I’d<br />
think ‘shit I’m having to put a<br />
fake face on’,” she says. “Then one<br />
day I just said to him ‘you know I’m<br />
actually sad that you’re so sick. I don’t<br />
want to pretend that I’m happy. I can still<br />
laugh with you but I just want you to know<br />
that I am sad’ and he turned to me and said<br />
‘thanks for being honest’. He really appreciated<br />
that. That’s where I started my resilience<br />
understanding. I realised we don’t need to resist<br />
the suffering, we have the ability to cope with the<br />
big shit.”<br />
“Inside every<br />
single child there’s<br />
this pulsing place<br />
of potential.”<br />
MAGGIE DENT<br />
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