Caribbean Compass Yachting Magazine January 2017
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WHAT’S ON MY MIND<br />
Liveaboards: Sailing Solo<br />
versus Long-Term Lovers<br />
by Lindsay Bindman<br />
If you asked a single dude, living aboard his ship as he sailed the islands, what<br />
addition to his lifestyle could make him happier, his response would likely have<br />
something to do with companionship. Whether he wanted it for a night here and<br />
there, or a long-term partner to share the journey with, it’s easy to understand the<br />
loneliness that might come with watching the breathtaking <strong>Caribbean</strong> sunsets all by<br />
yourself each night. There’s something about sharing an incredible moment, view or<br />
experience with another person that can make it so much more meaningful.<br />
My dad was lucky enough to have more than 50 visitors join him aboard his<br />
Vagabond 47 ketch, Vagabond, in the <strong>Caribbean</strong> last year and a few more since he<br />
began his journey — including myself for long stretches — but during the times he’s<br />
alone, I always wish he’ll find good company.<br />
‘This would’ve been pretty damn romantic<br />
if I had the right person here with me’<br />
I can remember standing on the island that Captain Jack Sparrow is marooned on<br />
(twice) in the “Pirates of the <strong>Caribbean</strong>” movie. It’s located in the Tobago Cays in real<br />
life, as many of you know. I looked up from this beautiful paradise and saw a rainbow.<br />
It was a moment I’ll remember for the rest of my life, but I was alone, and I also<br />
remember thinking, “Man, this would’ve been pretty damn romantic if I had the right<br />
person here with me.”<br />
However, this brings me to the flip side. During our sailing adventures, we’ve had<br />
many a buddy-boat, and therefore met many a romantic couple. If you are someone<br />
who’s sailing around the world with their partner, I would venture to say that there<br />
aren’t too many more adventurous or romantic experiences than the one you’re<br />
sharing right now. Dropping the anchor and feeling like you and your partner are<br />
the only two people that exist in your own personal paradise must be incredible. But<br />
it can also be enough to drive a person crazy! Feeling for so much of the time like<br />
no one else exists except for the partner you share a medium-sized sailboat with!?<br />
Couples who have shore-based lifestyles usually lead different lives that they choose<br />
to come together and share at the end of each day. They probably have different jobs,<br />
their own set of friends and hobbies. Being part of a long-term liveaboard couple<br />
that’s sailing the <strong>Caribbean</strong> together means the most space you’re getting from your<br />
partner is maybe going for a solo snorkel. The friends you make are likely other<br />
liveaboard couples, a relationship you also share with your partner. And you’re<br />
always thought of as a unit — your own name followed immediately by your partner’s<br />
and then the name of your boat. Let’s not pretend that this doesn’t bring about<br />
myriad challenges.<br />
My dad and I have met many a beautiful couple, and when viewing them through<br />
my own single lens it was easy to see them as the epitome of happiness. But upon<br />
getting to know these people, I was able to see that there are two very valid sides to<br />
the same coin. I know from experience that being single as you travel through the<br />
most beautiful parts of the world can evoke a very real loneliness. But I’ve also seen<br />
that sharing a small space with your partner for months or years straight, without<br />
natural breaks from one another, can create many struggles.<br />
So, I think the moral of the story is the “when in Rome” philosophy. By this I mean<br />
that if you are traveling in a committed relationship with someone you respect, enjoy<br />
it. Enjoy the shit out of it because nothing can compare to shared happiness and the<br />
level of trust necessary to keep your relationship, and your boat, afloat. And if you<br />
find yourself alone, enjoy the freedom and simplicity — you never know who you<br />
might meet in the next port!<br />
JANUARY <strong>2017</strong> CARIBBEAN COMPASS PAGE 47<br />
COMPASS<br />
CARTOON<br />
BILL THOMAS