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the<br />

DOVE<br />

m i n i s t r y • m a g a z i n e<br />

L i v i n g L i k e J e s u s<br />

stories of inspiration<br />

S t . D a v i d ’ s E p i s c o p a l C h u r c h<br />

MARCH & APRIL <strong>2017</strong> VOL. 31 NO. 42


In this Issue<br />

From the Rector 2<br />

Looking Back 3<br />

Looking Forward 5<br />

763 South Valley Forge Rd. | Wayne, PA 19087<br />

www.stdavidschurch.org | 610.688.7947<br />

Sunday Worship Schedule<br />

8:00am | Holy Eucharist Rite I —Church<br />

9:15am | Holy Eucharist Rite II —Chapel<br />

11:15am | Holy Eucharist Rite II —Church<br />

5:00pm | Holy Eucharist Rite II —Church<br />

Clergy<br />

The Rev. W. Frank Allen | Rector<br />

The Rev. Amanda Eiman | Associate Rector<br />

The Rev. Dr. <strong>Mar</strong>tha Tucker | Associate Rector<br />

The Rev. Matthew Dayton-Welch | Associate Rector<br />

The Rev. Dennis Reid | Associate Rector<br />

The Rev. Dr. Alexander McCurdy, III | Associate Rector<br />

The Rev. Ed Shiley | Associate Rector<br />

The Rev. William Wood, III | Associate Rector<br />

The Rev. Albert Zug | Adjunct Associate<br />

Staff<br />

<strong>Mar</strong>ilyn Callaghan | Parish Administrator<br />

Diane Dowlin | Administrative Assistant<br />

Elaine Giese | Music Librarian<br />

Randy Gopaul | Property Department, Custodian<br />

Matt Grove | Property Department, Cemetery Associate<br />

Kay Joseph | Parish Secretary<br />

<strong>Mar</strong>ia Leal | Director of Children’s Education<br />

Lauren Machowski | Director of Communications<br />

Kathy <strong>Mar</strong>cantonio | Administrative Assistant<br />

Joe Matsil | Property Department, Sexton<br />

Osvaldo Montes | Groundskeeper<br />

Leslie Robertshaw | Finance Manager<br />

Dr. Clair Rozier | Director of Music<br />

Dr. Elaine Sonnenberg | Associate Director of Music<br />

Buff Barnes | Spiritual Direction<br />

Judy Krischker | Wedding Coordinator<br />

<strong>Mar</strong>gie Winters | Director of the Gift Shop<br />

Vestry Notes 8<br />

Inspire for the Glory of God<br />

By the Rev. Dennis Reid 9<br />

Let Your Light Shine Before Others<br />

By John Mason 11<br />

Inspiration in Haiti 13<br />

By Teri Santivasci<br />

The Reconciling Promise of Peace<br />

By the Rev. Matt Dayton-Welch 15<br />

Living Like Jesus<br />

Quotes o f Inspiration 17<br />

The Spirit Likes to Dress Up 18<br />

The Dove is a bi-monthly publication of St. David’s<br />

Episcopal Church, Wayne, PA. Our mission<br />

is to know God in Jesus Christ and to make<br />

Christ known to others. We are a community<br />

founded in the love of Christ and a love of one<br />

another that seeks to draw everyone into a<br />

deeper life with God by using our gifts for ministry<br />

in building up the Body of Christ here and in<br />

reaching out to the world. For more information<br />

on ministries, events and education, please visit:<br />

www.stdavidschurch.org


Dear People of St. David’s,<br />

I pray that you and yours are well and am delighted to introduce<br />

you to a new format for our bi-monthly magazine.<br />

We have added two important components to the articles<br />

and scripture and poetry that are at the heart of our ministry<br />

magazine. First, you will notice that we’ve included<br />

some pictures and narrative of some of the ministries and<br />

events we’ve shared in over the past few month, including<br />

some of the recent work of the Vestry. Second, we’ve included<br />

some previews of important worship and activities<br />

coming our way in <strong>Mar</strong>ch and <strong>Apr</strong>il.<br />

Jeremiah 29:11<br />

“For I know I have<br />

plans for you,”<br />

declares the Lord,<br />

“plans to prosper you<br />

and not to harm you,<br />

plans to give you<br />

hope and a future.”<br />

The articles and scripture this month focus on Stories of<br />

Inspiration from our fellow members and clergy. Story is<br />

such a powerful means for grasping the faith and the life<br />

with God. Jesus knew that and told stories or parables<br />

with every teaching He offered. We know it as well. The<br />

stories of our lives and the stories of others’ lives give us<br />

hope and promise and a deeper understanding of the<br />

wonder of this earthly pilgrimage we walk.<br />

I hope this edition of our Dove inspires you with the power<br />

of God at work in your life and mine and so many persons<br />

we know. I hope, too, that the change in format is helpful<br />

in remembering the recent story of our common life and<br />

the inspired stories yet to be written. Watch for the Lenten<br />

meditation book coming out later this month and the<br />

opportunities that will provide all of us with daily ways to<br />

be more inspired by our gracious, loving God.<br />

Grace and Peace.<br />

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Christmas Pageant<br />

Every year, St. David’s Episcopal Church holds our annual Christmas Pageant the week<br />

before Christmas, with our parishioners as the stars of the show! We had three different<br />

performances—Sunday at 11:15am and 3:00pm, and Monday at 7:00pm, and all<br />

three were very well attended! The pageant itself was great, and a great reminder of<br />

the true meaning of Christmas. The actors themselves were wonderful as well— costumes<br />

were gorgeous, makeup was flawless, and the set was decorated beautifully.<br />

Even the HUGE sheep seemed to enjoy themselves (after a few brief altercations!).<br />

Christmas at St. David’s<br />

Christmastime here at St. David’s is one of the<br />

busiest, yet rewarding times of the year. We<br />

received MANY donations for the mitten tree<br />

and St. Barnabas homeless shelter, as well as<br />

thousands of dollars worth of gift cards for our<br />

partners in ministry in the Greater Philadelphia<br />

area. Parishioners also seemed to have a wonderful<br />

time at the many Christmas activities we<br />

had here at St.<br />

David’s—from<br />

Christmas Around<br />

the World, to the<br />

Gingerbread<br />

House & Advent<br />

Wreath Making.<br />

But even with all<br />

of this happening,<br />

it was still an very humbling time for us to celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior,<br />

Jesus Christ.<br />

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Men’s Fellowship Breakfast<br />

The Rev. Herb Lusk, former<br />

“praying tailback” for the<br />

Philadelphia Eagles.<br />

Once a month on Saturday, the Men’s Fellowship group<br />

gathers everyone together for a Men’s Fellowship Breakfast,<br />

and each month the speaker is even better than the<br />

last! In November, we had the Rev. Herb Lusk, the<br />

“praying tailback” on the Philadelphia Eagles football<br />

team from 1976-1978. In December we had David Hale<br />

Sylvester, who shared his story about how after his friend<br />

died in 9/11, he decided to change the world “one hug at<br />

a time” through international Hugs and High Fives tours,<br />

documentaries, books and personal outreach. Finally, in<br />

January we hosted fellow parishioner Michael Merrick,<br />

and he shared a story on the fascinating life of General<br />

Anthony Wayne, grandfather of famed Revolutionary<br />

War Hero, General “Mad” Anthony Wayne (and supposed<br />

great-great grandfather of Batman!) who is buried in the<br />

church cemetery.<br />

Alpha<br />

For the first time in a few years, St. David’s hosted an ALPHA course beginning on<br />

Wednesday, January 11th, with the Rev. Dr. <strong>Mar</strong>tha Tucker as the clergy support. Even<br />

though it was right after the holidays, we received over 60 registrants for the course—<br />

an extremely encouraging number! For those of you who don’t know ALPHA, it is a series<br />

of sessions exploring the Christian Faith. It begins with dinner, followed by a video<br />

presentation by Nicky Gumbel, and ends with a discussion in friendly small groups.<br />

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Stations of the Cross<br />

During Holy Week, St. David’s has a Stations of the Cross meditation time every weekday<br />

starting at 6:00pm.The 14 stations focus on specific events of His las day, beginning<br />

with His condemnation, and are used as a mini pilgrimage as each person moves from<br />

station to station. At each station, everyone recalls and meditates on the specific event<br />

from Christ’s last day.<br />

Easter Egg Hunt & Flowering of the Cross<br />

This year, the day before Easter on <strong>Apr</strong>il 15th, kids and their parents gather in the<br />

Fairgrounds for our annual Easter Egg Hunt and Flowering of the Cross! Starting at<br />

9:00am, kids race around the field<br />

trying to collect as many eggs as<br />

they can find—all of them filled<br />

with yummy chocolate! Parents<br />

are also encouraged to bring one<br />

flower to use<br />

for the decorating<br />

of the<br />

cross. The<br />

beautiful cross<br />

symbolizes the<br />

new life that<br />

emerges from<br />

the death of<br />

Good Friday.<br />

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Holy Week<br />

Holy week is a very humbling time for us at St. David’s. Here<br />

are the celebrations you can look forward to during this year’s<br />

Holy Week, from <strong>Apr</strong>il 9th—<strong>Apr</strong>il 16th.<br />

1. Palm Sunday Worship: <strong>Apr</strong>il 9th, 8:00am, 11:15am &<br />

5:00pm in the Church; 9:15am in the Chapel<br />

2. Stations of the Cross: Monday, <strong>Apr</strong>il 10th—Friday, <strong>Apr</strong>il<br />

14th, 6:00pm in the Chapel<br />

3. Maundy Thursday (<strong>Apr</strong>. 13th): (Footwashing, Holy<br />

Eucharist & Stripping of the Altar): 7:00pm in the Chapel;<br />

All Night Prayer Vigil in the Church<br />

4. Good Friday Worship: (<strong>Apr</strong>. 14th): 12:00pm in the<br />

Church; 7:00pm in the Chapel<br />

5. Holy Saturday (<strong>Apr</strong>. 15th): Easter Egg Hunt, 9:00am in the<br />

Fairgrounds; Easter Vigil, Holy Baptism & Holy Eucharist,<br />

7:00pm in the Chapel<br />

6. Easter Sunday Worship (<strong>Apr</strong>. 16th): 8:00am, 11:15am &<br />

5:00pm in the Church; 9:15am & 11:15am in the Chapel<br />

Fr. <strong>Mar</strong>tin Smith, Theologian in Residence<br />

Theologian in Residence, the Rev. <strong>Mar</strong>tin Smith, will be<br />

visiting St. David’s Church for a dinner and discussion on<br />

Friday, <strong>Apr</strong>il 28th at 6:00pm in St. David’s Hall, and he<br />

will offer his meditations on Saturday, <strong>Apr</strong>il 29th. <strong>Mar</strong>tin<br />

Smith is well known throughout the Episcopal Church as<br />

writer, spiritual director, retreat leader, and teacher exploring<br />

contemporary spirituality. A priest since 1971, he<br />

most recently served as the Senior Associate Rector at St<br />

Columba’s church in Washington, D.C., in the Diocese of<br />

Washington, while continuing to travel widely for his<br />

teaching ministry. He retired in July 2012, and continues<br />

to devote himself to writing, preaching and the leading<br />

of retreats and workshops. For more information, keep<br />

checking back to our website!<br />

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St. David’s Episcopal Day School<br />

We are extremely proud to announce that enrollment<br />

is officially open for our brand new Day<br />

School! St. David’s Episcopal Day School (SDEDS)<br />

will be opening in September <strong>2017</strong>, and is a nonprofit<br />

day school and member of the National Association<br />

for Episcopal Day Schools. We have recently<br />

hired our new Day School Director, Lisa<br />

Black, and we are looking forward to see what<br />

God has in store for this new adventure within our<br />

church. If you have any questions or would like to<br />

enroll, contact Lisa at SDEDS@stdavidschurch.org,<br />

or visit our website at stdavidschurch.org/st.-davids-episcopal-day-school.<br />

Women’s Ministry Retreat<br />

No matter what your age, we all long for deeper connections with God, with<br />

ourselves and with our friends and families. When we learn how, we experience<br />

peace-of-mind, an awareness of joy-full moments, and richer communication.<br />

The Women’s Ministry will be having<br />

their annual Women’s Retreat beginning<br />

at the Pendle Hill Retreat Center in<br />

Media PA on Friday, <strong>Mar</strong>ch 17 to Saturday,<br />

<strong>Mar</strong>ch 18th. This year’s retreat will<br />

be led by De Yarrison of Conversation<br />

Revolution, and it<br />

will be sure to be a relaxing<br />

time filled with compassion,<br />

support, meditation, and<br />

friendship.<br />

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The Vestry of St. David’s is responsible, with the staff, for planning and implementing<br />

the wide variety of worship and ministries that we all share in at St.<br />

David’s. The Vestry is also responsible for the finances and property of our parish.<br />

Each month the Vestry meets to share in a time of spiritual reflection, to hear<br />

updates from various commissions, and to make decisions for our common life.<br />

Among the topics and tasks taken up over the past fall, the Vestry:<br />

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<br />

<br />

<br />

<br />

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Worked with the Strategic Planning Task Force on expanding the participation<br />

of the parish through an electronic survey and plans for conversations<br />

in the spring.<br />

Appointed Jamie Arnold to lead the 1715 Society’s efforts to invite parishioners<br />

to remember St. David’s in their estate planning.<br />

Supported a fundraiser for the St. David’s Episcopal Day School and the ongoing<br />

search for a Director.<br />

Negotiated a lease agreement with Verizon for placing cell equipment in<br />

our steeple.<br />

Heard of the Arborist’s work to remove diseased trees and plant new trees<br />

on our campus.<br />

Received the news that RTR pledges continue to be received and that we<br />

will pay back the loan to the Graveyard endowment, used for cash flow during<br />

construction, by the beginning of <strong>2017</strong>.<br />

Received detailed reports on the ongoing ministry and plans for Discipleship,<br />

Fellowship, Stewardship, Family Ministries, Outreach and Finance.<br />

Approved the preliminary budget for <strong>2017</strong>.<br />

Did You Know?<br />

R. Brognard Okie, famous American architect who was noted for his Colonial<br />

Revival houses and sensitive restorations of historic buildings, such as the<br />

Betsy Ross House in Philadelphia, St. Peter’s Church in Great Valley, and the<br />

White House Historic District was a Vestry Member of St. David’s Episcopal<br />

Church?<br />

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“Many of us are<br />

missing something<br />

in life because we<br />

are chasing after<br />

what is second<br />

best.”<br />

Eric Liddell<br />

The saints of God are wonderfully curious people. As Lesbia<br />

Scott’s famous hymn reminds us, “you can meet them<br />

at school, or in lanes, or at sea, in church, or in trains, or<br />

in shops, or at tea.” The saints are all around us, you see,<br />

sometimes doing everyday things because the saints are<br />

everyday people! For sure, there are terrific stories regarding<br />

the saints that have developed over the many<br />

centuries of the Church: the Apostles healed the sick, St.<br />

George slayed a dragon, and St. Brigid turned bathwater<br />

into beer (a personal favorite!). Yet what really sets<br />

saints apart is their ability to inspire fellow Christians by<br />

doing seemingly everyday things for the glory of God.<br />

I remember being introduced to the idea of the everyday<br />

saints when I was in middle school. I ran track for<br />

Pennfield Middle School, and I especially enjoyed the<br />

sprinting events. I wasn’t particularly good at it, to be<br />

honest, but I wasn’t bad, either. I also knew I was drawn<br />

to sports because I felt a certain excitement and energy<br />

whenever I competed. It was around that time that I was<br />

told the story of Eric Liddell, a Scottish missionary to<br />

China who was also a world class sprinter. Liddell earned<br />

a spot on Great Britain’s 1924 Olympic Team, with his<br />

best event being the 100 meter sprint. However, as the<br />

games approached, Liddell was scheduled to run one of<br />

his 100 meter heats on a Sunday. To the surprise of<br />

many, Liddell sat out his best event in order to honor the<br />

Sabbath. When many may have expected a lengthy explanation<br />

for such an act of both devotion and controversy,<br />

he simply quipped, “I’m not running.” Liddell prepared<br />

instead for the 400 meters and the 200 meters, and was<br />

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Inspired by a note given to him before the 400 meters by a team masseur that<br />

read: “In the old book it says, ‘He that honours me, I will honour.’ Wishing you<br />

the best of success always.” He went on to win gold in the 400 meters and<br />

bronze in the 200 meters.<br />

Eric Liddell’s story was put to the big screen in the 1981 classic film Chariots of<br />

Fire. In the film, Liddell’s character tries to explain to his sister that his running<br />

isn’t simply a distraction from his missionary work but rather a gift from God<br />

through which he might even make God known. Though the quote from the<br />

movie is apocryphal, the intent still hits home:<br />

“I believe God made me for a purpose, for China.<br />

But he also made me fast! And when I run,<br />

I feel his pleasure. To give it up would be to<br />

hold him in contempt...It's not just fun: to win<br />

is to honor him.”<br />

Eric Liddell’s story changed sports for me but<br />

also changed my understanding of joy and<br />

inspiration. I knew I enjoyed sports and running,<br />

but I didn’t realize that God had given<br />

me both the ability to play sports and joy that<br />

came from playing them. Liddell’s story is an<br />

inspiration to me because he lived his faith in<br />

such a way that both acknowledged his God<br />

-given gifts and, more importantly, honored<br />

God through worship and obedience, even<br />

in the midst of the Olympics.<br />

Photo courtesy of Corbis via Getty Images<br />

Eric Liddell, pictured winning the<br />

400m final at the 1924 Olympics in<br />

Paris.<br />

God has given gifts to each of the saints -- including you and me -- that through<br />

them we might build up the Kingdom of God and be drawn closer to God. Remember,<br />

Jesus called fishermen so that they would go out to use those skills,<br />

but instead by “fishing for people”. God called an Olympic sprinter to run not<br />

just for competition but to honor God while doing so. Like all the saints, you<br />

have gifts through which God is inspiring you and calling you! For all the remarkable<br />

stories of the saints, never forget that there’s even more everyday saints.<br />

After all, “the saints of God are just folk like me, and I mean to be one too.”<br />

The Rev. Dennis Reid<br />

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Matthew 15: 13-16<br />

“You are the light of<br />

the world. A city<br />

built on a hill cannot<br />

be hid. No one after<br />

lighting a lamp puts<br />

it under the bushel<br />

basket, but on the<br />

lampstand, and it<br />

gives light to all in<br />

the house. In the<br />

same way, let your<br />

light shine before<br />

others, so that they<br />

may see your good<br />

works and give glory<br />

to your Father in<br />

heaven.”<br />

Several years ago I went to a conference on missional outreach<br />

in San Diego, California. One of the speakers, a<br />

young woman, who along with her husband, were missionaries<br />

in eastern Europe.<br />

She gave a very good picture of what mission work was<br />

like in the twenty-first century in a former communist<br />

country. However, the one thing that really impressed<br />

me…and a lot of others in attendance…was her answer to<br />

a question at the end of her presentation.<br />

This young woman was asked, “How do you bring Jesus<br />

Christ to the local people? Do you tell them all about how<br />

Jesus Christ saves sinners and about His resurrection?<br />

Just how do you talk to them about being saved? How do<br />

you get their attention?”<br />

Her answer was “We don’t do anything like that” and her<br />

story proceeded something like this.<br />

We have found that approaching people directly with “the<br />

Story,” with “the Good News,” turns them off and causes<br />

them to avoid us in the future.<br />

This is how we proceed. When there is an earthquake, we<br />

are there helping people, finding food and shelter for<br />

those impacted, and helping people heal.<br />

When there is a fire, we are there helping people, doing<br />

the things that are needed to get the medical attention<br />

needed, to find a place for those affected to stay, and to<br />

make sure they have food.<br />

When housing for the poor is needed we help in the building<br />

where we can, we help find furniture and other things<br />

for the rooms, and council for owning and keeping up<br />

such facilities.<br />

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When there is a need for readers in a local school, we help to arrange people to<br />

help with the reading, to help with the understanding, and to support and encourage<br />

the children to do better.<br />

Then, we will go to a meeting somewhere nearby…for whatever reason…and<br />

someone will come up to me and say, “I saw you working with people after the<br />

earthquake and I saw you working with people at the fire at such and such a<br />

place, and I saw you working to house poor people in this and that area, and I<br />

saw you helping children learn to read. You don’t seem to get any payback or<br />

reward for any of this work. You don’t seem to be asking anybody for anything.<br />

Why are you there? And, why are you doing these things?”<br />

The young woman stopped…and, then she said…”Now, I’ve got them!”<br />

“Now, I explain my role model. Now, I make Christ known to others. But, I reveal<br />

the image of Christ to the questioner,<br />

because I want the questioner<br />

to focus on the behavior and the<br />

outcome of the behavior. I want<br />

the questioner to take my lead and<br />

follow the role model I follow.”<br />

People are looking for ways to act,<br />

or behave, or copy. People want to<br />

act in ways that bring about results,<br />

that bring about better outcomes,<br />

or that help them to make better<br />

decisions.<br />

We learn about God, and we learn how Jesus models the way God wants us to<br />

act. And, then it is our responsibility to pass that image along.<br />

It is not the doctrine or the theology that brings the people in. It is the outcomes<br />

of the way we act that can influence people to learn more about why we<br />

behave the way that we do.<br />

And, we hear from Jesus in the gospel of Matthew, “You are the light of the<br />

world. A city built on a hill cannot be hid. No one after lighting a lamp puts it<br />

under the bushel basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all in the<br />

house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see<br />

your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven.”<br />

To repeat…let your light shine before others….<br />

John Mason<br />

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Last summer Louise Haley, Rev. Matt Dayton-Welch and I<br />

went on an outreach trip to Haiti to visit our Haitian partner<br />

Pere Fred and his congregation at St. Mathias. St. Mathias<br />

is located in the mountainous area of Grande Colline.<br />

“We had to<br />

remind ourselves<br />

that it<br />

was 2016, and<br />

not a century<br />

earlier.”<br />

As we left Port-Au-Prince and headed to the mountains,<br />

we realized how isolated and remote Grand Colline truly<br />

is. Much of the roadway to Grand Colline is unpaved and<br />

barely passable. We saw young children walking on the<br />

“highways” carrying water jugs in search of potable water<br />

and old men walking<br />

their goats. We<br />

had to remind ourselves<br />

that it was<br />

2016 and not a century<br />

earlier.<br />

In this impoverished<br />

and beautiful<br />

nation we found many sources of inspiration:<br />

Our partner and friend, Pere Fred (or Father Fred). Not<br />

only is Pere Fred the religious leader for his community,<br />

but he is also the unofficial “mayor” of Grande Colline.<br />

People in the community frequently stop by Pere Fred’s<br />

house for advice, comfort and fellowship. He travels<br />

miles on dirt roads each week to reach his congregation<br />

and to teach at the seminary in Port-Au-Prince. His spirit<br />

and energy is indefatigable.<br />

The Haitians we met at church and in Grande Colline<br />

welcomed us into their community with open<br />

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hearts. These people have so little, yet they are proud and grateful for what<br />

they have.<br />

The beautiful two hour church service at St. Mathias. Although we couldn’t understand<br />

the French and Creole used at the service, we could feel the energy<br />

and spirituality of the congregation, particularly during the intercessions for the<br />

prayers of the people. Also we were amazed to see the congregants giving<br />

money for the collection, since they have so little to spare.<br />

Without a doubt, the most inspiring moment of the trip for all of us was our<br />

meeting with the vestry of St. Mathias after the church service. As we sat with<br />

the vestry on the porch of Pere Fred’s house, we<br />

discussed St. David’s relationship with St. Mathias<br />

Church. Matt explained how the people at St.<br />

David’s love to do projects and asked the vestry if<br />

there were any future projects for St. Mathias<br />

that we should consider. The head of the vestry<br />

explained that our visit was enough. She said that<br />

it meant so much to them that the three of us<br />

were willing to leave our families and our homes<br />

to spend time with them, especially since their<br />

own government has forgotten them. At that<br />

point, we were speechless and had tears in our<br />

eyes. We realized that these people were grateful<br />

for our fellowship and that just being together<br />

and praying together was enough.<br />

Of course, the people of St. Mathias appreciate<br />

the support that we give them each year, but we<br />

now understand that more importantly they are<br />

thankful for our thoughts and prayers.<br />

Visiting Haiti was a spiritual experience that has forever changed me. It is a special<br />

place where you feel closer to God. I feel blessed to know Pere Fred and<br />

feel inspired by the Haitians every day.<br />

Pere Fred—religious leader of<br />

Grand Colline and the unofficial<br />

mayor.<br />

Teri Santivasci<br />

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In a previous life, I worked for the U.S. State Department in Jerusalem advocating<br />

for human rights in Jerusalem, the West Bank, and the Gaza Strip. Much of that<br />

work was spent in the field, collecting stories and looking for trends that Washington<br />

policymakers might need to know, trends that frequently foiled efforts to establishing<br />

bilateral peace talks. Many of the stories began to mirror one another:<br />

peaceful people victimized<br />

by a system<br />

of oppression and, in<br />

turn, walling off their<br />

hearts from the vulnerability<br />

mutual<br />

peace requires.<br />

That’s how this intractable<br />

Israeli-<br />

Palestinian conflict<br />

Bassam Aramin (left) and Rami Elhanan (right)<br />

stays so intractable:<br />

it matriculates one-off<br />

instances until a whole new class of cruelty becomes normative.<br />

So Bassam Aramin’s story stood out to me. Bassam grew up experiencing firsthand<br />

the abuse commonly committed by the Israel Defense Forces (IDF), and he grew up<br />

in a Palestinian community that saw resistance to the IDF as commendable. At 17,<br />

he was sentenced to seven years in an Israeli military prison—once a right of passage<br />

for some Palestinian young men—for participating in an unsuccessful ambush<br />

of an IDF patrol. In prison he learned about the Holocaust, and the experience of<br />

that helped him understand his perceived enemy. When he was released from prison,<br />

he vowed to find another way to defend his people, and so he helped organize<br />

Combatants for Peace, a joint Israeli-Palestinian project which brought together<br />

former IDF soldiers and Palestinian militants.<br />

This outcome was unusual. Usually young hearts are hardened in prison, not illuminated,<br />

but Bassam saw too much common ground between his people and the Israelis<br />

to wage violence. He married and began to provide for his new children, one<br />

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Son and one daughter, and he advocated publicly for non-violence. His children<br />

admired his work, and he loved them, especially 10-year-old Abir. Something about<br />

dads and daughters.<br />

Which is what made that day in 2007 so unbearable. Abir had gone to see her<br />

friends after school. On their walk home, the girls passed some Palestinian boys<br />

throwing rocks at a distant IDF caravan. Abir and her friends had hoped only to<br />

pass through the mêlée; she did not participate in the rock throwing. But she was<br />

fired upon by the IDF troops just the same, hit in the head with a rubber-tipped<br />

bullet. She died three days later.<br />

Bassam’s faith in non-violence experienced its greatest, most personal challenge<br />

yet. Getting roughed up by IDF soldiers as a kid was one thing, but this trauma was<br />

in a whole new league. How could he possibly commit to non-violence after such<br />

personal, violent injustice?<br />

Amidst dark grief, Bassam’s circle of friends began to widen. He received messages<br />

from other Palestinians who had lost their children to IDF violence, and they had<br />

found solace—quite scandalously—in commiserating with Israeli parents who had<br />

lost children in acts of Palestinian violence. Indeed, a network was developing of<br />

parents, both Israeli and Palestinian, who had lost children to the conflict, and<br />

through them, Bassam found his path to healing.<br />

Which is how I met him. I wanted to hear his story. I needed to meet hope personified,<br />

hope that the promise of peace the Bible describes in this land was not lost.<br />

As a man of faith, I needed to believe that in a world of hardened hearts, God’s<br />

goodness could still break through.<br />

I met Bassam at a hotel lobby in East Jerusalem. Five minutes into our conversation,<br />

an Israeli man walked in. Bassam and the man said nothing, but Bassam stood<br />

and they embraced one another for what felt like a whole minute. They sat down<br />

together and even held hands, squeezing them like loved ones squeeze hands before<br />

surgery. Rami met Bassam through the parents group, now known as the Parents<br />

Circle. Rami had lost his daughter, Smadar, to a suicide bombing in 1997.<br />

I sat across from them astonished at their affection. Rami, wiping tears from his<br />

eyes, said, “I hope you don’t mind if I join you; I haven’t seen Bassam in a month.”<br />

Bassam, still squeezing Rami’s hand, looked at me and said, “I might have lost my<br />

daughter, you see, but I gained a brother, and he teaches me every day how promising<br />

reconciliation can be.”<br />

The Rev. Matthew Dayton-Welch<br />

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quotes of inspiration<br />

“Do not fear, I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will<br />

strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you in my righteous hand.<br />

Those who wage war against you, will be as nothing at all. For I am the<br />

Lord your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not<br />

fear; I will help you. Do not be afraid.”<br />

Isaiah 41:10, 12b-13<br />

“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting<br />

away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and<br />

momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs<br />

them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is<br />

unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”<br />

2 Corinthians 4:16-18<br />

“...The great thing to remember is that, though our feelings come and go,<br />

His love for us does not. It is not wearied by our sins, or our indifference;<br />

and, therefore, it is quite relentless in its determination that we shall all<br />

be cured of those sins, at whatever cost to us, at whatever cost to him.”<br />

C.S. Lewis<br />

“Do not ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and<br />

go do it. Because what our world needs is people who have come alive.”<br />

Howard Thurman<br />

“All that is gold does not glitter<br />

Not all those that wander are lost;<br />

The old that is strong does not wither,<br />

Deep roots are not reached by the frost.”<br />

J. R. R. Tolkein<br />

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The Spirit Likes to Dress Up<br />

The spirit<br />

likes to dress up like this:<br />

ten fingers,<br />

ten toes,<br />

shoulders, and all the rest<br />

at night<br />

in the black branches<br />

in the morning<br />

in the blue branches<br />

of the world.<br />

It could float, of course,<br />

but would rather<br />

plumb rough matter.<br />

Airy and shapeless thing,<br />

it needs<br />

the metaphor of the body,<br />

lime and appetite,<br />

the oceanic fluids;<br />

it needs the body's world,<br />

instinct<br />

and imagination<br />

and the dark hug of time<br />

sweetness<br />

and tangibility<br />

to be understood,<br />

to be more than pure light<br />

that burns<br />

where no one is --<br />

so it enters us --<br />

in the morning<br />

shines from brute comfort<br />

like a stitch of lightning;<br />

and at night<br />

lights up the deep and wondrous<br />

drownings of the body<br />

like a star.<br />

<strong>Mar</strong>y Oliver


763 South Valley Forge Rd. | Wayne, PA 19087<br />

www.stdavidschurch.org | 610.688.7947

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