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the<br />
DOVE<br />
m i n i s t r y • m a g a z i n e<br />
L i v i n g L i k e J e s u s<br />
stories of inspiration<br />
S t . D a v i d ’ s E p i s c o p a l C h u r c h<br />
MARCH & APRIL <strong>2017</strong> VOL. 31 NO. 42
In this Issue<br />
From the Rector 2<br />
Looking Back 3<br />
Looking Forward 5<br />
763 South Valley Forge Rd. | Wayne, PA 19087<br />
www.stdavidschurch.org | 610.688.7947<br />
Sunday Worship Schedule<br />
8:00am | Holy Eucharist Rite I —Church<br />
9:15am | Holy Eucharist Rite II —Chapel<br />
11:15am | Holy Eucharist Rite II —Church<br />
5:00pm | Holy Eucharist Rite II —Church<br />
Clergy<br />
The Rev. W. Frank Allen | Rector<br />
The Rev. Amanda Eiman | Associate Rector<br />
The Rev. Dr. <strong>Mar</strong>tha Tucker | Associate Rector<br />
The Rev. Matthew Dayton-Welch | Associate Rector<br />
The Rev. Dennis Reid | Associate Rector<br />
The Rev. Dr. Alexander McCurdy, III | Associate Rector<br />
The Rev. Ed Shiley | Associate Rector<br />
The Rev. William Wood, III | Associate Rector<br />
The Rev. Albert Zug | Adjunct Associate<br />
Staff<br />
<strong>Mar</strong>ilyn Callaghan | Parish Administrator<br />
Diane Dowlin | Administrative Assistant<br />
Elaine Giese | Music Librarian<br />
Randy Gopaul | Property Department, Custodian<br />
Matt Grove | Property Department, Cemetery Associate<br />
Kay Joseph | Parish Secretary<br />
<strong>Mar</strong>ia Leal | Director of Children’s Education<br />
Lauren Machowski | Director of Communications<br />
Kathy <strong>Mar</strong>cantonio | Administrative Assistant<br />
Joe Matsil | Property Department, Sexton<br />
Osvaldo Montes | Groundskeeper<br />
Leslie Robertshaw | Finance Manager<br />
Dr. Clair Rozier | Director of Music<br />
Dr. Elaine Sonnenberg | Associate Director of Music<br />
Buff Barnes | Spiritual Direction<br />
Judy Krischker | Wedding Coordinator<br />
<strong>Mar</strong>gie Winters | Director of the Gift Shop<br />
Vestry Notes 8<br />
Inspire for the Glory of God<br />
By the Rev. Dennis Reid 9<br />
Let Your Light Shine Before Others<br />
By John Mason 11<br />
Inspiration in Haiti 13<br />
By Teri Santivasci<br />
The Reconciling Promise of Peace<br />
By the Rev. Matt Dayton-Welch 15<br />
Living Like Jesus<br />
Quotes o f Inspiration 17<br />
The Spirit Likes to Dress Up 18<br />
The Dove is a bi-monthly publication of St. David’s<br />
Episcopal Church, Wayne, PA. Our mission<br />
is to know God in Jesus Christ and to make<br />
Christ known to others. We are a community<br />
founded in the love of Christ and a love of one<br />
another that seeks to draw everyone into a<br />
deeper life with God by using our gifts for ministry<br />
in building up the Body of Christ here and in<br />
reaching out to the world. For more information<br />
on ministries, events and education, please visit:<br />
www.stdavidschurch.org
Dear People of St. David’s,<br />
I pray that you and yours are well and am delighted to introduce<br />
you to a new format for our bi-monthly magazine.<br />
We have added two important components to the articles<br />
and scripture and poetry that are at the heart of our ministry<br />
magazine. First, you will notice that we’ve included<br />
some pictures and narrative of some of the ministries and<br />
events we’ve shared in over the past few month, including<br />
some of the recent work of the Vestry. Second, we’ve included<br />
some previews of important worship and activities<br />
coming our way in <strong>Mar</strong>ch and <strong>Apr</strong>il.<br />
Jeremiah 29:11<br />
“For I know I have<br />
plans for you,”<br />
declares the Lord,<br />
“plans to prosper you<br />
and not to harm you,<br />
plans to give you<br />
hope and a future.”<br />
The articles and scripture this month focus on Stories of<br />
Inspiration from our fellow members and clergy. Story is<br />
such a powerful means for grasping the faith and the life<br />
with God. Jesus knew that and told stories or parables<br />
with every teaching He offered. We know it as well. The<br />
stories of our lives and the stories of others’ lives give us<br />
hope and promise and a deeper understanding of the<br />
wonder of this earthly pilgrimage we walk.<br />
I hope this edition of our Dove inspires you with the power<br />
of God at work in your life and mine and so many persons<br />
we know. I hope, too, that the change in format is helpful<br />
in remembering the recent story of our common life and<br />
the inspired stories yet to be written. Watch for the Lenten<br />
meditation book coming out later this month and the<br />
opportunities that will provide all of us with daily ways to<br />
be more inspired by our gracious, loving God.<br />
Grace and Peace.<br />
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Christmas Pageant<br />
Every year, St. David’s Episcopal Church holds our annual Christmas Pageant the week<br />
before Christmas, with our parishioners as the stars of the show! We had three different<br />
performances—Sunday at 11:15am and 3:00pm, and Monday at 7:00pm, and all<br />
three were very well attended! The pageant itself was great, and a great reminder of<br />
the true meaning of Christmas. The actors themselves were wonderful as well— costumes<br />
were gorgeous, makeup was flawless, and the set was decorated beautifully.<br />
Even the HUGE sheep seemed to enjoy themselves (after a few brief altercations!).<br />
Christmas at St. David’s<br />
Christmastime here at St. David’s is one of the<br />
busiest, yet rewarding times of the year. We<br />
received MANY donations for the mitten tree<br />
and St. Barnabas homeless shelter, as well as<br />
thousands of dollars worth of gift cards for our<br />
partners in ministry in the Greater Philadelphia<br />
area. Parishioners also seemed to have a wonderful<br />
time at the many Christmas activities we<br />
had here at St.<br />
David’s—from<br />
Christmas Around<br />
the World, to the<br />
Gingerbread<br />
House & Advent<br />
Wreath Making.<br />
But even with all<br />
of this happening,<br />
it was still an very humbling time for us to celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior,<br />
Jesus Christ.<br />
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Men’s Fellowship Breakfast<br />
The Rev. Herb Lusk, former<br />
“praying tailback” for the<br />
Philadelphia Eagles.<br />
Once a month on Saturday, the Men’s Fellowship group<br />
gathers everyone together for a Men’s Fellowship Breakfast,<br />
and each month the speaker is even better than the<br />
last! In November, we had the Rev. Herb Lusk, the<br />
“praying tailback” on the Philadelphia Eagles football<br />
team from 1976-1978. In December we had David Hale<br />
Sylvester, who shared his story about how after his friend<br />
died in 9/11, he decided to change the world “one hug at<br />
a time” through international Hugs and High Fives tours,<br />
documentaries, books and personal outreach. Finally, in<br />
January we hosted fellow parishioner Michael Merrick,<br />
and he shared a story on the fascinating life of General<br />
Anthony Wayne, grandfather of famed Revolutionary<br />
War Hero, General “Mad” Anthony Wayne (and supposed<br />
great-great grandfather of Batman!) who is buried in the<br />
church cemetery.<br />
Alpha<br />
For the first time in a few years, St. David’s hosted an ALPHA course beginning on<br />
Wednesday, January 11th, with the Rev. Dr. <strong>Mar</strong>tha Tucker as the clergy support. Even<br />
though it was right after the holidays, we received over 60 registrants for the course—<br />
an extremely encouraging number! For those of you who don’t know ALPHA, it is a series<br />
of sessions exploring the Christian Faith. It begins with dinner, followed by a video<br />
presentation by Nicky Gumbel, and ends with a discussion in friendly small groups.<br />
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Stations of the Cross<br />
During Holy Week, St. David’s has a Stations of the Cross meditation time every weekday<br />
starting at 6:00pm.The 14 stations focus on specific events of His las day, beginning<br />
with His condemnation, and are used as a mini pilgrimage as each person moves from<br />
station to station. At each station, everyone recalls and meditates on the specific event<br />
from Christ’s last day.<br />
Easter Egg Hunt & Flowering of the Cross<br />
This year, the day before Easter on <strong>Apr</strong>il 15th, kids and their parents gather in the<br />
Fairgrounds for our annual Easter Egg Hunt and Flowering of the Cross! Starting at<br />
9:00am, kids race around the field<br />
trying to collect as many eggs as<br />
they can find—all of them filled<br />
with yummy chocolate! Parents<br />
are also encouraged to bring one<br />
flower to use<br />
for the decorating<br />
of the<br />
cross. The<br />
beautiful cross<br />
symbolizes the<br />
new life that<br />
emerges from<br />
the death of<br />
Good Friday.<br />
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Holy Week<br />
Holy week is a very humbling time for us at St. David’s. Here<br />
are the celebrations you can look forward to during this year’s<br />
Holy Week, from <strong>Apr</strong>il 9th—<strong>Apr</strong>il 16th.<br />
1. Palm Sunday Worship: <strong>Apr</strong>il 9th, 8:00am, 11:15am &<br />
5:00pm in the Church; 9:15am in the Chapel<br />
2. Stations of the Cross: Monday, <strong>Apr</strong>il 10th—Friday, <strong>Apr</strong>il<br />
14th, 6:00pm in the Chapel<br />
3. Maundy Thursday (<strong>Apr</strong>. 13th): (Footwashing, Holy<br />
Eucharist & Stripping of the Altar): 7:00pm in the Chapel;<br />
All Night Prayer Vigil in the Church<br />
4. Good Friday Worship: (<strong>Apr</strong>. 14th): 12:00pm in the<br />
Church; 7:00pm in the Chapel<br />
5. Holy Saturday (<strong>Apr</strong>. 15th): Easter Egg Hunt, 9:00am in the<br />
Fairgrounds; Easter Vigil, Holy Baptism & Holy Eucharist,<br />
7:00pm in the Chapel<br />
6. Easter Sunday Worship (<strong>Apr</strong>. 16th): 8:00am, 11:15am &<br />
5:00pm in the Church; 9:15am & 11:15am in the Chapel<br />
Fr. <strong>Mar</strong>tin Smith, Theologian in Residence<br />
Theologian in Residence, the Rev. <strong>Mar</strong>tin Smith, will be<br />
visiting St. David’s Church for a dinner and discussion on<br />
Friday, <strong>Apr</strong>il 28th at 6:00pm in St. David’s Hall, and he<br />
will offer his meditations on Saturday, <strong>Apr</strong>il 29th. <strong>Mar</strong>tin<br />
Smith is well known throughout the Episcopal Church as<br />
writer, spiritual director, retreat leader, and teacher exploring<br />
contemporary spirituality. A priest since 1971, he<br />
most recently served as the Senior Associate Rector at St<br />
Columba’s church in Washington, D.C., in the Diocese of<br />
Washington, while continuing to travel widely for his<br />
teaching ministry. He retired in July 2012, and continues<br />
to devote himself to writing, preaching and the leading<br />
of retreats and workshops. For more information, keep<br />
checking back to our website!<br />
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St. David’s Episcopal Day School<br />
We are extremely proud to announce that enrollment<br />
is officially open for our brand new Day<br />
School! St. David’s Episcopal Day School (SDEDS)<br />
will be opening in September <strong>2017</strong>, and is a nonprofit<br />
day school and member of the National Association<br />
for Episcopal Day Schools. We have recently<br />
hired our new Day School Director, Lisa<br />
Black, and we are looking forward to see what<br />
God has in store for this new adventure within our<br />
church. If you have any questions or would like to<br />
enroll, contact Lisa at SDEDS@stdavidschurch.org,<br />
or visit our website at stdavidschurch.org/st.-davids-episcopal-day-school.<br />
Women’s Ministry Retreat<br />
No matter what your age, we all long for deeper connections with God, with<br />
ourselves and with our friends and families. When we learn how, we experience<br />
peace-of-mind, an awareness of joy-full moments, and richer communication.<br />
The Women’s Ministry will be having<br />
their annual Women’s Retreat beginning<br />
at the Pendle Hill Retreat Center in<br />
Media PA on Friday, <strong>Mar</strong>ch 17 to Saturday,<br />
<strong>Mar</strong>ch 18th. This year’s retreat will<br />
be led by De Yarrison of Conversation<br />
Revolution, and it<br />
will be sure to be a relaxing<br />
time filled with compassion,<br />
support, meditation, and<br />
friendship.<br />
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The Vestry of St. David’s is responsible, with the staff, for planning and implementing<br />
the wide variety of worship and ministries that we all share in at St.<br />
David’s. The Vestry is also responsible for the finances and property of our parish.<br />
Each month the Vestry meets to share in a time of spiritual reflection, to hear<br />
updates from various commissions, and to make decisions for our common life.<br />
Among the topics and tasks taken up over the past fall, the Vestry:<br />
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Worked with the Strategic Planning Task Force on expanding the participation<br />
of the parish through an electronic survey and plans for conversations<br />
in the spring.<br />
Appointed Jamie Arnold to lead the 1715 Society’s efforts to invite parishioners<br />
to remember St. David’s in their estate planning.<br />
Supported a fundraiser for the St. David’s Episcopal Day School and the ongoing<br />
search for a Director.<br />
Negotiated a lease agreement with Verizon for placing cell equipment in<br />
our steeple.<br />
Heard of the Arborist’s work to remove diseased trees and plant new trees<br />
on our campus.<br />
Received the news that RTR pledges continue to be received and that we<br />
will pay back the loan to the Graveyard endowment, used for cash flow during<br />
construction, by the beginning of <strong>2017</strong>.<br />
Received detailed reports on the ongoing ministry and plans for Discipleship,<br />
Fellowship, Stewardship, Family Ministries, Outreach and Finance.<br />
Approved the preliminary budget for <strong>2017</strong>.<br />
Did You Know?<br />
R. Brognard Okie, famous American architect who was noted for his Colonial<br />
Revival houses and sensitive restorations of historic buildings, such as the<br />
Betsy Ross House in Philadelphia, St. Peter’s Church in Great Valley, and the<br />
White House Historic District was a Vestry Member of St. David’s Episcopal<br />
Church?<br />
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“Many of us are<br />
missing something<br />
in life because we<br />
are chasing after<br />
what is second<br />
best.”<br />
Eric Liddell<br />
The saints of God are wonderfully curious people. As Lesbia<br />
Scott’s famous hymn reminds us, “you can meet them<br />
at school, or in lanes, or at sea, in church, or in trains, or<br />
in shops, or at tea.” The saints are all around us, you see,<br />
sometimes doing everyday things because the saints are<br />
everyday people! For sure, there are terrific stories regarding<br />
the saints that have developed over the many<br />
centuries of the Church: the Apostles healed the sick, St.<br />
George slayed a dragon, and St. Brigid turned bathwater<br />
into beer (a personal favorite!). Yet what really sets<br />
saints apart is their ability to inspire fellow Christians by<br />
doing seemingly everyday things for the glory of God.<br />
I remember being introduced to the idea of the everyday<br />
saints when I was in middle school. I ran track for<br />
Pennfield Middle School, and I especially enjoyed the<br />
sprinting events. I wasn’t particularly good at it, to be<br />
honest, but I wasn’t bad, either. I also knew I was drawn<br />
to sports because I felt a certain excitement and energy<br />
whenever I competed. It was around that time that I was<br />
told the story of Eric Liddell, a Scottish missionary to<br />
China who was also a world class sprinter. Liddell earned<br />
a spot on Great Britain’s 1924 Olympic Team, with his<br />
best event being the 100 meter sprint. However, as the<br />
games approached, Liddell was scheduled to run one of<br />
his 100 meter heats on a Sunday. To the surprise of<br />
many, Liddell sat out his best event in order to honor the<br />
Sabbath. When many may have expected a lengthy explanation<br />
for such an act of both devotion and controversy,<br />
he simply quipped, “I’m not running.” Liddell prepared<br />
instead for the 400 meters and the 200 meters, and was<br />
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Inspired by a note given to him before the 400 meters by a team masseur that<br />
read: “In the old book it says, ‘He that honours me, I will honour.’ Wishing you<br />
the best of success always.” He went on to win gold in the 400 meters and<br />
bronze in the 200 meters.<br />
Eric Liddell’s story was put to the big screen in the 1981 classic film Chariots of<br />
Fire. In the film, Liddell’s character tries to explain to his sister that his running<br />
isn’t simply a distraction from his missionary work but rather a gift from God<br />
through which he might even make God known. Though the quote from the<br />
movie is apocryphal, the intent still hits home:<br />
“I believe God made me for a purpose, for China.<br />
But he also made me fast! And when I run,<br />
I feel his pleasure. To give it up would be to<br />
hold him in contempt...It's not just fun: to win<br />
is to honor him.”<br />
Eric Liddell’s story changed sports for me but<br />
also changed my understanding of joy and<br />
inspiration. I knew I enjoyed sports and running,<br />
but I didn’t realize that God had given<br />
me both the ability to play sports and joy that<br />
came from playing them. Liddell’s story is an<br />
inspiration to me because he lived his faith in<br />
such a way that both acknowledged his God<br />
-given gifts and, more importantly, honored<br />
God through worship and obedience, even<br />
in the midst of the Olympics.<br />
Photo courtesy of Corbis via Getty Images<br />
Eric Liddell, pictured winning the<br />
400m final at the 1924 Olympics in<br />
Paris.<br />
God has given gifts to each of the saints -- including you and me -- that through<br />
them we might build up the Kingdom of God and be drawn closer to God. Remember,<br />
Jesus called fishermen so that they would go out to use those skills,<br />
but instead by “fishing for people”. God called an Olympic sprinter to run not<br />
just for competition but to honor God while doing so. Like all the saints, you<br />
have gifts through which God is inspiring you and calling you! For all the remarkable<br />
stories of the saints, never forget that there’s even more everyday saints.<br />
After all, “the saints of God are just folk like me, and I mean to be one too.”<br />
The Rev. Dennis Reid<br />
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Matthew 15: 13-16<br />
“You are the light of<br />
the world. A city<br />
built on a hill cannot<br />
be hid. No one after<br />
lighting a lamp puts<br />
it under the bushel<br />
basket, but on the<br />
lampstand, and it<br />
gives light to all in<br />
the house. In the<br />
same way, let your<br />
light shine before<br />
others, so that they<br />
may see your good<br />
works and give glory<br />
to your Father in<br />
heaven.”<br />
Several years ago I went to a conference on missional outreach<br />
in San Diego, California. One of the speakers, a<br />
young woman, who along with her husband, were missionaries<br />
in eastern Europe.<br />
She gave a very good picture of what mission work was<br />
like in the twenty-first century in a former communist<br />
country. However, the one thing that really impressed<br />
me…and a lot of others in attendance…was her answer to<br />
a question at the end of her presentation.<br />
This young woman was asked, “How do you bring Jesus<br />
Christ to the local people? Do you tell them all about how<br />
Jesus Christ saves sinners and about His resurrection?<br />
Just how do you talk to them about being saved? How do<br />
you get their attention?”<br />
Her answer was “We don’t do anything like that” and her<br />
story proceeded something like this.<br />
We have found that approaching people directly with “the<br />
Story,” with “the Good News,” turns them off and causes<br />
them to avoid us in the future.<br />
This is how we proceed. When there is an earthquake, we<br />
are there helping people, finding food and shelter for<br />
those impacted, and helping people heal.<br />
When there is a fire, we are there helping people, doing<br />
the things that are needed to get the medical attention<br />
needed, to find a place for those affected to stay, and to<br />
make sure they have food.<br />
When housing for the poor is needed we help in the building<br />
where we can, we help find furniture and other things<br />
for the rooms, and council for owning and keeping up<br />
such facilities.<br />
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When there is a need for readers in a local school, we help to arrange people to<br />
help with the reading, to help with the understanding, and to support and encourage<br />
the children to do better.<br />
Then, we will go to a meeting somewhere nearby…for whatever reason…and<br />
someone will come up to me and say, “I saw you working with people after the<br />
earthquake and I saw you working with people at the fire at such and such a<br />
place, and I saw you working to house poor people in this and that area, and I<br />
saw you helping children learn to read. You don’t seem to get any payback or<br />
reward for any of this work. You don’t seem to be asking anybody for anything.<br />
Why are you there? And, why are you doing these things?”<br />
The young woman stopped…and, then she said…”Now, I’ve got them!”<br />
“Now, I explain my role model. Now, I make Christ known to others. But, I reveal<br />
the image of Christ to the questioner,<br />
because I want the questioner<br />
to focus on the behavior and the<br />
outcome of the behavior. I want<br />
the questioner to take my lead and<br />
follow the role model I follow.”<br />
People are looking for ways to act,<br />
or behave, or copy. People want to<br />
act in ways that bring about results,<br />
that bring about better outcomes,<br />
or that help them to make better<br />
decisions.<br />
We learn about God, and we learn how Jesus models the way God wants us to<br />
act. And, then it is our responsibility to pass that image along.<br />
It is not the doctrine or the theology that brings the people in. It is the outcomes<br />
of the way we act that can influence people to learn more about why we<br />
behave the way that we do.<br />
And, we hear from Jesus in the gospel of Matthew, “You are the light of the<br />
world. A city built on a hill cannot be hid. No one after lighting a lamp puts it<br />
under the bushel basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all in the<br />
house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see<br />
your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven.”<br />
To repeat…let your light shine before others….<br />
John Mason<br />
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Last summer Louise Haley, Rev. Matt Dayton-Welch and I<br />
went on an outreach trip to Haiti to visit our Haitian partner<br />
Pere Fred and his congregation at St. Mathias. St. Mathias<br />
is located in the mountainous area of Grande Colline.<br />
“We had to<br />
remind ourselves<br />
that it<br />
was 2016, and<br />
not a century<br />
earlier.”<br />
As we left Port-Au-Prince and headed to the mountains,<br />
we realized how isolated and remote Grand Colline truly<br />
is. Much of the roadway to Grand Colline is unpaved and<br />
barely passable. We saw young children walking on the<br />
“highways” carrying water jugs in search of potable water<br />
and old men walking<br />
their goats. We<br />
had to remind ourselves<br />
that it was<br />
2016 and not a century<br />
earlier.<br />
In this impoverished<br />
and beautiful<br />
nation we found many sources of inspiration:<br />
Our partner and friend, Pere Fred (or Father Fred). Not<br />
only is Pere Fred the religious leader for his community,<br />
but he is also the unofficial “mayor” of Grande Colline.<br />
People in the community frequently stop by Pere Fred’s<br />
house for advice, comfort and fellowship. He travels<br />
miles on dirt roads each week to reach his congregation<br />
and to teach at the seminary in Port-Au-Prince. His spirit<br />
and energy is indefatigable.<br />
The Haitians we met at church and in Grande Colline<br />
welcomed us into their community with open<br />
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hearts. These people have so little, yet they are proud and grateful for what<br />
they have.<br />
The beautiful two hour church service at St. Mathias. Although we couldn’t understand<br />
the French and Creole used at the service, we could feel the energy<br />
and spirituality of the congregation, particularly during the intercessions for the<br />
prayers of the people. Also we were amazed to see the congregants giving<br />
money for the collection, since they have so little to spare.<br />
Without a doubt, the most inspiring moment of the trip for all of us was our<br />
meeting with the vestry of St. Mathias after the church service. As we sat with<br />
the vestry on the porch of Pere Fred’s house, we<br />
discussed St. David’s relationship with St. Mathias<br />
Church. Matt explained how the people at St.<br />
David’s love to do projects and asked the vestry if<br />
there were any future projects for St. Mathias<br />
that we should consider. The head of the vestry<br />
explained that our visit was enough. She said that<br />
it meant so much to them that the three of us<br />
were willing to leave our families and our homes<br />
to spend time with them, especially since their<br />
own government has forgotten them. At that<br />
point, we were speechless and had tears in our<br />
eyes. We realized that these people were grateful<br />
for our fellowship and that just being together<br />
and praying together was enough.<br />
Of course, the people of St. Mathias appreciate<br />
the support that we give them each year, but we<br />
now understand that more importantly they are<br />
thankful for our thoughts and prayers.<br />
Visiting Haiti was a spiritual experience that has forever changed me. It is a special<br />
place where you feel closer to God. I feel blessed to know Pere Fred and<br />
feel inspired by the Haitians every day.<br />
Pere Fred—religious leader of<br />
Grand Colline and the unofficial<br />
mayor.<br />
Teri Santivasci<br />
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In a previous life, I worked for the U.S. State Department in Jerusalem advocating<br />
for human rights in Jerusalem, the West Bank, and the Gaza Strip. Much of that<br />
work was spent in the field, collecting stories and looking for trends that Washington<br />
policymakers might need to know, trends that frequently foiled efforts to establishing<br />
bilateral peace talks. Many of the stories began to mirror one another:<br />
peaceful people victimized<br />
by a system<br />
of oppression and, in<br />
turn, walling off their<br />
hearts from the vulnerability<br />
mutual<br />
peace requires.<br />
That’s how this intractable<br />
Israeli-<br />
Palestinian conflict<br />
Bassam Aramin (left) and Rami Elhanan (right)<br />
stays so intractable:<br />
it matriculates one-off<br />
instances until a whole new class of cruelty becomes normative.<br />
So Bassam Aramin’s story stood out to me. Bassam grew up experiencing firsthand<br />
the abuse commonly committed by the Israel Defense Forces (IDF), and he grew up<br />
in a Palestinian community that saw resistance to the IDF as commendable. At 17,<br />
he was sentenced to seven years in an Israeli military prison—once a right of passage<br />
for some Palestinian young men—for participating in an unsuccessful ambush<br />
of an IDF patrol. In prison he learned about the Holocaust, and the experience of<br />
that helped him understand his perceived enemy. When he was released from prison,<br />
he vowed to find another way to defend his people, and so he helped organize<br />
Combatants for Peace, a joint Israeli-Palestinian project which brought together<br />
former IDF soldiers and Palestinian militants.<br />
This outcome was unusual. Usually young hearts are hardened in prison, not illuminated,<br />
but Bassam saw too much common ground between his people and the Israelis<br />
to wage violence. He married and began to provide for his new children, one<br />
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Son and one daughter, and he advocated publicly for non-violence. His children<br />
admired his work, and he loved them, especially 10-year-old Abir. Something about<br />
dads and daughters.<br />
Which is what made that day in 2007 so unbearable. Abir had gone to see her<br />
friends after school. On their walk home, the girls passed some Palestinian boys<br />
throwing rocks at a distant IDF caravan. Abir and her friends had hoped only to<br />
pass through the mêlée; she did not participate in the rock throwing. But she was<br />
fired upon by the IDF troops just the same, hit in the head with a rubber-tipped<br />
bullet. She died three days later.<br />
Bassam’s faith in non-violence experienced its greatest, most personal challenge<br />
yet. Getting roughed up by IDF soldiers as a kid was one thing, but this trauma was<br />
in a whole new league. How could he possibly commit to non-violence after such<br />
personal, violent injustice?<br />
Amidst dark grief, Bassam’s circle of friends began to widen. He received messages<br />
from other Palestinians who had lost their children to IDF violence, and they had<br />
found solace—quite scandalously—in commiserating with Israeli parents who had<br />
lost children in acts of Palestinian violence. Indeed, a network was developing of<br />
parents, both Israeli and Palestinian, who had lost children to the conflict, and<br />
through them, Bassam found his path to healing.<br />
Which is how I met him. I wanted to hear his story. I needed to meet hope personified,<br />
hope that the promise of peace the Bible describes in this land was not lost.<br />
As a man of faith, I needed to believe that in a world of hardened hearts, God’s<br />
goodness could still break through.<br />
I met Bassam at a hotel lobby in East Jerusalem. Five minutes into our conversation,<br />
an Israeli man walked in. Bassam and the man said nothing, but Bassam stood<br />
and they embraced one another for what felt like a whole minute. They sat down<br />
together and even held hands, squeezing them like loved ones squeeze hands before<br />
surgery. Rami met Bassam through the parents group, now known as the Parents<br />
Circle. Rami had lost his daughter, Smadar, to a suicide bombing in 1997.<br />
I sat across from them astonished at their affection. Rami, wiping tears from his<br />
eyes, said, “I hope you don’t mind if I join you; I haven’t seen Bassam in a month.”<br />
Bassam, still squeezing Rami’s hand, looked at me and said, “I might have lost my<br />
daughter, you see, but I gained a brother, and he teaches me every day how promising<br />
reconciliation can be.”<br />
The Rev. Matthew Dayton-Welch<br />
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quotes of inspiration<br />
“Do not fear, I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will<br />
strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you in my righteous hand.<br />
Those who wage war against you, will be as nothing at all. For I am the<br />
Lord your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not<br />
fear; I will help you. Do not be afraid.”<br />
Isaiah 41:10, 12b-13<br />
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting<br />
away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and<br />
momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs<br />
them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is<br />
unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”<br />
2 Corinthians 4:16-18<br />
“...The great thing to remember is that, though our feelings come and go,<br />
His love for us does not. It is not wearied by our sins, or our indifference;<br />
and, therefore, it is quite relentless in its determination that we shall all<br />
be cured of those sins, at whatever cost to us, at whatever cost to him.”<br />
C.S. Lewis<br />
“Do not ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and<br />
go do it. Because what our world needs is people who have come alive.”<br />
Howard Thurman<br />
“All that is gold does not glitter<br />
Not all those that wander are lost;<br />
The old that is strong does not wither,<br />
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.”<br />
J. R. R. Tolkein<br />
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The Spirit Likes to Dress Up<br />
The spirit<br />
likes to dress up like this:<br />
ten fingers,<br />
ten toes,<br />
shoulders, and all the rest<br />
at night<br />
in the black branches<br />
in the morning<br />
in the blue branches<br />
of the world.<br />
It could float, of course,<br />
but would rather<br />
plumb rough matter.<br />
Airy and shapeless thing,<br />
it needs<br />
the metaphor of the body,<br />
lime and appetite,<br />
the oceanic fluids;<br />
it needs the body's world,<br />
instinct<br />
and imagination<br />
and the dark hug of time<br />
sweetness<br />
and tangibility<br />
to be understood,<br />
to be more than pure light<br />
that burns<br />
where no one is --<br />
so it enters us --<br />
in the morning<br />
shines from brute comfort<br />
like a stitch of lightning;<br />
and at night<br />
lights up the deep and wondrous<br />
drownings of the body<br />
like a star.<br />
<strong>Mar</strong>y Oliver
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