Project 2 Zine

Of
Bondage, Dominance, Submission, &
Masochism
The Misconception

Intro
Discretion: A scoop of ice cream. Always
Vanilla. Nothing different nothing new, I
always order vanilla—with a sugar cone of
course. But have you ever wondered what
sprinkles tasted like? You know…just to spice
up a few things? I am writing this from the
perspective of a 19 year old virgin in a sex
craved society.
I felt this way when I chose to write about this
foreign concept, that intimacy can be Wild
and edgy. I'm the last one to know anything
about it but I was intrigued by the outrage
BDSM caused when the outbreak of its
portrayal began to spread in early 2011 with
the release of the Fifty Shades series. .
practice these acts, how they feel about the
negative relatedness, and their thoughts on
how normal relationships are portrayed in the
media.
So I hope this zine serves as an informative
yet entertaining work of art for you, thank
you.
My focus and purpose for this zine is to
create some sort of exposé. In terms such as
exposure to people who knowingly or not

“The whole…the biggest part of S&M is boundaries. That’s why you
have safe words, people only do it because they want too and no
one’s forcing you to do it. Some people like to be tied up and
whipped—I don’t. You may not either. But lots of people love it, it’s
their right because it’s consensual. That should clear the argument
but people are shallow.” Says Jamie Dornan, star of the fifty shades
trilogy portraying troubled billionaire Christian Grey.

Consent, in the realm of BDSM, is an informed, non-constrained,
enthusiastic, fluctuating permission for something to happen.
Fluctuating meaning that consent can be withdrawn, by any party, at any
time during the activity. With the use of safe words, such as: red, yellow, or
stop.
In the world of BDSM, you have multiple types of consent—temporary
consent, long term contract, consensual/nonconsensual. Hard and soft
limits also exist.
These limits explain what and how far each party is willing to go.

BDSM stands for Bondage-discipline, dominance-submission,
sadism-masochism. A person can be interested in either one of these
combinations or all.
BDSM is not abnormal. It is just a magnification of power in a
relationship. Being into BDSM is as normal as being into regular sex
Having forceful sex with someone is not BDSM. Both the partners’
consent is required in BDSM.
Society Portrays BDSM as a foreign concept in relationships,
comparing how sex is supposed to be with a partner vs the
extremeness of having partners playing roles as dominant and
submissive.
BDSM isn’t always about whips and chains and handcuffs. There are
no rules. It can also be painless and just sensual. Even if a partner
agrees to do whatever the other person asks him, it is considered
BDSM
“So you’ll get your kicks by exerting your will over me.”
“It’s about gaining your trust and your respect, so you’ll let me exert my
will over you. I will gain a great deal of pleasure, joy, even in your
submission. The more you submit, the greater my joy – it’s a very
simple equation.”
“Okay, and what do I get out of this?”
He shrugs and looks almost apologetic.
“Me,” he says simply.”
― E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey

Rihanna, a global music artist, appropriated this world
of BDSM culture.
It openly shows that these kind of lifestyles are real
and possible options rather than fantasies.
Her famous song “S&M” served as a metaphor for
her relationship with the paparazzi. In the song S&M,
and its video, we hear and see references to S&M.
Lyrics in the song such as, “Sticks and stones may
break my bones but chains and whips excite me,” to
represent the pleasure she receives from the public
eye, but does so without understanding the actual use
of pain and bondage in the Sub-culture;
In the song, it is used so that the pleasure after the
pain is exaggerated. In the video itself, Rihanna is
represents different aspects and lifestyles within the
BDSM world but does it humorously. It’s the fact
that’s it’s a pop song and makes light of the sexual
content involved in BDSM.
This enlightenment of different aspects of BDSM
culture is very blunt.

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What does the acronyms BDSM mean?
Rachel: Body..? I have no clue….
Breanna: I don’t know.
Bryan: Bondage….Domination…Submission… I
don’t know the last one.
Amari: Body…Disorder…..? I don’t know
What’s your perspective on the world’s negative view
of BDSM?
Rachel: I feel as if this shouldn’t be a problem,
people’s sexual life is private and whatever a couple
wants to do, it should not be looked at as appropriate
or not appropriate because it’s personal and
consensual. I also feel as though it’s easier for
relationships to become abusive.
Breanna: I saw Fifty Shades of Grey and they
portrayed the submissive and dominant types of acts
and that’s one of the top films out, so I feel as if
people are thinking it’s a good thing because of the
sales.
Bryan: Honestly I don’t care how the world views it,
people have their opinion on how they conduct
themselves in the bedroom. Yes it makes sense that
they wouldn’t like it but some people do.
Amari: I would say the world doesn’t respect what
others like it, don’t knock it until you try it.
Do you feel as if this a normal action for regular
couples in the bedroom?
Rachel: I don’t think it’s normal, when you have sex
with your partner, it should be passionate. I believe in
equal opportunity, no man should dominate sexual
pleasures.
Breanna: Normal…? No. Spontaneous…? Yes. For
people who want to try new things and explore their
sexuality it seems something fun to do.
Bryan: No….not every day? Sometimes every once in
the while if they want to spice up a few things.
Amari: Yes it’s normal because couples always
explore new things in the bedroom.
What if I told you this act is consensual? Both parties
have agreed to terms where one party is labeled the
dominant and the other submissive. Would you
change your answer? Would you partake in it?

Rachel: Yes, if it’s consensual and they both agree to
it, I don’t see nothing wrong. I do however think that I
would never partake in this activity.
Breanna: No I wouldn’t change my answer, but I
would partake in the sexual acts that involve BDSM.
Bryan: No I wouldn’t change my answer because it’s
understandable not for this to be normal. Yes I would
partake in BDSM in some aspects to spice up life in
the bedroom.
Amari: No I wouldn’t change it. I would want some
aspects of it like the tying up part but not too extreme
like clamps and plugs haha.
The truth is most people don’t even know what
BDSM is, yet they have some theoretical
underpinnings that a relationship in no way should
include crazed toys or rules that are outside “regular
norms” that a “regular relationship” should have.

Bondage and discipline, sadomasochism, or
dominance and submission” has been tough to
break, but one defining factor is the statistics of
adults who actually consider BDSM a part of the
lives, and what BDSM means to them.
Many Hollywood movies portray a dominant
instinctually knowing what a submissive wants,
but in real life most kinky or edgy sex first starts
with a lengthy discussion of safe words and the
desires and boundaries between parties.
According to a poll done by marieclaire.com
85% OF THE PEOPLE POLLED HAD ENGAGED IN
SOME KIND OF LIGHT BDSM.
Whether you realize what you’re doing or not, any type of
tying up or even blindfolding is considered some form of
BDSM. While many couples may not experiment with the
more extreme tactics of it, they unaware that what
they’re doing is bondage, which is a part of it. You still
have to get consent from the partner.
Ancient Greek art depicts BDSM. The Kama Sutra (300
A.D,) touts erotic spanking, and European references
date from the 15th century. But BDSM flowered during
the 18th century, when some European brothels began
specializing in restraint, flagellation and other
“punishments” that “dominant” women meted out to
willingly “submissive” men.
In 1791 the French Marquis de Sade (1740-1814)
published the first SM novel, Justine, which included
whipping, flogging, nipple clamping, and restraints. His
name gave us “sadism.” DeSade was imprisoned
for criminal insanity, one reason many people consider
the sexual practices he popularized crazy.
In 1870, Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (1836-1895),
published the novel, Venus in Furs, about male sexual
submission. His name inspired “masochism.”
In 1905, Freud coined the word, “sadomasochism,”
calling its enjoyment neurotic. The original Diagnostic
and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-I, 1952)
classified sexual sadism as a “deviation.” DSM-II (1968)
did the same for masochism. DSM-IV (1994) lists SM as
a psychiatric disorder.
(According to Psychology Today)

Works Cited
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Mylapore, Arjun. 9 interesting facts about the BDSM culture
that has redefined sex. TopYaps, 30 Jan. 2015. Web. 2 Mar.
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