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By Jennifer McCaman • illustration by Angela Martini<br />
Extreme Mod esty Makeover<br />
Hairnets and Stockings<br />
She greets you every day with a<br />
cheesy grin and a hearty scoop of<br />
green beans. She’s the lunch lady,<br />
and we love her. But think for a<br />
moment about her, well, outfit.<br />
Picture the hair net, shapeless<br />
dress, apron that falls just above<br />
her gray stockings, and black,<br />
flat shoes.<br />
What words would you use to<br />
describe this fashion style? Odds are<br />
“sexy,” “hot,” and “cute” didn’t make the list.<br />
As Christian girls, we’ve heard the word<br />
“modesty” preached at us until it starts to<br />
conjure up a cafeteria lady in our minds. For<br />
most of us, “modesty” is a list of things we’re<br />
not allowed to wear, including the scandalous<br />
spaghetti-strap shirts, two-piece bathing<br />
suits, and sweatpants with “hottie” printed<br />
across the seat. Admit it: modesty often<br />
seems like your less-than-fashionable<br />
mom’s main weapon in her plot to<br />
take away everything cute in your<br />
wardrobe.<br />
Actually this concept of modesty<br />
is far from the truth. Modesty goes<br />
beyond clothes to the core of who<br />
we are. The world teaches us that<br />
our waist, bust size, and flirty<br />
personality give us value as<br />
females. Psalm 139:13-15 speaks<br />
another message:<br />
For it was You who created<br />
my inward parts; You knit<br />
me together in my mother’s<br />
womb. I will praise You,<br />
because I have been<br />
remarkably and wonderfully<br />
made. Your<br />
works are wonderful,<br />
and I<br />
know this very<br />
well. My bones<br />
were not hidden<br />
from You when I was<br />
made in secret, when I was<br />
formed in the depths of the earth.<br />
We have value because<br />
we belong to God.<br />
God made us exactly<br />
as He wanted, and He<br />
loves us.<br />
First Corinthians<br />
6:20b (The Message)<br />
says, “ . . . let<br />
people see God in and<br />
through your body.”<br />
Like this verse says,<br />
modesty is letting<br />
people see God in and<br />
through your body.<br />
Modesty does not<br />
mean joining a convent<br />
or never wearing<br />
makeup. Instead, it’s<br />
Modesty Test<br />
As girls, clothes are<br />
woven into our DNA.<br />
From shoes and<br />
purses to tops and<br />
jeans—every choice is<br />
deliberate. Even girls<br />
who “don’t care”<br />
about their clothes<br />
intentionally don’t<br />
care, meaning they<br />
intentionally select<br />
quirky T-shirts,<br />
shoelaces, and<br />
jeans to pull off the<br />
“I-don’t-care” look.<br />
As lovers of fashion,<br />
how can we tell if our<br />
choices honor God?<br />
dressing and acting in a way that honors Christ.<br />
Modesty can be defined as “freedom from<br />
vanity.” 1 We all know people at school who are<br />
obsessed with flaunting their image. Modesty<br />
is freedom from the pressure to conform to<br />
the world’s standard of beauty. Along with the<br />
cafeteria-lady lie, the world spews other false<br />
information about modesty.<br />
Myth Modesty is restricting.<br />
Truth Modesty is freedom.<br />
Google certain girl celebrities, and you’ll see a<br />
slew of photos that would probably embarrass<br />
their moms. Hollywood teaches that fashion is<br />
freedom. They argue that a truly independent,<br />
uninhibited girl isn’t afraid to show what she<br />
has. The media equates sexiness with selfexpression.<br />
In reality, freedom is only found in Christ.<br />
When you honor God with your life, you<br />
understand freedom at a level the world can’t<br />
imagine. This freedom empowers you to<br />
become the woman God made you to be.<br />
The world’s idea of beauty is imprisoning.<br />
Many girls become depressed, anorexic, cutters,<br />
or at the least, insecure with the way they<br />
look. Talk about prison.<br />
Modesty in Christ gives freedom. You are<br />
free to feel good about who God made you to<br />
be. You don’t have to draw attention to your<br />
body or throw yourself at a guy. You never have<br />
to worry about embarrassing pictures popping<br />
up on Myspace. Sure, you can still dress cute,<br />
wear make-up, and fix your hair, but your<br />
worth is not found in your appearance or your<br />
wardrobe. That is freedom.<br />
Myth Modesty is insecure.<br />
Truth Modesty is confidence.<br />
More than clothes, modesty is an attitude.<br />
The world teaches girls that confidence is<br />
found in looking sexy. Actually, true security<br />
is learning to see yourself the way God sees<br />
you. Psalm 45:11 says “the king will desire<br />
your beauty.” Psalm 139:13 teaches us that God<br />
knit us together in our mother’s womb. We<br />
are beautiful because we are made by God.<br />
We don’t have to draw attention to our bodies<br />
by wearing revealing clothing or flirting<br />
provocatively. Running after the world’s idea of<br />
beauty only leaves us empty and insecure.<br />
Myth Modesty is boring.<br />
Truth Modesty is mystery.<br />
Perhaps the most powerful word to describe<br />
spiritual modesty is “mystery.” Modesty is<br />
keeping yourself mysterious to guys and to the<br />
world. Instead of flaunting your body, wear<br />
cute clothes, but cover up. Instead of throwing<br />
yourself at a guy by calling, texting, and flirting<br />
all the time, hold back. Be mysterious. Let God<br />
cultivate an inner beauty that is captivating to<br />
the guy he wants to bring your way. Don’t get me<br />
wrong. Modesty doesn’t mean being quiet or shy<br />
necessarily. It’s great to have a bubbly, passionate<br />
personality if that’s who God’s made you to be.<br />
Just don’t let a desire for attention cause you to<br />
make bad decisions. If<br />
Mini-checklist<br />
Does this outfit<br />
reflect who I am in<br />
Christ?<br />
Can I move<br />
around in this outfit<br />
(standing, sitting,<br />
leaning, bending<br />
over) without<br />
anything showing?<br />
Will guys respect<br />
me wearing this?<br />
a guy isn’t interested<br />
in you, let him walk<br />
away. If the loud, less<br />
clothed girl in your<br />
class seems to attract<br />
all the guys, don’t<br />
worry. You will never<br />
regret your choice to<br />
pursue modesty and<br />
mystery.<br />
Myth Guys only like sexy outfits and<br />
flirty girls.<br />
Truth Guys long for a girl who doesn’t<br />
make them struggle.<br />
Generally, guys are visual creatures who are<br />
easily tempted to lust. Your choice to pursue<br />
modesty hugely impacts their purity. You seriously<br />
have the power to help your guy friends<br />
pursue Christ. Simply by wearing a shirt<br />
that’s not low-cut under a plunging neckline,<br />
you help guys keep their thoughts pure. Also<br />
by intentionally not sitting in a guy’s lap and<br />
avoiding sexually flirtatious contact, you help<br />
them grow in Christ. Sure it’s difficult. Many<br />
girls think guys should just control themselves,<br />
but it’s just not that easy. As girls, we<br />
connect emotionally. Guys connect physically.<br />
Help your guy friends—and all guys—stay<br />
pure when they’re around you. By honoring<br />
God with your body, you also respect the guys<br />
around you. It might seem like guys don’t<br />
notice your effort, but (trust me) they do, and<br />
more importantly, so does God.<br />
Myth Modesty is easy.<br />
Truth Modesty is sacrifice.<br />
Pursuing Christ-centered modesty is totally<br />
rewarding, but it is also a sacrifice. As you set<br />
higher standards for your wardrobe, you’ll<br />
have fewer choices at stores. You might have to<br />
go to two or three stores to find a bathing suit<br />
that doesn’t show everything. Maybe you’ll<br />
completely ignore a style many of your friends<br />
wear because it doesn’t reflect who you are in<br />
Christ. Modesty also means that certain guys<br />
are totally off limits. (You don’t really want<br />
these guys anyway.)<br />
Don’t be discouraged. Your choice to honor<br />
God with your body will always be worth it.<br />
Modesty doesn’t just happen. You have to<br />
choose to go against the world and be different.<br />
Intentionally decide to dress and act in<br />
a way that glorifies God. Don’t let anything<br />
come between you and your commitment. ec<br />
1. “modesty,” Dictionary.com [online], cited 6 February<br />
2009. Available from the Internet: http://dictionary.<br />
reference.com/browse/modesty.<br />
Warning:<br />
Confronting<br />
Immodesty<br />
Girls who do not<br />
have Christ have no<br />
reason to dress like<br />
Christians. We have<br />
a different standard.<br />
Do not freak out<br />
over their clothes<br />
until you freak out<br />
over their lives.<br />
Your first goal is to<br />
lead them to Christ,<br />
not to dress them<br />
up like a Christian.<br />
Many non-Christian<br />
girls think Christians<br />
judge them and<br />
look down on them<br />
because of how they<br />
dress and act. Choose<br />
to show these girls<br />
kindness and love,<br />
without conforming<br />
to their choices.<br />
As Christ changes<br />
their hearts, He’ll<br />
eventually change<br />
their wardrobe and<br />
attitudes.<br />
Check out<br />
ecmagazine.blogspot.com<br />
this month for some<br />
modesty quizzes just<br />
for the girls!<br />
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