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Modesty: Not just a girl thing!<br />
By Will Snipes • illustration by Angela Martini<br />
Let’s be honest for a minute—the truth is<br />
that writers often draw a blank when beginning<br />
an assignment. Most of you have probably<br />
experienced this firsthand when given a<br />
writing task by an English teacher. Where do<br />
I begin? What will I say? What will be my main<br />
points?<br />
It was no different for me with this task.<br />
So I did what many of you would do—I did an<br />
Internet search for the word modesty.<br />
I found a good definition: moderation in<br />
speech, dress, or behavior. The word itself<br />
is linked to the Latin word modestus, which<br />
means “keeping within measure.” I read about<br />
styles of dress throughout history and how<br />
they have changed.<br />
I even discovered cultural information about<br />
appropriate behaviors, such as the fact that<br />
the Australian Aborigines appear indifferent to<br />
nakedness, but are deeply embarrassed if they<br />
are seen eating. Although I was beginning to get<br />
some ideas, I still didn’t have the focus I needed<br />
to write this article. How do I explain to teenage<br />
guys why modesty is important? Because, really,<br />
we only ever talk about that in the context of<br />
what some girl is wearing, right?<br />
I found my inspiration buried deep on an<br />
informational Internet page, under a heading<br />
titled “Antonyms.” There was the one word<br />
that was all I needed to get the ball rolling.<br />
So guess what’s an antonym for modesty.<br />
Pride.<br />
Pride is all about focusing attention on<br />
ourselves. It’s about saying: “Hey everybody—<br />
look at me!” It’s about being the loudest, the<br />
funniest, the strongest, the craziest, the most<br />
watched person in the room.<br />
When you think about it, there really is<br />
a reason people use that phrase “proud as<br />
a peacock.” Pride can be compared to the<br />
male peacock’s behavior. He displays his brilliant<br />
plumage in order to gain attention from<br />
females. Loud, funny, crazy, and trying to<br />
gain the attention of girls . . . does that sound<br />
like some of the guys you know? Maybe—just<br />
maybe—does it sound a little like you?<br />
Modesty is all about self-control. It’s about<br />
not drawing attention to ourselves, but rather<br />
letting our lives direct all glory to God. It’s<br />
about offering our bodies—our very lives—<br />
as living sacrifices that point others to the<br />
redemptive work of Christ in our hearts (Rom.<br />
12:1).<br />
Girls often struggle with modesty in terms<br />
of how they present themselves to the world.<br />
They use their style of dress and the body<br />
God has blessed them with to gain attention.<br />
Because we are wired differently from girls,<br />
modesty for guys takes a different slant, but it<br />
is still an important component in the overall<br />
makeup of who we are in Christ.<br />
Guys, ask yourself these questions as you<br />
begin to examine the level of modesty in your<br />
own life:<br />
• Do you tend to brag about your accomplishments<br />
in areas like athletics or<br />
achievements?<br />
• Do you play the “one-up” game, where<br />
you always have to make yourself look a<br />
little better than others?<br />
• Do you tell inappropriate jokes or use<br />
inappropriate language to gain attention<br />
or laughs?<br />
• Have you taken a picture of your<br />
muscles and displayed it for all the world<br />
to see on Myspace or Facebook ® ? We<br />
all know you’ve been hitting the weight<br />
room, but is that really necessary? Is God<br />
glorified in those pictures?<br />
• Are you searching for any opportunity<br />
to draw peoples’ attention to you, your<br />
physique, or your accomplishments?<br />
Why are you parading around like that<br />
peacock?<br />
As you honestly search your heart for<br />
answers to these questions, maybe God is<br />
showing you that your life is not displaying<br />
much modestus, as our ancient Latin friends<br />
termed it. Maybe you’re not keeping things<br />
“within measure.” Maybe you’re proudly soaking<br />
up the attention of the world while leaving<br />
the glorifying of God out of the picture.<br />
Consider the words of the psalmist: Search<br />
me, God, and know my heart; test me and know<br />
my concerns. See if there is any offensive way in<br />
me; lead me in the everlasting way (Ps. 139:23-<br />
24).<br />
Let’s make it clear that there’s nothing<br />
inherently wrong with being concerned about<br />
your appearance or taking some pride in your<br />
accomplishments. It’s all about things being<br />
done within measure. And about God receiving<br />
glory in the end.<br />
Oh, and one last thing from my Internet<br />
search? Recent scientific research has shown<br />
that it’s not the bright tail feathers of the male<br />
peacock that draw the most attention from<br />
the females. Instead, it’s his vocalization—his<br />
words, so to speak. Although the parallel may<br />
not be direct, perhaps the best way to gain<br />
some positive attention in this world might<br />
be through the kindness, gentleness, and sensitivity<br />
of your words, through encouragement<br />
and exhortation of others rather than showing<br />
off. Maybe focusing more on God and less on<br />
yourself is truly attractive to the world.<br />
And that’s a definition of modesty that I can<br />
take to heart. ec<br />
Modesty for<br />
guys?<br />
Modesty is a big<br />
deal, right? For girls<br />
that is.<br />
At least that’s the<br />
idea all our Christian<br />
talk about what girls<br />
should and shouldn’t<br />
wear seems to say.<br />
But modesty is about<br />
more than clothes!<br />
It’s a way of life. It’s<br />
part of pursuing<br />
purity. We’ve boiled<br />
modesty down to<br />
what we can and<br />
can’t wear, then<br />
made it all about<br />
girls. It’s more than<br />
that.<br />
Scripture commands<br />
you to pursue a life of<br />
purity. Check out<br />
1 Timothy 4:12;<br />
2 Timothy 2:22; and<br />
1 Peter 1:15-16; 2:9.<br />
Your lives—every<br />
part of them—are<br />
supposed to be<br />
characterized by the<br />
pursuit of holiness,<br />
purity, humility, and,<br />
yes, modesty.<br />
That should affect<br />
every part of your<br />
life, from what you<br />
wear to what you<br />
say, where you go,<br />
and who you think<br />
is most important in<br />
your life.<br />
And when you truly<br />
understand modesty,<br />
humility, and<br />
holiness, the most<br />
important person<br />
in your life won’t be<br />
you.<br />
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