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THE WIFE WHO ABUSED THE HUSBAND YET ACCUSED THE HUSBAND OF ABUSING HER. 2018 is the Year For Making The Invisible Visible
<strong>CCChat</strong> talks to: "Michael" “ SHE CRIES HER EYES OUT AND BECAUSE SHE'S REALLY SMALL PEOPLE FEEL SORRY FOR HER ” "MICHAEL" A MALE VICTIM OF A FEMALE ABUSER. Yesterday, I talked to 'Michael'. it had taken a while for this to come about. He was understandably wary, having had his name dragged through the mud but the conversation took place and I, for one, am glad it did. 'Michael' met 'Carrie' ( M and C to save my tired ingers) when he was working as a taxi driver and C was working part time 'on the switch'. At the time she also had another job working as a Bursar for a school. M's mum had died when she was only in her forties and he remembered C as being very caring. One night he found a letter put through his letterbox with a note saying C's car had broken down and could he come round and help her. He did. M now believes she pulled out a wire deliberately, to get him to come over, as that would be the start of their relationship. C had a very fractured relationship with her own mother who had stopped C from seeing her own father. He told me that her mum had told her he had broken C's jaw when very young, and also knocked out some teeth. It was not until she was 18 or so that C saw her Dad and a whole diferent story emerged. They had only been dating a very short time when C tried to move into M's house. She started by bringing pots and things, leaving her mark on the house. He felt they were moving too quickly but when he told her he wasn't ready she smashed a cup in a rage. Her mother phoned M and told him not to get involved with her daughter, but he didn't realise then, what he knows now. He knew about the bad mother/daughter relationship. C had told him her mother slept with senior police and used that connection - whether her lover knew or not , he was unable to conirm but C would frequently call the police, wasting their time, he told me. C did not get on with his brother and had him arrested for allegedly trying to rape her. The police investigation came to nothing but because M supported his wife, it lead to a huge rift with his family. It would be years before he would talk to them again meaning that during the estrangement, he was efectively isolated. He told me they had two children together. When the youngest was still quite small, C had an afair and took the youngest with her, to move in with the lover. M hated the thought of his child living in another man's house so arranged to move out so that C and the kids could live in the family home. Events are somewhat hazy but he recalls she left him a note saying she had 'left the fucking kids' and if he didn't come home, she would commit suicide. He returned. Throughout the marriage, M didn't work. C claimed mobility. He recalls a walking holiday where he ilmed her when she had reached the top, with supposed angina, shouting: ' I bet the social would love this'. 2018 is the Year For Making The Invisible Visible
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Page 3 and 4: Contents The Wife who abused then A
Page 6: On the 12th June at the University
Page 11 and 12: LF: What was the efect of “divorc
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Page 24 and 25: Conference on Coercive Control 2018
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