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COMMENTARY<br />

Give a hand<br />

By Rabbi Howard S. Herman DD<br />

We as individuals, and as<br />

communities, are constantly<br />

being bombarded with the<br />

message “to give.” Whether it is giving<br />

blood, or giving money or giving service;<br />

giving attention, giving time, giving<br />

support or giving concern; the needs<br />

out there in our world, in our families<br />

and in our communities are pervasive.<br />

We are needed now probably more than<br />

ever. Desperation and/or immediacy<br />

seem to be the clarion for us to give.<br />

People who have given of themselves,<br />

especially when they are not<br />

asked, are those whose names are truly<br />

remembered. We all remember the name<br />

of the teacher who went out of their way<br />

to help us when we were having a difficult<br />

time. We all recall the friend who<br />

offered assistance without being asked,<br />

when we were in financial, moral or<br />

emotional straits. No one ever forgets<br />

those meetings when a chairperson<br />

needed to be selected, a courageous<br />

stand needed to be taken, a commitment<br />

needed to be made, a pledge needed to<br />

be honored, and after an embarrassing<br />

silence someone came forward without<br />

being urged and offered to be that<br />

person.<br />

In many respects, this is the history<br />

of humanity. Some people give<br />

lip service and other people give real<br />

service; some people give words and<br />

some people give works; some people<br />

give applause and some people give aid.<br />

Some people give excuses while others<br />

put forth the perspiration of action. The<br />

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answer really comes in how you want<br />

to use your hand.<br />

Consider the story of the teacher<br />

who used the system of placing gold<br />

stars opposite the names of students<br />

who answered questions correctly. One<br />

day she dropped the box of gold stars<br />

and they fell like confetti all over the<br />

floor. The teacher got down on her hands<br />

and knees and attempted to pick up all<br />

of the tiny gold stars. The children in<br />

the classroom watched in fascination.<br />

Finally, the teacher looked up and said<br />

sharply, “Isn’t anyone going to give me<br />

a hand?” Immediately, all of the students<br />

began to applaud enthusiastically.<br />

The essence of giving of yourself<br />

is to give openly and freely without any<br />

strings attached. Whenever we do step<br />

L’chaim – let’s celebrate life together<br />

Rabbi<br />

Fishel<br />

Zaklos<br />

The sounds of celebration are fresh<br />

in my mind as I write this article.<br />

We recently celebrated some<br />

wonderful milestones at the Chabad<br />

of Naples. At the Naples Preschool of<br />

the Arts, 21 of our oldest preschoolers<br />

celebrated their academic achievements<br />

and growth as they move ahead<br />

to kindergarten. And 40 of our Hebrew<br />

School students attended end-of-year<br />

ceremonies in recognition of another<br />

year of Jewish learning well done.<br />

In each instance, it was a huge cause<br />

for l’chaim. As I watched the students<br />

walk across the stage at our Chabad,<br />

their faces beaming with pride, and saw<br />

the smiles on the faces of everyone in<br />

the audience who had supported them on<br />

their way, I thought, l’chaim. We gathered<br />

to recognize their accomplishments<br />

and the journeys they’ve made, all of us<br />

together. I blessed them with l’chaim,<br />

that they should continue the togetherness,<br />

and keep and build on the friendships<br />

they’ve made here at our Chabad<br />

schools. I wished them a full life ahead<br />

of everything good. But interestingly,<br />

the phrase l’chaim is plural, not singular.<br />

The word for life in Hebrew is<br />

“chai,” so it stands to reason that the<br />

saying should be “l’chai.” But literally<br />

we’re saying “to lives.” To me, that suggests<br />

a very important message, that life<br />

is plural, not singular, and that it’s at its<br />

fullest when shared with others, when<br />

you are thinking about others, blessing<br />

others and giving to others.<br />

The last time I was in Israel with my<br />

family, I noticed something striking. We<br />

went to both the Dead Sea and the Sea<br />

of Galilee. I wondered, “Why is one so<br />

full of life and the other harbors none?<br />

They both receive the same source from<br />

the Jordan River.” The answer is that<br />

the Jordan River flows into and out of<br />

the Sea of Galilee from north to south.<br />

The Dead Sea, however, has no outlet.<br />

My takeaway: when you’re giving and<br />

sharing, as we say, l’chaim, in that way<br />

you are truly full of life.<br />

Giving connects us. Recognizing<br />

the ways in which our lives are all intertwined<br />

broadens our perspectives and<br />

asks us to act in ways that enhance others’<br />

lives, and through that, our own. In<br />

the day to day, it is easy to lose sight of<br />

the collectiveness of our objectives – it<br />

seems everyone is running to meetings<br />

and obligations, to take care of what<br />

needs to be done.<br />

As we gather together with family<br />

and friends in the slower, more relaxed<br />

days of summer, it affords us the chance<br />

to focus on what we can share and give<br />

25<br />

up, it has to be done in love and it must<br />

be a real and honest part of ourselves.<br />

There is a time to use your hands<br />

for applause, but there is also a time<br />

for reaching your hands out to help. If<br />

you happen to be the person who sees<br />

the needs of the hour and steps forward<br />

to help, you will win the admiration of<br />

those around you, and you will earn the<br />

peace of mind that comes with knowing<br />

you have served. The “Wisdom of Ben<br />

Sirach” teaches us: “Let not your hand<br />

be stretched out to take, nor closed at<br />

the time of giving back.”<br />

Rabbi Howard Herman serves at the<br />

Naples Jewish Congregation.<br />

to others. We have the opportunity to be<br />

there for each other, and to slow down<br />

and notice the people who’ve been sent<br />

into our lives to enhance them. Winston<br />

Churchill may have said: “We make a<br />

living by what we get, but we make a<br />

life by what we give.”<br />

This is traditionally the slow season<br />

in Naples in terms of tourism and<br />

visitors. It’s a time to connect with the<br />

community, and to think about how the<br />

community benefits from each of us<br />

being a part of it. It’s also a time when<br />

many of us can carve out more minutes<br />

for talking, learning and growing. The<br />

conversations get longer – people have a<br />

few extra minutes to linger over a meal<br />

or a cup of tea. This only adds to our<br />

togetherness and gives us more chances<br />

to celebrate and grow as we seek out<br />

more happy occasions on which to say<br />

“l’chaim.”<br />

Rabbi Fishel Zaklos serves at Chabad<br />

Jewish Center of Naples.<br />

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