Parenta Magazine July 2018
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Developing friendships<br />
in early childhood<br />
When babies are born, they form an attachment with one or two main caregivers. The first<br />
few months in a child’s life are the most important time in which to form these good quality<br />
attachments. Eye contact, smiles and being held lovingly by adults are incredibly important for<br />
children’s cognitive, social and emotional development. The caregiver provides a strong sense of<br />
safety to the child. Without this affection, there could be long-term negative effects.<br />
Rainbow fish craft<br />
YOU WILL NEED:<br />
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Paint (5 colours of your choice)<br />
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White A4 sheet of card/paper<br />
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Black Sharpie pen<br />
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Celery sticks<br />
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Scissors<br />
Bowlby states: “Affectionless psychopathy<br />
is an inability to show affection or concern<br />
for others. Such individuals act on impulse<br />
with little regard for the consequences of<br />
their actions. For example, showing no guilt<br />
for antisocial behaviour.” This could be one<br />
of the consequences of a baby being denied<br />
affection in those first few months.<br />
Forming strong attachments with primary<br />
caregivers provides a solid foundation for<br />
children to relate to others. As babies grow<br />
and develop, they are able to engage in more<br />
complex interactions. A mother may coo and<br />
speak to her baby and, in return, the baby may<br />
respond with smiles or babbling. These are the<br />
very earliest forms of social interaction.<br />
During the toddler stage of development,<br />
around 18 – 36 months, children enjoy being<br />
near and watching others. However, they<br />
tend to play alongside other children (parallel<br />
play) rather than directly with them. Group<br />
play such as dancing or singing games offers<br />
the opportunity for toddlers to play on their<br />
own or in the company of others. At this age,<br />
toddlers can find playing with other children<br />
stressful, so will like having adult support on<br />
hand. By joining in and being a good role<br />
model, you can show the children how to<br />
behave in social situations like these.<br />
Around the age of 4, children will show more<br />
interest and desire to play with<br />
others. At this<br />
stage, they<br />
are able to<br />
practise<br />
the skills<br />
which will<br />
help them form fulfilling friendships such as<br />
taking turns, sharing, understanding others’<br />
emotions and the ability to express one’s own<br />
feelings and thoughts.<br />
Early bonds of friendship forged with other<br />
children provide a platform to practise social<br />
and communication skills. They are also<br />
useful for developing conflict resolution skills<br />
and empathy. As children get older, they<br />
begin to develop a much wider and more<br />
complex network of relationships with others.<br />
Helping a child who has difficulty joining<br />
in with a group<br />
Whilst some children may find it easy to<br />
approach a group of their peers and be<br />
welcomed to play with them, others may find<br />
this task much more difficult. A shy child may<br />
choose to play alongside the group, hoping<br />
to be invited. Sometimes, all they need to do<br />
is ask to join the group or offer a suggestion<br />
such as “I see you are playing mums and<br />
dads, can I be the baby?”<br />
Some children may have difficulty joining in<br />
with group play if there is a role they want to<br />
do, but are not able to. In these instances, it<br />
can be helpful for you to find a role which will<br />
work for everyone in the group.<br />
If a child is being rejected from group play,<br />
you can help the children involved understand<br />
how everyone else may be feeling. This will<br />
hopefully facilitate making room for<br />
the rejected<br />
child into<br />
group<br />
play.<br />
Helping a child who has disrupted play<br />
If the child has previously disrupted group<br />
play, children may be reluctant to let them<br />
join in with their games again. The child may<br />
not have learnt the delicate social skills of<br />
asking permission to join in, instead pushing<br />
their way into the group without being asked.<br />
Again, in this situation, it can help for you to<br />
intervene.<br />
Initially, you can observe where the process<br />
is going wrong and then give some gentle<br />
coaching or prompts to help the child<br />
integrate into the group. This could involve<br />
working with the child to think about what<br />
they could say to join in. Standing by for<br />
support when that child practices this new<br />
skill when they approach the group can give<br />
the child a boost of confidence. Having an<br />
adult nearby is also much more likely to get<br />
the group to notice and then respond to the<br />
child.<br />
You could also encourage the child to take<br />
part in games involving turn-taking. This will<br />
help the child to understand that some games<br />
have rules to be followed.<br />
Conclusion<br />
There’s no doubt that forming friendships is<br />
a vital part of children’s social and emotional<br />
development. Positive attributes such as selfconfidence<br />
and self-esteem have found to<br />
be linked to having friends. However, it’s not<br />
always easy for children to learn what they<br />
need to do to form lasting friendships.<br />
Making and keeping friends involves<br />
a number of vital skills that, with the<br />
help of an adult caregiver, can be<br />
practised, nurtured and developed<br />
over time.<br />
1. Before starting your craft, trim your celery at the ends and cut them in<br />
half as this will make it easier for children to hold.<br />
2. Using a black Sharpie pen, draw an outline of a rainbow fish.<br />
3. Let children dip the end of a celery stick into their first choice of paint and<br />
stamp the fish – this will make the colours look like scales. Let them be<br />
creative!<br />
4. Using another celery stick, let children choose a different colour to stamp<br />
more scales onto their fish. Repeat with all the colours.<br />
5. Leave the paint on the drawing to dry.<br />
6. Once your fish is completely dry, cut around the outline and hang it<br />
where everyone can see.<br />
Did you<br />
know…<br />
it’s the International Day of<br />
Friendship on 30th <strong>July</strong>?<br />
The history of the International Day<br />
of Friendship began in 2011. The UN<br />
announced that the day would aim<br />
to promote friendship between<br />
people, helping to build bridges<br />
between communities and<br />
countries.<br />
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