The TIE Newsletter August 2018 - First Baptist Church - Winchester, VA

August 1, 2018 

F I R S T B A P T I S T C H U R C H 

W I N C H E S T E R , V A 

Volume 79, Issue 8 

Inside this issue: 

From the Pastor 1 

Youth Ministry & 

Lori’s “Senior 

Moments” 

SLC, Children’s 

Ministry & HRR 

2-3 

4-5 

July Calendar 6-7 

Singin’ Seniors, July 

Birthdays, 

Community 

Announcements 

August Highlights 

August 12 

8-11 

Backpack Blessing Sunday & 

School Supply Drive 


Lemonade on the Lawn 


Quarterly Business Meeting 

TIE The that binds the church & home together 

From the Pastor 

In Scripture we are told that where two 

or three are gathered, Christ will be 

present. Another, less quoted truism is 

this: Where two are three are gathered, 

there will be conflict. Though we don’t 

like to admit it, sometimes church is one 

of the hottest flashpoints for unhealthy 

communication. But there are some 

good ways to avoid causing hurt and 

misunderstanding as we live our life 

together. In Matthew 18, Jesus gives us 

some practical advice on how to deal 

with conflict: go directly to the person 

with whom you are upset. If that doesn’t 

work, don’t send someone else on your 

behalf but go with another person to 

speak together. Finally, if the conflict is 

not resolved, then you can take the 

matter to the wider congregation so that 

the church might find a way forward 

together. 

Still, putting Jesus’ instructions into 

practice can be hard. It is much easier to 

talk to others than deal with our conflicts 

head on. The Alban Institute has 

published an article on how to reduce 

conflict, both within the church and 

within our other relationships. Here are 

some of their practical tips: 

Reducing Triangulation 

While people often suggest that venting 

is good for the soul, it is actually not very 

productive. Venting to someone about a 

third person is simply an avoidance 

technique that creates what is known in 

counseling theory as a relationship 

triangle, or triangulation. Triangulation is 

talking about feelings, opinions, or 

personal issues regarding some person or 

group with a third party instead of with 

the person or group actually concerned. 

Relationship triangles usually involve 

three people who each take one of three 

roles: victim, persecutor, and rescuer. 

The only way to stop the triangulation is 

for each person to communicate his or 

her feelings, concerns, or opinions 

directly to the other. 

Of course, the best communication 

strategy is to avoid being recruited into a 

triangle in the first place. One easy way 

to do this is to say, “I am sorry. I don’t 

feel comfortable talking about Eliza 

without her present. Have you spoken to 

her directly?” A three-way conversation 

sometimes helps, but only if the third 

party facilitates without taking sides or 

having an agenda, without speaking for 

one of the other parties, and without 

adding to the emotional drama. 

Eliminating Pass-through 

Communication 

Some congregations get in the habit of 

pass-through communication. To get a 

message to someone, you tell someone 

else. Like the children’s telephone game, 

the content usually becomes distorted 

and often the necessary action is delayed. 

Giving the message to whomever is close 

by and expecting him or her to pass it on 

may seem expedient, but there is no 

substitute for the direct message. 

(Continued on Page 9)

The TIE that binds the church & home together Volume 79, Issue 8 

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Youth Ministry 

A People of the Book 

Baptists have been called many things by others. One thing many Baptists have called themselves, 

though, is a “People of the Book.” Without creeds, bishops, and strict hierarchies, the Bible 

became a defining element of Baptist life. Some would say the defining element. Baptists have 

united and divided around the Bible too. In my experience as a minister I have seen groups 

brought together both by the Bible and other books more often than I have seen them divide. 

There is something about reading a shared text and discussing it in community that helps us grow 

in both faith and compassion. When one person shares their insight or opinion about a text aloud 

they open themselves to affirmation or critique. Voicing our thoughts can be risky. But it is often 

in these moments where church is at its best, where we share things in common, where we 

become a better community, where we listen to one another. 

Over the summer I think of all the “text groups” I’ve been part of from Bible ‘n Biscuits—our 

men’s Bible study at 6:45am every Monday at Bojangles—to our Sunday morning book group on 

the book “Being Christian.” These gatherings around words have helped me hear the stories and 

perspectives of others in our church. In these discussions, people have shared how the practices 

of our faith like baptism and communion have shaped their way of seeing the world and how 

scripture gives them language to speak of the world more hopefully. 

Our College and High School Book Group read the fiction story “A Wrinkle in Time” by 

Madeleine L’Engle this summer. Though it’s a science fiction/fantasy novel there are many themes 

relatable to faith. If you pay close enough attention, some characters even quote scripture. There’s 

never any footnote citing the Psalms or Romans, but if you pay attention you will notice that 

some of the characters have been shaped by sacred words. 

My prayer is that our young people (and adults) will 

continue to absorb the words and stories of scripture, that 

it will inform their language, and transform their world. 

Words have that kind of creative power. “In the beginning 

was the Word.” 

Pastor Kyle Caudle 

Picture: Pastor Kyle and some 

of the Youth from their trip to 

the Massanutten Water Park 

on July 23.


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Lori’s “Grace Notes” 

Homebound Team Information 

Our Mission-The Homebound team is made up of people willing to bring our church to those who are elderly 

and/or sick, allowing a sense of belonging and contribution even though they cannot be there physically. We 

offer these visits with dignity and respect. We encourage that their connection to our church is important and that 

we cherish them. 

How to start a visit?- As you enter a home or room, slow down and take notice of what is going on with the 

person and with yourself. Being overly cheerful can wear people out just as much as those who are very negative. 

Our goal is to meet people where they are emotionally and spiritually. 

Guidelines for Homebound Visits: 

-select the best time for the person you visit and yourself 

-pray for guidance before your visit 

-Engage in a warm and friendly greeting 

-Update them on good things happening at First Baptist 

-Make the visit personal 

-Be a good listener 

Listening with intention: 

You must remember you are stepping into their world for a few moments. Allow the one you are visiting to direct 

the conversation. Minimize advice, judgements, comparisons or corrections. This may be more difficult than it 

sounds! 

Listening is hard sacrificial work, requiring attention and skill. Sometimes you can ask too many questions and the 

person may feel interrogated. Others are more passive and lack initiative in the visit. The goal is to be there in that 

moment with that person. That is how you develop a connection. Just as you would as you make a new friend! 

Being a part of the Homebound Team is a wonderful way to use your gifts for the church. It takes sensitive and 

empathetic people to do well with it on a long term basis. At times it can be difficult to see church family aging 

and sometimes suffering. Our hearts reach out to them and we want to help but maybe all we are called to do is 

be there with them. Know that God is using you in a very special way. You are a source of encouragement to the 

homebound person and also to their family and caregivers around them. As you minister to the homebound, you 

are not only representing First Baptist, but demonstrating the love of God! 

-Lori A. Horne Pendleton | Minister of Music and Senior Adults


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View From the Ridge 

Imagine a weekend, Friday afternoon to late Sunday afternoon, with no meals to cook, no dishes to do, and the 

whole time you get to play games, study God’s word, and worship Him with your family. A time of truly investing 

in your family relationships and focusing on God. Well the Vocare Foundation, along with the use of your 

ministry here at Hunting Ridge, made that happen, for two weekends this summer. The first weekend we had 57 

family members and the second weekend we had 62 family members. These families were from Mexico, 

Venezuela, Spain, Bolivia and other South & Central American countries. It was awesome to see families having 

such an amazing time!!! 

In addition to the Vocare family retreats, HRR also hosted thirty young adults from the National Capital Area 

Chrysalis. During this 4 day retreat, members of their communities came to support their new relationship with 

Christ. These members represented at least six different churches from the Virginia, West Virginia and Maryland 

areas. There first visit to HRR made a lasting impression and many wish to bring their own churches for retreat. 

The ministry that First Baptist has through HRR is one that reaches far beyond Winchester, Virginia and the 

surrounding area. So far this year, HRR has hosted nearly 750 people from all over the United States and many 

countries around the world. Please continue to pray for those who come to retreat and for HRR to continue to be 

a place that is making a difference in God’s kingdom!!! 

YARD SALE TIME!! Do you have stuff sitting around that you would like to get rid of? We can help you with 

that. HRR is holding a yard sale to raise money to replace all the chairs in the chapel and lodge. We currently 

have 130 chairs and need 160. If you have items to donate, please call the office at 540-662-9004 or send an email 

to director@huntingridgeretreat.com to make arrangements. The yard sale will be held at the pavilion on 

September 14 th and 15 th from 8 am until 2 pm. On Saturday, we will also be selling grilled hot dogs, chips, sodas 

and waters. 

PANCAKE BREAKFAST: On September 15 th , from 8 -11, HRR will be hosting our second all you can eat 

pancake breakfast. We will begin selling tickets the middle of August. Ticket cost will be adults $6.00 children 

$3.00. Tickets purchased at the door will be $7.00. 

VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES: Come be a part of an amazing ministry. We need volunteers to help with 

the Yard Sale, Pancake breakfast and much more. Give me a call or send me an email letting me know your 

interest or to find out how you can help. 

September 14 & 15 September 15 

In His Service, 

Melissa Engler 

First Annual Yard Sale 

2nd Annual Pancake & 

Sausage Breakfast

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Sunday Monday Tuesday 

August 

5 

8:00 AM Praise Chorus 

8:30 AM Worship Service 

9:30 AM Sunday Fellowship (New Narthex) 

9:45 AM Breakout Sunday School Class 

9:45 AM Promotion Sunday 301 Open House 

9:45 AM Sunday School 

11:00 AM Bible Friends 


2:30 PM Hispanic Service (Sanctuary) 

12 

Back Pack Blessing Sunday 









19 








12:15 PM Lemonade on the Lawn (CEB) 


26 








12:15 PM Youth Leader Meeting (301) 


6 

7:30 AM Al-Anon (301) 

10:30 AM Staff Meeting (Church 

Office) 

13 

7:30 AM Al-Anon (301) 


Office) 

20 

7:30 AM Al-Anon (301) 

10:00 AM Ageless Adventurers Trip 


Office) 

27 

SLC Staff Work Week 

7:30 AM Al-Anon (301) 


Office) 

7 

9:45 AM Sr. Handbell Rehearsal (Balcony) 

11:00 AM Singin' Seniors (Sanctuary) 

11:30 AM Al-Anon (301) 

12:30 PM Singin' Seniors 1st Tuesday Lunch 

(Perkins) 

6:30 PM AMC (CO) 

14 



11:30 AM Al-Anon (301) 

21 



11:30 AM Al-Anon (301) 

6:00 PM HRR Committee (HRR) 

6:30 PM Stewardship & Finance (Church 

Office) 

28 

SLC Staff Work Week 



11:30 AM Al-Anon (301)

2018 

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SLC Camp (CEB) 

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Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday 

11:30 AM Summer Book Club (Lower Auditorium) 

6:30 PM Deacons Meeting (CEB) 

2 


3 


12:00 PM Al-Anon (301) 

7:30 PM Hispanic Prayer Meeting (CEB) 

8:00 PM Al-Anon (301) 

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9 10 

12:00 PM Al-Anon (301) 


8:00 PM Al-Anon (301) 

11 

2:00 PM Hispanic 

Service (Sanctuary) 

15 

10:00 AM Personnel Committee (WORD 

Classroom) 


7:30 PM Ministry Team (CEB) 

7:30 PM Planning Team (CEB) 

16 17 

12:00 PM Al-Anon (301) 


8:00 PM Al-Anon (301) 

18 

9:00 AM Rise 

Against Hunger 

(CEB) 

22 


6:30 PM 3rd Quarterly Business Meeting 

(CEB) 

23 

6:00 PM Singin' Seniors Memorial 

Dinner (CEB) 

24 

12:00 PM Al-Anon (301) 


8:00 PM Al-Anon (301) 

25 

29 

30 

31 


6:30 PM 3rd Quarterly Business Meeting 

(CEB) 

9:30 AM SLC Student/Parent Orientation 

Day 

7:00 PM Chancel Choir (Sanctuary) 

12:00 PM Al-Anon (301) 


8:00 PM Al-Anon (301)


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Church Volunteer Schedule 

August Bible Friends Schedule 

August 5: Lynne Esslinger | Betty Stubblefield 

August 12: Linda Fletcher | Sharon Woodard 

August 19: Sandy Whitesides | Emily Gordon 

August 26: Tracey Howard | Claudine Stubblefield 

Pictures from the Royals Game 

August Children’s Story-Time 

August 5: Kim Riley 

August 12: Alison Wright 

August 19: Patsy Stainback 

August 26: Laine Everhart 

August Nursery Volunteers 

(11 AM Sunday Service) 

August 5: Marion Owings 

August 12: Jae Hinson 

August 19: Whitney Painter 

August 26: Cheryl Jones 

A Note of Thanks 

The support of our church family this year has 

strengthened us through each trial we’ve encountered. 

There are no words to express our 

appreciation to you in comforting us during the 

recent loss of our brother, Charles H. Fries. The 

prayers, cards, and other expressions of sympathy 

were appreciated. We want to especially 

thank Linda Ebersole and the FBC Bereavement 

Team for the Reception they held for 

Charlie’s family following the graveside service. 

Johnny and Mattie Fries 

WOMEN ON MISSION 

WOMEN ON MISSION will be collecting 

toiletry items through August 19 for migrant 

workers in our area. We need full-size items of 

deodorant, soap, bug repellent, toothpaste & 

toothbrush, shampoo, hairbrush, and towel & 

washcloth. Please bring these items to the new 

narthex. Bags will be available to take and fill if 

you would like to provide a full kit. Please do 

not put any other items in the bags. 

Monetary donations are also welcome and very 

much appreciated. Please note “WOM-Migrant 

Kits” on your check. 

Christian Sympathy 

Christian sympathy is extended to Bob & Patty 

Grove and Kim Ball & Kerry Grove in the 

death of Debbie Bailey, their niece/cousin, on 

July 23.


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From the Pastor (Continued) 

Again, the individual being asked to pass something on has the power to stop the pattern. A simple statement 

such as “I’m not comfortable carrying that message” or “I might mix up what you’ve said, so perhaps you could 

call him yourself” is very helpful. 

Rejecting Anonymous Feedback 

Anonymous communication is damaging to everyone in the congregation because feelings are often expressed but 

cannot be resolved. Wounds are named but cannot be healed. Criticism is offered without the chance to explore 

the possibility of reconciliation. You can’t apologize to “anonymous”. “Anonymous” will remain angry or sad until 

he or she comes forward with the truth. 

While clearer boundaries and transparency in communication may cause negative aspects of congregational life to 

come into the light, they also reveal the strength, commitment, and love that bind the congregation together— 

ultimately giving more courage to faith leaders to address any negative dynamics that hinder their faith journey as 

a community. 

How to Clean Up Bad Communication Habits 

 

 

Speak directly to the person or committee that the issue concerns. 

Refuse to carry a message from one person or group to another. 

If two people talk with you about each other, offer to meet with both of them together or to find them a 

mediator. 

If a person complains to you about someone else but refuses to directly talk with the person to resolve 

the problem, ask him or her to stop talking to you or others about it. 

Reduce venting by first listening and then asking what action the person will undertake to resolve the 

problem. 

 

Refuse to take nonspecific or anonymous feedback seriously. 

God Bless You! 

Pastor Kristin 

Some of these tips have been adapted from Healthy Disclosure: Solving Communication Quandaries in Congregations , copyright © 

2007, the Alban Institute.


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Announcements, Reminders & Call for Volunteers 

TIE Mailing & E-Mail Signup 

If you are not currently receiving the TIE via mail but 

would like too, please contact the church office before 

August 20, 2018 to sign-up. 

For those that have not signed up for the electronic 

version of the TIE, you can do that by visiting our 

website: www.FBCWINC.org. Once signed up, the TIE 

is emailed to you each month and can be viewed on your 

computer or mobile device. 

Helping Hands 

The Helping Hands Ministry needs “more hands” than 

it currently has. This ministry sends cards to members of 

the church who are ill or are in the hospital. If you have 

a little extra time on your hands, call Elma Morrison at 

540-662-0666. 

Singin’ Seniors 

1st Tuesday Luncheon will be held at Perkins on Aug. 7, 

2018 at 12:30 PM directly after rehearsal. 

On Thursday, Aug. 23, 2018 the Singin’ Seniors will 

hold their annual Memorial Diner to honor those Singin’ 

Seniors who have died. It is at 6:00 PM in the CEB. 

Chancel Choir & Chancel Bell Choir 

There will be no rehearsals until the fall. 

Ageless Adventurers 

On Monday at 10:00a.m. August 20, 2018 we will depart 

for Magnolia’s at the Mill in Purcellville, Va. After a 

wonderful lunch, we will take a lovely drive through the 

countryside of Loudon County, Va. Please call by Aug. 

15, 2018 to reserve your seat on the Lucy Bus. 

Music On The Corner Concert Series 2018-2019 

Sunday, September 16, 2018 at 4:00 pm will feature the 

newly formed trombone and organ 

duo twoResonate! with James Martin, trombone, and 

Dan Miller, organ, and a special guest. 

Sunday, October 21, 2018, at 4:00 Celebrating the 

Laster Legacy. Area choirs, organists. and other 

musicians join in a tribute to composer and SU 

Professor Emeritus James Laster, featuring his own 

compositions for choirs and handbells. 

Sunday, November 11, 2018, at 6:00 pm will feature our 

own Singin' Seniors in their fall musical Songs of 

Thanksgiving! Directed by Lori Ann Horne Pendleton, 

with accompaniment by strings and piano. 

The 2019 dates are listed on the website. 

Lemonade on the Lawn 

Join us for Lemonade on the Lawn in the CEB at 12:30 

PM on August 19th. All are welcome. 

Holy Land Trip 

A Holy Land Trip is planned for the Spring of 2019. If 

interested please talk with John Lewis or email him 

at johnlewis702@comcast.net. 

High School & College Book Study 

We will continue to meet at the Hideaway Café on 

Mondays at noon. Our book is A Wrinkle in Time by 

Madeleine L’Engle. Contact Pastor Kyle for more 

information. 

Summer Book Club 

Our book club, led by Pastor Kristin, will continue on 

Wednesday, August 1, in the Lower Auditorium at 11:30 

AM. 

Backpack Blessing 

All students, teachers, and administrators are encouraged 

to join us for a Backpack Blessing on Sunday, August 

12, during the 8:30 AM and 11:00 AM worship services. 

Our church wants to pray for you as you start a new 

school year. 

Quarles Elementary School Donations 

On August 12, we will be collecting pencils, glue sticks, 

and crayons for students at Quarles Elementary. Please 

bring your items to either worship service that day. 

A Midsummer Night Dream, The Sky is the Limit 

The will be held on Saturday, August 18, from 7 PM to 

10 PM, at the Cloverdale Barn to benefit WATTS. 

Featured will be farm to table cuisine by Fresco Kitchen, 

live music by Movin’ On, raffles, support opportunities 

and family fun. Tickets are on sale now through 

www.eventbrite.com/o/watts-winchester-area-thermalshelter-8538674233


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Financial & Weekly Attendance Report 

ATTENDANCE 

DATE: 8:30AM 11:00AM TOTAL 

JULY 1 47 155 202 

Below are the actual revenue and actual expenses of FBC 

along with the year-to-date budget as of the end of June, 

2018. Designated contributions and capital improvements are 

not included. 

JULY 8 62 142 204 

JULY 15 66 153 219 

Actual 

Revenue 

Actual 

Expenses 

Revenue 

Over/(Under) 

YTD Budget 

$322,038 $343,692 (-$21,653) $364,999 

JULY 22 73 147 220 

JULY 29 64 164 228 

August 2018 Birthdays 

Mon Tue Wed Thur Fri Sat 

1 2 3 

William Chu 

Lawton Saunders 

Michele Heath 

4 

5 

Betty Hess 

Corinne Riddle 

6 

Ken Becker 

Nella Woodard 

Matthew Heath 

Michele Gates 

7 

Hamp Hylton 

8 

Naomi Hoover 

Eugene Canupp 

Greg Price 

Teagan Freeman 

9 

Linda Simpson 

Patsy Stainback 

10 

RoseMary Slawson 

11 

Ian MacIsaac 

12 

Russell Tarpy 

Rich Robertson 

13 

Greg Miller 

14 

Clyde Brumback 

Carolynne Pell 

James Painter 

Rev. Kristin 

Whitesides 

15 

Vicky Edwards 

Daniel Turner 

Micah McCalley 

16 

Margery Sweat 

John Beavers 

Tim Wolfe 

Jaimie Pendleton 

Andy Simpson 

17 

Gary Sibert 

Gary Waybright 

18 

19 20 

Adam Bowles 

21 

Hilda Turner 

Erin Robertson 

22 

Barbara Clark 

John Darsie 

Jonathan Edwards 

23 

Robert Saville 

24 25 

Molly Rolin 

26 

Cory Walter 

27 

Linda Vickers 

28 29 

Courtney Bragg 

Cheryl Winston 

30 

William Huyett 

Amber Huyett 

31

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