Haters Back Off eBook

HATERS
BACK
OFF
BEC'S
TOP TIPS TO
NEUTRALIZE
HATERS IN YOUR
LIFE AND BUSINESS
Rebecca White
by
Abundance Coaching
Pure

HAVE YOU EVER
FELT LIKE
SOMEONE WAS
SHOWING HATE
TOWARDS YOU?
Maybe you had just started a new
business, new diet, change careers, or a
new direction in life and the people around
you start to dis you and your new plans.
” Why are you doing that for?”
“I could never do that”
“Only losers get involved in network
marketing!”
You start hearing…
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TABLE OF
CONTENTS
What's
in this
eBook?
CHAPTERS
01 Haters Psychology
02 Ignore
03 Neutralize
04 Thick Skin
05 Your Tribe
Words from my tribe:
Debra Hicks
Since I have been working with Rebecca I
feel in my step and heart that my blocks
have been shifted.....Business is picking up
with 3 and sometimes 4 new clients per
week and the big one as if they were not
enough... I had a windfall of $42,000. I
want to give a heart felt thank you to my
amazing Abundance Coach Rebecca.
Melissa Swaney
Working with Rebecca has been amazing.
I had so many limiting beliefs and we
were able to work right through them.
She has a gift and anyone would be lucky
to work with her.

MESSAGE
FROM
REBECCA
Haters are gonna hate, hate hate.
Now we're gonna learn how to shake it
off!!! in the words of Tae Tae aka Taylor Swift
Hate is something that is almost impossible to avoid and the more
successful you become the more of it you will probably get. To be
better at what you do and avoid something that causes most
people to give up.
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You should arm yourself with this knowledge and simple
strategies to glide right through the haters, without even giving
them another thought.
Some people even measure success with the number of haters
they have!
The more haters the more success…therefore it becomes something to celebrate.
You’re about to become very conscious about the psychology of a hater and exactly
how to neutralize them and stop them right in their tracks. But remember with
great power, comes great responsibility.
Tip 1
Tip 2
Tip 3
Tip 4
Tip 5
Understand the haters' psychology, it's not you it's me…yeah right! Once you
know why they do what they do or say what they say, it becomes a lot easier to
implement the suggestions in this book.
Ignore the hater, why this may be your best option, even if it's your friends or
family, yikes!
How to Neutralise passive-aggressive haters, these tips can help you in the
quickest possible way and get you moving onto what you really need to put your
focus.
Work on you and your mindset, awareness is key, knowledge is power and even
reading this book will help you with these people in your life.
Pick your tribe wisely, we are the combination of the top 5 people we hang around
right! How are you supposed to fly like an eagle when you are surrounded by
turkeys!
Rebecca White
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CHAPTER 1
HATERS
PSYCHOLOGY
Understanding
the haters'
psychology
Or in laymen’s terms, why
they do what they do
This is critical information to understand
because it’s going to change your whole
perception of haters, you may even start to
feel sorry for them… Firstly, yes haters are
more often than not your biggest fans!
Remember when you were a child and you
had that one person that just didn’t like you
or that picked on you and your mother would
say, they probably think you're cute?
Well, this is kind of like that. They really just
secretly love you.
One of the other big reasons haters hate is
because they are projecting their own flaws
onto you. Some people are so scared to admit
that they have flaws that they deny the
existence of the flaws by accusing others of
having that exact flaw. A person’s biggest flaw
is usually what they see in other people.
Just try this, next time your listening to
others, pay close attention to what they
are accusing others of having and it will
probably reveal their biggest flaw and
issues.
Haters often have failed to do something
meaningful in their lives and they are
insecure, they are uncomfortable in their
own skin and by trying to bring others
down in any way that they can, it helps
them move away from their pain of
feeling insecure, even if it is for a small
amount of time.
I will use the example of a home based
business, if your friends or family had
tried and failed at a similar business they
will probably (sometimes unconscious)
not want you to succeed…Why?
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Because what does that say about them?
When your insecure about something and you
see someone else succeeding where you failed,
it feels like a spotlight is shining down on you or
like you have a massive sign on your head
broadcasting your insecurity to the world.
The good news is that you can become aware of
these insecurities and work hard to eliminate
them. For the small number of unconscious
haters, they are so unaware of their own
psychology, thoughts and actions that they
become like hate zombies and they have no idea
why they say and write mean things about
others, my advice is to stay away from the
zombies and don’t engage at all.
Haters have low self-esteem and self-worth
issues, they often feel inferior to you and
choose to handle it the wrong way. They tend to
get jealous of others easily and this can lead to
them trying to bring down others who are
trying to do things that they couldn’t do.
Now, do you feel sorry for them?
“Haters are really just your
biggest fans”
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CHAPTER 2
IGNORE
THEM
“Some People Would
Rather Kill Your Dream
Then See You Succeed”
Jared Leto
One of the best ways to shut down haters is to ignore
them. Don’t feel like you have to defend yourself or
respond at all, being ignored is one of the most powerful
negative reinforcers and is often enough to get people to
change their behavior.
Remember resistance is what compels
most hater to continue. So don’t resist,
just ignore. It is the quickest and easiest
option. Don’t listen to the choir of people
who try to keep you down shape your
future.
It may feel strange but if you are one on one just let that
awkward silence tell the story. Or if you are in a
group just go right on talking to someone else who isn’t
hating because critical people are usually looking for
some type of reaction and when you ignore them they
are more likely to drop it.
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CHAPTER 3
NEUTRALIZE
PASSIVE-
AGGRESSIVE
HATERS
If you have one of those haters who may even
be close to you, like a friend or family
member here are some great tips to quickly
neutralize them. When they are being passive
aggressive act as if they are being genuine.
Example:
• You just get your hair done and it’s a bit out
there... but just the way you like it. Your coworker
who you secretly know may be a
hater says, “Nice hair mate” (you know, with
that underlining tone, I mean really you
always know right)
Instead of taking offense, you just respond
with a simple, “thanks” with a big smile on
your face, and keep on going with your day.
It shuts them down quick smart and really
does you care what they think?
If they are that special type of passive
aggressive you know the ones…they say
things like “I could never do that (with a
crazy look on their face to say) because
you have said you're doing a 48 hour fast
for weight loss and health and they are
so far overweight and out of control, you
know its something they would never
do…Shut that down with this.
“It’s a good thing that you make
decisions for you and I make decisions
for me, because if the roles where
reversed it sounds like we would both be
really unhappy” they will back off
straight away.
If this hater is someone close to you, you
may want to act a different way
altogether. You may want to show a little
bit of vulnerability.
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For example:
You start a new side hustle and you prospect your
mother. Her response is not ideal. In fact she tells you to
point blank:
“Your business is going to fail!”
“You’re never going to make it”
You may want to say something like:
“Yes it may not work out, but I love what I am doing and I
am learning a lot”.
Don’t continue the cycle or argument with facts just get
real and speak from the heart. Share your values and
your real concerns and be vulnerable with your loved
ones.
Don’t let them shape your decisions but be open with
how you feel. People tend not to attack when you let
them know the emotional reasons for your working on
something.
“The further you climb to the top the more
hands you have on your ankles trying to drag
you down, just wear really strong pants
man” Drake
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CHAPTER 4
DEVELOP
THICK
SKIN
You can not live your life
based on what other people
think about you. Build-up
your belief in yourself and
make yourself bulletproof.
You are number one in this
life and I don’t mean that in a
narcissistic type of way. I
mean that without you, you
don’t have a family, you
don’t have a business. You
don’t have anything if you
are not here. Haters are like
bullies we need to build up
our self-belief so that they
can’t make you waver.
So, invest in your mindset.
Invest in learning what
makes you tick, what are
your triggers, what are
your weaknesses and your
strengths and make sure
you develop a bulletproof
mentality.
So that it won’t matter what anyone says about you! You know who
you are and what you stand for and you are not going to let anybody
stand in your way. Never let your small beginnings keep you small
minded.
Avoid the biggest mistake people make when someone starts showing
hate towards you. When the hater is projecting their flaws onto you,
make sure you don’t start believing and looking for flaws in yourself.
This will cause you to doubt yourself and your goals. It is natural to try
and start to look at it from their perspective to try and make sense of
the blame and hate. Instead create an inner knowing so strong, so
powerful you become unshakable with your faith, haters can’t crack it.
“Don’t ever let somebody tell you, you
can’t do something” Will Smith, In the
Pursuit of Happiness.
Keep working on you and develop the strategies that work for you in
these situations.
For me personally, I have dealt with many haters and now I know
when and If they do get under my skin ( as I am only human). I selfregulate
with awareness, breath, knowledge, gratitude, and
movement, I do a flip on the meaning and literally use it to get me
motivated.
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CHAPTER 5
FIND YOUR
TRIBE
A community of likeminded
people
Find a community, a tribe of like-minded people. A lot
of the hate that we deal with comes from people close
to us that don’t want us to change. They are invested
in us staying the same even if it comes at the expense
of our happiness and growth.
To limit the pushback you will receive find groups of people who
are interested in what you are interested in.
“Other people’s
opinions of you
are none of your
business”
Hang out with people who love what you love, join a mastermind,
or a group coaching program like mine (shameless plug coming
up):
How to be bulletproof, release self-sabotage and experience
success with confidence!
When you are around like-minded people or better yet more
experienced people your frequency, beliefs, and mindset start to
change. There is a group for almost everything and you can find it
if you google your town plus the activity that you’re into. Meetup
dot com is also great for finding your tribe.
Life is like an elevator: on your way up, sometimes you have to
stop and let some people off.
Ps if you’re into manifesting and the law of attraction with a
splash of mindset feel free to join my free group, here.
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"I am an intuitive life coach for
entrepreneurial women, who are feeling
stagnant in their life and business.
My bespoke and personalized coaching
methods
align and adjust your abundance frequency,
to provide you with a level of
confidence, attraction, and perspective
unlike any one-size-fits-all approach
you would get from any other life coach.
Rebecca White
Certified Law of
Attraction Coach.
Manifesting Master
Psych K Facilitator
Certified Emotion Code
Practitioner
Frequency Master
My innovative techniques create results on
a cellular level designed for a real change
allowing you to
experience success with confidence "
If you are ready for some real change and
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me personally, book below!
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