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a city of extremes<br />
When I applied to Duke’s arts<br />
and media program in New<br />
York City, I wrote a personal<br />
statement in which I detailed how Liza<br />
Minnelli’s rendition of New York, New<br />
York always makes me cry — how, no<br />
matter what, once she croons, “If I can make<br />
it <strong>the</strong>re, I’ll make it anywhere,” I find myself<br />
shedding tears, a mixture of happiness,<br />
sadness, and desire. At least, I used to cry.<br />
Whenever I hear it now, I just feel <strong>the</strong> urge<br />
to change <strong>the</strong> song altoge<strong>the</strong>r.<br />
I don’t hate New York City, but I<br />
don’t really love it, ei<strong>the</strong>r. I’ve heard people<br />
say that it has to be one or <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r, that<br />
you’re ei<strong>the</strong>r completely and relentlessly<br />
infatuated with <strong>the</strong> city, or you’re utterly<br />
spiteful of <strong>the</strong> whole damn place. And,<br />
while I don’t necessarily agree with that<br />
dichotomy, it’s a microcosm of <strong>the</strong> place<br />
itself: Everything in New York City —<br />
its people, its problems, its excitements,<br />
its tragedies, its achievements — feel<br />
as though <strong>the</strong>y’ve been shoved under a<br />
magnifying glass, where tiny dramas and<br />
comedies play out every minute of every<br />
day across all of <strong>the</strong> city’s gridlocked blocks<br />
with immense grandeur and importance.<br />
It’s a city of extremes.<br />
It makes sense: in Manhattan, <strong>the</strong>re<br />
are 72,033 people per square mile, which<br />
makes it <strong>the</strong> most densely populated<br />
metropolitan area in America. We barely<br />
have room to brea<strong>the</strong>. Everything seems<br />
that much more personal, more immediate<br />
— you can walk down a street in <strong>the</strong><br />
city and encounter both affluence and<br />
extreme poverty, homelessness and excess,<br />
neighborhoods functioning like small<br />
towns. Land and space disappear into<br />
skyscrapers, and your physical proximity to<br />
both <strong>the</strong> world’s wealth and inequalities is<br />
no longer a choice. And <strong>the</strong> worst part of<br />
it all is that you barely have any time to<br />
stop and process what you’re witnessing —<br />
extreme wealth and extreme poverty — so<br />
you hustle on like it’s normal or acceptable<br />
for someone to be sleeping on <strong>the</strong> sidewalk<br />
in <strong>the</strong> dead of winter.<br />
Living in New York City is<br />
exhausting. Almost every moment I’m in<br />
public, I have to be alert, weaving between<br />
people on <strong>the</strong> sidewalk or keeping myself<br />
upright on <strong>the</strong> subway or looking out<br />
for potential obstacles. If I let my guard<br />
down or allow my mind to wander, I’m<br />
liable to get run over by a pedestrian, or<br />
worse, a taxi. And, as wonderful and kind<br />
and thoughtful as people can be, it’s hard<br />
to never be alone. I was on <strong>the</strong> subway<br />
<strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r day when a man began singing<br />
and talking at a loud volume, trying to<br />
engage people in conversation and yelling<br />
at <strong>the</strong>m when <strong>the</strong>y wouldn’t answer his<br />
incoherent questions. No one on <strong>the</strong><br />
subway dared meet his gaze, and kept to<br />
<strong>the</strong>mselves until <strong>the</strong>ir stop arrived. The<br />
needlessness of it all — <strong>the</strong> unnecessary<br />
harassment, <strong>the</strong> omnipresent possibility<br />
of conflict, <strong>the</strong> discomfort of everyone<br />
on <strong>the</strong> train — made me feel tired and<br />
upset, and all of a sudden I wished I was<br />
hugging my mom.<br />
But <strong>the</strong>n <strong>the</strong>re’s <strong>the</strong> good, and, my<br />
god, New York City can be good. I’ve never<br />
been physically proximate to so many<br />
movie <strong>the</strong>aters in my life, especially not<br />
movie <strong>the</strong>aters that regularly screen films<br />
in 35mm or host Q&As with celebrities<br />
afterward. Not to mention, <strong>the</strong>re’s so much<br />
more diversity in <strong>the</strong> city than anywhere I’ve<br />
lived, more ethnic enclaves and au<strong>the</strong>ntic<br />
cuisines and languages spoken. And don’t<br />
even get me started on New York bagels, so<br />
thick and doughy and tasty — I’ll never eat<br />
a stale store-bought bagel again.<br />
Everything in New York City feels<br />
as though it’s on <strong>the</strong> precipice of something<br />
large and monumental, regardless of<br />
whe<strong>the</strong>r it’s a success or a catastrophic<br />
failure. I walk around <strong>the</strong> streets of my<br />
neighborhood and I’m reminded that Walt<br />
Whitman once resided here, and Truman<br />
Capote, too. Which <strong>the</strong>n forces me to call<br />
into question my entire existence: who am<br />
I, and what am I doing? I came to <strong>the</strong><br />
city with aspirations and goals that fell<br />
to <strong>the</strong> wayside in <strong>the</strong> face of quotidian<br />
struggles, and I feel <strong>the</strong> weight of <strong>the</strong><br />
city’s collapsed dreams on my shoulders<br />
with every passing day. Family and<br />
friends ask me if I’ll be returning to New<br />
York City after graduation, far more<br />
excited about <strong>the</strong> prospect than me, and<br />
appear a bit crestfallen when I tell <strong>the</strong>m<br />
I’m unsure. Where else is a writer or artlover<br />
to go?<br />
I have time, I know, but time seems<br />
to be passing faster with each fleeting day,<br />
and I shelve away months of my life without<br />
much to show for <strong>the</strong>m except a deepseated<br />
dread. I want to be great like Capote<br />
or Whitman, but I don’t know if I have<br />
what it takes. Hell, if I can’t even withstand<br />
a few months in New York, how can I be<br />
expected to do anything worthwhile? It<br />
seems like hyperbole, but <strong>the</strong> city, with its<br />
far-flung extremes, instills that sense of<br />
urgency and necessity within me whe<strong>the</strong>r<br />
I want it or not. And, like Minnelli sings,<br />
if I can make it in New York City, I should<br />
be able to make it anywhere. What if I don’t<br />
have what it takes?<br />
I’m always fearful, rarely selfconfident.<br />
Most days, I just feel like a<br />
fuck-up, and it’s hard to convince myself<br />
that I’m anything else. But, <strong>the</strong>n again,<br />
isn’t New York City sort of a safe-haven<br />
for fuck-ups? For people who aimed for<br />
<strong>the</strong> moon and crash-landed amid <strong>the</strong><br />
skyscrapers and subways? I suppose <strong>the</strong>re<br />
are worse places to fail miserably. Perhaps<br />
I’ve just convinced myself to come back<br />
— check in with me in a couple years, and<br />
we’ll see if I’ve made it.<br />
RIGHT: OPEN FISH MARKET IN CHINATOWN. NOVEMBER 2018.