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with Adesuwa 07011289316 | adesuwaewoigbokhan@hotmail.com Quality Time, Quantity Time Having quantity time with your significant other, is an important part of keeping a relationship happy and connected. Quality time is any time that you and your partner spend together that makes you feel closer, more connected, and more in love than you were prior to the moment. This could be a few minutes, or a few hours out of an entire day spent together at home. The amount of this quality time does not really matter: so long it’s what you do on a regular basis to keep the union going. The success of your quality time with your spouse is not about how much time you spend together, it is what you do in it. This can be spent anywhere, doing anything that you and your mate will enjoy, as long as you are able to smile, laugh, and feel good around each other. Being able to connect positively can also be described as quality time. It might be that time you sit to watch a movie if it is used as an opportunity to connect with your spouse, plus talk about what you are watching every now and then. While relating it to your life together, your goals and your evolving understanding of the world, turning it to fun-time by making jokes or having more serious conversation about what you just witnessed on the screen. Apart from the typical activity of sitting on a cushion and watching television, quality time with your soul mate can be as simple as making an effort to remain involved in each other’s lives, which can include talking about one another’s wants, interest, dreams and ambitions. However, note that the answer to a successful relationship is not about being attentive all the time but, the secret is to focus on deepening the love, respect and attraction over time. Some couples actually, believe that quality time is much more important than quantity time for building healthy homes, meaningful interactions and bonds and this is not always so. Quantity time refers to the amount of time spent between spouses. This is the point where the myth of quality time is dispelled. As one does not get to create or demand the magical moments of life which normally happen when you least expect them. An adult cannot be forced to open up emotionally upon demand. You cannot expect somebody to fulfill your expectation of performing the role or function of producing a meaningful interaction within a limited time frame. You need quantity time together with your partner to make a relationship successful. If you decide to give one another as much as undivided attention when you are together, then you will end up having the opportunity to truly create quantity and quality time at the same time. Career and life demands, usually, place realistic limits on the amount of time couples get to spend together. With unexpected work obligations on the weekend, to sudden business travel demands, one spouse’s professional goals and ambitions can impose stress on marriage if the other mate expects a different level availability. Couples must learn to navigate time spent together, with the time that is typically devoted to unexpected official trips, family and friends. Studies have shown that women who more quickly increase time spent with a romantic partner, more quickly decrease the amount of time they spend with their best friend [ Zimmer-Gembeck, 1999 ]. When friends complain of not seeing you regularly and your family wondered where you have been hiding, the tricky nature of finding a balance becomes really visible. The aim is to find a meeting point in which couples are happy with the time they spend together, maintain their outside and family friendships, and at the same time, making progress towards their professional goals while giving their marital live a chance to flourish. If it happened that you’re having difficulty enjoying the time you spend with your sweetheart; especially when it starts getting boring, and you are feeling that your love life has gone low, you can bet that spending considerable amount of time is in dire need while quality is needed even more. So if you must make a choice between quantity and quality, choose quantity since you will be sharing your life with your soul mate and not playing to the gallery. Quality moments are always there to add sparks, and to remind ourselves and those we love of what they help us achieve just by being in our everyday lives. Talk SPOT By - Yemisi Suleiman What some of your favourite celebrities said and we listened. “Never be so busy being yourself that you forget about other people”. From Chude Jideonwu “A year of watching the world form small town pubs eating steak and chips ends on a beautiful stormy St Ives day. I have stories, for another day. Cheers to people being people everywhere and anywhere”. Talk show host Funmi Iyanda. “You know the DJ is exceptional when U loose ur home training on the dance floor. I love my job, and I get plenty Zeros for acts like this”. Says the A list DJ Neptune after successful outing”. “One thing I noticed about Jesus was he never allowed a negative word of doubt or failure to be spoken in his presence without him responding. Some of us are so nice that we sit and allow men make suggestions over us without any response. Respond strongly in prayer and in word”. Words from PaSTOr Poju Oyemade. 12 / Sebtember 15, 2019
I don’t agree. Helen Paul is doing better than a lot of men. Whether male or female, it’s the same if you don’t reinvent yourself, create new materials and brand yourself, you won’t last. So therein lies the way to retain your presence in the industry; reinvent yourself and give your fans something to look forward to and despite your gender, you’ll thrive. WITH Emeka Ehem Nehemiah By -Linda Orajekwe Laughter they say is medicine to the soul and while we have seen the administrators of this medicine do it effortlessly, there’s work beneath all the laughter creation. Founder of ‘House of Ajebo’ and brain behind ‘Ajebo Unleashed’ Emeka Ehem Nehemiah, talked about these challenges, his journey in the industry, and how he’s creating a unique brand of comedy to further ease the strain placed on humanity. How did you come into the business of comedy? It’s all I ever wanted to do from my childhood days. But professionally, I started to hit the stage in 2005-2006 and I hit the mainstream when I won the AY open Mic in 2009. What were the challenges at the beginning of your career? People were not willing to pay. We did it for the passion and I had family support. This support earned me the name AJEBO. And also, the Government needs to fund the industry like the film industry and create a good atmosphere for entertainment to thrive all over Nigeria. What are some of the challenges you face? Funding for shows, the porous nature of the online market, my streaming revenues are not as impressive, considering the massive hype around my comic brand. Your comedy is different from others, why did you pick such a form of comedy? I did that because we are all wired differently. I like to be unique. While studying mass communication at the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, I decided one day I’ll crack jokes with animations and that was the beginning of what we have now. Considering the time you’ve spent in this comedy business, what are some of the things you’ve learned? In my time in this industry, I’ve learned that ajebo while It’s important to know how “Show” works, it’s more important to understand the Business part of the show. I’ve also learned that talent is not enough. You are a brand, you need to understand and work, talk and act like one. So with this industry, you have to have the whole package or at least, start working to have the whole package. What would you do differently if you have to start all over again? Truth is, If I can do it all over again, I would change nothing. I feel fulfilled. I have learned from life’s experience, I celebrate my present because I know all I’ve been through brought me here and I’m at peace knowing the future is even brighter. How well would you say the Nigerian comedy industry has grown? It has grown immensely to be honest. More comedians have joined, young ones now have dreams of taking up a career in this profession which was not so much the cashback then. In the past, people didn’t think it was possible to be rich as a comedian, but we have evolved. The story has changed and there is even more diversification as we now have online comedians. So I think it has grown greatly with even more possibilities to be better. What do you think the Nigerian comedy industry is not doing right that should be worked on? They’re a lot of things we’re not doing right but I’ll mention but a few: they include copyright laws that protects the intellectual properties of creatives, more venues to enable us plan shows effectively without worrying about if the available ones are already booked for a show, and finally, there should be provision of a regulatory body to oversee the happenings of the industry and create a structure for a better future. From the look of the comedy industry, female comedians are not so common in Nigeria and the ones that are popular don’t even thrive as the men. Why do you think that is? Ajebo Unleashed 6.0 is coming up, what’s that about? This is my annual Comedy live show. It’s the 6th edition happening live at Eko Convention Center, Eko Hotel and suites. The theme is “What Women Want” It’s going to be an evening of fun. laughter and more laughter How is it different from other comedy shows? It’s different and it is unique. It is the official Lagos comedy party. We have a blend of stand up comedy and animations in an ambiance that says fun all the way. With how Nigeria and Lagos especially can be, we need all the fun we can get and Ajebo Unleashed is that show. What has been the most memorable feedback you’ve received about House of Ajebo? The skits grow on people like music. It’s being replayed, saved and I can see the happiness when people enjoy it. I’ve gotten a lot of feedback but those reactions show the work is worth the effort. It is growing on people so strong that it’s a movement. And it’s not just in Nigeria, we are global. Who are some of the people that inspire you in and out of your industry? A lot of them but I’ll mention a few. One of the international personalities that inspire me is Kevin Hart and that’s majorly because of how hardworking he is and that’s inspiring. AY has proved that we can push boundaries, Basket mouth has taken Nigerian comedy to international standards, Bovi’s creativity never ceases to amaze me. These men inspire me. What keeps you motivated to create more content? I’m motivated by life and the experience it presents in every event. There’s usually always something to take out or a silver lining. So life and everything around me basically. What’s the greatest assumption you think people have about comedy as a profession? Some people will say things like, “is it not just to talk?” While some people assume it’s easy to make people laugh but the truth is, they’re both false. Comedy is not just about talking and it’s not easy to make people laugh; especially, Nigerians. If you have to advise your younger self, what are you going to tell him? If I have the opportunity to advise my younger self, I’ll tell him, “Be yourself and trust the process”. What’s the future like for House of Ajebo? We are going global. We are going into kiddies animated series, catering for that market and hoping to dominate it. September 15, 2019 / 13
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