Inspiring Story of Pulwama Martyr Maj Vibhuti Dhoundiyals Wife Nitika Kaul-converted

Inspiring Story of Pulwama Martyr Maj Vibhuti
Dhoundiyals Wife Nitika Kaul - In Talks With
Simandhar Education
To celebrate International Women’s Day, Simandhar education
wants to challenge stereotypes that limit women and girls. We
caught up with Nitika Kaul Dhoundiyal (w/o Pulwama Martyr
Maj.Vibhuti Dhoundiyal), Read how her words show it takes a
special kind of love to serve the nation.
05/03/2020
My Journey from a Normal life to Sashastra Seema Bal Cadets
It was never an easy decision for me to go for SSB (Service selection
board exam- SSB is set up by the Ministry of Defence of India to
conduct the interview for recruiting officers in Indian Armed
Forces i.e. Army, Air Force and Navy) especially when your soul
needs a lot of healing. And when you are already working in a very

reputed organization and a very fine job profile there will always be a
kind of resistance initially.
It wasn’t a day decision, the clarity to go for it came gradually. I believe
it started with let’s give it a thought and increased as the day I filled the
form to the day my exam date came and to the date I was standing at the
Gate of my Centre, finally clearing all the tests.
Inauguration of Dhoundiyal Block at MCEME Secunderabad-
Living moments of my Husband...!
Talking about the first thought I remember; it was when I visited
MCEME Secunderabad for the inauguration of Block which is now
named after my husband 'Dhoundiyal' Block. SSB gave me a chance to
live those moments my Husband went during his SSB.
I felt he too would have gone through similar Adrenaline Rush, Anxiety,
and curiosity. I felt years back Major Vibhuti would be at the same spot
where I’m standing, it makes me feel closer to him.
Preparation of SSB Exam:
To prepare for SSB was equally not an easy task. Initially, there was a
lot of inner resistance I faced but I was glad to have such a supportive
family. The next challenge was Time Management as working in
corporate, I used to come home quite late at times 11:00 PM as well and
leave for work around 10:00 AM, there was dire need to take some time
for self-study.
Since my Graduation, I made a point to read at least an e-newspaper. But
to prepare for SSB it needs more effort. Whenever I used to be in the
cab, I used to Utilise that time to read through some books, listen to
YouTube lessons, some other online content and make quick small
notes.
Not only Aptitude but right Attitude makes a Huge Difference in
your Life

I always heard it is not only the aptitude that matters but also the attitude
that makes a big difference, so I knew I have to be positive or if at times
it gets difficult to remain positive let’s be neutral at least, but definitely
not to carry a negative attitude. So, I started to read some good books
and see some funny Cartoon movies, talking more with my family, I also
started to write how I felt about the whole situation.
Work out- Morning 7.30 to 12.30- Weekends
One of the most important things that helped me not only to think
positively but also to have little more faith and confidence in me was
Workout. I started to do some exercise to channelize my energy, my
emotions in a constructive manner started to eat a healthier diet. This has
also helped me to focus better.
How Maj.Vibhuti Dhoundiyal Inspired you!!
It takes a lot of courage to be like him. I always felt he shaped my world
in a better way. But today I like to specifically thank him for helping me
to shape it professionally.
1) He taught me how important it is to be more focused on what we want
to be in life. During placement, when we all were in the rat race of
getting the best package ignoring the fact if we are really passionate
about that job or profile, I remember he said 'I can understand you may
not be sure if you are passionate about that profile or job but you need to
be sure that you are not going for something you clearly have negative
views or something you know you never be happy about'.
2) He always taught me If you want to do something, do it today don't
leave it for tomorrow. What we have is today utilize it more efficiently.
In the rat race we sometimes ignore family and feel we can postpone it
some other day. Always remember if you can do it today just do it. But
also make sure you don't shed your other responsibilities.

3) He always said & followed a Golden rule 'Always have a purpose in
life'. I wish I too can find one.
4) Be dedicated & it's ok to fail sometimes.
On International Women’s Day, what is the most important
message you want to send out to young students and
professionals
Always have vision and goal in life and one must aim to be selfindependent.
For doing it, it’s important to upgrade your skillset and
broaden your learning curve. And as a human, we all can fail but what
matters is Acceptance and working on weak points, a will to try it again.
Don't wait for the end to come, in order to start something new- we just
need to break the monotony and start new beginning from the middle of
the story”.
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