You Don`t Know to be a Man

You Don't Know
To Be A Man
Constantin Duță
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Is man an endangered species? We ask this question because more and more
women are complaining that men are no longer men, that men are slowly but
surely transforming. Well, this guide is meant to answer this question.
Women are mostly right. The Internet largely contributes to the transformation
of the man because behind the computer anyone can kite. We live in an era
quickly before we no longer have time to check, to stay to analyze, we take
everything good even if it is not. more care about honor or respect. The Internet
is full of boys who refuse to mature, boys in adult bodies, these are men today
who believe that everything is right for them.
And in a relationship with a woman there are kites. Modern men cannot be
disappointed because they have no time. And yet they are the unhappy ones.
Nobody knows where things are going, but men are increasingly interested only in
their own satisfaction. We don't know what to tell the ladies later. Read this guide
and you will realize that true men exist, there are still enough. There are also men
who are not selfish, men who know how to respect and value the woman next to
him. You just have to find them .
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Dear Sir,
Welcome Note
I'm talking to you, the kind of man so often encountered nowadays. You, who
think you deserve everything just for the fact that you are a man. You, who think
that having a lot of bought women, makes you more important than the "fools"
who are not happy with this and choose to conquer them. You, who think that
talking a lot and pointless you can impress someone. You, who take the woman
as a fad, you treat it like a toy, then you say "all women are the same." I can tell
you it`s not like that. Every woman is the mirror of her man. Are you a real man
to claim that she is a true lady?
I`m talking to you, who, if you cannot conquer a woman, you sling mud in her.
My dear, by this you do not become a man, even worse, you really degrade
yourself and show your dirty character.
I'm talking to you, the man who always messes up on clothing and behavior.
You, who always mix completely useless different clothes kept out of any logic.
You, who get to wear ”the eternal tracksuit” even at evening dates. Or the
famous jeans at the gym. My friend, don`t get me wrong, I have nothing to do
with your sportswear or with anything else, but each of it has its place. Not how
you mix them.
I`m talking to you, who every single time you go out, you use a whole bottle of
expensive or cheap perfume, this is less important, just to let the neighbours
know that you`re out. You, who get filled with useless accessories just to get the
attention and wear pants which let the underwear to be seen, giving off vulgarity.
Understand my friend that through this you will never impress a respectable lady.
A lady will always appreciate the good taste and elegance, not the vulgarity and
the childish excess displayed by you.
I`m talking to you, who stay online every day, writing text messages, as if you
have fallen asleep on the keyboard, trying to win different half naked women,
texting messages which are understood just by you. For whom the quality of a
woman is represented only by the breast size and the thickness of the makeup.
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Welcome Note
And the speed of responding to vulgar and tendentious messages received daily.
I`m talking to you, who have forgotten to respect women and to respect the
others. The fact that you open the door to the woman at a car, restaurant, or any
other location does not diminish your man's pride, it only shows that you have a
true gentleman's attitude. That you are different from the most.
I`m talking to you, who have come to believe youself the center of the universe
simply by having some ladies passed through your bed. You, who have get to
suffer of your own idolatry. You, who are always in the spotlight whether you
have something to say or not. Leave it out of pride, invest more in your culture,
then let's discuss things manly.
I`m talking to you, the one who has forgotten how to treat a woman. Do not
ever offend her, even more in publib, never try to give yourself more importance
than her and degrade her just to grow your own ego. Or to hide your own
mistakes and your inability to understand her. So you will only break apart all the
love and respect you bear. And you will lose her.
And not in the end, I`m talking to you, who have forgotten that only respecting
the others you will get respect.
Just giving love, you will be loved.
Change yourself, my friend! Change your attitude! And you will not regret…
- Constantin Duță
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The Maturity of a Man
The true maturity of a man does not come with the years. The maturity of a man comes with his
experiences and his power to assimilate what he finds good in his life. And with his power to
control his insights and the desire to dominate his woman. Both in public and in the privacy of
the home. A mature man is the one who does not forget that small gestures are the ones that
distinguish him from the rest and make him progress as a man. He does not bother to open the
door for his woman, to give her the coat or to keep the umbrella if necessary. He isn`t shy to
hold her hand in public and doesn`t forget to respect her by being the first who greets. A mature
man knows that by doing so he does not respect only the woman, but he respects himself as a
man. I have heard many men saying, "Why should I do all these gestures in public and humble
myself in front of her?” And unfortunately there are more and more such men with such
thinking. Dears, you have to understand that through this you do not humiliate yourself, you even
rise up as men and become respected in society. A man who has not learned to respect his
woman is never a gentleman. At most he can be a man. Just as a woman who does not know to
appreciate and respect such a man can never be called a lady. At most she can be called a woman.
Lady is such a big word for her.
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Conquer her! Like a gentleman!
Walk through her mind and through her soul at least as much as you walk your hands on her
body. Understand her, know her and let your imagination fly. But don`t do it in a stupid way.
Excesses have no place. Not for you. Stay elegant and pay attention to the details. Be stylish in
speech and behavior. Like a gentleman. But let some vulgarity between the two of you. Do not
be stupid and don`t lock yourself between the badly understood barriers of the majority. When
you are, the barriers have no place. Love her as you feel it. Without restraints. No inhibitions and
no trace of selfishness. Get involved! Every woman loves that. She loves to feel how you live the
moment. How you totally dedicate yourself. To see that you can and wish to enjoy the smile full
of thankfulness on her face. Enjoy the passionate kiss on her neck. Her back and heavy
shoulders of daily problems. Enjoy her entirely. Feed with her. Take her to ecstasy. And you
should love doing this. To be able to understand her and to always be one step ahead of her
desires. Don`t let her tell you what she wants. Look into her eyes and you will find out by
yourself. Love her and you will surely understand it. You will feel what makes her happy. It`s easy.
Just leave a little bit of pride and selfishness. And get down when necessary. And this, believe me,
will not take you out of your aura of man as you think. It makes it even more visible to you. Just
try. You will prove me right.
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Being a man means…
My friend, being a man does not mean at all what many imagine. Being a man is not necessarily
always to be in the spotlight whether you have something to say or not. Being a man means to
be assumed and right with yourself first of all. Then with the others. Being a man means having
the power to recognize when you are wrong and to say frankly: "forgive me." Being a man does
not mean to get tattoos from head to toe and to sleep in the gym to become a mutant with cube
features. Being a man does not mean having hundreds of women to change daily. To be a man is
not to show your strength by hitting the woman next on the ground because of your pride. To be
a man is not to look physically perfect, forgetting to still value the neurons in your head. Being a
man is not about getting home in the middle of the night and throwing frustrations on your
lover, wife or children. Being a man is not to hide to show your feelings to the world. Being a
man is not about building a house. Being a man means knowing to build a home. Being a man is
to understand that manhood does not mean superiority, and the woman next to you is a bad man
who is never right. Being a man does not mean never to cry. Being a man means that after every
moment of tear-ups you are aware of the mistakes made and this will help you to change for the
better. Being a man does not mean to be an insensitive one who never cares about the soul mate.
Being a man is to understand the person you love. Being a man means a lot. It means to be what
many are not today. Where the man has become nothing else but "MALE".
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Real men…
My dear, you should learn that really good men are not hard to meet and hard to be loved. Such
men are hard to keep. Hard to satisfy and sometimes hard to understand. You will not be able to
keep such a man only with your body. With your nakedness displayed daily. With things done
superficially. He will ask you something more. He will ask you to be a lady through your
behavior and your words. And not every kind of lady, but a "race". Such a man will never be
pleased with a little. He will have claims, but he will know how to offer a lot as well. You will not
be able to persuade such a man to stay with you being a woman without principles, without ideals
and without great ambitions. He will always seek in the chosen woman the reflection of his own
ambitions. He will seek support and motivation in you to progress as a human being, as a man
and as an entrepreneur. My dear, do not expect to meet such a man in the club, enjoying a glass
of bohemian drinks while you are surrounded by gentlemen. Such a man does not complain in
such a world that you frequent and from which you try to be part believing that this will lift you
up. He has high standards and he wants the same thing from you. He knows that such a life is
harmful and does not lead you to anything good. It's destroying you slowly. It grinds you. And it
leaves you with regrets. Regrets that while you were looking for the stars, you were getting lost
through the clouds.
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Be a man for your woman…
Be a man for your woman. A man in conversation, a man in thought and a man in behavior. Be
exactly the kind of man that will succeed to fill that void in her soul that no one has done it
before. Be mature in thinking, elegant in words and determined in deeds. You know how to love
her exactly as the situation demands. Romantic, passionate and delicate in touch. But you also
have that positive evil, dominance and pleasure to control everything. But never choose to be the
absolute master and domineer. Learn to know when to give her the role. You will make her offer
everything, get involved totally in a way she has never done it before. Let the woman be free and
uninhibited. Make her be yours. Body and soul.
Be a man for your woman. Not just in the bedroom. Be a man in the kitchen, in the living room
and especially in society. Protect her, give her a sense of peace and security. Make her feel loved
and appreciated in front of the world. Be proud of her and give her confidence. You will see her
smiling, you will see her fulfilled.
In the kitchen maybe she does not need your help, buts he will surely like to see you beside her,
see you involved, know your opinion, and know that you appreciate every effort. Let her see your
appreciation and thanksgiving on your face every day. Let her see and feel that you love her.
Love your woman, not only in that short time spent in the bedroom and don`t ignore her for the
rest of the day. By your behavior and your words, make her feel important every minute of every
day. Feed with her smile and fight every day to put it on her face. By doing this, you will see her
radiating of joy and you will see how she develops under your eyes to get that strong woman,
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Take care, time is precious…
Never waste your time with unserious relationships, false people, and unusable habits. Be always
careful with whom you make your memories and whom you get in your life. These people can
influence your life more than you think. Never complain about lying and mediocrity for anyone's
sake. Because in life no one should be more important to you than your own person. After all, no
one cares about you, your feelings and your happiness if you do not care about it first.
I saw many people who pretended to be happy under a smile that hid many disillusions and
people who, although fulfilled, did not leave this out. They kept everything for them, they did not
show their lives and feelings so they could be discussed by the world. They simply were simple,
without excess of celebrity and without cheap science. Only with their happy life, but away from
the eyes of curious people. And they were really happy. These people really understood that
beautiful things must be lived, not shown to the world. Because the world has the bad habit of
spoiling the beautiful things. From envy, frustration or simply involuntary, but ruining them.
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When a man loves
When a man loves, he changes. He changes his attitude, changes his manners, changes his
behavior, changes his life. You just see him changing altogether. The happiness emanating from
his eyes is hard not to be observed. It's hard not to see that spark in his eyes. When a man loves,
he forgets. He forgets the past, he forgets the disappointments and he forgets the lost time in
the company of people who did not bring anything beneficial in his life. He forgets the women
with whom he has lost nights, hoping to win happy mornings near the woman of his life. He
forgets about fear and chooses to follow his heart. Beautiful, elegant and attentive. Without
trampling innocent souls. But always with the desire to make the loving soul to vibrate with his
own. When a man loves, for him, no longer remain the lost nights to enjoy his body with
various occasions. In his eyes and in his life there will be only SHE! The woman who managed
to capture not only the body in her hands as most did before her, but the soul altogether. The
woman who managed to change him. To cure him of all the wounds of the past. Intelligent.
With patience, love and much understanding. Making him the best and most complete version.
A version he has just dreamt of ...
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When he will meet HER…
When you meet her, you'll figure out why it did not work with all the rest. You
will realize what it missed and what you thought at some point that your great
love is actually just a passing feeling. You'll figure out a lot. You will figure out the
difference between the woman who loves you and the woman who has fun.
Between the woman who warms your bed and the woman who warms your soul.
You will realize that no matter how many nights you spend with the wrong
woman, it will not compare to the seconds you spend with the one you know,
maybe she also wants to match you perfectly. Who feels your heart and knows
how to take care of her. But you will also realize that all the search nights were
not in vain. It was just the lesson that you know what really suits you. Knowing to
appreciate what she really deserves. Knowing to look away from the silicone butts
and breasts you always dreamed of, without realizing that you were lying to
yourself like a naive you were. You will realize that not a sex life as you dreamt is
what keeps a close relationship. Indeed, it is important, but not everything. In
vain you make her crawl like a crazy if her heart stays motionless on you. And
finally she will choose to go, looking for something else. Something else that
would make her heart race. Feeling love, not just pleasure. Feeling the soul
floating and the body vibrating. Getting rid of complexes and regaining her lost
confidence. To discover her as a strong woman and master of any situation.
Together, you will discover and learn a lot. You will learn that love changes lives
and heals souls. And a beloved woman is a woman who can offer everything.
Unless you even ask for something. Everything you did not even dare to dream
about. Magical and unforgettable moments. Because the woman may be naive,
maybe she is sometimes sensitive, but she is never stupid. She knows how to offer
everything when she feels she is loved, understood and appreciated. And he's
damn good. Good for her, good for you and perfect for you. Without you feeling
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A perfect life
Well, if I think better, a perfect life is not a life at all, as many imagine. For me, a perfect life is a
living among good friends, good books, good people, good music, a clean conscience and always
a good idea and a positive thought for the coming day. A life in which you can wake up in the
morning, look at the sun and greet for being healthy and having a chance to get to fulfill your
dreams. Perfect life for me does not necessarily mean an easy life. Without trials, no challenges,
no difficulties, what charm would all have? All these give beauty and intensity to life. Make you
really live. This, of course, if you know how to get them. Because no one in this life gets more
than worth and can do. And all these attempts are only to make you even stronger and wiser. The
heaviest battles will always be for the most brave soldiers. Do not forget that.
Oh, but there's something I forgot. There is still something that must exist for a perfect life. A
drop of love, that person who understands you, supports you and loves you, and the money for
Sunday morning flowers. And not to forget, a little chocolate if you can. Served with sincere
kisses every morning
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Mentality rules for a woman
to fall in love with you.
Men still have the impression that it is about them in a relationship with a woman, but in fact it
is about how they manage to make her feel a new person, improved, evolved from the one she
is in her daily life.
“Between a man full of money but cold, and a
passionate man with a potential ... the woman chooses
the one she feels better with.”
“And if the man accuses her of going to the one with
money, definitely beside him, without money, she was not
as safe as the other.”
It's not about money, because the woman has a bit of daltness:
She doesn`t make the difference between the existing money and potential; from one point
onwards, it is only the passion that the man inspires. Of course, the man needs a material
framework to support a flourish personality that attracts. But from a point onward, from the
moment the man feels good, but he is also PASIONATED of what he does, the idea of
existing money or money that will be ... is already the same thing in her mind.
She does not make the difference between the age of a man and she is accused of walking
after the elderly. It's actually the same emotion that the man offers her. There are so many
moments, especially during the first 20-23 years, when the woman is horrified by men`s
maturity who have the same age as she has. When she has access to people who know what
they want from life and who take their fate in their hands, it does not matter that the man
has 5-10-15 years more than her. Just as a younger man than her can appear, but with a huge
desire to do something with his life ... that person becomes a real magnet.
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A woman does not stay with you for who you are, but for what she is when she is next to
you. And for that, as a man, you should understand that your no. 1 priority is to develop
yourself in all areas of life; professional / financial (first, not for the money you would have,
but for the comfort and freedom you would gain), physical (nutrition / sport - for the way
you look and the energy you develop), emotional (the moments of authenticity you have
with your loved ones daily, the diversity of social contacts), spiritual (finding your own
mission, a road you have to go, even bigger than you).
It’s funny that 7-8 years ago when I was sitting with a huge bunch at the table, women were
looking at me because I was sighing after a vision I had. I still remember the conversation
with a girl, who later was my companion for a while:
‘You give the impression that you're above the others. People drink a beer, laugh, gossip, feel
good. You succeed to integrate, do the same things, but you have moments when it is clearly
that you think about your things. And you always remind the things you do and you want to
do, like signing a contract with you that your role is other than just drinking a beer with some
friends. This is extremely attractive.’
I get many emails from readers on ArtaSeductiei.Ro ... They still do not understand that
walking for women is only about putting the woman first in your life. When you put the
woman on the first place (I mean, we talk about more women in this case), you do not
differ from the one who puts the woman on the pedestal and forgets about him, forgets to
be a man, cries after her, goes around her and suffers when she is looking for someone else.
Instead, if you focus on yourself, your development, your passions and your experience -
women will not cease to appear in your life. You just have to pick them up.
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Basic Rules:
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Women do not stay with you for who you are, but for how
they feel when they are with you.
I have been saying this for a long time, but I noticed that men do not really understand
this. Communication is done in the mirror and the emotions that you have, the beliefs
that you have, the behavior that you have ... are also transmitted. If you are a passionate
person who knows what he/she lives for, who is not afraid to turn his/her back (when
necessary) and who appreciates every moment of authenticity without wanting to put it
in a box and close it with lock ... then you're probably going to make the woman next to
you feel the same.
The woman is with you for who she is next to you! But you can decide that very
easily.
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Women get bored with what is happening to their daily lives
and need a rescuer
The man they would fall in love with would not be a man who takes them even deeply
in the routine. On the contrary, it will be a man who "saves" them (metaphorically)
from their dull life and gives them the feeling that they are free and run on a green field,
barefoot. Their life being metaphorically, a windowless building or a daily repeated road
between the office and the house.
The easiest way to give them "something else" is to understand how their lives look
right now. When you understand, give them the "adventure of their lives", those
escapades they will remember many years from then on.
To be able to play the role of "rescuer," you have to have a truly interesting life that
does not lack anything. Have your way in life, your own passions, your friends, your
dreams.
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Women are scared by the men who do not know to turn
their backs.
It is a mistake that 99% of men do. When the woman gives you away, the best chance
to keep or preserve freedom and identity is to leave her alone and to see your own life.
It is normal to suffer, but it is aberrant to prolong suffering. There is nothing more
grotesque than a man who clings with his nails and teeth of a relationship that is not
special. Believe me, the woman instantly smells a man who cannot resume his life
without her. At the moment, the control is held by a woman who, scared, begins to
make considerable efforts or to move him back to the position of "man" or to leave
him. Sometimes this effort takes years or decades of suffering. Two strangers, one who
wants freedom, the other who chops his freedom, because he feels good in the cage of
the relationship.
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The woman refuses the man with less potential than hers
I was saying that women often confuse potential with money. I've also written in the
past that a man would be pleased with a modest, unprofessional woman (professional
or social). From his point of view (generalizing on purpose to point out) would be
pleased with a woman who washes the dishes, cooks and has no personal life beyond
the apartment where both would stay, beyond him and his friends. The woman cannot
accept a younger man next to her, because it would mean she cannot progress more
than that. The woman is limited by the potential of the man , that’s why that woman
turned into a powerful selector over time. That's why a woman needs a man who is
passionate about what he does and he has a potential. Because depending on how is the
man, she can understand how her life will look with him.
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Women like to anticipate scripts from interacting with you
If her life is linear, she will be attracted as a magnet by the man who tells her how her
life will look like with him. The man who makes her dream about experiences that are
more diverse and who plays with her mind. Getting ahead is very simple, but few men
do it correctly: it's enough to give her clues about what you're going to do with her (and
I'm not necessarily speaking about sex). She will feel mentally provoked and she will try
to unite the "frills" you throw away. It is the first sign that she is ready to leave her life
routine.
"Friday night I will come dressed in a costume to take you from work; you'd better be
dressed in an evening dress. I can’t tell you more now. "
After 1-2 days tell her: "I forgot to tell you, it's important to have a red clothing
accessory. It can be something very small, but it has to be red. You will see, it will be an
exceptional evening, I can’t wait. "
After another day: "Do not make plans to get home too soon."
This mental game drives her crazy and pulls her out of the shell.
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Sometimes all the seduction you know does not work
The only thing you can do is respect rule no. 3, because you are entering a vicious circle.
Two people have to stay together as long as they both are happy together and they have
the potential to be much more than when they are on their own. If you turn your back,
though many people will tell you the opposite, it means you are stronger, not necessarily
weak. Most dramas in the interaction between sexes occur when one of the two cannot
break out, although he/she is at the opposite end of happiness. The seduction is
intuitive and respects common sense rules that, when we are in "shots", we break and
we do not understand why we suffer.
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First of all, you must use the talent of the "sexual wizard" that exists in every man.
When you want to attract a woman, you have to be a real professional and be in love with her.
1. Improve, come up with something new, never say "what you want to do now", take the
initiative and suggest something interesting and exciting, surprise her! She will trust you
and will be dominated. To make her fall to your feet, think that you have to ask her to be
your wife and organize something great (without ring and without kneel).
2. Give her attention, make her feel the most beautiful, the most important, do not ruin the
evening by inviting other friends with you. Take her somewhere you can be just the two
of you, in your privacy, she will feel important and will surely fall in love with you.
3. Make her believe you admire her, that she fascinates you, you have to become like a
mirror for her in which she sees herself and she is beautiful, stare at her, smile with
admiration when you look at her, give her the impression that you are absorbed by her
beauty. She will find you fascinating because you will see them fascinated. First, touch the
soul and then touch any other part of the body.
4. Do not show her that you are stingy, do not count your money in front of her, exaggerate
a little with the gestures in front of her: order something expensive like a champagne or a
special dish, she will feel guilty of her 'greed' , and she will continue sinning in the
bedroom with you.
5. Even if you are hot and you can’t wait to jump on her, don’t do it, be patient. If you taste
too quickly the pleasure, you do not manage to enjoy everything, so the prelude does not
begin with 20 seconds before sex, but at the beginning of the meeting.
6. Believe in yourself, the attitude counts the most, you do not have to doubt yourself, you
do not have to be shy when you talk to a woman, women need strong men and not just
physically. The power is of several kinds, if you believe in yourself, you will do a lot of
outrages ....
7. Women watch carefully when a man enters a room to see if he guides or he is guided, so
if you are the kind of guy who hides after his friend and tries to stay invisible, they'll
know right away.
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8. The image is very important, but you do not have to overdo it, shave, have a shower, but
do not try to give yourself a mascara or a ton of perfume or hair gel, the part with the
excessive arrangement belongs to her, she does not need a man who gives attention to his
image more than she does.
9. Wardrobe is very important, look at the other guys how they dress, ask for advice, change
your style, you will feel different and your confidence will also increase your success.
10. Do not talk to her about the weather and do not ask her what sign she is, she will get
bored, nor do you use prompts to attract her, think what she will think when you ask her
"you hurt when you fell from heaven" ', or' your parents are terrorists that they have made
a bomb '', she will clearly reject you from the beginning.
11. Give her the impression that you made her a favor, for example, let her stand in front of
you at the queue and put a little emphasis on your gesture, but do not overdo it.
12. The humor, but not the exaggerated, no one wants a buffoon, is the first quality of a man,
if you make her laugh, you have already made progress.
13. Do not immediately invite her out, it's totally wrong, you will definitely be rejected, flirt
with her, women are mad, they often do this: at work, in everyday life, they love to get
attention and play with men’s minds, so play with them and their imagination, they will see
you as a potential lover.
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