Camden Lifestyle Magazine Issue 01

HOW DO YOU FILL YOUR TIME?
Now, we know that many of you already
are coming up with a list of excuses to
why you cannot find the time to spend
with each other. We’re here to tell you
that you can. Healthy couples don’t “find”
the time to be together, they “make” time
to be together. You may have convinced
yourself that you simply don’t have
enough time to schedule each other into
your day, or week but that’s not true. You
have the time to do whatever you want
to do. And if you don’t spend the time
with your spouse, you’ll fill the time with
something less important. Successful
marriages MAKE the time to invest in
quality time together, prioritizing and
scheduling a date night can help. Perhaps it isn’t neccessarily romantic to “schedule” time together but we all know if you
don’t add it to your calendar then it won’t happen. If you want something badly enough you’ll find a way, if not you will
find an excuse.
Parents need private time to continue to feel as though they are not only parents, but also partners in life. If you are
always pushing your spouse aside for time with the kids, you may want to consider what you’re teaching your children.
Spending time with your spouse not only draws the two of you closer together, but it also teaches your children that
marriage has to be our number one human relationship. You aren’t just raising kids, you are raising future husbands and
wives. When you change your perspective spending quality private time with your spouse will become a leading example
to your children of how they should also but their marriage first one day.
MAKING MARRIAGE NUMBER ONE
We want to challenge you to take some time to talk with your spouse about how you two can make your marriage a
priority. Pull out your calendars, and see when you can set aside time for just the two of you. Try setting a regular date
night. Even if it’s just once a month. Get your babysitter ready ahead of time, and figure out what you’d like to do. You
can take turns choosing the “date” activities. Make it fun, start dating eachother again!
If you need some ideas, check out our book 40 Unforgettable Dates with Your Mate. It includes some great ideas for planning
a date specifically for your spouse and to meet your spouse’s love needs! So, start today, and make your marriage a
priority by setting aside time alone for you and your mate!
Portions of this article were adapted from The Great Marriage Q&A Book, © 2006 and 40 Unforgettable Dates with Your Mate, © 2002 Dr. Gary and
Barbara Rosberg