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He was really upset he couldn’t pay for
them, and I said it’s no problem, it was
only £4.00 and very slowly this pattern of
behaviour started to come in more
frequently and then it slowly started to
increase and because I was quite young
and we were both students, he would
remind me that his books cost a lot more
than my books and he played on that so I
would feel really guilty and I would end
up paying for things because he said he
couldn’t afford it.
When we started living together, he
would come up with different reasons for
why he couldn’t pay for the house
repairs/utility bills - he had not been paid
enough that month so I would pay more
towards the bills. He’d blame someone at
work that he had been set up-money had
gone missing and the firm he worked for
had blamed him so he had to take out a
loan to pay for this missing money
otherwise they would fire him. And
because of this, was his reasoning why he
couldn’t pay for his share of the holiday, I
ended up paying for all the holidays and
he then started to get me to pay for more
things. I think the worst thing was that I
didn’t realise he was slowly getting me
into debt and I ended up with £3,000
worth of debt on my credit card.
He had said to me that he didn’t need a
credit card because he had a personal
bank 24/7 and that bank was me. We
went out one time, I can’t remember
where, what I remember is that I had
£100 in my purse in cash and he spent
that within an hour. He walked around
the shop picking out what he wanted
there were quite a lot of DVD’s and they
came to around £300 and I started to
panic thinking this was quite a lot of
money.
I said I can’t afford to buy them and
opened up my purse to show him there
was no money and he asked me what
would cost me more the £300 of DVD’s or
the damage he would cause to the shop?
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