Artika Sharma, 4 th Year, ENEAnoushka Raj, 3 rd Year, ENEPratiksha Pradhan, 3 rd Year, ECEThe year 2020 has been synonymous with disaster. The most recenttragedy in the list of the never-ending catastrophes this year is thedeath of our beloved star and one of DTU’s most renowned superseniors,Sushant Singh Rajput. The narrative about Sushant’s suicideseems to follow you everywhere on the internet. No one wants to staymum anymore and everyone has something to bring to the table. Butsome popular ideas that are currently being propagated are a tadtroublesome. A common question being asked by people is, “What couldhave gone wrong in the life of a man who seemingly had everything?”There’s something very inherently wrong with this question andmentality. It seems as if it’s hard for us to dissociate the idol we found inhim from the human being he really was. Is it our outright insensitivity, orthe temporary high of associating ourselves with a deceased celebrity?Our idols aren’t the superheroes we make them out to be. It’s crucial,hence, that we focus on the right questions, and most importantly, onhow we can prevent others from facing the same fate.The primary step is to normalise the idea of seeking professional help. Therapy is a lot more than a cup of warmchamomile tea and listening to inspiring podcasts. Sadness is a multifaceted evil that affects everyone in differentways. For some, it is days in a blacked-out room without food; for some, it is over posting on social media; for some,it is a huge bucket of fried chicken eaten mindlessly over a daily soap; for some, it is a bottle of pills that providetemporary relief; and for some, it is a combination of all these. Depression cannot be quantified or compared. Thosesuffering from depression, thus, need scientific diagnosis and treatment which only professionals can provide.The help further needs to be coupled with support from loved ones and constant reminders that they are not alone,which brings us to the second idea that is often misunderstood and glorified: the idea of being there for someone.‘Being there’ doesn’t equate to solving someone’s problems or curing them of their illness. You can simply be therefor someone and tell them that it’s okay to not be okay. But the question to ask yourself before you take the onus ofsticking alongside a suffering individual is, “Are you truly capable of being emotionally available for another humanbeing? Are you capable of listening to them without your judgements and biases blinding you? Are you prepared to dealwith the dark thoughts they might share?” If the answer to these questions is ‘no’, then for the sake of your own mentalhealth, please don’t offer that kind of help. You cannot, after all, pour from an empty cup.It is about time that help is made accessible to all financially and emotionally. We need more counsellors who areobjective and virtuous, and we need more institutions that help promote the importance of mental health. We needconstant dialogue in all communities, educational institutions, workplaces, and above all, families, or we will end uplosing more and more promising individuals. Grief can no longer be commemorative. We need to be told that thesolution to improve one’s mental health goes beyond ‘meditating’ and ‘choosing to be optimistic’. As long as we don’trecognise trauma as a medical illness, we cannot progress.Sushant was one of the few extremely talented yet grounded artists to make it big in a predominantly nepotisticindustry despite coming from a very humble background. He was self-made in its truest essence. There is no singleway we can fill the void that is left after his passing, but the one thing we can do is to be better and to do better. Let thememory of Sushant stay fresh in our heads as a cry for help that wasn’t paid heed to, and stop this cycle of hate andnegativity that we’re perpetrating. Let’s not inadvertently drive more people to the edge of committing suicide, and let’sensure they get the help they deserve. Let’s be there for each other, and above all, be there for ourselves!DTU TIMES | February 2020- May 2020 | 10
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