L& R December 2020

Issue 22
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PUNISHMENT &
CORRECTION!
What is the difference?, is
funishment something to
be found under the
Christmas tree? Are we
really just talking about
Discipline.
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Letter from the editor
Editor-in-Chief
Flame Jie
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Columnists
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Nashoba
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Freya
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tequilarose
Master P
My mind often goes to the
strangest of places and
physical punishment,
correction or Fun-ishment
however you want to term it
can slip into a loving
brutality.....Whoa i can hear
you shout, amidst the
collective intake of breath
a n d t h e m a n y
gasps.....keep reading and
see the softer side of my
opinion....
Physical punishment to me
is primal, it is a primal state that allows a Dominant to physically
or mentally over power me, Submitting to loving punishment is
the ultimate power exchange especially the physical, i have
given over my freedom of movement, choice and safety.....it is a
very freeing state to be in. It also deeply seats me into
subspace, a profound physical reaction.
"we don't need to understand fully each other's needs...we just
need to fill each other's voids"
loving use of punishment closes those voids, it allows an unparalleled symbiosis with my
Master, that deep deep intimacy that you only get with absolute trust. I want to know there
are consequences to my actions, that my Master cares enough to enforce our dynamic so
i don't stray from the fundamental basis of our relationship and it's foundation.
I think it is sensual pain i often see as endurance, a positive that makes me feel like a
fulfilled woman.... to be totally dedicated to something outside myself is a prime trait of
women.... whether it be motherhood, or the extreme sympathy and care she gives or how
she endures the discomfort in service to her Master. I find an intrinsic part of my service
could be seen as pain based, but i don't identify as a masochist, what i do identify as is
Master centric and enduring... be it pain, punishment, correction, time apart .....a deadline
for a task...i see it as fulfilling and pleasure to give that...
I could not surrender to the punishment without the love. I often say to Master that each
lash of the flogger is just a different way for U/us to demonstrate that love and
commitment.

Happy reading!
Flame x

In this Issue….
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enjoy in second life. Also some of the
educational groups you can join for
quality lifestyle and community
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Amazing recipe’s by Kitchi
Crystal-Nashoba
Articles
Discipline in BDSM
Written by Mistress
Natalya Dostova
The Dominants use of
discipline - Author
unknown
BDSM & Fetish Safety -
Based on materials
from POWERotics
Foundation
Punishments by
Submissive Feminist
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Discipline in BDSM
Discipline in BDSM - some of the tools used by a Dominant
The most commonly used implements in BDSM discipline are floggers of various
designs and made of various materials.The beginner's choice is usually the riding crop,
exactly like the ones used when riding horses. It is easily controlled but can administer
a good sting when used with gusto.
… beginner's choice is usually the riding crop …
There is also the old schoolmistress' favourite; the cane, which again can be made
from various materials, but the classic is a very flexible rattan cane which stings a lot!
Less common, but no less vicious schoolmasters' tools of punishment are the strap
and the tawse. The strap is a thick leather strap, of up to 50cm (1.5 feet) in length,
which can be used on buttocks or palms of the hands. The tawse is the same but split
halfway up the middle, making it even more painful than a strap.
There are many other instruments that can be used, and
many other ways to use them. It's only bound by the
imagination of the players involved.
Lastly, there is also the tool of self-discipline. A Dominant
needs to be disciplined within himself or herself in order to be
able to manage a submissive (or in some cases,
submissives). A submissive needs to cultivate self-discipline
in order to follow the orders of their dominant.
Discipline is not only a letter in the acronym we use
constantly, but a vital part of the BDSM lifestyles, a basic
building block which is used from casual play right through to
full power exchange relationships. I think Julie Andrews sums
it up well, albeit in another context: “Some people regard discipline as a chore. For me,
it is a kind of order that sets me free to fly.”
Written by Mistress Natalya Dostova

The Dominants use of
discipline
The Dominant's use of discipline
Discipline is employed by a Dominant for a variety of reasons. Three of the most
common uses are now examined.
Purely for enjoyment
Many BDSM players are
also sadomasochists. If
you go to a club or party
and witness a Dominant
joyfully applying a good
hard spanking, flogging, or
caning to a bound
submissive, who could be
yelping or groaning or very
quiet (depending on how
they respond to play) you
know you're seeing
sadomasochists doing
what they enjoy best.
… masochist players have
confirmed that they get an
endorphin rush when they
play.
I know from my point of
view (as a somewhat
sadistic Dominant) being
able to hurt someone,
knowing that they have
consented to receive the
pain and really enjoy it -
well quite frankly, it's a
massive turn on!
actually derive enjoyment from receiving physical pain.
I believe some people
have the need for pain so
ingrained that it has
become 'hard wired' and
they are masochists, who

Many of the masochist players have confirmed that they get an endorphin rush when
they play and it's quite addictive. Some love to have it as part of their sex lives, others
just love it for the rush!
(I'd like to qualify here that the masochists who enjoy their 'discipline' only like it
applied in certain ways. They do not 'get off' from arbitrary pain, but only from pain
given by a chosen person, in a certain setting, and in a way they like.)
Punishment for transgressions
Not all people into BDSM are sadomasochists, and so a Dominant can use discipline
as a form of punishment. This could be anything from sitting quietly in a corner and
being unable to participate in conversation right through to a vicious caning which
would cause a great deal of pain for days afterwards. The use of 'discipline' in this
context is also used as a deterrent. The Dominant can remind the submissive of past
transgressions and use the threat of discipline again to bring them back into line.
… a professional Dominatrix is taught how to make a 'slave' be in the wrong …
In the commercial arena, a professional Dominatrix is taught how to make a 'slave' be
in the wrong, no matter what they do, so they can be 'disciplined' for their
transgressions. All part of the negotiated session of course. By attempting impossible
tasks which inevitably involve 'failure, 'incompetent' slaves ensure they will receive
their punishment, along with the relished suffering.
Behavioural control
Discipline can be used as a means of behavioural
control, to assist in the attainment of certain
goals or to reinforce desirable behaviour
patterns. There is a significant aspect of the
BDSM lifestyle that centres on Domination and
submission that involves the giving and
receiving of control over aspects of lives,
commonly referred as 'power exchange'. In this
context, how does discipline work in D/s
relationships?
One example might be where the Dominant
creates rules and boundaries as a structure for
their submissive to work within. This enables the
submissive to focus on their assigned tasks and
removes any distractions and the need to worry
over things which are now beyond the
submissive's control. A good example of this
would be if the submissive had to complete
assignments in order to pass a course of study.
The Dominant could issue a standing order that
the submissive work on the assignments for an
hour each night, with the work to be sent to the

Dominant to check in the morning. If the work is not done, the submissive will be
disciplined in a way that is considered punishment. This way the submissive gets their
assignments done, which hopefully enables them to achieve their goal of passing the
course of study.
A diary gives a Dominant an insight into a submissive's mind ...
A lot of Dominants require their submissives to keep a diary, where they can record
what is happening in their lives, their observations and feelings about it. A diary gives a
Dominant an insight into a submissive's mind, and gives submissives an outlet to
express themselves freely. Many submissives feel it inappropriate to ever query their
Dominants in any other forum.
Behavioural discipline can also be used with a submissive who has personality traits or
habits that are considered detrimental by the Dominant. For a submissive who is
manifesting their emotions in a way harmful to themselves (for example, 'cutting'), the
alternative outlet offered by a physical act of discipline, receiving pain in an ordered
structure of routine and behaviour, is invaluable. This provides the submissive with a
sense of belonging and security and enables them to reach the Dominant's goal of
changing their behaviour. This level of behavioural control is usually only found in a
24/7 or Master/slave relationships as it's a huge investment in time and emotion from
both sides.
Author unknown
.

BDSM & Fetish Safety
Things to remember about how to play safely...
Welcome to the safety section. The pages here will lead you through tips and tricks to
go about erotic power exchange in a safe and consensual way. We will cover physical,
technical and emotional safety as well as some of the basic concepts of consensual
erotic power exchange.
A lot of technical safety has to do with the quality of your toys and gear and their
maintenance. Check out the sections about buying and maintaining toys and gear, as
well as other technical information and details, especially about hooks, chains, locks
and suspension gear.
DISCLAIMER
Some of the articles in this section cover medically related subjects. Please be aware
that these may not be interpreted as personal medical advice. In the event of medical
issues always consult your doctor or a health care professional. Whenever precautions
and general first aid are mentioned and described in these articles, please be aware
that every individual situation is different, that the information provided is of a general
nature and that all erotic power exchange play is always and only the responsibility of
the partners involved. Neither the author of these guides nor this website can be held
responsible or liable.
Finding safety information on the internet
There is a lot to say about safety information provided on the internet. If all this is new
to you, you should be aware of a few things:
Most of the information available refers to the specific American situation, which -
especially when it comes to health care - is totally different from, for example, Asia or
Europe.
The reliability of much of the information provided is often questionable. Quality is not
always easy to determine for everybody. The source for this article is one of the very
few erotic power exchange oriented sites on the internet that has both a qualified
medical editor and a professional and licensed psychologist in its team.
Especially when it comes to health and safety related subjects, you should be extra
critical. Do not believe everything you read, especially not the advice given in

newsgroups or on discussion mailing lists, unless the advice is provided by someone
with a proven and checkable track record.
One starting point can be "The ABC of BDSM," which is a rated link library produced
by the International Maledom/femsub Guild (see "Contributors" page). Sites with
quality information are listed and can display the IMfG rating logo. This can help you
find reliable information.
Don't let any urban legends scare you away from talking to your doctor if you have
medically related questions, including prevention. There are a lot of tall stories around
on the internet and in chat boxes. The truth is that almost all doctors will have no
problem discussing it with you. It may
not be their own taste, but the vast
majority of medical practitioners will be
honest, open and non-prejudiced.
As a general rule of thumb, be critical
about what you read in internet
discussion groups, newsgroups and
such when it comes to health and
safety. There is a lot of amateur - hence
bad - advice around everywhere. To
find reliable information, best turn to
some of the standard textbooks on the
subjects. If you want to save some time
try the the erotic bookstore link on the
Contributors page to find a list of the
most well-respected books on the
subject.
Finally, always use your own common sense. If anything sounds alien or strange to
you, believe your own instincts...they are likely to be right.
Based on materials from the POWERotics Foundation

Punishments
by Submissive Feminist
Punishments
Posted on05/08/2017
A major part of many kinky
dynamics is a focus on
discipline. While “discipline”
can be a fun part of your
everyday activities, it can
also mean something more
specific in terms of
punishment. Punishment
always has a specific goal to
focus on that changes a
submissive’s behaviour.
Many people engage in
what can be called
“funishment,”–punishmenttype
activities, like regular
spankings or other forms of
play, that are not meant to
alter the behaviour of the
submissive but rather to
provide enjoyment to either/
both/all parties. However, it
is important to distinguish
the difference between
playful discipline and serious
punishments. Punishments
are consequences of
negative actions, whether
this is based on officiallywritten
regulations or
unspoken general
behaviours like brattiness,
defiance, or dangerous
behaviours.
The idea of punishment is
based largely on
psychological research in
the area of behaviourism. It
consists of techniques that
are supported by science to
effectively alter the
behaviour of an individual.
(If you want to learn more
about the research behind
punishments, look up B. F.
Skinner’s work in this area.)
Two types of punishments
exist: positive punishments,
which add undesired
consequences to the
behaviour, and negative
punishments, which take
away desired privileges.
Now, before I get into some
specific ideas for
punishments, there are

some important key points I’d like to make. Please be sure to read all of these before
deciding on a specific punishment.
Punishments do NOT negate the right to a safeword. Some people are mislead into
dangerous situations by being told they cannot safeword during a punishment. This is
completely untrue. All parties have a right to safeword at any time during any kind of play
or punishment. Taking away the right to safeword equates to abuse, plain and simple.
Don’t ever tell your partner they cannot safeword or ignore their safeword for the sake of
punishment. This is not effective and is extremely harmful to your partner’s mental and/or
physical well-being.
NEVER punish out of anger. Anger is never a healthy motivation for punishment.
Punishments are meant for the submissive’s benefit, at the core. If the submissive’s
behaviour has made the Dominant angry, they should have a cooling-off period where
they can calm down, think about an appropriate punishment, and resolve the matter at a
later time, after healthy discussion about what happened.
Limits are NOT to be used as punishments. Many people have activities they don’t
particularly enjoy that aren’t on their limits list. Some people have specific ideas for
punishments that suit them best. However, regardless of you or your partner’s
experience with punishments, it needs to be understood that hard limits are not
punishments. Hard limits are never to be used for punishment’s sake because “hard
limit” means “I do not want to do this under any circumstance.” Using a hard limit as a
punishment would be an abusive act, as hard limits come with an automatic safeword
attached, since they are specificly stated as things the person does not feel comfortable
with. Never, ever, threaten or use hard limits to punish a submissive.
Use healthy discretion. This one should seem obvious, but don’t follow through with
punishments if rule-breaking was out of the submissive’s control. Say the submissive has
a 11PM bedtime, but they recently suffered a trauma or loss and can’t sleep. Let them
engage in healthy coping skills instead of punishing them for something they aren’t doing
on purpose. Above all else, make safety and well-being a priority.
Make the punishment fit the crime. Punishments that are relative to the defiance are
much more effective at changing the behaviour than random punishments. For example,
if the submissive cums without permission, try a punishment from the “orgasm control”
section. This will better reinforce the reasoning in the submissive and more effectively
guide them to make better choices in the future. There are also punishments that work
best for specific dynamics like for littles or pets, so be sure to read into those, below.
Aftercare is absolutely required. Like any kind of play, aftercare is required at the end of
the scene. This is especially important during punishments because often times, the
submissive is consumed with feelings of guilt and disappointment. After a punishment,
Dominants need to give their submissives aftercare that includes a conversation about
why they were punished, how proud the Dominant is for them taking the punishment so
well, and that there are no negative feelings between them. The submissive should leave
the punishment scene feeling forgiven for their mistakes and proud of themselves for
making things right with their Dominant. Do not leave your submissive alone after a
punishment without aftercare, ever! This is highly abusive and can seriously harm your
partner.

Humiliation
A great way to get a submissive to stay in line is to humiliate them when they’ve done
something wrong. There are several ways to go about this, depending on your dynamic
and kinks, but it’s an effective and amusing way to get the message across.
Clothing Restriction: Clothing restriction can be done both domestically and in public.
Restriction can be as much as not allowing any clothing (in legal or private settings),
ordering a certain amount of skin be showing, or choosing a specific outfit or collar for
the submissive. For shy submissives, clothing restriction can be intense. This is an
especially good punishment for submissives who have said negative comments about
their bodies.
Diapering: For ABDL or little submissives, this can either be a reward or a punishment.
Depending on the comfort level with diapers, they can be used as a punishment that ties
into humiliation. Making them relieve themselves in only the diaper for a set amount of
time or wearing it around the house as their only clothing can be very humiliating for
some people.
Sissification: Sissification is a kink that is most common in submissive men. It’s the act of
dolling a man up like a girl and humiliating him based on his presentation as such. This
can be very effective for some people but can be very problematic to others. Be careful
not to use this kink as punishment with trans or gender non-conforming subs without
their explicit consent, as it can very easily trigger dysphoria and cause severe emotional
problems.
Public Humiliation: Public humiliation can be done in any subtle way that embarrasses a
submissive without breaking any obvious laws. Some examples include making them
wear an anal plug or remote-controlled vibrator to dinner or making them kneel at kinkfriendly
gatherings. Work this idea into the submissive’s specific kinks and limits to be
sure it’s just enough to embarrass them, without making them unbearably uncomfortable.
Orgasm Control
Orgasm control is simply that–
controlling the submissive’s
orgasms. Most of these types of
punishments are used for
submissives who break rules
about orgasms, be it without
permission or when they were
told not to touch themselves.
Controlling orgasms is an
amusing way to teach the
submissive who their orgasms
belong to.
Edging: Edging is the act of

getting your partner right to the edge of orgasm, then denying them release. This can be
done multiple times, even in short amounts of time. It’s a little psychological torture, best
for those who cum without permission.
Toy Restriction: For a submissive, like myself, who is accustomed to using toys during
masturbation or play, toy restriction is a very effective punishment. This is especially
good for submissives who have a difficult time reaching orgasm without toys, as it makes
things very frustrating very quickly. An evil punishment may even combine toy restrictions
with a quota of orgasms for the day that they must reach in order to get off restriction.
Desperation will sink in very quickly and this lesson will be easily learned.
Forced Orgasms: Forced orgasm is another great punishment for submissives who cum
without permission. It turns a great sensation into a torturous experience very quickly.
This is especially great with toys like the Hitachi or a Sybian. Focus on a goal–either for
number of orgasms, or a specific amount of time. An hour spent riding a Hitachi can
really be the most agonizing thing for some people due to heightened sensitivity after
each orgasm.
Denial: Denial is the complete opposite of forced orgasms. It’s like edging, but there is no
orgasm at the end of the scene. This can be doing while using toys and not allowing the
person to orgasm or it can be done by restriction orgasms or even touching oneself for a
longer period of time.
Chastity: Chastity, much like denial, is the refusal of orgasms. However, with chastity, the
submissive is completely unable to touch themselves, even if they wanted to. Devices for
people with penises and vaginas are available to purchase online to assure your
submissive is following orders properly.
Domestic Discipline
Domestic discipline includes things that can be done within the home. Some of these
include behaviour modifications or restrictions. While some of these can be done outside
the home, these are good examples of things for couples who live together can do for
punishments.
Chores: Chores not only benefit the entire household, but they can also be an effective
punishment for unruly subs. Added chores can be especially fun if you make her clean
the bathroom with a toothbrush or make him do dishes with nipple clamps on. Combine
with other punishments for your amusement!
Furniture Restriction: Especially fun for people into pet-play, furniture restriction involves
limiting where the submissive can sit or lie down. Require that they sit on the ground
instead of the couches or sleep on the floor next to the bed if they’ve been defiant.
Caging: Another good one for pets, especially. Caging can be used to make the
submissive reflect on their reasons for being punished. Be sure to use a cage small
enough to confine them, but still large enough so they aren’t going to hurt themselves by
spending too much time in the cage.

Bedtime: A great one for littles! Bedtimes are good for college students who don’t do their
homework, or easily distracted adults with work to do. Set up rules that require all
obligations get done and enforce an early bedtime to be sure they are well-rested (and
easily frustrated) when they don’t follow these rules.
Time-Out: Another punishment for reflection. Time-outs are good for brats and littles
because it makes them analyze what they did wrong. Put them in a corner or a special
“time-out chair” so they know they are being punished. Increase the time or add in other
punishments if they break rules more than once.
Sensory Deprivation: Sensory deprivation is a lot like time-out, but can be used for added
psychological torment. Plug the submissive’s ears or use headphones, blindfold them,
bind them to a bed or chair, and completely ignore them for a set about of time. This
desensitizes them and not only makes them reflect on their reasons for punishment, but
makes it very uncomfortable, assuring they won’t want to end up in isolation again.
Objectification: Objectification is fun for Dominants who like their submissives in service
to them during punishment. Make them kneel and become your footstool or coffee table
while you watch TV or catch up on work. This is even better when you make them do it
completely naked and/or in front of guests.
Speech Restriction: For disrespectful submissives, punish them by taking away their right
to a personal pronoun, making them refer to themselves as “this girl,” “Your slut,”
“Master’s puppy boy,” or anything else you want to use. You can also make it a rule that
they must refer to you by your Dominant title at all times, even in public. Having to
remember their restrictions on speech will keep them thinking about their punishment all
day.
Corporal Punishment
Corporal punishment is enforcement by physical contact. These types of punishments
involve pain, which is a tricky subject for punishing. Typically, pain punishments don’t
work as well to change behaviour, especially if the submissive is also a masochist. Be
sure to carefully choose what kind of pain if you’re going with one of these methods.
Impact: If your submissive likes thuddy pain, use stingy pain. If they like stingy pain, use
thuddy. Push their limits carefully, but make it clear this is a punishment and not for fun.
Have them apologize as you strike them. Tell them why they are being punished and
make it clear that they are to be good and learn from their mistakes.
Rice Kneeling: Kneeling on uncooked rice is an age-old technique that leaves painful
marks. Be careful with time, as this can scar if done for long periods of time or used
constantly. Be present during this to be sure the submissive can take it and listen
carefully for safewords. Use this as a time out or have them recite an apology to you as
you do this.
Figging: Figging is done by carving a plug out of ginger and inserting into the anus. This
causes a stinging pain that ranges in intensity depending on the person. Frozen ginger is
a milder form of this punishment.

Writing Assignments
Writing assignments are usually meant to bore a submissive into obedience. Whether it’s
writing lines or a random homework assignment, the punishment focuses on making it
undesirable for the submissive to misbehave.
Lines: Writing lines is effective if you use it reflectively. For example, for a submissive
who is disrespectful, you can have him write, “I will always be polite around my Sir,” a
hundred times. For a submissive who cums without permission, you can order, “I will ask
permission from Mistress before I cum,” until they fill up five pages. What’s even more
fun is making them be stuffed with a toy or on their knees with nipple clamps on while
they write.
Apology Letter: An apology letter is a simple task meant to make the submissive think
about what they have done, analyze why it was wrong, and have them apologize formally
by writing it down. Have them read their letter to you our loud or crumple it up and put in
their their underwear for that added perk of remembering all day that they were
punished.
Essay: An essay is a good assignment for submissives who don’t seem to understand
their rules. Make them come up with reasons as to why these rules are in place and write
a formal essay about the reasoning and purpose of these rules. Making them analyze the
fact that this is for their benefit will remind them that rules are not just there to be mean,
but to guide them to healthier behaviour.

Homework: Especially fun for people with school girl or teacher fantasies, assign a
random homework assignment. Ever wonder about a certain subject but never have time
to actually research it? Assign a paper to your submissive about a subject of your
choosing and have them report back to you–because knowledge is power! Grade their
paper and reward/punish again as necessary for the quality of their work.
It’s important to remember that reinforcements are also important in addition to
punishments. When your submissive follows directions, reward them. Give them a treat
or praise them and thank them for being so good. If you mix positive reinforcement with
punishments when necessary, they’re sure to be trained in no time!

About the Author
SubmissiveFeminist started off as a personal blog back in March of 2011. Since then, it
has grown to be a place to connect with the online community, share my experiences
and knowledge in kink and sexuality, and teach the importance of self expression.
I currently hold my B.A. of
Psychology, with a focus on
Women, Gender, and Sexuality
Studies from Central
Connecticut State University.
During my undergraduate
studies, I conducted a study on
sexual satisfaction and gender
identity. I also created an
independent study course on
kink and feminism. During this
time, I researched the positive
attributes of BDSM on women’s
empowerment, both on a
personal level and the
community as a whole.
Above all else, I support the
risk-aware, consensual choices
of the individual. I believe
everyone has the right to
pursue a sexual lifestyle where
they have full autonomy over
their bodies to seek pleasure
how they see fit so long as
consent and safety are
maintained.
I have been writing about kink
and reviewing sex toys for over
eight years. Sharing my
knowledge is the most valuable
aspect of running this website.
It is a professional aspiration of
mine to give workshops and
lectures on sexual identity, BDSM instruction, alternative sexual lifestyles, and adult sex
education.
I currently reside in Connecticut.
https://www.submissivefeminist.com/punishment-management/

Kinky Kitchen

Rum Balls
by Kitchi Crystal-Nashoba
With the holiday season this year I have made a few easy recipes. These are some of
my favourite, and a spicy one was requested. Happy Holidays, and enjoy all the gifts of
the season!

RUM BALLS
INGREDIENTS
10 oz. Vanilla wafers, plus more for coating
1 c. Toasted pecans, chopped
1/2 c. Powdered sugar (have extra for coating)
3 tbsp. Cocoa powder (have extra for coating)
1/2 tsp. Ground cinnamon
1/2 tsp. Kosher salt
1 tsp. Pure vanilla extract
1/4 c. Rum
3 tbsp. Water
DIRECTIONS
Finely grind vanilla wafers, pecans,
powdered sugar, cocoa powder,
cinnamon, and salt in a food
processor. Add vanilla, rum, and
water and pulse until a ball forms
around the blade. Add more water
(or rum!) as needed to help mixture
hold together.
Roll mixture into 1" balls and then coat them in crushed “Nilla” wafers, powdered sugar, or
cocoa powder.
Chill until ready to serve.

INGREDIENTS
1 lime, halved
2 tbsp. Sugar
CRANBERRY MIMOSAS
1 c. sweetened cranberry juice
1 Champagne bottle
12 Fresh cranberries
4 Small sprigs fresh rosemary
DIRECTIONS
Rime champagne flutes with lime and dip
in sugar. Pour 1/4 cup cranberry juice
into each glass and top with champagne.
Use a toothpick to poke a hole through
cranberries. Thread rosemary skewer
through cranberries to garnish the mimosas.
INGREDIENTS
1 Stalk of celery, minced
1 Medium onion, minced
1 Tablespoon olive oil
2 Cans (or 1/2 pound of crab meat)
1/2 Cup Thick white sauce
2 Eggs well beaten
1/2 tsp. Pepper (you can use white or black)
CRAB PUFFS

1/2 tsp. Seasoned salt (you can find various types
in stores)
1/2 Cup Cracker crumbs (I take selves of crackers
and crush them before opening the package for
less mess)
DIRECTIONS
Sauté onion and celery in olive oil. Drain on paper
towel. Mix with crab meat, white sauce, eggs,
seasoning and cracker crumbs. Shape into bite
size balls. Fry in deep hot shortening until golden
brown. Drain and serve hot. Should make about
3 dozens.
WHITE SAUCE
INGREDIENTS
2 Tbsp. Butter (I use unsalted but it's your choice)
2 Tbsp. All-purpose flour
1/4 tsp. Salt
1/8 tsp. Pepper
1 Cup milk
DIRECTIONS
In a 1/2-quart saucepan, melt butter over low heat.
Stir in flour, salt and pepper. Cook over medium
heat, stirring constantly, until mixture is smooth
and bubbly; remove from heat.
Gradually stir in milk. Heat to boiling, stirring
constantly; boil and stir 1 minute.

BRIE WITH SPICED CARAMEL
INGREDIENTS
16 oz. Deli Brie wheel (or wedges)
1/2 cup Caramel sauce
1 tsp. Pumpkin (or apple) pie spice
1/2 tsp. Ground red pepper
AND PEPITAS
1/4 cup Roasted pepitas (or sunflower kernels)
Crackers, pretzels, or pita chips (optional, for serving)
DIRECTIONS
Preheat oven to 425 °F. Remove cheese from packaging, then shave off top rind if
desired. Place cheese in small baking dish; bake 5–8 minutes or until cheese is melted
and gooey.
Combine caramel, pumpkin spice, and red pepper in a small microwave-safe dish; whisk
until blended. Cook on HIGH 1 minute or until hot.
Top cheese with caramel mixture and sprinkle
with pepitas. Serve with crackers, pretzels, or pita
chips, if desired.
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Shivers down my spine

What You Wish For
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Part 1. Sunday Morning
avid stirs as the first rays of sunlight filter into the bedroom. As usual, he turns
over and gently pulls Claire into his arms. Without waking, she presses herself
against his lean body and pushes her bottom against his hardening cock, an
unconscious movement which makes him dizzy with desire and tenderness toward her.
David gently kisses the back of her neck, inhaling her scent and tasting the sheen of
sweat which prickles her skin on this summer morning. He moves his hand up from her
flat stomach to caress her small round breasts, feeling her nipples harden as his palm
gently brushes her sensitive areolae. He can hear Claire's breath start to quicken as he
moves his hand down her body, lingering over the concavity above her hips before
moving his focus to the entrancing topography of her bottom. David's hand moves over
her ass cheeks, his fingers start probing the moist cavity within before they prise her
apart exposing Claire's asshole to the cool morning air.
She is passive now, enjoying her vulnerability and anticipating what is to come. He gently
pushes his fingertip into her tight anus, and she relaxes her sphincter to let it in further.
Claire reaches her hand behind to grasp his hard cock and guide it between her legs.
David can already feel her wetness as the tip of his cock pushes at her cunt mouth
probing its way in. As he slides into her tight pussy he marvels at her ability to become so
quickly aroused, even after all this time together. He holds her waist and thrusts his long
cock into her warm interior, telling her how much he loves her, how much he loves
fucking her. His rhythm intensifies as he feels her cunt juice drenching his balls and
running down his leg onto the damp sheets. He feels a trance-like state of equilibrium
between his erotic dreams and an earthy reality where it's hard for him to tell where he
ends, and she begins. Later, (how long? he has no idea) he feels her insides tighten and
try to push him out, as she gasps "Oh god, oh god" and makes that strange yet familiar
guttural animal sound that tells him she is about to come. There is no more pretence of
tenderness as he forces himself into her depths, Claire thrusting her ass onto his cock.
Both losing control as they come together, semen, vaginal fluid and sweat intermingling
as they collapse back onto the bed, still connected, in tired satisfaction.
Two hours later, after a leisurely shower and another sleep they both lay on the bed,
lazily enjoying the cool breeze through the open windows as it blows across their naked
bodies. Claire is absently stroking David's flaccid cock. He turns towards her "Tell me a
story from your past." he says.

"Which one? You know them all, already."
"The one where you had a threesome with your boyfriend and his friend."
"I knew you would say that! Well it was a long time ago now. I can't remember all the
details. We were all pretty high that evening."
Claire can feel David's cock growing in her hand as he investigates her face. "Tell me
what you remember." he says.
She smiles at him and begins to talk, "Well, my
boyfriend and I weren't really seeing each other by
then although we hadn't officially broken up. We
had a party at his place one evening and his friend
visiting from America came along. Really
handsome tall guy called Jack. I hadn't met him
before. We were all taking coke and getting along
well. Jack was paying me a lot of attention and
flirting with me all night, but my boyfriend wasn't
getting upset. In fact, he seemed to be encouraging
it."
"Go on." says David, although he knows every
detail of this story intimately.
"By the end of the evening," she says "there was
only the three of us left. It was my boyfriend who
suggested a threesome. I thought he was joking at
first, we had never done anything like that before,
but the coke was making me horny and Jack was
beautiful, so I thought why not? The three of us
were sitting on the sofa and my boyfriend was
kissing me whilst I had my legs draped over Jack. I moved my foot over the crotch of his
jeans and I could feel is dick was hard. I started rubbing it with my toes. I could feel
Jack's hand gently touching my legs. He was lightly running his fingers up my thighs and
under my skirt, until he was just touching my panties before moving away again."
"Were you wet?" David asks.
"God yes." Claire laughs, "I'd never been so turned on. Jack knew exactly how to tease
me."

She can see David is now very excited and she starts mischievously stroking his hard
cock, squeezing the tip as he investigates her green eyes, his hands moving over her
body, down to her pussy, still swollen from their earlier exploits. The story is arousing
Claire too, as she begins to remember more details of that evening.
"What did your boyfriend do?" asks David, "Was he jealous?"
"Not at all" replies Claire, "He took off my top and bra, and started rubbing my tits,
showing them off to Jack who can't take his eyes off me. By this time, Jack had his hand
inside my panties and was rubbing my clit. Pushing his fingers inside me inside my wet
pussy. I was so excited that I could hardly speak. Then my boyfriend asks me to kiss
him, so I lean over and kiss Jack, pushing my tongue into his mouth and tasting him.
Knowing my boyfriend was watching us both was so sexy."
David, lifts Claire's long leg over him, and guides his cock into her wet cunt for the
second time that morning. He holds her under her knee and gently pushes himself inside
her. "Go on." he says.
"My boyfriend takes off my skirt and panties and has me stand in front of them naked."
She says, "Then he starts showing my body off to Jack. He talks about how much he
loves my long legs, then has Jack stroke and touch them. They start on my breasts,
weighing them in their hands and then each sucking a nipple. I am a quivering mess of
lust by this time. I felt like a slave in a Roman market Jack was so handsome and to be
honest all I could think about was fucking him..."
David's thrusts are becoming stronger and Claire can feel his excitement mounting as
rubs her clit with his long fingers working in tandem with his cock...
"So then," she tells him "the boys strip off and stand in front of me naked. I hold and
stroke their hard cocks and I can feel that Jack's is much bigger and thicker than my
boyfriends. It was circumcised which I hadn't seen before. I was fascinated. I kneel in
front of them and take them in my mouth."
"Who did you suck off first?" asks David.
Claire hesitates before replying "I put them in my mouth at the same time."
This is new information for David, although he has heard the story many times. He
wonders why she is telling him this now and feels himself filled with lust and jealousy and
desire for this beautiful and uninhibited woman.
"They were quite gentle with me." She says "I had never done that before and having
two cocks in your mouth is quite a stretch. It was an effort not to gag. They took it in turns

to push themselves into my mouth and I could feel it as each cock as it touched the back
of my throat. Eventually my boyfriend came inside me and I swallowed his come, looking
at Jack. After that, we go and lie on our bed. I am lying sandwiched between them and I
take turns kissing each of them, sucking their tongue while the other is massaging my
body and pushing their fingers into my wet cunt. Jack didn't seem to mind tasting my
boyfriend's cum in my mouth."
"Did you fuck Jack?" David asks insistently, although he already knows the answer
"Well, when I was kissing my boyfriend I could feel Jack's hard cock pressed against my
bum and he hadn't come yet" she says " so I asked him if it was ok and he just smiled
and nodded, so I opened my legs and allowed Jacks cock to push inside me."
David is struggling to contain his excitement now.
He can picture Claire sucking and fucking these
two men and feels an intoxicating mix of lust and
envy. He is silent now but his engorged cock
pistons into her body as her cunt floods his balls
and drips down his ass once again.
Claire continues to talk, her memories and David's
cock combining to bring her close to the point of
no return. "He was fucking me from behind and his
cock felt much bigger than my boyfriend's. The
force of his thrusts was pushing my face into my
boyfriend's chest and as I looked up at him, I had
never seen him so excited. I couldn't stand it
anymore. I pushed Jack back off me onto his back,
got on top of him and guided his huge cock into
my pussy. Then I started fucking him, bouncing up
and down as filled my insides, looking up at me
with his blue eyes. It was amazing. I saw my boyfriend watching us and reached out to
hold his hand. I felt very connected to him. Jack was pushing up at me now, holding my
hips and thrusting inside my cunt as I pushed down and I started coming. I don't know
how many orgasms I had before I felt him starting to come. He wasn't wearing a condom
and I could feel his come flooding my insides and seeping back out onto the base of his
cock."
David stops fucking Claire. His penis is iron hard inside her and Claire feels close to
orgasm "Don't stop now" she pleads.

"Would you do that with me?" he asks.
"What?" she asks.
"Have a threesome with another guy"
She laughs "Do you think you could handle it? You get jealous if I even talk to another
guy in a bar!"
"This would be different," he replies "we would be together. I want to see you experience
that kind of pleasure. As long as you don't have feelings for the other guy, I think it would
be fun to see you use him as your sex toy."
"Well, it would be an intense experience" Claire says. "But you know how much I love
you and I don't want to harm our relationship. You have to be ok with seeing me fuck
another man."
"I think it would be incredible"
says David "it would be such a
turn on and something we have
never tried. I think we are
secure enough in our
relationship to make this
happen."
fuck any man you choose."
"Ok, if you are sure, let's do it
then" says Claire, her eyes
shining with excitement "I would
do anything for you, and I will
David, feels the familiar electric rush as his orgasm rises within him and he floods her
pussy with his cum. Afterward they lie together enfolded in each other's arms, gently
kissing.

Simply online….
Online BDSM – D/s Relationships
his is a topic I feel the need to explore more as it seems to be really controversial
with fans and haters both having valid arguments. Some would say that online
domination is the ultimate submission based on the fact the submissive has to do
everything on her own which isn’t easy many times. Get spanked hard might come easy
when you are on a Master’s knees but do it on your own might not be an easy task. On
the other hand there are those who claim it isn’t submission at all given the fact the
submissive might close the connection at any time (which to me sound close to what the
use of the safe word would result in real life) but also the absence of the physical
presence has a great impact.
It seems like a growing trend that people claim to be professional Doms who will provide
online training for those who seek to learn. Honestly? Not that it can’t be done but
claiming this as a profession sounds ridiculous. I also had a few emails asking me if I am
doing this. In any case this a lifestyle, this is who and what we are not a profession. In
my opinion online Domination is a possibility that requires both to be completely honest
on what they seek, what they think, how they feel as also having a good match regarding
how deep they both want to go in D/s. Is it just for the sexual side or is it a total control?
Anyway this isn’t an article about me, if I am into online D/s and what I think about it.
Here are some interesting words from a sub I found during my research over the web:
“People have asked me whether I had to endure punishment on my own. The answer is
yes, though truthfully I was never punished a lot. While the easiest (and worst)
punishment would have been to have total silence between us, that was a bit too easy.
As a novice, I forgot that punishments didn’t always come right away. One night during a
video chat Sir reminded me that I was due a punishment. Two things happened. The first

thing was that I had to redden my own ass. Spanking one’s self is both challenging and
humiliating. Honestly, I can tolerate pain much easily when it’s coming from someone
else. Spanking myself was not easy because you can’t get the angle right to really
deliver a blow……… Anyone who tells you that punishments can’t be doled out properly
in a long distance relationship clearly has never truly experienced it before……………
Playing from a distance is very exciting, and creative Dominants and willing submissives
can have loads of fun trying new things together. For a submissive, playing from a
distance requires an extra dose of self-discipline. ”
What I noticed is that many vanilla consider to try the online Domination and submission.
A good reason behind this as I see it is their deepest fear to try it in real life (though some
of them might really desire it) and the fear to share their deepest thoughts with their
partners. As humans we tend to be insecure when it comes to sharing our deepest
desires with each other. We keep certain fantasies strictly to ourselves as we learned to
feel ashamed and label them as dark.
Let us get a bit deeper on how as humans learn about our likes and dislikes. Actually it is
a very simple way. Try and decide. Do you like fried chicken? You do know that you like
chicken but then you have to try all the different ways to cook it to come down to a
decision which one is your favourite one. The same goes with everything. Do you like
Domination and submission? You must have tried it to know. Does it work for you online?
Again you need to try it to decide. Just by throwing out arguments won’t take you
anywhere. You may imagine it works or it doesn’t work, that for Master x and sub y did
work but at the end of the day if you don’t try it yourself you’ll never know.
Now if you ask me to give you how an online D/s could work I would say there are two
different options:
Servitude of pleasure. A submissive who loves to serve expects to find one to provide
pleasure whenever she/he is asked for. I find this to be mostly sexual but there might be
a total control approach here. It isn’t that different in real life and I believe a Dom online
would ask exactly the same as he would in real. I can’t see my self online ask only for
sexual submission when in real I need a deeper control of my sub. If it was online I would
love to control her the same way I would in real.
Exploration D/s. In this case both are trying to explore their likes. Ideally the one knows
already his/her likes and helps the other to explore their side. You know a submissive
may always help a Dom find his way in the lifestyle. It isn’t only the Dom who does this
for the sub.

Would it lead in a real life relationship? Again this is up them to decide how they use the
online. It might be a period of trial, to see and learn each others likes before deciding to
take it to the next level in real life, or it might simply be a pleasure game that will stay the
same. If they are honest from the start in what they seek it will save time for both. I, for
example, feel quite hesitant to get involved with an online relationship as I know to many
out there use the cyber just to satisfy some fantasy and never explore their deeper
desires. As I am one who cares mostly for a true relationship the online D/s comes with
the fear of losing time and invest (sentimentally) with those who care for a cyber sex
experience.
Here is something found on the
web from a Mistress that I totally
agree with:
“Among the cyber population is a
growing number of predators.
Those who seek to find the
vulnerable, exploit their dreams
and pervert those dreams into
ugly episodes of brutality and
cruelty. And there are those who
have discovered a way to find
‘free’ people to use for sex or
servant. They have landed amidst the herd of the unsuspecting. The only way to combat
these people who are not ‘of’ our community but ‘using’ it for ugly purposes is education.
The more a person learns the easier it becomes to spot those who have suspect
motives.”
To conclude this article, I have to admit that online-cyber D/s might be a possibility to
explore up to some level your self but at the end of the day you need to take this in real
life. If you wish to try it, then it is up to you how you will explore your world of Domination
and submission.

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A mix of music genres to inspire lust and love in your play scenes, shared by our editor and
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My Angel's voice...PART ONE : by Hydra Larsson
Accompanied by Bury My Heart
There will be a door for heaven...
After sensing my whole body being hurt, from toe to hairs, after touching the dark
clouds, after seeing the stars in the sky, sitting in the right of my heretic Angel as a
reward, will be my last wish before my climax.
I still wonder sometimes in my head why when i begin to speak to someone, i'am like
away, hearing the blabla but imagining also a complete story , where i would surrender
myself to the person, still wondering why i would like to be on my knees, just looking at,
with shinny eyes , like a student fascinate by some of the storys the teachers are telling
to one.
It comes to me...Never have i told you my inner thoughts... the deepest ones … you
know ,the ones that you generally never speak about unless you have that « best
friend » .
I would give you my soul to sense one more time the light silver chains brushing my
breasts, crawling like a snake on my stomach, raising each part of my skin on the path.
Waiting the slap on my bare bum in my mind like a gift you would offer me, like to tell me
you like me and want me.
Those shadows we build around our body, the steps we do in darkness, and that fly to
heaven that always awaits us. I would sign any contract with you, as long as there is
pain, as long as there is love, as long as there is deliverance, as long as i see your wings
deploying themselves, your body sweating on me.
I wanna keep still our little world apart, i don't wanna tell anyone about, because i
wanna see that glance at me , when you squeeze my butt in public with an evil smile.
Sometimes, when your not near , trying to empty my mind, in general , the birds where
whispering magic words in my ears, but time to time, the birds are covered by the
whispers of an Angel, then i smile again, and my mind getting plain again.
To my Angel, that whispers to my soul. To my Angel, that made me discover a world i
wanna live in. To my Angel, that i love...
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