L&R June Magazine 2017

Liberty
Issue 10
June 2017
&
Restraint
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SILVERMOON
PHOTOGRAPHY
Capturing the moment!
Capturing a moment on film takes more
than a camera. It takes an eye trained
by experience to identify the
components of an image required to
make a moment truly stand out.
FEATURES
INK SPOTS AND
FEELINGS!
A series of journals a collection of
feelings and thoughts from the
submissive perspective. join Blissful
Telling as she shares an intimate selection
of journals to her Master
Poetry Corner
Shivers Down
my Spine
Dominance
By Sir Arithon
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/ParrotHead%20Cove/165/186/41

Letter from the editor
Editors
Flame Jie
Sir Arithon
Kaderin Luminos
Columnists
A. Sands
Chef Lew
Freelance Writers
Mirjam Munro
Jon Mertz
Lady Payne
Blissful Telling
In unity there is
strength!
This month has seen a
turbulent time in the UK
which continues across the
world.
As most of you know the
UK is my home country and
with many attacks on our
way of life still blazing
across the headlines, i find
myself both sad and reflective this month.
I see at times the world holding it’s breath in tragedy and can’t
fail to marvel at the strength of communities across the world
who grieve together, stand together and are committed to
change, peace and hope.
So many lives touched by acts that seem self serving,
senseless and cowardly in the extreme.
Lives and people not cowed by the acts of terrorism and the
unity that burgeons and grows is awe inspiring. Heartfelt
thanks going out to our wonderful Doctors, Nurses and Police
that put themselves frontline in this most insidious of wars.
Be vigilant and Be Safe!
Happy reading!
Flame x

In this Issue….
Contents
Thrown to the floor
Articles, by Sir Arithon. The
refreshing no holds barred
viewpoint on all things D/s.
Articles
“Communication”
psychological theories
and methods. By Mirjam
Munro
D/shion
Our Introduction to second life
fashion D/s photography.
“Etiquette”
The forms required by
good breeding or
prescribed by authority or
direction to be displayed,
observed and
implemented in social or
public life.
Whats on in second life
Our VIP section. This section will
introduce you to some of the
wonderful places you can visit and
enjoy in second life. Also some of the
educational groups you can join for
quality lifestyle and community
information
Kinky Kitchen
Amazing recipe’s by Sir
Cheflew
How to Get and Keep
Respect – 4 Practices
Amazing article by Jon
Mertz.
“Dominance”
The fourth of 4
monologues describing
the journey to the collar
by Sir Arithon
Ink spots and feelings!
NEW
A new monthly section
written by Blissful
Telling. Intimate
collection of journals
written to her former
Master, varied topics
and insights from a
submissive.

In this Issue….
Contents
Classifieds
Information and advertisement for
venues and Shops online
Articles
Gallery
Erotic art, Editor’s picks.
Useful links
In the spotlight…
Showcase of the talent
that is in abundance in
SL.
like the web? Follow these
crumbs for fun and
information.
Simply Online
Specific content for those of the
lifestyle who only practice in Second
life or other online platforms and how
you might manage relationships in
these spaces.
Lyrical Passion, NEW!
Our new poetry corner, with
submissions from a varied
perspective.

Communication
“Communication strategies” - Transactional Analysis applied in D/s context
With this article, I would like to present one of the various psychological theories and
methods that can help with enslaving a submissive and growing the M/s bond. It is a
well-known communication theory, called “Transactional Analysis”. As we all know,
communication is a big part of the actions and dynamics between a Dominant and a
submissive. Success and failure of a relationship are correlated with how well the
partners can communicate with each other and understand each other.
Being open with each other and being willing to share is essential to the success of
any human relationship, and in D/s relationships even more so. For the following
paragraphs, i used the website http://www.enslavement.org.uk as a source of
inspiration.
1. The origin of Transactional Analysis
One famous book presenting the communication theory of Transactional Analysis
(=TA) has this title “OK - You”. It was written by Thomas Harris and was published in
1967. The book title describes the goal of successful communication: Both partners
participating in a transactional process / communication, should feel okay in the end
and also see that the other is okay. This is called the “healthy position”. Why is it called
position? When I start to communicate with someone, it should be my standpoint,
focus and goal - and in this sense position - that i want him/her and (!) myself to be
okay in the course and outcome of the transactional process. The ”healthy position”
describes a mindset.
It is not healthy when my partner is okay but i am not okay or the other way round. And
of course, when none of the communication partners feels okay, it is the worst form of
a communication that is a failure - it is called the “hopeless position”. We could also
call it the ”dead end”of a transactional process and it is very hard to find a way out
there during the same conversation.

Eric Berne, the founder of the Transactional Analysis, believed that Freud's
proposed structures of Id, Ego and Superego are “concepts... [and not]
phenomenological realities” (Berne, Eric. Transactional Analysis in Psychotherapy.
Grove Press, Inc., New York, 1961.) So Berne dealt with the phenomenological
realities. And these are the actions of individuals. How they conduct themselves in the
social environment, for example when they are communicating. So Berne’s therapist
approach was not to ask the client a lot of exploring questions such as a freudian
psychoanalytical therapist would do. He rather watched the client’s actions when he/
she acted in a social group. He tracked and analysed how their transactions were, how
they communicated ... what position they took in the transactional process,
discriminating healthy and unhealthy positions.
I think you already see what meaning Berne's approach carries for D/s relationships
and enslavement. Watching a submissive's communicative transactions and analysing
how he/she communicates can help a lot with getting to know the inside of the
submissive better and to get knowledge about how to best communicate with the sub
in order to reach him/her in his/her depths and further enhance enslavement.
2 Transactional positions
Transactional Analysis is based on the fundamental theory of how our brain records
and memorises events: The human brain acts in many ways like a camcorder, vividly
recording events. While that event may not necessarily be able to be consciously
retrieved by the owner, the event always exists in the brain. Both the event and the
feelings experienced during that event are stored in the brain. The event and the
feelings are locked together, and neither one can be recalled without the other. When
an individual replays his or her experiences, he or she can replay them in such a vivid
form that the individual experiences again the same emotions he or she felt during the
actual experience. I think we have all had plenty of communication situations when a
feeling stored in our brains from a past experience, for example, came back into our
mind very vividly and influenced our communication. This is not only relevant for
aspects of safety in D/s (traumas suddenly surfacing etc.), but also for effective
communication of Dominant and submissive trying to grow internal enslavement.
Depending on our past and current experiences and feelings and precognitions of our
future, our ego can assume different states. The psychological method of
Transactional Analysis speaks of the PARENT, ADULT and CHILD ego state, and
these ego states surface in the transactional actions of an individual during
communication.

“Depending on our past and current experiences and feelings and precognitions of
our future, our ego can assume different states.”

Someone who maybe had very overpowering and strict parents during childhood might
tend to still go into the child's rebellion when somebody talks to him/her in parent mode
such as "you should do this and this" ... "why didn't you ...". This is just one example.
These ego states and their mutual influence on one another during transactional
processes (communication) can be analysed, and this is what TA is about. Goal of TA
is to help individuals reflect themselves better when they communicating or preparing a
conversation and to help them achieve the healthy position in communication more
often. It should be clear that in order enslave a submissive successfully, the healthy
position in communication of Dominant and submissive is ultimately important and
should be strived for.
Application to D/s
Let's think of a Dom and a sub talking to each other. What could be a typical sentence
coming out of a "PARENT ego state" of the Dominant, influenced by behaviours,
thoughts and feelings copied/learned from his/her parents or parents figures?
Examples such as "I did not expect this kind of behaviour of you", "I've trained you
better than that", "You don't want to disappoint me, do You?" come to mind. Now,
which reaction could follow on the sub's side? It often happens that "parent ego state"
provokes a response coming out of "CHILD ego state", which is not surprising. We
have all been primed by our past experiences, and the impact of our family
socialisation is a huge one. So it might happen that a submissive answers "All the
other Dom's let their subs do it", and we are reminded of the rebellion of a teenage
child against the father or mother. Among adults, the relation "parental ego state
talking to child ego state" normally leads to communication problems and/or
miscommunications. This way, the healthy state "I am OK You are OK" seems to be
out of reach. Now, how would an ADULT ego state react to "I do not expect that kind of
behaviour from you?". One example is: Ask back, ask for info to be able to reflect
better. Try to get info to understand the Dom in the right way. Say something that
presents ability to self reflect and not let yourself be carried away by childish emotions
that may lead to reactions of rebellion or shame.
Let me give another example: The Dominant gives an order (parental), and the sub
says "But ..... is too difficult for me. I can't do this myself. I need your help." (child).
Response coming out parent ego state would be: "Awww of course ... let me help
you ..." and then "pamper pamper pamper" and/or "rule rule rule" may follow. An adult
ego might try to strengthen the powers of the communication partner who remains in
child position, trying to open resources to him/her and help him/her to have trust that
he/she will find the right way and offer cooperative (!) support in it ... but not do things
instead of the "helpless child".

Empower the submissive ... and not act out power instead of the submissive and let
him/her lazily lean back in childish helplessness which is the opposite of helping a sub
grow which is a goal many Dominants and subs have. So to speak, an adult ego might
try to empower the "child ego" he/she is interacting with get into "adult ego state" as
well. In general, a recipe for working towards healthy communication is this: When you
hear a "parent ego" talk to you, try to respond in the "adult state" (and not in child ego
state), and when you have a "child ego" talk to you don't try to respond as "parent ego"
but as "adult ego" as well. We know that some Dominants want their subs responsible
and understanding in the adult position, while in some structures of D/s such as
DaddyDom/baby girl the parental and childish transactional roles might be intended
and consciously developed. Even in other forms of D/s relationships quite many
submissives tend to live their "inner child" - at least once and again - and enjoy doing
so. Different relationships actually thrive on the different transactional roles. It belongs
to the great freedoms of D/s lifestyle that we can chose, based on consent with the
partner(s) involved. It is possible that achieving a "healthy position" is possible for a
specific Dom and a sub when they talk "parent to child and child to parent" during
some time. I nevertheless doubt that it is possible for them to maintain a stabile bond
of D/s and communicate effectively in a healthy way if they did this for a longer time,
without taking the positions "adult to adult".in their communication.
4 Conclusion
On assuming that we strive for healthy communication with all communication
partners involved being in the "I am okay . You are okay" condition, it becomes clear
that communication requires a lot of reflectivity of our own chosen words and
transactional position, the same as the reflectivity of the other's words and his/her
transactional position. Several submissives seem to seek something parental in the
Dominant and tend to react from child position, living their "inner child" freely and
enjoyably in their D/s relationship if the Dominant is a good match. The question at
hand is: Wouldn't it be better if the Dom tried to communicate as adult and not as
parent, in order to not get a "child response" but the reaction of an "adult"? it is clear
that as grown-ups and adult people we do not need to copy our parents ... as adults
we have our own individuality, minds and knowledge and experience of ourselves. But
we need to be aware that even without intention we might transact in the child position
or parents position.
In D/s context specifically, we need to be aware that it might be a deep need of a sub
to be accepted and communicate taking the "child position", as well as it might be a
need of a Dominant to be "paternal", and that the healthy position "I am okay - You are
okay" could be achieved even without both communicating from the adult to adult
transactional positions. Furthermore, such transactions could reinforce the relationship
roles of Dom and sub and deepen the feeling of ongoing enslavement. .

The goal in communication, is to empower each other to the healthy "I am ok You are
ok" position. Know Your Dominant, know Your sub, know Yourself. Dare and care to
use theoretical knowledge such as Transactional Analysis for communication as well.
Have fun exploring.
Written by Mirjam Munro in 2011 - revised for publication in the Liberty & Restraint
Magazine in May 2017

Etiquette
The forms required by good breeding or prescribed by authority or direction to be
displayed, observed and implemented in social or public life. Observance and
acknowledgment of a structure which produces identifications of rank, status, hierarchy
requiring expressions of conventional behaviour decorum as prescribed by strict rule
and custom relating to the differences within the behaviour based upon the relationship
of the individual to those of other rank and status.
The rules of accepted formal etiquette standards are complex. When approaching
issues of etiquette within a sub-society such as BDSM it becomes perhaps more
important to understand the existing basics of general etiquette and manners first.
Manners can be viewed to be the desire to please or express a generosity of self and
spirit blended seamlessly with common sense, practicality and knowledge which aids
us in our actions toward others. Manners (etiquette) essentially emerges from a desire
to express thought and care toward others, service to others. We use etiquette and
manners to celebrate traditions, reinforce rituals, highlight ceremonies, eliminate
friction, add balance or neutrality by expressing the fundamental belief that the rights,
traditions and belief's of others will be held in esteem and be considered of value
regardless or perhaps because of the differences between those belief's held by others
and the belief's held by the self.
The inability to embrace these forms of social flexibility can create atmospheres of
anger, disapproval, conflict, hatred and even warfare or other expressions of violence
and assault. Etiquette was developed as a means of breaching differences to reach a
place of communication where the beginnings of understanding become possible. As
our world inevitably shrinks people are beginning to communicate across borders,
countries, customs, traditions, and religions in increasing numbers. An international
'workplace' is no longer an unusual workplace. The Internet has created a vast border
crossing that allows each cyber visitor to communicate with human beings from all
walks of life, creeds, cultures, racial and ethnic backgrounds, social and sexual
diversities. The role of etiquette and manners has not 'declined' with these
advancements but become perhaps even more crucial. Each individual has the unique
right to determine based on their 'actions' how they will present themselves on the
world stage. Each can elect to comport themselves with dignity and grace, or can
choose to display conduct unbecoming by expressing the fear and hatreds common to
their personal upbringing.

Some people would like to remove the 'rules of etiquette' from existence in today's
societies. There has always been a suggestion that 'etiquette' is taught by the wealthy,
for the wealthy, that it is of no direct value to people who are not wealthy and may in
fact be detrimental to people in that actions of etiquette can be perceived to be elitist,
snobbish or 'putting on airs'. Etiquette does not tend to be recognised to be a simple
tool of behaviour and personal management of actions. Control of behaviour and
management of action are two of the base fundamentals of leadership. In historical
terms it is unquestionably true that leadership (of countries) has often emerged from
the wealthiest of society. However the skills of leadership are not 'inherent' skills but
can be taught and learned successfully by almost anyone. It is important to remember
that not everyone desires to be successful or the leader of a company or large group of
people, but almost everybody does desire to be successful, competent and able to
lead their small sphere and especially their family into a healthy, happy and successful
future. By embracing basics of behaviour structure, management of outbursts is
expanded and flexibility in adapting to new and different situations is enhanced
producing more competent and able offspring, and a more productive and successful
life.
To learn the basic forms of etiquette begins by obtaining a comprehensive book on
etiquette. I do suggest Emily Post and often encourage 'open readings' of passages
from within the book as a discipline technique for infractions involving behaviour acting
out for set periods of time. In this way the individual is actively learning a new skill
which may tend to aid that individual in solving underlying issues which manifest as
behaviour problems throughout their lives. In addition, as a dominant, I have found that
'listening' to such readings is often humorous and personally enlightening. Reading
and 'hearing' involve different processes within the mind, such 'readings' inevitably
teach me something new or add a layer of insight or consideration that perhaps I may
have ignored or forgotten about.
It is interesting to note that some of the more 'famous' finishing schools in Europe are
said to have emerged from 'Academies of Discipline'. These houses were purported to
be 'schools' teaching the intricacies of interrogation when such skills were used by
reigning royal families to elicit information out of unwilling persons. When the practices
of torture receded the families who ran these Academies appear to have adapted to
more modern times into what we call today 'finishing' schools which include instruction
on how to manage countries, companies, and within the home environment, servants
effectively and properly.
Written by Lady Payne

In the spotlight…

Unlike other photography studios, at Silvermoon Studios we take the time to get to know
who you are, and what photo fantasies and needs we can provide. We find out what
makes you tick, so we can design the very best photo shoot, tailoring your session to
make your poses personal and professional. For us photography is so much more than
just taking a photograph; here we utilise the best technology in order to provide you with
lasting memories you will be proud to hang on your wall and show your friends and loved
ones.
Why chose Silvermoon Studios? The answer is a simple one. We apply our range of
photographic experiences to meet your personal needs. Do you want a unique pose? We
will build it for you. Do you need a one of kind album, we will create it for you. From the
family portrait, images of your special pet, the elegance of your wedding day, to those
most intimate of moments, we will capture not only the personalities of each individual in
the image, but the essence of the whole, bringing it to life.
Capturing a moment on film takes more than a camera. It takes an eye trained by
experience to identify the components of an image required to make a moment truly stand
out. I have experience in a wide range of photographic situations. Our images are shot at
the highest possible resolution allowable in SL and we use a wide array of technology and
software to ensure your photo best captures the moment.

Our approach to photography is relaxed, natural, and relational. We put our clients at
ease so the image best represents what you are trying to capture in the image. Our
style creates images that have a candid and emotional quality even when they are
posed portraits. We edit your photos in a variety of styles from very clean and crisp
to using various filters and methods to get the most out of your image and based on
your needs.
Please feel free to contact me to discuss your next project. Chances are, I'll not only
meet your needs, but exceed your expectations. If you are trying to contact me in
world and I am not online, please send either and IM (I will receive it via email) or
send a NC with your specific
requests and I will get back with
you as soon as I can.
Thank you
Silver

How to get and keep respect
I believe one thing people want in life is respect. We want to feel valued, listened to,
and called upon to do ordinary and extraordinary things. It is about self-worth, and it is
about using our talents.
Respect is such a simple thing in concept. In practice, since other people are involved,
respect gets more complicated. Self-interests are mixed in, so emotions and actions
impact us in unexpected or adverse ways.
We cannot get distracted from who we really are and who we really want to be. After
all, respect begins with self-respect, and this is the starting point in how to get and
keep respect.
Practice 1: Engage self-respect.
We need to take care of ourselves first, meaning we need to:
• Expand our mind through learning and reading
• Improve our bodies through exercise and healthy eating
• Refresh our spirit through practices to centre our soul and keep us on a
purpose-filled path
Self-respect puts substance on our presence. It is not a one-time activity. It is a
continuous flow of self-enhancement, self-awareness, and self-empowerment.
The point is self-respect needs to be at the core of how we gain respect in our
community, workplace, family, and other places of interaction. Self-respect, however, is
not arrogance. Arrogance rarely, if ever, inspires respect.
Practice 2: Exhibit strong humility.
Humility denotes self-confidence coupled with an understanding of place. By place, I
mean we are not above others or certain standards. We hold ourselves accountable to
a higher calling.
Humility is strength in who we are and what we are called to do while always being
aware of how we fit into the world and support others around us. Yes, a long way to
simply say “If you want respect, don’t put yourself above others in an inappropriate or
superior way.”
Even better, as Kate Nasser recently pointed out in a blog post:
“Consider replacing the weak image of humility with a picture of its authentic strengths.
Tapping others’ talents shows your confidence. Hearing others’ opinions expands your
view. Celebrating the whole instead of yourself extends your reach.”

Practice 3: Be active in our real life community.
To gain and retain respect, we need to act. Respect is about doing good works and
inspiring others. It is not about recognition; it is about helping out and lifting up others.
Our actions will really determine what level of respect we have.
Our actions may include:
• Mentoring others in the workplace or mentor kids who don’t have a father (see
The Mentoring Project)
• Volunteering at school
• Getting involved in a community project
• Starting a leadership group to raise insights
• Smiling and engaging people in conversations
• Doing something positive often!
Being active translates into doing more than the minimum at home, work, and
community. Respect gains more traction and staying power when our work is
demonstrated more fully in more places.
Practice 4: Make good, reputable choices in what we say and do.
Our choices reflect an image, and the image is truly us. It may be like a shadow as
described by Lolly Daskal, which “lead us back to our purpose…” Our choices need to
align with our purpose in living and leading.
The choices we make include the ones illustrating how we approach life and the ones
made in the heat of a moment. In both, people will see our character in our life-long
and split-second choices. Integrity in our choices will generate deeper respect.
A way to think of these four practices for getting and keeping respect can centre on
four core questions:
• Who are we? Leads to self-respect.
• How do we do things? Embraces humility.
• What do we do? Incorporates purpose-filled actions.
• Why do we do things? Inspires solid, positive big and small choices.
Each practice is intertwined. Good choices lead to stronger self-respect. Humility leads
to strength in service and a more engaged community. The web of respect begins to
extend, capturing the attention of others to weave their own threads of respect.
What practices do you embrace to get and keep respect?

Dominance
“Dominance”
The fourth of 4 monologues describing
the journey to the collar
by Sir Arithon
The last in a set of four
monoluges by Sir Arithon.
Short pieces in the
journey to the collar.
Dominance (Part 4) Finally
he decides to engage with
that side of him and
embrace the girl.
Well! This concludes the set of
what I call the D/s Monologues
and I certainly hope you enjoyed
them. What is more I hope that if
you are engaged in or under
consideration from either side of
the kneel the magazine and
articles such as these can help
people bring their own unique
styles to their own singularly
unique dynamics both in terms of
administration and of service.
Although each of us will have a
completely different set of
requirements and perspectives
regarding how we would like our
dynamics to be and from the D
side of the kneel what we expect
of our subs and indeed what our
subs require in the way of
administration the fundamental
principles always apply.
Consent
Communication
Negotiation
Consent (Yes I know its
repeated)
I know it is not always true to say
this but remember that in there
too are people that love each
other and with that comes a lot of
emotion, doubt and anxiety so
don’t be too hasty to lock that
collar or to take the kneel
because getting there organically
will save a load of heart ache for
all later.
Above all I would say in my case
and I can’t speak for all of course
D/s has little or nothing to do with
Kink. That we find the two things
often connected is a happy
coincidence. We may all have
our kinks but that is about Sex
and experiencing deep emotions
in a deeply personal way and
frankly nobody’s business but
yours.
The D/s power exchange
dynamic is a structure where
defined and agreed roles are
adopted for the good of the
dynamic and where resolution
sits at the centre. Such
Dominance and submission
comes with a great deal of trust
and responsibility on the part of
both or A/all parties so take your
time and really do enjoy the
journey
Sir Arithon.

The man ponders – his mind not registering the full gravity of the scene, long blonde
locks knelt in adoration and submission before him. China delicate features outlining that
look, that piercing tranquillity that radiated from her. She was oblivious to the chatter of
the assembled throng clearly focused on the sublime moment.. right here and now.?
The man ponders – Casting his mind back he recalls other moments over the years and
in that second it seems to him he can freeze time, rendering the memories in
monochrome splendour interspersed with vibrant splashes of colour. “how had he
reached this place” a “product of the devil his father would say”, before prattling on about
perception and angrily declaring that all the things he himself saw as diversity and
vibrancy in the human race should be destroyed as “freakish and perverse”. Urgh!! How
his blood had boiled at his father’s small minded prejudice.
The man ponders - still locked in the briefest moment as he studies the form before him.
Then un asked for and unbidden like the onset of summer rain comes that word.. Why? .
Oh that word bringing with it the resonance of so many things, WHY! It calls to him.
Questions never answered but merely touched upon, hinted on the wind. Why did the
dominance bring such a feeling of immediate arousal. Why did the power course through
his body with each command and…. Well why had each relationship before crashed
around his ears like so many piles of shattered hopes and dreams.
The man ponders - he knew the answer. Or at least felt that he was so close to
understanding that he would be able to touch it if he closed his eyes. So simple in its
design that many will never truly understand. Know one ’s self. He had read that before
so many times but always felt detached from its meaning. In nearly all cases where
things had failed he had wrestled with the conflict between what was right and what was
somehow perceived as an act of selfishness. Not blameless his mind considers the
vision before him and smiles. Sure and strong in the knowledge that all the events of the
past have brought him here.

The man ponders – the fleeting frozen second begins to ebb away casting him sprawled
in the present. His vow so well rehearsed sticks to dry and cracked lips his throat
constricting with blood pumping in his ears threatening to deafen him. Feeling his face
heat up as the betraying blush spreads across his otherwise controlled face. Aware now
of the gathered onlookers, with their smiling dark eyes and broad welcoming smiles
seemingly unaware of what had just transpired.
The man smiles - all the tension of the day funnelled away, the low murmur of the crowd
drowned out completely as he swims in those beautiful eyes. feeling the adoration there
boring into him, filling him with the essence of her . His heart leaps in his chest and
threatens to burst out as he slides the delicate leather around her slender neck. Seeing
her eyes close as the clasp clicks shut with that certainty of fate. A look of serenity
passing over her face as the room erupts in thunderous accolade to the moment past.
Washing over them in a joyous wave.. Home complete Owned.

D/shion
by A.Sands
Our Introduction to second life fashion
& D/s photography.

Today I read an article
about Dominance in an
place I least expected.
They said what i wanted to
mean in this article. “A
dominant tells you the plans
you are doing for the night
because HE decides what
to do”. Simple words,
completely true but not so
simple as they seem.
In the complicated and
often two worlds we live in,
finding a moment to say
NOW it is not always easy.
We are often waiting for the
proper moment to share
while needs are growing
inside. Sooner or later we
talk about those feelings
and needs. Sir leads those
conversations, but even if I
don’t know what, I know
something is coming. I feel
it, and I long for it. When
routines allow us a break,
some days in advance Sir
explores me, and in a
certain way I would say I
explore him too. Things
start to be fixed. A session
is set. Talking about all this
helps him to find what could
be better for us on that
moment, or simply he tests
how I could feel about what
he has in mind for us. I am
still amazed at the freedom
with which I am able to speak about my own body, about those things that my body could
or not need, desire,

stand or be ready to suffer once the
session arrives. That awakes our inner
snakes, as he likes to say.
Conversations increase and lead our
desires to a point and help me to be
prepared to something we agreed to
explore. Sometimes I know what is
waiting for me, sometimes I know “what”
although I don’t know “how” but I have
to organise and have things ready for
when he decides to use them. Even
though, not always things are as they
were planned in advance, and it
depends on our reactions and how
things are going. He decides.
Most of the times, these talks even
include the way I have to dress, as his
paper doll. So, even before meeting him
I find myself thinking about what is
coming while I am getting ready the way
he wants me. My mind fills just with the
idea I am going to surrender completely
to that desire he has set in our both
souls. My body is the toy. Scaring
emotions mix with arousal while I add a
nice envelop to the gift he wants more,
me, his mine, his body. It builds inside
me the most unbelievable feeling of
belonging that grows from deep towards
the skin that longs for his touch.
Today was a nice lingerie set under an
old fashioned petticoat, laces and silks
covered with a slippery silky
robe until the moment he
decides to take it off,
peeling my outfit as he has
been peeling my layers in
advance, getting me ready
to this moment. A blind fold
to cover my eyes, and his
words saying where to
stand, when to undress,
what position I should take.
His eyes on his doll-girl,
knowing all what he sees is
his.

Robe: Valentina E. - V.e. Rosa Vintage Lace Robe Petal. (Chat command to Open /
Close)
Petticoat: ~Blacklace~ Catherine: Mesh Silk & Lace Slip Set 2
Lingerie: ~Blacklace~ Elaine: Beige Lace - Omega Applier Hud
Neck: Chop Zuey Womens Gift - Luxuxy TexCh Neck Wrap
Feet ribbons: [CerberusXing] - [CX] Ankle Bellets - Red
Hair: Magika [01] Stumble

D/s Fashion

Thrown to the floor…
It is good to talk a little about terms you might hear in and around the lifestyle, so my
musings will start there and end up where they may…..
BDSM - does it scare you to know that many many people enjoy a lifestyle choice that
many regard as extreme and if not at best kinky?
let break it down so that we can understand the nature of the lifestyle and hope to shed a
little light on things
B: Bondage and yes for the most part this is referring to the physical restraining of ones
partner during sexual encounters. Does that seem odd to you? id wager a little kink in
the bedroom department is on a lot of minds out there and probably in practise in far
more than a few.
But what of being bound by a structure based on love and respect. A relationship style
that has no dishonesty, no infidelity and where all issues are resolved at the time they
happen so no problems linger. A respect that binds two (or more in some cases)
together.
D: Dominance. to be dominated by another. This is where the women’s rights movement
book their ticket to rally behind the anti me league. Why they do is because the they
confuse dominance for domineering. Many many women find themselves in abusive
relationships to domineering and controlling bullies and let me tell you I am the first
beating down their door to put an end to that sort of thing. So back to dominant. Strong,
protective, decisive, gilding and dependable, honest and above all there is trust. I think
that meets most of the requirements of a decent person. Dominating in bed.. surely one
person always does if the experience is to be gratifying. Yes i do appreciate that for
some people they just won’t understand the enjoyment another person gets from some
of the extreme stuff you "accidentally!" get exposed to. Ask yourself this. Do you want to
be known as someone who judges a person by their sex life?
S: We have two definitions widely used here. Both are valid in BDSM so here they both
are,
Submission. The act of giving yourself freely to the control of another the flip side of the
Dominance coin. It is a place where you are cherished,
loved and protected. It requires consent and is not weak. in fact it requires great strength
and discipline
Sadism. (shudders) many people enjoy inflicting pain as part of the sexual ritual which is
fine as long as they pair up with a person who like receiving pain. Within the BDSM
community the safety of such things is a very serious business indeed and always within
these scenes there are safe words to allow even the most hardy Sub to let her/his sadist
D know things are not to their liking. Its not for everyone but like anything personal and
private it should not be of concern to anyone else.

let break it down so that
we can understand the
nature of the lifestyle and
hope to shed a little light
on things ~Sir Arithon

Masochism : The term used for the person on the receiving end of a Sadist a person who
derives satisfaction from pain. The pleasure of it is their tonic, Now its not for everyone
and I appreciate it could be a little disturbing and I'm not trying to sell it to reader but if
your best friend told you that she liked to feel the sting of leather on their back before
being taken to the moon of sensual pleasure would you value them less?
As a general guide the term BDSM can incorporate a wide variety of personal fetishes
but at its core is a Dominant and at least one Submissive.
Negotiation
this is the stage when the basic rules and structure are negotiated and agreed. At this
point the submissive has agreed to be "under consideration'' often they will wear a blue
coloured collar so if you hear the term "Blue Collars" this is referring to the submissives
in the phase. For all intended purposes in public both off and online these subs will
behave as is they were owned and collared. Once in UC they are considered by the
community to be OFF LIMITS and it is very bad form to approach a blue collar with a
view to stealing them away.
think of it as exclusively dating. A period of time when the Submissive and the Dominant
can experience the bonding but can bow out gracefully if it does not work.
negotiation is critical so take your time and cover all the bases, Once a submissive gives
themselves to you the framework that is developed here must be adhered to. It will
change of course as life unfurls but essentially here is the place you agree what levels
and limits you have. Hard limits and soft limits are discussed negotiated and agreed,
Rules, punishments, playtime everything.
This of course is the Step only the Submissive can make. Why? because you have to
know that he or she is willing to give themselves on all levels to you of their own free will.
A lot of submissives just don't know all these things and will follow the Dominant blindly.
This is not good and can lead to bad and destructive dynamics.
BDSM communities have existed for many hundreds of years in fact the deeper dynamic
often known as D/s style relationships are prominent in many walks of life. I will point out
some examples In later ramblings but first let me try to explain the nature of the dynamic.
Perhaps if the rise of Christianity had not been so prevalent in the years following the fall
of the Roman Empire you would be living in a world where every young maiden would be
looking forward not to the dream of a beautiful wedding but instead would excitedly
proclaim her Collaring Day
The truth is that Women before the rise of Christianity were revered. In fact the pagans
(which is the Christian word for people not like them) believed that the only way to
heaven was through the woman. This may have a lot to do with the notion that it is from
the woman's womb that life springs and so a natural conclusion would be to suggest that
through a woman so the next life shall spring.

I do not seek to convey any particular religious view point nor disparage anyone from a
particular faith system. Well except to dispel the ridiculous notion that carnal pleasures
are the work of the devil. I mean seriously!! the devil in all its forms does not allow
pleasure?
Ok so lets skip back to the subject before the zealots line up behind the feminists. BDSM
or more particularly D/s relationships have a very strict structure called the "framework"
everyone will have a different framework that suits them but always there is the
Dominant and one or more (poly) submissives.
Unlike the more traditional marriages of today the bond between a Dominant and his/her
submissive is on every level. To be collared or Owned is not a contract agreeing to a
partnership it is the giving by the submissive of ones self. Mind Body and soul. The
unfettered use of his/her body the control over his/her life the role of care giver in every
aspect of the D's requirement. In return for this the Dominant promises to give his/her
guidance, love, protection through the duration of the time he owns her/him.
She or he does not withhold a single piece of herself and would become owned
completely. This is not to suggest that they become a mindless automaton far from it. It is
simply that they defer. to the D in all things. It is an insane Dominant that does not make
use of his/her submissives mind in the smooth running of their dynamic. Sadly many
vanilla relationships fail for this very reason as all that is vibrant and beautiful about a
wife or husband is suffocated out of them. Remember this is Dominant not domineer and
submission is not oppression.
There are two main communities of BDSM lifestyle practitioners. real life or meat life as
its sometimes called and online. Many regard online as "not real" but personally I would
say it is very real and very different and can provide a rich and rewarding experience. It
is true though that the more physical side of the lifestyle just can not be done online so it
would tend to focus on the psychological aspects of BDSM and D/s works just fine
provided the parties can handle the distance and often the time zones. The advent of
the technology to create chat rooms, virtual worlds complete with virtual bars, clubs and
theatres coupled with the increased capability of communication to a global level means
that people who are Interested in a wide range of fetishes, lifestyle choices and or more
obscure activities desires and feelings can find a place to gel with others like them.
All of these types of relationship spaces have terms and etiquettes generally to observe
and many can be intense drama filled places but having said that the “local” scene can
also throw up some of the same sorts of things.
I hope you find the brief description of these lifestyle terms helpful and next month I will
delve a little deeper into more thoughts and musings.

Follow Sir Arithon’s
popular column next
month, when he shares
those Dominant
musings!

Kinky Kitchen

Monthly recipe section by
the talented Sir Cheflew,
with theme driven, topical
writing on health issues.

Evolution of D/s in SL over the years from my point of view and is not necessarily the
view of the editor or others concerned. Remember the days where words more than
pose balls meant something. Jumping on pose ball to find yourself upside down or
sideways. Remember how expressive and detailed words had become instead of
jumping on that dreaded pose ball. Curious that as a whole the SL world choose pink
and blue as the colours with all the possibilities that became the unwritten standard even
today. . Remember when thought and due diligence were part of the scheme instead of
equipment poses and actions. You had to plan ahead to the scene and set up carefully.
If was like a finely drafted recipe.
Of course, I would not be straight forward if I did not admit I have fell victim to those
things as well. Let’s face it as new builders and script writers dive deeper in the
perfection of those items you have more realistic and detailed items. Personally, I do not
care too deeply for the old stuff and the newer things are better but lack that connection
you had years ago with finely drafted words. Being that I
am no English major or even all that great at description
these items became a relief of sorts and a curse at the
same time.
On the harder side of BDSM the equipment is becoming
even more extreme and the mild is nothing more than
vanilla. Depending on your flavour of experience's your
D/s can be full of well crafted recipes for excitement. .
Realising that in SL we are able to do things that we
could never do in real life and is quite illegal in most
places. However, all that said those things have allowed
everyone to explore themselves and others.
With in the last few weeks a friend of mine has totally
rebuilt her sim to resemble a Castle. Castle Rookswood
(http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Neomah/28/122/22 ) has several dozen
possibility you can try before you buy for your own sim. The sim was re-created to bring
back the RP side and has equipment new and old hidden here and there. As you tour
the castle rooms and there are lots of rooms you start to get where you can start a
scene. Make your way down to the expansive dungeon and look around and give the old
and new equipment a look.

Once you come out of the dungeon there is a pony play area, a few mountains caves
that have hidden rooms and traps. Few village houses that are being developed and
most of all talk to Jana and Hunny if you want a specific item or help with a scene. Tell
them Chef sent you.
Too be continued next edition
Sweet, Sticky and Spicy Chicken
Ingredients;
2 tablespoons honey ( I always use local Honey )
1/4 cup soy sauce ( you can go low sodium on this )
1 tablespoon brown sugar ( either dark or light works depends on colour you want )
2 tablespoons pepper sauce ( Use your favourite one, I like hot)
2 teaspoons chopped fresh ginger root
2 teaspoons chopped garlic
1 tablespoon oil ( your choice of oils for cooking you just might have to sneak out of
Dominates supplies for play)
salt ( i use sea salt) and pepper (Fresh ground) to taste
4 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves - cut into 1/2 inch cubes/strips or just go with
chicken wings
So grab that wooden spoon or spatula and mix together brown sugar, honey, soy sauce,
ginger, garlic and hot sauce in a small bowl.

Lightly salt and pepper the chicken strips to your taste of dominates.
Heat oil in a large skillet ( I love using a iron skillet to cook with, not great to get hit by but
awesome for cooking) over medium heat. Add chicken cubes/strips and brown on both
sides, about 1 minute per side. Pour the sauce over the chicken. Simmer uncovered until
the sauce thickens, 8 to 10 minutes.
Fried Vegetable sticks
Ingredients;
Chose your vegetable, eggplant, parsnips, potatoes, sweet potatoes, carrots, peppers,
etc. which are things that can be fried.
Your vegetable of choice
1/4 cup almond flour (a gluten free one but you can if you wish replace with enriched
flour).
1/4 cup water
1/4 cup light olive oil
sea Salt
Pepper to taste
Peel and slice the vegetables to 1/2" x 3" or makes sticks out of harder vegetables
In a large bowl, mix the almond flour, water, olive oil, salt, pepper
Put the vegetables in the mixture & stir until coated.
Preheat oil in a skillet or pan with a oil.
Add the coated vegetables when hot enough.
Cook for 12 to 14 minute about. you can test with fork.

& Feelings
By Blissful Telling

Dear Readers,
This month sees a brand new section written by the amazing Blissful
Telling, she shares some intimate and telling journals that she has written
over the course of being owned.
If something in particular chimes with you or you would like to reply to
one of her writings,
Comment and have a reply or comment published,
Bliss responds back to all those that write to her,
drop a note card into the mailbox at the SL magazine office.
Bliss will always reply…..beware though!
Don’t ask if you don’t want honesty!
Flame x

I gave up earlier tonight logging not long after you left my Master, i needed a screen
break and did not much feel like company.
I just climbed into bed, curling up and feeling better than I did as you left.
I don't know why sometimes I need more aftercare than others or why I fall a bit flat as
I try and pull myself together, what I have learned about myself is that I put a lot of
energy, physical response and submission into every
interaction and the heavier or more challenging the
scene the higher hit. It does not seem to matter if it is
voice or text my intent and level of commitment and
honesty is the same.
You surprised me with the unexpected and pushed me
to a new level, I have never been asked to pee in front
of an owner before, deliciously unnerving and
challenging when faced with shame and
embarrassment.
I think mainly my dip was processing and trying to pull
back in too quickly when we changed environment, I
feel it more when you have to go, but these things
happen and I bounce back with no lasting effects.
I did latch on to your comment about a voice
preference, I have that preference too and I felt a little
as if I was letting you down or not serving your needs
fully by having that constraint today.
I am not sure how you feel about text, we seem to mix
both successfully, I would appreciate your thoughts very much on how you feel or how
I can improve that experience for you, my Master.
Writing the thoughts out helps and knowing I will see you tomorrow something to look
forward too.
I don't have privacy to do the task you set as yet, waiting a little for the opportunity.
I love you
Your devoted slave

Shivers down my spine…

Copyright © 2013 Flame Jie
This article may not be reprinted without the author's written permission.
~ When the tears won't stop....
You slam hard against that first wall, the fear.... shattered.... the pain so keen and real
that your head spins....you dissolve in the moments between the pleasure and the pain,
the illusion that time stands still....breath barely pulled in....the chaotic twist of
sensation...sound...taste and thought as you reach the precipice....
I fall then and the tears come and i can't stop the healthy racking sobs...they
cleanse...wash away all....they offer a calm, a peace that is unparalleled, nothing else
comes close....with his skill he takes me there many times...the slow dip before the
caress of the pain....the sharp beckon back to reality for those moments when your body
and mind fight what is happening to you....his teeth sink in and my body arches....me
never more a marionette than when we are in the midst of his dance.....
I surrender myself sink into the comforting darkness, a darkness that is so vast and deep
that you don't want to come back....that you would willingly stay there for a lifetime, the
peace that it offers addictive, my drug of choice.....
If i could form a conscious thought at this point i would have realised that the hot spill of
tears that coursed down my face had changed, a myriad of emotion.... a hot flash of
feeling, wants and desires that evolved.... convoluted by his will....the purpose of them
shifting.... the echo of grief.....a fear, that moment when i would do, take and stand
anything to stay there....i want those moments to stretch into eternity....

I can barely breathe....his solid presence to my back, my head to his chest....his arms
tight around me as i float....he gives me that gift.....leaves me there, the endorphins a
sweet caress to my brain....safe in the circle of his arms...the blissful state of not
feeling.....not thinking....to leave my worries behind till i have to pick back up the pain....
I cried....not something i do often....don't allow it....can't afford it....but this time i did, i
cried for the pain....for the pleasure....for the bright darkness....for the loss of it....for the
fear of wanting too
With every experience he gives me, i
grow....change....the shape and taste of the pain
different....no solid plan, just an infinite trust and
respect for his talent and experience....
My subspace, my dark and light place....the special
gift he gives….
Submit your stories and earn L$.
Drop a NC in at the SL office to
show your interest.

Simply online….
Cyber Realities: Online and long distance
relationship thoughts
In many ways this seems like a contradiction in terms. However, it cannot be overlooked
that the advent of the Internet has opened the access into the BDSM community in ways
completely incomprehensible just a few years ago. Along with this new technology has
come new issues, dangers and problems. In many ways the community itself was
completely unprepared for this onslaught. People resist change and push away from
things they don’t understand. There are generational traditions and elitist attitudes that
separate the ‘seasoned or experienced members’ from these ‘upstart newbies with their
upstart ways, ideas and formula’s’. Within this formerly unified community we have
created a sub-community. One which many people speak of in disdain or contempt.
As with all things the cyber realm has two faces. One positive and one negative. We, as
a community cannot ignore this new child among us. Nor can we impose upon it rules
and standards that no longer work with the efficacy of the past. We have to accept that
we too must change, adapt and overcome the problems. Seek new answers and find
ways to welcome the newness instead of isolating them from the assistance and
information they too need.
With many people access to the Internet is the only fantasy outlet they have. They can
step inside its pixel dust and plastic walls and be anyone. They can shift gender,
orientation, size, appearance all in the ‘wink of an eye’. That puff of magic slides through
them to release all their dreams and passions of the past. Their fear and shyness fade
away, they can be that Knight, swagger as a Queen or cower as a slave. Everything is
possible. They are invisible and visible both. It is like entering a giant interactive play
where your true identity is never known. For the first time they can write their own life
story, their own personal fairy tale, and it is innocent and fun and the fulfilment of lifelong
dreams. In its purest form there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Yet for many the
fantasy takes on form and shape and colour, and at some unnoticed moment the pixel
dust fades away and people who were illusive whispers at your fingertips take on names,
shapes and forms within the spaces of your life.

For those that forever remain within the bondage of the medium, antics, rules and
concepts of fantasy role play are as they wish to construct them. However, enough
people transition into the real life BDSM world from the Internet that it becomes
increasingly important to step forward into the fantasy role play and indicate that much if
not all that they do here does not translate well into real life. To expect it to is irrational.
One does not ‘train’ online. Interaction between a Dominant and a submissive can occur
and does but the level of reality is limited by the medium.
One can, may and should educate themselves. One should meet people, explore topics
and see how they feel about things. One should be ‘wary’ of falling in love. Friendship
and interest are fair game. Respect should be given to the office of love, commitment
and relationships. Distance, space and contact can make the entering into such a
relationship easy to do but one should never underestimate that upon conversion into
reality physical chemistry, and all of the things which exist in the real world have to be
factored in.
Many people believe it is a way to have a relationship without all of the costs of one in
reality. One should understand that a cyber collar is not worth the fabric that constructs it.
It is rather like creating a ‘make believe’ wedding ring to wear. It lacks substance and in
many ways belittles the real thing. Which is real, exists in physical form and is
exchanged from one human hand to one human neck.
Many people long to separate from alignment with the cyber community because of its
reputation for promoting inaccurate behaviours, injuring innocent people who are too
eager to believe in those who profess expertise and for portraying relationships in
functionally impossible ways. Labels are hastily thrown upon anyone whose opinion
varies from theirs. A wannabe or a cyber this or that. This is ignorant and dangerous.
Among the cyber population is a growing number of predators. Those who seek to find
the vulnerable, exploit their dreams and pervert those dreams into ugly episodes of
brutality and cruelty. And there are those who have discovered a way to find ‘free’ people
to use for sex or servant.
They have landed amidst the herd of the unsuspecting. The only way to combat these
people who are not ‘of’ our community but ‘using’ it for ugly purposes is education. The
more a person learns the easier it becomes to spot those who have suspect motives. It is
certain we will find other and better ways as we become more adept at using the medium
to work for the community instead of against it.
We must accept that a significant percentage of those people online who are actively
exploring the BDSM cyber community will at some point take the steps necessary to
experience some aspect of this in real life. Therefore they cannot be considered fake or
illusions or ‘cyber’. They are merely people who have not get experienced a real life
exchange or D/s relationship. The inaccuracies of the ‘fantasy role play’ have to be
addressed or faced where they are flagrant.

It is not our business to evaluate cyber kink. It should be considered merely another kink
or fetish much like rubber, shoes or bondage.
It is our business to offer real life, functional information to anyone who asks. To direct
people toward real life organisations and resources which they can use to educate
themselves if they find their interest is moving toward reality. For those who can only
ever explore themselves in the cyber realm we can and should ask you to indicate your
fetish so that those who are interested have correct information to use when considering
interacting with you.
Written by F.R.R. Mallory – also known as Mistress Steel. This article may be excerpted
from Extreme Space, The Domination and Submission Handbook, Safe, Sane and
Consensual, Dangerous Choices or other books by F.R.R. Mallory and shared here with
her permission. Please click on the book title for information on how you can order a
copy of these books and others by F.R.R. Mallory.

Lyrical Passions….

Keys and holes
By Mirjam Munro
Knock, knock, knock
for a long time.
The key was put in,
putting us close.
It fitted into holes
that had been left
by the years gone by.
The key was turned,
turning us on.
It can release
what's locked
deep down inside.
The door was opened,
opening ourselves.
It is leading us
to countries
colourfully blooming,
refreshingly watering
the whole of our souls,
filling our holes.
Locked, locked, locked

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Contact Flame
or
Sir Arithon.