L&R June Magazine 2017
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How to get and keep respect<br />
I believe one thing people want in life is respect. We want to feel valued, listened to,<br />
and called upon to do ordinary and extraordinary things. It is about self-worth, and it is<br />
about using our talents.<br />
Respect is such a simple thing in concept. In practice, since other people are involved,<br />
respect gets more complicated. Self-interests are mixed in, so emotions and actions<br />
impact us in unexpected or adverse ways.<br />
We cannot get distracted from who we really are and who we really want to be. After<br />
all, respect begins with self-respect, and this is the starting point in how to get and<br />
keep respect.<br />
Practice 1: Engage self-respect.<br />
We need to take care of ourselves first, meaning we need to:<br />
• Expand our mind through learning and reading<br />
• Improve our bodies through exercise and healthy eating<br />
• Refresh our spirit through practices to centre our soul and keep us on a<br />
purpose-filled path<br />
Self-respect puts substance on our presence. It is not a one-time activity. It is a<br />
continuous flow of self-enhancement, self-awareness, and self-empowerment.<br />
The point is self-respect needs to be at the core of how we gain respect in our<br />
community, workplace, family, and other places of interaction. Self-respect, however, is<br />
not arrogance. Arrogance rarely, if ever, inspires respect.<br />
Practice 2: Exhibit strong humility.<br />
Humility denotes self-confidence coupled with an understanding of place. By place, I<br />
mean we are not above others or certain standards. We hold ourselves accountable to<br />
a higher calling.<br />
Humility is strength in who we are and what we are called to do while always being<br />
aware of how we fit into the world and support others around us. Yes, a long way to<br />
simply say “If you want respect, don’t put yourself above others in an inappropriate or<br />
superior way.”<br />
Even better, as Kate Nasser recently pointed out in a blog post:<br />
“Consider replacing the weak image of humility with a picture of its authentic strengths.<br />
Tapping others’ talents shows your confidence. Hearing others’ opinions expands your<br />
view. Celebrating the whole instead of yourself extends your reach.”