L&R June Magazine 2017
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For those that forever remain within the bondage of the medium, antics, rules and<br />
concepts of fantasy role play are as they wish to construct them. However, enough<br />
people transition into the real life BDSM world from the Internet that it becomes<br />
increasingly important to step forward into the fantasy role play and indicate that much if<br />
not all that they do here does not translate well into real life. To expect it to is irrational.<br />
One does not ‘train’ online. Interaction between a Dominant and a submissive can occur<br />
and does but the level of reality is limited by the medium.<br />
One can, may and should educate themselves. One should meet people, explore topics<br />
and see how they feel about things. One should be ‘wary’ of falling in love. Friendship<br />
and interest are fair game. Respect should be given to the office of love, commitment<br />
and relationships. Distance, space and contact can make the entering into such a<br />
relationship easy to do but one should never underestimate that upon conversion into<br />
reality physical chemistry, and all of the things which exist in the real world have to be<br />
factored in.<br />
Many people believe it is a way to have a relationship without all of the costs of one in<br />
reality. One should understand that a cyber collar is not worth the fabric that constructs it.<br />
It is rather like creating a ‘make believe’ wedding ring to wear. It lacks substance and in<br />
many ways belittles the real thing. Which is real, exists in physical form and is<br />
exchanged from one human hand to one human neck.<br />
Many people long to separate from alignment with the cyber community because of its<br />
reputation for promoting inaccurate behaviours, injuring innocent people who are too<br />
eager to believe in those who profess expertise and for portraying relationships in<br />
functionally impossible ways. Labels are hastily thrown upon anyone whose opinion<br />
varies from theirs. A wannabe or a cyber this or that. This is ignorant and dangerous.<br />
Among the cyber population is a growing number of predators. Those who seek to find<br />
the vulnerable, exploit their dreams and pervert those dreams into ugly episodes of<br />
brutality and cruelty. And there are those who have discovered a way to find ‘free’ people<br />
to use for sex or servant.<br />
They have landed amidst the herd of the unsuspecting. The only way to combat these<br />
people who are not ‘of’ our community but ‘using’ it for ugly purposes is education. The<br />
more a person learns the easier it becomes to spot those who have suspect motives. It is<br />
certain we will find other and better ways as we become more adept at using the medium<br />
to work for the community instead of against it.<br />
We must accept that a significant percentage of those people online who are actively<br />
exploring the BDSM cyber community will at some point take the steps necessary to<br />
experience some aspect of this in real life. Therefore they cannot be considered fake or<br />
illusions or ‘cyber’. They are merely people who have not get experienced a real life<br />
exchange or D/s relationship. The inaccuracies of the ‘fantasy role play’ have to be<br />
addressed or faced where they are flagrant.