L&R June Magazine 2017
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Etiquette<br />
The forms required by good breeding or prescribed by authority or direction to be<br />
displayed, observed and implemented in social or public life. Observance and<br />
acknowledgment of a structure which produces identifications of rank, status, hierarchy<br />
requiring expressions of conventional behaviour decorum as prescribed by strict rule<br />
and custom relating to the differences within the behaviour based upon the relationship<br />
of the individual to those of other rank and status.<br />
The rules of accepted formal etiquette standards are complex. When approaching<br />
issues of etiquette within a sub-society such as BDSM it becomes perhaps more<br />
important to understand the existing basics of general etiquette and manners first.<br />
Manners can be viewed to be the desire to please or express a generosity of self and<br />
spirit blended seamlessly with common sense, practicality and knowledge which aids<br />
us in our actions toward others. Manners (etiquette) essentially emerges from a desire<br />
to express thought and care toward others, service to others. We use etiquette and<br />
manners to celebrate traditions, reinforce rituals, highlight ceremonies, eliminate<br />
friction, add balance or neutrality by expressing the fundamental belief that the rights,<br />
traditions and belief's of others will be held in esteem and be considered of value<br />
regardless or perhaps because of the differences between those belief's held by others<br />
and the belief's held by the self.<br />
The inability to embrace these forms of social flexibility can create atmospheres of<br />
anger, disapproval, conflict, hatred and even warfare or other expressions of violence<br />
and assault. Etiquette was developed as a means of breaching differences to reach a<br />
place of communication where the beginnings of understanding become possible. As<br />
our world inevitably shrinks people are beginning to communicate across borders,<br />
countries, customs, traditions, and religions in increasing numbers. An international<br />
'workplace' is no longer an unusual workplace. The Internet has created a vast border<br />
crossing that allows each cyber visitor to communicate with human beings from all<br />
walks of life, creeds, cultures, racial and ethnic backgrounds, social and sexual<br />
diversities. The role of etiquette and manners has not 'declined' with these<br />
advancements but become perhaps even more crucial. Each individual has the unique<br />
right to determine based on their 'actions' how they will present themselves on the<br />
world stage. Each can elect to comport themselves with dignity and grace, or can<br />
choose to display conduct unbecoming by expressing the fear and hatreds common to<br />
their personal upbringing.