L&R June Magazine 2017
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I do not seek to convey any particular religious view point nor disparage anyone from a<br />
particular faith system. Well except to dispel the ridiculous notion that carnal pleasures<br />
are the work of the devil. I mean seriously!! the devil in all its forms does not allow<br />
pleasure?<br />
Ok so lets skip back to the subject before the zealots line up behind the feminists. BDSM<br />
or more particularly D/s relationships have a very strict structure called the "framework"<br />
everyone will have a different framework that suits them but always there is the<br />
Dominant and one or more (poly) submissives.<br />
Unlike the more traditional marriages of today the bond between a Dominant and his/her<br />
submissive is on every level. To be collared or Owned is not a contract agreeing to a<br />
partnership it is the giving by the submissive of ones self. Mind Body and soul. The<br />
unfettered use of his/her body the control over his/her life the role of care giver in every<br />
aspect of the D's requirement. In return for this the Dominant promises to give his/her<br />
guidance, love, protection through the duration of the time he owns her/him.<br />
She or he does not withhold a single piece of herself and would become owned<br />
completely. This is not to suggest that they become a mindless automaton far from it. It is<br />
simply that they defer. to the D in all things. It is an insane Dominant that does not make<br />
use of his/her submissives mind in the smooth running of their dynamic. Sadly many<br />
vanilla relationships fail for this very reason as all that is vibrant and beautiful about a<br />
wife or husband is suffocated out of them. Remember this is Dominant not domineer and<br />
submission is not oppression.<br />
There are two main communities of BDSM lifestyle practitioners. real life or meat life as<br />
its sometimes called and online. Many regard online as "not real" but personally I would<br />
say it is very real and very different and can provide a rich and rewarding experience. It<br />
is true though that the more physical side of the lifestyle just can not be done online so it<br />
would tend to focus on the psychological aspects of BDSM and D/s works just fine<br />
provided the parties can handle the distance and often the time zones. The advent of<br />
the technology to create chat rooms, virtual worlds complete with virtual bars, clubs and<br />
theatres coupled with the increased capability of communication to a global level means<br />
that people who are Interested in a wide range of fetishes, lifestyle choices and or more<br />
obscure activities desires and feelings can find a place to gel with others like them.<br />
All of these types of relationship spaces have terms and etiquettes generally to observe<br />
and many can be intense drama filled places but having said that the “local” scene can<br />
also throw up some of the same sorts of things.<br />
I hope you find the brief description of these lifestyle terms helpful and next month I will<br />
delve a little deeper into more thoughts and musings.