L&R June Magazine 2017
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Communication<br />
“Communication strategies” - Transactional Analysis applied in D/s context<br />
With this article, I would like to present one of the various psychological theories and<br />
methods that can help with enslaving a submissive and growing the M/s bond. It is a<br />
well-known communication theory, called “Transactional Analysis”. As we all know,<br />
communication is a big part of the actions and dynamics between a Dominant and a<br />
submissive. Success and failure of a relationship are correlated with how well the<br />
partners can communicate with each other and understand each other.<br />
Being open with each other and being willing to share is essential to the success of<br />
any human relationship, and in D/s relationships even more so. For the following<br />
paragraphs, i used the website http://www.enslavement.org.uk as a source of<br />
inspiration.<br />
1. The origin of Transactional Analysis<br />
One famous book presenting the communication theory of Transactional Analysis<br />
(=TA) has this title “OK - You”. It was written by Thomas Harris and was published in<br />
1967. The book title describes the goal of successful communication: Both partners<br />
participating in a transactional process / communication, should feel okay in the end<br />
and also see that the other is okay. This is called the “healthy position”. Why is it called<br />
position? When I start to communicate with someone, it should be my standpoint,<br />
focus and goal - and in this sense position - that i want him/her and (!) myself to be<br />
okay in the course and outcome of the transactional process. The ”healthy position”<br />
describes a mindset.<br />
It is not healthy when my partner is okay but i am not okay or the other way round. And<br />
of course, when none of the communication partners feels okay, it is the worst form of<br />
a communication that is a failure - it is called the “hopeless position”. We could also<br />
call it the ”dead end”of a transactional process and it is very hard to find a way out<br />
there during the same conversation.