Issue 14 - Winter 2021

Living Messages
For Family Life and Christian Living
Issue #14
WINTER
2021
• IN THIS ISSUE •
A WORLDWIDE UTOPIA IS COMING!.......3
WHAT IS SUCCESSFUL LIVING?.................5
LEARNING FROM OUR MISTAKES.............6
WHO’S BOSS? WIFE OR HUSBAND?..........9

MY DEAR FRIENDS:
My thought for this issue is “Is
your family your TOP PRIORITY?
In a survey of one’s New Year’s
resolutions, 96% of those surveyed
stated, “having a good family life”
as #1. Only 18% listed “making a
lot of money” as their first priority.
The broken home or family
has become the number one social
problem in America. Today nearly
half of all marriages in the United
States end in divorce. As many as
half of all children, spend part of
their childhood in a single parent
home. Three in ten American girls
will get pregnant at least once
before age 20. There are nearly
750,000 teen pregnancies per year.
This is a very serious picture!
If your family is not your top
priority then you are a high risk
for problems in your marriage and
family. Your family was meant
to be your main source of love
and support during your lifetime.
The success of your family will be
determined by you loving your
family, as you ought to.
How about you? Are you
willing and ready to sacrifice time
that you spend with other things
in order to spend more time with
your family. When was the last
time that you sacrificed some time
in order to be alone with your
husband or wife? When was the
last time that you sacrificed some
time in order to do some special
activity or go somewhere together
with your family?
Does your wife or husband
really know that you love them?
Does your son or daughter really
know that you love them? Have
you told them so? Have you
showed them so?
Some of you are not married.
You may have relationships with
other relatives or with other
Christians at your church. Do they
know that you love them? Do you
give of your time and energy to try
to make them happy?
Do you give your family
the proper spiritual example? Is
God first in your life? Do you
attend church regularly? Does
your family ever see you reading
the Bible? Do they ever see you
praying? Do you ever pray with
them?
These are serious questions
that we must face and do
something about if we are to have
a successful and happy family! Do
you love your family? You should
and you can! IS YOUR FAMILY
YOUR TOP PRIORITY? It should
be and it can be! Is your wife,
husband, or children the most
important thing in your life? That
is the way it should be in our lives.
May you make the decision
to MAKE YOUR FAMILY TO BECOME
YOUR TOP PRIORITY! May the Lord
bless and lead you to this end, is
my prayer.
Your friend and brother,
Phil Cannistraci
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COVER PHOTO
JENNE FARM IN VERMONT
(Copyright by Thomas Schoeller Photography.
Used by permission)
A WORLDWIDE UTOPIA IS COMING!
God's Ultimate Answer For Pandemics, Disease, Wars,
Poverty, Suffering and Death
If you and I were to describe the kind
of world we would like to live in (a kind of
utopia), we would no doubt list such things
as a world without sorrow, heartache, and
sickness. We would desire a world without
war and evil dictators. We long for a world
without pandemics, plagues, famine and
poverty. Oh, for a world of peace and safety.
You would say, yes, that would be a
wonderful world to live in. The good news
is that such a world as that is COMING!
Bible prophecy is very clear about this and
predicts such a world when Jesus returns to
this Earth. However, until that time, we can
expect wars to increase. The Bible states
that “perilous times shall come” and there
will be a time of tribulation and trouble as
never before.
When we die, as Bible-believing
Christians, our soul/spirit will leave
our bodies and we will be alive in God’s
presence. The Bible says, “To be absent from
the body is to be present with the Lord.” (2
Corinthians 5:8) However, we can also look
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forward to a time when our mortal body will
be resurrected as an immortal body when
Jesus returns to this Earth.
• A NEW BODY•
The Bible describes it as follows: “…
flesh and blood cannot inherit the Kingdom
of God…we shall not all sleep (in death),
but we shall all be changed. In a moment,
in the twinkling of an eye…the dead shall
be raised incorruptible, and we shall be
changed. For…this mortal (body) must put
on immortality.” (1 Corinthians 15:50-53)
Just think, a new body that will no
longer suffer with sickness and will not
face death any longer! There will be mortal
people living on Earth during this 1,000-
year millennium. We, however, will have
immortal bodies and we will reign with
Christ and will govern this world with Him.
Does this sound like a space-age fantasy?
But it is true! God does not lie!
•A NEW WORLD•
“For, behold, I create a new Heaven
and a new Earth…be ye glad and rejoice…
the voice of weeping shall be no more
heard…nor the voice of crying…they shall
build houses and inhabit them, they shall
plant vineyards, and eat the fruit of them.
They shall not build and another inhabit…
And it shall come to pass, that before they
call, I will answer, and while they are yet
speaking, I will hear. The wolf and the lamb
shall feed together, and the lion shall eat
straw (grass) like the bullock… They shall
not hurt nor destroy…saith the Lord.” (Isaiah
65:17-25)
•PEACE AND SAFETY •
Talk about a world of peace and
safety! Talk about a world of prosperity and
happiness! Talk about a world without war!
“And He shall judge among the nations…and
they shall beat their swords into plowshares,
and their spears into pruning-hooks. Nation
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shall not lift up sword against nation,
neither shall they learn war any more!”
(Isaiah 2:4) It is no wonder that Jesus gave
us a prayer (we call it The Lord’s Prayer): “…
Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, on
Earth, as it is in Heaven.” (Mathew 6:9-13)
•A SUPERNATURAL KINGDOM •
Jesus also spoke about a present
spiritual Kingdom of God. He said that
this kingdom is full of righteousness,
peace, and joy. You cannot experience the
future Kingdom of God to come upon the
Earth unless you are born into the present
Kingdom of God. Jesus said, “Except a man
be BORN AGAIN, he cannot see the Kingdom
of God.” (John 3:3)
• YOU CAN BE BORN AGAIN•
Would you like to secure your
citizenship in God’s coming kingdom on
this Earth? Would you like to experience
the spiritual reality of the present spiritual
Kingdom of God in your heart today? Would
you like to experience the righteousness,
peace, and joy of God in your heart and life?
You can by praying and asking Jesus into
your heart and life as your personal Savior
and Lord. “For God so loved the world
that He gave His only begotten Son, that
whosoever believes in Him should not perish
but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For
whosoever shall call upon the name of the
Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) See
also Romans 5:1,8; 10:9-10; 2 Corinthians
5:17; and 1 John 1:9.
Surrender your heart to Jesus Christ.
Start living your life in accordance with
the Bible and seek fellowship with a Biblebelieving
church and other Christians.
You will find forgiveness, peace, and joy!
You will find PEACE IN THE MIDST OF ANY
PANDEMIC, TROUBLE OR WAR!
God bless you my friend. Please write
to me if you desire further help. P. C.

WHAT IS SUCCESSFUL LIVING
By: E.H. Britain
To be content with such things as you
have, not being covetous after the things
you cannot possess, that is SUCCESSFUL
LIVING, for “godliness with contentment is
great gain.” (1 Tim. 6:6)
He that has learned to be content, in
whatsoever state he is found, whether he
be full or whether he be hungry, whether
he be abased or whether he abound,
whether he be in need or whether he have
plenty, that man has learned the secret of
SUCCESSFUL LIVING.
For success is not measured by the
things one may possess, but by the state of
one’s mind. If one is in harmony with God,
and with God’s universe, he is living in a
state of peacefulness and of quiet, which
nothing can disturb, that is SUCCESSFUL
LIVING.
Whosoever then, having food and
raiment and is content therewith, taking
no thought of the morrow, what he shall
eat or what he shall wear, knowing that his
Heavenly Father, who clothes the lilies in
all their splendor, who feeds the sparrows,
will also clothe and feed him. That man is
a SUCCESSFUL man.
Though he lives in a tent or cottage,
he is rich, for his confidence is in the one
who created all things, who is able to make
all things to abound for his sake. Just to
know that He will never leave him, nor
forsake him, is better than to be possessor
of great wealth of this world.
To rise up in the morning, full of
zest and zeal, and health and vitality,
anxious for the day’s work, anxious to see
what God has done through the night,
and what God will bring forth in another
day, having a love for his job, so that it is
no drudgery but is a pleasure, and to retire
again at night, having a feeling that the day
has been well spent and that something for
ever lasting good has been accomplished,
to relax and feel the recuperative forces of
nature beginning to restore his body, then
to drop off to untroubled sleep, having a
consciousness of the very presence of the
Almighty one. That is SUCCESSFUL LIVING.
To go out into the woods, through the
fields, along the streams, and enjoy God’s
Wonderful Creation, watching the birds, the
squirrels, the quails, the foxes and other
creatures of God’s creation, having no desire
to hurt nor harm any one of them, knowing
God’s unchanging law, that “Nothing shall
hurt nor destroy in all God’s Holy Mountain,”
that is SUCCESSFUL LIVING.
To have no malice, no bitterness,
no anger, and no hatred in your heart,
against any man, and to be able to love your
neighbor as yourself, and to pray for them
that despitefully use you, and having that
deep settled peace of God in your heart,
that is SUCCESSFUL LIVING.
To be able to receive of God’s
Bountiful Material Blessings, and to enjoy
the richest of everything, yet without
stinginess, ever anxious to share with less
fortunate ones, God’s bountiful abundance,
(for it is more blessed to give than to
receive), knowing that another of God’s
unchanging laws is: “Give, and it shall be
given unto you, good measure, pressed
down, and shaken together, and running
over, shall men give unto your bosom” that
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is SUCCESSFUL LIVING.
To win the respect and the admiration
of your friends and neighbors, your banker,
your merchant, having the reputation of
being honest and upright, a man of your
word, dependable and trustworthy, that is
SUCCESSFUL LIVING.
To so live in this world that you are
ready at any time to meet your Maker,
knowing that you shall never die, but that
when you leave this world, you only put off
this earthly house, to be clothed upon with
an house not made with hands, eternal in
the heavens, for “to live is Christ, but to die
is gain,” that is SUCCESSFUL LIVING.
In short, TO BE A TRUE CHRISTIAN,
loving the Lord your God with all your heart,
and with all of your mind, and with all your
soul, and your neighbor as yourself and
keeping the sayings of the Lord Jesus Christ.
THAT IS SUCCESSFUL LIVING! EHB
LEARNING FROM OUR MISTAKES
Whenever we make a mistake that
affects our spiritual or emotional lives, it is
because we have failed in learning to be led
by the Holy Spirit. The only person that was
a full-timer at being led by the Holy Spirit
was Jesus. Unfortunately, the rest of us,
regardless of how hard we try, are just parttimers
at being led by the Holy Spirit.
Great men of the Bible made mistakes
and failed to be led by the Holy Spirit.
However, they continued to serve God
and continued to be great in spite of their
failure. David failed when he committed
adultery with Bathsheba and then murdered
her husband Uriah. Abraham failed in
his greatest virtue of faith. He gave in to
unbelief and lied to protect himself when
he feared that Pharoah would kill him and
take Sarah. Moses, even though he was
considered the meekest man on earth, failed
by lacking meekness when he smote the
rock twice. Solomon, the wisest man on
earth, lacked wisdom by not being content
with just one wife and had 1,000 wives.
Peter was a very bold man and was always
ready to defend Jesus with a sword, but a
maid sent him running away and denying
Jesus.
Throughout our Christian lives, we
will experience making mistakes and failing
in, one way, or another. However, failure
is not the same as being a failure. You may
fail often and still not be a failure. How you
react to failure will determine whether you
will be a success or not.
Microsoft founder Bill Gates, whose
net worth is estimated at 116 billion (Forbes
2020), is one of the richest men in the
world. His wealth is equivalent to having
more than 100,000 million dollar bank
accounts. Financially speaking, I suppose it
could be said that he made the right kind of
mistakes.
Bill Gates does have some good advice
even for us as Christians. In many ways he
is just echoing Biblical principles. Here are
some of his thoughts: “It’s fine to celebrate
success, but it is more important to heed the
lessons of failure…Drawing lessons from
mistakes reduces the possibility that errors
will be repeated or compounded. When
you’re failing, you’re forced to be creative,
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to dig deep and think hard, night and day.
Every company needs people who have
made mistakes – and then made the most
of them.” Notice what he said, “It’s fine to
celebrate success, but it is more important
to heed the lessons of failure…” (US Air –
July 1995)
Some of our mistakes are our own
fault. If only we had learned to be led by the
Holy Spirit, we would have saved ourselves
much heartache and trouble. THE ONLY
WAY WE WILL BE ABLE TO LEARN FROM OUR
MISTAKES IS BY REALIZING WHY WE MADE
OUR MISTAKES AND THEN LEARN HOW TO
AVOID THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN.
In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve
made the biggest mistake of all time when
they disobeyed God and sinned against
Him. How were Adam and Eve deceived into
committing sin? There were underlying
reasons for their sin. They did not just
innocently commit sin. In 1 John 2:15-16 we
read, “Love not the world, neither the things
that are in the world. If any man loves the
world, the love of the Father is not in him.
For all that is in the world, the lust of the
flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride
of life, is not of the Father, but is of the
world.”
Eve was tempted through THE LUST
OF THE FLESH as she realized that the
forbidden tree “was good for food.” We are
tempted in this way when we realize that a
certain thing would satisfy some appetite or
desire.
She was tempted through THE LUST
OF THE EYES when she realized that the
fruit was “pleasant to the eyes.” We are
tempted in this way when we are looking at
something that we do not have and perhaps
should not have but we desire it because it
is “pleasant to the eyes.”
She was tempted through the PRIDE
OF LIFE when she thought of how the fruit
would “make [her] wise.” We are tempted
in this way when we give in to our pride
because we desire to be respected, admired,
looked up to, and to be special or important
in spite of the spiritual consequences. How
can we avoid giving in to these things?
• PRAYER•
First of all, let us consider PRAYER.
We are admonished in the Word to “pray
without ceasing.” We are also told to “watch
and pray” and to be “praying always.” These
admonitions cannot be over stressed. In this
day, especially, we are often “too busy to
pray.” Shame on us!
It is time to discipline our selves and
make prayer part of our daily schedule. If
our praying is ineffective then perhaps we
may have a wrong attitude when we pray. If
we come into the presence of the Lord with
unthankful hearts and have complaining
and dissatisfied attitudes, we cannot expect
God to hear us and answer us. Regardless
of our circumstances, we are commanded to
approach God with a grateful heart: “Enter
into His gates with thanksgiving and into His
courts with praise.” (Psalm 100:4)
Our praying will also be ineffective if
the husband and wife relationship is out of
order. Prayers will not be answered if there
is continual arguing between husband and
wife. In 1 Peter 3:1 & 7 we read, “Likewise,
you wives, be in subjection to your own
husbands…Likewise, you husbands…giving
honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker
vessel, and as being heirs together of the
grace of life, THAT YOUR PRAYERS BE NOT
HINDERED.”
Perhaps you keep on praying for a
healing in your marriage but God cannot
answer you because He requires obedience
before He gives blessing. If you, as a wife,
are not in subjection to your husband, or if
you, as a husband, are not loving and giv-
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ing honor to your wife as you ought to, then
your prayers will be hindered and God’s
hands are tied. We need to be able to “pray
through.” Let us get rid of all hindrances to
effective prayer.
Husbands: Humble yourselves and
make God your head in all your activities.
Love your wives, “giving honor unto the wife
as unto the weaker vessel…” even if you are
disgusted with her and even if you feel that
she does not deserve your love.
Wives: Humble yourselves and
make your husband your head. Let him
have the authority in the home even if he
has poor judgment. Allow him to make
some mistakes without criticizing him or
condemning him, and he might become
creative if you give him a chance.
• THE WORD OF GOD•
Not only is PRAYER a prime consideration
in being able to be led by the Holy
Spirit and thereby avoiding mistakes and
sin, but, secondly, we need to consider the
Word of God. In our desire to be spiritual
and to be “led of the Spirit,” we often feel
that the Lord has told us to do something
or has led us to do something. However,
we may ignore what the Word of God has
to say about it. If only we would search the
Word and have our directions and leadings
confirmed or disqualified by the Word, then
blessing would follow.
How we need to get to know His Word
better. Too often we do what we want to do
instead of waiting on the Lord in His Word.
“Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light
unto my path.” (Psalm 119:105) “The entrance
of Thy words gives light. It gives understanding
to the simple.” (Psalm 119:130)
Jesus was tempted in the wilderness
in these same three ways: The lust of the
flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of
life. Jesus knew God’s Word and quoted it
to Satan every time he was tempted. Jesus
had a stronger desire to fear God and please
His Father than to please Himself. Unless
we have a stronger desire to fear God and
please Him than to please ourselves, we will
fail in these three aspects of temptation. We
will not be able to resist Satan with scripture
unless we have God’s Word memorized
in our minds and hearts.
The reason Jesus was able to overcome
the temptations in the wilderness was
that He had been spending sufficient time
in prayer and in the Word of God. What
about you? Do you spend sufficient time in
PRAYER AND IN THE WORD OF GOD? If you
do not, then you can be sure that you will,
sooner or later, succumb to temptation and
fall into sin through the lust of the flesh, the
lust of the eyes, or the pride of life!
• COUNSEL•
Not only, is prayer and the Word of
utmost importance in avoiding making
mistakes, but, thirdly, we need COUNSEL.
Proverbs 11:14 tells us “Where no counsel is,
the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors
there is safety.” Too many Christians
do not lean on other believers. By keeping
close to the flock, you as a sheep will be able
to hear the shepherd’s voice and follow him.
When many of our fellow Christians do not
get a witness to what we are doing or plan
on doing, then we need to reconsider lest we
be deceived and led astray.
Let us grow up and be willing to listen
to the advice of other Christians. Let us
humble our selves and abandon our spiritual
pride and super spiritual attitude. Let us
follow the advice of Proverbs 3:5: “Trust in
the Lord with all your heart, and LEAN NOT
UNTO YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING.” Proverbs
4:13, also tells us, “Take fast hold of
instruction, let her not go, keep her, for she
is your life.”
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Are you LEARNING FROM YOUR MIS-
TAKES? Then you will make sure your personal
life, your marriage, and your family
life, are in order. In so doing, you will
be able to become more diligent in YOUR
PRAYER LIFE. You will also make sure you
are disciplining yourself with your time in
order to spend time daily in THE WORD OF
GOD. Lastly, you will keep an open mind
and heart and be willing to RECEIVE ADVICE
from your pastor, elders, and other Christians
that you love and respect.
It is time for all of us to be active
in learning to be led by the Holy Spirit by
LEARNING FROM OUR MISTAKES! We can do
this by overcoming the lusts of our flesh,
the lusts of our eyes, and the pride of life
through DAILY PRAYER TIME, DAILY BIBLE
STUDY TIME, and close fellowship and
COUNSEL from our church leaders and spiritual
Christians in our church! P.C.
WHO’S BOSS? WIFE OR HUSBAND?
Regardless of our preconceived ideas
or conclusions on this subject, to have a
balanced and scriptural view of the proper
roles of husband and wife, we must be able
to be in line with the following scripture:
“Nevertheless let every one of you in
particular so love his wife even as himself,
and the wife see that she reverences her
husband.” (Ephesians 5:33 KJV)
•IN THE BEGINNING•
“And the Lord God said, it is not good
that the man should be alone; I will make
him an help mate for him.” (Genesis 2:18,
23-24) Notice that the Lord fully understood
the nature of the man he had created. He
knew what his need was. God made a
woman to “help” him.
In Genesis 3:1-6 we read of the
deception and disobedience of Adam
and Eve. In verses 16-19 we read of the
judgment of God upon them: “Unto the
woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy
sorrow and thy conception. In sorrow you
shall bring forth children and your desire
shall be to your husband and he shall rule
over you.” The verdict was that man would
be the “bread winner” through much “sweat”
and that the woman would “bring forth
children” in “sorrow” and that her
husband “shall rule over” her. Does this
mean that the husband is “the boss”
over his wife?
•HUSBANDS•
First of all, let’s realize the great
responsibility that God has placed
on the husband. “Husbands, love
your wives, even as Christ also loved
the Church and gave Himself for it.”
(Ephesians 5:25) What does it mean
for a husband to “lay down his life”
and “give himself” for his wife? It
means that many times a man can be
“bullheaded” and will stubbornly want
his own way even if he knows in his
heart that it is not God’s way. It means
that a man must frequently become a
true he-man by denying his selfish ways
and in love “cater” to his dear wife’s
wishes. A man is free to do this if it
doesn’t conflict with the will of God on
the matter.
In 1 Peter 3:7 we read, “Likewise,
ye husbands, dwell with them according
to knowledge, giving honor unto the
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wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being
heirs together of the grace of life, that your
prayers be not hindered.” How can we give
“honor” to our wives as unto the “weaker
vessel” unless we have much understanding
and longsuffering with them?
Let’s kneel down at our beds together
and repent of demanding our own ways.
As we humble ourselves and pray together
we will find the walls begin to melt. The
blessing of the Lord will be upon the
marriage and even the marriage bed. Soon
you will find that you will become “heirs
together of the grace of life” and “your
prayers will not be hindered.”
• WIVES•
Now we come to a scripture that is
becoming more and more popular today:
“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is
neither bond nor free, there is neither male
nor female, for you are all one in Christ
Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28) Upon this scripture
is based the idea that there is no longer any
difference between male and female in the
body of Christ. Some feel that a wife is no
longer obligated to submit to her husband
but she can just “obey God” instead. This
is the same deception that Satan gave in
the Garden of Eden. He is the father of lies
and he changes the truth of God into a lie.
The context of this scripture is speaking of
salvation alone and that God is no respecter
of persons. It is not referring to the roles of
husbands and wives.
Let us examine some scriptures that
show us why a woman must be under the
headship of her husband. “But I suffer not a
woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over
the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was
first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not
deceived, but the woman being deceived
was in the transgression.” (1 Timothy 2:12-
14) Also, “But I would have you know, that
the head of every man is Christ, and the
head of the woman is the man, and the head
of Christ is God.” (1 Corinthians 11:3)
How should a woman submit herself
to her husband? In Ephesians 5:22-23 we
read how: “…as unto the Lord.” Why should
she? “For the husband is the head of the
wife.”
What about a Christian wife with an
unsaved husband? “…If any obey not the
Word, that they without the Word be won
by the conversation (or words and actions)
of the wives.” (1 Peter 3:1-6) How does the
Lord want you to act with your husband?
“…A meek and quiet spirit, which is in the
sight of God of great price.” (Verse 4) How
should Christian wives, dress? “In modest
apparel with shamefacedness and sobriety.”
(1 Timothy 2:9-10) In other words, wives
shouldn’t follow after the ways and styles
of the proud of Hollywood or overly focus
on the latest styles but dress “in modest
clothing.”
•OLDER WOMEN•
How about the older women? “The
aged women likewise, that they be in
behavior as displays holiness, not false
accusers, not given to much wine, teachers
of good things that they may teach the
young women to be sober, to love their
husbands, to love their children, to be
discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good,
obedient to their own husbands, that the
Word of God be not blasphemed.” (Titus 2:3-
5)
•SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP•
The following scriptures give us
instructions for both husband and wife in
regards to sex: “Let the husband render unto
the wife due benevolence and, likewise, also
the wife unto the husband. The wife has not
power of her own body, but the husband.
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Likewise also the husband hath not power
of his own body, but the wife. Defraud
(or refuse) not one the other, except it be
with consent for a time, that you may give
yourselves to fasting and prayer, and come
together again, that Satan tempt you not for
your incontinency.” (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
•ARGUMENTS•
What about arguments and
disagreements? “…Let not the sun go
down upon your wrath…Let no corrupt
communication proceed out of your
mouth, but that which is good to the use of
edifying, that it may minister grace to the
hearers…Let all bitterness, wrath, anger,
clamor, and evil speaking, be put away
from you with all malice, and be kind one
to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, even as God for Christ’s sake has
forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:26, 29, 31-32.)
If we humble ourselves and step on our
pride then God will give the needed grace:
“God resists the proud but gives grace to the
humble.” (1 Peter 5:5)
In summary then, what is the answer?
If we, as husbands would love our wives
“even as” Christ loved the Church and
“gave Himself for it,” and if wives would
submit to their husbands “as the church is
subject to Christ,” then our marriages could
begin to become like a semi-honeymoon
continuously.
However, if we start “demanding” that
our mate obeys the scriptures in this regard,
then we are not moving in the love of God
but in the flesh. WE MUST DO OUR PART
EVEN IF OUR MATE FAILS TO DO THEIR PART!
I speak from experience of a Christian
marriage of over 55 years and I can say that
my wife, Pauline, and I have proved it, over
and over again: When either one of us fails,
in these marriage principles, then we must
humble ourselves and forgive one another.
Therefore, what can a wife do when
her husband is being stubborn or selfish?
What can a husband do when his wife is
being bossy or nagging?
Let’s quit criticizing and judging our
mates. Remember: “A soft answer turns
away wrath; but grievous words stir up
anger.” (Proverbs 15:1)
DEAR LADIES AND GENTLEMEN,
REMEMBER THIS: It’s not a 50%-50%
proposition, but it’s 100%-100% serving
for both husband and wife. Neither the
husband or the wife is meant to be “THE
BOSS” but both are meant to be servants
to each other. Jesus said, “He that is
greatest shall be your servant.” (Matthew
23:11) The apostle Paul said, “Be kind with
affection one toward another with brotherly
love. In honor preferring one another.”
(Romans 12:10) “By love serve one another.”
(Galatians 5:13)
God bless you both. Amen. P.C.
P-RAYER
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WHAT PRAYER DOES
BY: RICHARD A BURR
LOOK UP
If you want to be distressed: LOOK WITHIN
If you want to be defeated: LOOK BACK
If you want to be distracted: LOOK AROUND
If you want to be dismayed: LOOK AHEAD
If you want to be DELIVERED: LOOK UP!
“LOOKING UNTO JESUS THE AUTHOR AND
FINISHER OF OUR FAITH…”
Hebrews 12:2
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