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<strong>Student</strong> Book<br />
<strong>S5</strong><br />
Faithful<br />
in Love
KEY MESSAGES FOR YOUNG PEOPLE<br />
“We are not some casual product of evolution.<br />
Each of us is the result of a thought of God.<br />
Each of us is willed, each of us is loved, each of us is necessary.”<br />
(Pope Benedict XVI)<br />
1. You are a special human being, created by God in his own image<br />
and likeness, gifted with unique talents and potential for life.<br />
2. You are called to love - to know the love of God, of family and of<br />
friends - and to love others as you are loved by God.<br />
3. God loves all people as his children. You are called to show<br />
respect for all people, even when their views and actions, their<br />
values and beliefs, are different from your own.<br />
4. Your sexuality is an important and intimate feature of your person,<br />
given to you as part of God’s plan for your happiness and your<br />
life’s vocation. You should cherish it and ensure that it is not<br />
exploited.<br />
5. Your sexuality makes it natural for you to be attracted to other<br />
people. Such attraction can lead to strong emotional and physical<br />
feelings which should always be expressed with modesty and<br />
respect, both for your self and for others.<br />
6. The ultimate sexual expression of such attraction should be an<br />
expression of true love, in which you commit to being faithful in<br />
marriage to a husband or wife, for life. Such total gift of self –<br />
body, emotions and soul – is a great responsibility and requires<br />
careful preparation and total commitment by both partners.<br />
7. You are called to share with God in the creation of new life<br />
through the rearing of children in a loving family which should be<br />
a reflection of God’s love.<br />
8. You are loved by God who shows compassion when things go<br />
wrong, who helps to heal wounded relationships, who forgives<br />
when your actions fail to match your ideals.
Faithful in love:<br />
CONTENTS<br />
Session Session Page<br />
number title number<br />
INTRODUCTION 3<br />
1 LIVING IN COMMUNION 4<br />
2 BELONGING TO FAMILY 6<br />
3 HELP AND SUPPORT 8<br />
4 PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS 10<br />
5 THE BIGGER PICTURE 12<br />
6 DIFFERENT LIFESTYLES 14<br />
7 LIFE AT ITS BEGINNING 16<br />
8 LIFE AT ITS NATURAL END 18<br />
9 DESIGN AND PURPOSE 20<br />
10 MARRIAGE 22<br />
11 FAMILY PLANNING 24<br />
12 CONTRACEPTION 26<br />
Appendix Appendix Page<br />
number title number<br />
1 THE LIVING CHRIST 28<br />
2 CHILD/PARENT RELATIONSHIPS 28<br />
3 AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN 29<br />
4 THE PARABLE OF THE GOOD SAMARITAN 30<br />
5 DECLARATION OF HUMAN RIGHTS 31<br />
6 SPEAKING OUT FOR LIFE 32<br />
7 UNTO US 32<br />
8 REASONS FOR MARRYING 33<br />
9 PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE 34<br />
10 THE CATHOLIC RITE OF MARRIAGE 36<br />
11 SARAH’S STORY 38<br />
12a NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING 39<br />
12b CONTRACEPTION 40<br />
13 NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING AND METHODS<br />
OF CONTRACEPTION 41
Faithful in love:<br />
INTRODUCTION<br />
“Know therefore that the Lord your God is God, the faithful God who maintains covenant loyalty<br />
with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand generations”<br />
(Deuteronomy 7: 9)<br />
We are told in scripture that God will never abandon his people; that he will remain faithful to<br />
them. It is this fidelity or faithfulness that offers us so much comfort and hope in<br />
experiencing the vastness of the love that God has for each of us as unique individuals, created<br />
in his own image and likeness.<br />
So, too, in our relationships with others that we meet. We place our trust in others, hoping that<br />
they will look out for us, protect us from harm, and never seek to use or exploit us in any way.<br />
We come to know love and to share love with others, perhaps as family members, as friends, or<br />
as partners on our journey through life.<br />
Some of the relationships we experience are casual and transient. Other relationships will be<br />
more profound, and it is possible that, in time, there will be one special person to whom we<br />
commit our lives.<br />
Such a relationship will demand much from us and from those we love. Trust, care, compassion,<br />
understanding, patience are some of the important elements in building a lasting, permanent<br />
relationship, along with faithfulness, or fidelity.<br />
As we grow, we learn to love others as we are loved by God, so that our love might be a<br />
reflection of God’s love. We should pray for God’s guidance and help in remaining faithful<br />
in love.<br />
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SESSION<br />
1<br />
Faithful in love:<br />
LIVING IN COMMUNION<br />
“I am the vine, and you are the branches. Those who remain in me,<br />
and I in them, will bear much fruit; for you can do nothing without me.”<br />
(John 15:5)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to develop an understanding of the human need to belong;<br />
• to develop an understanding of the rights and responsibilities associated with this;<br />
• to develop an understanding of how we know right from wrong.<br />
Mankind is often described as a social animal, but what does this mean? We all experience the<br />
company of other people in our daily lives and there are some people whose company we<br />
prefer, and others whom we would not choose to have any contact with at all. It would be hard to<br />
think of living totally isolated from the world and its people, even if company sometimes annoys us<br />
and we want to be on our own, perhaps for a short while.<br />
It is true that members of the human species, in the main, need to belong to a group. From the<br />
earliest days in the history of mankind, it has been found that there is security in numbers, a concept<br />
replicated elsewhere in the living world. We quite often refer to things being “tribal” when we refer to<br />
people acting together with a common purpose. However, ‘Living in Communion’ means that we are<br />
part of a social group who live and work together.<br />
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TASK 1.1<br />
RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES IN COMMUNITY<br />
1. Make a list of some of the groups to which we belong.<br />
2. Working in groups of about 3 or 4, each group should take at least two suggestions from this<br />
list and write down what we may expect to receive as a member of this group, and what might<br />
be expected from us in return.<br />
3. Discuss these expectations.<br />
4. Further discussion: “If belonging means doing the right thing, why do so many people choose<br />
to do the wrong thing?”<br />
Throughout ‘Faithful in Love’, you will consider various issues that have an effect on our society.<br />
Some of these can be considered as ‘life’ and ‘death’ situations which all carry ‘moral implications’.<br />
In other words, these are situations where we are called to make a choice between what is right and<br />
what is wrong, and very often the reason behind this choice is every bit as important as the choice<br />
itself.<br />
In considering these life matters, one of the biggest deciding factors will be our vision of ‘life’ and<br />
what we call the ‘sanctity of human life’. The greatest gift we are given is the gift of life, a gift which is<br />
regarded as being sacred or holy by people of different faiths and beliefs.<br />
TASK 1.2<br />
SANCTITY OF HUMAN LIFE<br />
1. Working on your own, read the statements on Resource Sheet 1 and, using a scale of 1 to 5,<br />
say if you agree or disagree with each statement.<br />
2. Discuss these.<br />
3. Further discussion: “We are all created by God, and as members of God’s family we are given<br />
the gift of life by God, a gift which we should look after and cherish.”<br />
In our world there is much debate about when life begins and when it should end, with the issues of<br />
abortion and euthanasia causing great dissent. From a Catholic Christian perspective, human life is<br />
very sacred and holy . . . we are all members of God’s family, the Body of Christ. This has<br />
implications for what might be expected from us as members of this community, and also brings<br />
about certain responsibilities, like seeing ‘Christ’ in other people.<br />
Reflection:<br />
Read Jeremiah 29: 11-14a<br />
Lord, help us to live with hope and to seek you with all our hearts. Help us to trust the plan that<br />
you have for our lives. Help us to live in communion with you and with those around us.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Read the story of ‘The Living Christ’ in Appendix 1 and use the prompts provided as the basis of<br />
a discussion.<br />
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SESSION<br />
2<br />
Faithful in love:<br />
BELONGING TO FAMILY<br />
“All of you are Christ’s body, and each one is a part of it.”<br />
(1 Cor.12:27)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to develop an understanding of what is meant by the dynamics of family life and how we<br />
relate as family members;<br />
• to consider some of the stresses and strains that can be a normal part of family life.<br />
The first relationship we form in life is the bond of family. “Family” can mean a great many things to<br />
different people, for families come in all shapes and sizes. Some families have two parents living<br />
together, whereas others have only one. Other families have several generations, including parents<br />
children and grandparents, living together. For many people, ‘family’ is rightly considered to be the<br />
foundation on which our society is based, and it can have the most significant influence on our own<br />
values, attitudes and behaviour.<br />
TASK 2.1<br />
FAMILY LIFE<br />
Working in mixed groups of between 4 and 6, read over the information on Resource Sheet 2,<br />
which looks at situations that can occur in normal family living, and discuss the following:<br />
1. What caused this situation?<br />
2. Who do you think is to blame?<br />
3. Is there anything that could have been done to prevent this from happening?<br />
The teenage years can be the most challenging stage for families to experience, since the transition<br />
from childhood to adulthood is a very complex affair, with lots of changes happening in life.<br />
It is natural for young children to depend upon and to trust their parents; the willingness of a child to<br />
leap into a parent’s arms with total trust illustrates this clearly. As children grow older, it is also<br />
natural for them to become more independent and to develop their own opinions and values.<br />
Sometimes this can lead to tension and arguments in a family where a young person tries to find his<br />
or her own ‘voice’.<br />
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TASK 2.2<br />
CHILD/PARENT RELATIONSHIPS<br />
Working as a class, read over the quote from the American author Mark Twain and use the<br />
prompts supplied as the basis for a class discussion. You will find this in Appendix 2.<br />
At the very core of the relationship that is ‘family’ should be the love that we have for the members of<br />
our family. In most cases, despite the ups and downs, despite the disputes and the disagreements,<br />
that love still remains.<br />
Good communication is the key to successful relationships. As we saw in Task 2.1, some situations<br />
can develop and almost get out of hand because of a lack of communication. Communication is<br />
about talking, but is also about listening, and sometimes the dynamics of family life can be radically<br />
altered where we do not communicate with each other.<br />
Those who have been baptised belong to a larger ‘family’ group – the Catholic Christian Family.<br />
Since the decision to have a child baptised is usually made by parents, this can sometimes cause<br />
problems, particularly where an adolescent teenager may rebel against their parents’ values and<br />
choices. Some people may choose to move away from their faith and do not return. Others may<br />
leave for a while but come back at some later stage, possibly as a result of some significant<br />
experience or because they have rediscovered a respect for the values and beliefs of their faith<br />
tradition. This is a normal part of growing up and shows a willingness to recognise and take on board<br />
the fact that adulthood brings with it a whole range of responsibilities as well as rights.<br />
Reflection:<br />
Read Jeremiah 1:5-8<br />
Father, we thank you for calling each of us by name to love and serve you and our neighbours<br />
through the family and the community you have given us. Help us to recognize our gifts and to<br />
be open to your will in our lives, no matter what that may be.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Read the following excerpt from ‘The Charter of the Rights of the Family’ and use as the basis<br />
for discussion:<br />
“Since they have conferred life on their children, parents have the original, primary and<br />
inalienable right to educate them. Hence they . . . have the right to educate their children in<br />
conformity with their moral and religious convictions, taking into account the cultural traditions of<br />
the family which favour the good and the dignity of the child. They should also receive from<br />
society the necessary aid and assistance to perform their educational role properly.”<br />
• At what point do the rights of young people take precedence over the rights of parents?<br />
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SESSION<br />
3<br />
Faithful in love:<br />
HELP AND SUPPORT<br />
“I tell you, whenever you did this for one of the least important of these<br />
followers of mine, you did it for me!” (Matthew 25:40)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to understand that at critical times in our lives we need the help and support of others;<br />
• to identify who these people might be;<br />
• to develop an awareness of the need for respect, responsibility and compassion in working<br />
for a just society.<br />
From time to time in our lives we may need help and support to cope with various crises that may<br />
come our way, whether these are simple issues connected with the process of growing up or<br />
perhaps more serious issues, such as coping with the loss of someone special to us. Our family<br />
might be the first option to us but there are times when support from family may not be available. Our<br />
friends can be a very special source of comfort, as they quite often will understand what the problem<br />
is all about. For many people there is also a spiritual route to take: Prayer, through which we turn with<br />
confidence to Our Heavenly Father, can help us to focus on the issue and meditation, which opens<br />
our hearts to the gift of the Holy Spirit, may calm and relax us.<br />
TASK 3.1<br />
WHO DO WE TURN TO?<br />
1. Working on your own, take Resource Sheet 3 and look at the list of people on it. Now think<br />
which of them you are most likely to turn to in time of need or to discuss a personal problem.<br />
Give each of them a score from 1 to 10, with 10 being the person you are most likely to turn<br />
to and 1 being the person you are least likely to turn to.<br />
2. Explain briefly why one person may be the person you would turn to, whereas another would<br />
be considered less approachable.<br />
As well as seeking help for ourselves, sometimes we need to be able to offer<br />
help and support to people that we know. Relationships are not just oneway<br />
affairs, for in any relationship, and at whatever level, whether in<br />
casual acquaintances or with friends, family, we have to learn to give as<br />
well as to take.<br />
When we talk about relationships in a just society, we mean treating all others with<br />
justice, but most of all with love.<br />
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TASK 3.2<br />
A JUST SOCIETY<br />
In this task, we will use the idea of a continuum, which is an imaginary line stretching across the<br />
floor. Your teacher is going to read out several statements one at a time, and your task is to<br />
stand on this imaginary line or continuum in a position that reflects the extent to which you agree<br />
or disagree with each statement. One end of the line denotes total agreement, and the other<br />
total disagreement, and of course the middle is for those who either can’t make up their mind or<br />
are waiting to see where their friend(s) stand!!<br />
Discuss the outcome.<br />
We probably all want to live in what we might describe as a just society, where people are treated<br />
fairly and according to their specific needs. What are you doing to make this happen? Is it good<br />
enough to sit back and say, “Well, I’m not doing anything wrong?”<br />
Reflection:<br />
“I was hungry and you fed me, thirsty and you gave me a drink; I was a stranger and you<br />
received me in your homes, naked and you clothed me; I was sick and you took care of me, in<br />
prison and you visited me.<br />
The righteous will then answer him, ‘When, Lord, did we ever see you hungry and feed you, or<br />
thirsty and give you a drink? When did we ever see you a stranger and welcome you into our<br />
homes, or naked and clothe you? When did we ever see you sick or in prison, and visit you?’<br />
The King will reply, ‘I tell you, whenever you did this for one of the least important of these<br />
brothers of mine, you did it for me!’<br />
(Matthew 25:35-40)<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Read over the story of the man at the gates of Heaven, which you will find in Appendix 3 and<br />
use this as the basis for further discussion.<br />
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SESSION<br />
4<br />
Faithful in Love:<br />
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS<br />
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul,<br />
and with all your mind, and love your neighbour as yourself.”<br />
(Matthew 22:37-39)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to develop a deeper understanding of personal ambitions and aspirations;<br />
• to grow in understanding of obstacles which may hinder the realisation of dreams/ambitions;<br />
• to understand the need to relate to others and the responsibility this brings.<br />
What do I want from life? Have you ever thought about this question?<br />
Do you have a career that you think that you will follow? What is<br />
important to you in life? These are all complex and difficult questions<br />
and it might sometimes give us a headache to think of them so we<br />
postpone any attempt to find answers.<br />
The film “Hitch-hiker’s Guide to the Galaxy” features<br />
a super computer which gives the answer to the<br />
question about the meaning of life. The answer is<br />
42! This meaningless answer was the author’s<br />
attempt to say that there was no real answer to<br />
that question. However, Christians give a different<br />
answer: our purpose in life is to be one with Christ<br />
and to be part of the wider family of the Church, in<br />
order to be one with God in heaven.<br />
TASK 4.1<br />
WHAT IS LIFE ALL ABOUT?<br />
1. Write a brief personal statement, outlining where you see yourself in 10 years time.<br />
2. Now take a copy of Resource Sheet 5 and fill in the information under the headings, ‘Things<br />
I will need’ and ‘Things I could do without’ that will help you on the way to achieving your goal<br />
or target.<br />
3. Discuss this exercise.<br />
Sometimes we need to look beyond our personal needs and consider how we should support others.<br />
The parable of the Good Samaritan is a prime example of this. Jesus tells the story of a Samaritan<br />
who helps a Jew who has been attacked and left ignored by his fellow Jews. Through this story<br />
Jesus teaches that the person who helps someone in trouble is a good neighbour. Further, we cannot<br />
choose whom we should help, but rather we should see everyone in need as equally worthy of our<br />
help, regardless of any social barriers or traditional antagonisms.<br />
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TASK 4.2<br />
RESPONSIBILITY TO OTHERS<br />
Read the following passage of scripture and use the prompts below as the basis for a class<br />
discussion:<br />
When the Pharisees heard that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, they came together, and one<br />
of them, a teacher of the Law, tried to trap him with a question. ‘Teacher,’ he asked, ‘which is the<br />
greatest commandment in the Law?’<br />
Jesus answered, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your<br />
mind. This is the greatest and most important commandment. The second most important<br />
commandment is like it: Love your neighbour as you love yourself.’<br />
• Why is it important to ‘love’ yourself?<br />
• Why can relationships be difficult if we cannot love ourselves?<br />
• In what other way(s) might you need to be ‘sorted’ yourself before entering into a relationship<br />
with someone else?<br />
• What other considerations should you make before entering into a relationship?<br />
Reflection:<br />
Father, help us to examine our hearts. Help us to love others as you love them, and not see<br />
people as a means to our own ends but, rather, as unique human beings, endowed with<br />
God-like dignity.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Read the story of the ‘Good Samaritan’, which you will find in Appendix 4.<br />
• How far would you be prepared to inconvenience yourself to help someone in need?<br />
• How easy is it to put the needs of others before our own?<br />
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Created in Love:<br />
5<br />
Session 5<br />
SESSION Faithful in love:<br />
THE BIGGER PICTURE<br />
“Keep watch over your manner of life, dear people, and make sure that you are indeed the<br />
Lord’s labourers. Each person should take into account what he does and consider if he is<br />
labouring in the vineyard of the Lord.”<br />
(St Gregory the Great)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to develop understanding of Human Rights and then implications for how we treat others;<br />
• to understand why the Catholic Church takes a stance on moral issues and how this shows a<br />
respect for the dignity of the human person.<br />
Following the Second World War, the countries of the world got together in efforts to address the<br />
issue of human rights and also to prevent future wars. In 1948, the United Nations produced its<br />
Declaration on Human Rights, which attempts to define what it is exactly that human beings should<br />
be entitled to as members of the community that populates this planet.<br />
TASK 5.1<br />
THE RIGHT TO BE HUMAN<br />
Working in mixed groups of between 4 and 6, read over the information contained in Appendix 5<br />
about the Declaration of Human Rights. Now discuss the following:<br />
• Which of the human rights listed are achievable?<br />
• Are there any particular times when these rights should not apply?<br />
• Why was it necessary to produce this agreed statement in the first place?<br />
• What sort of world might we live in without them?<br />
The Declaration of Human Rights was agreed by all of the member countries of the United Nations in<br />
the hope that people would know the minimum rights which they could expect to be honoured by<br />
governments. Unfortunately, these rights are not honoured in every country.<br />
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TASK 5.2<br />
CONTRASTING MORAL VIEWPOINTS<br />
Working in mixed groups of between 4 and 6, take one of the Resource Sheets 6a - 6e and<br />
read over the information which summarises the views of one of five religions on various moral<br />
issues.<br />
Using Resource Sheet 7, make a list of the ways in which you think these views are similar to<br />
and ways in which you think they are different from Catholic teaching on these issues.<br />
Discuss these differences.<br />
In the Catholic Christian tradition the basis of what is considered right or wrong is centred on what<br />
God has revealed in Scripture and through the teachings of the Church. The central instruction to<br />
love one another as we love God, and to love our neighbour as ourselves, directs the core values<br />
that we apply to any moral issue, how we relate to others and the relationships that we develop in life.<br />
We have choices to make at various stages in life and these will include choices between good acts<br />
and acts that we know to be wrong. If we tend to make the right choices then a just and fair society<br />
should emerge. However, when we choose to do wrong or do not object when others do wrong, then<br />
society will tend to degenerate.<br />
People are sometimes afraid to stand up for what is right, especially if they think that their own lives<br />
will be changed for the worse. This is the challenge of living as a person of integrity in today’s world –<br />
to make a stand for our beliefs, no matter the personal cost or inconvenience, just like the Good<br />
Samaritan.<br />
Reflection:<br />
Lord, you have created us for a specific reason. Help us to be free of all that keeps us from<br />
understanding what it means to be human. Help us to be open to learn, to live and to love<br />
like you.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Read the excerpt (Appendix 6) from the works of Pastor Neimoller, who wrote these words<br />
while in a prison cell in Nazi Germany. Working in the same mixed groups, discuss these points:<br />
• What is happening in each of the four verses?<br />
• Why does the speaker find it so hard to speak out?<br />
• What eventually did happen to him?<br />
• What does this tell us about taking a stand for what you believe in?<br />
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SESSION<br />
6<br />
Faithful in love:<br />
DIFFERENT LIFESTYLES<br />
Marriage based on exlusive and definitive love becomes the icon of the relationship between<br />
God and his people and vice versea. God’s way of loving becomes the measure of human love”<br />
(Pope Benedict XVI)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to develop an understanding of Catholic teaching on non-marital sexual relationships;<br />
• to develop an understanding of Catholic teaching on sexual orientation and homosexual acts;<br />
• to grow in awareness that unjust discrimination is wrong.<br />
The secular world is frequently at odds with the moral values that Catholic Christians are expected<br />
to uphold. This is probably most apparent when we look at the issue of sexual morality and<br />
ethical decision-making on the sanctity of life.<br />
When confronted with words and actions which challenge our moral outlook, there are various ways<br />
in which we can react:<br />
1) say nothing, keep quiet and allow the world to go by without trying to influence things;<br />
2) modify our views and take up the moral position of the majority;<br />
3) stand up for our values and explain them to those who would call us intolerant or old-fashioned.<br />
One issue that can lead to misunderstanding and challenge is the perception of the Catholic<br />
Church’s views on sexual relationships and sexual orientation.<br />
TASK 6.1<br />
TRUE OR FALSE?<br />
Working with a partner, read over the statements on Resource Sheet 8, and discuss whether<br />
you believe the statements to be true or false. Discuss these.<br />
Article 16, paragraph 3, of the United Nation’s Declaration on Human<br />
Rights states that: “The family is the natural and fundamental unit of<br />
society and is entitled to protection by society and State.” This is also<br />
echoed in Catholic teaching, where the family unit is central to family<br />
life and human relationships.<br />
Integral to this is the Catholic teaching that sexual intercourse, in its<br />
proper context, expresses the union of a male and female who have<br />
made a loving, lasting and freely given commitment to each other in a<br />
married relationship which is open to the possibility of creating new life.<br />
However, this view is one that is challenged constantly in society today.<br />
What does the Catholic Church actually teach about sex outside of<br />
marriage and about same-sex relationships?<br />
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TASK 6.2<br />
CHURCH TEACHING ON SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS<br />
Working as a mixed group of between 4 and 6, read over one of the four excerpts from the<br />
Catechism of the Catholic Church that you will find on Resource Sheet 9. Discuss the following:<br />
• What does this statement have to say about sexual relationships?<br />
• Do you agree/disagree with what this statement says? Why?<br />
• Do you think this statement discriminates against anyone? Why?<br />
• Why do you think this is part of Church teaching?<br />
• Why does the language used seem to be so stark?<br />
• How might some people react to the language used?<br />
• Why do you think it might be easy for the statements to be misinterpreted or misquoted?<br />
The Catholic Church condemns all forms of unjust discrimination or harassment directed against<br />
homosexual people. Indeed, it teaches that homosexual people “must be accepted with respect,<br />
compassion and sensitivity” (Catechism of the Catholic Church 2358). So, homosexual orientation in<br />
itself is not considered sinful or wrong.<br />
However, the Church also teaches that sexual activity which excludes openness to the creation of<br />
new human life and denies the essential complementarity of man and woman is morally wrong.<br />
Church teaching that sexual intercourse finds its proper place and meaning only within marriage<br />
applies to all, whether married or unmarried, homosexual or heterosexual, single through choice,<br />
widowed or divorced.<br />
Church teaching is clear that human beings are not defined merely by their sexual orientation, and<br />
there is more to love than sexual desire. It recognises that all love is a gift from God and it calls on<br />
all people who are not married to live chastely.<br />
Reflection:<br />
Read Matthew 4: 18-20<br />
Lord, your call to follow you is the greatest invitation we will ever receive. Your call to serve you<br />
through the vocation to marriage or celibacy is a challenge for which we need grace to respond.<br />
Help us to trust in your plan for our lives.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
”We condemn the sin, not the sinner!”<br />
These words have been used to describe the Catholic Church’s attitude.<br />
How do you understand what is being said? Discuss views on these words.<br />
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SESSION<br />
7<br />
Faithful in love:<br />
LIFE AT ITS BEGINNING<br />
“And only where God is seen does life truly begin.”<br />
(Pope Benedict XVI)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to understand human life as a gift from God;<br />
• to understand the need for responsible planning of families;<br />
• to understand issues relating to fertility.<br />
When does human life begin? This may seem an innocent<br />
enough question, but it is one which has caused the Catholic<br />
Church to find itself at odds with much of society.<br />
Catholics believe that life itself is a gift from God, a precious gift to<br />
be nourished, cherished and brought to its full potential. Since life<br />
is a gift and, in the act of childbirth we act as co-creators with God<br />
in creating a new life, this raises a valid question: do we have a<br />
right to have children?<br />
TASK 7.1<br />
THE GIFT OF LIFE<br />
1. Working in mixed groups of between 4 and 6, make a list of reasons why a couple might not<br />
be able to have a baby.<br />
2. Discuss what means are available to a couple that might enable them to have a child.<br />
When a couple are not able to conceive a child, do we have a right to interfere with nature by<br />
providing the means to overcome this problem? The Catholic Church is very clear in this matter, and<br />
its basic moral principle is that, should any medical intervention assist ‘the marital embrace’ in<br />
achieving its natural end, then it can be deemed morally acceptable. If, however, it replaces ‘the<br />
marital embrace’ as the means by which a child is conceived, then it is not in keeping with God’s plan<br />
for human life (‘Instruction on Respect for Human Life, Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith’).<br />
For this reason, ‘invitro fertilisation’ is morally unacceptable.<br />
The Church does not intend that Catholic parents should have huge families, especially if they are<br />
unable to support them. Couples who marry in the Catholic Church, in making their vows, promise to<br />
accept the potential of creating a new life as the natural fruit of their marital relationship. Catholic<br />
parents, however, are expected to be responsible in attempting to plan the size of their families, in<br />
keeping with their ability to support any new child as well as existing members of the family.<br />
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TASK 7.2<br />
PLANNING A FAMILY<br />
Working with a partner, take a set of ‘Attributes’ cards (Resource Sheet 10) and imagine that<br />
you are expecting a child. What would you wish for your child?<br />
Choose 6 ‘attributes’ that you think would be essential, 6 which you think might be fairly<br />
important and 6 which you would not wish for your child.<br />
In today’s world the frontiers of science are constantly being pushed back as our understanding of<br />
science evolves and new technologies are introduced. We now live in a world where ‘designer<br />
babies’ are very much a reality. In the previous task, in choosing the attributes you would want for<br />
your child, you have essentially been designing your baby. Do we have a right to do so in real life?<br />
This presents us with a moral dilemma.<br />
Due to the advances in medical technology, people who might<br />
otherwise not be able to have a child by natural means can become<br />
parents. Scientists argue that they can identify particular genes that<br />
cause certain illnesses or medical conditions, and by engineering the<br />
genetic make-up of an embryo, can make sure that any such genetic<br />
or hereditary condition will not be present in a new-born child. Once<br />
again, do we have the right to do this, or should we accept nature?<br />
Medical research may yet prove to bring beneficial results, but at what<br />
cost? Is human life a gift from God? Is it special and unique? Is it ever<br />
acceptable to use human life for experimentation, even if ‘good’ will<br />
come from it?<br />
Having the potential to choose the sex of our babies, the colour of their<br />
hair, the colour of their eyes, their size, their intelligence or any other<br />
genetic qualities, brings with it many ethical dilemmas. Is there such a<br />
thing as the ‘perfect human being’? Who decides what is ‘perfection’?<br />
And what happens to you if you fail to match up to this ideal?<br />
Reflection:<br />
Lord, as you created us in your image and likeness, we know that you created us out of love<br />
and for love. You created us for a union of love with each other, just as you created us to be<br />
together forever with you.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Choose ONE of the ethical dilemmas referred to in the paragraphs above. Write a few<br />
paragraphs outlining both sides of the dilemma and explaining your own particular point of view<br />
on this issue.<br />
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SESSION<br />
8<br />
Faithful in love:<br />
LIFE AT ITS NATURAL END<br />
“For each of us, life is like a journey. Birth is the beginning of this journey,<br />
and death is not the end; but the destination.”<br />
(Adapted from an old Hebrew Prayer)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to understand what is meant by the ‘sanctity of human life’;<br />
• to deepen understanding of life’s natural end;<br />
• to consider moral problems in respect of abortion, euthanasia, capital punishment and war.<br />
T<br />
he Church teaches that all human life is sacred, and in the Bible we are told, “Do not kill”<br />
(Exodus 20:13). Yet Christians across the world, and over many centuries, have repeatedly<br />
ignored this commandment in attempting to justify the taking of human life. Is it ever acceptable to<br />
take another human life?<br />
TASK 8.1<br />
SANCTITY OF HUMAN LIFE<br />
Working in groups of between 4 and 6, take one of the four issues listed below and make a list of<br />
arguments for and against this issue.<br />
The issues are:<br />
1. Abortion 2. Euthanasia 3. Capital Punishment 4. War<br />
Take the sheet of paper provided and divide it into two columns, headed ‘for’ and ‘against’ and list<br />
the arguments you can think of.<br />
Discuss the arguments.<br />
Public opinion varies in relation to these issues.<br />
• In the case of Abortion, there are those who argue that the mother has the right to choose whether<br />
to give birth to a child. The Church would stress the need to protect the unborn child’s life.<br />
• Euthanasia is promoted as a way of putting an end to suffering and pain by intentionally ending a<br />
person’s life. The Church would uphold the need to respect the lives of the most vulnerable in<br />
society.<br />
• Capital Punishment is seen by many as the only way to deter serious criminals, such as murderers.<br />
The Church can only allow for the possibility of such a sanction as a last resort in the rarest of<br />
cases.<br />
• Others believe that it is possible to justify War. The Church accepts that countries have the right to<br />
lawful self-defence, using the theory of ‘just war’.<br />
Of course there are others who would argue against all four of these issues. So what happened to God’s<br />
Commandment “Do not kill”?<br />
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TASK 8.2<br />
DO NOT KILL<br />
Imagine a straight line stretching across the floor of the classroom. One end of the line<br />
represents the place of total agreement, and the other end is the place of total disagreement. In<br />
between these two extremes are to be found many different arguments and opinions.<br />
Your teacher will read out four statements. Where do you stand?<br />
Discuss the Church’s teaching on each issue.<br />
Reflection:<br />
Loving Father, you have created us for yourself and called us to love. Help us to be open today<br />
to accept your forgiveness for our failings and your grace to remain steadfast in loving you.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Read the poem ‘Unto Us’ by Spike Milligan. You will find this on Appendix 7. Discuss the following:<br />
• What is this poem about?<br />
• Who is the narrator in the poem?<br />
• How does (s)he feel about what happens to her/him?<br />
• What is Spike Milligan trying to tell us in his poem?<br />
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SESSION<br />
9<br />
Faithful in love:<br />
DESIGN AND PURPOSE<br />
‘So God created human beings, making them to be like himself.<br />
He created them male and female, blessed them, and said,<br />
“Have many children, so that your descendants will live all over the earth”’<br />
(Genesis 1:27-28)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to understand why people have sex;<br />
• to understand what is meant by sexual activity;<br />
• to understand the proper context for both sex and sexual activity.<br />
The belief that people are part of God’s creation and are therefore unique and special is very<br />
important in understanding who we are as humans. Our genetic make-up determines our growth<br />
pattern and as we mature into young adults we become much more aware of our sexual<br />
development. This is a normal part of the process of becoming a fully developed human being.<br />
As we reach puberty, changes occur within our body that will open up the potential of parenthood and<br />
the opportunity to share in God’s plan for our sexuality. There are, of course, the normal physical<br />
changes through puberty but there are also emotional changes. Mood swings are common as<br />
hormone changes occur, with many teenagers becoming more emotional and taking a greater<br />
interest in members of the opposite sex. This can lead to problems in relationships and pressure to<br />
become sexually active.<br />
TASK 9.1<br />
WHY DO YOUNG PEOPLE HAVE SEX?<br />
1. Working in mixed groups of between 4 and 6, take the large sheet of paper provided and write<br />
‘Teenagers and Sex’ in the middle. Discuss and record on the sheet a list of possible reasons<br />
why some teenagers decide to have sex.<br />
According to the teaching of the Catholic Church, the proper context for sex is the married<br />
relationship, which means that sex with anyone else other than the person you are married to is<br />
morally wrong.<br />
Some people, particularly young people, don’t want to know or hear this message, claiming that the<br />
Church is old-fashioned and out of touch with society. Others don’t want to get married, or choose to<br />
‘live together’ for a while before marrying. Others still just want the freedom to have sex with a<br />
number of partners.<br />
The Catholic Church teaches that sex was created by God, and that it was designed to be used<br />
exclusively by a husband and wife in sealing their permanent and faithful loving relationship. Sexual<br />
intercourse is, therefore, a sign of their marriage covenant.<br />
Animals, on the other hand, have sex out of instinct and to ensure the survival of their species, often<br />
governed by times and seasons in the year. Human beings, though, are not animals. The story of<br />
Adam giving names to all of the wild beasts brought before him by God (Genesis 2: 18-20) shows this<br />
quite clearly. Adam, in naming all of the wild beasts, underlines what he is not. As humans we have<br />
the capacity to reason and to use free will in deciding when and with whom to have sex.<br />
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TASK 9.1<br />
THE PURPOSE OF SEX<br />
Working in mixed groups of between 4 and 6, discuss what it means to ‘have sex’ with someone.<br />
In your discussions, you should think about the following:<br />
• The purpose of sex<br />
• Which sexual acts the Church would teach are wrong<br />
• Why this might be the case<br />
The Church teaches that when the purpose of sexual activity is nothing more than a recreational<br />
activity, then it is wrong. For in treating sex in this way, you reduce your partner to little more than a<br />
sex object or a means to gain personal gratification. To do this is to undermine what is most human<br />
and most significant about sexual intimacy.<br />
This level of intimacy - when your body expresses the absolute commitment of heart and soul to<br />
another - should be reserved for the faithful and permanent bond of marriage. How can you continue<br />
to give you self “completely” to one person and then another and so on?<br />
Reflection:<br />
Read Proverbs 3:5-8, 13a, 18<br />
Lord, help us to rely not on our own understanding of our bodies or our desires. Help us to trust<br />
you completely and to be open to learn from you about the work of your wonderful creation,<br />
each person with us today. May your word bring healing, renewal, wisdom and happiness.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Read and discuss the following statement:<br />
“Despite what the media encourages us to think, sex is not meant for our entertainment. Our<br />
genitals are not ‘sex toys’.”<br />
• In what ways is “sex not meant for our entertainment”?<br />
• To what extent is this viewpoint reflected through the media?<br />
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SESSION<br />
10<br />
Faithful in love:<br />
MARRIAGE<br />
But in the beginning, at the time of Creation,<br />
‘God made them male and female,’ as scripture says.<br />
‘And for this reason a man will leave his father and mother<br />
and unite with his wife, and the two will become one.’<br />
(Mark 10:6-8)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to understand why people choose to get married;<br />
• to develop an understanding of the difference between being married and living together;<br />
• to understand the sacramental significance of Marriage.<br />
Marriage is one of the seven Sacraments of the Catholic Church. If we regard Marriage as a<br />
sacrament then any actions that serve to unite a couple in marriage can be understood as<br />
‘sacramental’, including the loving act of sexual intercourse. In this sense, a married couple, in<br />
expressing their love through God’s gift of their bodies, can be seen as a sign of God’s loving<br />
presence in the world. This provides another reason for sex to be given more respect and reverence<br />
in our lives.<br />
So why is it that society seems to adopt such a casual approach to sex? Surely sex is much too<br />
important to be treated casually.<br />
TASK 10.1 IS LIVING TOGETHER THE SAME AS BEING MARRIED?<br />
Working in mixed groups of between 4 and 6 read over the information in Appendix 8. This is<br />
based on research carried out in Australia when people were asked to give reasons for either<br />
marrying or living together.<br />
In your groups, discuss which reasons came out top in this survey and why you think this should<br />
be the case.<br />
Contrary to what we sometimes hear, marriage is not being phased out.<br />
Most people in your class will probably be married at some point in their<br />
lives. For many it will be a joyful experience lasting many years, whereas<br />
for others it may be a more short-lived experience. A large number of<br />
those who get married and are later divorced do not seem to be put off<br />
the idea, and subsequently re-marry! What does this suggest? Perhaps it<br />
is not the idea of marriage that is the problem, but the person whom we<br />
marry. If we spent a bit more time in planning and preparing for marriage,<br />
maybe things would work out better!<br />
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TASK 10.2 PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE<br />
Working with a partner, look at the information on Resource Sheet 11 and rate on a scale of 1<br />
to 5 (1 = extremely important, 5 = completely unimportant) how important you think each of the<br />
statements is in preparing for marriage, whether in a Catholic Church or not.<br />
Some people choose to live together, and for a number of these people, living<br />
together may eventually lead to marriage. For others, however, living together is as<br />
far as it goes.<br />
Why get married? Why get married in Church? For many Catholics, the married<br />
union of a man and woman is a sacramental sign of Christ’s love. So when they<br />
get married it is more than just the exchange of legal contracts or vows, for<br />
Catholic Marriage involves God and the whole community.<br />
TASK 10.3 MARRIAGE IN THE CATHOLIC CHURCH<br />
Working in mixed groups of between 4 and 6, read Appendix 9, which shows the information<br />
which you are required to provide before being granted permission to be married in the Catholic<br />
Church. Discuss the following:<br />
• Why is so much information required?<br />
• Why is this information so important in preparing for a wedding in a Catholic Church?<br />
• What does this suggest about the Catholic Church’s view on marriage?<br />
Reflection:<br />
Lord, we ask that you help us to appreciate that happy, blessed marriages are both possible and<br />
real, in and through your love. Help us to learn to offer ourselves in unconditional love so that<br />
we can prepare ourselves for a future of happiness and authentic love.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Read over the excerpt from the Catholic Rite of Marriage, which you will find on Appendix 10.<br />
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11<br />
Love: Session 11<br />
SESSION Faithful in love:<br />
FAMILY PLANNING<br />
“It is the duty of parents to make certain that their desire to space births is not motivated by<br />
selfishness but is in conformity with the generosity appropriate to responsible parenthood.”<br />
(Catechism of the Catholic Church, n. 2368)<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to understand childbirth as a sharing in God’s gift of life;<br />
• to understand the teachings of the Catholic Church in relation to contraception and family<br />
planning.<br />
The Church’s view on family planning is very often misunderstood and frequently misquoted, even<br />
by Catholics. A common understanding would seem to be that Catholic parents should have as<br />
many children as possible, with each act of sexual intercourse between a husband and wife<br />
designed for that very purpose and no other. This couldn’t be any further from the truth.<br />
It is true that for a marriage to be valid there must be openness to having children, but there is also a<br />
strong sense of the couple being as one together, united in love. God invented sex! God wants<br />
people to enjoy the gift of sex as a beautiful expression of married love<br />
The Church espouses the sexual union of husband and wife as a sign of their mutual love and not<br />
merely an outlet for personal gratification – ‘using’ as opposed to ‘loving’. The Church expects<br />
married couples to be responsible in planning the number of children they might have according to<br />
their means of supporting their family.<br />
TASK 11.1<br />
SHARING IN GOD’S GIFT<br />
Working in mixed groups of between 4 and 6, read ‘Sarah’s Story’, which you will find in<br />
Appendix 11. Now discuss the following:<br />
• What do you think about Sarah and her boyfriend’s decision to save sex until marriage?<br />
• What advantages does this bring?<br />
• Are there any disadvantages?<br />
• Do you think that young people are under pressure to have sex before marriage?<br />
The female fertility cycle allows couples to plan for having children and it also allows for the idea of<br />
spacing out the number of children. This method of birth control is called Natural Family Planning<br />
and is normally best organised with the help of a doctor or nurse trained in advising couples; if used<br />
correctly, it is 98% effective.<br />
Natural Family Planning is a method which allows a couple to recognise fertile and infertile times<br />
during the woman’s menstrual cycle. It is a method that requires a great deal of co-operation from<br />
both partners and is not an appropriate method for planning a family in a casual relationship, or<br />
where there are multiple partners. It calls for trust, understanding, patience, consideration, selfcontrol,<br />
respect, communication and commitment. These are not to be found in a casual relationship,<br />
but all of them should be present in a loving, committed married relationship.<br />
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Natural Family Planning, when taught by an experienced tutor<br />
(such as those who work for Fertility Care Scotland), empowers<br />
a couple with a greater understanding of both male and female<br />
fertility and places the responsibility on both partners in the<br />
relationship. By carefully monitoring signs given by the<br />
woman’s body, such as the thickening of mucus secreted from<br />
the vagina, or by changes in body temperature, the couple, with<br />
appropriate training, are able to identify the fertile time when an<br />
egg may be present during the naturally occurring menstrual<br />
cycle. This provides the couple with two options. If it is their<br />
desire to have a child, then they should have sexual intercourse<br />
during this time, since there is a possibility that an egg may be<br />
present and awaiting fertilisation. On the other hand, if the<br />
couple do not want to have a child at this time, they would<br />
choose to abstain from having sexual intercourse.<br />
TASK 11.2<br />
IS NFP NOT JUST THE SAME AS CONTRACEPTION?<br />
Working with a partner, use the information on Natural Family Planning and Contraception, given<br />
in Appendix 12.<br />
Make a list of the differences between these methods of birth control.<br />
Responsible parenthood will probably involve having to decide when to have children and how many<br />
children to have, by the will of God. If, however, this is achieved by means of contraception, a ‘barrier’<br />
has been placed between the partners, or the healthy working of the body has been suppressed,<br />
making the act of sexual intercourse infertile.<br />
Reflection:<br />
Lord, help us to resist all temptations that keep us from speaking the whole truth with our<br />
mouths, minds, hearts and bodies. Make us strong so that we can be honest in word and deed,<br />
with pure hearts that follow you.<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Read the following excerpt from the Catechism of the Catholic Church and discuss/reflect on its<br />
meaning:<br />
“Called to give life, spouses share in the creative power and fatherhood of God. They should<br />
realise that they are thereby co-operating with the love of God the Creator and are, in a certain<br />
sense, its interpreters.” (CCC, 2367)<br />
• In what sense do we share with God in creating new life?<br />
• What does it mean to be an ‘interpreter’ of God’s love?<br />
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12<br />
Love: Session 12 11<br />
SESSION Faithful in love:<br />
CONTRACEPTION<br />
“Contraception is to be judged so profoundly unlawful as never to be, for any reason, justified.<br />
To think or to say the contrary is equal to maintaining that in human life, situations may arise in<br />
which it is lawful not to recognise God as God.”<br />
Learning objectives for students:<br />
• to understand more fully what it means to abstain from sex;<br />
• to understand the nature and purpose of contraceptives;<br />
• to deepen in understanding of Church teaching on contraception.<br />
(Pope John Paul II, ‘L’Osservatore Romano, 1983)<br />
The key to Natural Family Planning lies in identifying the fertile times in the woman’s menstrual<br />
cycle and using this information to either postpone conception by abstaining from sex, or to<br />
welcome the possibility of conception as the fruit of their sexual union.<br />
TASK 12.1<br />
ABSTINENCE<br />
Working in a group of between 4 and 6, brainstorm the word ‘abstinence’ in relation to sexual<br />
intercourse.<br />
In doing this, you should consider times, situations, etc. that may be the reason for someone’s<br />
decision to abstain from sex.<br />
If you choose to have sex, you must accept that you are no longer safe from pregnancy or from the<br />
even greater risk of sexually transmitted infections. It is possible to use some form of contraception in<br />
the hope of avoiding pregnancy, and of reducing the risk of contracting some STIs, but three points<br />
should be borne in mind:<br />
1. The Catholic Church teaches that all forms of contraception are wrong.<br />
2. No one method of contraception is 100% reliable.<br />
3. Condoms were not designed to prevent STIs or HIV/AIDS and may reduce the risk of<br />
contraction, but not remove it completely.<br />
We live in a society where, in order to avoid pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted infections or<br />
HIV/AIDS, we are told to practise ‘safe sex’. We are told to ‘protect ourselves’. But if we truly love the<br />
person with whom we have sex, what do we need ‘protection’ from? What do we understand by ‘safe<br />
sex’, and what means are available to make sex “safe”?<br />
TASK 12.2 WHAT ARE CONTRACEPTIVES?<br />
Appendix 12a and 12b provides information about Natural Family Planning and some of the<br />
more commonly available methods of contraception. In mixed groups of between 4 and 6, read<br />
over this information and discuss which methods are safe and what it is that makes them safe.<br />
You can record your group’s opinions on Resource Sheet 12.<br />
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What do we mean by ‘safe’ sex? In completing the<br />
previous task we considered the various means available<br />
that are supposed to make sex ‘safe’. However it should<br />
perhaps be clearer now that while they may make sex<br />
‘safer’, all of the methods listed have failure rates. Some<br />
of them present side effects and none of them can<br />
guarantee that you are free from pregnancy or sexually<br />
transmitted infection. Does this mean that there is no<br />
such thing as ‘safe’ sex?<br />
‘Safe’ sex means that you know that you are safe from<br />
any potential sexually transmitted infection. Safe sex<br />
means that childbirth is not something to be avoided, but to be welcomed as a gift from God. This kind<br />
of safe sex can only be found in one type of relationship . . . one that is based upon a lasting,<br />
permanent and faithful union of two people, joined as one. According to the teaching of the Catholic<br />
Church, this is to be found only in the sacrament of Marriage.<br />
Reflection:<br />
Lord, help us to listen to our Word and to learn to love like you. Together as brothers and<br />
sisters in the family of God, let us pray in the way that Jesus taught us to address our heavenly<br />
Father: Our Father . . .<br />
Extension Task:<br />
Reflect on the following excerpt from the First Letter to the Corinthians:<br />
“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and who was<br />
given to you by God? You do not belong to yourselves but to God; he bought you for a price. So<br />
use your bodies for God’s glory.” (1 Cor. 6: 19-20)<br />
• St Paul compares the human body to a temple. What is he trying to communicate through this<br />
image?<br />
• What does he mean when he says that “you do not belong to yourselves but to God”?<br />
• What implications should this have for us in how we care for and regard our bodies?<br />
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Appendix 1<br />
APPENDIX1<br />
THE LIVING CHRIST<br />
Saddened by the way that the people in his parish prepared themselves for Christmas and<br />
the Nativity of the Lord, a parish priest in Brazil decided that he would do something<br />
different to make his people understand the real meaning of Christmas. During Advent one year<br />
he put his plan into place.<br />
On the Sundays leading up to Christmas he had been telling the parishioners that the crib that<br />
year would be different. For, rather than having a plaster figure of the Baby Jesus, as had<br />
always happened, displayed in the crib this year would be the Living Christ. Each Sunday of<br />
Advent he repeated his claim that those visiting the crib this year would see Christ.<br />
Word quickly spread throughout the community, and many of the local people laughed at the<br />
priest, thinking that he had gone quite mad. When Christmas Eve came, people flocked to<br />
Midnight Mass to laugh at the priest.<br />
The crib was set up so that the people could only look into it one at a time through a narrow<br />
opening. As each person looked with curiosity into the crib, between the figures of Mary and<br />
Joseph they saw their own faces reflected in a mirror.<br />
The people understood the priest’s message that each one of them was the ‘Living Christ’.<br />
Discussion points:<br />
1 What message was the priest trying to give to the members of his Church?<br />
2 Are there people in whom you would have difficulty in seeing Jesus?<br />
3 Are other people able to see Jesus through you?<br />
4 Should we only see Christ in other Christians?<br />
APPENDIX2<br />
CHILD/PARENT RELATIONSHIPS<br />
“When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man<br />
around me. But when I got to 21, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.”<br />
(Mark Twain)<br />
Discuss the following:<br />
1 What do these words suggest about some parent/child relationships?<br />
2 To what extent do you think this might be true?<br />
3 Sometimes children forget that their parents were once young. Unfortunately, some<br />
parents also forget this too. What do you think this means? Try to give some<br />
examples.<br />
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Appendix 3<br />
APPENDIX3<br />
AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN<br />
Read the following and use the reflection in Session 3 of the <strong>Student</strong> Book as a means to<br />
further discussion:<br />
Aman dies and goes up to Heaven, where he finds himself a long queue. He was a bit<br />
surprised to see so many people waiting to get in, but rather than complain about it – it’s not<br />
a good idea to make enemies once you are dead – he decided to just wait in line.<br />
After waiting for quite a while, the man eventually appeared before St Peter, who was standing<br />
at a tall table on which there was an enormous <strong>book</strong>. As the man approached, St Peter started<br />
thumbing through the pages of the <strong>book</strong>, and a frown appeared across his forehead. The man<br />
said to St Peter, “I lived on earth for 65 years, during which time no harm did I do to anyone I<br />
met”, and with this proud boast was sure that he would soon be entering Heaven.<br />
St Peter continued to pour over the pages, searching and searching and frowning all the while.<br />
The man was becoming a little impatient by now and was about to speak when St Peter<br />
stopped him in his tracks. “Yes, it is true”, said St Peter, “in all your years on earth you did not<br />
do anyone harm.” The man beamed, expecting the gates to sweep open and for him to be<br />
escorted to the place reserved for him. “The problem is,” said St Peter, “though you never did<br />
anyone any harm, I can find no evidence of you having done any good!”<br />
St Peter closed the <strong>book</strong> and the man walked away in despair.<br />
Discussion points:<br />
• Why do you think the man was so confident that he would be received into heaven?<br />
• Are you surprised at what St Peter told the man?<br />
• What message do you think this story has for us?<br />
• What does this mean for any relationships we may have?<br />
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Appendix 3<br />
APPENDIX4<br />
THE PARABLE OF THE GOOD SAMARITAN<br />
(Luke 10:25-37)<br />
A teacher of the Law came up and tried to trap Jesus.<br />
“Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to receive eternal life?”<br />
Jesus answered him, “What do the Scriptures say? How do you interpret them?”<br />
The man answered, “’Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your strength, and with all your<br />
mind’; and ‘Love your neighbour as you love yourself.’”<br />
“You are right,” Jesus replied; “do this and you will live.”<br />
But the teacher of the Law wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, “Who is my neighbour?”<br />
Jesus answered, “There was once a man who was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho when robbers<br />
attacked him, stripped him, and beat him up, leaving him half dead. It so happened that a priest was going<br />
down that road; but when he saw the man, he walked on by, on the other side. In the same way a Levite<br />
also came along, went over and looked at the man, and then walked by, on the other side.<br />
But a Samaritan who was travelling that way came upon the man, and when he saw him, his heart was<br />
filled with pity. He went over to him, poured oil and wine on his wounds and bandaged them; then he put<br />
the man on his own animal and took him to an inn, where he took care of him.<br />
The next day he took out two silver coins and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Take care of him,’ he told the<br />
innkeeper, ‘and when I come back this way, I will pay you whatever else you spend on him.’”<br />
And Jesus concluded, “In your opinion, which of these three acted like a neighbour towards the man<br />
attacked by the robbers?”<br />
The teacher of the Law answered, “The one who was kind to him.”<br />
Jesus replied, “You go, then, and do the same.”<br />
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Appendix 5<br />
APPENDIX5<br />
UNIVERSAL DECLARATION OF<br />
HUMAN RIGHTS (United Nations, 1948)<br />
www.un.org/Overview/rights.html<br />
On the 10th of December 1948 the General Assembly of the United Nations adopted and<br />
proclaimed the Universal Declaration of Human Rights in which are outlined, in 30 articles, the<br />
basic human rights to which each and every individual human being is entitled.<br />
The following is a summary of the main points:<br />
Right to life, liberty, property and security of person<br />
Right to an education<br />
Right to employment, paid holidays, protection against unemployment and social security<br />
Right to participate fully in cultural life<br />
Freedom from torture or cruel, inhumane treatment or punishment<br />
Freedom of thought, conscience and religion<br />
Freedom of expression and opinion<br />
• Do you think any of these human rights is achievable?<br />
• Are there any particular times when these rights should not apply?<br />
• Why do you think it was necessary to produce such an agreed statement in the first<br />
place?<br />
• What sort of world might we live in without them?<br />
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APPENDIX6<br />
SPEAKING OUT FOR LIFE<br />
The thoughts of Pastor Neimoller: Written while in prison in Nazi Germany<br />
First they came for the Jews<br />
and I did not speak out<br />
because I was not a Jew.<br />
Then they came for the communists<br />
and I did not speak out<br />
because I was not a communist.<br />
Then they came for the trade unionists<br />
and I did not speak out<br />
because I was not a trade unionist.<br />
Then they came for me<br />
and by then there was no one left<br />
to speak for me.<br />
Appendix 8<br />
APPENDIX7<br />
UNTO US<br />
by Spike Milligan<br />
Somewhere at sometime<br />
They committed themselves to me<br />
And so I was!<br />
Tiny in shape<br />
Lusting to live!<br />
I hung in my pulsing cave.<br />
Soon they knew of me,<br />
My mother - my father.<br />
I had no say in my being.<br />
I lived on trust<br />
And love.<br />
Tho' I couldn't think,<br />
Each part of me was saying<br />
A silent 'Wait for me!<br />
I will bring you love!'<br />
I was taken<br />
Blind, naked, defenceless,<br />
By the hand of one<br />
Whose good name<br />
Was graven on a brass plate<br />
in Wimpole Street,<br />
And dropped on the sterile floor<br />
Of a foot-operated plastic waste bucket.<br />
There was no Queen's Counsel,<br />
To take my brief.<br />
The cot I might have warmed<br />
Stood in Harrod's shop window.<br />
When my passing was told<br />
My father smiled,<br />
No grief filled my empty space.<br />
My death was celebrated<br />
With two tickets to see Danny La Rue<br />
Who was pretending to be a woman<br />
Like my mother was...<br />
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Appendix 8<br />
APPENDIX8<br />
REASONS FOR MARRYING<br />
Top 5 reasons for getting married:<br />
(source: ‘State of Australia Relationships’ Survey, 1998, www.relationships.com.au)<br />
Signify a life-long commitment<br />
Security for children<br />
Public commitment<br />
Legal status/financial security<br />
Religious beliefs<br />
Top 5 reasons for not getting married:<br />
(source: ‘State of Australia Relationships’ Survey, 1998, www.relationships.com.au)<br />
Fear of divorce and all it involves<br />
Avoidance of commitment<br />
Fear of making a mistake<br />
Bad previous experience<br />
Strong commitment does not need marriage<br />
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Appendix 8<br />
APPENDIX9<br />
PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE<br />
The following is an indication of the information usually required to be provided prior to<br />
marriage in any Catholic Church in Scotland. This is taken from what is known as a ‘pre-nuptial<br />
enquiry’.<br />
• Your name, address, age, religion and telephone number.<br />
• The name, address, age, religion and telephone number of your proposed spouse.<br />
• When and where you propose that your marriage will take place<br />
• How long you have known each other.<br />
• Which District Registrar must be informed<br />
• Records (if appropriate) of any other pre-nuptial preparations from other sources.<br />
Section2: Information on your Background<br />
• Date and Place of Birth.<br />
• Father’s Name.<br />
• Mother’s name, including Maiden Name.<br />
• Date and Place of Baptism.<br />
• Date and Place of Confirmation.<br />
• Do your parents support your decision to marry?<br />
• How long you have lived at your present address?<br />
• Any previous addresses, lived at for more than 6 months since aged 16 years and how long<br />
you lived there?<br />
• Your address after Marriage.<br />
• Your occupation.<br />
Section 3: Your Freedom to Marry<br />
• Have you ever been married before?<br />
• Name of spouse.<br />
• Place and date of marriage.<br />
• If divorced, state when and where.<br />
• Have you received a decree of nullity from a Church Tribunal?<br />
• If so, when and where?<br />
• Are you bound by any religious vow?<br />
• Are you related to your proposed spouse by blood or marriage?<br />
• Is your proposed spouse Baptised?<br />
• If so, where and when?<br />
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APPENDIX9<br />
(continued)<br />
Section 4: Your Understanding of Marriage<br />
• Are you entering this marriage of your own free will?<br />
• Do you accept that marriage is a union between one man and one woman which is for life?<br />
• Do you realise and accept that the marriage bond cannot be dissolved by any purely human<br />
authority?<br />
• Do you realise and accept that the marriage bond is an exclusive one which binds you to be<br />
faithful to each other until death?<br />
• Do you realise and accept that marriage exists for the development of your love for one<br />
another and for the procreation of children?<br />
• Do you then clearly understand and intend to accept what marriage entails:<br />
- in relation to faithfulness, love and support for one another?<br />
- In relation to children and their upbringing?<br />
• What was the result of your discussion with your partner concerning these responsibilities?<br />
• Do you understand and accept that Marriage was instituted by God and that between the<br />
baptised it has been given the additional dignity of a Sacrament by Christ?<br />
Section 5: Questions for the Priest<br />
• How well do you know the person interviewed?<br />
• What do you know about his or her faith and religious practice?<br />
• Are you satisfied that he/she is free to marry?<br />
• Are you satisfied that he/she understands the concept of marriage as outlined in Section 3?<br />
• Are you satisfied that he/she is capable, with the help of God, of assuming and carrying out<br />
the essential demands and responsibilities of Marriage?<br />
• Any other relevant comment on the character of the person interviewed or on his/her<br />
suitability for marriage?<br />
Section 6: Permissions & Delegations from the Parish<br />
a Permission to marry outside the Parish<br />
b Delegation to another Priest, not of the Parish, e.g. relative/friend, etc.<br />
This form must be signed and dated by both the person making the application for approval<br />
and the relevant Priest of the Parish, including any delegated Priest who may perform the<br />
ceremony.<br />
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APPENDIX10<br />
THE CATHOLIC RITE<br />
OF MARRIAGE<br />
(Excerpt)<br />
Priest:<br />
________ and ________, you have come together in this Church so that<br />
the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of the Church’s minister<br />
and this community. Christ abundantly blesses this love. He has already consecrated<br />
you in baptism and now he enriches and strengthens you by a special sacrament so<br />
that you may assume the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity. And so, in<br />
the presence of the Church, I ask you to state your intentions.<br />
________ and ________, I shall now ask if you freely undertake the obligations of<br />
marriage, and to state that there is no legal impediment to your marriage. Are you<br />
ready freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?<br />
Groom:<br />
Bride:<br />
Priest:<br />
Groom:<br />
Bride:<br />
Priest:<br />
Groom:<br />
Bride:<br />
I am.<br />
I am.<br />
Are you ready to love and honour each other as man and wife for the rest of your<br />
lives?<br />
I am.<br />
I am.<br />
Are you ready to accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to<br />
the law of Christ and his Church?<br />
I am.<br />
I am.<br />
The Groom first and then the Bride repeat after the Priest:<br />
I do solemnly declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I<br />
________ may not be joined in matrimony to ________.<br />
The Priest then invites the couple to declare their consent:<br />
Priest:<br />
Since it is your intention to enter into marriage, declare your consent before God and<br />
his Church.<br />
To the Bridegroom first, and then the Bride, the priest says:<br />
Priest:<br />
Groom:<br />
Priest:<br />
________ will you take ________ here present for your lawful wife, according to the<br />
rite of our Holy Mother the Church?<br />
I will.<br />
________ will you take ________ here present for your lawful husband, according to<br />
the rite of our Holy Mother the Church?<br />
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APPENDIX10 (continued) page 37<br />
Bride:<br />
I will.<br />
The Bride and Groom join their right hands.<br />
Groom:<br />
Bride:<br />
Priest:<br />
All:<br />
Priest:<br />
All:<br />
I call upon these persons here present to witness that I ________ do take thee<br />
________ to be my lawful wedded wife to have and to hold from this day<br />
forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sicknes and in health, to<br />
love and to cherish, till death us do part.<br />
I call upon these persons here present to witness that I ________ do take thee<br />
________ to be my lawful wedded husband to have and to hold from this day<br />
forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to<br />
love and to cherish, till death us do part.<br />
You have declared your consent before the Church. May the Lord in his goodness<br />
strengthen your consent and fill you both with his blessings. What God has joined<br />
together, let no man put asunder.<br />
Amen.<br />
May the Lord bless this ring (these rings) which you give (to each other) as the sign<br />
of your love and fidelity.<br />
Amen.<br />
Husband: ________, take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the<br />
Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.<br />
Wife:<br />
________, take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of The<br />
Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.
Appendix 8<br />
APPENDIX11<br />
SARAH’S STORY<br />
Sarah is a 23-year old youth worker, who lives with her divorced mother, Angela, 52. Also at<br />
home, in a three-bedroom semi-detached in Northwich, Cheshire, is her brother Adam, 18.<br />
Sarah says, “Anticipating sex is like looking forward to opening my presents on Christmas<br />
morning. Doing it now, before I got married, would spoil the surprise and enjoyment. My<br />
boyfriend, James and I have been together for four years and we’re planning to marry after he<br />
graduates next year. Suddenly we will be allowed to make love – the one thing that we have<br />
always forbidden ourselves – and we are longing to find out what it’s like.”<br />
“It was my decision to remain a virgin. My mother and I have never had a conversation<br />
specifically about sex, so it would be wrong to say that she pressurised me into it. Moral<br />
guidelines, such as not doing anything that would either hurt me or other people, were certainly<br />
set out at home, but it was left to me to obey them or go my own way. From about the age of 16<br />
there was immense pressure at college to have sex. My friends seemed to accept that sleeping<br />
around was normal behaviour, but something inside me kept on saying, ‘Don’t do it.’ I saw girls<br />
seeking love and fulfilment through sex – but all they found was disappointment and insecurity.<br />
Their example was enough to put me off. A girl would sleep with a boy only to find herself<br />
dumped for the latest female arrival, and many of my friends were hurt in this way.”<br />
“I’m sure some of the boys thought I was frigid, although no one ever said it, but I couldn’t care<br />
less. Losing my virginity is a big thing to me – not simply a rite of passage, to be got out of the<br />
way as soon as possible. I was lucky that my friends respected me for my decision rather than<br />
regarding me as a freak.”<br />
“Waiting for sex means I have really got to know James in every other way. He is my best friend<br />
as well as the man I love, trust and respect. So I am certain our fulfilment and level of intimacy<br />
when we do have sex will be that much greater than if we had slept together earlier.”<br />
Daily Mail, 24 May 2002 (abridged)<br />
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Appendix 8<br />
APPENDIX12a<br />
NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING<br />
Natural Family Planning is a method of birth control that enables a couple to recognise<br />
fertile and infertile times in a woman’s monthly cycle. The information provided by this<br />
method allows a couple to plan for having children, allowing for the spacing out of children and<br />
regulating the number of children that are born.<br />
NFP must be taught by a trained tutor or teacher, such as those who work for Fertility Care<br />
Scotland, and empowers a couple with a far greater understanding of and respect for both<br />
male and female fertility. It places responsibility on both partners in a relationship, not just one,<br />
and used according to the training given, is 98% effective.<br />
This method of birth control is a holistic and natural way of avoiding or planning a pregnancy<br />
and does not involve the use of any artificial hormones or substances. Natural Family<br />
Planning has no side effects, and in itself offers no protection against STIs. However, because<br />
of its very nature, NFP works best in a loving, faithful and committed relationship, where STIs<br />
should not be of concern to a couple.<br />
NFP gives the woman a far greater awareness of her own body, and when used properly<br />
within a lasting, permanent relationship, allows the couple to exercise self-restraint and<br />
respect for each other by abstaining from sexual intercourse during fertile times to avoid a<br />
pregnancy, or by having sexual intercourse during fertile times in order to have a child.<br />
Natural Family Planning involves being able, after training, to recognise changes in the female<br />
body, such as the texture and thickness of the vaginal mucus secretion, the woman’s body<br />
temperature, and identifying the length of the menstrual cycle. Since this involves a lot of time<br />
and patience Natural Family Planning is not ideally suited for a casual relationship or where a<br />
number of partners may be involved. But it is ideally suited to marriage, since marriage<br />
provides the proper context not just for sexual intercourse, but also for working with your<br />
spouse in regulating the size of your family.<br />
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Appendix 8<br />
APPENDIX12b<br />
CONTRACEPTION<br />
Contraception refers to a number of methods aimed at preventing a pregnancy, some of<br />
which are referred to as ‘barrier’ methods, whilst other involve the use of hormones, either in<br />
the form of a pill, an injection or an implant. Some forms of contraception involve the insertion<br />
of small devices inside the woman’s body or a surgical procedure performed either in a<br />
doctor’s surgery or in hospital.<br />
Barrier methods of contraception are so called because they quite literally present a barrier<br />
that prevents sperm and egg from meeting. Examples of barrier methods are condoms (male<br />
and female), the diaphragm, the cap, and the use of spermicides. These need to be utilised<br />
prior to close sexual contact between the penis and the vagina, and require care in handling<br />
as this can have a seriously detrimental impact on their effectiveness. Used properly, barrier<br />
methods of contraception offer a very high rate of efficacy in preventing pregnancy, and with<br />
the exception of spermicides on their own, also offer considerable protection against STIs.<br />
Hormonal contraceptives typically involve the swallowing of a pill to be taken at the same<br />
time each day for 21 days, with seven days in between before beginning a new course. Each<br />
pill contains a dose of either a hormone called progesterone on its own, or a combination of<br />
both progesterone and oestrogen, and these hormones combine to suppress ovulation and/or<br />
thicken the mucus in the neck of the womb, making it difficult for sperm and egg to meet.<br />
Other hormonal contraceptives include a direct injection of the hormone progesterone, or the<br />
insertion of a small implant containing the same hormone under the skin, usually at the top of<br />
the inner arm. Used properly, hormonal contraceptives are between 98% and 99% effective,<br />
but can have side effects such as headaches, weight gain, acne, nausea, etc. Hormonal<br />
contraceptives offer no protection against STIs.<br />
Intra-Uterine contraceptives are so called because they involve the insertion of small<br />
devices into the womb and which are able to stay there for a number of years, depending on<br />
the type used. The IUD is a small plastic and copper device which prevents sperm and egg<br />
from meeting or, failing this, makes it much more difficult for a fertilised egg to implant in the<br />
womb. Many people believe that life begins at conception, when fertilisation occurs, therefore<br />
this form of birth control is technically abortifacient in the act of preventing implantation of the<br />
fertilised egg. The IUS is a small plastic device containing progesterone that works in a<br />
similar way to the IUD, and in preventing the implantation of a fertilised egg, its action may<br />
also be referred to as abortifacient. Both forms of intra-uterine contraceptives are highly<br />
effective but offer no protection against STIs.<br />
Contraception can also be achieved through a surgical procedure known as sterilisation,<br />
where the male tubes (vas deferens) which carry sperm are cut, or the female (fallopian) tubes<br />
are cut or sealed. Both forms of surgical contraception are permanent and extremely effective,<br />
although they offer no protection against STIs.<br />
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APPENDIX<br />
13<br />
NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING AND<br />
METHODS OF CONTRACEPTION<br />
NATURAL METHOD:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING (NFP)<br />
• Method enabling couples to recognise fertile and infertile times in a<br />
woman’s menstrual cycle.<br />
• No side effects.<br />
• No artificial hormones or substances are taken into the body.<br />
• Gives the woman a greater awareness of her body.<br />
• A holistic and natural way of avoiding and planning a pregnancy. The<br />
Billings Ovulation Method<br />
• Observing and recording cervical mucus sensation and secretion as<br />
it leaves the vagina.<br />
• When used correctly in accordance with the teaching of a trained<br />
NFP teacher it is 98-99% effective for avoidance of pregnancy.<br />
Couple co-operation and motivation required.<br />
• This means that 1-2 women in every 100 will get pregnant in a year.<br />
The Symptothermal Method<br />
• Recording the woman’s body temperature.<br />
• Recording cervical mucus secretion.<br />
• Identifying the length of the menstrual cycle.<br />
• When used correctly in accordance with the teaching of a trained<br />
NFP teacher it is 95-98% effective for avoidance of pregnancy.<br />
Couple co-operation and motivation required.<br />
• This means that 2-5 women will get pregnant in a year.<br />
NATURAL METHOD:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
COITUS INTERRUPTUS (WITHDRAWAL METHOD)<br />
• The withdrawal of the penis from the vagina prior to ejaculation.<br />
• One of the most ancient methods known to mankind, it is reliant on a<br />
high degree of control by the male partner, since semen leakage can<br />
occur prior to ejaculation and also sperm deposited in the vulva can<br />
reach the uterus.<br />
• 81% to 96%?? But difficult to determine accurately as not<br />
recommended as a form of contraception.<br />
• This means that 4 to 19 women in 100 will get pregnant in a year.<br />
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APPENDIX<br />
13<br />
(continued)<br />
BARRIER METHOD:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
MALE CONDOM<br />
• A sheath of latex rubber or polyurethane, often lubricated with<br />
spermicide. (Condoms coated with spermicide Non-oxynol 9 have<br />
been removed from the market and are no longer recommended; the<br />
vaginal reaction caused by the spermicide increased the<br />
transmission of infection, including HIV/AIDS).<br />
• Must be placed over the erect penis before the penis touches the<br />
vagina.<br />
• Stops sperm from entering the woman’s vagina and so not able to<br />
reach the egg.<br />
• May offer both partners some protection from sexually transmitted<br />
infections, including HIV, but not Genital Warts or Herpes which are<br />
carried on the skin surface, not just the penis.<br />
• Spermicidal creams recommended with condom use.<br />
• Not recommended if there is a history of allergic reaction to latex<br />
rubber.<br />
• If used according to instructions it is 95-98% effective, but higher<br />
failure rates are seen in younger age groups (86%).<br />
• This means that 2 women in every 100 will get pregnant in a year,<br />
and possibly 14 young women or teens.<br />
• Accurate figures for prevention of STIs not currently available. As<br />
pregnancy can only occur on a few days in the menstrual cycle,<br />
effectiveness rates for STIs are significantly lower as infection can<br />
be transmitted any day in the cycle. An effectiveness rate of 83%<br />
has been quoted for HIV/AIDS.<br />
BARRIER METHOD:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
FEMALE CONDOM<br />
• A thin soft polyurethane sheath made to line the area in and just<br />
outside the vagina.<br />
• Must be inserted prior to penetration by penis.<br />
• Stops sperm from entering the vagina so not able to reach the egg.<br />
• May offer both partners some protection from STIs.<br />
• Care must be taken to make sure there is no slippage.<br />
• Spermicidal creams recommended with condom use.<br />
• If used according to instructions it is 95% effective, but in typical use<br />
figures of 79% have been found.<br />
• This means that 5-21 women in every 100 will get pregnant in a<br />
year.<br />
• Accurate figures for prevention of STIs not currently available.<br />
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APPENDIX<br />
13<br />
(continued)<br />
BARRIER METHOD:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
DIAPHRAGM / CAP<br />
• The diaphragm and the cap are devices made from either rubber or<br />
silicone designed to fit over the cervix.<br />
• They need to be measured and fitted by a doctor or nurse to ensure<br />
that they are the correct size.<br />
• They act as a barrier preventing sperm from entering the uterus.<br />
• Need to be put in before having sex and must stay in place for at<br />
least six hours after sex.<br />
• Spermicidal cream recommended with cap and diaphragm use.<br />
• Not recommended if there is a history of latex rubber allergic<br />
reaction.<br />
• May protect against some STIs.<br />
• If used according to instructions diaphragms and caps are 92% to<br />
96% effective. In typical use 60-80% effectiveness rates are found.<br />
• This means that between 4 and 40 women will get pregnant in a<br />
year. A higher failure rate is found with the cap if the woman has had<br />
a baby.<br />
BARRIER METHOD:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
SPERMICIDES<br />
• A cream, gel, pessary or aerosol containg a spermicide which must<br />
be inserted directly into the vagina.<br />
• One dose of spermicide must be injected into the vagina before<br />
each act of sex.<br />
• The chemical in the spermicide kills the sperm.<br />
• May cause inflammatory reaction in the vaginal lining.<br />
• Spermicides do not provide reliable contraception when used alone.<br />
• Must be used in conjunction with a barrier form of contraceptive.<br />
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APPENDIX<br />
13<br />
(continued)<br />
HORMONAL:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
COMBINED ORAL CONTRACEPTIVE (COC)<br />
• Often referred to as ‘the pill’.<br />
• The combined pill contains two steroid hormones; synthetic oestrogen<br />
and a progesterone-like compound, a progestogen.<br />
• The oestrogen works by switching off the signals preventing the ovary<br />
from releasing an egg – this is described as suppressing ovulation.<br />
• The progestogen works by causing the mucus in the neck of the<br />
womb to thicken, making it difficult for sperm to enter the womb.<br />
• It also keeps the womb lining thin, preventing implantation of the<br />
fertilised egg should there be a breakthrough ovulation.<br />
• One pill is taken at the same time each day for 21 days, then no pill<br />
for 7 days and bleeding occurs due to the hormones being withdrawn.<br />
• If taken according to instructions is 95-99% effective.<br />
• This means that 1-5 women in every 100 will get pregnant in a year.<br />
• Not effective if taken over 12 hours late or after vomiting or severe<br />
diarrhoea.<br />
• Some medicines, such as antibiotics, lessen/negate the use of the pill.<br />
• Can cause minor side effects such as headaches, breast tenderness,<br />
nausea, weight gain, skin problems, etc. More serious are the<br />
problems caused by the effect of the pill on blood clotting. Deep Vein<br />
Thrombosis (DVT) – usually in the legs – may lead to strokes, heart<br />
attacks, lung problems (pulmonary embolism) and even death.<br />
• There is a slightly increased risk of breast cancer and cancer of the<br />
womb lining.<br />
• Offers no protection against STIs.<br />
HORMONAL:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
PROGESTERONE-ONLY PILL (POP)<br />
• A pill consisting solely of a steroid compound similar to the female<br />
hormone progesterone – a progestogen.<br />
• Causes the mucus at the neck of the womb to thicken, making it difficult<br />
for sperm to enter the womb or for the womb to accept a fertilised egg.<br />
• Thinning of the womb lining prevents implantation of a fertilised egg<br />
• May stop ovulation in some women.<br />
• Has to be taken at the same time every day.<br />
• If used according to instructions it is 95-98% effective.<br />
• This means that 2-5 women in every 100 will get pregnant in a year.<br />
• Not effective if taken more than three hours late or after vomiting or<br />
severe diarrhoea.<br />
• Some medicines, such as antibiotics, lessen/negate the use of the POP.<br />
• Minor side effects similar to the combined pill may be experienced.<br />
There is also a risk of blood clotting in susceptible individuals.<br />
• Offers no protection against STIs.<br />
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APPENDIX<br />
13<br />
(continued)<br />
HORMONAL:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
CONTRACEPTIVE INJECTION<br />
• An injection of a steroid compound similar to the hormone progesterone –<br />
a progestogen.<br />
• There are two different types of injection; one lasts for 8 weeks and the<br />
other for 12 weeks.<br />
• The Progestogen is slowly released into the woman’s body.<br />
• This prevents the ovary from releasing an egg.<br />
• It also thickens the cervical mucus to prevent sperm from meeting an egg.<br />
• It also keeps the womb lining thin, preventing implantation of a fertilised<br />
egg should ovulation happen.<br />
• May either stop the menstrual bleeding altogether, or in some women may<br />
result in persistent bleeding.<br />
• If taken according to instructions is over 99% effective.<br />
• This means that fewer than 1 woman in very 100 will get pregnant in a<br />
year.<br />
• Cannot be removed from the body.<br />
• Can cause side effects such as weight gain, headaches, acne, tender<br />
breasts, mood swings and bloating, and all of the above side effects for<br />
the Progesterone Only Pill.<br />
• Return to fertility may be delayed.<br />
• Significant loss of bone density noted with increasing duration of use and<br />
particularly of concern during adolescence which is a critical period for<br />
‘bone building.’<br />
• Offers no protection against STIs.<br />
HORMONAL:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
INTRA-UTERINE DEVICE (IUD)<br />
• A small plastic and copper device which is inserted into the womb.<br />
• It can stay in for 3 to 10 years depending on the type, but can be taken out<br />
at any time.<br />
• Designed to cause a reaction in the womb lining, making it difficult for a<br />
fertilised egg to implant in the womb.<br />
• This is what is called an abortifacient action.<br />
• Copper in the device may affect the sperm, stopping them from reaching the<br />
egg.<br />
• Works as soon as it is inserted.<br />
• If taken according to instructions is 98% to 99% effective.<br />
• This means that less than two women in every 100 will get pregnant in a<br />
year.<br />
• Periods may be heavier and longer with cramping pain.<br />
• The coil may be expelled from the uterus.<br />
• There is an increased risk of ectopic pregnancy (outside the womb).<br />
• Risk of Pelvic Inflammatory Disease from infection, leading to blocked tubes<br />
and future infertility.<br />
• Offers no protection against STIs.<br />
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APPENDIX<br />
13<br />
(continued)<br />
SURGICAL:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
INTRA-UTERINE SYSTEM (IUS)<br />
• Small plastic device which releases progesterone-like compound<br />
into the womb.<br />
• Works for 5 years but can be taken out at any time.<br />
• Stops a fertilised egg from implanting in the womb as the lining is<br />
kept thin.<br />
• This is an abortifacient action.<br />
• Stops the sperm from reaching the egg by thickening the cervical<br />
mucus.<br />
• May stop an egg being released in some women.<br />
• Works as soon as it is inserted.<br />
• If used according to instructions it is over 99% effective.<br />
• This means that fewer than 1 woman in every 100 will get pregnant<br />
in a year.<br />
• Periods usually lighter and may stop altogether.<br />
• The coil may be expelled from the uterus.<br />
• There is an increased risk of ectopic pregnancy (outside the womb).<br />
• Risk of Pelvic Inflammatory Disease from infection, leading to<br />
blocked tubes and future infertility.<br />
• Side effects associated with Progesterone Only Pill may also be<br />
experienced.<br />
• Offers no protection against STIs.<br />
SURGICAL:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
MALE STERILISATION (VASECTOMY)<br />
• Permanent method in which the tubes (vas deferens) that carry the<br />
sperm from the testicles to the penis are cut and sealed so sperm<br />
are not present in the semen.<br />
• Minor operation lasting 10-15 minutes and can be done in a doctor’s<br />
surgery or clinic.<br />
• Prevents any sperm being released during sexual intercourse.<br />
• Usually takes a few months for all of the sperm to disappear from<br />
the semen.<br />
• It is considered permanent but occasionally reversible depending on<br />
how the surgery was done and how long ago.<br />
• It is over 99% effective.<br />
• Lifetime failure rate is 1 in 600.<br />
• The tubes may re-open.<br />
• Still open to the possibility of contracting STIs.<br />
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13<br />
(continued)<br />
SURGICAL:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
FEMALE STERILISATION<br />
• Permanent method in which the fallopian tubes are cut or blocked.<br />
• Performed in hospital, and time varies from one to three days,<br />
depending on type of operation.<br />
• An egg released from the ovary cannot travel down the fallopian<br />
tube to meet the sperm.<br />
• It is over 99% effective.<br />
• Lifetime failure rate is 1 in 2000.<br />
• The fallopian tubes may rejoin and the woman may become fertile<br />
again.<br />
• Offers no protection against STIs.<br />
EMERGENCY:<br />
WHAT IT IS:<br />
HOW IT WORKS:<br />
EFFICACY:<br />
EMERGENCY CONTRACEPTIVE PILL (EC72),<br />
E.G. LEVONELLE ONE-STEP<br />
• Combined oestrogen and progesterone pill.<br />
• Sometimes 2 pills taken 12 hours apart, or as a single pill.<br />
• Taken up to 72 hours after intercourse.<br />
• May stop an egg being released from the ovary (ovulation) if taken in<br />
days before egg release.<br />
• May prevent a fertilised egg from settling in the womb after egg<br />
release (implantation).<br />
• This is an abortifacient action.<br />
• Over 90% effective if taken within hours of intercourse.<br />
• Level of effectiveness drops sharply the longer the time after<br />
intercourse that pill(s) are taken.<br />
• Offers no protection against STIs.<br />
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