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March 7, 2021

Ways To

Style Mint



Int’l Women’s

Day: When


Leadership Is

No Longer In


kemi And

Dolapo Shabi

#AFreeUnion Winners







4 Cover: Kemi And Dolapo

Shabi; #AFreeUnion Winners

6 Sexmatics: Handling Meddling

In-Laws (2)

8 Instagram Moments


It’s been several decades since

women took their destiny in their hands

to march against the systemic

inequalities they face on a daily basis.

This struggle, which has taken different

forms since 1848 when Elizabeth Cady

Stanton organised the Seneca Falls

Convention where she was the first to

call for women’s right to vote, simply

seeks equal rights and opportunities

and greater personal freedom for

women allover the world.

In 1995, the United Nations threw

its weight behind women’s agitation for

gender equality by hosting the largest gathering of women in

Beijing, China.

The efforts by the UN at advancing gender equality has led to

the world body arming women with two landmark documents to

fight; the Beijing Declaration and Platform for Action, and the

Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination

against Women, CEDAW.

The results are pouring in.This year alone, the United States

of America produced her first Female and first black Vice-

President, Kamala Harris, while Nigeria’s Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-

Iweala took her place as the first female, first black Director

General of the World Trade Organization, WTO.

As the world celebrates International Women’s Day, IWD,

tomorrow, a new challenge is thrown at them with the theme:

“Women in leadership: Achieving an equal future in a COVID-19

world.” Like many mountains women have surmounted, that

brought by the COVID-19 pandemic would not be an exception

as examples of women in leadership who are doing well in spite

of the pandemic, already abound.

While Josephine Agbonkhese, reports that men’s leadership

is no longer in vogue. Pg 7, read up other exciting stories on our

new column Billboard. Pg 8.

As we raise our glass to celebrate

all women, we especially congratulate

J . E

our cover bride, Kemi Shabi, and her

Jemi Ekunkunbor

hubby, Dolapo, winners of



Have a great week!




Fashion : Ways To Style Mint Green


Feature : Int’l Women’s Day: When

Patriarchal Leadership Is No Longer

In Vogue



“No man wanted me. Rapists

would tap me on the

shoulder and say ‘Seen any

girls?’.” - Joan Rivers

“They say men enjoy

shaving - it’s the one time

each day they get to look

in the mirror and say ‘Hey

there, you handsome devil’.”

- Helen Gurley Brown

“The freer that women

become, the freer will men

be. Because when you

enslave someone, you are


- Louise Nevelson

“Laziness may appear

attractive but work gives


- Anne Frank






Josephine Agbonkhese






07 MARCH 2021














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to Style


Mint Green Trend

by - Temitope Ojo

A softer shade of turquoise and green, mint fashion is

everywhere, from accessories to clothing and makeup to

nail polish. Flattering on almost all skin tones and a great

match with peach, white, black, beige and navy, just to

name a few; what’s not to love?

Consider these options on how to wear mint green.


Looking to change

up your work

attire? Try a mint

green shirt or

blouse. Pair it with

a tailored black

pencil skirt, black

pumps and simple

jewelry for an

understated, yet

chic, look.



For a fresh,

feminine look,

you need to try

a pair of mint

shorts. Cute,

simple and sweet,

mint green shorts

make for a great

look when paired

with a white top,

white sneakers or

sandals and gold

accessories. They

make a stunning

option for casual




Suitable for

casual weekend

outings, chic and

sophisticated work

outfits and almost

everything in

between, mint green

pants are as versatile

as they are stylish.

Pair your tailored

mint pants with a

white blouse or an

off-the-shoulder top

and pumps for a

look that’s suitable

for professional

settings. Or, if you’re

after something

more casual, try mint

jeans, a white singlet

and sneakers.


A mint dress will have heads turn.

This colour is a stunning look for a

night date. You can also choose this

shade for a feminine and romantic

bridesmaid look. To really stand out,

finish off your ensemble with rose

gold accessories.

linda ikeji

March 7, 2021 / 3


Kemi And Dolapo

Shabi: #AFreeUnion Winners

The couple

Words By - Funso Coker

On the 5th of February, just nine days to Valentine’s Day, Union Bank announced plans to bankroll #AFreeUnion,

encompassing an all-expenses-paid dream wedding for one lucky couple, and a breathtaking proposal for another

couple. The entire concept was organised in partnership with Africa’s top wedding blog – BellaNaija Weddings.

The task was simple: the winning couple had to submit a strong entry expressing their love for each other and stating

why they deserved the all-expenses-paid wedding. In addition, they also had to be ready to tie the knot on Valentine’s Day!

Out of almost 190 entries received in total, Dolapo Shabi and Kemi Amusan emerged winners of the free wedding,

while Chibuzor Obiora got to propose to his sweetheart, Notey Akpotive, at the exclusive luxury beach house, Sencillo!

With four days to go, Dolapo and Kemi were informed that they had been selected to receive #AFreeUnion, and then

the race began to give them the wedding of their dream, working with top wedding planners and vendors.

In this exclusive chat, the lucky newlyweds talk about the power of dreaming and how they received the freedom to live

their dreams, thanks to Union Bank and BellaNaija Weddings.


/ March 7, 2021

with their parents

Photography: Shutterwave

Make-Up: Bimpe Onakoya

Congratulations to you both on winning

#AFreeUnion, courtesy Union Bank and

BellaNaija Weddings! Would you please introduce


Kemi: Thank you very much. It all still feels like

a dream – but certainly a very nice one!! Up until the

14th of February, I was Miss Kemi Amusan; I’m now

Mrs. Kemi Shabi! I am a 28-year-old graduate of

Accounting from Yaba College of Technology. I now

work as a model and hairstylist.

Dolapo: I am Dolapo Shabi; Kemi’s husband. I

am a graduate of History and Strategic Studies from

the University of Lagos, but these days I earn a living

as a fashion designer and fashion entrepreneur.

We’d love to hear your love story. Tell us how you

met and was it love at first sight? How long have

you been dating?

Kemi: It all started on my birthday in August

2018. Dolapo sent me a DM on Instagram, wishing

me a happy birthday and asking me to connect with

him. I checked out his page, was impressed by what

I saw, and then I accepted his invitation to connect.

The next day, he sent me a message asking for my

phone number, and for the first time, I did not hesitate

to give out my number on Instagram. Oddly enough,

he didn’t call me until months later; in October to be

precise. But when he did, he made sure we met the

same day, and I’d say the journey began from there!

Dolapo: I loved what I saw when we met for the

first time. Her beauty struck me and I remember my

first thoughts were “Wow! She should be in Milan or

Paris modelling!” (another dream coming to life soon).

Kemi: On the very first day, we had a long

conversation about our careers and aspirations.

It wasn’t anything about love the first day; he just

seemed very mature and was very sweet, which

made us click immediately. We also realised we had a

lot of things in common. He, being a fashion designer

and a fashion entrepreneur, and me being a model

and a hairstylist made things interesting for us.

The same month was Lagos Fashion Week and

I invited him to the show as I was one of the models

that walked the runway. And that was where he asked

me to be his girlfriend. Of course, I had been waiting

for that question because I had been getting fond of

him since the first time we met.

Dolapo: Although she played hard to get for like a

month, we eventually became lovers and on the 1st

of January 2020, I proposed and asked her to spend

forever with me. It was a “YES” of course. A yes to

forever with the love of my life.

What was your idea of a dream wedding?

Kemi: We had always wanted an intimate but

classy wedding. We’ve never been keen on having a

large crowd. We just wanted to say our vows

and move to the reception for the party. That

pretty much summed up our idea of a dream


But I had big dreams about the venue

for the ceremony and the ambience I hoped

to have, though. I had fallen in love with

Monarch Events Centre since the first time

I saw it along the Lekki-Epe Expressway. I

had also seen lovely pictures of weddings

held at the Monarch – they all looked so


Also, as a vendor in the wedding

industry, I’ve been a big fan of TrendyBee

Event Planners for years. I’d secretly

wished she could plan my wedding,

even though I didn’t see how that could

happen. Then Bimpe Onakoya is my

dream makeup artist, she has worked

on me as a model several times and I’d

always wished she could make me up

for my big day.

I had all these tall dreams, but

they didn’t quite connect to the reality. They were just

dreams, which is why this has been an experience

of a lifetime! I got everything I had always wished for,

everything! All thanks to Union Bank and Bella Naija

Weddings for giving us our dream wedding for free!

Dolapo: I’ve always wanted her to have the

wedding of her dreams because I knew how much

our wedding would mean to her. I’m glad she got

everything she wanted with ease. I will be forever

grateful to Union Bank for making our dreams come


What motivated you to put in your entry for

#AFreeUnion and did you think you stood a

chance of winning?

Kemi: I saw the post on Union Bank’s Instagram

page and on BellaNaija Weddings page too. I just

knew anything that comes from these two brands

would be worth the while.

I told Dolapo about the opportunity to get

#AFreeUnion but his response was “No, that’s

ridiculous, how is it even possible to plan a wedding

in just four days?” I tried to convince him for three

whole days, but he didn’t budge, until a day before

the entries were to close. I told him that we stood a

chance to get a ‘yes’ only if we applied, and that if we


didn’t apply, it was a 100% ‘no’. That was when he

agreed to make the entry video with me.

All the while, I had been following updates on

#AFreeUnion on Instagram and was generally being

positive about it. In fact, while I was still trying to

convince him, Dolapo had asked what I wanted

for Valentine’s and I’d said “Oh! Do you mean our

wedding day?” He just shook his head at me. He just

didn’t see this happening!

There’s a common saying that ‘Luck happens

when preparation meets opportunity’; would you

say you were prepared for this opportunity? Did

you have wedding plans in the pipeline already?

Kemi: Yes, we were the lucky ones, but we were

ready for this because we were engaged already

and we’d had our family introduction ceremony in

December, so the next thing in line for us was a

wedding; even though we didn’t know how to go

about it at all, especially in these tough times.

Dolapo: Each time we tried discussing the

wedding topic, it just always seemed impossible.

We just didn’t know where to begin! But here we are

today, we got the wedding of our dreams without

paying a dime. Thanks to Union Bank and Bella Naija

Weddings, we got the freedom to live our dreams.

How did your family and friends react when

they heard you’d won this once-in-a lifetime

opportunity? And how did they react to hearing

your wedding was happening in 3 days?

Kemi: My parents did not believe me when I

called them over the phone to share the news with

them. My Dad kept saying, “Kemi, you mean your

wedding is in three days?!” And then he’d ask in

utter disbelief – “You mean we are not paying for

anything?!” They were so excited! It was a little easier

with Dolapo’s parents because we went to their house

to share the news with them in person. Their shouts of

joy and their prayers are still so fresh in our minds.

On a scale of 1 – 10, how did #AFreeUnion

experience align with the picture you had in mind

for your dream wedding? What was running

through your minds that day?

Kemi: I would rate this entire experience as an

11/10 if that is possible, because we got everything

we wanted and even more.

What did you take out from this entire


Dolapo: Your dreams are valid; don’t be scared

to dream because anything is truly possible if you


So, what’s next for you both as you build your

union? What other big plans are you dreaming

into existence?

Kemi: We are looking forward to having a happy

and fulfilled marriage, living our lives to the fullest, and

achieving all we want in our careers and from life in

general. We will be working more on our brands; I am

taking my hair brand to the next stage and looking out

for collaborations that can take me to the next level.

Dolapo: I also have plans to expand my fashion

business, to set up a factory and showroom and

increase my ability to do more. I am also open to

collaborations that will support my dreams.

If there’s one lesson we have learnt from this

entire experience, it’s to never stop believing! Just two

weeks ago, I was convinced I wanted to marry Kemi

the love of my life, but I had no idea how. And today

look at us!

Congratulations once again!! We wish you every

happiness as you begin your life together.

March 7, 2021 / 5


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etting healthy boundaries are the

foundations of any healthy

relationship and the core of your

self-respect. Let your significant

other know what terms/

boundaries you have and also give them the

space they need to make their own in return. At

the end of which, you both will clearly define

and enforce reasonable boundaries with your

respective relatives, rather than holding

grudges against them. Be honest with them in

a respectful, yet firm manner. Do not allow any

kind of behavior or habit that you don’t want to

live with for the rest of your marriage life to


While you can’t stop your parents from

trying to do what they want, calmly refusing to

go along with them is a choice you must make.

Refuse to be manipulated; the more you try to

change their mind or behavior, the more power

you give them in your life. They may test you to

see if you will back down by throwing tantrums,

hanging the phone on you, threatening you, or

storming out of your house. It is really important you

maintain your stand even if they feel offended by

your healthy behaviour. It’s okay to grieve their

choice, manage your hurt and move on.

Sometimes, the above things are done and there

will still be animosity between your spouse and your

parents. Learn to let go of that idea of one big

happy family, there is no need to choose between

them in order to have a happy married life.

Although your spouse may never want to

have anything to do with your family, you

can still be in contact with them, and it is

okay to visit them alone.

You will just have to adjust your

expectations about when and how you see

them, while protecting your marriage at the

same time. Drop your end of the rope and

stop trying to make everyone get along.

Don’t force the friendship. The two parties

can always change their position over time.

Get to be on the same team with your

spouse and know that you cannot change

your family’s behavior; only your response

to it. So, make sure to always give clear

and united response that supports your

marriage. Be careful about what is okay to

share about your marriage with your

parents since you know them better than

any other person. Be smart not to betray

your spouse’s confidence or vulnerability.

Always tell them about the positive aspects

of your spouse and marriage. Let their

relationship be as easy as possible.

Although not all in-laws are bad or

created the same, learn to spot the toxic

ones. The signs are not very easy

to spot; though they always

manifest in damaging ways. It is

only when the signs are spotted on

time that you can effectively put a

stop to it. So, try not to make a bad

situation in your marriage and limit

the effect before it tears your world


At the end of the day, accept

your man with all his flaws and

qualities; take it that his family may

never change. Try making things

better by finding solutions and

improve yourself. If all else fails,

move on.


PINK: Is associated with love and kindness. It also boosts creativity.

GREY: Brings comfort and warmth. Completely versatile. Timeless and

classic in lighter shades.

YELLOW: It captures the joy of sunshine and it communicates


BRIGHT WHITE: Brings calming effects. Makes the room feel more

open and spacious.

Beautiful Colour Scheme

Ideas For Your Bedroom

I will be the first to admit that waking up early and leaving a cozy

bed isn’t always fun, but creating a bedroom that’s energizing and

mood-boosting can make it a whole lot easier. Since colours and

light affect our mood, there’s a strong case for a colourful bedroom.

Whether you introduce these pops of colour with paint, bedding, or

artwork, you’ll find something to emulate in the examples below:

GREEN: Shade of green is fitting for the environment; it has a calming

effect and relieves stress.

BLUE: A soothing soft blue feels like a breath of fresh air when you walk

into a room. It lowers blood pressure.

PURPLE: Rich sophistication for darker purples. Relaxation for lighter


/ March 7, 2021

BLACK, as an edge: Best used in small doses as an accent. Grounds

your colour scheme and gives depth.

The above colours should be soft and calmer shades.




*Orange is a bright

colour of energy that

directly contradicts the

relaxing mood of your


*Pastel blue can

become unpleasantly

chilly on the walls,

especially in a room that

receives little natural


*Red in brighter

shades can be a bit too





Sahle-Work Zewde


Jacinda Ardern

(New Zealand)

Int’l Women’s Day:

When Patriarchal Leadership

Is No Longer In Vogue

By - Josephine Agbonkhese

Tomorrow, March 8,

2021, Nigeria will join

the rest of the world to

celebrate the annual

International Women’s

Day. A day set aside to celebrate

women and examine progress

made in specific spheres.

This year’s global theme,

“Women in Leadership:

Achieving an Equal Future in a

COVID-19 World,” celebrates the

tremendous efforts by women

and girls around the world in

shaping a more equal future,

and recovery from the COVID-19


Indeed, the exemplary

efforts of women at curtailing the

pandemic, as well as its effects

on livelihoods since its emergence, has been

nothing short of classic. Most spectacular is

the exemplary leadership style of women heads

of countries which, above everything, ridiculed

the perceived superiority or supremacy of male


Of all the countries reported and proven

to have done well in tackling the pandemic,

women-led countries came first even when the

US, Brazil, Russia, Mexico, UK, Spain, Italy

and others were still foundering. The unrivalled

truthfulness of Germany’s Angela Merkel, as well

as her transparent leadership style, for example,

prepared her people’s minds and, accordingly,

the effort resulted in the lowest of COVID-19

cases and death in the entire developed world,

for many months.




Sanna Marin


Mette Frederiksen


Heads of Government in Denmark (Mette

Frederiksen), Ethiopia (Sahle-Work Zewde),

Finland (Sanna Marin), Iceland (Katrín

Jakobsdóttir), New Zealand (Jacinda Ardern)

and Slovakia (Zuzana Čaputová) have also been

widely recognised for the rapidity, decisiveness

and effectiveness of their national response

to COVID-19, as well as the compassionate

communication of fact-based public health


Meanwhile, from the onset, the acclaimed

Giant of Africa was also confused as to how

best to tackle the pandemic. Recall Nigeria

did not institute border closure and mandatory

institutional quarantine and testing for international

returnees to the country, until much later— March

23, 2020, precisely. This is not to mention the

ignorance expressed by a state governor on the


existence of COVID-19, almost one year after

the virus entered Nigeria and in spite of the many

evidences and deaths recorded; thereby slowing

down decision-making as far as COVID-19 is

concerned in that state.

This, again, brings to bare the dire need for

more women leaders, in all facets of our national


Currently, women constitute a meagre 4.17

per cent of those elected into public office in

Nigeria. This is despite five national elections

that have been held in the country since 1999.

Yet, only a handful of women have ever held

public office and the figures have also continued

to decline.

In 2003, just three percent of people elected

to public office in 2003 were women. By 2007,

that figure increased to about seven per cent, but

declined in 2015 to 5.6 percent.

This is a strange state of affairs, given that

Nigeria is Africa’s most populous country and

elsewhere on the continent, significant gains

have been made in this area. For example,

four of the world’s top 10 countries in terms of

women’s political representation in parliament,

can be found in sub-Saharan Africa: Rwanda,

Seychelles, Senegal and South Africa.

The consequences of this imbalance,

however, can be clearly seen in all areas of our

national life— from security breakdown to lack of

transparency, indecisiveness in leadership, lack

of commitment to citizen’s welfare and foundering


This imbalance is most pronounced when

men are left to debate and legislate on matters

concerning the development and

livelihoods of women and girls.

A classical example was

when in March 2016, a

female senator for Ekiti South,

Abiodun Olujimi, presented a

bill— the Gender and Equal

Opportunity Bill— seeking

gender equality and women

empowerment, as well as the

protection of women’s

land rights, an end to

gender discrimination

in education and

employment, and an

end to gender-based


However, that

bill was thrown out

by a number of male

senators in 2016 and

again in 2018 on

religious and cultural

grounds. The same

Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala

bill was re-introduced in

2019 and though it scaled

second reading, only God

knows its fate.

The role of women in progressive decisionmaking

cannot be undermined. Even the world

recognises this and has embraced women-led

leadership. As we mark this year’s International

Women’s Day tomorrow, it is important to reflect

on how best to address the gender-imbalance in

leadership in Nigeria.

If the World Trade Organisation, WTO, could,

at a trying economic time such as this, entrust in

the hands of a woman its leadership, in person

of Nigeria’s Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, then we

too must discard, as a matter of urgency, our

patriarchal notion of leadership which has only

succeeded in robbing us of true progress since


March 7, 2021 / 7

FRSC Celebrates Women-in-Uniform

As the world celebrates excelling women around the

globe, in commemoration of 2021 UN International Women’s

Day, the Federal Road Safety Corps, Lagos State Command,

in partnership with #sisterART Global Visual Arts

Community, is set to host the maiden edition of WOMEN-IN-


Billed to hold tomorrow at the Adeyemi Bero Auditorium,

Alausa Secretariat, Lagos, wife of the Lagos State Governor,

Dr. Ibijoke Sanwo-Olu, will speak on this year’s theme

“Women in Leadership: Achieving an equal future in a

Covid-19 world,”

The event, according to Chairman of the Planning

Committee, Assistant Corps, Commander Emma Fekoya,

Unit Commander Ikeja Command, is put together

to acknowledge and appreciate the efforts of all the

women working with different Military and Paramilitary

organisations in Lagos.

Commending the women, she said,

“The gallant efforts of these women in keeping

their home-front together while serving in different

capacities in their various organizations especially in

this era of the pandemic cannot be overemphasized.”

Blessing Okagbare Makes

Guinness Book of Records

Nigeria’s track and field queen, Blessing

Okagbare, was recently inducted into the

Guinness Book of Records for the most

appearances in Diamond League meetings. For

the award-winning athlete who revealed this

on her Facebook page, this is a dream made a

reality through God’s grace and determination.

The certificate reads: “The most appearances

in Diamond League meetings by an athlete is

67 and was achieved by Blessing Okagbare

(Nigeria) between 3 July 2010 and 31 August

2018”. The certificate was branded ‘OFFICIALLY


Okagbare, who recently set two new personal

indoor records at the Doyle Sports Management

Meeting, won an Olympic silver medal at the

2008 Games as a 19-year-old in the Long Jump.

She has also won a World Championships

Silver, and is the current African record holder

in the 200m and in the 4x200m with the Nigerian


Stories by - Yemisi Suleiman

Tara Fela-Durotoye

Tara Fela-Durotoye and

Temi Giwa-Tunbosun make

LeadHERs List

As part of its celebration of International

Women’s Month, Facebook announced the

launch of LeadHERs: Life Lessons From

African Women, a collection of beautifully

inspired stories and life advice from 19

women who are breaking boundaries

in fields such as; media, entertainment,

politics, education and business.

Temi Giwa-Tunbosun

Among the women across Africa

whose stories are being told in

the book are two Nigerian women,

Tara Fela-Durotoye, CEO, House of

Tara International, and Temi Giwa-

Tunbosun, Founder/CEO, LifeBank,

a technology and logistics company

based in Lagos, set up to tackle the

problem of blood shortage in Nigeria.

The company now also operates in

Kenya and Ethiopia, has saved over

14,000 lives till date. These women,

among others, were selected for their

ground-breaking achievements in their

choosen fields.

Available for free in digital and

physical formats, the book provides

inspirational real-life stories for future

generations and young leaders is

aimed at encouraging, inspiring and

guiding the reader, no matter the

background, age or ambition.

Okonjo-Iweala breaks

the norm with her


The resumption of Nigeria’s former

Minister of Finance and the Economy,

Dr Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, last Monday,

as the new Director-General of the

World Trade Organisation, WTO,

resonated across the globe.

More significantly however, was

her outfit at her first day at work; she

ditched the formal skirt suit for the

traditional Ankara skirt and blouse

and her famous head tie, breaking the

norm of the formal dress code.

The 66-year-old who is the first

woman, and the first African, to

occupy the position, is fiercely patriotic

with her dress sense and is famous

for flaunting her African identity in her

African-print tailored outfits, no matter

the occasion; a divergence which

signals her fashion autonomy, which

has been accepted as her identity

world over.

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