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September 12, 2021
When To
Thrash That
Beauty
Product
Classic
Black
Jacket...
Cool Ways To
Style It Now
ELISHA ATTAI
A Voice For Women

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HAPPINESS
4 Cover: Elisha Attai; A Voice For
Women
6 Sexmatics: You Can Have Sex
Without Penetration
CELEBRATION
3
7
Fashion : Classic Black Jacket... Cool
Ways To Style It Now
Beauty : When To Thrash That Beauty
Product
12 SEPTEMBER 2021
8 Instagram Moments
WELCOME...
Three female celebrities, last week, set
social ablaze for all the wrong reasons.
First, was the viral video of Tega
Dominic, a married woman whose alleged
escapade with Boma Akpore in the
BBNaija reality show, and their eventual
eviction, caused no small stir. The show of
shame by both housemates is still a huge
subject of debate even as angry fans lace
Boma with death threats. Time will tell if
Tega will truly heal from the nightmare she
created.
Next, was Annie Idibia, who took to
social media to cry out against alleged
maltreatment from her husband’s family, as well as her husband’s
unfaithfulness with one of his baby mamas. Fans became online
in-laws and family, and their divided comments for and against,
helped to agrravate a matter that should never have been taken to
the social media in the first place.
The case was not different with actress, Tonto Dikeh, whose
relationship with Prince Kpokpogiri crashed after a leaked audio in
which he was overheard bad-mouthing Tonto Dikeh.
In all of three issues above, even though it involved men, the
women ended up bearing the brunt and the venom of vicious fans
who left the embattled celebrities worse off.
Against this background, it is gladdening to see a man working
for the good and upliftment of women. Dr. Elisha Attai, President/
Founder of the African Women in Leadership Organisation, AWLO,
has spent the last 13 years creating leadership opportunities for
women at all levels. Indeed, men like him are scarce. While some
are pulling other women down, Dr. Elisha Attai, is lifting women up
and doing it unabashed!
On our cover today, he shares with our reporter, Josephine
Agbonkhese, on the phenomenal work he is doing with and for
women. Pg 4-5.
The social media is still ablaze.
Yemisi Suleiman serves hot news that J . E
made it to the Billboard. Pg. 8.
Enjoy our serve this Sunday and
have a great week.
Jemi Ekunkunbor
lookposh2017@gmail.com
08052201126
Quotes
“If you want something
said, ask a man; if you
want something done,
ask a woman”.
- Margaret Thatcher
“A woman is like a tea
bag - you can’t tell how
strong she is until you
put her in hot water”.
- Eleanor Roosevelt
“I don’t know who
invented high heels, but
all women owe him a
lot”.
- Marilyn Monroe
“Women are made to be
loved, not understood”.
- Oscar Wilde
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Classic Black
FASHION
Jacket...
4
Cool ways to
style it now
By - Yemisi Suleiman
Trends come and go, but classics are here
to stay. A wardrobe staple like a black blazer
is as versatile as it gets and easy to wear
all-year-round, over practically everything.
The versatile black blazer is one closet
essential that every woman should invest in.
Be it feminine and cropped, or long and
tuxedo-inspired, the blazer’s wearability
factor cannot be overemphasized.
Wearing a blazer the right way starts with
choosing the cut that fits your figure
perfectly. Pair it with a jumpsuit, your
favourite pair of jeans, or layered over a
feminine dress, it’s a game-changer always.
Here are cool ways to style a classic black
jacket.
Pair the
jumpsuit with
a blazer
Even though the
strapless jumpsuit
could stand alone,
you can easily add a
blazer to give it some
personality. Again, if
you’ve never worn a
jumpsuit before, adding
a blazer will make you
feel more comfortable
than without. When
selecting a blazer or
jacket, go with one that
enhances the jumpsuit
and goes with the
occasion.
This outfit could work
for a cocktail party,
formal evening dinner,
or dinner with friends.
Wear with
fitted jeans
Tuck your spaghetti strap
top or graphic tee-shirt into
a pair of casual jeans and
throw on your black blazer
for an effortlessly, elevated
look, perfect for any informal
setting.
Crisp buttondown
shirt
With metallic pants
Step out looking sleek and sharp while
wearing your metallic pants, a black or
white sleek bustier and a black blazer. It
doesn’t matter what colour of pants you
choose; golden, silver or bronze, this
combination is classic, simple and chic
for a night out.
Look professional and
put-together for a business
meeting or office-look with
your blazer, paired with
a crisp button-down shirt
(it can be in any colour)
tailored pants, and black
or nude pumps. Small
elegant jewelry can also
add a personal touch
without going overboard.
September 12, 2021 / 3

INTERVIEW
Elisha Attai:
A Voice For Women
Words By - Josephine Agbonkhese
Dr. Elisha Attai is one of the scarce men who believe women deserve more leadership opportunities
at all levels, and are working really hard to see that happen.
In the last 13 years, the President/Founder of the African Women in Leadership Organisation,
AWLO, and the initiator/organiser of the famed African Women in Leadership Conference, AWLC, a
global movement of women of African descent changing the narratives of leadership in the world, has
pursued this cause unapologetically.
Attai holds Master’s degrees in Public Administration and Music Technology with several years experience
in public relations, music management, brand and business development/consultancy. He is the Managing
Director/CEO of Studio 115 Integrated Services; a communication, media/public relations and brand
development consultancy services company.
In this interview with Allure, he speaks on his work at AWLO, childhood, style, and more.
It’s been 13 years of leading AWLO; how has
this affected the lives of women?
It’s been amazing. However, the last one year
has been a hard year; dealing with a pandemic,
and women taking the hardest hit. From job
losses, to increased domestic workload, and
gender- based violence. Last year eroded 25
years of gender equality victories. This taught us
something— we are dealing with deep-rooted
issues. So, my team and I began a wave of
webinars. We got bright female minds in
leadership for members to draw inspiration from,
we tackled the deep-rooted causes of gender
inequality, and we resolved ways to increase
women’s participation across board; something
the pandemic brought to light. So, yes; it’s been
many years of driving women’s leadership but we
have been more strategic in the past one year.
Why women?
Why not women? The world has failed women
and girls. The double standards have set in motion
systemic barriers for women. We must undo this.
When did you discover your concern and
passion for women?
It was a profound and humbling experience
when I realised that women didn’t have it easy;
and just being a man gave me a privilege.
I sat in a boardroom across other men and one
woman, where another woman’s competence was
being questioned and her promotion withdrawn (in
her absence). But really, what came into question
was her personal life and not her capabilities. It hit
me that women were judged by unfair standards,
that cause lack of women’s representation and
participation. This was my ‘aha’ moment.
Can you recall your first experience gathering
women together?
My first experience was actually humbling, I must
confess. We had our first event in 2009 in Accra,
Ghana. We engaged top tier leaders of the African
communities via that particular conference, and had
them pledge for excellent leadership to their
constituents; which has recorded considerable
impact since then.
Not many people believe so much in having
women in political leadership positions. How
does this affect your efforts?
I like to look at the bright side instead. Every year,
we gather thousands of women across the globe to
make them see that women’s representation in
leadership is possible. We promote dialogue and
consultations, we shape policymaking, and, most
importantly, we show to women that ‘they just have to
be on their own side’ by strengthening female
networks. Everything else does not matter.
Experts have argued that agitation for women
empowerment and representation in governance
can most effectively be achieved if organisations
such as yours include men in their membership
database. Have you considered this in practice?
We have a growing database of AWLO HeforShe
Community. According to the originators of the global
mission of the HeforShe Movement, “HeForShe is an
invitation for men and people of all genders to
stand-in solidarity with women, to create a bold,
visible, and united force for gender equality. The men
of HeForShe aren’t on the sidelines. They’re working
with women and with each other to build businesses,
raise families, and give back to their communities.”
Therefore, the AWLO HeforShe Community is to
reinforce the goals of the global HeforShe
Movement, and for every one of us to pledge to
gender parity. We are doing a lot to shape new
perspectives on gender development and harness
the leadership potential of women.
The first AWLO Heforshe Africa Summit held in
2019 with the theme “A Pledge to Gender Parity”.
We are currently working on the second edition.
This summit is always a point of engagement for
men to achieve resolutions and action plans, thereby
intentionally forge enabling societies where women
can access equal rights and opportunities in all areas
of existence.
AWLO began generating sign ups for the UN
HeforShe Movement in 2017 and so far, we have
generated over 500 sign-ups.
What precisely has the organisation been doing
over the years in pursuance of its goals?
In pursuance of goals, we have been pursuing
our flagship programmes which are annual African
Women in Leadership Conferences, and other
high-level meetings. The goal is for facilitating
policymaking, dialogue and learnings to increase
women’s participation in leadership.
Additionally, we are a membership-driven
organisation; we do this to radically engage women
towards the realisation of their leadership potential.
What has it been like leading such an
organisation in a pandemic?
It has been more of an empathetic experience,
because we have felt, firsthand, that this pandemic
has affected women the most. For instance, many of
our members are first responders. Like I shared
before, we have found many ways to respond to the
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INTERVIEW
needs of our members in this peculiar times
How do you still manage to stage your
numerous international and local
conferences without breaking rules?
We have had to cancel numerous
conferences as a result of the pandemic. We
were mostly hosting digital meetings except for
about three physical events in the last one year
that were strictly in accordance with the
COVID-19 protocol.
Other countries appear to be ahead of
Nigeria in adequately including women in
the leadership table...
I would say that it starts with you and I,
raising women in leadership— at home, in
school, religious places, etc. That means
practicing the inclusion of women and girls in
decision-making in everyday life, and not just
based on quota systems. And also, like you
said, learn how other countries are able to put
this in place, and put it into practice.
From your observation, what hinders women
in politics when more women are becoming
high fliers in the private sector?
Women face a lot of barriers in politics
irrespective of their competence. I believe these
barriers arise from social norms that discriminate
against their participation in politics. One of
these barriers is occupational job divides based
on gender. I believe that women have come to
shatter this same glass ceiling in the private
sector.
What was growing up like?
I grew up in a disciplined family with a solid
Christian background, being the first child of a
pastor, which effectively prepared me for today.
I saw it always when I’m being interviewed,
that the influence of my loving mother
moulded, and is still moulding me positively;
which has made me to be so passionate about
the ability of women.
What takes your time when you’re not
working?
Music. I play my bass guitar to relax
myself. Such a beautiful feeling when
I’m playing. I have my combo and
guitar both at home, and in the
office.
What’s style to you?
Hey! Style? Being
me and comfortable.
Your number one
holiday destination
will be where?
Akwa Ibom State; a
peaceful destination,
good foods, the most
hospitable people on earth.
A destination that has
everything to make you relax
with your family. A unique
airline, beautiful hotels, with
beautiful culture and people.
Briefly tell us about the structure of AWLO ...
AWLO is a global non-profit organisation in
15 countries including the USA and UK. We are
a membership-driven organisation organised in
chapters across the countries where we have
presence.
By the way, how does your spouse digest
the fact that you have to keep plenty of
women around you as leader of an allwomen
organisation?
I have a supportive spouse who has grown
with me on this journey. She has come to
support me, and identify with the same ideology
of advancing women’s status. This is her baby
too.
How do you combine the burden of leading
such an organisation with your professional
career?
I have had a media career, Public Relations
and incidentally, entertainment and hospitality at
some point. I wouldn’t say that the pace at which
I pursued them in earlier years is the same.
AWLO is a huge commitment.
However, I am still a member of professional
bodies. For instance, I am the Country
Chairman for International Hospitality Institute,
and I am involved in a few productions and
projects as a member of the International
Congress and Convention Association, ICCA. I
also lead the public image of my Rotary Club. I
do have a lot going on, on the side.
What do you do when important
engagements clash between both duties?
It’s never easy but AWLO is a lifelong dream
that has got the best of me. The good news is
that I’m blessed with some dedicated, smart,
and intelligent team on both side; this makes
things a little organised for me.
Every year, we
gather
thousands of
women across
the globe to
make them see
that women’s
representation
in leadership is
possible.
September 12, 2021 / 5

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YOU CAN HAVE SEX
WITHOUT PENETRATION
number of reasons exist why lovers
A
want to have sex without penetration.
This could happen when a couple is
recovering from an infection, out of
condoms, or practicing fertility
awareness and it’s a fertile day. It
could also happen when penetration just does not
feel good for you or hurts. The list is endless.
Let’s normalise non-penetrative sex because
not only is it part of a healthy and incredibly
satisfying sexual experience, it can help us focus
on stimulating, often, neglected areas of our
bodies.
The ability to just focus on pleasure without the
goal of penetration, reminds us that insertion and
orgasm do not need to go hand-in-hand. Mixing
things up is important and keeping penetration off
the menu is one way to challenge yourself, to
explore other forms of sexual pleasure.
Here are some super-hot sexy things
you can indulge in that have nothing to
with penetration.
Dry humping / grinding - is basically
rubbing up on your spouse’ body with or without
clothes on and can be genital-to-genital rubbing or
rubbing against your partner’s leg. If you have not
indulged in this since your early days of sexual
exploration, it’s time to gain back all that you have
missed out on.
Try sex toys - not all toys are designed for
insertion. Toys such as wand-style vibrators, feather
and suction toys are great on the clitoris/ penis/nipples.
Mutual masturbation - masturbating side by
side with your partner may sound awkward; that’s if
you’ve never tried it before now. But it doesn’t have to
be as it can be a huge a turn-on to
watch your partner applying their own
expert touch, plus, you might just pick
up a few tips about what they like and
how they like it. This is also a great
way to practise safer sex since it
doesn’t involve skin-to-skin contact
and no fluids are being exchanged.
Note that if semen mistakenly gets
inside your vagina, you can get
pregnant even if there was no
penetration.
Make use of hands only - switch up
the mutual masturbation by enjoying each
other’s touch. There’s plenty to do with hands
that doesn’t involve penetration, and
remember your lubricant. Explore nipple
stimulation and other types of sensation, play
with your hands (hands are actually your best
sex tools).
Oral - this can be great foreplay and
does not have to be the opening act although
it can be the star of the show. Keep in mind
that you can’t get pregnant from oral sex, but
you could get an STI.
Hot make out - oftentimes, when
penetration is the end game, stuffs like kissing
get rushed or overlooked; forgetting that there
are other erogenous zones all over your body.
So, a slow exploration of your lover’s hot spots
can be incredibly sexy and can be the sex
itself.
Going off penetration for a while is not
really a bad idea. It encourages you to
communicate, articulate what works for you
and what doesn’t, and to enjoy sex in new
ways- the same way it’s not all about insertion,
it is also not all about genitals.
Give it a try and see if it works for you and
your spouse.
Best of luck!
Update Your Dinnerware
Your dinnerware is probably
visible in your kitchen at any
given time. If you’d like to refresh
the colour in your kitchen,
updating your dinnerware to a
more colourful set, is an easy fix.
Tricky ways to add
colours to your kitchen
Our kitchens are also known as the heart of the home, the center of daily
activities. When you spend a lot of time in a room, it’s easy to overlook the
colours and decor that were so carefully chosen when you first decorated.
You’re starting to notice that the kitchen looks a little tired, but you’re not
ready to tackle a major kitchen remodel just yet. How about a colour
makeover? By adding just a few colour elements to your kitchen, you can
skip the big renovation and fall in love with it all over again.
Add Paint Colour in Unexpected
Places
There is no doubt that painting a room will
refresh it. What if you painted an unexpected
kitchen surface? Kitchen island sides,
backsplashes, or even ceilings might benefit
from a new paint colour.
Add an Adjacent Accent
Wall Colour
Kitchens can present a paint
colour challenge. With walls of
cabinets, appliances, and open
spaces, it can be hard to add an
accent colour. An easy and
stylish way to add an accent wall
colour in the kitchen is to add
the accent wall outside the
kitchen. It could be the walkway
that leads to the kitchen, or the
wall opposite the kitchen.
Add Painted Furniture
One of the most charming ways
to add colour to a kitchen is to
add painted furniture. A chair or
cabinet, added to the kitchen
can personalize the space.
When you use painted furniture,
it adds even more character with
a pop of colour.
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/ September 12, 2021

When
BEAUTY
to
thrash
That Beauty
Product
by - Josephine Agbonkhese
We totally understand you want that favourite lipstick,
mascara or powder on which you invested so much money to
serve a very long, long time. But do you know keeping old
products past their prime can expose you to harmful toxins,
causing serious health problems as a result?
Find here, a comprehensive guide on when to thrash and
replace your beauty products— from powder to concealer,
mascara to lipstick and brush.
Foundation and Concealer
The lifecycle of your foundation or concealer will
depend on its ingredients. Water-based will last up to
12 months while oil-based foundations can survive 18
months due to the preservative nature of oil.
When to thrash:
It’s time to throw out your liquid concealer if it
separates, appears oily, and/or smells rancid.
Also, if oil rises to the top and consistency thickens,
resulting in an uneven, streaky and inconsistent finish,
then it must go to the bin.
Blusher, bronzer and Face powder
Yes, make-up expiry dates apply to powder and the
recommended time to keep it is 18 months. Powder
products don’t contain water, so it’s harder to make
bacteria grow.
When to thrash:
The moment you begin noticing a hard rim on your
powder. This is due to minerals in your blush, bronzer
or powder mixing with oils from your skin overtime.
This is the oil which clings to the bristles of your brush
and transfer to your products during application.
Makeup brushes
Natural hair brushes—the ones you use for powdered
products—can last almost a lifetime, if taken care of.
Wash them once a week with gentle soap and warm
water. Synthetic brushes, used for creams, last only
about a year and need to be cleaned at least twice a
week with an alcohol-based cleaner.
When to thrash:
Trash once they start shedding, become rigid, or stop
applying colour evenly.
Eyeliner
Eyeliners can last anywhere from three months to
three years, depending on formula.
Even the most expensive liquid eyeliner in the world
will have the same bacteria-prone formula and
packaging as mascara; whereas a pencil eyeliner will
have greater lasting power because as you sharpen
them, you remove bacteria that you pick up from
using it on your eyes.
When to thrash:
If a white film that can’t be sharpened off develops on
your eyeliner, replace it with a brand new one.
Mascara
Wet environments such as mascaras harbour bacteria.
So, consider thrashing every three months if you
use it daily, or every six months if used occasionally.
Also, bacteria which naturally exist on our eyelashes,
transfer germs from our eyes to our wands and into
the mascara tube.
When to thrash:
If it smells funky, then it’s gone bad. But the best tip is
to thrash it after three to six months. This is safer for
you in the long run even though it might appear tough.
Lipstick and lipgloss
Lipstick doesn’t hold much bacteria, so it can last
between 12 –18 months. Although lipstick and gloss
are packed with preservatives such as parabens,
essential oils and vitamins to ward off germs, these
naturally start to break down after a year.
When to thrash:
No matter how much money you’ve invested in them,
please trash as soon as you notice any beading of
moisture, funky smells or chalky texture.
September 12, 2021 /
7

Stories by - Yemisi Suleiman
FLORRET EWEKA WINS MOST
BEAUTIFUL FACE IN NIGERIA
Princess Florret Eweka, 19, from Edo
State, has defeated other contestants to
emerge 2021 Most Beautiful Face in Nigeria.
She was gifted a brand new Car and will be
representing Nigeria at Miss Tourism World
Finals in China.
Florret Eweka who is a princess from the
Palace of the Benin Kingdom, is also a Medical
Laboratory Science student of the University of
Benin.
According to the CEO of Zanzy
Entertainment, organizer of Most Beautiful
Face in Nigeria pageant and owners of Mr.
Tourism Nigeria, Chuks Anusionwu, the
MBFN Pageant is all about building and
giving young girls the voice to become role
models to the Nigerian girl child.
With her win, Florret Eweka is set
to launch her pet project soon which is
targeted at STREET CHILDREN in Edo
State, before spreading to other Geopolitical
zones in the country.
Tuface reacts to Annie’s messy
fight
Nigerian singer, Innocent Idibia, popular known as Tuface,
has finally reacted to his wife, Annie Idibia calling him out for
sleeping with first Babymama, Pero and her messy fight with
his family.
The actress, her family members and her husband’s
siblings had a messy exchange of words on social media
after Annie claimed that the Idibia family never loved her.
In a more recent development, Annie was heard in
a leaked phone call recording that she would “scatter
everything” because her husband had travelled out of the
country without her knowledge, seemingly to be with Pero.
Annie who was heard screaming and crying in the audio,
said, her husband told her he had a shoot, only for her to
discover that he had travelled to the US with the help of his
cousin and manager.
Tuface in a swift reaction, urged both families to call a truce
and pleaded with the public to respect his family’s privacy and
that of his kids.
“I admit that bringing our personal issues on social media
was not cool but i will not sit back and watch everybody have
a free for all battle here in the name of love or solidarity. None
of us is perfect. I will like to urge our families and supporters
to stop the madness and the public to please respect our
privacy and our kids, let us deal with our issues internally. I
take god beg una” he wrote on his social media handle.
Tega Dominic and Boma Akpore: Tale of Two hOUSEMATES
Evicted Big Brother Naija ‘Shine Ya Eye’
housemates, Tega Dominic and Boma Akpore
alleged amorous affair which took housemates and
viewers by surprise, has continued to dominate
social media as the hottest topic all week.
While still in the house, the duo set tongues
wagging with a video that went viral, which featured
Tega the married mother of one, kissing fellow
housemate, Boma while in bed. Tega and Boma
were also seen intimately and passionately kissing
during the lights out. There were visible hand
movements as Tega slid into the duvet. And on
Saturday, Boma and Tega were the lucky ones to get
into the executive lounge where they spent ‘quality
time’ kissing to the utter dismay of viewers.
Though both parties have come out to apologize
to their fans and families, few days after their
eviction, and taken full responsibility for their actions
while in the house, some Nigerians still do not
believe Tega was remorseful, describing her tears in
the video as fake.
The annoyance of viewers stems from the fact
that Tega who is the first married woman on the
Big Brother Naija show, did not properly represent
the marriage institution, especially coming from a
society that glorifies marriage and applauds fidelity.
To fans, it is downright disappointing that she got
this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity and messed it
up all in the name of ‘content’ like she claimed. Her
actions fans felt, may have successfully blocked the
chances of other married women who desire to go
for BBN.
Like other Ex BB Naija married men Mike and
Niyi who carried themselves with grace and were
applauded for their comportment and respect for
marriage, no doubt, Tega would have been a true
queen and received lots of accolades if she had
respected herself and marriage on the show.
The good news however, is that, even in the
midsts of all the brouhaha, Tega and her husband
are reunited as seen in a viral video where the
couple hugged and kissed passionately with cheers
from onlookers.
Boma on the other hand, claimed to have
received death threats from perceived fans of Tega
and her husband even though he has apologized
for his actions.
With recent twists and turns in events with these
two Ex housemates, time will tell what will become
of their career and family life.
As for Big Brother Naija, maybe it’s about time
organizers consider if married candidates be
admitted into the house.