allure 16012022

INTERVIEW
With the obvious economic hardship being faced in
the country and youth population greatly affected by
the lack of job opportunities, how can their stress
level be lowered so they can have peace?
The number one major stressor for many youths is
social media! It’s no longer keeping up with the Joneses,
it’s now keeping up with social media trends.
When I finished Law School, my first legal job as a
litigation lawyer paid twenty five thousand naira (N25,
000). I wasn’t thinking about the latest clothes and the
weaves. I lived at my level. I wasn’t under any pressure
to compete with anybody. What I sought after was how
to improve myself and my skills, and before long, I was
able to earn much more than where I started from. It will
shock you that there are a lot of opportunities out there
but we do not have many skilled youths qualified for the
positions.
I will say to that youth out there, learn an immediate
skill that can earn you money like, digital skills,
photography, editing etc while also working on the skills
you need to qualify you for your dream job.
How can parents play their roles better in the home?
Up until the ‘80s and ‘90s, traditionally in Nigeria, the
father goes to work and the mother gets a job that allows
her close early or she may even be a stay-at-home
mum. Things have radically changed from there to
having both parents busy making money so that the
family can have a good life.
When parents know their roles in the family and see
themselves working as a team, then they will do all in
their power to ensure that everyone on that team
succeeds. When a man and a woman realise that they
need to support each other and work together to nurture
their children, then they have succeeded in their
parenting roles.
specific and desired outcomes. It is a set of models,
skills, and techniques for thinking and acting effectively
in the world.
When a client comes to me as an integrative coach,
where necessary, I deploy NLP techniques.
For example, a person who wants to set a health
and vitality goal but has sugar cravings, until the sugar
cravings are dealt with, the health and vitality goal will
not be accomplished. I will deploy some NLP
techniques to help the client overcome the sugar
carvings then we can go ahead to set goals.
What can the government do to support children
with special needs?
The government can do a lot but let’s start with the
basics. Therapy and rehabilitation centres can be
decentralised to the health centres in local
communities. Financial support for indigent families
who have children with disabilities will go a long way.
Education of the public about people with disabilities so
that people living with disabilities are accepted and not
demonised in the community.
Where there is a child with special needs in the
family, women often bear the burden of nurturing
and parenting. What should be the role of each
parent in the life of that child?
I believe strongly that the parents should work
together as a team and when one is emotionally low, the
other can encourage the partner. Just like how you
nurture your neuro typical children, parents should also
learn to do the same for children living with special
needs.
As a parent with a special need child, share with us
your coping mechanism.
I often tell people that I am not a super woman, what
I have is a great support system. My husband supports
me greatly and together, we ensure that we have the
right caregivers and therapist to work with our child per
time. This enables both of us to have time for ourselves
and do other things.
As a neuro-linguistics therapist, what kinds of
people come for your services?
NLP- Neuro Linguistics Programming is about how to
use the language of the mind to consistently achieve our
The joy of
seeing my
clients
achieve their
goals is
phenomenon.
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