WAGS_REDEFINED_MOTHERHOOD_ISSUE

How to Keep

the Spark Alive

After Kids

MY

BABIES

SAV ED

MY LIFE!

Issue 02

SPRING 2017

The Ultimate Guide For Wives And Girlfriends Of Pro Athletes

NAJA

COWAN

+ QUIANA

FLUELLEN

Share the joys of

pregnancy,

motherhood and

The Super Bowl

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Moms are the Game Changers

in their families.

We as an organization provide much needed help behind the scenes

with prayer and counsel for WAGS and Pro Athlete Families

@GameChangers180

GameChangers180.com

Editor’s Note

PHOTO: KELLY LANE

Our cover features first time

mom, Naja Cowan, and mom

of two girls, Quiana Fluellen.

Motherhood is universal, and yet still,

there are certain happenings unique to the

community interwoven by sports, like the

fact that “in season” for professional athlete

families often means a woman taking on

the role of a single parent. How about the

fact that our kids may learn to say “No

pictures!” to the paparazzi before the age of

three? North West had the right idea. We

are talking to WAGS across various leagues

about all things pregnancy and motherhood.

We discuss the highs of this lifestyle (see

Super Bowl interviews with Patriots WAGS)

and the tougher experiences that never

discriminate based on socioeconomic status

(See My Babies Saved My Life and Infertility:

A Non-Traditional Journey to Motherhood).

We hear from Dr. Gathing, a board certified

psychiatrist who offers advice to the modern

day wife and mother. We reveal the results

of our Ask the WAGS motherhood survey and

touch upon the realities of childbearing.

WOMAN to WOMAN.

MOM to MOM.

I

have so much more respect for women after becoming a mom.

While motherhood is one of life’s greatest gifts, it also stretches

you beyond belief. I never imagined that my son (now 8 months)

could alter my entire schedule by having “a bad day”. If I’m being

honest, it’s challenged my marriage—date nights have become party

of three dinners. Mommy’ing can be tough, especially with all the

judgments and expectations that bombard us from the moment we

announce our pregnancy until our kids are well into adulthood.

Look at The Motherhood Issue as a chance for us to connect and

share in our similarities, not to compare in a way that is detrimental

to our own self-love.

Our cover features first time mom, Naja

Cowan, and mom of two girls, Quiana

Fluellen. We had so much fun at this photo

shoot, a reminder that good fellowship

and support of other women is alive and

necessary in our community. Thank you to

all the inspiring mommies and mommiesto-be

who contributed. You never know, your

testimony or advice could be exactly what

another woman needs to read. This issue

leaves me feeling equipped, empowered and

encouraged—grateful to be a mom, proud to

be a woman.

-LeShonda Martin

Editor-in-Chief

@LELE_PG

LESHONDA@WAGSREDEFINED.COM


Table of Contents

the MOTHERHOOD issue

Inside Every Issue

03 Editor’s Note

08 Our Contributors

12 Featured WAGS

54 WAGS Social Media

On The Cover

24 Airport Travel with Baby: A Mompreneur’s Essentials by LeShonda Martin

30 Mommy Makeover by Nicole Camak

48 ASK THE WAGS Survey Results

60 My Babies Saved My Life

68 Naja Cowan and Quiana Fluellen share joys of pregnancy, motherhood

and the Super Bowl

84 Introducing Solids to Baby by Marissa Allen

86 Infertility: A Nontraditional Journey to Motherhood by Tenisha

Patterson-Brown

88 Keeping the Spark Alive After Kids by Yesenia Burton

Opinion

06 Editor’s Picks: Baby’s First Year

17 Labor and Delivery Bag by Jasmine Whittaker

47 Sleep Training

Travel

24 Airport Travel with Baby: A Mompreneur’s Essentials by LeShonda Martin

76 My Babymoon Experience: Savannah by Jessica Johnson

78 My Babymoon Experience: Santa Barbara by Natalie Hills

Health & Beauty

29 Refueling Your Tank: How to End the “All Care, No Play” Cycle by Ayo

Gathing, MD

30 Mommy Makeover by Nicole Camak

PHOTO: KELLY LANE

Featured WAGS

12 McKenzie Caldwell-Pope

20 Kristen Rorie

26 Amber Coker

56 Chanel Smith

64 Danielle Forte

72 Naja Cowan (COVER)

40 Working Out Through Pregnancy and Beyond: Trainer Spotlight by

LeShonda Martin

80 How to Rock Your Mama Stripes with Confidence by Kristel David

Recipes

63 Mommy Meals: Chicken Pot Pie by Marissa Allen

32 Siggi Bennett

74 Quiana Fluellen (COVER)

84 Introducing Solids to Baby by Marissa Allen

44 Yasmin Jenkins

COVER CREDITS: Featuring Naja Cowan, 22 weeks

pregnant and Quiana Fluellen, 39 weeks pregnant.

Art Direction by LeShonda Martin. Photography by Kelly

Lane. Styling by Urcia Pearson. Hair by Sharonda Mack.

Makeup By Paisli B.

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he first year of a baby’s life is a doozy. He or she is rapidly growing and developing,

and us mommies are constantly bombarded with information on the best practices

and products for our little tot(s)! My son is approaching his first birthday, and these

were some of my favorite products for this stage. Items were considered based on

quality, frequency of use, and baby’s level of enjoyment!

1. $ JUMPERS AND WALKERS: Here are a few with

fabulous reviews: Fisher-Price Rainforest Jumperoo, Evenflo

ExerSaucer Jump and Learn, Joovy Spoon Walker. My son

loves them! ($75-$125 each, Amazon.com)

2. $$$ POTTERY BARN KIDS ROCKER/GLIDER: You’ll

want to invest in a quality rocker for your child, especially if

you plan on breastfeeding. This is another heirloom piece

that can grow with your kiddos and still be used for story

time later on. I have the Grand Comfort Swivel Rocker and

it was worth the extra expense. The plush chair is plenty

comfortable but also glides and swivels 360 degrees. The

oversized arms are perfect for nursing and the removable

slipcover is washable! ($900+, potterybarnkids.com)

3. $ FISHER PRICE DELUXE NEWBORN AUTO ROCK

‘N PLAY SLEEPER: This was a baby shower gift from a

fellow WAG who said it was the only thing her son would

sleep in. My son preferred this over his Mamaroo swing

and another Rock ‘n Play model. This particular model has

over a thousand 5-star reviews, complete with two rocking

speeds, music, sounds and vibration. It. Is. Awesome! ($100,

fisher-price.mattel.com)

4. $ FUJI INSTAX CAMERA: Buy a polaroid camera to

capture all the precious moments with a vintage flair. Don’t

forget to add the dates!

5. $ BOPPY NEWBORN LOUNGER: Says 0-3 months but

we used it well until 6 months to prop my son up at his

activity gyms. ($30-$50, Amazon.com)

6. $ MILK SNOB COVER: This trendy cover is a modern

and stylish take on the blanket. It stretches to fit over an

infant car seat, shopping cart, and can be used as a nursing

cover. ($36, milksnob.com)

7. $$$ BLOOM FRESCO CHROME HIGHCHAIR: This sleek

and modern high chair can be used from newborn to 3

years and matches your home décor without looking babyish.

The 3 position recline system and height adjustment

are an added bonus, making the higher price tag a bit more

reasonable. My husband and I both love this chair and have

used it a ton! You can customize the base and seat insert on

Bloom’s website ($550 - $750+, usa.bloombaby.com)

8. $ MUNCHKIN TRAVEL TUB: Great for that in between

stage when baby has outgrown the newborn tubs and is

beginning to sit up, but is too small for the big tub. Inflates in

minutes and can be packed in a suitcase! ($10, Amazon.com)

9. $$ THE LAND OF NOD WEE WORKOUT ACTIVITY

GYM: I purchased the acrylic one for my son’s nursery

because of its modern, sleek design and it kept him

entertained for months! ($157 for gym and rattles,

landofnod.com)

10. $ NATURAL SKINCARE: Honest Co. Bath Time gift set

($49.99, buybuybaby.com) and BeautyCounter Baby Bundle

Collection ($54, beautycounter.com) are both great buys!

11. $ MEDELA HARMONY MANUAL BREAST PUMP:

This worked better for me than the fancy double electric

breast pump. Added bonus: Fits in a medium-sized purse

so it’s perfect for travel! ($23.99, Amazon.com)

12. $$ BABYBJORN TRAVEL CRIB LIGHT ($198,

TARGET): This crib is perfect for sleep or play and weighs

an impressive 13 lbs. It’s perfect for travel—easy to set up,

fold up, and move! Can be used for ages 0-3.

13. $$ NUNA PIPA/NUNA RAVA CARSEATS: These

European car seats have all the bells and whistles! My son is

a big (“off the charts”) baby so I loved using the base with

the Pipa for a hassle-free removal. One of the Rava’s cool

features? Little harness holders that keep the straps out of

the way while getting your child in and out of the seat! The

best part about these seats, though, is that my son has no

problem sleeping in them. Comfort for the win! ($300 for

the Pipa, base sold separately; $450 for the Rava, nuna.eu)

14. $ SKIP HOP STROLLER TOYS: Perfect to attach to the

car seat/stroller to keep baby entertained. My son loved the

Treetop Friends Stroller Bar Activity Toy. ($20, skiphop.com)

15. $ PRINCE LIONHART PREMIUM WIPES WARMER:

Keeps baby wipes fresh, moist, and warm! It’s also

molded with an EPA approved anti microbial additive

to inhibit the growth of bacteria and microorganisms. I

love a warm wipe and so does baby, especially for those

middle-of-the night diaper changes. Note: Some reviews

say this particular design is a fire hazard because of

condensation. I placed the wipe warmer inside a basket

on top of a changing table and have had zero issues.

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Contributors

< LeShonda Martin

@WAGSREDEFINED

LeShonda Martin is the founder and Editor-In-Chief of WAGS Redefined.

She is originally from Indiana and currently resides in Duluth, Georgia with

her husband, veteran defensive back and current free agent in the NFL, Sherrod

Martin. The pair recently welcomed their son Jayce to the world and have two

English bulldogs. WAGSRedefined.com and WAGS Redefined magazine is

part of her platform to impact lives and create opportunities for others. She is

a founding member and Deputy Director of the Professional Football Wives

Association, Inc., a 501(c)(3) nonprofit for NFL wives, fiancees, and girlfriends.

Martin has a degree in Psychology from Emory University and a Master's in

Sports Administration from Georgia State University. In her free time, she enjoys

spending time with her family, reading books, listening to podcasts, writing,

traveling, playing sports, and spreading The Good News.

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< Natalie Hills

Natalie is a fourth generation Laguna Beach native

and attended Wofford College in Spartanburg, SC,

where she received a B.A. in Art History. She founded

her own social media company in Charlotte, NC in

2009 and worked with clients ranging from Lauren

Conrad’s Paper Crown collection and ESPN Radio

to local restaurants and boutiques. In 2011 she joined

the LA team of a New York based Fashion-Finance

firm. She took a risk, moved to LA and worked her

way up to Assistant Vice President. She worked with

hundreds of the top brands in the fashion industry

ranging from start-ups to companies with over $100

million in revenue. Her fiancé is Jonathan Stewart,

a running back for the Carolina Panthers. They are

expecting their first child in March.

< Jasmine Whittaker

Nicole Camak

@NCAMAK

Nicole is a Beauty Guru with Cosmetic

Product development and International

Marketing under her belt. She is a proud

graduate of The University of Baltimore

where she majored in Marketing. She was

born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland

by her French Canadian and Irish mother

and African American, Native American

and Irish father. She promotes beauty from

within first and encourages beauty lovers

to be creative with their makeup. She’s also

the beloved fiancée of New York Jets Safety

Marcus Gilchrist (#21) and mommy to their

1-year-old daughter Sophia.

Jasmine is a recent Masters graduate of The University

of Texas at Austin, as well as a wife, mother, and freelance writer. She previously spent

three seasons living in Texas chasing educational and career goals while her partner,

Fozzy, lived in other states pursuing his career in the NFL. She now resides in Charlotte

with her husband, a running back for the Carolina Panthers, and their two children.

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< Marissa Allen

@FIRSTANDFUL

FIRSTANDFULL.COM

Kristel David

@WIFECOMPLEX, WIFECOMPLEX.COM

Kristel is the wife to retired NFL Vet & Super

Bowl Champ, Jason David, and mama to four

queens. She is also a working stay at home

mom running her two businesses. She is the

owner and creator of Wife Complex, which

inspires women to discover their inner Fox,

unique God-given talents and to never lose

themselves to becoming a wife, mama and/or

career woman. She is also a Marketing Director

for Juice Plus, a healthy living company. Kristel

graduated from Purdue University with a

major in Organizational Leadership and

Supervision and a minor in African American

Studies. She is a philanthropist through her

roles as an Alpha Kappa Alpha Woman, Vice

President of her husband's Foundation, Jason

David's Corner Foundation, as well as serving

on the Abundant Business Leaders Ministry

at her church.

< Jessica Johnson

Jessica is a former Division I gymnast,

current social media and public relations

strategist and wife of Will Johnson, fullback

for the New York Giants. She spends the

off-season with her husband and newborn

son, Owen, at their home in Wesley Chapel,

North Carolina.

Marissa is the wife of current

Houston Texans Offensive

Lineman, Jeff Allen. They have

a daughter named Joy Elise and

newborn son Jefferey William. She

attended the University of Illinois

on a soccer scholarship where she

obtained a degree in Marketing.

Her food blog, firstandfull.com

features football foods, quick

dinner ideas, and a few desserts.

< Tenisha Patterson

Brown

Tenisha is a Sports Attorney and

Business Manager for Professional

Athletes, entrepreneur, and an avid

philanthropist. She earned her Bachelor

of Science in Business Management

and English in 2007 and her Master of

Science in Sports Management in 2008

from Florida State University. She also earned her Juris Doctorate in 2012 from

Charlotte School of Law and is licensed to practice in the State of Florida.

She owns her own practice, Definitive Sports Representation, and co-owns two

businesses, Tropical Smoothie Café and Charlotte Luxury Rentals, with her

husband. She serves as Executive Director of her and her husband’s foundation,

the Everette Brown Bag Foundation that is geared towards helping children and

their families get active and learn about proper nutrition. She is also a founding

member and serves as Executive Director and In-House Counsel of Professional

Football Wives Association, Inc., a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority,

Inc., and an active blogger on her website

www.fiercefabulousflawless.com. Her

husband, Everette is a 7-year veteran

and current free agent defensive end/

outside linebacker in the NFL. They

reside in Charlotte, North Carolina

with their three rambunctious pups,

Coupe, Carolina and Pebbles.



< Yesenia Burton

@SENYAAMARIEE, @TODDLERSANDTOUCHDOWNS

Yesenia is a wife and mother with a passion for sharing her faith, reallife

stories behind raising little ones and what the NFL life means

for her family. She and her husband Trey Burton were married their

junior year of College at the University of Florida. Currently, Trey is

a tight end for the Philadelphia Eagles but they spend off-season in

sunny south Florida. Her personal blog, toddlersandtouchdowns.com

is a way to share her testimony with family and friends.

Xia Chekwa >

@XIACHEKWA, @XIAC5, XIACHEKWA

Xia Chekwa, pronounced Cia, is married to Chimdi Chekwa, a current free agent

and cornerback in the NFL. Xia calls Akron, Ohio her hometown, but has called

many cities home because she was relocated often during her childhood due to her

parents serving in the US Army. Since completing her undergraduate degree in

Journalism from Ohio State University, Xia went on to earn two Masters’ Degrees-

Mass Communications from Texas Tech University and Business Administration

from the University of Miami. Xia loves everything Ohio State Buckeyes, reading,

writing, being a pretend chef, and spontaneous moments of dancing. Most describe

her as a fun, loving, silly girl, but Xia is most passionate about her relationships with

God and people. Xia and her husband Chimdi currently reside in the Columbus,

OH area. Xia shares deeper insight to her everyday life and experiences as a wife of

a professional athlete on her personal blog xowithxia.com.

< Ayo Afejuku Gathing, M.D.

Dr. Gathing is a board certified child, adolescent and adult psychiatrist as well

as a humanitarian, wife, loving family member, and friend to many. Dr. Gathing

specializes in building healthy relationships and families, innovative health

solutions, and the treatment of mental illness. As a professor, author and dynamic

speaker she inspires others while imparting her knowledge of medicine with

strategies for maintaining wellness. Dr. Gathing brings her expertise in the field

of psychiatry to the masses through practical discussions and relatable delivery

of subject matter. She is passionate in bringing a psychological perspective to

modern concepts such as relationships, parenting, career planning, and use of

technology. Her latest book, The Modern Trophy Wife: How to Achieve Your Life

Goals While Thriving at Home, is available now.

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Learn more about McKenzie at:

@MCKENZIEINTHEMIRROR

“Our husbands have jobs that require so much

of them, so everything else is left up to us.”


McKenzie

Caldwell-Pope

Meet McKenzie, the wife to Detroit Pistons guard Kentavious Caldwell-Pope,

mommy to Kenzo and soon-to-be mommy to KJ. #Slay all day comes to mind

when describing this fit and fashionable mom of two. She’s not afraid to rock

the bump with a six-inch heel and fitted dress while supporting her man on

the hardwood. Although her passion is fashion, the Dallas-native describes her

basketball wife life as being far from the typical stereotypes seen on TV. I sat

down with McKenzie to get the deets on her love story, pregnancy experience,

and important tips for new and expectant mothers.

Describe what life is like being married to an NBA player. What are the perks? Challenges?

I feel like there is a stereotype of “Basketball Wives” that we are uneducated, sit at home and shop all day, or meet up with

girlfriends for happy hour everyday like you see on TV [Laughs]! And it is the complete opposite! At least for me. There is so

much more responsibility that comes with being married to an NBA player or any other athlete, I’m sure.

Yes, there are perks that come along with it like the platform it provides and your last name carrying some weight… but it is

also a lot of work. Our husbands have jobs that require so much of them, so everything else is left up to us. On the home side:

maintaining a household and raising children. On the business side: budget reports, investments, charities, different events

for the organization, making sure that everyone that works for you is doing their job and of course, being your husband’s

biggest cheerleader.

How did you meet your husband? What’s your love story?

Kentavious and I met in Dallas, Texas. It was actually his first time ever in Dallas. My boss (the designer) had designed new

uniform dresses for the cocktail waitresses at a lounge and I was there for the unveiling of our new designs. Kentavious, a rookie

at the time, and a few of his teammates were also at the lounge the night of the event. One of my friends kept telling me, “this

guy keeps looking at you.” I didn’t believe her and didn’t entertain it at all. I didn’t go out much and I wasn’t into dating at the

time. I was fresh out of college and so focused on becoming established in my career. Towards the end of the night, “the guy” my

friend warned me about sent the DJ over to me to get my attention. I ended up going to say hello and we talked for the rest of the


“I enjoy mixing highs and lows. I shop online for basics at NakedWardrobe,

ASOS, and Missguided. These boutiques have a lot of affordable (and stretchy)

pieces that I can mix and match as my bump continues to grow.”

night. It was almost like we clicked instantly. We exchanged

numbers before we left the venue and he invited me to go

to his game the next day. I was like “huh? what game?” not

knowing who he was at all. Needless to say, I went to the

game the next day so I could see him again and after that, we

never missed a day. We talked all day, every day, FaceTime,

texts, phone calls, etc. and the rest is history!

What has been the most challenging part of your

pregnancy?

The most challenging part of my pregnancy has been my

back pain. My breasts are HUGE which is what causes most

of the pain. I had the same fatigue with my first pregnancy,

because my body produces SO much milk. But they will go

down just as they did the first time, so it’s only temporary. I

have been doing some exercises in the gym to strengthen my

back and it also helps.

You look amazing! What has worked for you this

pregnancy?

Thanks! I work out with a trainer 3 days a week doing 45

minute sessions and have been working in yoga sessions as

well. I am also more cautious of what I eat. The main thing

that causes swelling and bloating in the face and legs is your


- Qui ck Fa ct s -

NAME: McKenzie Caldwell-Pope

HUSBAND: Kentavious Caldwell-Pope

CHILDREN: Kenzo (4 years), KJ (due April 5)

LEAGUE: NBA

TEAMS: Detroit Pistons (drafted in 2013-Present)

HOMETOWN: Dallas, Texas

EDUCATION/OCCUPATION: I graduated from Louisiana

Tech University in 2013 with a degree in Business Marketing.

INTERESTING FACT: I’m extremely introverted

and shy. My husband is too, which is why he

sent someone else to get my attention!

diet. I try to avoid salty foods and limit my sugar intake. I do

enjoy my cravings here and there which are chocolate covered

fruit and s’mores!

We know you are expecting a boy. Did you have a preference

of a boy or girl?

I actually didn’t have a preference. We want 5 kids, so as

long as we get a good mixture of both girls and boys, I will

be happy.

You have great style! What are your fave maternity fashion

staples? Favorite places to shop while pregnant?

Stretchy, Stretchy, Stretchy! That is the key. I enjoy mixing

highs and lows. I shop online for basics at NakedWardrobe,

ASOS, and Missguided. These boutiques have a lot of

affordable (and stretchy) pieces that I can mix and match

as my bump continues to grow. Layering those basics and

adding a nice bag or designer shoes completes the look! I also

enjoy playing in my husband’s closet. Mixing in masculine

pieces and making them feminine is so chic.

What items are on your baby/mommy wish list?

I prefer neutrals when it comes to baby clothes and decor. But

is it bad that we haven’t even started shopping yet? We need

everything! Our baby shower is coming up, so I guess we will

see what we get at the shower and fill in from there.

Do you believe your child will be raised similar to you or

different? How so?

Our children will be raised similar to how I was raised. My

parents are still married and I grew up with both of them

in the same house. However, I always wanted more siblings.

I begged my mom for years for a baby brother or sister and

at 10 years old my sister, Raquel, was born. We are just

now starting to get close because we are so far apart in age.

Because of that, I always dreamed of having a big family. I

want my kids to grow up together and have a strong bond.

What tips do you have for expecting mothers? Any

traveling with baby tips?

Listen to your body. Rest when you need rest. Pay attention

to the foods that make you more tired or not feel as great.

Stay active, even if it’s just a 30-minute walk. Exercise helps

keep your energy level up and will be beneficial throughout

the labor process.

As for baby traveling tips? Bring snacks! Lots of snacks and

an iPad are major. I download educational apps like Reader

and ABC quiz to keep our 4 year-old busy. I also downloaded

a few seasons of Thomas the Train. He LOVES trains! u


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What to Pack in Your

BY JASMINE WHIT TAKER

Labor &

Delivery

Bag

If you’re anything like me, you’re

probably imagining waking in the

middle of the night and shaking your

partner with those infamous words “it’s

time” or “the baby is coming”. Then

you imagine hopping in the car, running

every red light, and pulling up to the

hospital in a dramatic fashion like you

always see on TV.

owards the end of your pregnancy you may begin

“nesting”. You will know this has begun when

you have a stronger than usual urge to clean

and organize. Some believe that when nesting

begins, labor is right around the corner!

But wait—is that how it happens? Eh,

not really. Many women will have an

ample amount of time to secure a sitter

(on call), grab a last minute snack, or

even finish watching your husband’s

game (Shout out to Atlanta Falcon’s

WAG Katie Levitre), before heading to

the hospital. Packing your hospital bag

is one way to satisfy your nesting urges

and be prepared for that big moment.


Th e Ba g

• GLASSES AND CONTACTS (WITH SOLUTION

AND CASE): You want to be able to see

comfortably though this process. Just throw them

in the bag, you never know if you’ll need them.

• DEODORANT: Things may heat up during the

delivery process, be prepared.

First things first, the bag:

A good rule of thumb is, if it is too big for an overhead bin,

it’s probably too much for the hospital. A nice carry-on duffle

is more than enough space to pack everything you and baby

need for your labor and delivery experience. I used this as an

opportunity to ask for my Noe Eole Louis Vuitton duffle from

the hubby as a “Push Gift”—it’s the perfect size.

Car Seat

Car Seat

While this might

not necessarily be

in your hospital

bag, many hospitals

won’t let you leave

without one—and

well, I’m sure safety

is the biggest

concern for your new addition. A few weeks before your due

date, it is a good idea to already have your car seat packed

in your vehicle. This way you don’t have to worry about

accidently forgetting it in all of your excitement.

Hygiene:

• SOAP: Eventually, either you will want to rinse

off, or a nurse may strongly suggest a shower.

I suggest picking a fragrance that is strong and

soothing. By the time you take a shower, the

aromatherapy can be helpful.

• HAND SANITIZER: You never know where

guest’s hands have been.

• TOOTHBRUSH: I’d suggest purchasing a

toothbrush specifically for your bag so you

know it’s there and you don’t have to remember

to grab it when rushing to the hospital.

• LOOFA: Because it's simply better than a

hospital towel.

• LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER: I mean, why not

detangle your hair while laboring? It smells

good, too.

• LOTION: Dry, itchy skin should be the least of

your concerns.

• CHAPSTICK AND COUGH DROPS: I didn’t

know this the first time around. But, some of

the medication you may receive in the

Hygiene

You likely won’t be up and showering often during your

hospital stay. Well, I wasn’t—don’t judge me. But that doesn’t

mean you’ll want to neglect yourself. Remember these items

where applicable:

• HAIR TIES: During active labor you may want to tie your

hair back so it’s not a nuisance.


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line, allowing for an incognito scar but

initially elastic bands on your biniki

(from pants or undies) can be down

right irritating.

Something Special for

siblings and/or Hubby:

hospital may dehydrate you, especially if you have a c-section.

These two items can help with a dry mouth and throat.

• BLANKETS: The hospital will provide you with their standard

blankets for the baby. But if you prefer something thicker, or

softer, I suggest packing at least one burping blanket for spit up,

a fleece baby blanket for warmth, and a swaddle blanket of your

choice.

• BABY CLOTHES: A hospital onsie and hat are typically given

standard to newborns, so you should not NEED clothing. But it

is nice to have a going home outfit, some socks, mittens, and an

extra sleeper in your bag just in case.

Mom's Clothes (For the hospital):

Like baby, mom doesn’t need much. The hospital should provide

most of your needs but probably none of your wants. Some women,

like myself, prefer to take their own personal hospital gown. Etsy and

amazon have tons of cute ones to choose from, just be sure to clear

the request with your doctor. Mine preferred that I have snap buttons

down the back. Also, take comfy socks to keep your feet warm (unless

you like the one size fits all hospital socks), a sleep mask to help

yourself nap whenever you get the chance, and a hair band if you have

bangs or short hair that may get in the way during labor.

Mom’s Clothes (Going Home):

You may not be inclined to wear the same clothes home that you

arrived in but don’t get too excited, you may not be wearing your

pre-pregnancy gear just yet. Be sure to pack yourself a comfortable

nursing bra, pants, and shirt to go home in. If you’re having a

c-section, over the belly pants and underwear can be your best friend.

Newer c-section procedures allow for doctors to cut on the bikini

Older siblings can start to feel a little

left out of this process. A sweet thing

to do is to have a “gift from baby” to

give to your other littles. Your partner

may also like a token of appreciation for

his help, or memorabilia of the birth of

y’alls new addition. This can be in the

form of a card, a written letter, or even

a small gift (if he got you the Push gift

you asked for).

Honorable Mention

(Things I didn’t pack but

you may consider):

• Aroma Therapy Scents

• Printed Birth Plan

• Music of your choice

• Preferred brand of bottles or Paci

• Birthing Ball and Pump

• Baby memory book (for footprints)

• Camera

• Hair Brush and Comb

• Extra Clothes for Hubby to Help

you Shower

• Robe

• Heating Pad

• Make-up

• Cards/Games

Welcoming a new baby is an exciting

time; there is no right or wrong thing

to pack. If you want it, or need it,

this is your day and you should be as

comfortable as possible. Don’t worry

about the little things and focus on your

little one. u


Featured WAG

Kristen

Rorie

Meet Kristen Rorie.

Girlfriend to Super Bowl

Champion Tyler Gaffney,

new mommy to Jaxon Jet,

and California native.

Kristen is as brilliant as

she is beautiful—a former

corporate exec turned

full time mommy who is

raising the parenthood bar

high. She’s starting son

Jax early learning sign

language, swimming, and

music (he loves Tupac!). I

sat down with Kristen in a

recent interview to discuss

this year’s Super Bowl,

pregnancy, and how she

manages to stay fit and fly.


- Qui ck Fa ct s -

NAME: Kristen Rorie

PARTNER: Tyler Gaffney

CHILDREN: Jaxon Jet (7 months)

LEAGUE: NFL

TEAMS: New England Patriots

HOMETOWN: San Francisco, CA

EDUCATION/OCCUPATION: Senior Account Executive

with Adobe Systems turned full-time mommy

MATERNITY FASHION: Tight clothes. Rock the bump, baby!

FAIRYTALE BABYMOON: Maldives

LOVE

How did you meet Ty? What’s your love story?

I was working as a Senior Account Executive and living in

Palo Alto, CA. I had become good friends with many of

the Stanford football players while Tyler was away playing

professional baseball for the Pittsburg Pirates, so I had no

idea who he was. One night all the guys were super excited

about their friend returning to play his final football season for

Stanford and Tyler was there. He was so fun, sociable, cool and

had this calm confidence that was so sexy. Oh yeah, and he

had the best booty & dimples I’ve ever seen! It was game over

from the start and we’ve been together ever since.

Describe what life is like dating an NFL player. What are

the perks? Challenges?

Dating an NFL player is an exciting adventure. Every day is

something new. The number one word to describe dating an

NFL player is patience. If you aren’t willing to have patience,

you won’t last long. Tyler leaves the house at 6am every morning

and gets home after 6pm. When Jaxon Jet was born, Tyler left

for camp a week later, living at a hotel for a month 24/7 while I

was at home with a newborn as a first time mom. At the same

time, nothing is guaranteed—your job, money, location, etc.

Any time I hear the ESPN notification go off on my phone, or

I get a phone call from Ty during the work day my first thought

is, “we got traded.” One day you’re on the practice squad, next

you are scoring a touchdown on the 53-man roster. You just

never know what will happen, and it truly is a work hard, play

hard life. Half the year you witness your man get beat up every

day, so it is tough. However, for a few months of the year you

get pure family time, and not many people get that all day

every day family time. We get to travel and have many product

and travel perks through the Patriots and our agency, Rep 1

Sports. We always say “hashtag gypsy life” and call ourselves

gypsies. We are never truly settled and that may scare some

people, but for us it’s super exciting. I would have never moved

to Boston if it weren’t for the Patriots, so this life has created

incredible opportunities. We have networked and made many

amazing relationships that will benefit us post-NFL.

You recently experienced one of those challenges with a

TMZ article published about you and some of the other

Patriots WAGS. Describe your feelings and thoughts after

reading some of the negative comments made by strangers.

I don’t pay any mind to people who take time out of their day

to cyber bash others. Tyler and I have a “focus on what you can

control” mindset. If people who have never met me want to

trash me and my friends, I say go right head. It doesn’t affect

my life one bit and it’s actually quite comical some of the things

people say. I just shrug it off. I have an incredible family, a

fortunate life, and that’s where I choose to channel my energy.

ON THE SUPER BOWL

On a lighter note, after quite arguably the most exciting,

historical Super Bowl comeback ever, the New England

Patriots were crowned the winners of Super Bowl LI in


Chani and her good vibes—that’s my girl! Ciera Liguori, DJ

Foster’s girlfriend, is my best friend on the team. We actually

just started a blog together, Waves & Rosé! She keeps it real

and we always have fun.

ON PREGNANCY AND MOTHERHOOD

You are also a new mommy. Congratulations! What has

motherhood taught you?

Learn more about Kristen at:

@KRISTENLOUELLE WAVESANDROSÉ.COM

Houston. Congratulations! Can you describe what this

past season was like for your family?

For us personally, our season was full of ups and downs.

The most important thing is that Tyler is healthy and we are

so grateful for that. It is one of the most attractive things

seeing him work so hard all day every day. He really is the

first guy in and the last guy out and I am so proud. We

are so thankful to be a part of such a business-oriented

organization; they truly treat us like family. Tyler is already

back to training for next season!

Motherhood has taught me what is truly important—family.

All the petty stuff in my life has disappeared because I pay it

no attention. I focus on how fortunate we are and I’m grateful

for every day we have in this life. Motherhood has given me

confidence that no matter what happens, we have each other.

We have our amazing, happy, healthy boy and together we

can do anything.

You look amazing! Did you maintain healthy habits during

pregnancy? Postpartum? Describe your health and fitness

regimen for other moms out there struggling to lose that

baby weight.

Thank you! I worked out hard doing mostly high intensity

circuit training/weight lifting for the first 6 months of

What was the best part about the Patriots winning the

Super Bowl?

The best memory I have is running down the tunnel with the

other WAGs. It felt like we were running in circles, sweating,

trying to find the right area to be in. Mind you I was in 5 inch

heels! I haven’t run that much since high school! The best

part was seeing Tyler and all they guys’ faces after the game

with their families—it was pure joy. All of their hard work

had come full circle. I’m so proud of them all!

Who are some of your favorite WAGS from the team?

My favorite WAG and mentor is Chantel Mayo. Her husband,

Jerrod Mayo retired last year after an amazing career. When

we were rookies, the Mayo’s brought us in like family and

showed us the ropes- introduced us to all the right people,

let us know what to expect, and helped us when we needed

a shoulder to lean on. She is also a super mom, wife and

business woman who can really do it all. I am so grateful for


“One day you’re on the practice squad, next you are scoring a

touchdown on the 53-man roster. You just never know what

will happen, and it truly is a work hard, play hard life.”

pregnancy. Once I started to show (and was super sleepy!),

I decreased the weight I was using and did a lot of long

distance bike. I really focused on keeping my body moving.

At 7 months, I blew up and said screw it and was having

brownie sundaes for breakfast. I hadn’t had bad food in years

so I went all in, satisfying years of cravings!

The first 2 months postpartum, I walked every single day.

I wasn’t focused so much on weight loss as I was focused

on releasing endorphins. Those first couple months are

emotionally draining so walking one to two hours per day

allowed me to clear my mind and push the reset button.

Once I got the “okay” from my OB, I went all-in back to

circuit weight training 5 times per week. It is hard, and it’s a

hundred times harder when you have an infant. I get it. But

it’s not an excuse. I’m a firm believer in happy mommy, happy

baby, and if you can’t take care of yourself, how can you take

care of the ones you love? I also drink lots of tea and water,

take vitamins every day and eat clean during the week. I’ll be

sharing exercises and meal plans on our blog, Waves & Rosé!

How do you “balance” being a wife and mother? Any tips

for keeping the spark alive?

Date night, just us two at least once a week. This is a priority

for us! It’s so nice to get dressed up, have a couple drinks, feel

young, show off what you got and remind each other how

sexy you both are. It keeps the spark alive!

What was the most challenging part of your pregnancy?

What’s one way you stay organized at home? Do you have

any secrets for controlling clutter?

I have always been a neat freak and OCD, but once I became

a mother I had to rely on routine. I am all about preparation.

For example, every night before bed I set up for the next day.

I do a light clean up so I can start my day with a clean house.

I get Jaxon’s bottle ready, put my tea bag in the Kurig, set out

my workout clothes, etc. It makes the day less stressful and

you save so much time!

Any mommy must-have books or items you recommend to

other moms?

Baby Wise! I read this and adopted the “eat, play, sleep”

routine and by 8 weeks Jaxon was sleeping through the

night. The baby bouncer was my best purchase! Jaxon loves

bouncing in it and it allows me to get things done around the

house while keeping him entertained.

In what ways is Jaxon being raised similar or different to

how you and Ty were raised?

Like Tyler and I, we were raised with pure love and lots of

affection. Jaxon must get at least 200 kisses a day. On the

contrary, he travels with us! At 6 months old he has already

been on four round trip flights. I think my first airplane ride

was at 10 years old. Also, we are stepping it up a notch and

teaching him sign language and getting him started early with

swimming classes, language, and music (Jax loves Tupac). u

The most challenging part of my pregnancy was postpregnancy.

Everyone tells you what to expect during

pregnancy but you don’t hear about the emotional

rollercoaster you go through once you bring the baby home!

It was especially difficult for me because our families both

live in California and Tyler left for training camp when Jax

was nine days old. Not to mention you’re sleep deprived,

your body just went through major trauma and you feel

like a cow. It is a rough time, but it has given me so much

perspective and I feel like a rock star for coming back

stronger than ever. Once you get it down, you have this

super power!


WAG Travel

PHOTO: UNSPLASH

A Mom pren eur's Ess ential s

Aside from the obvious

food and diapers, here are

my must-haves for airport

travel with a baby.

BY LESHONDA MARTIN

COMMUNICATION: Call ahead or do your

research and find out your airline’s policy on

babies. We usually travel Delta and I struggled to

find exact information on the website. For children

under two, you do not need a ticket. You do need

to notify the airline that you will have a child on

your lap. My first time flying with my son, I called

ahead to confirm he did not need a ticket. The

Delta rep asked for baby’s name and birthday. Take

five minutes to lock down those details so you do

not run into issues at the airport.

BONUS TIP: Speaking of planning, it’s also a good

idea to check in prior to your arrival at the airport. I

check everyone in and any bags the day before the

flight. One less thing to worry about on travel day!

TSA PRECHECK: For about $100 per year, you

and your traveling crew can bypass long lines

and avoid having to remove shoes, jackets and

laptops at the security checkpoint. Traveling

internationally? You get expedited through

customs as well. If you have a few trips with little

ones then this is worth the investment. If you’re

the type to arrive at the airport an hour or less

before takeoff then invest in TSA Precheck! (Delta;

$85 for 5-year membership, $100 for global entry

https://www.tsa.gov/precheck)


Ergobaby A da pt 3 Carrier

an d Kidsy Carseat Tra vel Ba gs

COMFORTABLE, LOOSE FITTING CLOTHES (I.E.

NURSING TANK, OVERSIZED HOODIE, LEGGINGS):

The #1 advice I received from a fellow WAG was to

nurse my baby during take off and landing. I have never

tried with a bottle but imagine it works just the same.

We stretch out feedings before the flight so he is hungry

when we board. If you are breastfeeding, I plan my

outfit ahead of time to ensure I can nurse with ease in

the limited space without a cover up. The sucking from

eating helps your baby with the pressure that builds up

in his or her ears. Whenever my son gets a little fussy

during a flight, I assume his ears need popped and I

nurse him again. Works wonders!

BABY WIPES: Whatever product you use to quickly

sanitize, bring it! My son is teething and reaching for

everything which is not ideal on a germ-infested plane.

Wipe down the seat tray, toys (bring his or her favorite

rattle) and baby’s hands before and after use!

BABY EARMUFFS: We have the Baby Banz

“headphones” ($26, Amazon.com) to block out some of

the noise and keep him asleep for longer. My son does

not seem to mind them on his head. Give it a try!

CARSEAT BAG: I ordered the Kidsy Carseat Travel Bag

($21, Amazon.com) to store our seat and gate check it.

I put my name and information on the bag tag which

makes it easily identifiable (if the bright, red color isn’t

enough)! The bag has a drawstring for easy storage and

two straps to carry it backpack style. My husband and I

were able to drop it off with our checked bags and pick

it up at baggage claim with no issues! Super easy. You

can also gate check the stroller.

BABY CARRIER: We love our Ergobaby Adapt 3 Carrier

($145, Target). Both my husband and I enjoy traveling

with this item over the stroller because let’s face it,

traveling with another huge baby item is for the birds.

My husband was able to wear the carrier with baby and

walk through security no problem. If you have a longer

stay at your final destination and will be walking around

often, by all means bring the stroller! We have the Uppa

Baby Vista for trips like Disney World and a lighter

umbrella stroller by Babyhome.

ENTREPRENEUR MAGAZINES: This one is for fun!

During the time my baby sleeps on the plane, I make

sure to capitalize on “me”

time by learning

something. I love

to read inspiring,

motivating,

educational material.

My go-to mags:

Entrepreneur, Fast

Company, and

Forbes! u


Featured WAG

Amber

Coker

Meet Amber Coker. Fiancée

to Cincinnati Reds pitcher,

Nefi Ogando, mommy to

Alexander, and bilingual

business owner. Amber is

no stranger to travel. Doing

life with an MLB player has

taught her to live out of a

suitcase. It’s also inspired her

to start her own travel agency,

Atlantic Adventures. I sat

down with Amber to discuss

finding love in her Dominican

soul mate, and how she

manages her family during a

long baseball season.

Learn more about Amber at:

@COKERAMBER

Where are you from originally and how did you get to where you

are now?

I'm from Greenville, South Carolina. I’ve always been the type of

person who is constantly making new goals. I have really surprised

myself over the years. I have two degrees, one in science and the other

in dental assisting. I worked in both those industries for awhile and

later became a flight attendant. Now, I have my own travel agency

and I'm traveling the world with my soul mate. Most recently, Santo

Domingo, Dominican Republic, and Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

How did you and Nefi meet?

We love telling people this story. It's quite funny, actually. About 4

years ago, my fiancé was playing for a low A team in my hometown.

We both went out to the same Salsa club one night. I was sitting in VIP

and I looked over and saw him dancing very feminine. I immediately

started laughing because I thought he was funny. He thought I was

interested and walked over to ask me to dance in English. I said Yes,

and we danced to a Bachata song. During the dance we had such a


- Qui ck Fa ct s -

NAME: Amber Coker

PARTNER: Nefi Ogando

CHILDREN: Alexander (2 years old)

LEAGUE: MLB

TEAMS: Marlins (2016), Pirates (2017)

BUSINESS/HOBBIES: I own a travel agency

called Atlantic Adventures Travel Agency.

ETHNICITY: I'm American and Nefi is Dominican

SURPRISING FACT: I Speak Spanish

MY GO-TO BREAKFAST: Cinnamon Oatmeal

with a big cup of coffee.

connection but we lacked communication. I couldn't speak

Spanish nor he English but he refused to let me leave

without my number. For our first date, we used a Google

Translator on his computer. It was hilarious. But ever since

that moment, we both taught each other our languages

because we were head over heels for each other and we were

going to do whatever it took to make it work.

Wow! That is a great story. Tell us about being a baseball

wife – what do you like and what’s most challenging?

It's adventurous. It's unlike anything I've done before. As

the wives and girlfriends of professional athletes you have

to be extremely supportive of your spouse because they

encounter a lot. You’re always being watched. Every game

they play in, there are millions of people watching. Losing

a game can be extremely stressful for them. These men have

to travel often. As wives and girlfriends we must always

make them feel at home. As they say, "home is where the

heart is" so we follow them around the world to make sure

they have that love and support of a "home".

The traveling is fun for me because we are able to explore

many cities, but it can be extremely challenging when

you have children. I've learned to live out of a suitcase. I

remember one year, we moved three times in two weeks. I

was one tired Mama! But it has its rewards. My son adores

his father and is obsessed with baseball, too. He gets to

watch his father follow his dreams. He goes to the stadium,

practices with his dad, and gets to hangout in the dugout.

Not many kids get to go to daddy's work everyday. I think

it’s a great environment for my son to grow up in. I have to

thank baseball for that! I have no doubt my son will follow

his daddy's footsteps because Baseball is all he's ever known.

What’s a typical day like for you?

Even though most think it’s a glamorous life, it takes work

too. First, I always make sure my athlete has a nutritional

breakfast. I then take him to the field and return home for

some work and nap time for my son.

During the season, the WAGS do a lot of charity and

promotions. Usually, I'll return to the stadium 2 or 3

hours hours before the game to do the event we do that

day. Most of the time, it's a charity event. This year, we

helped the Louisiana Flood victims and several women

and children homes.

After the event, I watch almost every game. The wives are

the true fans! I've probably been to 200 games this year

alone. Then, we all return home and I cook for him (yes,

he eats super late but he's an athlete). We then have family

time and usually get to sleep around 1:00 AM! It's definitely

a second shift life. He plays 28 days a month so we never get

days to just enjoy. People say athletes are overpaid. I beg to

differ. They work at least 10 hours a day, 28 days a month.

Some do 9 months per year. My fiancé works 12 months a


“I used to stress to my mom

about our son's first year

in baseball. I was so upset

I couldn't up and pack his

crib everywhere we went

or bring all his things. My

mom told me, "You are the

only thing he needs. That's

the way God intended.”

year because of winter ball in Dominican

Republic. That's hard on your body, your

life and your family. Our typical days are

baseball everyday. But honestly, I wouldn't

have it any other way.

Your son Alexander is the cutest! What

advice do you have for new moms

(especially those who travel often)?

Aww thanks! Honestly, just go with the

flow. Don't try to live in the stereotype

of what your life should be like. I used to

stress to my mom about our son's first year

in baseball. I was so upset I couldn't up and

pack his crib everywhere we went or bring

all his things. My mom told me, "You are

the only thing he needs. That's the way

God intended." She was exactly right.

We did without a lot because of the

constant traveling and honestly my son is

just as normal as ever. I would recommend

a car seat convertible stroller though. Those

things are amazing. Sometimes, we would

buy items in our new cities such as a walker

and just donate them as we moved.

Do you have any baby must-haves?

A Doona Infant Carseat is A MUST and a good pack n play.

Amazon has always been my go-to.

What are you most passionate about?

I enjoy music and so does my son. Since being with my Latin

spouse, I've broadened my spectrum to multiple genres. Once

you learn a new language, it opens a whole new door to the

music world.

One goal of mine is to create a bilingual album. I love Bachata

music and I'd love to incorporate it into something American

traditional, colliding two musical worlds. Romeo Santos and

Usher did a great bilingual song called "Promise". I want to create

something similar to their style.

A bilingual album sounds very cool! What’s next for you?

My fiancé just signed with the Pirates so we’re off to Bradenton,

Florida for Spring Training and wherever the good Lord takes us.

[Editor’s Note: Ogando was signed to the Cincinnati Reds following

the interview on February 14, 2017] u


WAG Life

how you show love to others. It’s time

to start doing things to take care of you.

You cannot function when your tank is

on empty. You need fuel and that fuel is

self-care!

BY AYO GATHING, MD PSYCHIATRIST AND CO-AUTHOR OF THE MODERN TROPHY WIFE

REFUELING YOUR TANK

HOW TO END

THE “ALL CARE,

NO PLAY” CYCLE

The traditional wife was once thought of as the woman

who stayed at home to serve her husband and tend

to her children. She took care of the house and made

sure everyone was comfortable. This was our society’s

model of a wife, one who was constantly giving. But

when did she take care of herself?

The most challenging roles to assume are those of wife

and mother, especially when attempting to pursue your

dreams. Taking care of yourself while balancing wifehood

and motherhood can feel like an impossible juggling act. You

often end up neglecting your own needs in an effort to feel

successful in your other roles. Ladies, taking time out for you is

not selfish—it is necessary. The “all care, no play” formula does

not work. It leads to being burned out, bored, and sometimes

even resentful. You have to show yourself some love similar to

Self-care is a key element in loving yourself

and preserves your ability to maintain

work-life balance. Refueling can be as

simple as carving out some quiet time at

the end of the day or adding an activity

that you enjoy into your schedule. Whether

it is going to the movies, pampering

yourself with a massage or a night out with

girlfriends, put self-care appointments on

your calendar and keep them. A self-care

favorite is a scheduled day off from your

responsibilities, including work. A real

personal time off day! Send the kids off

to school, kiss your hubby goodbye and

turn on your out of office reply. Use this

“me time” to do what makes you happy

and feel at peace. Everyone will survive.

But, make sure your calendar is not filled

with bad habits. It’s self-care, not selfdestruction.

Binge-eating, heavy alcohol

consumption or anything that can result in

stress is off the table.

Another major aspect of caring for yourself

is striving for progress not perfection.

Perfection means that no flaws or faults

exist. However, to be human is to error.

As a wife and mother, you will make

mistakes and at times feel like a failure.

However, there is no perfect way for

two people to build a life together and

certainly no perfect way to parent a child.

Perfectionism becomes a fixation and limits

your ability to be content with yourself and

your life. It is healthy to identify areas to

improve, but let go of the compulsive drive

to be perfect.

My advocating for self-care is not a plea

to ditch all of your obligations and goals.

It is simply a reminder to take care of you.

No matter where you are in your life or

relationship journey, you absolutely must

direct some energy towards yourself. Your

body and mind will thrive and everyone in

your life will appreciate the happier you. u

PHOTO: STOCKSY


WAG Beauty

BY NICOLE CAMAK, INSTAGRAM @NCAMAK

Mommy

Makeover

This makeover session was special for me because I had the

opportunity to glam Chelsea, a fit, hard working mommy of

two. Her oldest daughter is 2 years old and her youngest

is 6 months. Chelsea only owns a few makeup products. She’s a

natural beauty and says as long as her eyebrows are done and

she has on lash extensions, then that’s good enough for her. I can

relate to this a lot! In fact, when I was pregnant with my daughter,

I invested in lashes every two weeks. As for brows, they frame the

face so they are very important!

Before


Pr od uct s U se d

Check out Chelsea

and follow her on IG

for pregnancy and

postpartum fitness tips

@chelseapb!

• Mario Badescu Rose Water ($7, Ulta)

• Koh Gen Doh Aqua Foundation Illuminator ($39, Sephora)

• Scott Barnes Multi Media Foundation “Pecan Praline” & "Creme

Brûlée” ($50, scottbarnes.com)

• Scott Barnes Plus Powder “St. Tropez"($35, scottbarnes.com)

• Anastasia Beverly Hills Medium-Tan Contour Kit ($40, Sephora)

• Mac Mineral Skinfinish Dark Deep Bronzer ($33, Mac)

• Makeup Forever Bronzer “30M” ($36, Sephora)

• Anastasia Beverly Hills Modern Renissance Palette “Burnt

Orange and Primavera" ($42, Sephora)

• Huda Beauty Lashes “Samantha” ($20, Sephora)

• Loreal Voluminous Mascara ($7.99, Target)

• Mac Cherry Lip Pencil ($17.50, Mac)

• Sephora Liquid Lip “Always Red 01” ($14, Sephora)

• Mineralize Skin Finish “Global Glow & Gold Deposit" ($33, Mac)

• Sacha Buttercup Setting Powder ($20, Amazon)

• Mineralize Blush “Gentale & Love Joy” ($28, Mac)

• Anastasia Pro Pencil “Base 2”($18, Ulta)

• Anastasia Brow Wiz “Chocolate” ($21, Sephora)

• Anastasia Brow Definer “Dark Brown” ($23, Sephora)

• Nars Radiant Creamy Concealer “Biscuit & Custard”

($30, Sephora)

• Anastasia Clear Brow Gel ( $20, Sephora)

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Siggi Bennett

Siggi Bennett is an edgy, intelligent, curly-haired bombshell married

to NFL tight end, Martellus Bennett, and mommy to Jett Rose. Follow

the Bennett’s on social media and you’ll quickly realize why we love

them: the whole family is dope! The Bennett’s have a habit of winning.

Not only do they get the “really big rings” and make boss business

moves, but they march to the beat of their own drum. In the midst of

the accolades and notoriety, Siggi and her hubs seem like two normal

parents. I sat down with Siggi to talk this year’s Super Bowl, the loves

of her life, and her new baby, Halfsies Kids.

SUPER BOWL

After quite arguably the most exciting, historical Super Bowl comeback, the New England

Patriots were crowned the winners of Super Bowl LI in Houston. Congratulations!

Describe what this past season was like for your family?

This past season was incredible! My husband had just finished his third year with the Chicago

Bears by being placed on Injured Reserve as a result of a few cracked ribs toward the end of the

season, and we were actually celebrating our daughter’s second birthday at Disneyland when

we got the news about being traded to New England. I like to think that pretty much set the

tone for the rest of the year!

The Patriots are such a legendary team, we couldn’t help but to be super excited about the

change of scenery and seeing a team like that in action. It’s no secret that Marty has had

difficulty in the past “fitting in” with certain organizations, but this year, similar to our year

spent with the Giants, was so different. We were welcomed with open arms, and it showed,

both on and off the field.

Your daughter Jett is adorable. What were the most memorable moments for you as you

watched her experience the Super Bowl?

If you follow me on SnapChat, you’ll know that Jett often sleeps through her dad’s football


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NAME: Siggi Bennett

HUSBAND: Martellus Bennett

CHILDREN: Jett Rose (3 years)

LEAGUE: NFL

TEAMS: Dallas Cowboys, New York Giants, Chicago Bears, New

England Patriots, Green Bay Packers (Present)

HOMETOWN: Oakland, California

EDUCATION / OCCUPATION: B.A. from Sarah Lawrence

College (Child Psychology and Creative Writing), Makeup Artistry

Certification from The Makeup Designory. Co-owner of Halfsies

Kids online clothing boutique and freelance makeup artist.

MOM STYLE: I believe in doing whatever it is that makes you

happy when it comes to mom style! Sweats and sneakers, body con

dresses, no makeup or full glam, breastfeeding or bottle feeding,

co-sleeping or night nursing — it’s my prerogative! Whatever makes

me and my family feel comfortable is what I will do.

games, and Super Bowl was no different! We got to our seats about an

hour early, so she went right to sleep and didn’t wake up until the end

of the 2nd quarter. I loved watching her face light up as Lady Gaga

performed, and she was completely in awe of all the lights around the

stadium. They’d asked the audience members to turn their phone

flashlights on at a certain point during the set, and Jett said it looked

like stars.

My two favorite moments, however, had to be the three of us making

angels in the blue and red confetti after we won the game, and also when

Jett stole the mic from her dad during his postgame press conference.

For whatever reason she needed to tell everyone that our dog, Wendy,

had peed on the rug! So embarrassing for Wendy (especially since the

incident had occurred a month before).

Too funny! Did you have any favorite WAGS on the team being that

this was your first year with the Patriots?

This year we became close with a few of the defensive couples. I feel like

in the past, we’ve mostly spent time with couples on the offensive side of

the ball since my husband is a tight end, but we switched it up this year,

so in addition to the Blount’s, we went on a lot of date nights with the

McCourty’s, Harmon’s, Ryan’s, and Chung’s.

All of the wives and girlfriends I got to know on the team (including

coaches’ wives) were so sweet and entertained

Jett during training camp. She’d just walk over

and strike up a conversation with anyone sitting

in the family section during practices, so that’s

how I came to meet many of the ladies and their

kids. She took a lot of the pressure off of me

coming in as one of the new girls.

ON LOVE

How did you meet your husband? What’s your

love story?

In 2008 on Thanksgiving Break, I was a junior

at Sarah Lawrence and decided to visit my mom,

who’d been living in Dallas for years. I was only

19, but had a fake ID so I got to town, changed

clothes, and went to meet up with friends at

the House of Blues. Usher was performing. I

got in and waited by the bar in the Foundation

Room for my friends to get out of the show, and

Martellus walked past me with a mutual friend.

The guy stopped, surprised to see me in from

New York, and introduced us.

Marty likes to say he put the ball in my

court by inviting me to the Dallas Cowboys

Thanksgiving game after party the next day and

giving me his phone number, in case I needed

help getting inside. I didn’t know when we met

that he was a rookie for the Cowboys and wasn’t

immediately interested because I assumed he was

a stereotypical athlete who would be a player, but

about a month later I finally agreed to go on a

date with him.

I think it’s safe to say we got caught up with

emotions rather quickly, but because I was

working and putting myself through SLC, I was

constantly in and out of town and that caused

strain in the beginning. But I was determined

to get my degree and I graduated from school in

2010, moved to Dallas permanently, and the rest

is history! We were married the following year.

You seem to be humble people. You opted to get

married at the courthouse over an extravagant

wedding. Can you talk more about that and how

that decision came about?


“Halfsies Kids launched in

September 2015 and is my online

clothing boutique with my friend

and partner, Mallory Talty.”

he proposed to me back in 2011! It’s crazy the way things

just panned out this year so that we could have this “full

circle” type of moment!

Learn more about Siggi at:

@SIGGIB

SNAPCHAT SIGGIBSNAPS

Well, we’d been engaged for a couple months and already

had our license when we decided one day to just go to the

courthouse on Main St. in Dallas. We didn’t tell anyone we

were married for about a week, and…let’s just say it didn’t go

over well initially with our families!

I think more than anything, we just didn’t want to deal with

the stress of a big wedding. I was never one of those girls

who had their dream wedding already planned out down to

every last detail since they were little, so I didn’t feel like I

was missing out on anything. We really wanted to start our

happily ever after, and that’s all that mattered to us at the

time. We paid off my college debt in full, and went on a quick

honeymoon to Puerto Rico instead!

We peeped that huge diamond ring your husband just

gifted you on Instagram. What was the occasion and did

he have any romantic words to accompany the ring?

I died when he gave me that! This June will mark our 6th

anniversary, and we will finally be having the “wedding”. We

thought it was time to really celebrate our union with our

family and friends, so I pulled the trigger and started planning

a huge anniversary party… and I was right, it is stressful!

With that being said, my husband wanted to upgrade my

ring, and what better time to do it than during Super Bowl

Week in Houston — which is his hometown and also where

He planned a friends and family dinner for Friday night

before Super Bowl, got up to make this speech talking

about how important everyone in the room was to him, and

finished up with putting his foot up on a chair (he plays

football, we gotta keep those knees healthy!) and talking

about how he’s been married to his best friend for 6 years

and… I didn’t hear the rest because he pulled the ring out

and everyone started yelling [laughs]!

How do you keep the spark alive with your husband after

all these years? Any tips for other women who are wives

and mommies looking to balance it all?

It’s tough! You go through a lot of moments when you feel

you aren’t balancing it all —- it can be overwhelming! But

there has to be mutual support. Sometimes I will have a

tough day with Jett, and will need 30 minutes to take a walk

alone and just have quiet time, and Marty gets it.

Weekly or bi-weekly date nights — those are necessary! You

can’t get into the habit of skipping them, being too tired, busy,

or unenthused to get out the house together. Adult time without

Bubble Guppies playing in the background is necessary! You

have to make time for yourself and your partner.

I never understood the power of a babysitter until this

season because I thought I could do it all and felt guilty

as a stay-at-home mom to want time to myself. But an

emotionally, physically, and mentally healthy mom and

wife is good for everybody!

ON MOTHERHOOD

Who does your daughter act like more: you or Martellus?

Ha! She gets her character from Marty, but her attitude is


all me! She’s so funny and outgoing, but her side-eye game is

strong! Someone referred to 3 year-olds as “Threenagers” once,

and I thought, “Wow! That is spot on!” She can definitely be

a bit of a drama queen. I should sign her up for acting classes.

What do you admire most about Jett?

Her fearlessness. She’s never been so clingy toward me that

she wouldn’t let anyone else hold her or cry when I left the

room. Yes, she obviously wants my love and attention if she

hurts herself or something, but I’ve never had an issue with

getting her to make friends, go to daycare for a few hours, or

stay with her grandparents. She’s very independent but social

at the same time.

What’s your family’s favorite meal that you cook?

Oh, man! I cook literally ALL DAY LONG during the

offseason, and dinner 5 out of 7 nights during the football

season, so that’s a tough one [Laughs]. I’d say my fried

chicken is extremely high up on the list, along with my

turkey burgers and french toast.

What’s your favorite activity to do with your daughter?

Jett and I love to do karaoke! Spice Girls, Adele, Frozen,

trap music, you name it! One of the songs from the new

Disney movie “Moana” is currently a favorite of ours, even

Marty will join in on that one! We actually just built her

a small stage in her room so she and her friends can do

karaoke in there.

Being a mom has taught you ______?

Being a mom has taught me how to be more patient!

With Jett being as independent and strong-willed as she

is, we have our power struggles all the time, but I remind

myself that she’s learning. My patience has to extend to my

husband as well! He’s a big kid himself, so he’ll come home

from work and want to give her ice cream before dinner, not

require her to eat the nutritious food, or let her stay up way

too late. But hey, everything in moderation, right? She’ll

love recalling these memories as an adult.

idea of having another child, but maybe in a few years. I’d like

to spend the next couple of years focusing on my own personal

and professional goals, and not be in newborn mode again, but

who knows! I do miss the belly sometimes.

ON BUSINESS

You recently co-founded a children’s clothing boutique

called Halfsies Kids. Tell us more on how your business

came about and what inspired the brand?

Halfsies Kids (clothing for the half-sized people in your

life) launched in September 2015 and is my online clothing

boutique with my friend and partner, Mallory Talty. We carry

a wide range of fashion forward lines for boys and girls, a lot of

which come in neutral colors (our favorite) and unisex styles.

“Weekly or bi-weekly date nights — those

are necessary! You can’t get into the

habit of skipping them, being too tired,

busy, or unenthused to get out the house

together. Adult time without Bubble

Guppies playing in the background is

necessary! You have to make time for

yourself and your partner.”

Do you want more children?

Ehhhhhhhhh. That dreaded question [laughs]. In all honesty,

I’m on the fence. If we only ever had Jett, she would be more

than enough! Life is awesome right now as a trio, and she has

a lot of cousins that she gets to see frequently. I’m open to the


it will be challenging just as far as setting up more pop up

events, but it will reach a whole new clientele!

ON LIFESTYLE

What advice can you give to the younger WAGS who are

just getting acclimated to the world of professional sports?

“When people think of our family, I

hope they associate us with positive

energy and the desire to uplift and

empower those around us.”

Mallory and I became friends through Instagram, actually,

by sharing a mutual obsession with cool kids stuff like

mini leather jackets and Akid shoes. Our daughters, Alfie

and Jett, are only a few months apart in age and became the

spokesmodels for the company.

We decided to launch the store together after discovering

that there weren't many “one stop shops” for a variety of

brands and that the awareness of many of the brands we love

was just not there — unless you lived in fashion cities like

New York or Los Angeles.

What are your biggest challenges in owning your own

business?

I’d say the biggest challenge has been marketing. As I

mentioned earlier, it’s easier to get customers from the coasts

interested and shopping because they’re more familiar with

the less traditional style, but it was harder in the beginning

to attract more of a local clientele.

I find myself giving a lot of advice these days to younger

WAGs about how to deal with the uncertain nature of the

business and dealing with Free Agency, moving, trades

etc. We have been on four teams in nine seasons and are

potentially heading into free agency again this off-season!

Your man is living his dream, and it doesn’t last long! Be that

supportive woman who helps him make the best decisions for

yourselves and/or your family!

I know sometimes our guys become concerned about going

to new teams because they feel bad for uprooting US. But

for me, each new team represented an opportunity to explore

a new city, make new friends (on and off the team), and

expand my business reach. They were new opportunities

for my husband to showcase his talent, be the best player he

could be and be recognized and compensated for it the way

he deserves to be. My advice is to enjoy the ride!

Every season will not be fantastic from start to finish. Trust

me, I know. Nothing about being in the NFL is easy. The

injuries, time away, and moving around. But it’s a once in

a lifetime opportunity that we cannot take for granted. It’s

a decision that most of our guys would make over and over

again if they had a choice. Let’s make the most of it!

What’s one thing you would like the world to know about

you and your family?

When people think of our family, I hope they associate us

with positive energy and the desire to uplift and empower

those around us — whether they be other couples, creatives,

athletes, marginalized individuals, or football fans.

In both small and big ways, we want to impact the world

around us and instill the same values in our daughter so that

she may change her world for the better. u

With me living in Chicago and Mallory in Indiana we had to

get more creative here in the Midwest and host pop up shops,

which did really well! When customers see and feel the fabric

in person and understand the quality craftsmanship, it’s gone

a long way! Now that our family plays in a different state,


WAG Health & Beauty

By Yesenia Burton


Train er Spotlight: Tisch

WORKING OUT

THROUGH PREGNANCY

AND BEYOND

Changing many women's lives for the better is

personal trainer, Megan "Tisch" Hauser's ultimate

goal. Tisch, a born athlete can remember playing

basketball and soccer since she could walk which later in life

lead her to a successful collegiate soccer career. Training

hard for sports was just the beginning of her fitness journey.

Her love for health and fitness grew and she followed her

passion by becoming an IFPA certified trainer. Today, runs

her own personal training company, Tisch Tosch Training.

With ten years of professional experience, she has transformed the lives of

many high-end celebrity clients, as well as girlfriends and wives of athletes.

Tisch prides herself in focusing on women as her main clientele—especially

training many moms with busy schedules, and pre/during/post-pregnant

women. Her passion for training pregnant mamas stems from her own

experience as a proud mama. Tisch went through the process of keeping in

shape during her entire pregnancy and then snapping back full force! She

takes pride in what she does with her busy schedule as a full-time working

mama while still being able to stay fit herself!

You have an adorable two-year-old daughter. What was your pregnancy

experience? Did you exercise throughout your pregnancy?

Thank you! Yes of course! I trained throughout my entire pregnancy and

basically did everything I did pre pregnancy! As I got closer to giving

birth, I would of course lighten up the weights and not do as many sprints

[laughs]. Pregnancy was a piece of cake for the most part. I was in labor for

TRAINING LOCATION/FACILITY:

HEAT (Midtown Atlanta)

CHILDREN: Mackenzie, 2 years old

FITNESS BACKGROUND: IFPA

certified, CPR certified, has 8 years

experience running own personal

training business

TRAINING PHILOSOPHY: I do circuit

training which is constant moving

through out the workout mixed with

cardio moves and weights made to

burn maximum calories and build

lean muscles!

NOTABLE CLIENTS: Porsha

(Housewives of Atlanta), Eudoxie

Bridges (Ludacris’ wife), Ashley

(WAGS Miami), Christina

Millian, Miranda Green (AJ Green’s

wife), and many other football and

basketball player wives and fiancés

FAVORITE HEALTHY MEAL: Turkey

tacos, turkey burgers, salmon

FAVORITE UNHEALTHY MEAL:

White rice! My weak point. I'm Asian

so I can't help it! I love pizza, too.

FAVORITE WORKOUT: Circuit

training! I pretty much do the same

exercises I have my clients do, just

a little/lot more intense. I also enjoy

sprints and jump rope.


“Working out while pregnant is very important!

As long as you were in shape before pregnancy

and the doctor gives you the okay, then there is

no reason why a pregnant woman shouldn't

be working out. The benefits are amazing!”

Learn more about Tisch at:

@MSTISCH

TISCHTOSCHTRAINING.COM

TISCHFITNESS@LIVE.COM


You have an adorable two-year-old daughter. What was your pregnancy experience? Did you

exercise throughout your pregnancy?

Thank you! Yes of course! I trained throughout my entire pregnancy and basically did everything I did

pre pregnancy! As I got closer to giving birth, I would of course lighten up the weights and not do as

many sprints [laughs]. Pregnancy was a piece of cake for the most part. I was in labor for only a couple

of hours and when it came time to push she was out in minutes!

What are the benefits of working out while pregnant? Does it really matter?

Working out while pregnant is very important! As long as you were in shape before pregnancy and

the doctor gives you the okay, then there is no reason why a pregnant woman shouldn't be working

out. The benefits are amazing! One of the main reasons to work out while preggo is that it lowers your

risk of developing gestational diabetes by 27 percent as well as the risk of preeclampsia! Working out

while pregnant also reduces stress, aches and pains, reduces the chance of c-section, and the obvious,

the effortless snap back after birth!

What are 3 things a woman can do to have a fit pregnancy?

One of the main things to do to have a fit pregnancy is make sure you are working out and staying

fit even before getting pregnant! Women think they can just start working out at 6 months pregnant

and have never worked out before. No! Also, just stay active. I kept moving throughout my entire

pregnancy (including at 8 and 9 months), even if it was a speed walk - just something to burn some

calories! Lastly, you are not eating for two people! Many women make this mistake and gain crazy

weight! You are only supposed to be adding around 300 extra calories or so per day, which is nothing!

What is the biggest challenge for most of your mommy clients (biggest problem areas)?

My mommy clients’ biggest problem area is of course their midsection. Everyone wants a mini

waist or the stomach they had before pregnancy. With effort, consistency, and a super clean diet it

is very possible!

What would you tell a woman who is struggling to get back to pre pregnancy weight or even a

place where she feels more like “herself”?

I would tell her that consistency is key. Many women give up too quickly without really giving it their

all as far as eating right and exercising goes. You have to give it some time. You have to understand

you went through a huge body change, but with effort and consistency anything is possible!

What are your favorite workouts for postpartum?

My workouts of course! Plus sprints! Sprints burn belly fat as well as tons of calories and build muscle!

What makes you so successful at training women during pregnancy and after?

I feel like women trust me because I’ve been through the experience before. They see how I

exercised through out my pregnancy. Also, I train so many mommies (before, during, and post

pregnancy) and have helped many women snap back! They have seen my work so they believe in my

method and trust me. u


Featured WAG

Yasmin Jenkins

Meet Yasmin Jenkins, wife of Phoenix Suns guard John Jenkins, soon-tobe

first time mommy and Persian beauty! She is admittedly a behind-thescenes

kind of girl—supporting her man from the sidelines and avoiding the

spotlight—so I was honored when she agreed to an interview. The Jenkins

were recently married last July and are expecting a baby girl in just a few

months! Yasmin shed light on her life being married to an NBA player, her

pregnancy experience thus far, and hopes for motherhood.


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NAME: Yasmin Jenkins

HUSBAND: John Jenkins

LEAGUE: NBA

TEAMS: Atlanta Hawks, Dallas Mavericks, Phoenix Suns

HOMETOWN: Born in Kingston, NY and raised in Atlanta, GA

EDUCATION/OCCUPATION: Bachelor of Science in Sociology. My

husband and I were working on getting our foundation started before

getting pregnant and I can’t wait to start giving back in our own ways.

CHILDREN: Expecting

MATERNITY FASHION: Athleisure. My everyday outfit is Nike

Describe what life is like being married to an

NBA player. What are the perks? Challenges?

Being married to an NBA player can be exciting.

It’s a beautiful thing to see the one you love do

what they love the most. I see John work so hard

day in and day out and truly believe in his talents.

It’s so rewarding when I see him appreciated in

the league. He's been on teams where they were

very guard heavy so he hasn't had his break out

season yet but believe me, its coming. And when

it comes, everyone will wake up! There are couple

challenges though. One being that there isn't

much consideration for family when it comes

to being moved around so quickly. It’s a great

experience living in different cities and exploring

our country but it can be stressful when you have

to pick up and leave midseason or even at the end

of the season, especially while pregnant.

How did you meet your husband? What’s your

love story?

John and I met through a mutual friend about

five years ago. John was very persistent [laughs]

but I was really hesitant to date an NBA player,

especially an up and coming rookie. We were

friends for a few months before I had my

awakening and realized we are soul mates. John

is such a good person and he’s never made me feel

unsafe with giving him my heart. I always said I

wanted to marry a man like my father who would

head-to-toe. If I have somewhere to go, I reach for leggings! I also

love a simple jumpsuit with a cute sweater over it.

FAIRYTALE BABYMOON? Bora Bora!

“Being married to an NBA player can be

exciting. It's a beautiful thing to see the

one you love do what they love the most.”

do anything for family and I feel so lucky to have a husband like John.

What are you most looking forward to about being a mom?

I was that little girl who played with baby dolls. I’ve always felt like I was

born to be a mother and a nurturer. I am so excited to just love this child

and teach her how to be a strong, smart, and good person. I’m also excited

for all of the fun things that come with having children. I look forward to

our little family vacations and all of the milestones we’ll share.

What has been the most challenging part of your pregnancy?

The most challenging part of my pregnancy so far would have to be

being away during the season but having so much to do back home in

Atlanta (our home base). I am a very proactive and structured person

so I started making lists of baby necessities and preparing very early

[laughs]! I also had two weeks of terrible food aversions between weeks 8


can’t work out how I really want to, I’ve been loving walks, especially incline

walks that are kind of like hiking. Also, my husband is a health/nutrition

freak so I’ve pretty much eliminated cheese the last couple years (but oh my

goodness — being pregnant, all I want is cheese). I’m just trying my best to

stay active and eat healthy but still treat myself in moderation!

Do you know the gender? Do you have a preference of boy or girl?

We’re having a baby girl! We initially loved the idea of a boy first so one

day our future daughter would have an older brother like I did and like my

husband is, but as soon as I heard we’re having a girl I fell in love! I can’t wait

to dress her up and have a little mini-me. My husband is nervous but only

because he's thinking way too far ahead…boys and dating [laughs]. We can’t

wait to meet our princess and spoil her.

Did you have a baby shower or are you planning to have one?

I haven't had my baby shower yet. We’re aiming towards late April when I’ll

be about 33 to 34 weeks. I’m not much of a “pink” girl, but I am loving floral

right now. We should probably start planning soon!

What items are on your baby/mommy wish list?

“I was that little girl that

played with baby dolls. I've

always felt like I was born to

be a mother and a nurturer.”

and 10. I couldn't eat anything! I would get

so nauseous if my stomach was empty but

I was disgusted by food. Thank goodness

for crackers and ginger ale! I never threw

up though, which is a blessing because I

couldn’t stand that.

What has worked for you this pregnancy?

Pregnancy has been so easy thus far! There

were those couple weeks of food aversions

and sleepiness but otherwise I have a great

deal of energy and feel like myself. Since I

I’m really interested in the Owlet monitor. Some people say the MamaRoo

isn't necessary but that’s definitely on my list, too. Besides the basics, I’ve

been so obsessed with researching newborn must-haves and the best gadgets.

Setting up my registry has been so much fun.

Do you believe your child will be raised similar to you or different? How so?

I think similar. I grew up with Americanized Persian parents. They were

understanding of both cultures but I love how much they emphasized the

Persian culture. On the other hand, they were very strict. I plan on being

strict too, but I want her to feel very comfortable talking to me about anything

and being best friends (but a parent first, of course). I also love the way my

husband was raised and I’m totally open to his side of things.

What tips do you have for expecting mothers? Expecting WAGS (if

there’s a difference)?

Enjoy this time and understand that every woman is different. It’s so easy

to compare yourself, especially with social media in our faces every day. Go

with the flow and embrace the process. As far as WAGS, if you're living in

two different cities during the season and off-season, try to get a head start

on making lists and preparing for the baby so once you get to whichever city

you're delivering, you'll be more relaxed. u


WAG Life

“Motherhood is a beautiful

challenge. It’s like learning

how to walk or ride a bike

for the first time.”

amount of sleep in order to be fully

present to support and take care of your

baby. Choosing to sleep train our baby

was the best decision we could’ve ever

made. I am much more rested and baby is

much happier.

3. What was the biggest challenge for

you? The biggest challenge was hearing

PHOTO: UNSPLASH

MOTHER’S NAME: TAYLOR POOLE BABY’S NAME: TAUREN POOLE

Where baby sleeps: In his own room and crib

Age you started sleep training: 3 months

Sleeping habits before: Tauren was sleeping all day and

awake most of the night.

Sleeping habits after: Tauren is now sleeping every 2

hours for 2 hours

How long it took to train baby: It took us 2 weeks to

fully sleep train.

1. Where did you first hear about sleep training? I first

heard about sleep training through the book Sleep Easy.

2. Why did you make the decision to sleep train your

baby? It is so vital for every mom to get an adequate

him cry every night until he was able to

soothe himself back to sleep.

4. What is the biggest perk of sleep

training? The biggest perk is I’m able to

rest, clean, work and allow our babysitter

to watch him with out her becoming

restless.

5. Would you do it again (would you do

anything differently)? I would do it all

over again. It didn’t take Tauren long to

adjust to a schedule.

6. What is your philosophy on

motherhood? Motherhood is a beautiful

challenge. It’s like learning how to walk

or ride a bike for the first time. It’s a

daily progression, seeing the seeds

and investments you plant everyday

become a beautiful flower. I’m constantly

reminded of God's grace through the

gift of motherhood. As a mother I have

a responsibility to love, to teach, to

discipline, and to develop good moral

character. For better or worse, mothers

are the makers of men; they are the

architects of the next generation. So it is

my honor to be called “mommy”. u



WAGS Survey

WE ASKED the WAGS!

SURVEY RESULTS

We polled our followers and more than 30 women answered.

Here are the results from our motherhood survey!

NUMBER OF CHILDREN

19

11

8

5

1 2 EXPECTING 3+

31 OUT OF 37

DO NOT have a nanny

SLEEP TRAINING: 50% “YES” AND 50% “NO”

PHOTO: KELLY LANE

75% ARE MOMPRENEURS

OR STAY AT HOME MOMS

Mompreneur is a neologism

defined as a female business

owner who is actively

balancing the role of mom

and the role of entrepreneur.

31 out of 37 wom en wh o respon ded are

WAGS (datin g, en ga ged, or married

to a professional at hlet e)

WHEN DID YOUR CHILD FIRST SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT?

• 27% 3 TO 5 MONTHS OLD

• 22% DOES NOT SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT

• 19% 6 TO 8 MONTHS OLD

• 16% 9 MONTHS TO ONE YEAR OLD

• 16% NEWBORN TO 2 MONTHS OLD


FEEDING METHOD

80% choose brea stmilk or brea stmilk

supplemented with formula

80%

Baby's Sleep Habits

32% CAN SLEEP THROUGH 56% EITHER SLEEP FIVE

9% WORST SLEEPER

THE APOCALYPSE

MINUTES OR FIVE HOURS

EVER

MOM'S TAKE ON FIRST FOODS:

“Everything organic!”

HOW LONG DID YOU BREASTFEED?

• 6+ months (15)

• 6 months or less (8)


• 0-2 weeks (3)

WHEN DID YOU INTRODUCE YOUR

BABY TO SOLIDS?

“I’m doing the modified baby led weaning.

I’m winging it.”

“We do pureed foods from 4-6 months. At 6

months they get everything mom and dad eat.”

FREQUENT FLYER MILES

HOW MANY TIMES HAS YOUR CHILD TRAVELED BY AIRPLANE?

• 3-5 months (16)

• 6 months (14)

• 6+ months (5)


10

10

8

4

4

MOST COMMON FIRST FOODS GIVEN

• Sweet potato

• Banana

• Applesauce

• Avocado

• Rice cereal

NEVER 3-10 20+ 10-20 1-2 TIMES

Wh en di d you ret urn to your pre-pregnancy weight?

*First tim e expectin g m oms n ot included

*Other notable foods: carrots, quinoa,

beets, oatmeal, mashed potatoes, peas,

butternut squash, mango, prunes

• 1-3 months (9)

• 6-9 months (7)

• 9+ months (6)

• 3-6 months (6)

• Less than 1 month (4)

• Never returned (3)

31 OUT OF 37 SAY HAVING A FIT PREGNANCY IS IMPORTANT!


WAGS Survey

FOR THOSE WHO SLEEP TRAINED:

“I have a book I call my Sleep Bible (Healthy Sleep Habits,

Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth). This book is amazing.

Our daughter is a 7pm to 7am sleeper.”

“I used the Baby

Wise book!”

“We started at

around 9 months

for both babies. We

did the cry it out

method and they

learned how to self

soothe that way.”

“We co-slept until our daughter was 4 months old and then the day she

turned 4 months, we put her in her crib. I slept on the pull-out bed in her

room for about a week and then she started to get the hang of it.”

“We started at 6 months after I finished breastfeeding. We had a good

experience, but there were definitely some nights filled with baby cries

where I did give in and let the baby sleep in the bed with me. I put her

on a more regular sleep schedule when she was around 8 months old

and used the rule of 2, 3, 4. The basic breakdown: Wake up, nap 2 hours

later, wake up, nap 3 hours later, wake up, go to bed 4 hours later.”

“I sleep trained at 6 months so he would sleep

in his crib. I used the cry it out method and

a bottle. Worst idea ever! He is now one and

will not sleep through the night or take naps

without a bottle…first time mommy mistake!”

“I used the Baby Wise book to help

and chose what worked best for me

from the book. I started with both

babies around 2.5 months.”

“We did the cry it

out method at 6

weeks with my first

and 8 weeks with

my second.”

“Each child is different, but the sooner they sleep in their own crib the

easier it is. Our first went in his crib at 1 month and slept through the

night 7pm – 7am by three months old. Our second child stayed in our

room for 3 months and took longer to sleep train. We ended up giving

a bottle of formula at bed time and by 5 months she slept through the

night. Our third child started going in his crib at six weeks, and slept

through the night by four months old. We do bath, dim the lights, then

feed. We use a sound machine too…We loosely followed the Baby Wise

sleep training book. The routine of eat, play, sleep is key.”


PHOTO: KELLY LANE

“Do not start

your kids

sleeping in your

bed. They will

never leave!”

“Never forget you. Don’t

get lost in being MOM.

While it’s the greatest

experience in life, don’t

forget who YOU are.”

BEST MOM ADVICE YOU’VE RECEIVED?

“Every baby is different!”

“Let the house go. Don’t feel

bad about clutter and dishes!”

“Sleep when baby sleeps.”

“A bottle fed baby

is just as loved as

a breastfed one!”

“The toughest year of a relationship

is NOT the first year of marriage. It’s

the year you welcome your first baby

into the world! Knowing that helps you

manage expectations.”

“Never wake a sleeping baby.”

“Nurse baby on demand.”

“Trust your instincts as a mom.”

“To pray for my son

daily and not listen to

mom advice. LOL!”

WHAT’S YOUR BEST ORGANIZATION HACK?

“Ziploc outfits together.”

“Clean as you go!”

“Do a little at a time.”

“Organization? What’s that!”

“Put changing necessities in

all the rooms or floors where

you spend the most time.

Also, keep a diaper bag

stocked for if you need to

leave in a hurry.”

“It’s never too early to

have your children learn

the responsibility of

being self sufficient and

doing chores around the

home! Setting up a chore

schedule in our home

helps beyond belief.”


WAGS Survey

RECOMMENDED PRODUCTS / SERVICES:

“Get as many

massages as you

can!”

“Honest Company diaper and wipes

subscription! It’s a timesaver having

them mailed straight to the house

and they’re eco-friendly.”

“Newborn photos.

Yes, they’re so

expensive but just

as important as

your wedding day

photos!”

“UberEats or Postmates app for food delivery service!”

“Laundry service

“For expecting moms, Bio Oil!”

and a trusted inhome

sitter!”

PRODUCTS AND BRANDS:

Uppababy Vista stroller, Maclaren stroller, Doona car seat stroller,

Nuna Pipa car seat, Bloom high chair, Peg Perego high chair, Diaper

Genie, Puj baby bath tub, Blooming Bath baby bath, Halo sleep

swaddlers/sacks, Anais and Aden everything, Carter’s onesies,

Bumbo floor seat, Covered Goods nursing cover, Swaddle Me velcro

baby swaddles, Baby Shusher sleep machine, Solly baby wrap,

Moby wrap, NoseFrida Nasal Aspirator (snot sucker), Earth Mama

Angel Baby Natural Nipple Butter, white noise app on Iphone,

breastfeeding app, Dock a Tot, Guava Family travel crib, Fisher

Price Rock n Play, Boppy Lounger, My Brest Friend nursing pillow

and Madame GooGoo baby carrier.


WAGS Social

WAGS REDEFINED

TAKES SUPER

BOWL LI

WAGS Redefined hosted its first ever private event on

February 4, 2017 at Peli Peli in Houston for Super

Bowl Li. WAGS of various ages and backgrounds

came together to show support for a positive

movement centered on redefining the women beside

the athletes. Founder and Editor-in-Chief, LeShonda

Martin, spoke about the brand and mingled with

guests in attendance. Complimentary brunch was

served and VIP bags were gifted.

WAGS Social

LET'S GET

SOCIAL!

Here's a glimpse at what the WAGS have been up to!



Featured WAG

Chanel Smith

Meet Chanel Smith, wife of Philadelphia Eagles

six-year veteran wide receiver, Torrey Smith, and

mommy to Torrey Jr. (TJ), 3, and Kameron, 7 months.


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NAME: Chanel Smith

HUSBAND: Torrey Smith, 6 year veteran WR

CHILDREN: Torrey Jr. a.k.a. TJ (3 years), Kameron (7 months)

LEAGUE: NFL

TEAMS: Baltimore Ravens, San Francisco 49ers,

Philadelphia Eagles (present)

COMMUNITY WORK: Torrey Smith Family Fund

#G

oals is a trend on social media nowadays. Of course no

mom is perfect, but when I think of moms that are truly

inspiring and #MommyGoals Chanel and her journey

as a mother is one that I admire and I’m not just saying

that because she is a great friend of mine. Chanel is

the most patient, down-to-earth, giving woman, mommy, and wife. Despite some

of the things she has been through, she always has a positive outlook on life and

constantly encourages others to do the same. Learn more about her, her non-profit

work, and why I call her #RealLifeMommyGoals.

Can you talk about how you met your husband Torrey?

What impact has your marriage had on you? career?

goals? If any?

Torrey and I met in college. He played football, I ran track,

and we had a lot of mutual friends. We hung out a few times

and clicked. We became best friends and 7 years later here we

are, no deep story there (laughs).

The impact our marriage has had on my life though, I don’t

even know where to start. I was a bit broken from the absence

of my father growing up. He lived minutes from me but never

played any type of role in my life. To be honest, I’m still

dealing with pieces of that today. When Torrey proposed to

me, it was the first time I felt wanted. Somehow I was special

enough to him, that he wanted to spend the rest of his life

with me. That alone changed the way I viewed myself. It gave

me confidence and strength. It gave me a sense of security

that I had never felt before. In a way it helped fill that void

I always had from the rejection I felt from my father. It also

brought my closer to God. I never had many examples of

healthy marriages growing up. I didn’t necessarily know how

to be a wife. What’s special about our marriage is that we are

learning and growing as we go. He has my back and I have

his. I truly feel that we were put into each other’s lives for a

reason. I thank God every day for bringing Torrey into my life.

That is so sweet. I saw that your husband Torrey was

nominated for 2016 Walter Payton Man of the Year

award. Congratulations to you both! Your foundation has

been very successful. How did you guys get started and

what are your ultimate goals for the foundation?


“Being a mom is my

favorite job. I have so much

fun being with my boys and

I love that I get to mold these

two little human beings into

respectful young men.”

Learn more about Chanel at:

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CHANEL SMITH

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Our non-profit has evolved so much over the years. We started

back in 2011 with simple initiatives. We did back to school

giveaways and holiday events but we both felt like we weren’t

doing enough. The holiday events were fun, but they didn’t

create a lasting impact. Torrey and I both come from families

that needed support one way or another from other people. If

it weren’t for some of the help we received from mentors and

coaches, we wouldn’t be where we are today. We wanted to

provide that same support for other people. That prompted us

to reevaluate our goals and work on programs that would help

students reach their full potential.

Our ultimate goals for Torrey Smith Family Fund is to

impact youth to see themselves outside of their circumstances

and help support them in reaching their goals and dreams.

We want to build a blueprint using our own experiences and

knowledge we gained over the years so that any kid, no matter

where they are from, or what background they come from

can see more in themselves and become successful. We are

in the 2nd year of hosting an annual teen summit. We also

award four [college] scholarships each year [for students in

the state of Maryland], working on an after school program

for students [in the Baltimore, MD], and some other online

initiatives to reach more youth.

Switching gears a bit, tell me a little about your journey

thus far as a mom. How has it been raising two boys? Do

you plan to have more kids?

Being a mom is my favorite job. I have so much fun being

with my boys and I love that I get to mold these two little

human beings into respectful young men. My journey

through motherhood has given my life so much meaning. It

has made me want to be the best version of myself. I stare

at them sometimes and am still amazed that I helped create

them, especially because they both look like my husband spit

them out himself [she laughs at that thought].

As a mother you experience so many emotions. Extreme

excitement when they take their first step, sadness when you

realize they aren’t babies anymore, fear when they fall or hurt

themselves, panic, anxiety, exhaustion, all of the above. It’s

definitely a journey but so worth it.

More kids? Probably. I always say if I didn’t physically have

to deliver them, I would probably have 10 [She laughs at the

idea]. We are currently looking into the process of adoption.

We have too much love to give, why not provide that to a

child who may never really get the chance to experience that?

Speaking of being a mommy, your boys are adorable. You

have the cutest pictures and videos of them on your social

media pages. How do you balance sharing your life and

mommy tips while also protecting your boys?

Sometimes it’s hard to balance. Torrey and I have always been

pretty open with our relationship on social media. We’ve

shared everything from our wedding to the complicated


pregnancy we experienced this past year. I truly feel that

I have a group of genuine followers who love to share and

grow with our family. Don’t get me wrong, every once and

a while I’ll get a comment that makes me lose my cool, and

sometimes random people will run up to TJ like they know

him personally and I freak out. For the most part though,

people are very respectful.

When I posted about my experiences with Kam and the

issues we were facing during my pregnancy, no one crossed

the line. I received nothing but support. It was overwhelming

how many messages I received from women who dealt with

similar experiences or who said I helped them get through a

tough situation. Overall, I just like to connect with people.

The only way I can do that is by being my true self, the good,

the bad, the ugly, funny, whatever. At the end of the day we

are a normal family.

Can you tell me a little more your pregnancy experience

with Kam?

I decided to cancel our gender reveal party after reading

an article. I wanted to focus on being grateful that my

baby was healthy rather than finding an excuse to throw

a big extravagant party. The very next day we received a

call from the doctor that my tests came back irregular.

Trisomy 18 is what we were told our child would most

likely be born with. A disorder that would lead to severe

developmental problems or death before one year of age.

I had to go through a series of testing, each time awaiting

a call from the doctor that would tell us what was wrong

with our baby boy. After a while we decided to stop testing

and put faith in God. We knew that whatever the outcome

may be, together we would be strong enough to handle it.

When he was born, the stress didn’t stop. Irregular test

results, abnormal ultrasounds, low birth weight, something

had to be wrong right? 7 months later Kam is a healthy

baby. Crawling, climbing, babbling, and putting every

single thing he comes across into his mouth. We are so

grateful. Looking back, the support I received from my

husband, family and friends, along with my extended social

media family helped me get through the process.

Besides being an amazing wife, mom, and philanthropist

what are some other goals or dreams you have for yourself

and family? Where do you see yourself five years from now?

childcare center. That obviously was put on hold for awhile.

This past week the conversation opened back up. It’s hard to

focus on carrying out your dreams while being there for your

significant other. Timing is everything. If I want to open the

childcare center I need to be there. That being said 5 years

from now TJ will be 8 and Kam will be 6, don’t make me cry.

I see myself running a successful childcare center someday,

hopefully in the next five years.

Any last words for our WAGS Redefined readers and

new moms?

Do what works for YOU! It’s so easy to get caught up with

trying to be perfect, social media, and the internet doesn’t

make that any easier. Everyone has his or her opinions and

suggestions for how you should live your life, what type

of mother you should strive to be, how you should look.

Staying up with the latest and greatest is exhausting. In the

beginning I tried to be that perfect mom. I followed every

single guideline from the self-proclaimed mommy experts in

the blogs. I quickly learned that it’s okay to make mistakes.

In fact, it’s inevitable.

Do what works for you and your family. NO one is perfect,

even if they appear to be on social media. There is no such

things as the perfect wife or mom.

One last thing before we conclude. How about some rapid

fire questions? Just answer with the first thing that comes

to mind.

Shopping in–store or online? In store.

Mall or boutique? I hate shopping! The mall is overwhelming

so I’d say boutique.

Heels or sneakers? Sneakers. ALL DAY, EVERY DAY.

Movies or books? Movies.

Cookies or cake? Both. Don’t judge me!

What is your favorite thing to do when you have free time

to yourself? Sleep, hands down.

Last thing, what is your favorite thing to do with your sons?

PJ's on, music blasting, singing and dancing our hearts out! u

Funny that you ask. My goals and dreams change daily.

Before we had the boys I was working on opening my own


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PHOTO: UNSPLASH

MY BABIES

SAVED MY LIFE

When Rayan Marks found out that she was pregnant with twins,

she had no idea that her own life would soon hang in the balance.

By LeShonda Martin


"for you know that the

testing of your faith produces

steadfastness..." James 1:3

F

or Rayan Marks, becoming a mother has been a

taxing rite of passage, one encompassing pain,

gratitude loss and triumph. Rayan and I established a

friendship while our husbands played together for the

Jacksonville Jaguars in 2014. When we found out we

were pregnant at the same time, the typical pregnancy exchanges

ensued: “How are you feeling?”, “Any nausea?”, “I am exhausted!”,

“Me too, girl.” Our overjoyed conversations would later be replaced

with ones of concern and sadness after the news that both of her

twins had passed during the first trimester. But her test did not

stop there. Shortly after, physicians diagnosed Rayan with a brain

tumor. I admire Rayan for her steadfastness in strength and faith

following such heartbreak. Now expecting a baby girl this July with

hubby Sen’Derrick, she reflects on an unexpected turn of events

that revealed her testimony…

DOUBLE TROUBLE

When we found out I was pregnant with twins, my husband

and I were so excited. I scheduled a doctor’s visit and first

ultrasound. At six or eight weeks, they were unsure about one

of the twins. I returned to the doctor’s office the next week

and they failed to find a heartbeat for twin A, so only twin B

survived. The doctors called it the “vanishing twin syndrome”.

I felt many emotions but was blessed to still have twin B.

At week 13, I heard a voice urging me to go to the emergency

room because I started feeling pain. I was stubborn and waited

a day before going. This time, I received the devastating

news from the ultrasound tech that a heartbeat could not

be found for twin B. The fetus had stopped growing. I had

to have a D&C that same day [Editor’s Note: D&C, also

known as dilation and curettage, is a surgical procedure often

performed after a first-trimester miscarriage]. I remember

feeling so sad; This was around the time of Thanksgiving and

we had family in town.

FROM BURDEN TO BLESSING

Throughout my pregnancy, I had pretty severe headaches

which prompted me to start seeing a neurologist regularly.

After losing the twins, my headaches stopped for a few weeks

but I had an upcoming neurology appointment. Something

told me (there’s that voice again!) to keep my appointment

with the neurologist and not cancel.

Four hours after this particular visit, the doctor called me and

shared the news that they found a large tumor on my brain. The

tumor, though benign, was on my hearing stem which would

affect my hearing. This news came two days before Christmas.

I got a second opinion but the results were the same. At this

point, I thanked God the tumor was not malignant.

On February 2, 2016, I had a procedure to remove the

acoustic neuroma tumor on the left side of my brain. Looking

back, pregnancy actually caused my headaches to start. Had I

not gone to the hospital because of the headaches, the tumor

would have continued to put excess pressure on my brain and

I would have lost my life!

LEARNING TO WALK AGAIN

The removal of my tumor required 12 hours of surgery

under anesthesia. The doctors cut into my brain twice. I

later found out this was because I was hemorrhaging at the

brain (a blood vessel busted). When I awoke from surgery,

my entire left side was numb and non-responsive. I also lost

a bit of hearing in my left ear. My head was bandaged and I


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NAME: Rayan Marks

HUSBAND: Sen’Derrick Marks

CHILDREN: Stepdaughter Jade and expecting (Due July 23rd)

LEAGUE: NFL

TEAMS: Tennessee Titans (2009-2012) and

Jacksonville Jaguars (2013-Present)

HOMETOWN: Hearne, TX

EDUCATION/OCCUPATION: B.S. in Computer Information Systems, stay

at home mom, VP of The Sen’Derrick Marks Foundation and Director of

Memberships for Professional Football Wives Association

didn’t come to my senses until more than a week later. I don’t

remember anything from that time! I was weaned off of pain

medications quickly because we didn’t want me to become

addicted. I had to learn how to swallow and balance all over

again! I couldn’t swallow fluids or anything soupy because I

had facial paralysis on the left side. I was on a pureed diet for

a month.

I went to physical therapy fives times a week for two hours

a day! This lasted for about a month. Next, I went to an

outpatient facility three days a week for a month. Three and a

half months after my brain surgery, I started Crossfit (which

I was doing before pregnancy). Crossfit actually helped with

my balance, stability, and strength.

I was pregnant and decided to take a pregnancy test. When

it came back positive, I just stared at it for 20 minutes and

couldn’t believe it. I took another test and it came back

positive. I bought a third pregnancy test from another brand

and had the same results!

We were both very excited when we found out but my

husband didn’t want to get his hopes up. We agreed we

wouldn’t get attached to this pregnancy until we found out we

could definitely go through with it. I failed with that though

because when we found out the gender, I was immediately

attached! I’m most looking forward to just being a mom.

Someone calling me mom, looking up to me and depending

on me is so exciting!

EMBRACING NEW BEGINNINGS

I’m still not 100 percent myself. I’m still recovering from the

paralysis a year later. I have facial movements but it’s not the

same as before. I have decided to embrace the new now, the

new normal. Surgery is different for everyone. Some people

bounce back in six months and others in two or three years.

TOUCHDOWNS AND TUTUS

My husband and I have so much to look forward to,

including another year of him living out his dream on the

football field and the baby girl we’re expecting in July. We

waited almost a year after the twins to start trying again

and became pregnant relatively quickly. I just had a feeling

FROM PAIN TO PURPOSE

After my experience, I decided to become a mentor for the

American Brain Tumor Association. I want to bring comfort

to individuals with the same type of tumor I had. I recently

came across a fellow WAG on the WAGS Redefined page

who went through the same brain surgery I had. I reached

out to her husband for her number so that we can connect

some time after she recovers from surgery. I figured she may

want to speak to someone who went through what she’s

going through.

Everything happens for a reason. God does not put us through

storms to fail. If I could do it all over again, I would. I made it

through the test and now it’s my testimony! u


WAG Recipes

By Marissa Allen

Quick

& Easy

Chicken

Pot Pie

Things are hectic, the whole family is likely sleep deprived,

and dinner is usually haphazardly thrown together. One of

most thoughtful things someone can do for a new mother

is bring over a meal. So many people ask what they can

do to help and I always suggest bringing dinner. It’s a life

saver! Bonus points if you bring some paper plates and

cutlery so dishes don’t have to be washed. This recipe

would be a great one to take over— it’s comforting and

makes enough for leftovers.

In gredi en ts

• 1 pie crust*, thawed • 1/4 C Flour

• 1 lb chicken breast, (2

1/2C cooked + diced)**

• 1/2 C reduced sodium

chicken broth

• 3 tbsp of salted butter • 3/4 C whole milk

• 1 C Yellow Potatoes, • 1 tsp thyme

diced

• 1 tsp oregano

• 1/2 C Carrots, diced • 1 tsp poultry seasoning

• 1/2 C Leeks, sliced thinly • 1/2 tsp garlic powder

• 1/2 C celery, diced • 1/4 tsp sage

• 1/2 C yellow onion, diced • 1 tsp salt

• 1/4 C frozen peas

• 1 tsp pepper

• Egg wash (1 egg +1 tbsp

water)

* You can also use 2 pie crusts if preferred. Make sure to pre-bake

the bottom crust for 5 minutes before you add the filling. ** I baked

the chicken breast for 15 minutes on 425 degrees after seasoning

them lightly with salt, pepper, garlic powder, and used a tiny bit

of olive oil. You could also use a shredded rotisserie chicken; I just

found this to be easier!

DIRECTIONS

1. Preheat the oven to 375 degrees.

2. Add the butter to a heavy bottom pot. Toss in the potatoes

and carrots. Cook for 4-5 minutes* till they begin to soften.

3. (*if your diced vegetables are on the larger side, this step

might take a little longer.)

4. In increments, add in the leeks, celery, yellow onion, and

finally, the peas. Stir them around till they begin to soften.

5. Sprinkle vegetables with the flour. It will coat the vegetables.

6. Immediately after adding the flour, pour in the chicken broth.

7. Turn the heat to low and stir in the milk.

8. As mixture simmers, add all the seasonings. Make sure to taste!

9. Finally, toss in the diced chicken.

10. Pour mixture into large baking dish or cast iron skillet.

11. Cover with pie crust. Brush egg wash all over the crust. Don't

forget the edges! Cute slits in the top to serve as vents.

12. Bake at 425 for 30-35 minutes. It’s should be golden brown

on top when done!

13. Let cool and thicken for 8 minutes before you serve it. u


Featured WAG


Behin d th e Bran d :

Danielle Forte,

The Danielle Forte

Collection

Meet Danielle, the wife of New York Jets running back, Matt Forte, mommy to

Nahla and Matthew, and business owner. This fashionista earned her degree

in Marketing prior to starting her clothing line, The Danielle Forte Collection.

What I love about Danielle most is that her inner-beauty shines just as bright as

her outer. She is a woman guided by faith and centered by family. Check out more

from her maternity line right here in The Motherhood Issue — The Danielle Forte

Collection is featured on our cover models.

LOVE

How did you meet Matt? What’s your love story?

Matt and I met through a mutual friend. He attempted to

set us up by giving Matt my number but he never called.

Why? Because he had never seen or met me. This was before

Twitter and Instagram and he didn’t have Facebook.

At the end of his rookie year, we both traveled to Super Bowl

in Tampa. We ended up going to the same event unknowingly

and were introduced there. We talked and he asked for my

number. I put my number in his phone and when my name

popped up I was confused. He took the phone and pretended

it never happened and we went on about our conversation.

We laughed and never stopped talking after that. Later on

he told me how he had my number and needless to say it was

hilarious and perfect.

Describe what life is like being married to an NFL player.

What are the perks? Challenges?

Being married to an NFL player is both rewarding and

stressful. We are blessed to be in this position in life and to be

able to use the NFL’s platform to impact the world positively.

It’s amazing when you are there to witness your husband’s

accomplishments. You also gain another family through the

players and their families who encounter some of the same

challenges and can help through experience.


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NAME: Danielle Forte

HUSBAND: Matt Forte

CHILDREN: Nahla (4 years), Matthew Christian (14 months)

LEAGUE: NFL

TEAMS: Chicago Bears (2008-2015), New York Jets

(2016-Current)

HOMETOWN: Hoffman Estates, IL

EDUCATION/OCCUPATION: B.A. in P.R. and Marketing

from Columbia College, Stay at Home Mama, Owner of The

“My biggest challenge is most certainly

the balancing act between faith,

family, football and the business.”

The challenges are definitely the injuries and sometimes

uncertainties. You are watching the man you love send his

body through physical pain day in and day out.

ON BUSINESS

You have your own maternity fashion line named after you

and a baby line called The Forte Collection Baby. Tell us

more on how your fashion business came about and what

inspired the brand?

The line really came out of necessity. I just had Nahla and

knew I wanted to be at home but still work. I nursed Nahla

for 11 Months and Matthew for 12 months. No bottle. We

decided to go on vacation when Nahla was three months old.

I was panicking because I love a maxi dress on vacation but

many of them don’t have access for feeding.

My husband and I were talking and I asked what it would be

like if I started a breastfeeding line because I didn’t like any

that were on the market. It was a great revelation because it

would fulfill my desire to work with my love for clothes and

fashion. My mom always told me when I was not feeling well,

“Danielle, when you look good, you feel good!”

Danielle Forte Collection and The Forte Collection Baby

STYLE ICON: A perfect mix of Zoe Saldana, JLO & Rachel Roy

a mommy an extra pep in her step with my clothes then that’s

more than amazing. As for the Forte Baby collection, your

baby is the cutest most precious thing you have ever loved.

Putting the clothes on them just makes you want to cuddle

them even more.

Describe the Danielle Forte Collection in 3 words.

Chic, practical and playful.

What are your biggest challenges in owning your own

business?

My biggest challenge is most certainly the balancing act

between faith, family, football and the business. It is very

challenging just finding the time when you have two small

children, your devoted hubby, and everything else!

What’s next for The Forte Collection?

We are working on a rebranding of the Danielle Forte

Collection. The Forte Collection Baby will stay as is. As

with anything, since starting the collection I have grown and

the line has as well. The rebrand will focus on every stage

of motherhood from maternity to nursing to motherhood

forever. I’m excited for everyone to see the new items!

As moms we get tired and it’s challenging. If I’m able to give


“We are blessed to be in this

position in life and to be able to

use the NFL’s platform to impact

the world positively.”

ON MOTHERHOOD

Describe your maternity style.

My maternity style is subtly sexy and comfortable.

What’s your go-to date night outfit during pregnancy?

Does Matt have input?

Definitely the leggings with a leather jacket and booties for

a more laid back date. For a more upscale date, my DeeDee

Dress with strappy pumps and a chunky necklace. Matt

always has input. We do it equally for each other. I love to

ask him what he likes to see me in.

Where do you shop for your children’s clothing (other than

Forte Baby)? Fave boutiques?

I’m a fan of River Island, Baby Gap, Zara Kids and Halfsies

Kids (co-owned by Fellow WAG Siggi Bennett).

Do your children act more like you or your husband?

This is the forever debate among family and friends. Truthfully,

they are really the perfect mix of our personalities. Matt and

are I pretty similar with many differences of course. Most

likely because we are both the babies of our families and our

birthdays are two days apart. We are silly and laid back but

will not take any mess.

What has motherhood taught you?

I have always been a perfectionist. Motherhood has taught

me to just roll with the punches and to love unconditionally.

I look to give agape love in all instances.

Learn more about Danielle at:

@SHOPDANIELLEFORTE

DANIELLEFORTECOLLECTION.COM

push forward and stick their toes in my ribs. It was rough but

really taking my time helped a lot.

What are your mommy must-haves? Any good books or

products you recommend?

My go to’s are Honest Company, Meaux Moisture (owned by

Fellow WAG Morrisa Jenkins) and Mielle Organics for hair.

All of their products are natural and actually work. u

What were some of your biggest challenges during

pregnancy?

I had a great deal of morning sickness and my babies loved to



meet our

Women in STEM advocacy groups would applaud the two ladies featured on our

cover of The Motherhood Issue 2017: Quiana Fluellen and Naja Cowan. Quiana,

a doctor of Physical Therapy, and Naja, a Biology major and future RN, have

had their fair share of science classes. Both women shatter the negative stereotypes of what a

WAG looks like and does on a daily basis. Educated, down to earth, and sweet as can be, they

embody the essence of most the women I’ve come to know in this professional sports world.

I met Quiana and Naja through mutual friends (NFL wives) but was able to connect with them

on a deeper level through this interview and photo shoot process. We bonded over stories of

pregnancy and motherhood. We laughed figuring out the right pose to emanate feelings of

“I’m having a baby and I’m thrilled about it!” The ladies were radiant on set and such a joy to

be around. I encourage any woman who lives in the world of sports to form a fellowship with

other WAGS; this life can be isolating but don’t allow it to be. Read more about the fabulous

mommy of two and soon-to-be mommy in this exclusive interview with WAGS Redefined.

Art Direction & interview by LeShonda Martin / Photography by Kelly Lane

Styling by Urcia Pearson / Clothing provided by The Danielle Forte Collection

Hair by Sharonda Mack / Makeup By Paisli B

Cover WAGS

Quiana

Fluellen

Wife of Andre

Fluellen, retired NFL

player and 39

Weeks Pregnant

TRIMESTER: Third

DUE DATE: February 22

HOMETOWN: Gainesville, FL

EDUCATION/OCCUPATION: B.S.

in Exercise Science and minor in

Psychology (Florida State); Doctorate

of Physical Therapy (University of South

Florida); Physical Therapist

CHILDREN: Lyric (20 months) and

Faith (expecting)

INTERESTING FACT: I do dry needling

(people call it acupuncture).

NURSERIES AND NAMES: We match

each child’s nursery with the name so

Lyric has music notes on her wall and

Faith’s nursery has heavenly images

(clouds and angel wings).

“We wouldn’t be able to do what we do without

the NFL ( from insurance to traveling).”


Naja

Cowan

Girlfriend of Deion

Jones, NFL athlete for

the Atlanta Falcons and

22 Weeks Pregnant

TRIMESTER: Second

DUE DATE: June 14

HOMETOWN: New Jersey

EDUCATION/OCCUPATION: B.S.

in Biology (Loyola University),

Future nurse

CHILDREN: Pregnant with first

INTERESTING FACT: I ran track in

college on scholarship. I was going

to go to LSU where Deion went

(coincidentally) but decided not to.

RAISED RIGHT: My child will probably

be in the public eye just because of

who her father is so that’s different

“I’m due in June and my plan is to

go to nursing school in September.”

than how I grew up. We’re going

to teach her you have to work for

everything you want and that she’s

not better than anyone else.


“I work out four times

per week with my

trainer. We do squat

variations and focus

on the hips to make

labor easier.”


How did you and your partner meet?

NAJA: Deion and I met through mutual friends at a Mardis

Gras parade. I was in college and he was a senior in high

school. I blew him off initially. I met him again a year later and

we exchanged numbers because my friend talked me into it.

We didn’t get together then but two years later. My friend told

me he played football and that made me deny him even more!

Deion was very persistent. Our first date was to get sushi and a

week later, he confessed his love for me. He says it’s because I

did not want him that made him pursue me even more.

QUIANA: I went to Florida State and ran track, and my

husband played football there so that’s how we met. I was so

anti-athlete because I was an athlete. I said I would never date

an FSU football player because of their reputations. It’s a long

story but we ended up dating. Andre went off to Detroit when

he was drafted and I went to Tampa for my doctoral program.

We married in July of 2013. He’s from Cartersville, Georgia so

we decided to buy a house in Atlanta as our home base. I moved

up here [Atlanta] after school and I travel back and forth.

Far from jersey-chasing! What are the perks

and challenges of being in a relationship

with a pro athlete?

NAJA: The perks are definitely traveling, going new places,

meeting different people, and the various events you attend.

The disadvantages would be time with your significant other,

especially in-season. Their schedules are very busy. He goes

to work 6:00 AM to 6:00 PM and trying to balance and

understand it’s a whole different lifestyle.

QUIANA: I met so many awesome women in Detroit!

Meeting the other NFL wives is my favorite. I’m still friends

with some of the Lions ladies. We stay in contact. Having the

opportunity to impact the community is also very rewarding.

The biggest challenge is the 53-man cut! Training camp…

your husband stressed out…not knowing. I call it D-day,

Doom’s day! It can truly hurt a guy’s self-esteem. You get cut

so many times and it can break you down. Thank God he’s a

Christian man because that lifestyle tears some people apart.

Naja, the Falcons recently played in Super

Bowl Li! Describe that experience.

NAJA: It was awesome! I was happy because he was happy.

Him being a rookie and knowing where he came from—

he was not a starter his first three years in college and was

projected to be drafted in the seventh round. He ended up

being drafted in the second round, started as a rookie and

not only that, went to the Super Bowl! How many rookies

can say that? For me, it was emotional because ya know, he’s

been through it. The Super Bowl itself was amazing. Arthur

Blank really took care of the families. He covered the private

jets, transportation, and our hotel. We even had a family

room for breakfast, lunch, dinner and 24 hour snacks! As for

the game, the experience, atmosphere, fans, and Lady Gaga’s

performance, it was amazing!

Quiana, your husband is recently retired.

What has the NFL meant for your family?

QUIANA: To me, our lives have pretty much revolved

around the NFL since I’ve been with Andre (off season and

in season). On a positive note, we wouldn’t be able to do what

we do without the NFL (from insurance to traveling). It’s

still been a blessing regardless of the cuts and trades. We’ve

been able to sustain our lifestyle.

The NFL has a partner program with Cigna called the

NFL happy babies program. They assign you to a nurse case

manager who calls and follows your entire pregnancy. She

checks on you with each milestone. First, you call the hotline

(your husband should have number) and they set you up with

a nurse and help you find a nutritionist. At 28 weeks they

cover your electric breast pump. You are also given $600 after

the baby is born which pretty much helps with copays. You

can call the hotline any time you have questions about your

pregnancy. If you don’t have a healthy and smooth pregnancy

they have other resources. I appreciate that program because

it makes pregnancy easier.

Let’s talk motherhood and pregnancy!

How’s it going?

NAJA: It’s been good. I had nausea in my first trimester. I

was sick as a dog. Second trimester, my nausea has subsided.

I definitely have a little more energy. I do workout four times

per week with my trainer. We do squat variations and focus

on the hips to make labor easier. I also do the treadmill,

arms, and a little bit of abs!

QUIANA: This pregnancy has gone by very fast because I

have a toddler at home. My first pregnancy, everything was


“My first pregnancy,

everything was planned and

went perfectly. Now? I have

to set reminders in my phone

to get things done.”


and facilitates pelvic alignment. He has helped reduce my back

pain by 80% and I promise you I feel so much better (and that’s

coming from a physical therapist).

Naja, what are your plans once the

baby is born?

NAJA: I’m due in June and my plan is to go to nursing

school in September. After I drop my baby, I have to get my

application together. I want to go Chamberlain College of

Nursing in Atlanta.

Quiana, you are a breastfeeding advocate.

Any tips for those mommies looking to nurse?

planned and went perfectly. Now? I have to set reminders in

my phone to get things done. I haven’t gained as much weight

with this second baby as I did with my first daughter (probably

because I’m so busy). Most importantly, Andre is home now

and helping out a lot so that’s the biggest difference.

Naja, what do you most look forward

to about being a mom?

NAJA: I think just passing down what my mom has taught

me to my daughter.

Quiana, do you have any tips for

first time moms?

QUIANA: I was so opposed to advice and went “by the books”

with Lyric. This time around I just go with the flow of things

and will continue to do so after she’s born. I’ve learned by

experience. I won’t be so opposed to suggestions and advice such

as using certain medicines for teething or gas. Girl, whatever

works for this baby I’m going to use! I need my sanity this time

around [laughs].

I’m having a doula at the hospital this time so that’s different. I

think I want someone to help coach him [Editors note: She says

this while pointing at her husband]. I hired a doula when I first

found out I was pregnant. I’ve also been going to a chiropractor

and doing yoga. The chiropractor has been helping a lot. He does

the Webster technique which helps loosen the round ligaments

QUIANA: I breastfed Lyric for 16 months. I lost weight very

quickly with the breastfeeding. It saves money and it’s good

for us both. I joined many breastfeeding groups on Facebook

and found this app called Mamava (mamava.com) that gives

you locations of all the breastfeeding pods. You probably

don’t recognize these lactation suites but they’re everywhere!

I suggest breastfeeding moms download that app! And if you

can’t BF, don’t be hard on yourself. It’s not for everybody!

As for weaning, Lyric was over a year old and on solids. I was

3 ½ months pregnant with my second and still breastfeeding

my first! It didn’t feel right. The #1 thing that made me stop

was when my daughter bit me and laughed! I was like, “Okay!

You’re eating at a buffet, you’re eating the same things as

me, you’re walking around…it’s time!” My husband started

putting her to bed instead of me and we went cold turkey. She

was fine and I was fine with the weaning. I didn’t cry because

I started to have more energy for the new baby.

Do you ladies have any mommy must-haves?

NAJA: What’s it called? The mamaRoo swing.

QUIANA: With the second one you don’t overthink as

much. I was more of a bargain shopper this time around.

I went to estate sales for baby furniture. Lyric is writing all

over everything and scratching stuff up. Since I’m having two

girls there will be some hand-me-downs. We knew what to

buy off the registry this time around and what not to. We

wasted a lot of stuff with our first child. You don’t need a baby

swing, rocker AND a mamaRoo. Take something back if the

baby doesn’t use it— don’t keep it! We had a lot of stuff in

boxes that we never used, a lot of duplicates. u


WAG Travel

MOTHER’S NAME: JESSICA JOHNSON

In Savannah, Georgia, the Spanish moss-draped oaks that canopy cobblestone

streets and public squares are enough to make you swoon. In fact, Savannah’s

beauty is only rivaled by the Ambrosial Lowcountry cuisine, preserved Pre-Civil War

Era architecture and the resilient Gullah culture, crafted by descendants of Africans

brought to America via the trans-Atlantic slave trade. One thing’s for sure, there’s no

shortage of wonder here. Just a stone’s throw from our home in small-town Wesley

Chapel, North Carolina, Savannah is a familiar and romantic getaway that my husband,

Will, and I have been relishing in since we got married in 2013. After we found out that

our family was growing by two tiny feet, we decided on one last trip before our duo

would become a trio.

Sa vannah is

steeped in

romance and

hi story.


“America’s first planned city,” as it’s very well known, was masterfully

developed to accommodate two-dozen public squares and parks.

Thin gs To Do

During the Antebellum Period, wealthy

plantation owners-prospering from an

extremely lucrative cotton industry built

opulent mansions throughout the city.

Will and I have had the opportunity to

tour several of these beautifully-appointed

homes and become familiar with the rich

intricacies of their past. If you look closely,

you’ll notice deep depressions in the bricks

used to construct many of these homes.

Savannah Grey Bricks or Savannah Grey’s,

as they’re famously known, are indented

with dozens of finger prints of the slaves who

had handcrafted them. If you’re interested

in architecture, overwhelming history or

artful storytelling, I recommend Old Town

Trolley Tours.

“America’s first planned city,” as it’s very

well known, was masterfully developed to

accommodate two-dozen public squares

and parks. The largest and most wellknown

park, Forsyth Park, plays host to

an abundance of social activities, including

musical concerts and a robust weekend

Farmer’s Market.

If you’re touring Savannah’s historic

district, a quick snapshot of the Forsyth

Park Fountain—located at the north

end of the park—will surely become a

treasured keepsake. If the sweltering heat

of the summer becomes too much to bear,

casually rest along any one of the many

shaded park benches.

Located at 36 West Broughton Street, The

Paris Market and Brocante, is one particular

boutique, among many, that you should take

an hour or two to explore. The Europeaninspired

market affords visitors the unique

opportunity to shop items procured from the

world’s most exclusive bazaars.

Wh ere ToSta y

Directly across from the tourist-friendly

Cathedral of St. John the Baptist, you’ll

discover Mirabelle Inn & Suites. This

particular boutique inn is far more than

a comfortable place to rest and recharge;

its refined design—a cool combination of

Southern charm and classic, European

elegance—paired with fine, custom linens and

furnishings will leave nothing to be desired.

What To Eat

If you’re unable to book a reservation at the

four-suite inn, still treat your tastebuds to the

Mirabelle Cafe, the city’s only spot serving

up authentic Belgian Liege Waffles. If you

find yourself leaving Savannah without

sampling one of Mirabelle’s specialty

waffles, turn around.

Our favorite waffle, the Turkey Melt, layers

turkey and melted Muenster cheese between

two delightfully sweet Liege Waffles.

As far as fine dining goes, the city is blessed

with far more than its fair share of options.

Mrs. Wilkes Dining Room, Alligator

Soul and The Olde Pink House all top the

culinary “who’s who”.

But, if you’re willing to drive a bit off the

beaten path, our preferred restaurant,

Elizabeth on Thirty Seventh, is a

remarkable gem.

Lastly, if you follow your nose, you’ll wind

up somewhere along River Street, where

traditional Southern Pecan Pralines are

churned ‘round the clock in enormous

copper pots. If you’ve never had the pleasure

of sampling this classic homemade candy,

you haven’t lived. Our advice to you, buy

more than you think you’ll need because

they probably won’t make it back home! u

1. Mirabelle Cafe

2. Spani sh Moss

3. Horses

4. Th e Paris Market


WAG Travel

MOTHER’S NAME: NATALIE HILLS

When you're pregnant, there's a ton of advice you'll

begin to receive from everyone around you. With

all the suggestions on a number of topics I had

whirling around me, it's no surprise the idea of a vacation AKA the

#babymoon, sounded particularly appealing. This pre-baby vacation

has quickly become one of the fastest-growing trends in travel

today and is becoming the norm for most couples. Across the board,

everyone felt strongly about the babymoon being an important time

to bond before baby arrives, ideally during the second trimester

when most women feel their best.

Relaxin g an d unwindin g in nat ure.


Once the season ended and we were ready to leave for off

season, we decided to make the babymoon a priority

and planned a last minute trip to Santa Barbara.

Unfortunately for me, I was sick through most of my second

trimester and we were also in the midst of football season so

I kept putting it off. I almost let go of the idea. It seemed

like a lot of planning for my sluggish baby brain and with my

growing belly, I wasn't feeling particularly mobile! Once the

season ended and we were ready to leave for off season, we

decided to make the babymoon a priority and planned a last

minute trip to Santa Barbara. Thank you to my friends who

introduced me to my new favorite noun, Babymoon. I am

beyond happy we found the time because it was such a special

weekend. It was nice to get away and spend time together for

our last vacation, in the foreseeable future, with no schedule

(or sippy cups, diapers, and every other foreign piece of

equipment we know nothing about yet) before our little one

arrives. Of all the advice I received during pregnancy, this

was one recommendation I’m happy we made a priority.

Here are some photos from our trip, most of which were

taken by my sweet man and dad-to-be who is proving to be

exceptionally talented in another arena, photography. u


WAG Health Life & Beauty


HOW TO ROCK YOUR

MAMA STRIPES

WITH CONFIDENCE

By Kristel Da vid

As women behind professional athletes, we sacrifice a lot more than we get credit

for. We often put our dreams and goals on hold to stand behind our men. We

endure many things that come with the territory. And though much of the life is

fun and rewarding, there’s also a high standard placed upon us to be nearly perfect as it

relates to our physical appearance. It's hard not to place this standard upon ourselves.

While eating well, exercising and taking advantage

of top-notch products and services to maintain our

physical appearance may be a luxury many of us have,

we are still only human and weather mama stripes

just like any woman would.

I have four beautiful daughters that are ages 9, 5, 3

and 1. What I choose to post on social media and

how I dress in public don’t show the stripes I have:

extra skin on my stomach, lopsided breasts with

stretch marks, and abdominal separation. I’m not

sure if certain muscles on my body still exist! I often

find myself wondering if my husband will trade me

in for a waist trained 20-something or if he still

thinks I'm sexy like he did when we first met.

But then I have to snap out of that mindset and

remember that one of the sexiest characteristics of a

woman is her confidence. Our confidence shouldn’t

come from our physical appearance. It radiates from

within. Yes, I am all in favor of keeping yourself up,

looking and feeling fly. However, you can appear

perfect on the outside and still lack beauty and

confidence if you’re not in tune with what unique gift

you bring to the world.

We all get mama stripes after bearing children. Some

don't come in the form of a stretch mark or unwanted


Learn more about Kristel at:

WIFECOMPLEX

WIFECOMPLEX.COM


What I choose to post on social media and how I dress in public

don’t show the stripes I have: extra skin on my stomach, lopsided

breasts with stretch marks, and abdominal separation. I’m not

sure if certain muscles on my body still exist!

number on the scale. They’re often more mental than physical. It is easy

to lose yourself especially when comparing yourself to all the other

mamas in the world.

Know the difference between the stripes you can and can’t change and

make the best of it! Here are a few of my tips:

1. High-waisted clothing

High-waisted anything gives you life! You can pair a bottom with a

crop top to still show some skin but cover up some of the extra stuff.

There are lots of sexy high-waisted options.

2. Accentuate the Positive

Wear clothes that accentuate the parts of your body you do love. Even if

that’s only your pedicured feet at the moment! Show them off in a bomb

pair of heels or focus on a new lipstick color. Find a focal point in your

outfit to be happy about so you can take away from the areas you aren't

as proud of.

3. Mindful Eating

Our bodies need 18 months to recover all of the nutrients lost after

having a baby so be sure to fuel your body well! If your body isn't

properly fed it won't act right and that's when we start experiencing

hormone imbalances, thyroid issues, jacked up metabolisms and all of

the bodily malfunctions that can lead to unwanted physical, mental,

and emotional disparities. I have an 80/20 rule and am happy to share

my post baby regimen with anyone who needs some guidance!

4. Exercise – Do what works for your body.

There are so many forms of exercise: Running, Zumba, Yoga, Pilates,

gyms, and walking with your babes in the stroller. Just get active and be

consistent.

5. Love yourself – Be proud of your stripes.

Show yourself grace. Don't get caught up on perfection but do strive to

be a better you each day. As you scroll through your Instagram feed or

see other mommies slaying at the game, remember we all put our best

forward. Don't get caught up comparing yourself and feeling defeated. u


WAG Recipes

Introducing solids was such an exciting experience. My

daughter is now 2, but I was passionate about whole foods for

her first food experiences and thought I would share some tips.

TOP, L to R: oatmeal, pears, butternut squash.

MIDDLE, L to R: broccoli, spinach. BOTTOM, L to R:

sweet potatoes, acorn squash, green beans.

By Marissa Allen


I opted to do a little baby-led weaning as

well as purees. I did this so she would start to

experience different textures and work on her

motor skills (picking up different sized foods), but

would also make sure to get the nutrients and

goodness from the purees.

WHAT IS BABY-LED WEANING?

Baby-led weaning encourages the baby to

self-feed finger foods. Don’t expect immediate

success— you will still need to give a bottle/

nurse just as frequently.

WHEN IS BABY READY?

• A lot of research suggests around 6 months

is a good time to try and introduce solids.

• Baby can sit up well without support

• Baby is willing to chew

• Baby shows interest in your meals

Foo ds To Start With:

• Steamed sweet potato wedges

• Steamed broccoli florets

• Blueberries (cut in half)

• Ripe pears

• Ripe peaches or plums

• Bananas

• Raspberries

• Avocado wedges

• Steamed apples

• Spaghetti squash

• Steamed zucchini planks or noodles

• Cooked pasta

We started with 1 puree a day. We gave the same

food 3+ days before we combined it with something

else or introduced a new food (watch for potential

allergic reactions). Taste every combination: if you

don’t like it, they won’t either!

Puree Id ea s

• 1/2 C Applesauce + 1/2 C Oatmeal

• 3/4 C Sweet Potato + 1/2 C Broccoli + 1/4 C Applesauce

• 1/2 C Spinach + 1/2 C Butternut Squash + 1/4 C Green beans

• 3/4 C Butternut Squash + 1/4 C Sweet Potato

• 1/2 C Broccoli + 1/2 C Butternut Squash

• 1/2 C Acorn Squash + 1/2 C Green Beans + 1/4 C Pear

• 1/4 C Beets + 1/2 C Applesauce + 1/4 C Pear

• 1/2 C Oatmeal + 1/4 C Blueberries

• 1/2 C Oatmeal + 1/4 C Sweet Potato

* All veggies above were steamed

Resources: mamanatural.com, babyledweaning.com and lalecheleague.org


WAG Life

By Tenisha Patterson

Brown, Esq.

INFERTILITY

A Non-Traditional Journey to Motherhood

PHOTO: UNSPLASH

Prior to starting my journey to motherhood I knew very little about fertility

issues and I had no interest in learning more about the topic. I assumed that

I would have no problem getting pregnant and it was only a matter of time

before my husband and I could bring home our little bundle of joy. I had no idea that

at the age of 29 I would be faced with the possibility of never becoming a mother.


Learning Something

was Wrong

After months of trying to

conceive, I grew impatient

with the process and I decided

to make an appointment

with my OB/GYN to discuss

some potential aids that

would help get me pregnant

quickly. I had a set timeline

in my mind that I had to

meet and I was determined

not to let anything or anyone interfere with it.

My physician referred me to a specialist and I learned that I

would have to have surgery. One of my Fallopian tubes was

blocked and it had to be either cleared or removed in order

to even attempt to get pregnant. I was optimistic and despite

not wanting to have surgery I was prepared to do whatever

I needed to in order to become a mom. My surgery resulted

in the removal of one of my Fallopian tubes and scar tissue

blocking the remaining tube. My options to conceive were

now limited to in-vitro fertilization (IVF).

Living for IVF

Following my surgery, I immediately jumped into the IVF

process. I started hormones which included countless shots

and pills. Although I tried to prepare myself mentally for the

entire process, I could have never imagined how taxing on my

body the process would be. After my stimulation and retrieval,

we ended up with five viable embryos. My husband was in the

midst of off season workouts preparing for pre-season, and we

didn't want to run the risk of him missing a fresh transfer. So we

froze our embryos and scheduled our transfer to accommodate

his football schedule like most of the things in our life. We

transferred two embryos and by the grace of God our first

transfer was successful.

Pregnancy & Loss

We're pregnant! I remember getting the call that the transfer

was successful just like it was yesterday. My physician was so

excited but she quickly reminded me that my work was just

getting started. I had to be super careful and strict about my

medications. I was meticulous with my injections despite how

painful they were. I was determined to "win" and I wasn't going

to let a little injection stop my dream. With disciple I was able

to push through to the stopping point for my medications. I

was elated and we were ready to move forward with our baby

girl. We decided to name her MacKenzie Grace because by

the grace of God we were pregnant. One day after feeling

a little off for a few days, I asked my husband to take me to

the hospital. I was a first time mom and I had no idea what

to expect on a day to day basis, I didn't want to take any

chances. I was in excruciating pain and right before I got in

the car my water broke. I was almost 18 weeks and we knew

that the likelihood of survival was slim to none. We lost our

blessing that I had worked so hard for just before Christmas.

I couldn't process how God could bless me with our miracle

baby and then take her away so abruptly. For months I cried

and prayed, and prayed a little more. Initially I prayed for

answers but then I prayed for healing.

After suffering loss, I immediately wanted to try again despite

my husband and my physician's reservations. We couldn't figure

out why it happened and no one had any concrete answers on

how to prevent it from happening again. Despite this I was

prepared to try round two. Unfortunately, I was stopped in my

tracks. My body wasn't ready and I had to have a MRI. We

waited a few more months after my MRI came back normal

and started the process again. We went through our second

transfer but this time we only transferred one embryo. The

transfer failed. I had to have surgery again and this time it was

due to the loss of my daughter. Although I was disappointed

and frustrated, I kept pressing forward. I had two more

surgeries and months of medications but I was finally ready

for round three. Unfortunately, God had alternative plans. My

third transfer failed and I was devastated. We were officially

out of embryos and I couldn't process what was going on. I have

always been a woman of faith and I truly began to question why

God was putting me through this trial.

A Blessing in the Valley

Throughout my journey to motherhood, I fervently blogged

about my highs and lows. I have been extremely candid and raw

but that vulnerability allowed me to connect with other women

and men struggling with infertility. God was in fact using

my journey, my words, and my trials to inspire and encourage

others. My unconventional journey to motherhood has not

only been a blessing to others but a blessing in the valley for

me. Although our family has not expanded, we have grown in

my marriage and as individuals. We modified our perspective

and decided we are no longer struggling with infertility but

triumphing infertility. We have faith that God will bless us

with children but on His time. As I continue through this

process, I remind myself daily that God gives His toughest

battles to His strongest soldiers, I am not alone, and that by

faith I will be a mother again someday. This is in fact my test so

I can have a testimony. u


WAG Life

By Yesenia Burton


PHOTO: UNSPLASH

KEEPING

the SPARK

ALIVE

The Balance Between Wifey

and Mommy

I’ve noticed this baby boom in the WAGS world and feel

so excited for all the families! I’m expecting our third

child any day now. Thinking about bringing a new baby

into the mix took me back to our families’ first couple

months raising little ones. It is such a beautiful whirlwind,

yet there are definite relationship shifts and challenges.

Whether it’s your first or third child, your relationship

enters new territory so I want to discuss maintaining the

rhythm with your partner.

Let’s be honest! The demands of having a family and maintaining the

relationship you once had is a constant challenge. Fact is, no one hands you a

manual on how to balance the demands of a family and even if they did, there

is absolutely NO one-size-fits-all way to marital and family bliss.

You’re a mother. You might have this new baby, this helpless being who needs

you for literally everything, you might have an older child who needs more out

of you to meet school and athletic demands, or you could have a range of ages!

No matter the scenario, your “mom duties” are difficult to step away from and

your attention is always on meeting your kids’ needs before anything else. That


sometimes makes it super easy to look over

at your partner and see a perfectly capable

man. After all, he doesn’t NEED you. He

can surely see that you’re busy, right? This

is his child you are tending to and he can

hold on.

Notice the TRAP right there: the priority

shift. In that moment, you choose to

devote your time to the one who you feel

needs more from you immediately, BUT

the PROBLEM with that is- the bigger

picture shows you that your partner was

your original baby. The attention, time, and

love you gave your partner ended up giving

life to the child in front of you.

It’s important to keep in mind

that your child is the product

of your relationship.

Children are the living, breathing picture

of the both of you. When you prioritize

growing in the relationship that created

them, children will absolutely reap the

benefits! Demonstrating a healthy, loving,

functional relationship to your kids plants

the seed that will eventually teach them

about true partnership and a relationship

where both people serve each other willingly

and lovingly.

“Children are the living, breathing

picture of the both of you. When you

prioritize growing in the relationship

that created them, children will

absolutely reap the benefits!”

How can we improve demonstrating

that in our day-to-day? Again, there’s no

manual or magical three-step blog I can

give you, but here are two things to keep

as a priority as you navigate this challenge

in your own family:

The first piece of advice people will usually

tell you on this topic is make time for

“date night” once a week. I DO believe

time away from your children with your

significant other is imperative. However,

weekly “date night” tends to turn into a

manufactured production and scheduled

occasion just to carve out time together.

When you prioritize your time that way


the grocery store- grab his favorite candy to

bring home. Do not let the demands of the

day-to-day restrict what you can do to make

each other feel valued even in the smallest

ways. They add up.

Finally, you married an

athlete, not a psychic –

COMMUNICATION IS

EVERYTHING.

Oftentimes, with new responsibilities

however exciting they may be -comes

this inevitable overwhelming feeling that

manifests differently in both partners. I’ve

found myself feeling absolutely insane some

days and I look at my husband thinking,

“Does he not see this!”

“Be intentional, and communicate before it’s too

late. When you both feel good and better balanced,

it’s so much easier for the romance to find its way

in. When each of you feels valued and heard it

doesn’t take long for the spark to fly.”

and push it all into one night together, life can waltz right in the rest of the

week and may shove your emotions and tough conversations into the one

time you have your mans full attention…yay, date night.

So rather than prescribe you a date night,

I’m going to say BE INTENTIONAL.

Try to be intentional about not only the time you have together, but also apart.

Meanwhile, he is just as overwhelmed in

different ways that I have no concern for.

It’s just not a fair assumption to think, “Is

he not seeing I’m losing it?” because chances

are he’s not. He plays a completely different

role. He’s focusing on another side of things

that you aren’t concerned with either. Take

time to share those concerns with each other

in a healthy manner.

Most importantly, remember to just give

each other grace; you are both holding new

titles in your lives and trying to make them

work together. Even though your children

are the center of your world, do not lose

sight of how they got there…it started with

the man next to you.

Be intentional, and communicate before

it’s too late. When you both feel good and

better balanced, it’s so much easier for the

romance to find its way in. When each of

you feels valued and heard it doesn’t take

long for the spark to fly. Just be careful with

that spark — I’m on baby number three! u

When the kids are sleeping – make sure you’re talking about more than just

the kids or work. If he’s watching a game and you have a mountain of laundryfold

it in the living room near him. Just be there together. When you’re at



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