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Contents

Staff

The journey to

adulthood

The Lasso staff’s

favorite birthdays

Making friends as an

adult

4-5

6-7

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Adviser | Joseph Alderman

Editor-in-Chief | Laura Pearson

Managing Editor | Maddie Ray

Engagement Editor | Brielle Gines

Top 10 things to do in

your 20s

Who do you want to

be?

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9

10

Graphic Designer | Stephanie Vo

Staff Writers | Eclipse Stark

Karyme Flores

Clarise Tujardon


Presents

Brandi

Chastain

Two-time Olympic gold-medalist,

coach & sports broadcaster

Paup Lecture Series

Oct. 11, 7-8 p.m.

Student Union at Hubbard Hall

and livestreaming online

Register: twu.edu/pauplecture/2022-paup-lecture


The Journey to Adulthood

by Clarise Tujardon

As a little girl, I always dreamed of what it would

be like to be a woman, especially when I reached

my 20s. I envisioned it as having the perfect

boyfriend, having the perfect friends, and having

the confidence that I always wanted.

But I was wrong.

Graphic by Stephanie Vo

Being in my 20s is not all that I imagined it to

be. The reality is, it is full of heartbreak. Not just

romantically, but friendship-wise as well. Your

confidence is challenged all the time.

I have only been in my 20s for about five months, and I have faced many challenges that broke me and

built me back up. A part of me wanted to just curl up into a ball and cry forever, but I knew I needed

to keep moving forward. I knew that a few years down the road, I will be laughing at all of these

challenges, and all of these memories will just feel like a distant memory.

Romantic heartbreak hit me harder in my 20s. I always thought that heartbreak would not hurt as much,

but it hits harder because this is where I hoped to figure everything out. And at the same time, this is the

stage where I figure out what I want and do not want with a man.

Throughout my life, the greatest romantic love I ever had was like the love Stefan and Caroline had

in “Vampire Diaries.” From that relationship, I feel like I grew as a person, and knew who I wanted to

be, both in and out of a relationship. And most of all, I knew the type of love I wanted to have, one that

made me feel safe and loved.

While friendship hit harder than romantic relationships in my 20s, the hardest lesson I have learned

during this time is that friendships come and go, just like boyfriends, and that is a heartbreak that is

equally, or sometimes worse than romantic heartbreaks.

These past few weeks, I have reevaluated my friendships. I have realized that I need to do that in order

to evolve as a person. As much as I wanted to believe that the friends I make will be my friends forever,

in my 20s I have come to realize that that is not the case.

Were those friendships good for my mental health? Did those friends have my best interest at heart?

Primarily, did those friends help me grow as a person? One that helps me grow from a caterpillar to a

butterfly.

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These are questions that I need to think thoroughly about, especially in my 20s. Friendships during this

time of my life are greatly tested. I need to keep the friends that are mature and can create a positive

impact upon my life.

I had to cut out many friends from my life because of the negativity they brought me. Those decisions

were soul crushing and broke me with each friend that I cut out of my life. A part of me felt like I was

being selfish and that I was being a terrible person for cutting those people out of my life.

I felt like I did not cherish the good times we had. All the laughs that we shared and the friendships we

had built with one another as we grew up. A part of me felt like I did not recognize the person I was

becoming.

While another part yelled at me to stay in those friendships, I endured all the pain I was feeling so I can

save everyone else. It was so bad to the point that I felt like I was always saving others, and I wished

someone else was there to save me. At the end of the day, I knew I had to do that for my well-being.

Yet, the most important lesson that I have come to learn in my 20s is that it is alright to choose myself.

There is nothing wrong with that. I have to do what is best for myself first before helping others out.

Choosing myself was the best decision I have ever made in my 20s because it gave me a great deal

of strength, one that I never thought that I would ever have. As a girl, I always wanted to be there for

everyone and make sure they were happy, even if it meant sacrificing my own happiness for their sake.

And as I grew up, I knew that was not a healthy thing to do.

This new strength made me feel like I was unbreakable, and that whatever challenges life throws at me,

I will be able to face it with my head up high. The way a strong woman would be.

My newfound strength helped me fall in love with the strong, independent woman that I am slowly

becoming. That is the love that I want to build at this time in my life. This strength is giving me the

confidence that I have always wanted to have, the one where I am loving the woman I am slowly

becoming, minute by minute.

Being in my 20s has been a wild ride, to say the least. But it is also a time of growth, maturity, and soul

searching, a place in your life where you will be able to find yourself. It is a place of transition from

being a child, and turning into the person you want to become.

And to every person reading this, the overall message I want to send to you is to enjoy your 20s, enjoy

the person you are slowly becoming, because there will never be another time like this in your life. You

are amazing, just the way you are.

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THE LASSO STAFF’S

favorite birthdays

“My favorite birthday was when I turned 16-years-old. I had a big party with

all of my friends, and my mom made a dessert table with a cake from scratch. I

played games all night with my friends, and I will always remember that party.”

Laura Pearson, Editor-in-Chief

“My favorite birthday was my 18th birthday. I completed my senior year of high

school online because of the COVID-19 pandemic so I was struggling with not

getting to see my friends. My mom knows that cows are my all-time favorite

animal and planned a big cow-themed birthday party for me.”

Maddie Ray, Managing Editor

“My favorite birthday would have to be my 20th. It was earlier this year and

it was very special to me because I was crossing over into adulthood in a

new way during a tumultuous time in my life, and it marked a symbol for me

in blossoming into a bee which I got tattooed on me around the time of my

birthday. I reigned in the new decade with an ice cream date with some of my

closest friends and it was very near and dear to my heart.”

Brielle Gines, Engagement Editor

“My favorite birthday was my 19th birthday. I was on campus for RA training

that day so I didn’t get to officially celebrate it, but the friends I made that day

have become some of the people I am closest to now and I am very grateful to

have been able to get to know them.”

Stephanie Vo, Graphic Designer

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‘‘If I had to choose my favorite, I would choose my 20th birthday because on

that birthday, I am no longer a teenager or a girl. Although the one thing that

I always liked about my birthday is that it feels like I’m celebrating it on two

different days because I was born in the Philippines. To me, that makes me

feel like Queen Elizabeth II, since she celebrated her birthday on two different

days.’’

Clarise Tujardon, Reporter

“My favorite birthday would probably have to be my 12th birthday. My mom

and I decked out the entire house in black and pink decorations, we had a

Death Note cake with all the detectives from the anime, and all of my favorite

foods were set up. My 12th birthday was the first time my mom allowed my

friends to sleep over at our house. We did everything a sixth grader could

possibly enjoy from prank calls, to karaoke, to scary stories. While most of

those friendships dwindled as I got older, those memories will always be some

of my favorites and I will always cherish them.”

Karyme Flores, Reporter

“My favorite birthday would have to be my 18th birthday. For the two years

prior I had wanted to visit the NASA station in Houston, but was never able

to. In 2021 we finally got the chance. At the time the station had exhibits over

the Apollo missions, the shuttle tour of different recovered ships, Mars future

deep space exploration, and the Johnson station tour, showing the comms room

used during the Apollo mission tours. For me, as someone who aspires to be an

astrophysicist, this was a dream.”

Eclipse Stark, Reporter

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Making Friends as an Adult by Karyme Flores

According to a study by the Harvard Graduate

school, 36% of American adults feel serious

loneliness. The majority of that percentage is

young people aged 18-25 years old. Friendships

are an integral part of being a human, but as

people ascend into adulthood, making and

maintaining friendships becomes less sustainable.

Making friendships break down into pleasure

friendships, where you find something you both

relate to, utility friends, where friendships are

based around work, and complete friendships,

where friendships are based on one’s virtues and

character. When people get older, finding pleasure

friendships lessen as we prioritize professionalism

and careers. Adulthood also minimizes the

chances for unplanned interaction and mutual

vulnerability. Without intentionally looking for

other adults, the environment to form friendships

is less accessible in adulthood.

“In general, as an adult you have more demands

on your time, when you’re working, you’re in

school, you’re driving here and there,” professor

of Love and Loneliness Dr. Brian Harding said.

“We rarely have the time required to engage in the

deepest form of friends as Aristotle would define

it, so we’re left at best with utility friends, you

know people that we work with or people that we

are just nearby to but don’t necessarily have a lot

in common with or a deep connection.”

Harding explains that many adults are not

exposed to the circumstances to build friendships

because adults are often trapped in a triangle

cycle. The triangle cycle is the monotony of work,

home and running errands. The lack of variety

in this system causes adults to meet less people,

decreasing the amount of pleasure and complete

friendships.

Graphic by Stephanie Vo

Adult friendships are also affected by the fact that

as people grow older, they want to put time and

effort into their more significant relationships. The

American Psychological Association spoke to Dr.

Marisa Franco, and she defines this as socioemotional

selectivity hypothesis. Adults begin to start valuing

quality over quantity, because they see life more

limited on time.

“Adult demands on time prevents them from having

the time to form deep friendships,” Harding said.

“If what you are doing is going to work, going home,

running errands and you’re stuck in that triangle it is

very hard to develop friendships.”

Overall, Harding encourages adults to build their

virtue and goodness, and use that goodness on others

to take themselves out of the triangle cycle.

“I would say the first step is to develop virtue so you

attract good people around you and then treat those

people well,” Harding said. “That should go a long

way toward building friendships, provided of course

that you put yourself in situations where you can meet

people.”

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Top 10 Things to Do in Your 20s

By Clarise Tujardon

1. Fall in love with yourself

The relationships that we have with ourselves are the

most important, and our 20s are a time when we get to

know ourselves better. This is the time when we find

ourselves, the person we want to become and fall in love

with the person we are becoming.

There will be small moments in your life that later

become life-changing and will help you embrace the

qualities that you did not know you had, and in turn will

make you confident. As this happens to you, you will

start to love yourself more, because, without that selflove,

you will not be able to truly love someone else.

2. Reevaluate your friendships

Friendships change just like you. It is a time when

your friendships will be challenged, especially with the

friends that you have had since your childhood. This is

a time of personal growth and a phase of transition for

everyone.

3. Save Money

Opening up a savings account and putting in even a

small portion of your paycheck every month will be

beneficial down the road. You never know when you

might need to use it. If the COVID-19 pandemic taught

us anything, it is that you never know what can happen.

It is up to you to be prepared when situations like these

occur, and it is extremely important to keep a set of

emergency funds aside.

4. Give yourself a new wardrobe

As you age, your style will evolve and you may need a

new wardrobe to accommodate that change. When you

are out at your favorite store, go pick out a few pieces

that are within your budget.

5. Accept that you are going to make mistakes

When envisioning our 20s, we usually think that we will

have it all together and never make mistakes.

At any time in your life, you will make mistakes, just

like you did when you were younger, and that is okay.

You will still make mistakes because you are learning.

Graphic by Stephanie Vo

6. Do not be too hard on yourself

In your 20s, you will feel pressure to keep it

together all the time. You want to show that

you are perfect.

You are going to have negative emotions.You

have the right to feel that way. You are entitled

to your own emotions.

7. Treat yourself

Treating yourself can mean taking a 30-minute

break from studying, taking a walk around

the park, or buying your favorite type of food.

Treat yourself for all the hard work you do.

8. Choose yourself

The most important person in any situation is

you. There is nothing wrong with choosing

yourself, it does not make you selfish. It just

means you love yourself enough to find your

inner peace.

9. Use your voice

Using your voice in your 20s is important,

it will help you grow as a person because

our most brutal critics tend to be ourselves.

By using your voice, you are choosing your

path in life, and that will help you make your

decisions in life.

10. Take a risk

You will never be in your 20s again. This is the

time to take a risk, live your life the way you

want to live it and enjoy every minute of it.

You never want to look back and think “what

if?”

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Who Do You

Want to Be?

By Brielle Gines

The 20s can be a very pivotal time for a young

adult’s life as it represents this interesting limbo

of becoming an adult, but also not quite being in

your desired career field as of yet.

One thing that can also be intimidating while

being in this decade is deciding whether or not

you are wanting to continue with a passion your

younger self once had or venturing out and trying

something new.

Image of Loren Freeman

Image of Leilani Blackstad

Ultimately, the choice is yours. You can

unequivocally do anything that you would like

and have been impressed upon your heart to do

as you navigate this new decade for yourself.

“I want to be a helper,” TWU student Loren

Freeman said. “I want to have a positive impact

on the world whenever I look back on my life.

I’ve always enjoyed helping others.”

Freeman also shared her life plans and what she

plans to do after graduating.

“My life plan is to graduate with my bachelor’s

from Texas Woman’s University,” Freeman said.

“And then I want to go on and pursue a master’s

degree. I’m not quite sure in what yet, still

figuring that out.”

Freeman shared the importance of wanting

to help people after graduating from graduate

school.

“When I work with people in some shape or

form, I really want to make a positive impact and

help others after college,” Freeman said. “I’d

love to have a family of my own. I don’t want to

get married but I’d love to have kids.”

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Leilani Blackstad, an 18-year-old Business

Administration major, shared her insights on

who she would like to be and her life plan after

college.

“I want to be a body piercer in the future,”

Blackstad said. “It’s just something that I

really enjoy and it helped me through a lot

with depression. It was something that I really

enjoyed and enjoyed watching other people do.”

Blackstad shared that piercing is one of those

things that you are constantly learning and

found to be interesting.

“I want to open my own piercing shop one day

and hopefully have some tattoo artists along

with me,” Blackstad said. “I kind of want my

shop to double as a school. I want to be able to

teach younger people that it’s okay to express

yourself, because I didn’t really get to express

myself when I was a kid.”


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