The Hull Hub Issue 22

RELEASING YOUR INNER CHILD
with Dawn O’Donoghue
Do you find yourself repeating mistakes over and over again? Perhaps choosing the wrong kind of partner or responding to situations in a completely
inappropriate manner? Maybe angry, emotional, or feeling a failure? Or, do you go to a defensive strategy instead of being calm and rational? Then an
Inner Child Workshop would be ideal for you.
These Workshops
(small
group or individual)
are
not looking
to blame your
parents or carers.
It is not
about finding
fault with your
childhood (which was probably good) or you. The methods
are used to seek out those subtle moments, words,
or actions, that changed your reaction to something in
the process of growing up. Even the simplest of phrases
changed your thinking.
’You are a big girl now!’ often leads to weight issues.
‘Calm down’ can result in not being able to control your
anger.
‘Stop crying!’ switches off our emotional responses and
makes it difficult to express ourselves.
We’ve all heard them said or maybe even said them ourselves.
It is the tiny events, the misunderstood, unintentional or
cruel comments you received. The expectations of how
you should respond to a situation by those around you
or just not being informed of your self-worth can have
a real impact on your self-esteem and consequently on
your behaviour today. Faced with a similar situation,
we literally regress to how we would have behaved as a
child. And often, we don’t know why we behave in that
way.
In many cases, our behaviour changes when we feel rejected
or overlooked. In the past, whilst growing up, we
didn’t get the support we needed at that precise time
to solve a problem. Or, as is often the case, we felt we
simply were ‘not good enough. This can lead to OCD or
overachieving in our adult life, it can make us anxious
without reason, apathetic or withdrawn.
Acknowledging that everything that happens as we develop
has a consequence in our adult life gives us the
freedom to change how we behave today. Whenever we
feel criticised or criticise ourselves, we are ‘acting out’
something from the past. It has to stop. You deserve the
best possible life.
I know one particular client (currently in her forties) who
constantly refers to herself as stupid. If anything goes
wrong she immediately takes the blame and qualifies
this with ‘I’m so stupid aren’t I?’. This cycle of self-blame
and punishment drives her entire life. It has impacted
on her expectations of herself, and her choice of friends
and partners. It has made her feel like a lesser being as
she constantly compares herself with others, lacks confidence,
and has incredibly poor self-esteem. She isn’t
living her full life potential.
Releasing your Inner Child resets your thinking. It allows
you to see why you continue to make mistakes. Why
do you pick partners who are wrong for you? To stop the
pattern of self-depreciation that is probably holding you
back or making you overcompensate. To control outbursts
of anger or sadness.
A typical Inner Child Workshop session involves questionnaires
and assessments to estab-lish how you feel
about yourself. There are fun activities and childhood
sweets too. Also, used are simple exercises, including
the use of drawing (and you don’t have to be an artist)
that demonstrate what areas of your life need to be addressed.
Every session includes re-laxation or meditation
through hypnosis or visualisation to allow regression
through the var-ious stages of childhood and
adolescence. You travel back in your mind to when you
were a child, to tell the Inner Child how appreciated
they were, to embrace the joy of childhood. The whole
process is a journey of self-discovery and psychological
analysis which enables you to heal.
So, if you feel you have some unresolved early issues or
find yourself
trapped in anxiety,
de-pression,
low
self-esteem, or
weight issues,
then this is an
excellent pathway
to explore
as it allows you
to find the cause of your life patterns or outbursts. It
gives you back control of your life, freedom to think, and
the ultimate in reparenting yourself.
If you would like to know more, contact New Day Therapies
on 07775429575 or check out the website https://
www.newday-therapies.co.uk.
We are here for you…to set you free.
Plans revealed for ancient city site
Plans for the future of the South Blockhouse
site have been revealed.
The proposals were made publicly available
for the first time yesterday, Sunday 4 December,
at a community engagement event at the
Fruit Market with residents in the surrounding
area and visitors able to be amongst the
first to view the new images.
The plans are also available to view online
here with an opportunity for residents to
share views on the proposals and help shape
how the site tells the stories of the South
Blockhouse.
The proposals will see the site completely
transformed, with hard and
soft landscaping framing the
footprint of the South Blockhouse
and majestic, ghostly
structures rising from the
ground to give a sense of the
structure and scale of the original
building.
Councillor Paul Drake-Davis,
Portfolio Holder for Regeneration,
said: “The South Blockhouse
captured everyone’s
imagination over the summer
during the 11-week archaeological
dig, exposing the astounding
remains of parts of
Hull’s Tudor defences.
“The council is really keen to get feedback on
these plans on how we celebrate and highlight
the site for future generations.”
Located on the east bank of the River Hull,
the South Blockhouse is a Scheduled Ancient
Monument of both national and local importance,
in a rare cloverleaf design. Its construction
was ordered by Henry VIII in 1541
to support military campaigns and to protect
Hull as a vital port from internal and external
threats, working as one element in a larger
scheme of state-of-the art defences on the
east side of the river.
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