FLAWZ Magazine ◊ 2

31. A: I think its something I struggle with because I noticed things like the bashing and
exposing.. although I’m out I don’t feel safe with my sexuality or fully accepted. It’s also a
thing where I don’t want my sexuality preference to define who I am or my work. I treat
everybody the same, with respect. It’s always professional. I definitely held back a lot
before because of that fear.. of doing something flamboyant or something deemed gay
just because that word has become a derogatory word in a sense. I had to learn that it’s
okay.. it all came with age. As to my advice with someone struggling to come out or unsure
of their sexuality... don’t drag people into it. Always be 100% honest because someone
can catch feelings and that person who is out and proud is the one that’s going to
suffer more in the long run. Try to find a support system.. someone you can really trust.
There’s always ONE friend who you can tell anything to you without judgment. Find them
and just do what you gotta do without hurting someone else in the process. It’s not easy
but you’ll feel better when you except it. It doesn’t automatically become easy either nor
do butterflies and rainbows start coming out. But you will definitely feel a weight off your
shoulders. Do it when you really feel you’re ready. Not because you feel forced. It’s YOUR
story to tell, not anybody else’s. Period.
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