2022/2023 Marriage Meander KZN - Wedding Planning Magazine

ISSUE 14 | 2022–2023
Y O U R W E D D I N G P L A N N I N G J O U R N E Y
W E D D I N G
V E N U E S
P L A N N I N G 1 0 1
P E R F E C T
M A T C H
Your guide to finding the
perfect setting in KwaZulu-Natal
to tie the knot
Our wedding pros share
their top tips, global trends,
and style advice
Find trusted and talented
service providers in
our wedding directory

CONTENTS
3
Note from the Editor
4
Publisher’s Details
5
Off to a Great Start
Wedding planning wisdom: Our 15 top tips | 6
Your last flamingle while you’re still single | 11
Your money matters | 14
Wedding budget breakdown | 16
17
I Do
Planning your wedding ceremony | 19
Live streaming your ceremony | 20
Legally speaking | 21
23
Venues
How to pick the perfect wedding venue | 25
Venue information | 28
How to make an outdoor wedding work for you | 35
39
Tastes
Choosing the best catering partner | 40
Questions to ask your baker | 43
10 Cake trends to look out for in 2023 | 44
45
The Write Style
Wedding stationery trends to wow your guests | 47
Stationery timelines | 50
Pro insight: Gift registry | 50
57
All Dressed Up
Wedding dress trends 2023 | 58
The groom’s game plan for getting ready | 67
69
Setting the Scene
How to pick your wedding colour palette | 71
The rise of the wedding lounge | 76
Planning your wedding lighting | 78
Floral FAQ for brides | 80
81
Photo & Film
Your photo poses cheat sheet | 83
Choosing the right photo & film team for you | 88
Your wedding day timing guide | 90
93
Music
How to create a sensational soundtrack for your wedding | 95
40 Song suggestions for your first dance | 98
99
Honeymoon
The perfect honeymoon: Our top 10 tips | 101
Your honeymoon essentials packing list | 106
109
Advertisers’ index
111
Parting words
51
Hair & Make-up
9 Wedding make-up tips every bride should know | 53

Note
from
the
editor
The question was asked. The answer was yes. Congratulations, you’re
engaged! Anyone who has ever planned a wedding will tell you that it
marks the start of a busy but thrilling journey.
So, where to begin? Well, right here amidst the pages of
the 2023 Marriage Meander publication, of course! Our
wedding planning magazine is designed to educate and
inspire. We share valuable insights and tips to make your
planning that much more fun and efficient. All the
weddings featured in our magazine tell the love stories
of local brides and grooms, just like you.
The Marriage Meander publication and website serve as
a directory for some of KwaZulu-Natal’s most talented
and trusted wedding professionals and some of the
country’s most spectacular wedding venues and
honeymoon destinations. You can source your entire
wedding dream team right here within the Marriage
Meander portfolio!
As you find yourselves at the start of your wedding
planning journey, may I encourage you to do these three
things:
1. Don’t rush through the stages
Yes, you are excited about becoming a Mrs
(#totesnormal) but you are only a fiancée for a
short while. Savour your last days of being a Miss.
3. Have fun
If planning your wedding doesn’t feel fun, ask
yourself why. Are you too busy? Are you paralysed
by too many choices? Are you afraid to disappoint
others with your choices? Yes, life is going to get
busy during this season and there are bound to be
days when you are just too tired to work on your
seating plan. But this should be a time of joy and
excitement! I would love to connect you with a
supportive, skilled and enthusiastic team to help
remove some of the roadblocks so that you can
enjoy all the stages leading up to your big day.
Remember, as long as love is at the centre of your
celebrations, everything else will fall into place.
Enjoy your planning—and most importantly, your happily
ever after.
Love,
Jacqui
2. Do some big picture dreaming
Don’t get so consumed with planning your wedding
day that you forget to talk about Life. After. The.
Wedding. Day. Chat to your significant other about
what you want your life to look like as a married
couple. What’s on your Bucket List? What are your
personal goals and ambitions, and how will you
support one another to achieve them?
PS For regular wedding inspo, follow Marriage Meander
on Facebook and Instagram. And sign up for our
Welcome Bride email series to receive our free wedding
planning printables and a weekly dose of wedding
planning wisdom!
NOTE FROM THE EDITOR
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PUBLISHING DETAILS
EDITOR IN CHIEF
Jacqui Neumann
CREATIVE DIRECTOR
Karen Schmidt
DESIGN STUDIO
Tiara Creative
AD SALES
Jacqui Neumann
082 718 5311
jacqui@marriagemeander.co.za
COVER IMAGE
Bailee Guy Weddings
PUBLISHER
Marriage Meander Company
Managing Member Jacqui Neumann
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Credit: NALA Photography
Off
to
a
great
start

Wedding
planning
wisdom
OUR 15 TOP TIPS
Congratulations on your engagement, lovebirds! What an exciting chapter you are about to embark on.
For some couples, planning a wedding is exhilarating and fun, while others find it daunting and
overwhelming. This article provides you with the bare bones of your Wedding Planning To Do List.
The key to making sure that you enjoy this time—in spite of the deluge of decisions and deadlines you will
be faced with—is getting organised. Give yourself ample time to plan and recruit the right team to help
you create the wedding of your dreams.
Here are 15 top tips to get your wedding planning off to a great start:
1. Do a ‘big picture’ brainstorm
Chat to your partner and agree on what you both
want your wedding to look like. Prioritise the details
that are most important to you and be willing to
make some compromises on the rest. Gather ideas
and inspiration from sources like Instagram,
Pinterest, or bridal sites but always stay true to your
personality, preferences and unique style! It is
important to have a good grasp on the design
PRO TIP
Attending wedding
planning events, such as
the Love on the Lawn
wedding showcase hosted
by Marriage Meander, is a
really smart and effective
way to engage with a
number of service
providers in a single day.
You will leave feeling
inspired and informed—
and with a shortlist of
wedding venues and
suppliers for your own
special day!
aesthetic and overall feel you want to create at
your wedding before you start meeting with
potential suppliers.
2. Draw up a budget—and stick to it
Before you dive into your wedding planning, you
and your partner need to decide how much you are
prepared to spend on your day and establish who
else is contributing. Although it may be an awkward
topic to broach, these conversations need to
happen. Bear in mind that whilst your parents may
be willing to contribute, they may also be out of
touch with current wedding costs. Be open and
transparent about your anticipated expenses so
that all parties are on the same page. Once you’ve
determined your budget, stick to it!
3. Draft your guest list
It is important to iron out how many guests you will
be inviting to your wedding before you start setting
up site visits at potential wedding venues. Chat to
your other half and key family members to put
together a wish list of invitees and decide whether
to include ‘Plus Ones’ and kids. Now, more than ever
before, engaged couples should feel free to
envision the size wedding they have always
wanted—whether it be a large gathering of 300
guests, or a small, intimate gathering of your
nearest and dearest.
4. Create a wedding planning file
Get organised and consolidate all your thoughts,
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Credits: Laura Jean Photography
ideas, lists and budgets in one place! To help you do
just that, Marriage Meander has created a Wedding
Planning Blueprint, which includes some lovely free
printables so that you can populate your wedding
planning file with all the checklists you need to stay
on track and tackle tasks like a pro. Sign up for our
email list and you’ll receive regular (free) downloads
of wedding planning wisdom.
5. Choose a date and secure your ceremony and
reception venues
Select a few possible dates for your wedding before
you start venue hunting. Depending on whether you
have guests flying in from afar, we recommend
sending your Save the Date at least six months
before your day to allow your guests to make the
necessary travel arrangements.
6. Book your marriage officer early
Your officiant is a key part of your ceremony as they
usher you into your union and set the tone for the
start of your marriage. Good people are hard to find
so do your research, obtain recommendations, and
ask the right questions such as, ‘Will you personalise
the service to our requirements?’ and ‘Are you
involved in obtaining a marriage license?’
7. Secure the services of a wedding planner
Don’t underestimate the value that a wedding
planner can add to your special day. A professional
planner can help you avoid making costly mistakes
and guide you in your selection of flowers and
décor. They will help you stay on top of deadlines so
that you can enjoy the lead-up to your celebration,
knowing that the details have been taken care of!
PRO TIP
Even if you intend to oversee most of your
wedding day preparations, enlisting the
services of a day-of coordinator to oversee the
nitty gritty details on the day is definitely worth
considering! We have some fabulous planners
within the Marriage Meander portfolio if you are
looking for recommendations.
8. Book suppliers that make you feel at ease
When it comes to booking service providers, it’s a no
brainer that you want your team to be talented and
professional. But you also want to work with people
that you feel comfortable with, especially
considering that you will be spending a large part of
your wedding day with many of them. During your
research phase, arrange a coffee date or video call
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Credit: Vix Photography
with your shortlist of suppliers to make sure that they
are the right fit for you.
9. Choose your wedding party wisely
The friends and family you invite to be part of your
wedding party will provide emotional and practical
support during the wedding planning journey, and
on your big day. When you and your partner chat
about how many people to include in your wedding
party, bear in mind the expenses associated with this
special responsibility. Also consider whether they are
capable of providing the support you need leading
up to your wedding, and if they are likely to play a
significant part in your married life going forward.
10. Read the small print
Before signing any contracts, make sure you read
and understand all the details including dates,
location, times, deposits, additional fees, colours,
quantities, cancellation clauses etc. Insist that all
services are accurately documented in your
contract so that both parties are on the same page.
A contract should outline what happens if either
party cancels, not just the client. Carefully read
policies pertaining to a change in the scope of the
service provided, which may result in the rate being
revised. This is standard practice in the wedding
industry but the onus is on you to familiarise yourself
with each supplier’s terms and conditions. For
example, if your catering quote is based on a
minimum of 100 guests but your final tally ends up at
60 guests, this may affect the catering fee per head.
11. The invitation process
Once you’ve got your date, venue and wedding
party buttoned up, it’s time to notify your broader
circle about your upcoming nuptials. In an
increasingly digital world, many couples are opting
for a digital invitation and RSVP process with
beautiful on-the-day stationery. Of course, if you
have the budget, a pretty paper invitation really
makes a statement and can be a precious keepsake
for your guests!
12. Prioritise your ceremony
Many couples put the majority of their focus on the
reception. But without the ceremony, there is no
reception. During the lead-up to your big day, set
aside time to gather your thoughts and put down in
black and white, the pledges, promises and
declarations of love you wish to express to your
beloved. Remember that your ceremony sets the
tone for the rest of the day.
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Credit: Vix Photography
Credit: Bailee Guy Weddings
13. Build in some quality ’You time’
Most past brides will tell you that the
lead-up to the wedding day feels a lot
like a rollercoaster. Don’t let the
demands of your wedding
planning schedule rob you
of the joy of this season.
Build in some special
time for the two of you
to just be together.
Use this time to
connect and
do anything but talk
about wedding
plans. If possible,
take a week or at
least a few days off
work before your
wedding so that you
can tend to lastminute
details, and fit
in some pampering
appointments—like having
a massage, and getting your
nails done.
Katya Fedkina
Photography
Ruby Jean
Photography
14. Make your marriage the focus
Always stay focused on what is
most important. There are bound to
be things on your wedding day that
don’t go according to plan. Don’t let
them get you down. Nothing about a
wedding is as significant as the marriage
that follows. Your wedding is simply the first
chapter in your brand new adventure as
newlyweds! Enjoy. Every. Single. Moment.
15. Post-wedding admin
If you are heading off on honeymoon straight
after the wedding, arrange for friends or
family to return any rented items e.g. suits,
décor, vehicles etc. and take your dress for
cleaning. Make sure that you have organised
someone to feed your pets, water your plants
and take care of any other home-related
chores so that you can switch off and enjoy
every moment of your time away!
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
OFF TO A GREAT START
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WHO IS RESPONSIBLE
FOR PLANNING THE
Bachelorette?
The responsibility of planning a bachelorette
party typically falls on the Maid of Honour but
anyone in the bride tribe can fulfil the role—and
often the planning duties are shared by a few of
the bride’s nearest and dearest. The bride will
most likely designate the role of chief planner.
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Yourlast Flamingle
WHILE YOU’RE STILL SINGLE
Usually, it’s your bestie or a family member who heads up the planning for your bachelorette. I
recommend that at least one of your party planners should be Little Miss Organised as it doesn’t hurt to
have an organisational wizard tie all the loose ends together!
We have compiled the below planning checklist to help your bride tribe plan an event that’s memorable
for all the right reasons.
1. Plan an event that the bride will enjoy
This may be obvious but in case someone missed
the memo, your main priority is to plan a celebration
that the bride will love. You may be a dancing diva
and fancy the idea of a wild night out on the town,
but your bride friend may be way more excited
about an intimate pamper party with her girl friends.
Make sure you chat to the bride up front about what
kind of party she wants—and also what kind of party
she wants to avoid at all costs.
2. Draw up the guest list
Plan the guest list in conjunction with the bride as
she is the best person to guide you on who to
include. Make sure you have everyone’s names
(correctly spelt) and contact details in order to be
able to send invites and manage RSVPs.
3. Pick a location and date
Once you know what kind of event the bride has her
heart set on, and who needs to be invited to her
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shindig, you are ready to discuss ideas for the venue
and date. A bachelorette party usually takes place
about two months before the wedding so that the
bride doesn't feel overbooked with pre-wedding
commitments right before her big day. You also
don’t want the bachelorette to be scheduled too far
in advance as you want the excitement from this
event to carry her through to her wedding day.
4. Set a budget
Talk to the invitees upfront to see how much they
are willing to spend. Normally, each guest pays her
own way, with the hostess, or bridal party, covering
the bride’s costs.
5. Secure accommodation, transport and suppliers
It’s a good idea to provisionally book your
accommodation and any other suppliers e.g.
caterers or entertainers before sending invites to
make sure that everything is in place before you
start receiving your RSVPs.
6. Create some hype
The best way to start creating some buzz around the
party is to send out a themed Save the Date with all
the event info. The talented stationers in our
portfolio can help with that!
7. Dress code protocols
Dressing up in themed outfits makes for great
photos but remember that some guests may not be
keen to invest in elaborate / expensive / revealing
outfits. If that’s the case, rather provide a dress code
guideline (e.g. Tropical florals if you’re throwing a
Flamingle styled pool party getaway) which allows
guests to wear items they already have in their
cupboard.
8. Lock in the details
This is when the planning steps up a notch. Once
you have a headcount, it’s time to firm up your
accommodation bookings, liaise with suppliers
about schedules and services, finalise catering
(make sure you know if any of your guests have
dietary restrictions) and pay deposits. You also need
to communicate with attendees regarding their
travel plans and estimated arrival times and
document this info on your planning spreadsheet.
9. Get creative
It’s time to plan some special touches to give your
girl an Insta-worthy ‘Miss to Mrs’ send-off! Are you
doing themed balloons, pool inflatables, floral décor,
welcome boards, bar signage or a photo booth
area? What about some bride tribe swag such as
sashes, sunnies, slip slops or veils? Make sure you
book services and order items well in advance—
especially if they are being ordered online and may
have a protracted delivery time. What sort of
entertainment do you have lined up? Is there a
music system at the venue, or is someone taking a
portable boom box with a playlist? Who is going to
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be your designated photographer on the day to
capture all the memories?
10. Final checks and reminders
In the 2–3 weeks leading up to the party, make sure
you check in with all service providers, guests and
fellow organisers. Yes, again. This is your opportunity
to remind them of final arrangements and make
sure everyone is on track for the big par-tay!
The visuals featured in this article are from our ‘Last
Flamingle’ styled shoot at Qambathi Mountain Lodge, an
intimate boutique hotel in the Kamberg.
MEET THE FLAMINGLE
magicmakers
Venue & catering: Qambathi Mountain Lodge
Photography: Laura Jean Photography
Our dreamy two-day ‘Last Flamingle’ itinerary included a
horse encounter, pretty bruncheon on the pool deck,
pyjama party, GnT games night in the pub/lounge and a
sun-kissed pool party, giving you options for a full
weekend of girly fun.
This is how we flamingle, Marriage Meander style!
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
Décor & Florals: Studio Petals
Stationery: Aurora Designs
Loungewear & swimsuits: El Intimates
Make-up: Strawberries & Cream
Hair: Solé Hair and Beauty
Cake: Whisked Cakery
Gift box: Bed Bath & Body | Print with Loop
Concept & planning: Marriage Meander
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Your
money
matters
Credits: (photos) Beyond Measure
(engagement ring) David Batchelor
(venue) Ghost Mountain Inn
(banner) Handmade by Janine
(florals) etc events
With all your expectations for your wedding day, you, like most couples, are likely to find that finances and
issues around money will cause more stress and more disagreements than anything else in your wedding
planning. It's important to be realistic and create a wedding where your dreams align with your bank
balance and you remain true to your values. Much conflict can be avoided by learning from the mistakes
of others, so here are a few tips to help you escape arguments and prepare for your ‘happily ever after’:
1. Start with your budget
That might sound unromantic, but having a budget
is telling your money where to go, rather than your
money controlling you.
Celebrating the start of your life together is a
significant milestone. But do you really want to start
your marriage in debt due to overspending on one
day—just to live up to unrealistic expectations or to
impress your friends or your family? Think about the
real reason you want to splash out beyond your
means.
Before you go in search of your ideal venue, start by
deciding what you want to spend, or can afford to,
and write that number down. You can then start to
plan the day of your dreams that fits within your
means.
Remember that you can have a beautiful day, and
at the same time have everything you want out of
your special day—it just takes some careful
consideration, communication and planning.
2. Have the ‘money talk’ with your family
Traditionally, etiquette told us what roles the parents
of the bride and groom played—including who paid
for what. But times have changed. The average
couple nowadays pays for at least half of the
wedding costs, depending on your situation and
families, so it’s a good idea to start saving as soon
as you have said “Yes”.
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It may feel awkward to discuss finances, but being open and honest up
front will save a lot of disappointment and potential conflict later. Have a
conversation with both sets of parents about their role in your wedding and
let them know your plans and budget. They don’t owe you anything here,
but if they’re willing to help out, it’s good to know how much they want to
contribute. Your parents may be out of touch with what weddings cost
these days.
3. Discuss your priorities
As a couple, communicate your expectations and decide what’s most
important to each of you. For example, if you’re a foodie, you may want to
ensure your guests have a meal to remember, while your partner may want
to put more emphasis on the photography, or music.
Of course, one of the simplest ways to cut costs is to limit your guest list.
But if having lots of people celebrating your big day is your number one
wedding wish, you will have to get creative to keep to your budget.
So, choose your top three priorities and also think what’s not important.
Keep your most and least important priorities in mind as you plan your
journey together.
Plan to spend more if something is top priority, and budget less on things
that aren’t as important to you. You will probably both need to compromise
on some things, to avoid wedding costs getting out of hand.
You should also budget about 5% for anything you might forget! If you don’t
end up spending this, splurge a little on your honeymoon, or put it in
savings towards your first home.
Give the gift that will
last a lifetime
Fun Finance Retreat
for couples
Discover the secrets to:
• Debt proofing your marriage
• Investing for your future
• Living the life you want
Set yourself up for a successful
marriage by aligning your goals
and creating a plan for a
happy, fulfilled future.
Most couples tend to spend at least 15% more than budgeted. This results in
having to use savings earmarked for something else, borrow, or go into
debt. Don’t make this mistake! Plan now so you don’t pay more later.
4. Finally, focus on what’s most important
Above all, remember that your wedding is a celebration of your love for
each other, shared with family and close friends. It’s not about impressing
others or doing what everyone else expects, so stay true to yourselves and
you’ll enjoy your wedding day and the years ahead so much more.
As you plan your wedding, you should also be planning your lives together.
While there are many ways to get married and many ways to express your
love, you only have one life to live. Keep your hearts in the right place and
enjoy the journey together.
by Nikki Sinclair
SO MUCH MORE
David Weeks
083 369 4748
nikki@somuchmore.co.za
www.SoMuchMore.co.za
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Credit: Beyond Measure
WEDDING BUDGET
BREAKDOWN
So by now, you know that you need to knuckle down and
get your wedding budget sorted before you can start
diving into the more exciting aspects of planning your
wedding. But once you have calculated the total figure
that you are able to spend on your wedding, how much
should you allocate to each category?
Based on recent polls done with bridal couples, here is a
general guideline to get you started. But remember, your
wedding is about what works for you. Chat to your
partner about which aspects of your day are most
important to each of you. If you want to spend more in
one area, you will need to reduce expenses elsewhere.
Venue | 30%
Catering & Cake | 20%
Photo & Video | 10%
Décor & Flowers | 8%
Attire | 8%
Music & Entertainment | 7%
Wedding Planner | 5%
Ceremony, Gifts & Other | 5%
Hair & Makeup | 5%
Stationery | 2%
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Credit: Laura Jean Photography
I
do
OFF TO A GREAT START
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Credits: (clockwise from top left)
Laura Jean Photography
Beyond Measure
Ruby Jean Photography
Vix Photography
Katya Fedkina Photography
(opposite page)
Beyond Measure
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PLAnnING YOUR
wedding
ceremony
Your wedding ceremony is the most important part of your wedding day
because it is the moment that ushers you into your union with your partner,
and when you legally tie the knot!
Most wedding ceremonies include these elements:
processional (when the bride walks in), welcome,
readings, vows, ring exchange, kiss, pronouncement, and
recessional (when the couple leaves the ceremony area
as Mr and Mrs). But this is just a guideline and you can
tailor your ceremony to suit your needs.
Since your ceremony sets the tone for your whole
wedding day, here are some of our top tips to help you
plan a ceremony that is memorable:
Book your marriage officer early
Secure the services of a marriage officer as soon as you
have booked your venue. Communicate your vision for
your special day with them so that they can help you
plan a ceremony that reflects who you are as a couple.
Consider the practicalities of your ceremony location
Once you are familiar with the layout of your ceremony
venue, make sure that you have considered practical
details such as:
• Is there enough space for the couple, bridal party,
photographer and videographer to move around?
• If you plan to have a musician, band or DJ, where
will they be positioned and do they have access to
power, if needed?
• Are you reserving seats for parents/grandparents
and the bridal party (if they will be seated)? Appoint
an attendant who knows these guests to direct them
to their seats on the day.
• Make sure the registration table is large enough for
signing the register. If you are on a budget, use the
bridal bouquet on the signing table to save costs on
another floral arrangement.
• Make sure to have a plan B if you have an outside
ceremony so you do not have to stress on the day if
the weather does not play along.
The duration of your ceremony is important
Your wedding ceremony should be meaningful for you
as a couple and at the same time, hold the attention of
your guests.
Are you going unplugged?
If you want your guests to be fully present during the
ceremony, consider having some signage requesting
that they turn their phones off and refrain from taking
photos and videos during the ceremony. Ask your
marriage officer to reinforce this message with an
announcement prior to the start of the ceremony.
Decide how you would like to personalise your day
• Chat to your marriage officer about the tone and
content of your ceremony. Would you like it to be
joyful, celebratory and light-hearted, or reverent,
quiet and sacred? Chat about your beliefs and how
you would like these to be reflected in your
ceremony.
• Your vows should be meaningful and from the heart
so set aside time to work on these. We recommend
that you either repeat your vows after the marriage
officer or have them printed on a card rather than
trying to remember what you want to say. Even if
you have practiced, your nerves might get the
better of you and it is important to focus on each
other when exchanging vows.
• Choose your music wisely, especially the songs to
be used before, during and as you exit the
ceremony. Think about the relevance of certain
lyrics in the context of this sacred moment.
• If you are asking a friend or family member to do a
reading or poem, or sing a song, make sure you pick
someone who is confident and equipped for the job.
I DO
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Home affairs requirements
It is important that your marriage
officer is well informed about all the
legal regulations surrounding your
wedding day. Your marriage officer
will complete the marriage register,
which will be signed and witnessed
on the day, issue you with a
handwritten SA marriage certificate
and will then register your marriage
with Home Affairs within the
stipulated timeframe.
Most importantly, remember that this
is the day you have been waiting for
and working towards for months and
possibly even years! Cherish each
moment.
by AJ & Beulah
Haasbroek
DREAM CEREMONIES
Credit: Ruby Jean Photography
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•Legal documentation for SA and international
•A variety of ceremonies
AJ & Beulah
082 921 6475
•Travel to venues in KZN
•Renewal of vows
•Christenings
| www.dreamceremonies.co.za
| beulah@dreamceremonies.co.za
Technology has made the world
a much smaller and more
connected space and many
couples are now opting to live
stream their wedding ceremony
so that it can be enjoyed by
loved ones who are not able to
attend the ceremony. Since this
can be technologically
challenging, we highly
recommend using a professional
team. You’ll find details for live
streaming specialists in the
Photo & Film section of the book.
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Legally
speaking
Congratulations—you're getting married! Before you get carried away on the whirlwind of preparation
that will consume you for the next few months, please do your homework and make an informed decision
regarding your matrimonial regime.
In South Africa, you have a choice of three matrimonial
regimes that could apply to your marriage:
1. Marriage in community of property
If you do not sign an Antenuptial Contract (“ANC”)
before your wedding, the law automatically steps in,
and you will be regarded as married in community
of property. This means that all the assets you
owned before the marriage as well as those assets
that are acquired during the marriage will belong to
both spouses in equal shares. Even if you owned a
house before date of marriage, your spouse would
automatically become joint owner of the property,
regardless of whether his/her name appears on the
title deed or not. Similarly, any debts owed by either
party become the debts of both spouses. A joint
estate is therefore created whereby the spouses
share all their assets and liabilities. This affects your
contractual capacity and your ability to conduct
business or buy and sell immovable property.
2. Marriage out of community of property
— without accrual
If you sign an ANC with the exclusion of the accrual
system, it results in no sharing between you and
your spouse. In other words, “what is yours is yours,
and what is mine is mine.” You will continue to deal
with your assets and liabilities exactly as you did
prior to your marriage.
3. Marriage out of community of property
— with accrual
This regime was created to ensure an equitable
division of the parties’ assets acquired by their joint
efforts during the marriage. This option results in the
spouse partially sharing in what has been accrued
from date of marriage to date of dissolution of
marriage (whether by death or divorce). During the
marriage the spouses maintain separate estates
and cannot be held liable for each other’s debts. On
the dissolution of the marriage, the spouse whose
Getting married is one of life's biggest adventures!
We would love to help you prepare for your future by
drawing up your Antenuptial Contract and wills.
Contact Sunè Taljaard or Belinda Vermaak on 033 345 4230
sune@masoninc.co.za | belinda@masoninc.co.za
www.masoninc.co.za
Photo: Barefeet
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Wild Olive Photo
estate shows no or smaller
accrual than the estate of the
other spouse (or estate, if he is
deceased) shall have a claim
against the other spouse (or his /
her estate) for an amount of half
the difference between the
accrual of the respective spouses.
Should you wish to be married out of
community of property, you need to
sign your Antenuptial Contract before
you get married. Only a Notary Public
can execute the Antenuptial Contract,
whereafter it will be registered in the
Deeds Office. If you get married
without signing an Antenuptial
Contract, you will automatically be
married in community of property.
It’s very costly to change your marital
regime after the wedding so do your
homework, get excellent advice up
front and make an informed decision
that is best suited for your intended
marriage.
Do not see an Antenuptial Contract
as preparation for divorce. It is
preparation for life together and it
factors in the potential twists and
turns that your marriage journey may
take along the way.
It may seem overwhelming but the
legal aspect of getting married
doesn’t need to feel daunting. With
the right legal team guiding you
through the process, you should feel
excited and encouraged to start your
union on a solid and united footing.
by Belinda Vermaak
& SunéTaljaard
MASON INC
PRO TIP
Making the registraon of
your Antenupal Contract
a quick and smooth process
is just one of the many ways
we can help you.
Since you will be meeting
with a legal professional to
get your ANC drawn up
before your wedding, this is
a good time to update your
wills! Getting married is a
significant change and you
will want to take your new
spouse into account in your
will. If you don’t change
your will, your spouse will
not automatically inherit
anything.
Garth Burne: 031 573 1773
info@burneandburne.co.za
www.burneandburne.co.za
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Credit: Laura Jean Photography

Credit: Bailee Guy Weddings
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Credits: (clockwise, from top left) Lythwood Lodge, Conway Photo & Film | Cathedral Peak Hotel, Beyond Measure |
Bayala Private Safari Lodges | The Groves. Laura Jean Photography | (opposite page) Swallow Cliff Hall

HOW TO PICK THE
perfect
wedding
venue
Finding the perfect wedding venue isn’t an easy job. There are so many gorgeous
options to choose from and so many different criteria to consider, that it can be a
little overwhelming. To help make this process easier for you, we’ve created a
checklist of key considerations when starting the hunt for your ideal wedding venue.
1. Get a grip on your guest list
Draw up your guest list before you start looking at
venues. Knowing how many people you are inviting
will help you avoid challenges down the road. For
example, you may fall in love with a venue, only to
discover that it cannot accommodate your guest
numbers. Understanding your guest tally also helps
you break down your budget so that you know what
venues you can afford.
2. Respect your budget
Another important step to complete before you start
trawling for venues is to figure out how much you
have to spend on your wedding—and more
specifically, your wedding venue. Refer to our budget
breakdown on page 16 for a guideline of how to split
costs per category. If you find a venue you
absolutely love but it blows your budget, you will
need to either scale back on other aspects or cut
your guest list.
3. Choose a venue that suits your vision
Seek out a venue that offers a natural fit with your
overall design aesthetic. For example, if your style is
minimalist, clean and contemporary, it doesn’t make
sense to book a venue that has a lot of detailed
vintage styling—no matter how charming it may be.
Conversely, a venue with lots of built-in personality
and décor elements like chandeliers and wallpaper
may result in you needing to do less on the décor
and floral front and if that’s what you love, then this
is a good option for you. Whether it’s a ‘blank
canvas’ venue you are after, or a venue with
personality that matches your personal style, bear
this in mind when doing your site visits.
4. Consider your guests’ experience
Think about the friends and family members you
want to invite to your celebration and consider the
practicalities of your wedding venue. If your
reception is more than an hour away and guests
cannot easily return home, determine whether there
is enough accommodation onsite or nearby.
If you are planning a destination wedding, factor in
proximity to airports, ease of road travel, ample
accommodation at the venue and an entertainment
programme for the rest of the weekend.
5. Understand what the quote includes and excludes
Make sure you understand exactly what is included
in the venue hire fee and the cost per person. Some
venues quote a fee to hire the reception hall and
then charge per head for catering, while others may
give an all-inclusive cost per person, incorporating
the venue, catering and various other services.
Generally, the venue hire includes the use of tables,
chairs, basic linen, cutlery and crockery but in some
instances, these will need to be hired separately.
Some venues may even include the use of
specialised chairs and a limited selection of décor.
Don’t be shy to find out these details up front, as it
will avoid unnecessary disappointment when extras
are added to your bill after you have paid a deposit.
6. Enquire about the venue’s ceremony location
Most venues have a chapel nearby, but if this is not
on the property, it may result in additional costs. If
the venue does not have a chapel, you could erect a
marquee or stretch tent on the property, but you will
need to check if the venue will permit this. The
setting might be ideal for a garden or outdoor
ceremony but remember that you cannot control
the weather and you need to have a bad-weather
plan in place.
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Credits: (top row, from left) Haycroft Farm, Conway Photo & Film | Bosch Hoek, Vanilla Photography | Highgate Wine Estate | (bottom row, from left)
Harrington House, Vanilla Photography | Gracelands Farm, Beyond Measure | Sani Valley Nature Lodges, Storm Storah Photography
7. Prepare for all weather possibilities
No one wants to be too hot / cold / wet on their
wedding day! Check what weather-proofing options
your venue includes should the weather be
swelteringly hot, freezing cold, windy or wet. Does it
have air conditioning / heating / fans? If it’s in a
marquee or on an open verandah, are heaters or air
conditioners included or can they be hired as an
additional extra?
8. Consider your ‘getting ready’ spaces
Getting ready on your wedding day should be
relaxing and fun. Find out from your venue if they
offer a place for you and your party to get ready
and be sure to check it out when you conduct your
site visit. If there isn’t a space available, and your
venue is far from home, you will need to source an
alternative nearby. And please don’t forget that the
groom and his guys will need a getting ready
space too.
9. Establish if there are minimum requirements
Check with the venue if you need to meet a
minimum head count or spend. Bear in mind that
this may vary depending on the day of the week,
time of day, or season of your wedding. Some
venues offer discounted rates for mid-week or offseason
bookings so it may be worthwhile exploring a
less popular date to benefit from these savings.
10. Find out if the venue offers exclusive use
Ask if other events will be permitted at the venue on
the same day as your wedding and if so, think about
how that will impact on your wedding. What facilities
will be shared, and how will the venue manage
things like noise levels, guest access, bar tabs etc?
11. Understand the venue’s operating parameters
Many venues have pre-determined start and finish
times, which you need to abide by. Will you need to
send your guests packing at midnight or is there an
option to extend the party into the wee hours if
everyone is having a good time? Ask about their setup
and pack-down arrangements. Will you have a
full day before the event to set up, or just the
morning of your event?
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Credits: (top row, from left) Hluhluwe River Lodge | Fordoun, Laura Jean Photography | Sweethome | (bottom row, from left) Ghost Mountain Inn
& Safaris, Beyond Measure | Thorner Estate, Bailee Guy Weddings | Rockabilly Ranch
12. Ask if there is a preferred vendor list
Some venues make recommendations to help you
build your dream team while others will only permit
you to use their tried-and-trusted suppliers. It is
important to note that most venues who do not have
an inhouse catering team have a prescribed list of
outside caterers that they will permit at their venue.
13. Understand what is allowed—and what is taboo
Think about any special décor touches or
celebratory activities you may want to include and
be sure to ask your venue if there is anything they
won’t permit (e.g. pets, confetti, sparklers, lanterns,
suspended décor installations, rose petal turn-down
in the honeymoon suite etc.) before you get too far
down the line with your planning.
14. Enquire about any other policies you need to
know about
Your contract with the venue should cover details
such as payment timelines and cancellation clauses.
Read these carefully and be sure to query anything
you don’t understand or aren’t happy with before
you sign anything.
15. How does the venue make you feel?
Last but not least, does your venue make you feel
warm and fuzzy inside? Whether it’s the offer of a
complementary suite for your wedding night, a bottle
of bubbly when you finish your tour of the venue, or
the way that the staff treat you during your site visit,
these are things that should be factored into your
decision making. You want to feel special and
prioritised by the team that is part of your big day.
Wishing you heaps of adventure and fun as you set out
to find your dream venue!
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
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Venue
information
Venue Area Number of guests Venue Hire Fees
Bayala Private Safari Lodge Northern KwaZulu-Natal 48–120 R38,000–R48,000
Bonamanzi Game Reserve Northern KwaZulu-Natal 20–350 Varies
Bosch Hoek Midlands 24–200 Prices upon request
Cathedral Peak Hotel Drakensberg 200 No charge with 15 rooms booked
Fordoun Hotel & Spa Midlands 180 R42,000–R47,000
Ghost Mountain Inn & Safaris Northern KwaZulu-Natal Up to 170 R13,200–R27,400
Gracelands Farm Upper Highway 30–120 R23,000–R35,000
Harrington House Midlands Up to 400 R22,000–R27,500
Haycroft Farm Midlands 40–180 From R38,000
Highgate Wine Estate Midlands Up to 80 R55,000
Hluhluwe River Lodge Northern KwaZulu-Natal 30–120 R15,000–R36,000
Lythwood Lodge Midlands 60–300 R39,500
Rockabilly Ranch Pietermaritzburg 10–200 Varies
Sani Valley Nature Lodges Southern Drakensberg 30–200 From R25,000
Swallow Cliff Hall Southern Drakensberg 14–100 From R10,000
Sweethome Tala Valley Up to 200 Varies
The Groves Midlands 20–200 R35,000–R55,000
Thorner Estate Tala Valley Up to 200 R22,000
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Accommodation # Beds Accom rate pppn Caterer Catering pp Chapel
DB&B 96 From R1,850 In-house From R440 Outdoor
B&B and SC 184 From R1,200 Various From R350 Outdoor
B&B 16 From R1,160 RC Varies Outdoor
Full Board 254 From R1,440 In-house R430–R480 Chapel
B&B and SC 78 R790–R3,680 RC & In-house Varies Chapel
B&B 74 From R1,060 In-house Varies Garden
SC 5 R460 RC & In-house R250–R440 Garden | Covered Terrace
Bridal suite and 2
cottages, SC
8 Included RC & In-house Varies Garden
SC 34 R550 RC Varies Forest or Farm Chapel
B&B 1 R1,500 In-house R420–R650 Garden | Covered Atrium
Full Board 32 From R1,100 RC & In-house R400–R450 Forest | Garden
B&B or DB&B 72 R990–R1,700 In-house R270–R400
Chapel | Garden
Glass-enclosed Tent
SC 18 From R650 Various Varies Chapel
SC 28 From R950 Various Varies Forest Chapel | Mountain View
B&B 164
From R450 at
Bushman’s Nek
In-house R375–R650 Open terrace
SC 32 From R550 RC Varies Chapel
From R305 (based
Chapel | Garden
B&B and SC 14
In-house
Varies
on 18 pax)
Outdoor River Deck
SC 19 R450 In-house R450–R550 Chapel | Outdoor
SC: Self Catering | RC: Recommended Caterers
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Beautiful bush weddings & honeymoons on a privately owned Big 4 game reserve in Hluhluwe
Photos: Kate Martens
info@bonamanzi.co.za | 0836340895 | www.bonamanzi.co.za
Get married in the mountains
With a charming 120-seater stone-and-thatch chapel boasting breathtaking
mountain views, a wide variety of reception venues, menus and
entertainment, luxurious 4-star accommodation for the bridal couple and their
guests, and a world of adventure right on your doorstep, Cathedral Peak
Hotel will give you a truly unforgettable wedding.
Contact us to find out about our Wedding and Honeymoon Specials.
+27 (0)36 488 1888 | events@cathedralpeak.co.za | www.cathedralpeak.co.za
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At Bayala we custom-make your wedding day, and add a tangible magic to the festivities.
Celebrate beneath Zululand’s iconic acacia trees, in a traditional, all-African boma, or in our
elegant lodge. Wild watering holes and majestic bush panoramas create extraordinary
photographic settings in which to capture your memories of the day.
M a k i n g M e m o ri e s
VENUES
reservations@bayala.co.za | www.bayala.co.za | +27 (0)35 562 0420
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Ryan Graham Photography
Every love story is beautiful
but yours should be unique
Bosch Hoek is the quintessential venue for
those who want the freedom to bring the
vision of their dream wedding to life,
offering an exquisite blank canvas and truly
allowing imaginations to run wild.
076 164 9009 | events@boschhoek.co.za
www.boschhoek.co.za
A luxury, versatile wedding venue.
From our grand 300-seater marquee
site to our intimate hall, we can host
any style and size wedding.
YOUR WEDDING, YOUR WAY
www.harringtonhouse.co.za
Jen: info@harringtonhouse.co.za
066 473 8699
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Photos: Bailee Guy Weddings
A tranquil farm setting
where history and country
elegance meet
076 767 6687
weddings@thornerestate.co.za
www.thornerestate.co.za
Born out of a passion
for wine and romance,
Highgate Wine Estate
is a stylish wedding
venue for up to 80
guests, conveniently
located at the start of
the Midlands Meander.
info@highgatewineestate.co.za
www.highgatewineestate.co.za
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A beauful, farm-style
wedding venue
set in a conservancy
at the foot of a
majesc mountain.
WELCOME TO OUR
FARM IN THE CITY
RockabillyRanchisaneclectic
vintagestyleweddingvenuein
Pietermaritzburg.Tietheknot
inouropenairchapeland
continueyourcelebrationsin
ourlargebarnoverlookingthe
forestandstream.
0828260402
info@rockabillyranch.co.za
www.rockabillyranch.co.za
Photo: Capture It Photography
Exclusivecountryweddingsloadedwithelegance
031 054 5018
info@gracelandsfarm.co.za
www.gracelandsfarm.co.za
www.sweethomeweddings.co.za•0829537911•info@sweethomeweddings.co.za
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HOW TO MAKE AN OUTDOOR WEDDING
WORK FOR YOU
Outdoor weddings are on the rise, and when you
live in South Africa with so many beautiful
locations to choose from, why wouldn’t you want
to take advantage of the great outdoors?
One of the reasons you may shy away from an
outdoor wedding is the unpredictability of the
weather. Whilst rain is considered to be a symbol
of good luck on your wedding day, most brides
would prefer not to be inconvenienced by a
downpour.
That said, if your heart is set on an outdoorsy
celebration, don’t give up on your dream of
being surrounded by Nature when you tie the
knot. Simply put plans in place to ensure that
the show can go on—rain or shine.
Here are some pointers to plan the perfect
outdoor wedding:
Credits:
1. Ensure that you and your guests have
adequate shelter from rain, wind and
Laura Jean Photography
sun—whether that be in the form of a stretch tent or marquee.
2. Anticipate the electrical needs of your various suppliers. Brief them on the
facilities available and have a clear understanding of their power and
space requirements.
3. If there are no onsite ablutions or they are far away, you may need to hire
in additional restroom facilities.
4. Prepare your guests for what to expect. If your wedding is taking place on a
lawn, your guests may appreciate the heads-up so that they can opt for
flats or wedge heels. instead of stilettos. If the reception is taking place in
the evening and is likely to be cool, encourage guests to bring extra layers,
or provide them with blankets.
5. An outdoor wedding requires a lot more forethought than an indoor
wedding as everything will need to be hired in for your day. We recommend
using a professional planner as they have done this many times before and
can save you a lot of heartache.
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
Welcome to our intimate forest lodge
with sweeping views of lake St Lucia.
Our property offers you a choice
of locations, including a bespoke
ceremony site in the Sand Forest,
the deck overlooking the lake,
or our sweeping lawns.
events@hluhluwe.co.za | 035 562 0246
www.hluhluwe.co.za
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Enhle Creatives
Sam’s Photo Studio
Sam’s Photo Studio
082 681 3934 | events@lythwood.com
www.lythwood.com
Create the wedding you
have always wanted
Lythwood—a complete package withachoiceof
indoor and outdoor ceremony and receptionvenues,
breathtaking views, accommodation,exceptional
catering, savvy staff and impeccableservice.
The perfect destination weddingvenue!
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At the foot of the famous Sani Pass,
our scenic lake-side venue provides
the perfect backdrop for your
destination wedding.
Stay on for your honeymoon and
experience 5-star seclusion and
beautiful views of the southern
Drakensberg from your luxurious
honeymoon suite.
033 702 0203 / 082 561 3275
info@sanivalley.co.za
www.sanivalley.co.za
Photos: Storm Storah Photography
A wedding venue in the southern Drakensberg. Unrivalled opulence with a grand reception hall, wrap-around
entertainment decks and lawn, rim-flow pool, luxury spa, world-class catering, and breathtaking views. Perfect for
a destination wedding for up to 150 guests. The Villa has 7 luxury rooms, with ample accommodation close by.
www.swallowcliff.co.za | +27 71 899 6035 | SCHweddings@first-group-sa.co.za
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Photos: Troy Bishop Photography
The Groves is a romantic and elegant wedding venue in the rolling hills of the Caversham Valley,
in the KwaZulu-Natal Midlands. This countryside gem has been lovingly crafted into a beautiful
and intimate venue perfect for weddings of up to 200 guests.
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078 666 8546 | HELLO@THEGROVESVENUE.CO.ZA | WWW.THEGROVESVENUE.CO.ZA

Credit: Ruby Jean Photography
Tastes
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CHOOSING THE BEST
CateringPARTNER
It’s no secret that the recipe to success for any
great party is delicious food—especially when it
comes to your wedding day. People may forget who
caught the garter, what was said in the speeches or
which song you chose for your first dance but they'll remember their
meal—for better or worse.
Here are some tips for couples who are hunting for their ideal
wedding caterer:
1. Do your homework when it comes to your wedding venue
Before you start enlisting the services of a caterer, research your wedding
venue. Some venues insist that you use their in-house catering team, which
is fine if you are a fan of their menu and style of cooking. But if you have
your heart set on a particular dish, or caterer, find out if your venue will
permit outside caterers, or are flexible to tailor your menu to suit your style
and flavours.
IS A BESPOKE MENU AND
CREATIVELY PRESENTED
FOOD IMPORTANT TO YOU?
Then engage internationally acclaimed
chef Jackie Cameron.
Jackie caters for, and hosts, weddings
at her impressive venue in scenic
Hilton – and is equipped to cater at
a venue of your choice.
Your menu will be personalised and
plated to perfection!
www.jackiecameron.co.za
076 505 7538 | jackie@jackiecameron.co.za
2. Discuss your budget with your caterer upfront
Before you start drawing up your menu, determine how much you are able
to spend on your wedding food. Make sure that you share this figure with
your caterer. A professional and experienced catering team will be able to
evaluate whether the menu you want can be achieved within your budget.
They should also be able to provide you with alternatives that may be
more affordable.
3. Decide on the food service style that best suits your wedding:
These days the world really is your oyster when it comes to choosing a
menu style. Here are some options to consider:
• Buffet
• Plated
• Family style / Table boards
• Food stations / Cocktail bowl food
• Food truck style
There are pros and cons to each menu style, but your catering team
should be able to guide you on the advantages and disadvantages to help
you make your decision
4. Be clear about your most—and least—favourite foods
Tell your caterer about what dishes you really enjoy, as well as the things
you find unpalatable. Make sure you also advise them of any food allergies.
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5. Share your creative presentation ideas
Do you have specific reference images of how you want your food to look?
Share these with your caterer. If you have your heart set on a particularly
unusual food presentation that your caterer needs to source, bear in mind
this may impact the menu price. You can also ask your caterer to share
images from previous weddings of how the food will be presented on the day.
6. Include a vegetarian and/or vegan option
It’s important to include a vegetarian/vegan option on your menu. Not
everyone will remember to notify you of their dietary requirements,
and this gives you some wiggle room for any surprise vegetarians
who turn up on the day!
7. Pick a caterer who inspires confidence
You will be working closely with your caterer for a substantial
part of the lead-up to your wedding so make sure you align
yourself with someone who gets your vision and inspires
confidence. You want someone who will be calm under pressure
and who will make sure that the food on your wedding day is
remembered, for all the right reasons, for years to come.
Bon appétit!
by Renzo & Sherree Hamblin
HAMBLIN’S CATERING
Our experienced team
offers creative catering
and event management
support
We offer event planning as part of
our standard catering services.
Our creative, tasty food and personal
approach is the reason our clients
keep coming back to us!
Photos: Vix Photography
033 345 2009
info@hamblinscatering.co.za
www.hamblinscatering.co.za
3 Clough Street, Pietermaritzburg
Credits: (top, bottom) Hamblin’s Catering,
Vix Photography | (centre and circle)
Jackie Cameron School of Food & Wine |
(opposite page, circle) Hamblin’s Catering,
Vix Photography
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Credit: (right and circle) Beyond Measure
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Credits: (middle row, from left) Whisked Cakery,
Beyond Measure | Grace of Bakes | Whisked Cakery,
Laura Jean Photography | (bottom row, from left)
Grace of Bakes, Vix Photography | Whisked Cakery |
Laura Jean Photography

QUESTIONS TO ASK
Your
baker
Gone are the days when every wedding cake was a fruit cake neatly
wrapped in white marzipan icing. Today’s bride and groom have endless
options to choose from, which means that your wedding cake can reflect
the style, colours and flavours that excite you!
Whisked Cakery,
Vix Photography
Do you know what questions you need to ask your baker
before arranging a cake tasting? Fear not—we’ve got you
covered! If you ask the below questions, finding your
dream baker should be, well, a piece of cake!
1. What are my flavour choices?
Chat to your baker about what flavour cakes they
can offer, as well as the filling choices. Are you a fan
of fruit fillings—such as strawberry, orange or passion
fruit—or do you prefer something more decadent like
chocolate, butterscotch or salted caramel?
Remember that if you are having a multi-tiered cake,
or multiple mini cakes, you aren’t limited to just one
flavour so it could be fun to have a range of flavours
to suit all palettes.
2. Do you work with fondant or buttercream icing?
Some bakers specialise in fondant, while others
prefer to work with buttercream. And some do both.
Fondant is the type of icing most often used for
detailed decoration. It has a smooth, professional
finish but some people find the taste to be sickly
sweet. Buttercream has a richer, creamier taste,
which most people prefer. Buttercream can’t be
moulded with the same precision as fondant but it
can be piped into attractive designs. If you have
your heart set on a particular type of frosting,
confirm that your baker is proficient in that style.
3. What cake decorations or toppings can you
provide?
Ask your baker if they are able to create sugar
flowers or other sculptural elements to decorate your
cake. If you would like to garnish your cake with fresh
blooms, ask your baker if they are happy to partner
with your wedding florist to ensure that the flowers
used on the cake match your overall décor. If you
would like to add a bespoke cake topper, ask your
baker if she can arrange a custom design for you.
4. What are your prices?
Ask your baker to supply you with a price list based
on estimated guest numbers. Bear in mind that if
you serve your cake with canapés, or instead of, you
will probably need to cater for all your guests as
they are likely to be hungry! However, if you serve
cake at your reception, it's typically not advisable to
cater for everyone as your guests would have eaten
by then and the party would have started so not
everyone will partake in cake. Particularly if you have
other dessert alternatives on offer.
5. Do you provide a cake stand and cake knife?
A cake stand and knife are typically not included by
your baker but it doesn’t hurt to ask if they have
some options available for you to hire. Alternately,
ask your caterer, wedding planner, venue or décor
company what stands and knives they have
available to hire.
6. Will you deliver my wedding cake to the venue?
Whilst delivery is usually quoted as an additional fee,
we strongly recommend that you have your cake
delivered. Transporting your wedding cake is a huge
responsibility and it takes some serious skill to
assemble the tiers and add the final decorations
once in situ.
And in case you were wondering, cake is always a good
idea!
by Janine Ehlers
WHISKED CAKERY
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For the love of cake!
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Photo: Vix Photography
10 CAKE TRENDS
TO LOOK OUT FOR
IN 2023
1. Towering tiers of cakes—big is
back!
2. Boho chic—think neutral colours
and woody touches.
3. Origami cakes—the Japanese art
of folding paper meets cake
design.
A celebration just isn’t a celebration wiþout cake!
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4. Bold colours—goodbye pastel
shades and hello to rich,
unapologetic colour.
5. Playful cake toppers add a sense
of fun and personalisation.
6. Cake spacers add height and
drama and can be filled with
pretty flowers.
7. Pressed florals add prettiness
and work beautifully with a
buttercream cake.
8. Textured buttercream cakes
garnished with flowers or fruit.
9. Drip cakes are still a firm
favourite.
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10. Metallic finishes add some bling
to your confectionery.

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Wedding
stationery trends
TO WOW YOUR GUESTS
Back in the day, wedding stationery consisted predominantly of pre-made template invitations, a
seating chart and place names on the table. These days your wedding stationery suite options are
limitless and stationery has now become an extension of your wedding décor.
Your wedding invitation gives guests their first glimpse
into the colour palette and theme of your big day. If you
are opting for a printed invitation (rather than an e-vite)
it will often have pride of place on your guests’ fridge or
pin-up board so take the opportunity to make an
impression! Similarly, your day-of stationery has the
power to amplify the beauty of your ceremony and
reception décor.
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Aurora Designs | Handmade by
Janine | Aurora Designs, Laura
Jean Photography | Handmade by
Janine, Katya Fedkina
Photography | Aurora Designs |
Handmade by Janine,
Beyond Measure
Here are 11 ways to help you elevate your wedding
stationery from ‘snooze fest’ to sensational:
1. Creative customisation
Personalising the details of your wedding is nothing
new but this trend is on the rise with couples opting to
weave the intimate details of their love story into their
wedding day. You may, for example name your tables
according to the cities you have visited together, print
a giant scroll or floor runner documenting the
milestones of your relationship, or create a mini
newspaper gazette about the two of you.
2. Hand-drawn illustrations
We are seeing more bespoke illustrations – whether it
be a sketch of the venue, a customised skin for your
table wine, or a caricature of the couple. This is a
really fun way to make your wedding stationery a
reflection of your personal story.
3. Unusual seating plans and table numbers
These days, seating plans and table numbers are
busting out of traditional confines. Why not consider
applying vinyls to elegant acrylic columns, or
unexpected items like vases, jars or terracotta pots?
4. Vellum overlays
Vellum is a semi translucent paper that has a frosted
finish which gives it an ethereal feel. It can be used on
its own or overlaid onto card of various colours or
prints. If a full vellum invitation is too much, consider a
vellum belly band, overlay or envelope. Whether your
design preference is sleek and minimalist, or luxurious
and ornate, vellum adds texture and results in a really
polished finish.
5. Laser love
Whether it’s a cut-out of your guests’ names, a cake
topper or a table number, we are now in the era of
bespoke laser cutting, which means that you can
create laser cut-outs for pretty much anything these
days!
6. It’s tassel time
Ribbon still has its place on the wedding table,
especially raw silk ribbon, but we are loving the cute
and quirky personality of a tassel on menus, place
names and thank you cards.
7. Gimme some gold
A touch of gold foil or gold leaf on your wedding
stationery is synonymous with a sophisticated
celebration and elevates your printed elements to the
next level.

8. Amped about arches
Surprise and delight guests with unconventional shapes such as arched
welcome boards or circular menus. Not everything needs to be a
rectangle!
9. Customised monograms
Stylish monograms of the bride and groom’s initials have also taken on
a whole new look, with touches that are meaningful to the couple.
10. Colour palettes get bolder and brighter
Move over pastels and make way for bold and dramatic
colour palettes.
11. Printed envelope liners
Nothing shouts luxury more than a gorgeous envelope
liner so if you are doing printed invitations, consider
asking your stationery specialist to design an envelope in
your theme colours, with a beautifully printed liner.
Let your stationery be as unique as your love story!
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PRO INSIGHT
Gift
registry
STATIONERY TIMELINES
Here are some guidelines for when the various elements of your
stationery suite need to be ready:
Fuschia Fine Event
Stationery
For most couples, talking about
what gifts you would like to
receive as wedding presents,
feels awkward. And asking for
money instead of gifts raises the
discomfort levels even further.
You may find it reassuring to
hear that most guests attending
your wedding want to get you
something and they would
appreciate some guidance from
you so that they can make sure
it’s something that will be
meaningful to you as a couple.
Including the details of your gift
registry or special requests such
as asking for contributions
towards a honeymoon fund is
quite common these days. These
details generally go on the ‘Info’
page, where you will find details
such as the RSVP date, and
directions, etc. rather than on
the main page of the wedding
invitation.
Save the Date
Your ‘Save the Date’ should be sent at
least six months before your big day,
especially if guests need to make
travel arrangements to attend your
celebration. A Save the Date can be a
useful way to whittle down your guest
list before distributing your invitations.
Invitations
Send these out roughly three months
ahead of the wedding. Invitations set
the tone for your wedding and give
your guests the honour of accepting.
Wedding website
If you plan to have one, create your
wedding website at least four months
before. A wedding website can serve
as an alternative or an add-on to
your wedding invitation and enables
you to share additional details about
your personal love story—and your
wedding day.
Day-of stationery
Aim to have this back from the
printers at least one week prior to the
event. If you suspect you may need
to make last minute changes to your
guest list, you may want to leave the
printing of your place cards and
seating plan to last.
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Hair
& makeup
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Credits: (circle, top) Dio’s Gracia
Make-up Artistry & Aesthetics,
Vix Photography | (circle,
bottom) Solé Hair & Beauty, Vix
Photography | (below) Blush Pro
Makeup | (right) Lau.Artistry,
David Batchelor, A’mour,
Beyond Measure
PRO TIP
Try not to be trend-led.
Your wedding photos
will be with you for the
rest of your life so
consider a look that is
timeless and won’t look
completely dated
twenty years from now.
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Makeup, Laura Jean Photography |
Vix Photography | (bottom row, from left)
Solé Hair & Beauty, Vix Photography |
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9 WEDDING
makeup
tips
EVERY BRIDE SHOULD KNOW
Credit: Laura Jean Photography
Your wedding day is likely to be one of the most photographed days of your life. As the bride, you will be
the centre of attention and you’ll want to radiate health and beauty. So in this article we’re dishing up
some golden nuggets from our hair and beauty experts to make sure that you look and feel your best on
your wedding day.
1. Factor in seasonality
If you are getting married in Winter, your skin is likely
to be paler and drier than if you are planning a
Summer wedding, which means you will need a
lighter colour foundation in Winter than the one you
use in the Summer months when your skin is more
tanned. If you are going to be a Winter bride you are
likely to want a foundation that doesn’t look dry or
caked, whereas if you are getting married in
Summer, you may need a primer that combats shine
and excessive moisture.
2. Permanent make-up options
Permanent make-up (PMU) is a (semi-permanent)
cosmetic tattoo, that defines the eyebrows,
enhances the eyes and contours the lips. It
replicates some of your everyday make-up—and is a
fantastic option if you are planning a beachy kind of
honeymoon! If you are considering PMU, book a
consultation with a reputable aesthetician and
remember that this should be done a few months
ahead of your wedding.
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3. Consult a professional beauty therapist
If you are not a regular visitor to a beauty salon, now is the time to enlist
the services of a professional beauty therapist. She will be able to help you
customise a skincare routine to suit your skin type, lifestyle and budget. Not
only will regular facials leading up to your wedding ensure that your skin is
looking its best, it also gives you a few opportunities to lie back and take
time out from the stresses of wedding planning! Your beauty therapist will
be able to assist you with shaping your eyebrows, removing unwanted hair
and advise on tanning.
Credits: Lau.Artistry | Beyond Measure
4. Book a hair and makeup trial
Your hair and makeup trial is a really important part of your wedding
preparations as this allows you to play with ideas until you find a look you
love—one that complements your wedding dress and personal sense of
style. Share reference images with your hair and makeup artist and have
some fun experimenting! When booking your hair trial, take reference
photos and your hair accessories (tiara, hair vine, clips, veil etc.) with you.
A photo of your dress will also help in choosing a suitable hairstyle.
PRO TIP
Don’t be afraid to wear lipstick shades that are a bit brighter or deeper
than you would normally choose—you don’t want to look washed out in
your photos. Blush, berry and rose hues are classic colour choices for
most brides.
Credits: Dio’s Gracia Make-up Artistry
& Aesthetics | Solé Hair & Beauty |
Vix Photography
PRO TIP
Allocate enough time for your
bridal hair and make-up
when planning your wedding
day schedule. You want to
enjoy this time of pampering
and not feel rushed.
5. Lock in a lip colour that make you feel be-you-tiful
A bold red lip is definitely a trending look—and if that is a good fit for your
personality and the overall aesthetic of your wedding, then rock those bold
lippies all day! But if you feel more comfortable with a natural look, then
choose a shade in the brown to pink range that suits your skin tone. If
there’s a colour in your everyday makeup kit that you absolutely love, take
it with you to your trial to show your makeup artist. She may suggest
adding some depth to the colour to ensure that you don’t look washed out
in your photos but it will be helpful to have your everyday favourite as a
starting point.
6. Create an on-the-day make-up kit
There are a few essentials that you are likely to need on your wedding day
after your ceremony so prepare a little emergency make-up kit for touch
ups. We recommend including lipstick and either blotting paper or a
powder compact to combat shine.
7. Drink lots of water
We would like to think that drinking water is a habit you follow all year
round but this is your friendly reminder to up the ante when it comes to
your water intake leading up to your big day. Skin that is well hydrated
provides a more optimal canvas for make-up. The amount of water you
should drink will vary according to factors like your weight and activity
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levels but as a general rule, aim
to drink around two litres per day.
8. Don’t neglect your nails
From the time an engagement
ring is slipped onto your finger
until a good few months after you
are married, you will be flaunting
your fingers a lot! Wedding-ready
nails don’t happen overnight so
start taking care of your hands
and feet a few months before the
big day. Book regular manicures
and pedicures, stop biting your
nails and cuticles, and invest in a
good cuticle cream and
moisturiser to nourish your nails
and skin. If you are doing gel or
acrylic nails, book your final prewedding
appointment one or two
days before the wedding to
ensure that they are still in tip top
shape on the day.
9. Hair care
Visit your hair stylist regularly
before your big day and discuss
any hair or scalp concerns that
you have. They will be able to
recommend professional
products to assist in achieving
and maintaining optimally
healthy hair. Build in plenty of
time if you are planning a new
cut, colour or dramatic change,
just in case the result isn’t what
you envisaged, and you need to
fix it!
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MARRIAGE MEANDER
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You catch sight of your reflection and can’t help
but smile. That is the power of Blush Pro Makeup.
PRO TIP
Candice Matthee
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Avoid lipsticks that are
either too glossy (they won’t
last long on your lips) or too
matte (they will leave your
lips feeling dry and caked.)
Buy a lipstick in the same
colour to keep in your purse
to touch up later in the
day—and to enjoy on your
honeymoon, and after the
wedding.
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Wedding
dress
trends2023
Choosing your ideal wedding dress is arguably one of the most important apparel decisions you will ever
make and since it’s likely to also be one of the biggest investments you will ever make in a single outfit,
the pressure is on! You may even feel like there is a whole new dress code language to decipher—
mermaid style, sheath, maximalist, peek-a-boo, cathedral veils… etc.
In this article we have rounded up some of the top international wedding dress trends for 2023 to help
you navigate your way to your dream dress. The diverse range of styles are testament to how the bridal
industry has embraced change. What that means for you is that there are more styles available than
ever before, and a dress to suit every bride.
Why settle for one dress when you can have two?
Decades ago, it was customary for a bride to change
out of her wedding dress and into a ‘going away’ outfit
just before departing the reception and heading off on
honeymoon. Well, we have good news for our fashionista
brides! The tradition of wearing two outfits on your
wedding day is back—but in a spectacular and
reimagined way. Many brides these days are opting to
wear a formal gown for the ceremony and creative
shoot and switching to a second outfit for the reception.
The latter is typically a more fun and flirty number, the
perfect cue for those dance floor party vibes.
Mad about maximalism
Sometimes, more is more.
Although barely-there slip
dresses had a big moment
last season, maximalist ball
gowns with amplified
features such as megaplush,
off-the-shoulder
sleeves, long trains and
cathedral veils have staked
their spot in the limelight. We
love how designers have
reinvented the quintessential
ballgown with details like
exaggerated puff sleeves, cascading
trains, detailed corsetry and exquisite embroidery.
Credits: Bella Bride | (circle) NALA Photography
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Sheer fabrics
On the international runways,
designers unveiled some bold
designs featuring sheer fabrics. This
barely-there approach to bridal
design adds a subtle touch of sex
appeal. You don't have to go full-on
revealing to take advantage of this
trend. It could just be a hint of skin
that peeps through.
PRO TIP
When you go dress hunting,
keep an open mind. You may
think you know exactly what
style dress you are looking for,
only to try it on and realise
that you don’t love it as much
as you thought you would.
Allow your dress specialist to
guide you during your fitting
because you may find that the
perfect dress for you is one
you wouldn’t have even
considered.
Asymmetrical necklines
Necklines are a trend we look out for
each season, and the Spring 2023
collections included an exciting new
bodice style: the asymmetrical
neckline. This look is really flattering
and adds a fresh and modern twist
to any gown.
Credits: (clockwise, from top left)
Vanilla Photography | A‘mour |
(jewellery) David Batchelor | Sposabella |
A’mour | Vanilla Photography
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Straight necklines
Straight necklines and strapless
silhouettes are big this season. A
sharply angled bodice highlights the
décolletage, neck and shoulders and
is a throwback to the nineties and
early 2000’s. The best part about this
2023 wedding dress trend is that
straight necklines work for pretty
much every wedding style: whether
you opt for a classic look
incorporating heavy satin, a
whimsical style with light tulle, or a
more seductive silhouette
with form-fitting crepe.
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Crushing on corsets
Intricate corsetry and detailed
boning in the bodice of your dress
adds gorgeous contrast to full skirts
and layers of tulle and chiffon.
Originally worn as an under-garment,
there is something a little risqué (and
a lot sexy) about a dress with a builtin
corset.
Credits: (clockwise, from top left) A’mour |
Sposabella | Ruby Jean Photography |
Sposabella | (circle, top) Laura Jean
Photography | (circle, bottom) Bella Bride
PRO TIP
Shop early for your wedding
dress as gowns make take
between four to eight months
to be produced or ordered
from overseas and you still
need to factor in time for
alterations and accessorising
once it is ready. That said,
don’t start dress shopping too
early either. You don’t want to
choose a dress that feels
dated by the time you get to
wear it.

Suit yourself
No dress? No problem! A chic pants
suit offers a sleek alternative to a
wedding gown with the added
advantages of being comfortable,
figure flattering and completely ‘of
the moment’. Bridal separates offer
an added bonus because you can
much more easily wear your wedding
outfit again.
Open backs
This 2023 trend is designed to show
off as much skin as possible and it’s
all about bringing sexy back (pun
intended). Gowns with low backs and
cut-outs at the back are definitely on
the rise and we love how they make
your exit as breathtaking as your
entrance.
Credits: (clockwise, from top left) Bella Bride |
Sposabella | Michigan Behn Photography |
A‘mour | Sposabella | (circle) Bella Bride
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Add wow with a bow
When in doubt, put a bow on it! Bows
are pretty, feminine, and fun. High
impact dresses boast oversized bows
whilst other designers are weaving
bow details into their designs in a
more subtle and romantic way.
Courageous cut-outs
This trend is for the bold, fashionforward
bride who is not afraid to
show off her silhouette with figureskimming
fabrics and peek-a-boo
cut-outs.
Simplicity
If you are a simple girl at heart, you
don’t have to go fluffy or frilly with
your wedding dress. A bridal trend
that will never go out of fashion is a
well-constructed dress with simple,
clean lines in a beautiful fabric.
Credits: (clockwise, from top left) Sposabella |
A‘mour | A‘mour | SposaBella | Bella Bride |
(circle, top) A‘mour | (circle, bottom) Sposabella
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Sexy slits
Make way for some va va voom! High
slits brought the sex appeal to Bridal
Fashion Week. If you're looking to step
out and show some leg without
braving a short hemline, this is the
trend for you.
PRO TIP
Eye catching head wear
Veils are iconic and they are still a
firm favourite but if you’re looking for
something a little unusual, here are
some alternatives to consider:
hooded capes, hair vines, bespoke
tiaras or crowns, and hats.
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
Shop true to your size. Even if
you plan to shed a couple of
kilograms before the big day,
shop for a dress that fits you
at your current size rather
than one that is too small. It is
easier to take a dress in than
trying to work with one that is
too snug.
Credits: (top row, from left) A‘mour | Sposabella |
(bottom row, from left) Bella Bride, (hat) model’s
own | The Rivera Collection |
(circles) The Rivera Collection
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The
groom’s
game plan
FOR GETTING READY
Your bride-to-be may be driving the wedding bus but you need to have a game plan for your big day,
too! Below are our top tips to make sure that you and your squad look the part on wedding day.
Choose attire that matches your wedding aesthetic and
colours
Chat to your significant other about your overall theme
and wedding colours so that you are on the same page
when you go shopping for your outfit. You can either
purchase or hire your outfit. Hiring is a great option if you
have a limited budget especially if you are unlikely to
wear your suit again.
Practice knotting your tie
Depending on what you do for a living, the chances are,
you may be rusty at tying a tie! May we suggest that you
practice knotting your tie a good few times before the big
day to make sure that you are confident and proficient.
Your wedding day is not the time to be googling how to
do a bow tie or Windsor knot.
Get a haircut
Schedule a trim for the week leading up to the wedding
but please don't leave it for the day before when there are
always a million last-minute things to take care of. Top
tip: Do not try out a new style, colour or hair stylist for this
crucial pre-wedding cut! Rather stick to what you know.
What to prepare the day before
You and your groomsmen should try on your suits or
tuxes the day before the wedding as a final check. Iron
shirts, pockets squares and ties and run through a
checklist of all the items you will need for tomorrow. This
includes shoes, socks, underwear, cufflinks, a copy of
your vows, a copy of your speech and the rings!
In case you aren’t well versed in suit etiquette, here are
10 suit rules you need to know:
1. Your jacket fits properly if the seams hug your
shoulders but you are still able to move your arms,
chest and back. If you feel restricted, the fit isn’t
right and you need to size up. We understand that
slim fit is a vibe but you don’t want to look like your
suit was cellophaned onto your body.
2. Your jacket should be long enough to cover your
pants zipper and butt. If it’s longer than that, it will
look like a hand-me-down from a big brother, and if
it’s shorter, it will look like you grew taller since your
last fitting.
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3. The side pockets on your trousers
should lay flat against your legs.
If your pants pockets bulge when
you are standing, they are too
tight.
4. Whilst on the subject of your
pants pockets, eliminate all
unnecessary clutter and try to
keep your pockets empty of
phones, keys and wallet on the
wedding day.
5. Your tie should just reach your
waistband or the top of your belt
buckle.
6. If you are wearing a boutonnière,
pin it securely on, or near, the
lapel buttonhole. Feed the pin
through from the back of the
lapel so that the pin is not visible
from the front.
7. For a modern and sophisticated
look, choose a narrow belt that is
the same colour as your shoes.
8. If you opt to wear braces, forego
the belt. Both are designed to
hold your trousers up which
means you only need one. It’s
considered a fashion faux pas to
wear braces with a belt.
9. If your jacket has more than one
button, always leave the bottom
one undone.
10. Always unbutton your jacket
before sitting down, or you risk
ruining it.
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
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Setting
the
scene
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RUST, BURNT
ORANGE & CREAM
Credits: Muirhead’s Hiring | Fuchsia Fine
Event Stationery | Whisked Cakery | Bella
Bride | Suit Yourself | Vix Photography
This palette works well for bush
and bohemian weddings. If you
dream of an earthy, laid-back
celebration, lean into this
collection of warm and trending
shades. Add touches of greenery
like eucalyptus, or willow to
breathe life into this earthy
palette.
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HOW TO PICK YOUR
Wedding
colour
palette
Your wedding colour palette scheme is a collection of colours that will be used in various ways
throughout your wedding day. The wedding colours you choose will influence almost every facet of your
wedding: stationery, floral arrangements, table linens, dresses, suits, cake design, and so on. That means
it’s important to pick your colour spectrum early on in your planning. Here are some tips to help you
arrive at a cohesive colour palette for your big day that you will love for years to come.
1. Be led by your location
Visualise your venue and its
surroundings. A neutral ‘blank
slate’ venue is versatile and
adaptable to any colour
combination while a more
decorated space may have
design elements such as painted
walls, brickwork, hanging art, floor
finishes, curtains, surrounding
trees and plants etc, that you
need to take into consideration. If
you have already chosen your
venue, take note of the natural
colours in the ceremony and
reception areas to guide you
when choosing your colour
palette. If you haven’t decided on
a venue yet but you have a
specific set of colours you want
to incorporate into your wedding,
take some swatches with you
when you start venue hunting to
make sure that the existing
colours of the space don’t clash
with the palette you wish to
incorporate.
2. Think seasonally
Certain shades have a natural
seasonal fit. For example, soft
pinks and fresh greens are
perfect for Spring while bright
citrusy colours like coral and
papaya are Summer staples.
Jewel tones like ruby and
emerald are well suited to Autumn
while mauve and silver make for a
stunning winter palette. That said,
do not feel like you have to
conform to seasonal colour ‘rules’.
If you have your heart set on a
particular colour scheme, a
seasoned floral stylist will find a
way to make it work by building in
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Wild Olive Photo, Sean Baker Photography, and Wilma Towell Photography
lighter/darker accent colours to
lift or deepen your look to suit the
season. The most important
seasonal criteria to take note of
is that some flowers are only
available at certain times of year
and it can be very costly to
source them out of season.
Your end-to-end floral,
décor and wedding
planning specialists
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3. Identify your wedding style or
theme
Pinpointing your wedding style or
theme is an important step when
choosing your wedding colours.
Just like seasons, some shades
are better suited to specific
styles than others. For example, a
laid-back boho style probably
wouldn’t mesh with silver and
blingy blue, just as an old
Hollywood glam theme is better
suited to ivory, gold, silver and
black—rather than an explosion
of citrus shades. Once you have
settled on your theme or style,
you will find it easier to whittle
away the colours that don’t fit. A
consultation with a wedding
planner or décor and floral stylist
is a great way to nail down your
style personality.
4. Don’t fixate on trends
Trends will come and go, so don’t
be pressured into choosing
colours that are ‘so right now’ but
so not you! Rather choose
colours that resonate with you—
and that you are likely to love,
long into the future.
5. Choose colours that are
universally flattering
Your flowers, décor, stationery
and bridesmaid dresses form the
backdrop for many of your
wedding photos so make sure
you choose a colour scheme that
complements you, your groom
and your bridesmaids. If there is
a particular colour in your palette
that doesn’t look great on
everyone, try to incorporate
some shades that will have
everyone looking their best.
6. Don’t choose too many colours
Unless you are planning a festival
style wedding, having too many
colours will result in a look that is
disjointed and distracting. Rather
start by picking one signature
shade that you absolutely love.
Add two to three accent colours
to round off your colour palette,
which will add dimension and
variation.
7. Get help from a colour wheel
You don't have to be a graphic
designer or fashion guru to
understand how a colour wheel
works. There are a few simple
principles to follow. In general,
colours that work well together
are opposite each other on the
wheel because they combine a
cool and warm shade e.g. lilac
and yellow, or blue and orange.
Other pairings that work nicely are
‘neighbouring’ colours, which are
shades that are similar to each
other and share a primary colour
e.g. plum and lavender.
8. Factor in non-negotiable
elements
If there are any must-have décor
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info@petals-midlands.com
www.petals-midlands.com
Photos: Kikitography
items that need to be included,
build these in from the start
rather than trying to add them in
later. It would be disappointing to
plan your flowers and décor to
the minutest detail, only to
realise during set-up that your
granny’s vintage cream table
runner, or those sentimental
copper candlesticks stick out like
a sore thumb amidst the colour
palette you’ve chosen.
While your colour palette will govern
many of your wedding decisions,
don’t feel limited by your colour
chart! See it as a guideline rather
than an absolute rule. Not every
aspect of your wedding has to be a
perfect colour-match.
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
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Credits: studio Petals |
Weddings & Functions by
Jackie | Kikitography
PETAL PINK &
MUTED MAUVE
If you are aiming to achieve a
serene, pretty and tasteful
colour palette, a mixture of
petal pink and subtle mauve
creates an upscale look. These
colours are also extremely
flattering on most skin types
which makes them a great
choice for bridesmaid dresses.
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OntheDaycoordination
Floral&décorstyling
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| Katya Fedkina
Photography
YELLOW, BLUSH
& BABY BLUE
When paired together, yellow
and blush pink create a sense of
soft romance. Add a pop of
baby blue and you have a truly
enchanting colour palette. This
fresh colour combination lends
itself to a bohemian wedding, or
it can be glammed up for a
more elegant affair.
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THE RISE OF THE WEDDING LOUNGE
Comfortable lounge seating is a real win during canapés and golden hour when
the bride and groom are off on their creative shoot. Later in the evening, when
feet are dancefloor-weary and guests are looking for a quiet and comfortable
spot to chill and chat, couches and ottomans once again steal the show.
The trick to executing a stylish wedding lounge is to make sure that it fits the
overall design aesthetic of your wedding. The goal is to create comfortable but
also visually attractive lounge areas. Consider including occasional chairs,
ottomans, cubes, coffee and side tables, rugs, pot plants or flowers, mushroom
gas heaters (to combat the chill), and garden umbrellas for shade.
And the ultimate addition to an outdoors lounge area is a cute caravan bar
serving all your favourite drinks.
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• Floral design
• Coordination
• Caravan Bar Hire
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EMERALD GREEN
& ORANGE
Emerald green and orange
make for a lively and
sophisticated pairing so it’s no
wonder they are such a
popular combination. Orange
offers a striking and fresh
alternative to the more
traditional choice of
pink.
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Credits: The Wedding Company | Laura Jean
Photography
PLANNING YOUR
WEDDING LIGHTING
Add some sparkle to your wedding
day with a selection of well-chosen
lighting solutions. Done properly,
lighting makes everything look
prettier—from your tablescapes to
your wedding cake to your guests’
faces!
Photo: Roxanne Davison
Styling, Décor Hire
and Floral Design by
Award-winning Wedding
Planner, Kate Bain
078 666 8546
KATE@THEWEDDINGCOSA.CO.ZA
WWW.THEWEDDINGCOSA.CO.ZA
The first thing you need to do is
familiarise yourself with your space.
Establish what lighting fixtures are
already in place, where the plug
points are, and whether there are
restrictions imposed by the venue on
suspended installations etc.
Next you need to find your wedding
lighting specialist. There are some
experienced teams within the
Marriage Meander portfolio who have
festoon (bulb string) lights, fairy lights
and a wide range of chandeliers.
Choose lighting that complements
your wedding style. Does your venue
and the overall aesthetic of your
wedding lend itself to romantic
vintage chandeliers, Bohemian woven
rattan pendant lights, or something a
bit more modern and edgy.
A professional décor team that
specialises in lighting will be able to
guide you on your choices and get
your wedding ready to glow!
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EMERALD GREEN
& GARNET RED
Done correctly, a red and green
does not need to look
Christmassy. Seductive jewel
tones like emerald and garnet
make for a classy colour palette,
especially when they're
balanced out by some lighter
shades, like ivory, and set
against a neutral backdrop.
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FLORAL FAq FOr BRIDES
Should I adopt a DIY approach to my wedding flowers?
Our advice regarding your wedding flowers—do not try
and do it all yourself. Outsource! Flowers take time, effort
and energy. If you have a flower fundi in your family who
has offered to take care of your wedding flowers, make
sure that they have the experience to tackle this
demanding job. Generally, we recommend using a floral
specialist as they are familiar with order lead times, are
able to suggest suitable alternatives should any of your
preferred flowers not be available, and they have cold
rooms to keep your blooms in tip-top shape until your
wedding.
How do I choose a floral designer?
Every floral artist has a unique style and they delight in
the opportunity to create something bespoke for you.
Take time to research who you would like to design your
flowers and choose someone whose style resonates with
you. Once you find a floral designer whose style you love,
and who you would like to work with, send an enquiry to
see if they are available on your date.
How does the quoting process for wedding flowers work?
Most floral artists will only quote after an initial
consultation, as every wedding has its own unique
requirements. During your early discussions with your
designer, they will ask you questions in order to
understand your vision for your special day. This will
enable them to put together a vision board, which is a
really fun and exciting part of the process! Based on your
storyboard, your floral specialist will furnish you with a
quote to achieve your vision..
Creating florally enhanced spaces
that invite your guests to join you
in a magical chapter of your love story.
Let’s invent something new, something memorable,
something uniquely yours.
Rowena 082 304 6495 | hello@thefloralteam.co.za
www.thefloralteam.co.za
Do I need to do a flower mock-up before my wedding?
If you would like your florist to do a mock-up, you can
certainly request one. These are typically paid for
separately and the flowers are then yours to take home
and enjoy. The purpose of a floral trial is to simulate the
personality and overall aesthetic that you would like to
achieve with your wedding flowers rather than selecting
specific flower types. Remember, flowers are seasonal
and availability can change on a daily basis, which
means that your floral designer cannot promise that the
flowers on your wedding day will be identical to what you
saw during your trial. If you have selected a professional
designer, you can trust that they will apply their creative
energies to your floral art using the best available blooms
for your day.
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Credit: Vix Photography
Photo
& film
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Credits: (clockwise, from circle) Vix Photography | Katya Fedkina Photography |
Beyond Measure | Bailee Guy Weddings | Bailee Guy Weddings | Ruby Jean
Photography | NALA Photography

YOUR
Photo
poses
CHEAT SHEET
Of course you want an amazing wedding album full of gorgeous photographs! But since most of us aren’t
professional models, when we suddenly find ourselves in front of the camera, it can feel a little awkward.
Enlisting the services of a great photographer is the first step to getting spectacular photos on your
wedding day. Having a few poses you would like to try may also give you a little confidence boost.
Especially if you and your partner have tested a few of these out before the wedding day. Here are some
of our favourite wedding photography poses that you might like to try:
1. The handhold
Holding hands is a classic pose for a reason, and
you will definitely want some of these shots in your
album. Create a little space between you and your
partner (I know, this is a big ask on your wedding
day when you want to be as close as can be) and
link fingers.
2. Cuddle up and whisper sweet nothings
Cosy up with your partner’s arm around you for an
intimate shot. For some lovely candid shots, you can
whisper into each other’s ear, which invariably
results in some giggles and lovely fun shots.
3. The casual stroll
Take your partner’s hand and go on a little stroll
while your photographer clicks away capturing
some natural shots of the newly weds. (Bonus points
if he carries your train or your bouquet while you
walk!)
6. All kinds of kisses
Every wedding album must include at least one
great kissing shot. Since it’s your wedding day and
you probably won’t have seen much of each other in
the earlier parts of the day, it shouldn’t be too much
of a hardship to nab some smooching shots!
The cheek kiss
A peck on the cheek is a more delicate kissing
option than a full-on lip lock, but it’s still worthy of a
place in your wedding album.
The almost kiss
Get your photographer to catch you leaning in for a
smooch but not all the way there.
The forehead kiss
Sweet forehead kisses are a great way to capture
the intimacy between you two lovebirds.
4. The walk off
Often the back of your outfit (not to mention your
hair!) is as noteworthy as the front which means you
will want some beautiful photos from behind. Ask
your photographer to follow you as you walk away.
You can walk away holding hands, with arms
interlinked or perhaps even dancing.
5. The look away
This pose has become a trendy favourite. Stand
beside one another, holding hands, with some space
between you and stare off in opposite directions.
PRO TIP
Minimise the number of shoot locations
To maximise photo time on your wedding day,
rather minimise the number of photo shoot
locations. You don’t want to spend more time
traveling from point A to point B than actually
taking pictures. A great photographer should be
able to make almost any location work.
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Kiss from behind
This pose works particularly well
if your partner is on the taller
side.
The hand kiss
Go old school and offer your lady
a gentleman’s kiss on her hand.
This is, after all, her day to feel
like a Disney princess!
7. A nose ping or forehead bump
A little nose-to-nose intimacy is
an endearing way to get up close
with your favourite human.
Similarly, you can share a tender
moment by facing one another
with your foreheads touching
and your eyes closed.
8. Go low
You don’t have to be standing for
the entire creative shoot. Find a
spot to sit—or lie—down, get
close, chat, exhale and enjoy the
moment.
9. The overhead
Find a pretty spot to lie down and
have your photographer take an
overhead shot of you. If your
photographer has a drone, a
zoomed out version of this can
be really epic!
10. Veil shot
If you’re wearing a veil on your
wedding day, you’ll definitely
want to nab some ‘under cover’
shots beneath your veil. The
options here are endless—look
into each other’s eyes, do a
forehead bump, smile at your
photographer through the mesh
or get another killer kissing
picture shrouded in veil romance.
Credits: (clockwise, from top left) Beyond Measure | Laura Jean Photography | Katya Fedkina
Photography | Laura Jean Photography | NALA Photography | (circle) Vix Photography
11. The face touch
Keep a little distance between
your faces and stare lovingly into
your partner’s eyes whilst
touching your partner’s face
gently. If you use your left hand,
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it’s also a great way to capture your
ring bling!
12. The twirl
Consider this a little warm up for
your first dance. It allows your
photographer to capture some
movement in your dress and if you
can time it to coincide with golden
hour, what a win!.
13. The lift
Dirty Dancing is proof that you can’t
go wrong with a lift. And whilst we
love the original overhead lift care of
Patrick Swayze, unless you’ve
practised this move multiple times, I
recommend sticking to a simpler
version of your partner hoisting you
into the air. It will still look very
romantic and impressive
on camera.
14. The dip
You would do well
to practice this
uber romantic
dance-inspired
pose so that you
can get a feel for
how far you can lean
without losing your
balance.
15. The piggyback or fireman’s lift
Looking to add a touch of fun and
playfulness to your album? Time for
a piggyback or fireman’s lift! This
gives you an opportunity to show off
some pretty shoes, or for an even
more relaxed shot, go barefoot. And
it’s bound to result in some fun and
candid shots!
16. The ring shot
Yes, you’ll want all the kissing,
snuggling and smiling shots but
what wedding album would be
complete without a photo of your
gorgeous new ring? Pose in a way
that showcases your new gem, like
placing your left hand around your
partner’s neck or placing your hand
Credits: (clockwise, from top left) Katya Fedkina Photography | NALA Photography | Laura Jean
Photography | Beyond Measure | Beyond Measure | (circle) Laura Jean Photography
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Credits: (top row, from left) Bailee Guy Weddings | Ruby Jean Photography | (middle row, from left): Laura Jean Photography | Vix Photography |
Laura Jean Photography | (bottom row, from left): Beyond Measure | Bailee Guy Weddings | Ruby Jean Photography | (circle) Katya Fedkina
Photography | (opposite page) NALA Photography

on their chest. If you want to
capture both of your rings, find
something to do together, such
as push open a swing gate.
17. The lean
Find a cool looking doorway, wall
or tree to stand against and let
your partner lean into you for a
dramatic and sexy pose.
18. Head on shoulder
Lay your head on his shoulder
and let the love just radiate.
19. Cheek to cheek
Press your cheek up against his
and both look into the camera.
This one’s going to be a really
cool, Instagrammable closeup.Wishing
you heaps of
adventure and fun as you set out
to find your dream venue!
Lights, camera, action… VOGUE!
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
www.BaileeGuyPhotography.com
0748828471 | hibailee@gmail.com
TELLING YOUR LIFE STORY – ONE PHOTO AT A TIME
INFO@NALAPHOTOGRAPHY.CO.ZA | 076 991 4292 | WWW.NALAPHOTOGRAPHY.CO.ZA
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CHOOSING THE RIGHT
photo
& film
team
FOR YOU
You only get one shot at capturing your wedding day memories so when it comes to picking the right
team, the stakes are high! When researching to make sure that your photographer’s skill levels and
photographic style matches up to your expectations, make sure your take the time to evaluate whether
they are the kind of people you genuinely enjoy being around. Use the below points to guide as you set
out to find your ideal memory makers:
1. Determine what photography style best reflects you
as a couple
Do your homework and get a feel for the style of
photography you like. There are a number of popular
styles these days, such as:
• Natural looking
• Dark & moody
• Bright & fresh
• Vintage & nostalgic—think dreamy, washed-out tones
• Photojournalistic
Often your wedding album will include a mix of styles
but if there is a particular aesthetic you like, this
should be your starting point.
2. Set your budget
We’ve mentioned this before, but it really does help to
know how much you are able to spend before you
start meeting with prospective photographers and
videographers.
3. Meet face-to-face
Try to meet with your memory makers before your
wedding to make sure you feel comfortable with
them. You will be spending the majority of your
wedding day with your photo and film team so find
people with the same kind of energy as you. If a
face-to-face meeting isn’t possible, a Zoom call or
video-chat will give you some insight into their
personality and offer you the opportunity to ask
questions that might otherwise not be covered in
written communications.
4. Book an engagement shoot
Having a pre-wedding engagement shoot is an ideal
opportunity to get to know one other and see how
your photographer works with you as a couple. It will
ensure you feel relaxed and confident on the day,
knowing that you are in good hands. Plus it will result
in you receiving some stunning photos, which you
can use for your Save the Date or wedding website!
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Credits: (opposite page, from left) NALA Photography | Vix Photography | (circle) Katya Fedkina Photography |
(this page, clockwise, from left) Bailee Guy Weddings | Ruby Jean Photography | Beyond Measure | Laura Jean Photography
5. Pick professional partners
Choosing an experienced wedding photographer
and videographer is essential if you don’t want to be
disappointed. Their professional cameras and lenses
will ensure you receive quality images and videos,
while their technical skill, experience and artistic
ability enable them to capture the mood and
fleeting moments of the occasion. Their knowledge
of light and their ability to adapt quickly to different
situations and weather conditions make a big
difference to the end result. They should also have
backup equipment in case of an emergency. This is
so important as you won’t be able to replay the day
if batteries die, equipment fails or there are other
technical disasters. Check to see what their previous
clients have to say about them.
6. Scrutinise the small print
Most photographers and videographers will insist
that you sign a booking form or contract, which will
stipulate their payment terms and post-production
details such as the ability for them to use photos
from your wedding in their marketing materials, and
so on. These documents are not just for the benefit
of the supplier; they also give you peace of mind
that your chosen professionals will honour their
commitment to capture your memories on your
chosen date. When documenting the details, make
sure that you understand how many images you will
receive, how these will be presented (e.g. have you
opted for a digital-only package, or a leather-bound
album?), whether you require additional prints,
albums or DVD’s for parents, how soon you can
expect to receive the final product, and so on.
Remember - quality work takes time and your
service providers will spend many hours after the
event editing and crafting the final masterpiece.
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
PHOTO & FILM
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YOUR WEDDING DAY
TIMING GUIDE
Here is a rough outline to help you
build a relaxed time frame for your
wedding day:
Hair and make-up
Try to complete hair and make-up 1½
hours before the ceremony. Let your
make-up artist know so that she can
work out what time to start,
depending on how many people
need hair and faces done. The bride’s
make up should always be done last.
katya.fedkina@hotmail.com | 076 735 5501 | www.katyafedkinaphotography.com
Getting dressed
Start getting dressed about one hour
prior to the ceremony. This gives you
plenty of time for bridal portraits and
pictures with your bridesmaids, mum,
flower girls etc.
Ceremony
Depending on the type of ceremony,
this may take anything from 30
minutes to 1½ hours. Confirm the
duration with your marriage officer.
After your ceremony, build in time for
your guests to congratulate you.
Enjoy some time with them as the
new Mr and Mrs and don’t be too
hasty to rush off for your creative
shoot. 30–40 minutes here should be
adequate. You may choose to cut
your cake or serve canapés during
this time.
www.rubyjean.co.za | info@rubyjean.co.za | 0713304303
Family Photos
Bear in mind that it takes around five
minutes per group photo. Taking the
pictures is the easy part, herding the
people is the challenging bit! Six to
eight photos is a good number to
aim for. Try to take these photos
close to where your guests are, so
you still feel part of the action. Top
tip: appoint a reliable person to help
round up the family.
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Credit: Vix Photography
Creative shoot
Beautiful photos are possible at any
time of the day, but the best light is
usually ‘golden hour’, about an hour
before sunset. If you work back from
this time, this gives you a good
starting point when planning your
timeline. Your creative shoot
shouldn’t take longer than 45
minutes.
Unscripted Artistry
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Reception
Schedule the ‘formalities’ that you
wish to include and give speech
makers a set time to talk.
Photographers normally have an ‘end
time’ so make sure that everything
you want documented happens
before this time.
Travel time
If your wedding includes travel,
include the time it takes from one
place to another, allowing extra time
for traffic congestion etc.
hi@laurajean.co.za|072 102 1488
An experienced photographer will be
able to help you map out a timeline
to suit your unique requirements.
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
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Celebrating Love n Capturing memories
PRO TIP
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Pack comfy shoes for your
creative shoot
If you are wearing heels for
your wedding ceremony, pack
some comfortable shoes for
your creative shoot so that
you are comfortable and able
to move around with ease.
Have a bridesmaid tuck them
away near the ceremony area
(or pop them in the
photographer’s car) before
the proceedings begin so they
are handy when you head off
for your creative shoot.
PRO TIP
Book professionals to
photograph, film and live
stream your day
Your wedding is a once-in-alifetime
kind of day and you
owe it to yourselves (and your
loved ones) to entrust the
documentation of your
precious memories to
professional photographers
and videographers. I have
never heard a couple regret
the decision to enlist the
services of a pro team to
capture their memories but
there are certainly horror
stories out there about using
an amateur.
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Credit: Beyond Measure
Music
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Credits: (top row, from left) NALA Photography | Ruby Jean Photography | Ruby Jean Photography |
(bottom row, from left) Ruby Jean Photography | Laura Jean Photography
Photo: Saysha Baker Photography
Gce Botha
MUSIC
Laid-backlivemusicforyourweddingceremony,
canapés&receptionuntiltheDJtakesover.
0825018667 | gracebothamusic@gmail.com
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HOW TO CREATE
A
Credit: Laura Jean Photography
sensationalsoundtrack
FOR YOUR WEDDING
Music creates atmosphere, cues key moments in the day, and elevates or calms the energy of the space.
When it comes to creating the perfect playlist for your wedding day, there's a lot to consider. But don’t
worry, we’ve got some sound advice (pun intended!) to help you master your big day playlist.
Live music vs DJ: the great debate
Live performances are engaging and intimate whilst a
DJ will play your favourite songs exactly the way you
enjoy listening to them. But before you discount either
option, do your homework and understand the unique
benefits of each choice. If finances allow, why not
consider a combination of the two! For example, your
musician(s) can provide musical accompaniment
during the ceremony and canapés, and your DJ can take
over the reigns at the reception.
Factor in all the key musical moments of your day
Most couples give considerable thought as to which
song they want played for their first dance and the song
they want to walk down the aisle to, but have you
thought about musical accompaniment for other key
times? Make sure that your DJ and/or musicians are on
the same page as you regarding your preferences for
these important musical moments:
• Prelude music (the songs played before the start of
the ceremony)
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Photo of Greig: Colin Browne Photography
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• Processional / walk-in song
• The signing of the vows
• Recessional / walk-out song
• Post-ceremony background music (usually during canapés / cake cutting /
cocktail hour)
• Entry into the reception venue as the new Mr and Mrs
• First dance
• Father / daughter and mother / son dances (if you plan to include this)
• Personalised walk-up songs for speechmakers
• Last dance (before the two of you leave the reception)
Assess the acoustics and logistics of your venue
Your ceremony and reception venues will have repercussions on the sound
dynamics at your wedding. The acoustics in a small room will be very different
from a large outside space. Your sound crew will need to know where the
closest plug points are, or if they need to rely on generators or battery power.
Choose your ceremony songs wisely
If you are having a religious ceremony, be aware that there may be restrictions
on the type of music played (think about the appropriateness of certain song
lyrics within the context of a place of worship).
Avoid awkward silences
Most guests arrive at least 20 minutes before the start of the ceremony, but the
wait will seem much longer if everyone is sitting around in uncomfortable
silence. Ask your ceremony musician to start playing 20–30 minutes before
your intended start time, which generally signals guests to take their seats, and
creates a lovely atmosphere of joyful anticipation. Similarly, you will want to
avoid ‘dead air’ when guests move into the Reception venue. A professional DJ
knows what sort of tracks to play at the various stages of your event so don’t
underestimate the importance of entrusting your soundtrack to an experienced
crew.
Seek out referrals and recommendations
Ask family and friends for recommendations of great DJ’s and musicians that
they’ve heard at recent weddings or events. Do your research and make sure
they have a good reputation, professional equipment, and plenty of experience
with weddings. If possible, try to hear them at another event before you engage
their services.
... Because a
perfect day needs
a perfect
soundtrack
Great service • Reliable
equipment • Flexible solutions
• Battery operated system for
remote venues
The Do-Not-Play list
If there are certain songs, or a particular style of music, that should not be
played, communicate this to your musician or DJ. The Do-Not-Play list avoids
potential embarrassment, offence and possibly an unintentional emptying of
the dance floor.
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
www.djksa.co.za
083 782 0642
info@djksa.co.za
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Photo:TilanieGrotePhotography
Singer|Songwriter
www.renetshiakanyi.com
40 SONG SUGGESTIONS FOR YOUR
FIRST DANCE
1. Nobody but you by Blake Shelton & Gwen Stefani
2. I Choose (From the Netflix Original Film ‘The Willoughbys’) by Alessia Care
3. Big, Big Plans by Chris Lane
4. From the Ground Up by Dan + Shay
5. 10,000 Hours by Dan + Shay featuring Justin Bieber
6. History in the Making by Darius Rucker
7. Bright by Echosmith
8. God Gave Me You by Blake Shelton
9. Tell Her You Love Her by Echosmith featuring Mat Kearney
10. Love Me Anyway by P!nk & Chris Stapleton
11. Could I Love You Anymore by Renee Dominique & Jason Mraz
12. Never Stop (Wedding Version) by SafetySuit
13. At Last by Etta James
14. Feels like Home by Chantal Kreviazuk
15. Second Guessing (From Songland) by Florida Georgia Line
16. I’ll Be Around by Garrett Kato
17. Iris by The Goo Goo Dolls
18. Take My Hand (The Wedding Song) by Emily Hackett & Will Anderson
19. Conversations in the Dark by John Legend
20. Evermore by Hollow Coves
21. I Choose You by Sarah Bareilles
22. I’ve Had The Time of My Life (From Dirty Dancing) by Bill Medley
& Jennifer Warnes
23. I Will Spend My Whole Life Loving You by Imaginary Future & Kina Grannis
24. For You (Fifty Shades Fred) by Liam Payne & Rita Ora
25. Birds by Imagine Dragons
26. Falling Like The Stars by James Arthur
27. Incredible by James TW
28. Here, Right Now by Joshua Radin
29. No Place Like You by Joy Williams
30. I Chose You by Caleb Edens
31. I Wanna Feel Love by Julia Bardo
32. Hold On by Justin Bieber
33. Good as You by Kane Brown
34. Better Together by Jack Johnson
35. The Bones by Maren Morris & Hozier
36. All of Me by John Legend
37. Prayed For You by Matt Stell
38. Dance With Me by Phillip Phillips
39. Where We Come Alive by Ruelle
40. Made For You by Tyler Brown Williams
PRO TIP
Make sure that your DJ has
a back-up power plan—
whether that means getting
permission to hook into the
venue’s back-up generator,
or he has his own batteryoperated
equipment. You
don’t want load shedding
to put a damper on your
party vibes.
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Credit: Katya Fedkina Photography
Honeymoon
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PRO TIP
Don’t over plan your
honeymoon. Schedule a few
bucket-list activities but leave
some room for fun and
spontaneity to just unfold.
Credits: (top row, from left) Nambiti Plains Private Game Lodge | Umngazi Hotel & Spa | (middle row,
from left) Mthembu, mFulawozi Wilderness | Umngazi Hotel & Spa | Qambathi Mountain Lodge |
(circle) Biyela, mFulaWozi Wilderness | (right) Nambiti Plains Private Game Reserve |
(opposite page) Biyela, mFolaWozi Wilderness
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The
perfect
honeymoon
OUR 10 TOP TIPS
After the rollercoaster of planning a wedding, you will be ready to take a break and spend some quality
time together. Whether you are a bush lover, a beach baby, an outdoors enthusiast, or seeking a
romantic refuge, the honeymoon destinations in our portfolio will definitely get you excited about
planning your itinerary.
Here are ten things to consider to make sure you are on the right path for honeymoon bliss:
1. Start planning early
Do your homework early and book well in advance to
secure the venue(s) you have your heart set on. Be
prepared to pay deposits to confirm your
reservations as popular destinations fill up quickly,
especially in peak seasons.
2. Take a ‘slow living’ approach to your schedule
Chances are, the lead-up to your wedding will leave
you feeling a little exhausted. Avoid the temptation
to squeeze as many things into your itinerary as
possible. At the very least, try to stay at least two
nights in your first location. Build in some proper
time to relax, rest and unwind.
3. Craft an itinerary that perfectly suits you
Every couple is different. Some couples want to laze
around the pool sipping cocktails and soaking up
the sun while others want to explore their surrounds
and try all the activities on offer. Don’t be
preoccupied with what others say a honeymoon
should or shouldn’t be. Your honeymoon is all about
the two of you.
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PRO TIP
Wearing some sexy, new lingerie will definitely
get you feeling sassy and this is, after all, your
once-in-a-lifetime honeymoon trip so spoil
yourself and invest in some gorgeous items
from eL Intimates.
4. Be a bargain hunter
If you plan well in advance, and you are willing to
travel out of season, you are more likely to scoop
discounted rates. Ask local luxury lodges if they have
special rates for SADC residents. You’ve got nothing
to lose by enquiring whether they can offer you a
preferential rate. They may not offer a reduction in
price but may surprise you with an additional
activity or complementary upgrade.
5. Look local
Couples often view their honeymoon as an
opportunity to go all out on an exotic overseas trip,
but there are so many hidden gems right on our
doorstep. Did you know that South Africa is one of
the top honeymoon destinations in the world?
6. If you brag, you’re likely to get swag
If you like a little complementary swag (and let’s be
honest, who doesn’t!?) then don’t be shy to share
about your newlywed status! Let your hotel or lodge
know ahead of your arrival that you are celebrating
your honeymoon with them. If they know, they will
often throw in extras like a welcome gift basket, a
private dining experience, or a complementary
activity—to make your time with them even more
memorable.
7. Be budget-savvy about ‘hidden’ costs
When drawing up the budget for your honeymoon,
don’t forget to factor in expenses like car hire,
airport transfers, meals, drinks, activities and
gratuities. Unless you book an all-inclusive package,
the total cost of your honeymoon is more than just
your travel and accommodation costs.
8. A honeyfund is a great wedding gift
These days, many couples have all the household
items they need. If what you would like most as a
wedding gift is a great honeymoon, set up a
honeymoon account and invite your friends and
family to contribute towards your ‘honeyfund’ as
their wedding gift to you.
Credit: eL Intimates
9. Why a delayed honeymoon may work for you
Simultaneously planning a wedding and honeymoon
is not only expensive but it is also a time sucker—
especially if you haven’t outsourced to a wedding
planner and / or travel agent. Delaying your
honeymoon gives you more time to save and you
may prefer having the extra time to plan your
itinerary once the wedding has passed. More
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PRO TIP
You may be tempted to share all the juicy
details of your magical ‘moon on social media
but my advice is to keep the posting to a
minimum while you are away. Take photos and
videos to document your adventures but don’t
feel you need to post them straight away. There
will be plenty of time to get social once you’re
back! Take this time to unplug and connect with
your beloved.
couples these days are opting for a ‘mini moon’
straight after the wedding with a full-blown
honeymoon taking place at a later stage. Two
honeymoons? That’s an idea I can support!
10. Consult the experts
While it can be fun to create your own travel
itinerary, it can also be hard work to coordinate all
the details. Chatting to a travel agent can be helpful
as they will be able to assist with tailoring a package
that suits your budget and preferences—and they
will be able to offer expert advice on the best travel
routes, local attractions, seasonality etc.
Wishing you and your beloved a happy honeymoon with
many sweet memories to cherish in the years to come!
by Jacqui Neumann
MARRIAGE MEANDER
Credits: (top) Mthembu, mFulawozi Wilderness | (middle row)
Umngazi Hotel & Spa | (above) Nambiti Plains Private Game Lodge |
(left) Biyela, mFulaWozi Wilderness
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Enjoy the pure romance of the true African Wilderness at mFulaWozi Private Game Reserve.
Embark on one of the most revered honeymoon destinations in the world.

• 5 Star Luxury Suites • The Big 5 • Romantic bush
dinners • Guided wilderness walks • Star gazing
• Spa treatments • Daily game drives & sundowners
• Private decks and plunge pools • Outdoor showers
Visit www.mfulawozi.com for more
reservations@mfulawozi.com

YOUR HONEYMOON ESSENTIALS PACKING LIST
The clothes you pack for honeymoon will be largely determined by your destination and the time of year
you are travelling but here is a quick checklist of essentials:
1. Driver’s license and ID/passport
2. Credit Cards (let your bank know if you’ll be out of
the country)
3. Printed copies of all travel documents and reservations
4. Printed list of important phone numbers e.g. your
house/pet-sitter, alarm company, medical aid and
bank call centre (in case you need to report stolen
cards or fraud)
5. Cellphone, charger and ear plugs (and adaptor if you
are heading overseas)
6. Cash
7. Kindle, book or magazines
8. Neck pillow
9. Everyday toiletries and sunscreen
10. Prescription medications
11. Mini first aid travel kit including motion sickness
tablets, anti-nausea and anti-diarrhoea tablets,
antihistamine, pain killers, plasters, anti-itching
ointment, and eye drops
12. Luggage tags for checked and carry-on luggage
13. Pen
Photos: Little Things Pics
PRO TIP
WelcometoQambathi,aboutique
5-room,adults-onlynaturelodgeinthe
Kamberg.It’stheperfectlocationfora
romantichoneymoonorelopement.
Or,roundupyourtribeandbookthewhole
lodgeforanunforgettablebacheloror
bachelorettegetaway.
www.qambathi.com
0827748164 | 0660024852
hello@qambathi.com
Whilst we don’t recommend
that you provide a detailed
account of your travel plans
to all and sundry, we do
suggest that you leave a copy
of your itinerary, passport,
check-in/check-out dates
with a trusted family member
or friend. Make sure that you
have put a robust plan in
place for your return home,
especially if you need to be
collected from an airport or
need to meet up with a house
sitter in order to get your
house keys back upon your
return!
Photo: Laura Jean Photography
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Your luxuriously natural safari honeymoon
Spacious, stylish and uncluttered, Nambiti Plains provides an unpretentious 5 star
experience where every moment is focused on the wonders of the wild.
www.nambitiplains.com | +27 (0)71 680 4584 | info@nambitiplains.com
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INDEX
5
Off to a Great Start
SoMuchMore | 15
17
I Do
Burne & Burne Attorneys | 22
Dream Ceremonies | 20
Mason Incorporated | 21
23
Venues
Bayala Private Safari Lodges | 31
Bonamanzi Private Game Reserve | 30
Bosch Hoek | 32
Cathedral Peak Hotel | 30
Fordoun | 32
Ghost Mountain Inn & Safaris | 33
Gracelands Farm | 34
Harrington House | 32
Haycroft Farm | 36
Highgate Wine Estate | 33
Hluhluwe River Lodge | 35
Lythwood Lodge | 36
Rockabilly Ranch | 34
Sani Valley Nature Lodges | 37
Swallow Cliff Hall | 37
Sweethome | 34
The Groves | 38
Thorner Country Estate | 33
Credit: Vix Photography
39
Tastes
Grace of Bakes | 44
Hamblin’s Catering | 41
Jackie Cameron School of Food & Wine | 40
Whisked Cakery | 44
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Advertisers’
INDEX CONTINUED
45
The Write Style
Aurora Designs | 50
Handmade by Janine | 49
51
Hair & Make-up
Blush Pro Makeup | 56
Dio’s Gracia Make-up Artistry & Aesthetics | 55
Lau.Artistry | 55
Solé Hair & Beauty | 56
57
All Dressed Up
A’mour Bridal Boutique | 64
Bella Bride Bridal Boutique | 64
Belle & Bravado | 68
David Batchelor Designs | 64
eL Intimates | 65
Sposabella Bridal Boutique | 65
Suit Yourself | 68
The Rivera Collection | 65
69
Setting the Scene
Country Co | 76
Draperite | 78
etc events | 74
Laurie Kohrs | 76
Midlands Stretch Tents | 74
Muirhead’s Hiring | 71
Spotted Owl | 77
studio Petals | 72
The Floral Team | 80
The Wedding Company | 78
Laura Jean
Photography
81
Photo & Film
Bailee Guy Weddings | 87
Beyond Measure | 91
Katya Fedkina Photography | 90
Laura Jean Photography | 91
NALA Photography | 87
Ruby Jean Photography | 90
Videoccasions | 92
Vix Photography | 92
93
Music
DJ Greig | 96
DJ-K | 97
Grace Botha Music | 94
René Tshiakanyi Music | 98
Sound Mechanix | 96
Ruby Jean
99
Photography
Honeymoon
mFulaWozi Wilderness | 104–105
Nambiti Plains Private Game Lodge | 107
Qambathi Mountain Lodge | 106
Umngazi Hotel & Spa | 108
BACK COVER
Marriage Meander KZN
Love on the Lawn Wedding Showcase
Katya Fedkina
Photography
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Credit: NALA Photography
Parting
words
Dear one,
This book was written just for you—with love, insight and
careful consideration of the triumphs and challenges
you are likely to face on your wedding planning journey.
Karen is my designer and the creative director of this
publication. She is the person responsible for breathing
life into our book baby and the effort she puts into
making every page a work of art, is a gift for which I am
endlessly grateful.
I am honoured to have the opportunity to share some
wedding wisdom with you along the way, and I am truly
excited to think that many of you will reach out to the
venues and suppliers featured in our portfolio—to help
you write the next chapter of your Love Story!
I consider it a blessing and a joy to work in the wedding
industry alongside some pretty wonderful colleagues,
many of whom have become friends.
Before closing off this edition of the book, I need to pay
tribute to one such colleague and friend, Karen Schmidt.
I also need to say a deep, full-of-love thank you to my
hub. I am so grateful to you for patiently enduring the
crazy pre-book-launch schedule and most importantly,
for your love, admiration and respect. Thank you for
being my blue crayon. The one I never have enough of.
The one I use to colour my sky.
It is time for me to bid you farewell, lovebirds, and as I
do, I pray that you will find so much joy in this journey!
Jacqui
Love,
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Photo: JCS Photography
WHAT IS LOVE ON THE LAWN, AND WHY
SHOULD YOU ATTEND?
This day is for you if:
% You are recently engaged and planning your wedding in KwaZulu-Natal
% You feel overwhelmed by all the decisions you need to make and you are not sure where to start
% You are looking for ideas and want to meet some of the best wedding suppliers in KwaZulu-Natal
% You want to enjoy a fun and inspiring day out with your bride tribe or your partner
Love on the Lawn has been designed especially for brides-to-be, to remove the stress
out of your wedding planning, and to sprinkle you with inspiration, organisation and joy!
Marriage Meander has created Love on the Lawn to help you plan all the important aspects of your
wedding in one day, which will save you time and money while you are having a bundle of fun.
Dates and bookings: www.marriagemeander.co.za | jacqui@marriagemeander.co.za