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A T T A C H M E N T I N J U R I E S
Conversation #16
This may be the most difficult of all the conversations. Approach
this with gentleness, curiosity, and kindness.
The mindset for these questions is to hold the pain we have not
been able to hold in the past. Your goal as you ask your partner
these questions is to create a safe space for them to be seen and
heard by you.
The point is not to rehash hold things just for the sake of rehashing
them but to heal those things that are left undone.
*If you find it hard for the two of you to make it through this
conversation you may need a little extra help and that is okay and
normal. Feel free to reach out to Trevor at this email for additional
resources such as the Connection Course and couples coaching.
trevor@theartofhealingbytrevor.com
Has there ever been a moment when you felt particularly hurt by
something I said or did? What happened?
How did you feel? Explain the emotions and where you felt them in
your body.
What meaning did you make of the situation? Maybe it felt like it
meant something about you, me, or our relationship.
How can I offer comfort and love around this injury right now? If
you don’t know that is okay. I will be here for you.
As you talk about these things how have you felt?
What emotions are you experiencing and why?