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Landing Family Opens Home, Fosters Dozens o<br />
LAKE HOPATCONG NEWS <strong>Fourth</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>July</strong> <strong>2023</strong><br />
Story by MELISSA SUMMERS<br />
Photos by Karen Fucito<br />
If ever there was a woman destined for<br />
motherhood, it’s Carla Suitt.<br />
This super mom, who celebrated her 70th<br />
birthday in April, has one biological daughter,<br />
two adopted sons with her husband, James,<br />
and has fostered 39 children.<br />
Suitt, <strong>of</strong> Landing, was born in Trinidad, West<br />
Indies, the fifth <strong>of</strong> seven children. She said her<br />
upbringing set the stage for her calling<br />
as a foster parent.<br />
Inspired by her mother, Pamella<br />
Rougier, Suitt learned to welcome<br />
anyone who graced their island home.<br />
“I believe my mom used to feed the<br />
neighborhood,” she said, with a bit<br />
<strong>of</strong> her island accent still showing<br />
through. “Any time you come to my<br />
house, my mother would ask you, ‘Did<br />
you eat yet?’ Always cook more, you<br />
don’t know who’s going to stop by.”<br />
Life in Trinidad was crazy, according<br />
to Suitt. “I was young, I did a lot <strong>of</strong><br />
things,” she said with an eyebrow<br />
raised. “We were teenagers.” At 16,<br />
she gave birth to her daughter,<br />
Alicia Rougier.<br />
“My mom, the whole village<br />
raised my daughter,” she said.<br />
Suitt enjoyed anything<br />
creative. She wanted to bake<br />
cakes and do things with her<br />
hands. “My mom said, ‘You<br />
have a little girl, you should<br />
learn to sew.’” She did, earning<br />
an associate degree in sewing,<br />
drafting and pattern design<br />
at John Donaldson Technical<br />
Institute in Trinidad.<br />
In March 1978, at age 25, Suitt<br />
moved to Brooklyn, New York,<br />
with her mother, two sisters,<br />
and Alicia—who was 7 at the<br />
time and still referred to her<br />
grandmother as Mommy<br />
and her mother as Carla.<br />
“It’s only when Alicia<br />
got to college, I said, ‘Stop<br />
calling me Carla. Start calling<br />
me Mother now,’” said Suitt.<br />
Suitt <strong>of</strong>ten visited a<br />
cousin in New Jersey and<br />
soon got a clerical job at<br />
Howmet Castings in Dover,<br />
where turbine blades were manufactured for the<br />
aviation industry. It wasn’t her ideal job choice,<br />
but it had one big benefit.<br />
“I met this guy, James [Suitt], and never went<br />
back to Brooklyn,” she said <strong>of</strong> the kind and<br />
distinguished man from Dover who caught her<br />
eye.<br />
In 1980, Carla Suitt got an apartment in Dover.<br />
It took two years for her daughter to join her<br />
because her mom and sisters were still holding<br />
a tight rein. “First, they told me, ‘You don’t have<br />
your own place.’ I got my own place. ‘Well, you<br />
don’t have a car.’ I got a car now. ‘Is it a good car,<br />
a running car?’” she said with a shake <strong>of</strong> her head.<br />
Once she and James Suitt were serious, they<br />
started looking for homes together and chose<br />
one in Landing, moving there in May 1984.<br />
Suitt waited until they were married that June<br />
before he moved in. “He always went back over<br />
to his parents’ house,” said Alicia Rougier-Walker,<br />
now 53. Suitt told her daughter she was setting an<br />
example by not allowing James to move in before<br />
they were married.<br />
The Suitts attended Mount Zion Baptist Church<br />
in Boonton, where in 1995 they met a 12-year-old<br />
girl named Shandora. She had been living with her<br />
grandmother but found herself needing a home<br />
and began staying with the Suitts.<br />
Rougier-Walker, who had been away at Army<br />
boot camp, came home to the surprise sibling.<br />
“She was going to spend the summer, my parents<br />
said. Just someone from church, that’s it, but then<br />
the grandmother just transferred everything to<br />
the Department <strong>of</strong> Children and Families [DCF].”<br />
DCF told the Suitts they’d cover medical<br />
expenses but didn’t discuss a foster payment. “I<br />
just wanted to help this child,” said Carla Suitt,<br />
who continued working full-time at Howmet for<br />
11 years. She just figured she’d pick up some parttime<br />
work for extra income to help defray the<br />
cost.<br />
So when a check arrived from DCF, the family<br />
was a bit confused.<br />
“We didn’t know what it was, so I’m like, ‘Ma,<br />
just return to sender,’” Rougier-Walker recalled.<br />
“So, we put it in another envelope and sent it<br />
back. Then, it came a second time.”<br />
And that, said Rougier-Walker, is when the<br />
Suitts found out that foster parents were given a<br />
supplemental income.<br />
Once the house was a certified foster home,<br />
the calls began. Tara and Alexa came in 1996. “The<br />
original girl didn’t like that,” laughed Rougier-<br />
Walker, who lived at home until she was 30.<br />
Some foster children were placed in their<br />
home for a week or two while their parents<br />
Top to bottom, left to right: Alicia Rougier-Walker visits with the Suitt’s first foster<br />
child, Shandora Miller, in December <strong>of</strong> 2004. William, James and Carla Suitt with<br />
Rougier-Walker. William Suitt, Rougier-Walker and Adam Suitt at Rougier-Walker’s<br />
college graduation in 2015. Rougier-Walker and William at their childhood home.<br />
Carla Suitt in her rose garden.<br />
(Some photos courtesy <strong>of</strong> the Suitt family.)