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NEW ZEALAND SPINAL TRUST 4<br />
—Peter Thornton<br />
While there’s sadness to<br />
be driving away, there is<br />
also real excitement about<br />
what is next.<br />
living with a permanent injury or illness. The moment<br />
—as Andrew puts it—“when the chickens come home<br />
to roost”.<br />
HAPPY FAMILY—Our family have settled well back home in Auckland.<br />
While there’s sadness to be driving away, there is also real<br />
excitement about what is next. We’re moving back into<br />
our own home. We will be back with our family. We will<br />
ensure that for the next 15 years our kids are settled and<br />
secure as they make their way through their school.<br />
It’s time for the next chapter.<br />
Back to my cat for a second. Murphy spent the first two<br />
hours of our journey meowing like he’s only got a few<br />
moments to live. I remember the Vet’s advice who<br />
suggested ‘Give him the sedative right before you leave<br />
and after two hours he should be out like a light’.<br />
Moments later. Silence. Golden silence. He doesn’t make<br />
another peep until we hit the rush hour traffic<br />
approaching Auckland’s Harbour Bridge.<br />
After singing my heart out to Crowded House, Shihad and<br />
Foo Fighters’ back catalogue, I think about the concept of<br />
place. The places we spend our minutes, hours and days<br />
that capture our memories and feelings. They provide the<br />
setting for our lives to unfold—it’s impossible to recount<br />
those moments without the attachment to that place.<br />
Change is hard.<br />
It’s unsettling. It puts you out of your comfort zone and<br />
challenges who you are.<br />
As the kids, settle into their new school we’ve been telling<br />
them: ‘Be brave’, ‘Just be yourself’, ‘Take it one day at a<br />
time’ and ‘Never give up’. Sometimes I wonder when I’m<br />
telling them this advice, that deep down I am also talking<br />
to myself.<br />
We are back home and we love it. But it’s different. I<br />
realise that, I have it easy. I think of the many people who<br />
I’ve talked to about the hardest step in their rehab from a<br />
spinal injury—going home.<br />
Andrew Hall, who runs our Peer and Whānau Support<br />
team among many other things, summed it up so well.<br />
That is the moment when the reality hits people they are<br />
The physical rehab is one thing but the mental recovery is<br />
also complicated. The person isn’t the same as they were<br />
before their injury and all of a sudden navigating their<br />
own home is a huge struggle. It’s supposed to be their safe<br />
place, but there are barriers everywhere.<br />
They go from the best environment possible for catering<br />
to their needs—the Spinal Unit with help always available<br />
and care a push of a button away—to being at home.<br />
There are loads of bittersweet memories and no escaping<br />
the reality that now, life is different. And that’s not even<br />
mentioning going out into the world.<br />
It’s a hugely confronting moment.<br />
And the worst thing of all is no-one really gets it. Unless<br />
of course you have been on that same path yourself.<br />
Family still love them to bits. They are there for them as<br />
best they can be, but it’s not the same.<br />
It’s a lonely old road.<br />
But the good news is—as so many people will tell you—it<br />
only gets better. And the NZ Spinal Trust and Spinal<br />
Support NZ partnership with ACC to fund Peer and<br />
Whānau Support has been a ground-breaking push<br />
forward. It’s making a huge difference in formalising our<br />
community to support one another and help with every<br />
stage of life. I hope there is more to come.<br />
Of course, we can all help. We can all make conscious<br />
decisions to look out for one another, and create<br />
community wherever we are.<br />
For people with a spinal cord impairment, that support<br />
can be the catalyst to living an independent life or not.<br />
Every person who has come through the Spinal Unit and<br />
gone on to their own journey has been down this same<br />
path. They have faced their challenge head on, grieved<br />
when they needed to, and been supported and then<br />
supported others to live a life that is worth living.<br />
Change is hard. No doubt about that.<br />
But if you are on this journey, take your time and when<br />
you are ready, reach out for a chat. There will be someone<br />
waiting to help you, just like they were supported. They’ll<br />
help you find the next chapter in your story.