Seasons (22)

F A L L 2 0 2 3
SEASONS
ORANGE CITY HOME HEALTH & HOSPICE
Serving our families, friends, caregivers, and partners
M O R E I N O U R
F A L L I S S U E
In Loving Memory - 2
Tree of Remembrance- 4
Gifts from the community - 5
H O W T O C O P E W I T H G R I E F D U R I N G T H E H O L I D A Y S
B Y D R . T E R I B E R L I N G E R
Don’t you wish you could press pause on the grieving process during the holiday season? I
remember wishing I could do just that during the first (and several) holiday season following
the painful loss of a loved one in my life.
I recall being conflicted as there were times when I wanted to participate in the excitement
and joy but simultaneously either didn’t want to participate at all or felt guilty for
celebrating. That conflict still exists many years later.
Grief is complicated and unique for everyone. While accepting loss becomes easier over
time, it is often something we carry with us forever.
Grief is always evolving and at times the feelings seem to be out of our control. Therefore,
the ‘pause’ button does not exist and it is challenging to be in pain while there is so much
joy all around you.
However, there are things you can do to help alleviate some of that conflict you may be
experiencing. If you or someone you know are grieving during the holiday season, here are
some helpful tips to help get through this potentially painful period of time.
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M i l d r e d M o o n e y : 5 / 1 / 2 0 2 3
E d m u n d H e d i n g e r : 5 / 5 / 2 0 2 3
H e n r i e t t a D a a l e : 5 / 5 / 2 0 2 3
L a v o n n e D e G r o o t : 5 / 3 0 / 2 0 2 3
H a r r i e t V a n d e r S t o e p : 6 / 8 / 2 0 2 3
L o r n a O l s o n : 6 / 1 4 / 2 0 2 3
M a r g a r e t G r i m b e r g : 6 / 1 8 / 2 0 2 3
T h e l m a A b e r s o n : 6 / 2 3 / 2 0 2 3
J e a n e t t e R o e t m a n : 6 / 2 7 / 2 0 2 3
G l a d y s K o r v e r : 7 / 4 / 2 0 2 3
L y l e K o e h l m o o s : 7 / 6 / 2 0 2 3
W a n d a B l a i r : 7 / 1 9 / 2 0 2 3
P h y l l i s V a n d e r W e r f f : 8 / 2 0 / 2 0 2 3
P e a r l K o o i m a : 8 / 2 9 / 2 0 2 3
M a r l e n e R o n s : 8 / 3 0 / 2 0 2 3
A r i a n a M a t a - E s t r a d a : 9 / 4 / 2 0 2 3
I n L o v i n g M e m o r y
W i l m a F o r e m a n : 9 / 1 1 / 2 0 2 3
L y n n A n s o n : 9 / 1 1 / 2 0 2 3
D a v i d D a v i s o n : 9 / 1 3 / 2 0 2 3
E l l a V a n d e r W i n d t : 9 / 1 5 / 2 0 2 3
G e o r g i a W a h l s t r o m : 9 / 1 6 / 2 0 2 3
K e i t h L a n d h u i s : 9 / 2 1 / 2 0 2 3
M a r i e P o m e r e n k e : 9 / 2 5 / 2 0 2 3
R o d n e y B o l k e m a : 9 / 2 6 / 2 0 2 3
F r a n c i s N i e m a n : 9 / 2 7 / 2 0 2 3
E r n e s t F e d d e r s : 9 / 2 9 / 2 0 2 3
S a n d r a A n d e r s o n : 1 0 / 5 / 2 0 2 3
E l i z a b e t h K o r v e r : 1 0 / 5 / 2 0 2 3
R o g e r J a c o b s m a : 1 0 / 6 / 2 0 2 3
R o g e r D e H a a n : 1 0 / 1 5 / 2 0 2 3
R o b e r t a “ B o b b y ” R e u v e r s : 1 0 / 1 8 / 0 2 3
A n n B o o t e : 1 0 / 2 2 / 2 0 2 3
W e e x t e n d o u r h e a r t f e l t s y m p a t h y t o t h e f a m i l i e s a n d f r i e n d s w h o s e l o v e d o n e s h a v e
r e c e n t l y p a s s e d a w a y . W e a r e g r a t e f u l f o r t h e o p p o r t u n i t y t o h a v e s h a r e d i n t h e l i v e s o f
s u c h s p e c i a l p e o p l e .
R E C E N T F A M I L Y
C O M M E N T S
T h a n k y o u s o m u c h f o r
c o m i n g i n t o o u r l i v e s a t a
t i m e o f u n c e r t a i n t y a n d g r i e f
a n d f o r g u i d i n g o u r f a m i l y
t h r o u g h t h e p r o c e s s o f b o t h
m a k i n g t h e m o s t o f o u r t i m e
w i t h D a d a n d f o r a s s i s t i n g
a s o u r D a d t r a n s i t i o n e d t o
h i s H e a v e n l y h o m e .
O u r f a m i l y h i t t h e
“ j a c k p o t ” w i t h t h e
a w e s o m e c a r e a n d c o m f o r t
g i v e n t o o u r m o m p l u s t h e
f a m i l y s u p p o r t . Y o u r t e a m
i s t h e b e s t o f t h e b e s t ! W e
h a v e b e e n b l e s s e d a n d a r e
v e r y g r a t e f u l .
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How to Cope... (Continued from p. 1)
Set Boundaries with Holiday Events
You can participate and not participate in whatever feels right for you. While there may be pressure to
attend a holiday party, family gathering, holiday show—remember to check in with your wants and
needs to identify if you are ready.
Tune Into Your Grief Emotions
As mentioned above, there is no ‘pause’ button for grief during the holidays and it is often magnified.
You may experience both negative and positive feelings during this season while grieving. Be kind to
yourself and remember that all feelings can coexist. For example, I can miss that person and enjoy
the holiday at the same time.
Plan Ahead to Fill Empty Holiday Roles
Loss often means that certain roles will need to be filled. It is important to think ahead (especially with
children) to consider who will fill those vacated roles (e.g., Dad always dressed as Santa or Aunt
always cut the turkey). Planning ahead can avoid unnecessary moments of grief and can help make
the experiences more fluid and enjoyable.
Honor Old Traditions & Memories
It can be helpful to continue with old traditions that existed in order to honor and celebrate the
individuals who are no longer here. This is a helpful way to keep their memory present.
Create New Traditions
Creating new traditions can be healing for individuals who are grieving. Acknowledge, validate and
then challenge any feelings of guilt that may arise in the process. Making new memories does not
erase old memories.
Identify Grief Coping Skills
Prior to the holiday season beginning, consider creating a list of go-to coping skills to use whether you
are at home or at a social function. Some examples of coping skills are deep breathing, taking a walk,
journaling, listening to music, practicing yoga, and saying positive affirmations.
Volunteer/Do Something Charitable
Helping others can alleviate your sadness while bringing joy into someone else’s life who needs it.
Ask For Help When Struggling with Grief
It is important to seek support from friends, family, coworkers and professionals if needed.
Conclusion
The holiday season is not always as merry as we want it to be. It is normal to feel apprehensive about
it and you are not alone in feeling that way. Please remember that there is no right or wrong way to
approach the holiday season following the loss of a loved one. If you experience happiness, allow it to
enter into your grief space and be present with the people around you. Be kind to yourself and try to
take it one holiday party and one feeling at a time.
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“Life tossed us up into the air,
scattered us, and we all somehow
found our way back. And we will do
it again. And again.”
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Alexandra Bracken

W H Y W E N E E D V O L U N T E E R S
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touch a heart
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give freely of their time to help in
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to address patient and family
needs. This list of things
volunteers do is just the tip of the
iceberg:
read a book or devotions
hold a hand
vacuum
bake treats
write letters
listen to cherished memories
G r i e f i s l i k e t h e
o c e a n ; i t c o m e s o n
w a v e s e b b i n g a n d
f l o w i n g . S o m e t i m e s
t h e w a t e r i s c a l m ,
a n d s o m e t i m e s i t i s
o v e r w h e l m i n g . A l l w e
c a n d o i s l e a r n t o
s w i m .
V i c k i H a r r i s o n
2023 tree of remembrance ornaments
T h e R e m e m b r a n c e O r n a m e n t s f o r 2 0 2 3 w i l l a d o r n
t h e T r e e o f R e m e m b r a n c e t h r o u g h o u t t h e h o l i d a y
s e a s o n . T h e o r n a m e n t s t h i s y e a r a r e m a d e o f s l a t e
a n d p e r s o n a l i z e d w i t h t h e i n d i v i d u a l ’ s n a m e . A f t e r
t h e h o l i d a y s e a s o n , w e w i l l p r e s e n t e a c h f a m i l y
w i t h t h e i r r e s p e c t i v e o r n a m e n t s . S h o u l d y o u w i s h t o
o r d e r e x t r a o r n a m e n t s , w e k i n d l y e n c o u r a g e y o u t o
c o n s i d e r a d o n a t i o n o f $ 1 5 p e r o r n a m e n t .
A d d i t i o n a l o r n a m e n t o r d e r s c a n b e p l a c e d b y
r e a c h i n g o u t t o o u r o f f i c e a t 7 1 2 - 7 3 7 - 5 2 7 9 b y
N o v e m b e r 1 5 . P l e a s e b e r e a d y t o p r o v i d e y o u r
n a m e , p h o n e n u m b e r , t h e d e s i r e d n a m e f o r t h e
o r n a m e n t , a s w e l l a s t h e b i r t h a n d d e a t h y e a r s o f
t h e p e r s o n . Y o u r g e n e r o u s d o n a t i o n e n s u r e s t h e
c o n t i n u o u s p r o v i s i o n o f h i g h - q u a l i t y h o s p i c e c a r e
f o r t h o s e f a c i n g l i f e - l i m i t i n g i l l n e s s e s .
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Gifts
F R O M T H E C O M M U N I T Y
I N M E M O R Y O F
B R I A N M A J E R E S
H A R R I E T V A N D E R S T O E P
T H E L M A A B E R S O N
L Y L E K O E H L M O O S
J E A N N E T T E R O E T M A N
R O N J U F F E R
M A R G A R E T G R I M B E R G
P E A R L K O O I M A
W I L M A F O R E M A N
G E O R G I A W A H L S T R O M
G I V E N B Y
P A T R I C I A M A J E R E S
J E R I S & C A R L A V A N D E Z A N D S C H U L P
G I L B E R T A B E R S O N
C E L E S T E D I E H M
P A T R O N S O F A R T S H I G H S C H O O L B O O S T E R S
G A I L & R A N D Y W A L F O R D
N E B R A S K A C I T Y J A Y C E E S
J O H N & L Y N N K O E S T E R
D E N N I S & S H A R O N D E N H A R T O G
P E G J U F F E R
M U R L G R I M B E R G
B U N Z L D I S T R I B U T I O N
R O G E R & J U D Y P I E R S M A
G A I L D O B B I N S
R O N A L D & M A R L E N E D A A L E
H O W A R D & D O R I N D A V A N E N G E N
K E N N E T H N E T T E N
B I L L & W E N D Y F O R E M A N
D A V I D & R U T H K A T T
W A H L S T R O M F A M I L Y
A S S O C I A T E D B U I L D E R S O F I O W A
C A R L W A H L S T R O M
G E N E R A L D O N A T I O N S G I V E N B Y
C a l v a r y C h r i s t i a n R e f o r m e d C h u r c h
A m e r i c a n L e g i o n W o m e n s A u x i l i a r y
f o r t h e W e H o n o r V e t e r a n s P r o g r a m
Y o u r g e n e r o u s d o n a t i o n e n s u r e s t h e c o n t i n u o u s p r o v i s i o n o f h i g h - q u a l i t y h o s p i c e c a r e f o r
t h o s e f a c i n g l i f e - l i m i t i n g i l l n e s s e s .
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The Rainbow
-by Judy Schwab
L O C A T I O N 4 0 0 C E N T R A L A V E N U E N W O R A N G E C I T Y , I A
M A I L I N G 1 0 0 0 L I N C O L N C I R . S E O R A N G E C I T Y , I A 5 1 0 4 1
T r e e o f R e m e m b r a n c e L i g h t i n g C e r e m o n y
Y o u ’ r e i n v i t e d t o j o i n u s o n W e d n e s d a y , N o v e m b e r 2 9
a t 7 p m i n t h e f r o n t l o b b y o f t h e O r a n g e C i t y A r e a
H e a l t h S y s t e m f o r a t r e e l i g h t i n g c e r e m o n y . L e t ’ s
c o m e t o g e t h e r t o c e l e b r a t e a n d c h e r i s h t h e m e m o r i e s
o f t h o s e w h o h a v e p r o f o u n d l y i m p a c t e d o u r l i v e s . I n
t h i s y e a r ’ s e v e n t , w e w i l l d e d i c a t e s p e c i a l o r n a m e n t s
t o h o n o r o u r h o s p i c e p a t i e n t s w h o p a s s e d a w a y
b e t w e e n N o v e m b e r 2 1 , 2 0 2 2 a n d N o v e m b e r 2 0 , 2 0 2 3 .
P R E S E N T E D T O Y O U B Y