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life<br />
An Open<br />
Mind &<br />
Open Heart<br />
Special to <strong>Focus</strong> <strong>Mid</strong>-<strong>South</strong><br />
Barbara Love has<br />
fostered 75 children<br />
in 26 years, including<br />
LGBTQ+ children<br />
Barbara Love. Photos courtesy of Meritan.<br />
“I love to make a difference,” said Barbara Love.<br />
“Caring for these children over the years has kept me<br />
young and vibrant.<br />
Love explained she first became interested in<br />
fostering after learning a friend of hers had been<br />
mistreated as a child. “No child should feel unwanted,”<br />
Love said. After hearing her friend’s story, Love said, “I<br />
knew I needed to help.”<br />
When she started fostering children as a single parent<br />
in 1997, she said she had no idea what she was doing.<br />
“I just took whoever they needed me to,” adding she’s<br />
fostered children ranging from six years old to 18. “Some<br />
of the children were supposed to be here a week and<br />
ended up being here for well over a year. The longest I’ve<br />
had a child is two and one-half years,” Love said.<br />
In addition to fostering children of all ages, Love has also<br />
fostered several LGBTQ+ children over the years.<br />
“When you bring a child into your home,” Love said,<br />
“you have to have an open mind and let them express who<br />
they are.” She said of her LGBTQ+ children: “You just love<br />
them like everyone else and let them open up to you. You<br />
let them know you’re here just to love them. Not to judge<br />
them or hurt them… just to love them. All they want is to be<br />
loved and accepted.”<br />
She said one LGBTQ+ young man she fostered is now a<br />
fashion designer. “He told me when he came to me that no<br />
one would accept him,” Love said. “I allowed him to be his<br />
full self, loved him for who he was, told him to follow his<br />
dreams and now he’s a fashion designer.”<br />
With all the children, Love said, “you just have to have<br />
an open mind and open heart. I show them they are not<br />
just the product of their environment. I show them how<br />
to live, give them life skills and let them know they are<br />
worthy and important.”<br />
She said she can’t let herself dwell on the sadness and<br />
hurt many of the children have suffered. “I can’t dwell on<br />
the sadness,” she said, “because these kids are scared<br />
and just need to be loved. All a child wants is love from<br />
somebody. There’s no need to dwell on their pasts, no<br />
need to do anything but love them. They’ve already been<br />
through enough.”<br />
Love explained she’s been fortunate to have had<br />
minimal problems with her foster children over the years,<br />
even though she’s fostered some children who have had<br />
behavioral and other challenges. “It’s all about giving them<br />
love. When you do, they’ll listen to you… you redirect but<br />
still love. And always have candy.”<br />
A mother of two adult children, Love also adopted two<br />
of her foster daughters along the way. One daughter came<br />
to her when she was ten, Love adopted her when she was<br />
15 and she is now 22. The second daughter, Markiva, came<br />
to Love when she was six and will soon turn 11.<br />
“When Markiva came to me she was very shy and<br />
withdrawn,” Love said. “Today, she is on the dance team,<br />
making great grades… It’s been amazing to watch her grow<br />
and change. She calls me ‘Gigi’ and says she knows I’m her<br />
family now and always will be.”<br />
36 Music | <strong>Nov</strong>+<strong>Dec</strong> <strong>2023</strong> | focuslgbt.com