R J Hembree - Writers' Village University
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give a damn what anyone else thinks, nannies and mothers included, many of<br />
whom believe a solitary man not into socializing must be an oddball. So I stay<br />
within myself, and try to work, and occasionally I am rude to those like PG who<br />
don’t take the hint. But I am not rude today, and I don’t know why. I decide to be<br />
pleasant. Maybe I am getting soft; I am, indeed, often weak. We chat about stupid<br />
things, and I find him full of himself, yet he is a good father, the best compliment I<br />
could give to any man. Isaac, suddenly, greets me with a big hug, and I happily<br />
turn my attention to my son. No one will deny me that. I wave goodbye to PG as I<br />
allow Isaac to lead me to freedom.<br />
Isaac and I drop off Aaron at Taekwondo; I will pick up Aaron in one hour.<br />
Meanwhile, I walk with Isaac to our apartment, and my back is hurting because<br />
my laptop weighs about thirty pounds, with the books and papers I also stuff into<br />
its case. Isaac’s Hebrew lesson begins at home, and I take the opportunity to walk<br />
Aaron to Taekwondo. The Hebrew teacher is fine with Isaac at home, and I do<br />
trust her. I walk Aaron back to our apartment, another fifteen blocks. I calculated<br />
the other day that I walk roughly between three to four miles each day, for exercise,<br />
errands, lessons for the boys, playdates, groceries. Aaron then has his own<br />
Hebrew lesson, while Isaac finishes his homework. Eventually, our exuberant<br />
Hebrew teacher leaves, and the boys finish their homework at their desks,<br />
occasionally shouting “Dad! Could you come over here?” or “I don’t understand<br />
this!” or “Should I do what’s due on Thursday too?” I cook dinner, and feel like a<br />
servant. ‘Sergio’ in Latin means ‘to serve,’ ‘servant,’ or ‘soldier.’ Yes, I am the<br />
soldier of this house. When my wife Laura walks in at 7:30 p.m. from her job at<br />
the bank, I am slumped on the sofa, having finished washing the dishes from<br />
dinner and preparing the coffee pot for tomorrow morning. The kids are watching<br />
TV. I am exhausted; my head throbs. Aaron and Isaac will not be asleep before<br />
9:30, their bedtime, and Laura and I will go to bed at a few minutes before<br />
midnight. I imagine the bed as another sanctum, my deep sleep a bucolic<br />
rejuvenation, but for what? The Eternal Recurrence of this day?<br />
Should I turn away from my children, from Laura? I sometimes think I<br />
should, simply to get more work done. I have this friend of mine who is gay and a<br />
writer, and he doesn’t have any serious attachments for very long. He tells me<br />
about them, a new boyfriend, another one, he’s in love, and then he’s not. It’s a<br />
merry-go-round. I have another friend, also a writer, but older, and he dates 21year-old<br />
college students for a few months, women less than half his age, and<br />
leaves them, or they leave him, and he’s alone. Then his particular tilt-a-whirl<br />
begins again. These two writers know each other, and hate each other, but they<br />
are actually similar as persons. They think about themselves first and foremost,<br />
they are talented writers, they love an entourage, and they are obsessively<br />
materialistic. They envy me, and my family, they both like Laura and my children;<br />
they also indirectly criticize me for focusing as much on my family as on my<br />
writing. I envy them for their independent lives, for their literary production, for<br />
their so-casual treatment of their lovers. First and foremost is their work, and the<br />
promotion of their work, and their bragging about their work. They love to talk<br />
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