Tuko Pamoja: A Guide for Peer Educators (entire - Path
Tuko Pamoja: A Guide for Peer Educators (entire - Path
Tuko Pamoja: A Guide for Peer Educators (entire - Path
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10. What is love?<br />
Objectives<br />
By the end of this session, group members will be able to:<br />
• Explain the difference between love and attraction.<br />
• Name qualities they would want in a boyfriend or girlfriend.<br />
Background notes<br />
Love is a feeling that can be hard to explain and can mean different things to<br />
different people. To most people, love means a deep feeling of liking, attraction,<br />
respect, caring, and understanding <strong>for</strong> another person, even with their weaknesses.<br />
It is important to remember that sexual intercourse is not necessarily a way to show you love<br />
someone. Having sex does not mean that two people are in love or will fall in love. Remember,<br />
love is about respect and caring <strong>for</strong> each other. Love is never a good reason to do anything that<br />
puts your health and future at risk.<br />
Good friendships and relationships help people feel good about themselves. Good friends help with<br />
problems and share dreams <strong>for</strong> the future. Good friends can be people of the same sex or people<br />
of the opposite sex. Boys and girls, men and women, can be good friends without having a sexual<br />
relationship. The words “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” do not necessarily mean that the relationship is<br />
a sexual one. Two people can have a close and loving relationship without sex.<br />
Getting along with the opposite sex can be difficult and confusing because many men and women<br />
are not sure what the other wants in a relationship. Remember, most people want the same thing<br />
in a relationship. They want respect, trust, honesty, understanding, and caring. Building a good<br />
relationship takes time and patience. Sex is not a good way to build a close<br />
relationship. Having sex does not mean that two people love each other or<br />
that they are close. Sex without true friendship is dangerous <strong>for</strong> a person’s<br />
health and heart.<br />
Two people can spend time together and become very close without<br />
having sex. By talking and sharing experiences, they can learn important<br />
things about each other. They can learn how each views life, how they<br />
would make decisions together, what kind of partner and parent each<br />
person would make, and how each feels about the other’s plans <strong>for</strong> life.<br />
Touching each other (without sexual intercourse) can be satisfying by<br />
itself and is not dangerous as long as it does not lead a person to lose control<br />
and to have sex be<strong>for</strong>e he or she is ready.<br />
It can take a long time to develop a good relationship, but one of the most<br />
important things in a relationship is good communication. In order to