MIndy’s CallIng
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pregnancy<br />
Baby Steps<br />
Are yOu reALLy reAdy? AnsWer these 4 questiOns<br />
beFOre yOu stArt trying tO cOnceive<br />
By Colleen Oakley<br />
The average age<br />
American women<br />
have their first<br />
baby is 25, up from<br />
21 in 1970.<br />
Some choices (Paper or plastic? Coffee or espresso? X-Factor or The Voice?)<br />
are easy. But some—like when to have a baby—can be more of a challenge.<br />
“When my husband, Bret, and I started to discuss having a baby, we lived in California,<br />
while my family was back on the East Coast,” says Caley Bowman, 32, a<br />
marketing manager in Asheville, N.C. “I wasn’t sure I wanted to be so far away from<br />
them. Plus, I’m really active and didn’t know if I was ready to give up my lifestyle.<br />
Then there were the finances to consider. Could we afford it?”<br />
Caley and Bret mulled parenthood for months before finally deciding they were<br />
ready. Some couples struggle with the idea even longer. “So many factors go into<br />
the decision, and it’s different for every couple,” says Lisa Mazzullo, MD, assistant<br />
professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University Feinberg School<br />
of Medicine.<br />
How do you know? If you can answer “yes” to these four questions, you might be<br />
more prepared than you realize.<br />
EXPERT TIP<br />
“Examine your own personal attitude toward the<br />
unexpected. If you feel a bit squeamish about relinquishing<br />
control over certain things, you might not be ready.”<br />
—Sarah DuMond, MD<br />
JAN/FEB 2013 29 W ebMD.coM<br />
Watch Prepare Your Body for Pregnancy,<br />
the No. 2 Pregnancy video at WebMD.com,<br />
for prenatal get-in-shape tips.<br />
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1. Is your relationship healthy? Or,<br />
if you’re single, do you have a strong<br />
support system? “Healthy does not<br />
mean perfect,” says Mazzullo. But<br />
you should be able to communicate<br />
well, have mutual respect for each<br />
other, and share tasks well. “Any<br />
stress that a couple has around<br />
money, sex, or family should be<br />
dealt with before getting pregnant,”<br />
she says.<br />
2. Are you ready to focus outside of<br />
your career? Even though men can<br />
shift their priorities once a baby is in<br />
the picture, women face more challenges,<br />
including the physical ones<br />
of pregnancy (fatigue and physical<br />
strain) as well as possible guilt<br />
surrounding the decision whether<br />
to keep working. “Couples need to<br />
decide together what the plan will<br />
be—if someone will quit working or<br />
if they’ll seek child care outside the<br />
home,” says Mazzullo. “It can be an<br />
emotional decision, so it’s better to<br />
make it before you get pregnant.”<br />
3. Do you know the maternity/<br />
paternity policy at work? Every<br />
company is different, says Mazzullo,<br />
and you need to make sure you have<br />
a plan in place, whether it’s saving<br />
up vacation time, using short-term<br />
disability, or saving your pennies<br />
and taking unpaid time off for the<br />
first few months of your baby’s life.<br />
4. Are you financially ready? “This<br />
doesn’t mean you have to have a fivebedroom<br />
house, two cars, and all<br />
your credit cards paid off,” says Mazzullo.<br />
“But you should have enough<br />
disposable income to comfortably<br />
afford the basics—diapers, child<br />
care, medical expenses.”<br />
reviewed by Sara DuMond, MD<br />
Webmd Baby Care expert