General Supervisor

One of the most important ideas is that man may believe that:
He or she should be loved and self-sufficient, and should have a high
university degree in order to feel valuable
It is a disaster for individuals that things should not work as they wish
It is easier to evade some difficulties and personal responsibilities than face
up to them
The individual should be reliant on the others, and that there should exist
a stronger person to rely on
Past expertise and events are the main determinants of behavior in the
present, and that the influence of the past cannot be discarded
There is always a good solution to every problem, and this solution should
be found so that the results will not be painful
It should be noted that these ideas are widespread in the minds of many
people, and impacts them in all walks of life, not only at work but also in
their problem-solving style and understanding the reality surrounding them.
However, they are clearly extremists in calling a spade a spade, which makes
the individual struggle between feeling perfect and ready or useless and,
therefore, should retreat. As is clear in the chart below, Albert Ellis set up a
chain for the details that occur in man’s daily life, drawing a complementary
line assisting the individual in overcoming any situation where the individual
starts on an irrational explanation.
For instance, Albert Ellis posits the event that provokes the individual, which
he calls “active event” as representing the many normal events that we live
daily and we cannot change or avoid such as surprises, and changes. The
second stage, which is called “Believe,” has to do with the beliefs, ideas, and
values that an individual has and uses in telling a story to himself or herself
every day to be the judge and explainer of surrounding events, and which
give many meanings to life situations surrounding us. The third stage, which is
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called “Consequence,” is a reaction and outcome of thinking and believing. The
problem lies in its details since beliefs at the second stage, and feelings and
emotions at the third stage monitor reaction, with belief and emotion as two
things doing the same job, rooting the individual’s conviction and driving him
or her toward a given behavior in face of the active event and the operation
becomes as if it were a closed circuit.
The solution here is that the individual should not stop at the third stage,
but allows for the discussion of his or her beliefs, inspects their weaknesses
and drawbacks, and tries to replace them, which Albert Ellis called “Disputing
intervention.” This fourth stage is the stage at which the individual tries the new
idea since the fifth stage is important in emotionally supporting, digesting,
and familiarizing with the new idea, which is called “effective philosophy.”
The individual practices and tests the drawbacks of the new idea till the idea
becomes more stable since the new emotions and feelings about it have
become stable, clear, and supportive of new decisions that the individual
makes in daily events.
An individual that can make responsibility lie in himself or herself, his or her
capacities and performance needs to be flexible and capable of grasping
events more objectively and rationally. Recently, several pieces of research
have shown that intellectual intelligence is important for a person’s agreement
with the various life events. However, in his disputing intervention, Albert
Ellis indicates that an intellectually intelligent and academically outstanding
individual needs what is known as emotional intelligence. Intellectual
intelligence appears in education in subjects that require cognitive capacities
such as understanding, perception, attention, retrieving information, analyzing
and inferring, learning, judgment, memory, and abstract thought. However,
emotional intelligence appears frequently through the capacity for planning,
strategic thinking, balancing alternatives, decision-making, learning from
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