Happy Chanukah - The Jewish Georgian
Happy Chanukah - The Jewish Georgian
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November-December 2011 THE JEWISH GEORGIAN Page 17<br />
Empty house...empty heart<br />
BY<br />
Leon<br />
Socol<br />
<strong>The</strong> white California brick bungalow<br />
in the Morningside section of Atlanta is still<br />
intact, with the same furnishings and décor<br />
it had when its mistress, Frieda Socol,<br />
passed away last month. Nothing has been<br />
changed in<br />
the hopes<br />
that my living<br />
in the<br />
midst of the<br />
home we<br />
shared for<br />
over 48<br />
y e a r s<br />
would ease<br />
t h e<br />
heartache<br />
of her not<br />
being here<br />
to continue<br />
our life<br />
together.<br />
Frieda<br />
wondered<br />
what people<br />
would<br />
say about<br />
her after she was gone. I think she knew<br />
they would expend all the superlatives in<br />
the dictionary and a few more never used.<br />
She definitely liked people and<br />
abounded in the joy of doing for others by<br />
using the many talents she possessed. As<br />
our own family grew and we had five<br />
grandchildren scattered from Canada to<br />
across the eastern United States, she wanted<br />
not only to keep in touch with them, but<br />
she didn’t want them to be strangers among<br />
themselves. So Frieda hit on an idea. She<br />
started a Monday blog from Bubbie, telling<br />
each of our grandchildren of the events that<br />
happened in Atlanta that week. <strong>The</strong> blog<br />
was only for the grandchildren, and they<br />
were encouraged to join in by updating<br />
their cousins about the events in their lives.<br />
It was so successful that the kids’ parents<br />
used to contact Frieda to find out what was<br />
going on with their offspring.<br />
Family was of the utmost importance<br />
to Frieda, and she did many things to keep<br />
our large extended brood together. One of<br />
the first things she did was start and maintain<br />
a cousin’s list that had addresses, phone<br />
numbers, and e-mails. It was a continual job<br />
keeping the list updated as it grew to over<br />
90 names. <strong>The</strong> list encouraged communication<br />
among cousins.<br />
Our house has a large finished basement<br />
room that has hosted annual familyand-friend<br />
Seders for over 50 people. At<br />
Hanukkah, it was the site of our annual<br />
party, complete with barbecue and tons of<br />
the most wonderful latkes you ever tasted.<br />
Naturally, there was a mountain of toys and<br />
gifts for all.<br />
Frieda’s endeavors didn’t stop with our<br />
family. She was dedicated to serving<br />
Congregation Shearith Israel in many,<br />
many ways. Her most notable contribution<br />
was her open and inviting welcome to every<br />
stranger who entered our synagogue. She<br />
put the likes of famous Washington hostess<br />
Perle Mesta to shame. Many of the sympathy<br />
cards we received mentioned that<br />
Frieda was the first warm welcoming person<br />
they met at the shul.<br />
She activated a “Golden Oldies” program<br />
at the<br />
synagogue<br />
for the seniors,<br />
which<br />
had such<br />
diversified<br />
events as<br />
tours of the<br />
e n t i r e<br />
Atlanta<br />
Beltline and<br />
a day tour<br />
of the Tellus<br />
Museum in<br />
Cartersville.<br />
At the end<br />
of these<br />
trips, enthu-<br />
Frieda and Leon with great granddaughter,<br />
Abbygale Groves<br />
siasticseniors would<br />
ask her about<br />
the next trip<br />
she would plan.<br />
Frieda and I used to walk daily in our<br />
neighborhood. She would use these walks<br />
to spot furniture and household discards<br />
that could be used in our annual synagogue<br />
yard sale. A worthy item seldom escaped<br />
her eye. She was active in neighborhood<br />
block parties and knew most everyone who<br />
lived in our area.<br />
With the onset of her illness, Frieda set<br />
survival goals for herself. She was an<br />
extraordinarily gifted seamstress and could<br />
sew or repair almost anything. When our<br />
older grandson got married last May at<br />
Camp Ramah in North Georgia, she decided<br />
to make a lasting contribution to the<br />
event by crafting a gorgeous chuppah that<br />
highlighted both the bride and groom. It<br />
was to become a lasting wedding gift to the<br />
newlyweds, one that hopefully will be used<br />
by generations to come.<br />
By the time our granddaughter in<br />
Canada gave birth to our two great granddaughters,<br />
Frieda was not allowed to fly.<br />
She hit on the idea of bringing the<br />
Canadians to Atlanta and have the babies<br />
receive their Hebrew names in our synagogue<br />
at a Shabbat ceremony, followed by<br />
a kiddush luncheon. <strong>The</strong> crowd was as large<br />
as many bar mitzvahs held there.<br />
In our 62 years of married life, Frieda<br />
and I traveled far and wide. We visited family<br />
on both sides in Israel. Frieda brought<br />
families in Israel together, just as she had<br />
done in the states. Travel wasn’t easy for<br />
Frieda, but she always soldiered through, as<br />
she did in all of her endeavors.<br />
She was a striking and beautiful<br />
woman, with genuine warmth and sincerity.<br />
In her early years, she worked as a showroom<br />
manager in both the Atlanta Gift and<br />
Apparel markets and cultivated many longterm<br />
friendships with her customers<br />
throughout the South. Her striking figure<br />
led to modeling swimsuits for a national<br />
line (Roxanne), and she put on fashion<br />
shows in many Southern cities. Always the<br />
planner, she would arrive at a show the day<br />
before, so she would be at her best the next<br />
day.<br />
<strong>The</strong> impact that Frieda Socol made on<br />
so many people was evident by the large<br />
crowd at her funeral, which was held at<br />
Congregation Shearith Israel. <strong>The</strong> main<br />
sanctuary wouldn’t hold the crowd, so the<br />
partition to the adjoining social hall was<br />
opened up. This normally occurs only during<br />
the High Holidays. She, of all people,<br />
would have kvelled over the size of this<br />
gathering.<br />
My family and I have been overwhelmed<br />
by the outpouring of affection and<br />
love we have received from hundreds of<br />
people throughout the world and their wishes<br />
for the family’s healing. I want to<br />
express to each and every one of you who<br />
knew my Georgia Peach how your cards,<br />
letters, and phone calls have sustained us.<br />
Our wish for each of you and your loved<br />
ones is that you be inscribed in the Book of<br />
Life for 5772 and blessed with a healthy<br />
and happy year ahead.