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Happy Chanukah - The Jewish Georgian

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November-December 2011 THE JEWISH GEORGIAN Page 17<br />

Empty house...empty heart<br />

BY<br />

Leon<br />

Socol<br />

<strong>The</strong> white California brick bungalow<br />

in the Morningside section of Atlanta is still<br />

intact, with the same furnishings and décor<br />

it had when its mistress, Frieda Socol,<br />

passed away last month. Nothing has been<br />

changed in<br />

the hopes<br />

that my living<br />

in the<br />

midst of the<br />

home we<br />

shared for<br />

over 48<br />

y e a r s<br />

would ease<br />

t h e<br />

heartache<br />

of her not<br />

being here<br />

to continue<br />

our life<br />

together.<br />

Frieda<br />

wondered<br />

what people<br />

would<br />

say about<br />

her after she was gone. I think she knew<br />

they would expend all the superlatives in<br />

the dictionary and a few more never used.<br />

She definitely liked people and<br />

abounded in the joy of doing for others by<br />

using the many talents she possessed. As<br />

our own family grew and we had five<br />

grandchildren scattered from Canada to<br />

across the eastern United States, she wanted<br />

not only to keep in touch with them, but<br />

she didn’t want them to be strangers among<br />

themselves. So Frieda hit on an idea. She<br />

started a Monday blog from Bubbie, telling<br />

each of our grandchildren of the events that<br />

happened in Atlanta that week. <strong>The</strong> blog<br />

was only for the grandchildren, and they<br />

were encouraged to join in by updating<br />

their cousins about the events in their lives.<br />

It was so successful that the kids’ parents<br />

used to contact Frieda to find out what was<br />

going on with their offspring.<br />

Family was of the utmost importance<br />

to Frieda, and she did many things to keep<br />

our large extended brood together. One of<br />

the first things she did was start and maintain<br />

a cousin’s list that had addresses, phone<br />

numbers, and e-mails. It was a continual job<br />

keeping the list updated as it grew to over<br />

90 names. <strong>The</strong> list encouraged communication<br />

among cousins.<br />

Our house has a large finished basement<br />

room that has hosted annual familyand-friend<br />

Seders for over 50 people. At<br />

Hanukkah, it was the site of our annual<br />

party, complete with barbecue and tons of<br />

the most wonderful latkes you ever tasted.<br />

Naturally, there was a mountain of toys and<br />

gifts for all.<br />

Frieda’s endeavors didn’t stop with our<br />

family. She was dedicated to serving<br />

Congregation Shearith Israel in many,<br />

many ways. Her most notable contribution<br />

was her open and inviting welcome to every<br />

stranger who entered our synagogue. She<br />

put the likes of famous Washington hostess<br />

Perle Mesta to shame. Many of the sympathy<br />

cards we received mentioned that<br />

Frieda was the first warm welcoming person<br />

they met at the shul.<br />

She activated a “Golden Oldies” program<br />

at the<br />

synagogue<br />

for the seniors,<br />

which<br />

had such<br />

diversified<br />

events as<br />

tours of the<br />

e n t i r e<br />

Atlanta<br />

Beltline and<br />

a day tour<br />

of the Tellus<br />

Museum in<br />

Cartersville.<br />

At the end<br />

of these<br />

trips, enthu-<br />

Frieda and Leon with great granddaughter,<br />

Abbygale Groves<br />

siasticseniors would<br />

ask her about<br />

the next trip<br />

she would plan.<br />

Frieda and I used to walk daily in our<br />

neighborhood. She would use these walks<br />

to spot furniture and household discards<br />

that could be used in our annual synagogue<br />

yard sale. A worthy item seldom escaped<br />

her eye. She was active in neighborhood<br />

block parties and knew most everyone who<br />

lived in our area.<br />

With the onset of her illness, Frieda set<br />

survival goals for herself. She was an<br />

extraordinarily gifted seamstress and could<br />

sew or repair almost anything. When our<br />

older grandson got married last May at<br />

Camp Ramah in North Georgia, she decided<br />

to make a lasting contribution to the<br />

event by crafting a gorgeous chuppah that<br />

highlighted both the bride and groom. It<br />

was to become a lasting wedding gift to the<br />

newlyweds, one that hopefully will be used<br />

by generations to come.<br />

By the time our granddaughter in<br />

Canada gave birth to our two great granddaughters,<br />

Frieda was not allowed to fly.<br />

She hit on the idea of bringing the<br />

Canadians to Atlanta and have the babies<br />

receive their Hebrew names in our synagogue<br />

at a Shabbat ceremony, followed by<br />

a kiddush luncheon. <strong>The</strong> crowd was as large<br />

as many bar mitzvahs held there.<br />

In our 62 years of married life, Frieda<br />

and I traveled far and wide. We visited family<br />

on both sides in Israel. Frieda brought<br />

families in Israel together, just as she had<br />

done in the states. Travel wasn’t easy for<br />

Frieda, but she always soldiered through, as<br />

she did in all of her endeavors.<br />

She was a striking and beautiful<br />

woman, with genuine warmth and sincerity.<br />

In her early years, she worked as a showroom<br />

manager in both the Atlanta Gift and<br />

Apparel markets and cultivated many longterm<br />

friendships with her customers<br />

throughout the South. Her striking figure<br />

led to modeling swimsuits for a national<br />

line (Roxanne), and she put on fashion<br />

shows in many Southern cities. Always the<br />

planner, she would arrive at a show the day<br />

before, so she would be at her best the next<br />

day.<br />

<strong>The</strong> impact that Frieda Socol made on<br />

so many people was evident by the large<br />

crowd at her funeral, which was held at<br />

Congregation Shearith Israel. <strong>The</strong> main<br />

sanctuary wouldn’t hold the crowd, so the<br />

partition to the adjoining social hall was<br />

opened up. This normally occurs only during<br />

the High Holidays. She, of all people,<br />

would have kvelled over the size of this<br />

gathering.<br />

My family and I have been overwhelmed<br />

by the outpouring of affection and<br />

love we have received from hundreds of<br />

people throughout the world and their wishes<br />

for the family’s healing. I want to<br />

express to each and every one of you who<br />

knew my Georgia Peach how your cards,<br />

letters, and phone calls have sustained us.<br />

Our wish for each of you and your loved<br />

ones is that you be inscribed in the Book of<br />

Life for 5772 and blessed with a healthy<br />

and happy year ahead.

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