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wisdom. And he gave us an opportunity<br />
to serve and learn constant love.<br />
Try to be a part <strong>of</strong> the family and<br />
not just a boarder in the house. If<br />
your health permits, participate in<br />
family home evening, family meals,<br />
and family prayer, and attend church<br />
with your family.<br />
Be willing to accept service. You<br />
served your children as they were<br />
growing up; now it is their turn to<br />
serve you. Give them that opportunity.<br />
Scherelyn Jensen, Rolling Valley Ward,<br />
Annandale Virginia Stake<br />
Tips for Caregivers<br />
When I was about 10 years old, my<br />
grandmother came to live with our<br />
family. I loved my grandmother, and<br />
my life was enriched in many ways by<br />
the time we spent together. However,<br />
much pain and confusion could have<br />
been avoided if our parents had<br />
brought us children together in a<br />
family council ahead <strong>of</strong> time to talk<br />
about what would be happening.<br />
Before the elderly loved one<br />
moves in, give all family members an<br />
opportunity to share their feelings<br />
without criticism, and encourage<br />
them to contribute to a plan for helping<br />
the loved one feel welcome. This<br />
is a wonderful time to teach about<br />
family responsibility in a positive way<br />
and to help each generation learn to<br />
value the blessings <strong>of</strong> others.<br />
Lynda Bennett, Milton-Freewater Ward,<br />
Walla Walla Washington Stake<br />
My husband and I had the privilege<br />
<strong>of</strong> caring for my mother a few years<br />
ago. Here are several suggestions<br />
based on our experience:<br />
•Immediately make appointments<br />
with medical pr<strong>of</strong>essionals to<br />
establish necessary contacts. Doctors<br />
seldom accept new patients in emergency<br />
situations.<br />
•Contact community agencies or<br />
<strong>of</strong>fices on aging to learn what support<br />
resources are available in your<br />
area. We arranged for my mother to<br />
stay in a nice adult <strong>day</strong> care facility.<br />
In many areas there are also inhome<br />
services for those with special<br />
needs. This will take some investigating<br />
to find resources you are<br />
comfortable with.<br />
•Find out about group homes<br />
and assisted living residences,<br />
which <strong>of</strong>ten accept seniors temporarily<br />
for respite care when the<br />
caregiver has to go out <strong>of</strong> town or<br />
otherwise needs this service. Gathering<br />
this information will also help<br />
you become familiar with alternative<br />
living situations should that become<br />
necessary in the future.<br />
•Make sure that all end-<strong>of</strong>-life<br />
plans are in order, such as wills<br />
or trusts, living wills, instructions<br />
regarding location <strong>of</strong> important<br />
documents, and so on.<br />
Heather Schoeny, Savage Mill Ward,<br />
Columbia Maryland Stake<br />
• If the parent is unable to leave<br />
the home, arrange to have the sacrament<br />
brought to him or her.<br />
• If possible, take your parent with<br />
you to <strong>Church</strong> events or other activities.<br />
Even a trip to the drugstore can<br />
add excitement to life. I took my<br />
Elderly family members can contribute<br />
much to the loving atmosphere<br />
in a home.<br />
father on at least one outing every<br />
<strong>day</strong> as long as he was able.<br />
• If other relatives live nearby, suggest<br />
that they invite the elderly person<br />
to instruct them or their children<br />
in some areas <strong>of</strong> expertise. This helps<br />
the elderly person know he or she is<br />
<strong>of</strong> worth.<br />
Judith LaMontagne, South Whidbey Island<br />
Ward, Everett Washington Stake<br />
Time for self should be a priority,<br />
even if in small amounts. Regular<br />
dates with a spouse are essential,<br />
especially temple trips. Understand<br />
that the senior family member may<br />
strongly discourage your absence,<br />
possibly due to fear. But caretakers<br />
will be happier and better able to fulfill<br />
their responsibilities if they have<br />
consistent renewal time. ■<br />
Andrea Walter, Chardon Branch, Kirtland<br />
Ohio Stake<br />
PHOTOGRAPH BY STEVE BUNDERSON<br />
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