Amphetazine 19.qxp - Project Neon

that there are three essential elements to
any successful relationship --open
communication, honesty, and trust.
Establishing and maintaining this trio can
take a great deal of time and effort. Now
try adding Bondage, Discipline, and Fantasy
Fulfillment into the equation! It looks like a
recipe for disaster, right? When my current
partner and I met, it was important
to both of us that we begin to
build mutual respect and trust
from the outset. You see, the two
of us enjoyed the occasional trip
to the baths. We were both into
leather sadomasochistic (SM)
sex. And we both managed our
use of crystal meth.
The trust and communication
required between two people to
engage in SM sex, (i.e. Bondage,
Discipline, and Fantasy Fulfillment) is enormous.
Factor in drugs and the baths and you can see
the task we had before us! In essence, we
wanted to have our relationship and eat out too!
Just for the record — I do not advocate, for any
one but myself, injection drug use or drug use
of any kind, for that matter. For me it has
become an acceptable pattern of behavior...
for now. If I know me, when I get bored with it,
I’ll move on to something new and different —
maybe something else, like skydiving or
macramé?
Another thing. Many SM Puritans say that you
cannot play BDSM games while under the
influence of drugs or alcohol... that SM play
might become dangerous if both individuals
don’t have all their senses and the scene gets
out of control. I understand their concern.
Mixing SM Sex with “mood-altering” substances
requires careful planning and established
rules. For me, SM Sex and Crystal allow
me to express some of my deeply repressed
emotions. They also help me cope with some
A: Some STDs, like HIV and Herpes,
are with you for a lifetime.
early life issues in a non-destructive way.
The same thing can be said for my partner.
In order to foster and encourage the bond growing
between us, we made a deal. It happened
one night at the baths, after a mistake in
communication led to an ugly
we came up
with a set
of rules that
we agreed to
follow whenever
we were high
scene between us. Afterwards,
like two good tweaks, we analyzed
the evening from all angles.
We allowed each other the
freedom to express what
happened as we saw it. We
each told our point of view.
And we both listened to the
other’s point of view.
Each of us made some
compromises. Then, we came up with a set
of rules that we agreed to follow whenever we
were high. Playing by these rules, we felt, would
show honor and respect for each other. And
being the great Capricorn/Taurus combo we are,
we acknowledged the need to give our rules the
official weight they required. We wrote them
down and signed our names.
It took some time, but from those first simple
rules, we developed our Play Contract. It is
loosely based on the “scene negotiation form”
we found in the Basic
Basics chapter of the
book SM 101, A Realistic
Introduction, by Jay
Wiseman. The content of
our contract is fairly selfexplanatory.
We use the
scene negotiation form
for each SM scene. We
also have an Idea Box,
where we put outlined
ideas for a scene or roleplay
that we’d like to do.
(sample contract on next page)
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