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out words<br />
the voice of <strong>Montana</strong>’s LGBTIQ community<br />
noveMBer 2012
Editors: Suzie Reahard<br />
A.D. Seibel<br />
127 North Higgins, Suite 202<br />
Missoula, MT 59802<br />
Phone: 406-543-2224<br />
E-mail: wmglcc@gaymontana.org<br />
Website: www.gaymontana.org<br />
Contributors: A.D. Seibel, J. Stevens, Ron Blake,<br />
Sissy Spaceship, Scot Schoettes<br />
Cover Art: Owen Riordon<br />
Advertising: Suzie Reahard & A.D. Seibel<br />
Monthly Circulation: 3,000 copies<br />
Serving the<br />
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This Edition of Out Words<br />
News Briefs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3-4<br />
Fountain of Youth. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5<br />
Sissy Spaceship Breaks it Down. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .6-7<br />
<strong>The</strong> Fringe on the Outskirts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8<br />
Ask Lambda Legal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9<br />
<strong>Community</strong> Resources . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10<br />
Calendar of Events. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11<br />
An era ends,<br />
are you next?<br />
I laid out the very first issue of Out<br />
Words in the back seat of my<br />
car on the way to Seattle for<br />
Pride. I remember thinking<br />
“This is the gayest thing I<br />
have ever done.” Well 5<br />
½ years later with many<br />
more gay adventures<br />
under my belt, it is time<br />
to pass the honor on<br />
to another bright-eyed,<br />
adventure-seeking and<br />
community loving<br />
queer. It has been<br />
amazing serving you.<br />
Interested in being the<br />
next design guru? Call<br />
the <strong>Center</strong> 543-2224<br />
or email outwords@<br />
gaymontana.org
N e w s<br />
Briefs<br />
by A.D. Seibel<br />
October 1, 2012. <strong>The</strong> Jamaica Forum for Lesbians,<br />
All-sexuals & Gays (J-Flag) announces the closure of<br />
Jamaica’s only drop-in center, for homeless LGBT youth.<br />
J-Flag managed the center with another organization the<br />
Jamaica Aids Support (JAS). Maurice Tomilson, a lawyer<br />
and prominent LGBT rights advocate told GSN that the<br />
organizations have struggled for years to manage the<br />
huge influx of homeless LGBT youth and have repeatedly<br />
sought government assistance to no avail. Jamaica is<br />
well known for its high levels of homophobia with many<br />
youth taking to the streets and sex work after being<br />
rejected by their families and communities.<br />
October 1, 2012. Manhattan Family Court Judge Gloria<br />
Sosa-Lintner awards custody of a six-year-old girl to<br />
her adoptive mother, real estate attorney Allison Scollar,<br />
over the objections of her biological mother, television<br />
producer Brook Altman, after a bitter legal battle. Sosa-<br />
Lintner ruled that Scollar, “is indeed the more responsible<br />
parent looking out for the child’s best interests, not her<br />
own,” while Altman, “behaved more as a friend or older<br />
sister than a responsible parent. Altman is the biological<br />
parent; this does not give her automatic priority over<br />
the adoptive parent.” Sosa-Lintner’s ruling makes it a<br />
first for same-sex couples in New York.<br />
October 2, 2012. Paul Ramscar introduces his Pink<br />
Dollar app, a smartphone application that seeks to<br />
put members of the LGBT community in Hong Kong<br />
in touch with LGBT friendly businesses in the socially<br />
conservative metropolis. Ramscar believes that the<br />
software will also help breakdown cultural barriers in<br />
the city where homosexuality was just decriminalized<br />
only 20 years ago. Over 100 companies ranging from<br />
restaurants, to gyms, to real estate agents will participate<br />
in the Pink Dollar with users rating the businesses<br />
‘friendliness’ from light pink to hot pink. As Ramscar<br />
states, “Where money flows, it can influence policy.”<br />
October 2, 2012. Bruce Springsteen has been an<br />
advocate for the LGBT community for several years but<br />
the singer/song writer has amped it up by staring in a<br />
new media push called <strong>The</strong> Four 2012, which is focused<br />
on passing same-sex marriage ballots measures in Maine,<br />
Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington. Founder of <strong>The</strong><br />
Four 2012, Brian Ellner, stated that the media push is<br />
essential because, “We have never won one of these<br />
votes of the people. This is really a moment to make a<br />
statement.”<br />
October 3, 2012. Although two of the four openly<br />
gay members of Congress are leaving their seats, this<br />
election year promises some awesome potential<br />
changes as there is a record number of LGBT people<br />
vying to win seats in Congress. <strong>The</strong>re are a total of eight<br />
openly LGBT candidates running as party nominees for<br />
the House of Representatives, the most ever including<br />
two who are incumbents who are favored in their<br />
races- Democrat Jared Polis of Colorado, and David<br />
Cicilline of Rhode Island. This also includes the openly<br />
gay Republican, Richard Tisei of Massachusetts. <strong>The</strong> only<br />
long shot of the group is probably, Idaho State Senator,<br />
Nicole Lefavour, the first openly LGBT legislator ever in<br />
her state, is running against incumbent, Republican Mike<br />
Simpson, who won re-election in 2010 with 69% of the<br />
vote.<br />
October 5, 2012. Featherweight boxer, Orlando Cruz,<br />
comes out as a proud gay man. As Cruz stated during<br />
an Associated Press interview, “I don’t want to hide any<br />
of my identities. I want people to look at me for the<br />
human being that I am. I am a professional sportsman<br />
that always brings his best to the ring. I want for people<br />
to continue to see me for my boxing skills, my character,<br />
my sportsmanship. But I also want kids who suffer from<br />
bullying to know that you can be whoever you want to<br />
be in life, including a professional boxer, that anything<br />
is possible and that who your are or whom you love<br />
should not be an impediment to achieving anything in<br />
life.”<br />
October 5, 2012. GLAAD announces that the number<br />
of LGBT characters in scripted broadcast network TV<br />
is at an all time high as well as on cable television. <strong>The</strong><br />
17th annual, “Where We Are<br />
on TV” report found that 4.4%<br />
of actors appearing regularly<br />
on prime-time network<br />
dramas and comedy series<br />
during the 2012-13 season<br />
will portray LGBT characters,<br />
up from the 2.9% in 2011.<br />
ABC has the highest amount<br />
with 5.2% of their regular<br />
characters identified as LGBT.<br />
FOX came in second with<br />
5.1% and CBS was nominated<br />
as the most improved having<br />
come up 2.8% from last year’s<br />
0.7%. However, HBO’s “True<br />
Blood” series remains the<br />
most inclusive cable show with, count’em six, six LGBT<br />
characters.<br />
October 5, 2012. California’s recent ban on ‘Ex-gay’<br />
therapy for minors already has two lawsuits seeking<br />
to overturn the legislation. <strong>The</strong> Christian legal group,<br />
Liberty Counsel filed a civil rights suit in federal court<br />
naming two So-Cal boys, ages 14 and 15 who have<br />
been undergoing ‘reparative therapy’ with psychologist,<br />
Joseph Nicolosi. <strong>The</strong> suite claims the ban violates the<br />
boys right to free speech and freedom of religion by<br />
denying them the chance to be cured of “unwanted<br />
same-sex attraction.” <strong>The</strong> Pacific Justice Institute filed<br />
the second suit in Sacramento on behalf of a psychiatrist<br />
and a marriage and family therapist and another man<br />
who claims that ‘reparative therapy’ helped him. <strong>The</strong><br />
ban was signed in to law by Governor Jerry Brown who<br />
stated that ‘ex-gay’ therapies, “have no basis in science<br />
or medicine and they will now be relegated to the dust<br />
bin of quackery.”<br />
October 11, 2012. Continuing with the WTF this<br />
month, organizers of the Anoka city Halloween parade<br />
decline to allow Justin’s Gift, an LGBT teen suicide<br />
prevention youth group, from walking the parade<br />
because the parade was ‘full.’ Justin’s Gift was formed<br />
after a string of gay teen suicides in the area, including<br />
gay teenager Justin Aaberg who killed himself after<br />
being the victim of anti-gay bullying. A petition was<br />
started on the website, change.org to allow the group<br />
to walk the parade. In the mean time, Justin’s Gift plans<br />
to hold a Halloween dance as an alternative activity for<br />
the students who had planned to be in the parade.<br />
October 17, 2012. <strong>The</strong> India Times on-line reports that<br />
there might be an “erotically charged” scene in recently<br />
released “SkyFall” between a Javier Bardem’s bad guy<br />
character, Silva and Daniel Craig’s James Bond. That<br />
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is all.<br />
October 18, 2012. Grundy County Deputy Clerk of<br />
Court, Brigitte Van Nice of Iowa, is arrested at work<br />
and charged with two counts of forgery and one count<br />
of perjury for falsely officiating a wedding for two men<br />
from Florida, even though she had not met the men and<br />
they had not traveled to the state for the ceremony.<br />
Investigators discovered the false certificate after one<br />
of the men contacted an attorney in Florida for a<br />
divorce. Van Nice came in contact with the men after<br />
they searched the Internet for states to get a marriage<br />
document in. <strong>The</strong> couple was unaware that you had<br />
to be present in the state that you’re married in. Van<br />
Nice is accused of filing a false document and forging the<br />
signatures of the witnesses of the non-existent ceremony.<br />
Van Nice charged the men $150 for her efforts.<br />
October 18, 2012. A Gallup survey determines that<br />
3.4% of American adults identify as LGBT. <strong>The</strong> survey,<br />
considered one of the largest of its kind, interviewed<br />
more than 121,000 people. Demographer, Gary Gates<br />
of the UCLA School of Law’s Williams Institute stated,<br />
“Contemporary media often think of LGBT people<br />
as disproportionately white, male, urban and pretty<br />
wealthy. But this data reveals that the relative to the<br />
general population, the LGBT population has a larger<br />
proportion of nonwhite people who are clearly not<br />
overly wealthy.” According to the survey, 4.6% of African<br />
Americans identify as LGBT, 4% of Hispanics, 4.3% of<br />
Asians, and 3.2% of whites. Unfortunately, the survey<br />
failed to take into account the LGBT people who did<br />
not want to acknowledge their sexual orientation during<br />
the interviews.<br />
October 21, 2012. Rep. Jan Pauls, a Democrat who<br />
wrote the Kansas ban against same-sex marriage fears<br />
for her safety this election year because as she states,<br />
“<strong>The</strong>y’re trying to intimidate and bully people who don’t<br />
agree with them.” Of course, Pauls is speaking of the<br />
nefarious gays in her district. Pauls has a 21 year history<br />
of being a social conservative and casting several votes<br />
against equal rights legislation for the LGBT community.<br />
Pauls even compared herself to Gabby Giffords and<br />
that her friends worry that she too will be shot, but<br />
by a marauding homosexual gunman. Pauls has run<br />
uncontested for over 20 years until August when, gasp,<br />
an openly gay man ran against her, she won by eight votes.<br />
This <strong>November</strong> she has a 20-year-old challenger, Dakota<br />
Bass, who switched parties just so he could run against<br />
her. So lets put Pauls in our prayers and hope that she<br />
looses this year so that she may be spared from the fear<br />
of the omnipotent GAY AGENDA [insert maniacal gay<br />
laughter here].<br />
October 23, 2012. Bill and Melinda Gates drop half<br />
a million dollars on the gay marriage campaign in<br />
Washington. Bill and Melinda donated 250,000K each<br />
on the campaign that will be decided on Washington’s<br />
<strong>November</strong> 6th ballot. That brings the total cash raised<br />
in support of same-sex marriage to almost a 11 million<br />
dollars. Washington voters will be asked to either<br />
approve or reject gay marriage under Referendum 74.<br />
October 23, 2012. <strong>The</strong> Illinois Dept. of Public Health<br />
is no longer allowed to require applicants, who wish to<br />
change their gender markers on the birth certificate,<br />
to have genital reassignment surgery. <strong>The</strong>re is still a<br />
requirement to have some form of sexual reassignment<br />
procedure, but the specifics of the required procedures<br />
are left up to the individual’s physician. <strong>The</strong> policy change<br />
comes as a result of a settlement reached in July in a<br />
class action legal challenge involving three transgender<br />
individuals who filed suit in 2010 after they were denied<br />
corrected birth certificates from the IDPH because they<br />
did not undergo genital surgery.<br />
October 24, 2012. Helena residents pack the room at<br />
a Helena City Commission administrative meeting to<br />
discuss a proposed ordinance to prohibit discrimination<br />
based on sexual orientation. <strong>The</strong> ordinance is heading<br />
for a formal public hearing as the commissioners spent<br />
the evening tying up loose ends. <strong>The</strong> commissioners, led<br />
by Mayor Jim Smith, directed City Attorney Jeff Hindoien<br />
to draw up a completed<br />
draft that include the new<br />
changes by the next city<br />
commission administrative<br />
meeting by October 31.<br />
<strong>The</strong> commission will likely<br />
address the ordinance by<br />
December 3, and, if it moves<br />
forward, have a public<br />
hearing on December 17.<br />
<strong>The</strong> ordinance was almost<br />
dead a couple of weeks<br />
ago when the MT Dept. of<br />
Labor and Industry stated<br />
that a federal ruling opened<br />
the door of the MT Human<br />
Rights Bureau to complaints<br />
of discrimination based on<br />
sexual orientation which<br />
would have rendered<br />
the ordinance seemingly<br />
unnecessary. However,<br />
the chief of the Human<br />
Rights Bureau indicated last<br />
week that the fates of such<br />
complaints are in limbo.<br />
October 24, 2012.<br />
According to ABC.com<br />
Chaz Bono is voted off<br />
“Dancing with the Stars.”<br />
Bono danced the tango<br />
to the theme from “<strong>The</strong><br />
Phantom of the Opera,”<br />
but still only received 19 points, the lowest score of the<br />
evening. Oh well.<br />
October 25, 2012. <strong>The</strong> two groups who represent<br />
the LGBT community in the military, Servicemembers<br />
Legal Defense Network and OutServe, are planning to<br />
merge and have chosen Allyson Robinson to lead the<br />
new organization. Robinson is a trans woman and an<br />
Army veteran, having graduated from the U.S. Military<br />
Academy in 1994. She also commanded a patriot missile<br />
unit in Europe and the Middle East before resigning her<br />
commission in 1999 to become a Christian minister.<br />
Robinson’s selection for the post highlights that even<br />
though DADT has been repealed they still feel that<br />
work needs to be done, specifically the inclusion of<br />
transgender military personnel and DOMA, which<br />
prevents same-sex couples from receiving the same<br />
benefits as of couples. Stated Robinson, “We cannot<br />
stop until we reach the day when all qualified Americans<br />
who wish to wear the uniform of our armed forces have<br />
the opportunity to do so with honor and integrity and<br />
without fear of discrimination or harassment-whether<br />
they are gay, bisexual or transgender.”<br />
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FOuntaIn OF<br />
YOuth<br />
by Ron Blake<br />
Most of us exercise to maintain a youthful appearance or to feel younger than<br />
our age. Get in a healthy mindset by turning back the clock and looking at all<br />
the old memories. Retrieve those boxes of nostalgia from your elementary<br />
school days. Life was so simple and so much fun when you were reading<br />
comic books by flashlight on top of the bunk bed. It was also full of wellness<br />
and promise for the future.<br />
In a recent survey in Reader’s Digest, older adults said they would worry<br />
much less about so many things in life if they had the chance to go back<br />
and do it again. <strong>The</strong>y looked at all those problems that were allegedly such<br />
problems when they were in their prime adult working years. <strong>The</strong>y now<br />
realize it all wasn’t worth the additional stress they put upon themselves.<br />
You are only a memory away from that youthful vigor and wellness. Get out<br />
an old painting you did when you were in 2nd grade. Dust off the snowman<br />
sculpture you created in art class when you were 9 years old. Look at the<br />
class picture from 1980 and imagine being back in a time when all that<br />
mattered was the baseball game at the next recess.<br />
Find your Peter Pan moment and use it to create your current foundation<br />
for healthiness and happiness. I will share a poem I wrote in the fall of 1978<br />
in Mrs. McCollough’s 4th grade class at Foreman Elementary back in Hobart,<br />
Indiana. It reminds me of all that was good back then…and still can be now.<br />
What is Orange?<br />
Orange is a firecracker glowing at night.<br />
Orange is the sunset sparkling so bright.<br />
Orange is the flame after a rocket ship.<br />
Orange is the pumpkin that can hop and skip.<br />
Orange is the car painted so beautiful.<br />
Orange is your hair on your skull.<br />
Orange is the leaves that fall off trees.<br />
Orange is the stripes on cougars, tigers, and bees.<br />
Orange is a rainbow so bright and clear.<br />
Orange is the paint you smudge and smear.<br />
It’s 3:15PM and the bell is about to ring; I’ve got to go now. My friends Rick<br />
and Dave already have their jackets and homework in hand and are lining up<br />
at the door. <strong>The</strong> crisp autumn air and the afternoon possibilities await our<br />
arrival outside. Life is really good!<br />
This wellness article is brought to you by that guy with diamond dreams.<br />
That guy with his hat of hope is Ron Blake and he can be found wishing upon<br />
a star at rblake5551@hotmail.com.<br />
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s I s s y<br />
SPaceShIP<br />
breakS It dOWn<br />
rYan MurPhY:<br />
When caMP and<br />
cOMMercIal cOllIde<br />
by Sissy Spaceship<br />
Camp is defined by www.dictionary.com as the following:<br />
“Something that provides sophisticated, knowing<br />
amusement, as by virtue of its being artlessly mannered<br />
or stylized, self-consciously artificial and extravagant,<br />
or teasingly ingenuous and sentimental.” In the 1960s<br />
and 70s, the face of camp in the mainstream was Paul<br />
Lynde, and occasionally, Liberace. In the 1980s and 90s,<br />
that mantle was snatched up by John Waters. Today, the<br />
legacy of camp has infiltrated the mainstream thanks<br />
to Ryan Murphy, the writer/director/producer, who is<br />
responsible for such television programs as “Nip/Tuck,”<br />
and “Glee,” and such cinematic disasters as “Running<br />
With Scissors” and “Eat/Pray/Love.” His is a story<br />
worth explicating, because it says so much about the<br />
attention span of our society, and how camp can collide<br />
with popular culture in spectacular ways, and crash and<br />
burn just as tremendously.<br />
I have always believed that Ryan Murphy was<br />
hatched from a glittery space egg, or was discovered<br />
like a foundling, under a coke-strewn table at Studio<br />
54. However, Murphy, creator of some of the most<br />
gay-friendly and groundbreaking television in our time,<br />
was actually hatched in not-so-fabulous Indianapolis.<br />
He was born relatively normal, and attended Catholic<br />
school, which seems to be a breeding ground for most<br />
ambassadors of Camp. His mother, a former beauty<br />
queen, forced her children to hang out with nuns, and<br />
often included them on family vacations. As a child,<br />
Ryan recalled sleeping in a single bed with a nun in a<br />
hotel room in Florida. Thus, it is not surprising that he<br />
turned out to be a homosexual.<br />
Murphy started his career as a journalist, and<br />
eventually worked at Entertainment Weekly, a magazine<br />
that has proven to be a gay incubator. He began<br />
writing scripts in his free time, and his first completed<br />
film project (rejected by none other than Steven<br />
Spielberg himself) was titled “Why Can’t I Be Audrey<br />
Hepburn?”-- Which I believe is the inner bumper<br />
sticker of most gay men.<br />
In 1998, Murphy earned a production deal at the<br />
fledgling WB Network, home of “Dawson’s Creek” and<br />
“Buffy <strong>The</strong> Vampire Slayer.” His show, “Popular,” was<br />
a perfect fit—a snarky, outrageous depiction of high<br />
school. It lasted for one season, mostly because the<br />
teenaged girls that tuned in to watch James Van Der<br />
Beek could not grasp irony. Murphy parlayed the good<br />
notices from “Popular” to get a shot to develop a show<br />
on another young network, FX. Ryan came up with<br />
“Nip/Tuck,” and television was never the same again.<br />
“Nip/Tuck” was the first of its kind—compelling<br />
enough to hook the soap opera lover, but delivered<br />
with an arched brow, filtered through a surrealistic,<br />
outrageous lens. <strong>The</strong>re was nothing else like it on<br />
television. <strong>The</strong> story of two plastic surgeons (who<br />
were in all actuality, the first mainstream “bromance”),<br />
“Nip/Tuck” featured outré storylines, but was somehow<br />
believable, and compulsively watchable. Every episode<br />
was structured around some sort of freakshow plastic<br />
surgery disaster, and the two hot male plastic surgeons<br />
photo by Gage Skidmore<br />
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would interrogate each new patient at the start of<br />
the episode with “Tell me what you don’t like about<br />
yourself.” For self-loathing gays, this was catharsis; for<br />
self-confident gays, this was fabulous. <strong>The</strong> first few<br />
seasons were absolutely brilliant, and “Nip/Tuck” was<br />
in all actuality the first mainstream show to successfully<br />
deal with plots that included transgender characters.<br />
(Willam Belli, probably the finest contestant to ever<br />
compete on “Rupaul’s Drag Race” featured in a string<br />
of unforgettable episodes about gay bashing.)<br />
Sexuality was over the top on “Nip/Tuck,” but<br />
unfortunately, so was the tone. <strong>The</strong> charm of the show<br />
was the absence of soul, but it proved to be its undoing,<br />
as well. We just stopped caring about the characters.<br />
<strong>The</strong>re were no heart-warming episodes, because the<br />
heart had been surgically removed. When success<br />
hit Ryan Murphy, his singular vision was derailed as<br />
the money started coming in. “Nip/Tuck” was nearly<br />
unwatchable by the time the show re-jiggered and<br />
relocated the surgeons to California. It ended with a<br />
kinky whisper. (During the early 2000s, queer show<br />
runners had a renaissance: Alan Ball brought us “Six<br />
Feet Under,” and Marc Cherry brought us “Desperate<br />
Housewives,” two shows that successfully married<br />
camp, outrageous behavior, soap opera, and heart.<br />
Murphy could never quite get that combination right.)<br />
During the heyday of “Nip/Tuck,” Murphy bought<br />
the rights to the cinematic adaptation of “Running<br />
With Scissors,” the superb queer memoir written by<br />
Augusten Burroughs. Ryan stacked the movie with a<br />
stellar cast—Gwyneth Paltrow, Jill Clayburgh, Annette<br />
Bening, and Alec Baldwin—but the end result was a<br />
resounding disappointment. Murphy seemed invested<br />
in the subversive themes of the book and in the<br />
minutiae of props from the 1970s, but he lost the depth<br />
and resonance entirely. At times, the film seemed to<br />
have been directed by a dirty minded grade school boy.<br />
When the movie tanked, Ryan went back to his<br />
television roots, and came up with a doozy: “Glee.”<br />
Murphy merged camp and the zeniths of top 40<br />
pop culture, and came up with a show that is striking<br />
in its originality, and utterly ballsy in its progressive<br />
nature. “Glee” is essentially a musical/drama/comedy<br />
hybrid, and at its best, it is better than anything else<br />
on television, but unfortunately, it can also be an utter<br />
train-wreck. <strong>The</strong> show unleashed the brilliant Chris<br />
Colfer upon the world, an openly gay young actor<br />
portraying an openly gay high school student, and Jane<br />
Lynch, the massively underrated lesbian character<br />
actress, devouring each scene as a genderless, evil<br />
shrew. “Glee” was the first of Murphy’s shows to have<br />
a soul—the scenes between Colfer and Mike O’Malley,<br />
who plays Colfer’s awesomely accepting father, always<br />
make me cry.<br />
Colfer won an Emmy for Best Supporting Actor,<br />
and he took pains to thank all of the bullied gay kids<br />
in his acceptance speech; Lynch, predictably won<br />
Best Supporting Actress, and she gets extra credit<br />
for wearing bejeweled track pants on the red carpet.<br />
“Glee” is essentially about Broadway babies, an unlikely<br />
group to root for, but somehow the outcast, teenaged<br />
glee club became a cultural touchstone. It was a huge<br />
commercial hit—it landed on the cover of Rolling Stone,<br />
and sold millions upon millions of i-Tunes downloads.<br />
It also introduced the Murphy trademark of providing<br />
a halfway house for A-list divas looking to rehab their<br />
image. Gwyneth, Kate Hudson, Lindsay Lohan and<br />
Ricky Martin have all provided delicious guest starring<br />
performances, especially Gwyneth, who finally lived up<br />
to her gay-icon potential.<br />
One awesome side effect of “Glee” was the<br />
introduction of show tune standards to young<br />
teenagers—I never in my wildest dreams thought a<br />
mainstream show could contain homages to “Cabaret,”<br />
“West Side Story,” “Funny Girl,” “Les Miserables,”<br />
“Rent,” and “Wicked.” <strong>The</strong>re was an entire episode<br />
devoted to the “Rocky Horror Picture Show.” <strong>The</strong>re<br />
was talk of scissoring, and an episode narrated by<br />
Dame Helen Mirren, providing the interior monologue<br />
of a character with a developmental disability. Most<br />
fabulously of all, the gay characters were not saints and<br />
martyrs; they were complicated, and sometimes sinister,<br />
but not in the traditional Hollywood predatory way.<br />
Murphy’s distractions started in Season 2—“Glee”<br />
went awry when Murphy got some Hollywood power<br />
back, and moved on to other projects. <strong>The</strong> show was<br />
derailed by the orphaned writing staff, who engaged in<br />
the worst kind of after-school special treacle. Entire<br />
plot threads were forgotten; characters would change<br />
personality traits in the middle of an episode, and most<br />
unforgivably, the show became predictable.<br />
Ryan’s distraction at the time was “Eat/Pray/Love,”<br />
the adaptation of another beloved book—the movie<br />
managed to make Julia Roberts appear even more uninteresting<br />
and self-involved than she is in real life. It<br />
tanked.<br />
Murphy, however, was unstoppable—“<strong>The</strong> Glee<br />
Project” began airing in 2010—here was the reality<br />
show version of the casting couch. Murphy’s only role<br />
on the show was that of judge—real life kids competed<br />
week after week for a guest starring role on “Glee,” and<br />
I’ll be damned if it isn’t one of the best reality shows on<br />
television. <strong>The</strong>re was no camp here, just earnestness<br />
and choreography. Murphy could not ruin it, because<br />
it was not his show—his comments as a judge revealed<br />
just how bitchy and distracted he is in real life. It is<br />
telling that the winners of both seasons were hot,<br />
straight young men, as Murphy had the ultimate say.<br />
But thank god for Murphy’s obsession with man<br />
candy—“American Horror Story” began airing on FX,<br />
and was full of male nudity. Dylan McDermott, crying,<br />
naked and masturbating in front of an open window:<br />
does it get any better than that? Airing on FX, “AHS”<br />
was an immediate sensation—Murphy fully unleashed,<br />
finally. It was not only campy, it was filthy and cluttered<br />
with sexual fetishes. I adore it. When working in a<br />
specific genre, in this case horror, Murphy is at his<br />
best. <strong>The</strong>re is no real world, everything is unbelievable<br />
and audacious, and it’s okay. Jessica Lange continued<br />
Murphy’s hot streak with diva re-invention, and Connie<br />
Britton proved that she was willing to do ANYTHING,<br />
and us gay men got to fall in love with her all over again,<br />
as we were still broken hearted after the cancellation<br />
of the hunktastic “Friday Night Lights.” “AHS” is<br />
twisted and dark and fantastic, mostly because it is selfcontained—each<br />
season is essentially a mini-series, and<br />
meticulously plotted beforehand. Sex with ghosts and<br />
sex with strangers in gimp suits, as well as gay men<br />
flipping houses: <strong>The</strong>se are a few of our favorite things.<br />
Even my straight Republican sister adores the show—I<br />
pray that Murphy doesn’t fuck up Season 2.<br />
I tuned into Murphy’s most recent offering, the gaythemed<br />
sitcom “<strong>The</strong> New Normal.” While it is well<br />
intentioned, it has been focus grouped to death. It’s<br />
offensive to me because it is so inoffensive. I want it to<br />
succeed, but not enough to carve out the DVR space.<br />
Because I am a Bitter Betty, I asked my friend Laramie,<br />
who has the same issues with “Glee” as I do, for a<br />
much kinder perspective. According to Laramie: “”<strong>The</strong><br />
New Normal’” successfully showcases a married gay<br />
male couple—albeit a gay, upper class couple—as they<br />
begin the long journey toward parenthood. As a newly<br />
married gay man myself, one of the things I most love<br />
about the show is the feeling of legitimacy my husband<br />
and I experience by watching a couple, similar to us in<br />
many ways, fight the same battles we fight, laugh like<br />
we laugh, and kiss like we kiss. <strong>The</strong>re’s a lot of reason<br />
to celebrate Murphy’s newest series, despite some<br />
freshman year flaws.”<br />
For me, a glimmer of hope arrived last week with<br />
the Season 4 premiere of “Glee,” which was actually<br />
much, much better than any of Season 3. Let’s<br />
hope Murphy can sustain the magic. If not, I beg the<br />
television gods to let him take over “True Blood,” or<br />
“Dexter,” or “Dallas,” all shows within his skill sets—<br />
the supernatural, the deviant, the soap opera. Unleash<br />
that man on cable television, and he’s magic.<br />
Ultimately, Ryan Murphy represents the best<br />
and worst of gay male culture—he excels at camp,<br />
at showmanship, at razzle dazzle, at music, at the<br />
objectification of the male body. He fails miserably<br />
when he attempts to preach, when he defaults to shock<br />
for the sake of shock alone, and when his attention<br />
span is diverted.<br />
Murphy has done so much for television, and for<br />
the visibility of the queer lifestyle in mainstream media.<br />
Here’s hoping that he finds another nun to be near him<br />
at all times and keep him on track.<br />
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<strong>The</strong> friNge oN<br />
<strong>The</strong> ouTskirTs<br />
VacaTioN<br />
By J. Steven<br />
Shortly after writing and submitting my last column<br />
Ben and I left <strong>Montana</strong> to spend two weeks of absolute<br />
bliss camping and hiking in the Canadian Rockies.<br />
To anyone who had been to those mountains, mere<br />
mention of them evokes images of miles and miles<br />
of rugged, jagged peaks so magnificent and numerous<br />
it seems as though the gods took all the best peaks<br />
from around the world and pressed them all together<br />
along the border of Alberta and British Columbia. To<br />
anyone who has not seen them it is very difficult to<br />
describe them without sounding redundant, maudlin<br />
and semi-illiterate with gross abuse of hyperventilating<br />
superlatives.<br />
Undoubtedly my instant, intense love-at-firstsight<br />
response to the Canadian Rockies was partly<br />
due to being in that unreal and unrealistic state of<br />
being called vacation. Ben and I camped every night<br />
in our tent, cooked our dinners and breakfasts on a<br />
Coleman stove in the open air, and ate lunch as we<br />
hiked on as many days as we could have. We both love<br />
hiking as much as we love anything, so the time up<br />
north was spent entirely doing nothing but providing<br />
for our most basic needs of food and water to do only<br />
that which we dearly love to do.<br />
Were it possible, we could joyfully live that way<br />
for the rest of our lives – or at least for as long as our<br />
bodies have enough vigor to hike in the mountains.<br />
<strong>The</strong> unreality of that fantasy, of course, is that we were<br />
spending money we had previously earned and saved<br />
and were not doing anything to replace it. I have often<br />
believed I could have been happier if I was living in a<br />
different time or place far, far away; but while we were<br />
in the Canadian Rockies there was no other time or<br />
place in the entire universe I could have preferred.<br />
I was high on life and there was no other life more<br />
worthwhile than my own.<br />
When we drove south out of Banff toward<br />
Waterton National Park to spend our last night in<br />
Canada, I felt a nearly overwhelming sense of grief.<br />
At that point I realized that if it was possible I not<br />
only could live a life of camping and hiking every<br />
day, some deep part of me seriously wanted that as<br />
a permanent lifestyle. We camped two nights in the<br />
Lewis and Clark National Forest and got in one last<br />
hike up to the border of the Bob Marshall Wilderness<br />
before heading home, but the closer we got to home,<br />
the less grief I felt and the more I began to think about<br />
being back home and taking care of things there.<br />
At the time I’m writing this column Ben and I<br />
have been home for nearly a month and I still think of<br />
those mountains every day. <strong>The</strong>y were truly beautiful<br />
and during quiet moments my mind quickly and easily<br />
brings back the peaks, valleys, glaciers, creeks, rivers,<br />
and high mountain lakes as well as the trails we hiked<br />
to see them all. But while the mountain ranges up<br />
north have more picturesque peaks than ours have<br />
here, I can look out the studio windows every day<br />
right from home and gaze upon mountains I love even<br />
more deeply than I love the glitter and glitz of the<br />
Canadian Rockies. Ben and I would both go back to<br />
Canada in a hasty moment to explore deeper and<br />
farther, but I am a part of these <strong>Montana</strong> mountains<br />
and they are part of me. And not only that, all the<br />
people we love and who love us are close by us here.<br />
Ben and I are finished with our summer landscape<br />
work and are back into the pottery studio full time<br />
again, leading our monastic lifestyle of providing for<br />
our most basic needs by feeding ourselves with the<br />
fruit of our labors in the garden so we can do the<br />
work we both love so dearly, but which also sustains<br />
us and our lifestyle through the winter.<br />
It doesn’t take much thinking to know I couldn’t<br />
be happy trading this lifestyle for any other. Sometimes<br />
a happy, albeit inevitably temporary, moment tricks me<br />
into forgetting how good our life is. <strong>The</strong>re are issues<br />
that get me down – politics, irrational and intolerant<br />
neighbors, national screamers – but none of them has<br />
anything to do with or even any real effect on my<br />
personal lifestyle, which is the only thing I have that<br />
is truly my own. Yes, on occasion I have an unrealistic<br />
view of almost anyplace else being better than where<br />
I’m at because of some beautiful vignette which my<br />
imagination allows me, in a moment of frustration, to<br />
believe shows the entire life of a place, but I know<br />
perfectly well, when I allow myself to think it through,<br />
that every other place on this earth has problems<br />
of its own. Perhaps someday, then, I’ll learn to stop<br />
complaining and wishing away everything I love for<br />
something unreal, unrealistic and a long way from the<br />
only place I can honestly call home.<br />
Check out more from J. Steven at http://beyondthecrux.<br />
blogspot.com<br />
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ask lamBda legal<br />
Blood<br />
doNaTioNs<br />
by Scott Schoettes, HIV Project Director for<br />
Lambda Legal<br />
Q; : I’m a gay man and have wanted to donate<br />
blood for some time. I heard the policy banning<br />
blood donations from men who have sex with men<br />
may be changing, is that true?<br />
A: Since 1983, gay men have been banned from<br />
donating blood – the actual policy says that if<br />
you are a man and have had sex with another<br />
man since 1977, you are not allowed to give.<br />
While intended to minimize transmission of HIV<br />
through a blood transfusion, this discriminatory<br />
policy is not supported by medical science.<br />
Earlier this year, the Department of Health and<br />
Human Services (HHS) asked for comments<br />
on a pilot study to assess alternative policies<br />
that would allow some gay and bisexual men<br />
to donate blood. In the pilot program, men<br />
who have sex with men (MSM) would be able<br />
to donate blood after a five-year or one-year<br />
waiting period after their last sexual encounter<br />
with a man. Lambda Legal and a number of other<br />
HIV and LGBT advocacy organizations recently<br />
submitted comments to HHS about how to<br />
improve the pilot program because it does not<br />
adequately differentiate between lower and<br />
higher risk sexual behaviors and its proposal of<br />
a five-year or one-year deferral period isn’t in<br />
line with current medical science.<br />
Regardless of sexual orientation, the risk of<br />
acquiring a sexually transmitted infection like<br />
HIV varies based upon the frequency and type<br />
of sexual behavior, as well as an individual’s safesex<br />
practices. <strong>The</strong>refore, screening questions<br />
should identify those who are at low risk for<br />
HIV and other sexually transmitted infections—<br />
including MSM who are in monogamous<br />
relationships or those who consistently practice<br />
safer sex— and allow them to donate blood.<br />
In addition, Lambda Legal strongly suggests<br />
that the waiting period for all donors whose<br />
behavior is considered higher risk be consistent<br />
with—and not significantly longer than—the<br />
“window” period of a blood bank’s testing<br />
method. For some HIV tests, the window period<br />
for HIV detection can be as short as three<br />
weeks, while other HIV tests have a window<br />
period of about three months. For all available<br />
HIV testing, however, the waiting period would<br />
be considerably shorter than the one-year or<br />
five-year delays currently proposed. Deferral<br />
periods that are four to fifteen times the length<br />
of the relevant window period will continue to<br />
unnecessarily restrict the available blood supply<br />
by turning away donors based on stereotypes<br />
instead of science.<br />
While no changes have yet been made to the<br />
blood donation policy, we are hopeful that HHS<br />
will adopt new policies based on current medical<br />
knowledge and testing technology, instead of<br />
unjustified discriminatory stereotypes about<br />
gay and bisexual men.<br />
If you have any questions, or feel you have been<br />
discriminated against because of your gender,<br />
sexual orientation, or HIV status, contact Lambda<br />
Legal’s Help Desk at 1-866-542-8336, or see<br />
http://lambdalegal.org/help<br />
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KIsMIF<br />
Keep It Simple Make It Fun AA meeting for gay<br />
lesbian transgender queer intersex and friends every<br />
Monday 7 - p.m. at UCC 405 University Avenue.<br />
Contact Randy at 406- 542-4744<br />
Gay Men’s Chorus<br />
Meeting every Monday 7 - 9 p.m. at <strong>The</strong> <strong>Center</strong>,<br />
127 N. Higgins Ave., Suite 202 - Contact Gary at<br />
406-370-9876<br />
Gay Men’s Task Force<br />
406-829-8075<br />
Imperial Sovereign court of the State of<br />
<strong>Montana</strong><br />
Call Rosalinda de la Luna at 406-499-0078 or visit:<br />
http://www.iscsm.org<br />
keep It Simple al-anon Family Group<br />
LGBT and friends meeting every Thursday 5:30 -<br />
6:30 p.m. at 1st Methodist Church, 300 E. Main, alley<br />
entrance, classroom 3. Contact Randy at 406- 542-<br />
4744<br />
living Forward Group: Men Who are living With<br />
hIV<br />
Meet Wednesday evenings 7 - 9 p.m. Call Andrew<br />
Laue at 406-327-9445<br />
Open aid alliance<br />
406-543-4770<br />
Open aid alliance housing assistance<br />
Program<br />
Short-term and long-term housing assistance is<br />
available for HIV+ individuals living in <strong>Western</strong> MT.<br />
Call Annette or Jordan at 543-4770.<br />
Missoula city health department<br />
406-258-4745<br />
Missoula PFlaG<br />
pflagmissoula@gmail.com or 406-240-2881.<br />
Officer nicole Pifari<br />
LGBTI Liaison Officer Missoula Police Department<br />
435 Ryman Street • Missoula, MT 59802<br />
(406) 552-6300 (main)<br />
Outfield alliance<br />
A Coalition of LGBTI faculty, graduate students, staff<br />
and their supporters at the University of <strong>Montana</strong>.<br />
Email caseycharles@umontana.edu or call 406-243-<br />
2762<br />
Transgender support Group<br />
Contact the Clinical Psychology <strong>Center</strong> at (406)-<br />
243-2367 and ask for Nick or Leslie.<br />
youth Forward<br />
youthforward@ncbimissoula.org<br />
u of M lambda alliance<br />
406-243-5922<br />
university congregational church<br />
405 University Avenue, Missoula<br />
http://www.uccmsla.org • 406-543-6952<br />
commuNiTy resourcesMissoula<br />
<strong>Montana</strong><br />
bozeman GlbtIQ resource center<br />
www.BozemanRC.org, 406-600-3608,<br />
info@BozemanRC.org<br />
Butte Men’s support Group<br />
Last Monday of the month 406-491-1378 or 406-490-<br />
6125<br />
Butte AIDs support services<br />
Meets 2nd Wednesday of each month at Blaine<br />
<strong>Center</strong> BASS office. Call Rick 406-491-1378 or 406-<br />
490-6125. www.buttebassonline.org<br />
Flathead Valley Gay alliance<br />
www.flatheadvalleygayalliance.org • 406-794-FVGA<br />
Flathead Valley PFlaG<br />
Call Robert Blair @ (406) 890-0173<br />
Gallatin Valley human rights task Force<br />
www.EmbraceDiversity.org<br />
Glacier unitarian universalists Fellowship<br />
www.glacieruu.org • 406-755-9255<br />
hamilton PFlaG<br />
Monthly Chapter Meetings. Every 4th Thursday @<br />
7 P.M. Contact Terry at 406-363-7656 for more<br />
information.<br />
hIV Positive Support Group - butte<br />
For information call 406-491-1378 or 406-490-6125<br />
for time and location.<br />
hIV Positive Support Group - helena<br />
Meets monthly-Call Greg at 596-2013 for more info<br />
lewis & clark aIdS Project<br />
530 S. Harris • Helena • 406-447-6030<br />
Metropolitan community church<br />
1220 17th Street South • Great Falls<br />
406-771-1070 • www. mccmontana.org<br />
Rev. Gina L. Hartung, Pastor<br />
Sunday Worship: 10:30 a.m.<br />
E-mail: bishman59401@hotmail.com<br />
<strong>Montana</strong> department of Public health &<br />
human Services<br />
www.dphhs.state.mt.us/hpsd<br />
Open hands Foundation - Great Falls<br />
www.openhandsfoundation.org • 406-868-8382<br />
PFlaG Great Falls/Golden triangle<br />
Meets on the 3rd Tue. of each month at the MCC<br />
Church located at 1220 17th St. So. (406) 868-1064.<br />
QSa - MSu<br />
www.montana.edu/qsa •406-994-4636<br />
Seeker’s harbor Faith community<br />
Billings<br />
www.seekersharbor.org • 406-661-1584<br />
S.h.O.u.t aIdS (Students helping Others<br />
understand teen aids) meets every Thursday<br />
in BILLINGS at the yap office at 4pm ages 15-24. Any<br />
questions contact Dustin (406)-591-0169<br />
Yellowstone aIdS Project housing<br />
assistance Program<br />
Becky Taylor • beckyt@yapmt.org<br />
Victorian – hIV testing<br />
406- 245-4293<br />
Yellowstone city-county health<br />
department<br />
406-247-3376<br />
Yellowstone aids Project<br />
406-245-2029<br />
Pacific northwest &<br />
national resources<br />
advocates for Youth<br />
www.advocatesforyouth.org<br />
AEGIs: AIDs Education Global<br />
Information Systems<br />
www.endAIDSnow.org<br />
Gay Men’s health crisis<br />
www.gmhc.org<br />
human rights campaign<br />
www.hrc.org<br />
Out Spokane<br />
www.outspokane.com<br />
Pacific northwest Gay rodeo association<br />
www.pacificnwgra.org<br />
Pride Foundation<br />
www.pridefoundation.org<br />
Wyoming rural aIdS Prevention Project<br />
www.wrapp.net<br />
Do you have LGBTI resources you want listed?<br />
Email us by the 20th of each month for the next<br />
issue!<br />
Serving the<br />
LGBTIQ<br />
<strong>Community</strong><br />
Since 1998<br />
<strong>The</strong> <strong>Western</strong><br />
<strong>Montana</strong><br />
<strong>Community</strong><strong>Center</strong><br />
Weekly Events<br />
Thursday<br />
7 p.m. -<br />
Gay Men Together, A safe and affirming place for gay &<br />
bisexual men to meet.<br />
Friday (except 1st Fridays)<br />
6:30 p.m.<br />
Womyn’s Night for persons who identify as women, twospirit,<br />
or gender non-conforming & are interested in<br />
spending time with other womyn.
Recurring Events Around<br />
<strong>Montana</strong><br />
<strong>Center</strong> Board Meeting, 3 rd Wednesday,<br />
6 p.m. at the <strong>Center</strong> [Missoula]<br />
christian lGbtI Support Group meets on the 4th Wednesday of the month<br />
7p.m. at the <strong>Center</strong> [Missoula]<br />
lGbtI community Potluck, 3 rd Saturday every month, 7 p.m. at the University<br />
Congregational Church - Fireside Room (405 University Avenue) [Missoula]<br />
PFlaG Missoula / Five Valleys meeting, 3 rd Saturday every month prior to<br />
potluck at the University Congregational Church, call 406-721-5013 or 406-541-0163<br />
for more information. [Missoula]<br />
hIV+ Monthly dinner, 3 rd Tuesday of every month, 6:30 p.m. at the University<br />
Congregational Church, call Mike or Annette at 543-4770 [Missoula]<br />
Gay & lesbian aa Meeting, every Monday 7 to 8:30 p.m., call Randy at 406-<br />
726-3525 [Missoula]<br />
keep It Simple / al-anon Family Group LGBT and friends meeting<br />
every Thursday 5:30 - 6:30 p.m. at 1st Methodist Church, 300 E. Main, alley entrance,<br />
classroom 3. Contact Randy at 406-726-3525 [Missoula]<br />
university of <strong>Montana</strong> laMbda alliance General Meetings, every<br />
Tuesday, 7 p.m. at the UC (Room 330), call 406-243-5922 for more information.<br />
[Missoula]<br />
living Forward Group: Men Who are living With hIV, every<br />
Wednesday from 7 to 9 p.m., call Andrew Laue, LCSW for more information at 406-<br />
327-9445. [Missoula]<br />
hot Springs, <strong>Montana</strong>, a Gay & bisexual Men’s Support Group<br />
meets on Sunday evenings at 6 p.m.. Call 741-2810 for directions and information.<br />
[Missoula]<br />
youth Forward meets the every Tuesday at the NCBI Office from 5:30-7:30pm<br />
Capitol City Gay Men meet every Thursday at 7pm. Location: 80 East<br />
Lawrence Street, Room 105, Helena MT 59601. For more information visit www.<br />
capitalcitygaymen.org [Helena]<br />
Women’s coffee and chat meets on Thursdays at 7 p.m. Location: Fireside<br />
Coffee House 1446 Euclid Ave, [Helena]<br />
Women’s Potluck, 1st Wednesday of the month at 6:30pm. Location changes.<br />
Contact Sandy at 406-442-0200. [Helena]<br />
Glbt Open aa Meeting Every Thursday 7:30 p.m.<br />
1417 13 St. West. Call Duane Nez at 406-861-8478 [Billings]<br />
Cancer Patient support Group Every Other Friday: 12 p.m. 2835 Fort<br />
Missoula Rd., Ste. 301, Call Joni or Susie at 406-721-1118 E-mail joni@drjudyschmidt.<br />
com [Missoula]<br />
Billings AIDspirit Meeting 2nd Tuesday of the month at Holy Rosary Church,<br />
521 Custer at 7:00 p.m. [Billings]<br />
billings PFlaG Meeting 2nd Wednesday of the month held at the UCC<br />
Church in Conference office located at 2016 Alderson at 7:00 p.m [Billings]<br />
Client Advisory Board Meeting 4th Monday of the Month at YAP at 6:00<br />
PM [Billings]<br />
POZ night Monthly opportunity for socializing and fun! For more information<br />
contact the Client Action Body at cab@yapmt.org or staff at (406) 245-2029. [Billings]<br />
community night at Julian’s bar happens the last Saturday of the month. [Butte]<br />
QSa General Forum Meetings Every Monday In the Strand Union Building<br />
room 276 at 7 p.m. [Bozeman]<br />
JavaQ coffee Social - 7 p.m., every first, third, and fifth Thursday at International<br />
Coffee Traders, 720 S 10th Ave. [Bozeman]<br />
the bozeman resource center bi-weekly meetings. At International Coffee<br />
Traders, 720 S 10th Ave, the 2nd and 4th Mondays of each month. Contact John at<br />
600-3608 or at info@bozemanrc.org [Bozeman]<br />
bozeman PFlaG Meeting 2nd Thursday of the month. Check out:<br />
bozemanpflag.com for more information. [Bozeman]<br />
bozeman hIV/aIdS Support Group meets the 1st Monday of each month.<br />
Call Greg at 406-596-2013 for time and location. [Bozeman]<br />
Poz affected Pot luck occurs on the 3rd Sunday of each month in<br />
BOZEMAN. Contact AIDS Outreach at 406-551-1016 for details.[Bozeman]<br />
Flathead Valley Gay alliance monthly meeting, 1st Tuesday of the month at 7<br />
p.m. in the Flathead Count Library basement. [Kalispell]<br />
Flathead Valley PFlaG 4th Tuesday of every month at the Flathead Valley United<br />
Christ of Christ. Call Roger Blair (406) 890-0173 [Kalispell]<br />
Pride committee meeting every Sunday – Call Dee or DJ at 756-0050 for time<br />
and location – volunteers needed [Kalispell]<br />
eVentS:<br />
Friday, <strong>November</strong> 2: <strong>The</strong> <strong>Western</strong> <strong>Montana</strong><br />
<strong>Community</strong> <strong>Center</strong> hosts, the Trans-Lives Art<br />
Exhibit for First Friday at 127 N. Higgins Ave, Suite<br />
202, Missoula, MT. 5:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. Free.<br />
Saturday, <strong>November</strong> 3: I.S.C.S.M hosts Investiture<br />
Drag Show, “Let the Ride Begin” at <strong>The</strong> Broadway Inn,<br />
1609 W. Broadway St., Missoula, MT. Tis the time that<br />
we get the honor to introduce the Imperial Family<br />
of Reign 18 of the I.S.C.S.M. and officially let the ride<br />
of this year begin. So come out for a fun night of<br />
Drag entertainment followed by dancing with music<br />
provided by DJ Tigerlilly. Cover is 18-20 $10, 21+ $5.<br />
Door at 9:00 p.m. Show at 10:00 p.m. Protocol for<br />
open performances 9:00 p.m. to 9:30 p.m.<br />
Tuesday, <strong>November</strong> 6: Election Night! <strong>The</strong> Missoula<br />
County Democrats will be hosting a Chili Feed at<br />
the Union Club Bar, 208 E. Main St, in Missoula, MT<br />
at 7:00 p.m. So get your feed on and watch your<br />
local favorites and federal mainstays duke it out on<br />
prime time. No cover.<br />
Friday, <strong>November</strong> 9: <strong>The</strong> Fish Stix-Settle Down!<br />
<strong>The</strong> Fish Stix are returning to Billings and <strong>The</strong> Loft.<br />
Stop down and enjoy your favorite entertainers<br />
including Jennifer Jett, Lana Caine, Falesha Savage,<br />
Domonique Divamoore, and Erica Joy as they tear<br />
up the dance floor. Doors at 8:00 p.m, show at 9:00<br />
p.m. $10 cover. <strong>The</strong> Loft Night Club, 1123 1st Ave.<br />
N, Billings, MT.<br />
Saturday, <strong>November</strong> 10: Night two of the Fish Stix,<br />
“We Run the Night.” Find all those girls bringing<br />
Billings to its knees a second night in a row with<br />
the likes of Domonique, Erica, Jennifer, Falesha, and<br />
Lana. Doors at 8:00 p.m., show at 9:00 p.m. <strong>The</strong><br />
Loft Night Club, 1123 1st Ave. N, Billings, MT.<br />
Tuesday, <strong>November</strong> 13: Pride Foundation hosts a<br />
Scholarship Application Training at the UM. Learn<br />
how to craft a stellar scholarship application at<br />
this one-hour training during the Lambda Alliance<br />
meeting. High school seniors and non-UM students<br />
pursuing post-secondary education are welcome<br />
join. Meet in room 326 in the U.C. <strong>Center</strong> at 7:00<br />
p.m. 32 Campus Drive, Missoula, MT. Contact Caitlin<br />
at Caitlin@pridefoundation.org for more info.<br />
Thursday, Friday, and Saturday, <strong>November</strong> 15-17:<br />
<strong>The</strong> Broads are back with an all-new show. And<br />
literally “back” this time, as writer-directors Katie<br />
Goodman and Soren Kisiel are in New York with<br />
Katie’s solo show running at several venues across<br />
Manhattan including in the NY Comedy Festival<br />
with the likes of Robin Williams and, well, everyone<br />
you’ve ever heard of. If you haven’t seen ‘em, Broad<br />
Comedy is Bozeman’s loveable and provocative<br />
women’s musical satire and sketch comedy show.<br />
See them at <strong>The</strong> Emerson <strong>Center</strong>, in Bozeman, MT.<br />
All shows start at 8:00 p.m..<br />
Friday, <strong>November</strong> 16: <strong>Montana</strong>TDOR hosts the 4th<br />
Annual Transgender Day of Recognition in Missoula,<br />
MT. This year’s event is to feature many new aspects<br />
and is fully inclusive of all gender identities. Events<br />
include a Trans-Lives Art Exhibit, Tabling at the UC,<br />
several workshops, a panel discussion, and candle<br />
light vigil. Please check for times and locations on<br />
<strong>Montana</strong>TDOR’s Facebook events page at www.<br />
facebook.com/<strong>Montana</strong>tdor.<br />
Saturday, <strong>November</strong> 17: <strong>The</strong> <strong>Western</strong> <strong>Montana</strong><br />
<strong>Community</strong> <strong>Center</strong> hosts “A Very Merry Time”<br />
Twelfth Annual Holiday Soiree at Caras Nursery<br />
and Landscape, 2727 3rd St. W. in Missoula, MT. 6:00<br />
p.m. to 9:00 p.m. Each year in <strong>November</strong>, Caras<br />
Nursery is kind enough to allow WMCC to take<br />
over their space for a night to raise funds for the<br />
<strong>Center</strong>. A portion of all proceeds from holiday<br />
ornaments and decorations is donated back to<br />
the <strong>Center</strong> if purchased during the evening. Board<br />
Members, volunteers and staff are usually on hand<br />
to provide entertainment and social interaction.<br />
Thursday, <strong>November</strong> 22. Lambda Alliance will be<br />
hosting its 2nd Annual Queergiving for those who<br />
will be in Missoula, MT over Thanksgiving. This<br />
will be a potluck style dinner and all are welcome.<br />
Please contact Lambda Alliance for location and<br />
time at umlambda@gmail.com.<br />
Sunday, <strong>November</strong> 23: <strong>The</strong> WMCC will be hosting its<br />
first Black & White Planning Committee meeting at<br />
3:00 p.m. at 127 N. Higgins, Suite 202 in Missoula, MT.<br />
Our annual Black & White Ball and Black & White<br />
After Hours Party serve collectively as the <strong>Center</strong>’s<br />
annual fundraiser and help the <strong>Center</strong> to provide its<br />
space, resources, OutWords and one of the largest<br />
LGBTQQI lending libraries in the state. For more<br />
info please check it out www.gaymontana.org.<br />
Friday, <strong>November</strong> 30. Join AIDS Outreach of Bozeman<br />
for the Second Annual Red Ribbon Ball. This charity<br />
event, which coincides with World Aids Day 2012, will<br />
take place in the Emerson Cultural <strong>Center</strong> Ballroom<br />
at 111 S. Grand Ave, Bozeman, MT, from 7:00 p.m. to<br />
11:00 p.m. Funds raised from the event will support<br />
the mission of AIDS Outreach throughout the year.<br />
Please visit www.aidsoutreachmt.org for ticket prices<br />
and sponsor information.
A very merry time<br />
<strong>The</strong> 12th Annual Holiday Soiree<br />
Saturday, <strong>November</strong> 17<br />
Caraas Nursery<br />
6:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.<br />
Proceeds benefit :